Narcissists use projection to control

[@kellyandaaron2005]

Even when there's clear evidence they've done something wrong, they take absolutely no responsibility.

[@melbaT2770]

Ugh…the circus my ex created took a toll on me emotionally, mentally, and physically. I used to get sick often and slept horribly. Post divorce, I am rarely ill and a group fitness instructor now. The changes have been amazing🙌🏼

[@francescabento1705]

Yes they are always having to prove they are great even if they destroy you and others.

[@lesleyelalami2562]

The minute you sense someone's projecting their issues on to you.... just run!!! They're not going to change..... ever.

[@victoriavitoroulis3273]

A narcissist can’t self reflect and they think we’re the problem .. somebody who projects their bs onto ppl .. can never be helped . 😵‍💫

[@carefulcarpenter]

Many people refuse help.

[@joanthompson4559]

​@@carefulcarpenter Therefore they can never be helped.

[@carefulcarpenter]

@@joanthompson4559 Many people refuse help. At what point has youthful narcissism turned malignant?

[@carefulcarpenter]

@@joanthompson4559 I find an extremely limited number of sincerely curious individuals. Is that a result of indoctrination? Is narcissism endemic to our educational system? I learned (5) skilled trades after college. I went to a major university for an education, not a degree. I personally, am a very curious learner.

[@carefulcarpenter]

@@joanthompson4559 I played a few roles on messageboards and comment sections in the last two decades. Never have I used a troll account. I believe narcissists use them as cover, like they use a mask. One constistent aspect is the "fight or flight" impulse almost always a telltale clue. They ask questions, yet never truly want an answer, or discuss.

[@DianaRodriguez-f7c]

It is a place they will never go because it is a reality check for their ego.

[@utebretthauer4264]

And if they go they manipulate their therapists.

[@adamtobin8132]

This is a huge break thru for me! I spent years wondering why my mom and wife couldn’t see their shame or stop projection g it everywhere.

[@Karen-e1f]

Treated like someone who is less than. Sad. It's not a way to bond. 😢. Alone is better. ❤

[@tmo.48]

Alone gives you a chance for peace. With them there are the long long silences with no peace.

[@mike-ology22]

Clever cloggs aren't you mate. It's nice that you're around especially at a time like this where narcissism is exploding. Thanks for sharing Mr Rosenberg

[@mac-ju5ot]

Oh ross my arms were shaking.i do not deny ive put up with too much.im.too passive

[@lperry7289]

So true

[@tonightinareacode309]

And they ruin your life and get away with it

[@carefulcarpenter]

"They fall apart." Is this why narcissism is called the "Fight or flight" impulse?

[@DonnaMcLaren-y9u]

I need counselling.

[@carefulcarpenter]

@@DonnaMcLaren-y9u We all do. That is why friendship is priceless.

[@carefulcarpenter]

My post was censored.

[@Lyrielonwind]

Probably. Fight and fligh are their coping mechanism resulted by trauma and they are stuck in there. I'm not sure but I think they are constantly fighting against psychosis because they can't stand reality and they live in an imaginary world of themselves but I think it's because they don't have a self (they have ego, we all do) or is too weak. That's another reason why they copy people; they don't have a real identity because the lack of self. Take with a pinch of salt because I'm not a psychologist.

[@carefulcarpenter]

@@Lyrielonwind Thank you for your thought-through comment! Seems that YT has narcissists to do the censoring.

[@kaystephens2672]

Its called hell growing up with a child with bpd. I had a recording in my head growing up. "Its not my fault". I have never seen him take accountability for anything he ever did that he caused. Some peopledo not need to adopt mentally disabled children. My parents inability to accept their inadequate knowledge of this condition destroyed our relationships with ourselves and other safe people. At least I understand what this behavior means I can protect my children from this shameless person. It never changes. So I have to change the story they tried to create. Makes me wonder what really happened to that child to make him so defensive till today in his 60s. Little by little you see the damage an enabler of this irrational behavior does to the lives of so many people. Education and swift action is the only way to control it. And neither was ever explored when it would have protected me as a child. Nightmares. Because of his behavior. And Good intentions aren't always appreciated by the logical group who have to deal with the consequences. But I got this. On my own.

[@carefulcarpenter]

*"LOVE is listening."* cc 2012. ♥

[@victoriavitoroulis3273]

They get more childishly evil 👿 as they get older my husband 65 tv was a bit loud .. he shuts the power off in the whole house for an hour for his beauty sleep 😂

[@tmo.48]

​@@victoriavitoroulis3273Mine would take the TV remote to work with him when he was giving me the silent treatment. Every few days he would give me that treatment and then it would last for weeks and months. One time it was 9 months yet he still EXPECTED and took sex. 43 years of it and now I am gone. Glad I found out about this disorder but sad that it can't be fixed. What a cluster bomb!!!

[@andrewpanico8178]

What's an SLD?

[@wallaceleewl9189]

Self love deficiency

[@Beachtrader0007]

new term for codependency

[@andrewpanico8178]

Thanks, Self love is the cure. I'm learning.

[@lysas781]

Googling it says Specific Learning Disability. That doesn’t fit

[@Beachtrader0007]

@@lysas781 the comments mention it 2x above you

[@goldbrick2563]

Whats an SLD?

[@moisesdaibelapereira]

How many types of narcissist out there? And what is the point to know them all as long as they are all narcissist? How danger are they? ☕

[@yahyaknow]

DARVO

[@tanjaovsenik81]

Hate is a result of being seen as garbage. Babies even love their own shit. People can go there with help if you create responsible and emotinally safe environment. Defense mechanism can fall apart if you integrate 'garbage' with acceptance. And responsibility. I would rather see stories of ex nightmare behaviour turned into people who know how to change the inner world and watch the outside follow.

[@mikecook6807]

Spin Rinse Repeat

[@deniszimmermann32]

Whats sld

[@christking8844]

Justin Levi Pearce Still hiding???

[@jacksavage279]

Very poor coping skills.

[@TienLam-t6b]

Well, I couldn't agree more with Dr. Rosenberg 💐 on the disgusted🫢 subjects..As I know from expert witnesses, oftentimes the cops required BS (body searches) from civilians were because they couldn't TRUST THEMSELVES hearing what had been told..Therefore, they adamantly wanted to BS to make them feelings safe from any harm whatsoever that could land them in jail or getting online for unemployment benefits 😂🤣😅