Narcissist Trauma Leakage: What you need to know.

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2 ай бұрын

In this video, Ross reveals the insidious tactics of pathological narcissists and how they manipulate, coerce, and gaslight those who lack self-love. By understanding the concept of narcissistic trauma leakage, we can overcome the long-term effects of abuse and regain control of our lives.
The term "leakage" is a reminder that the trauma seeps into different areas of our lives, affecting our emotional and physical well-being. By acknowledging and addressing the impact of narcissistic abuse, we can break free from the cycle of victimization and move forward with strength and resilience.
ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.
Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and are responsible for the development of his Self-Love Recovery Treatment Program. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.
In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his KZbin channel with 28 million views and 285,000 subscribers and the sale of 175,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.
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@Salvnite 2 ай бұрын

We are beaten down all of our lives... No wonder why we are the way we are.

@tonifoster1835 2 ай бұрын

Ross is brilliant, he saved my life after choosing one narc after another because of my codependent nature. I am recovered now and owe it this wonderful intelligent selfless man. ❤️

@bestlife9925 2 ай бұрын

Did you take his classes? I loved The Human Magnet Syndrome. It’s the #1 book I recommend

@dclarke1896 2 ай бұрын

I have witnessed trauma leakage and it's heartbreaking to watch. However, do not be fooled! The toxic person does not care about you in any meaningful way and you can't help them. Just leave! 🏃🏾‍♀️💨

@jenniferschiel5453 2 ай бұрын

I didn't see any leakage of a frightened little child with the narc that I had the misfortune to have in my life. Thank God! I only experienced slick con-artistry and vicious rage.

@rulaj1 2 ай бұрын

I think that is a really interesting point for us types who think that we are helping the narc by encouraging them to understand themselves more, to push them to be self aware is actually dangerous for the narc, that they must remain unconscious of their trauma because it was too severe. It's so devastatingly sad. The narc and us.

@SuperChicagoDude Ай бұрын

My father was a psychologist in the 70s and 80s. He made the mistake of trying to help a psychopath. Huge mistake on his part. I wont go in to details, but he barely escaped with his life. He learned that same lesson, that day, psychologists have to be extremely cautious when dealing with potentially dangerous cluster b types, most especially psychopaths, and also, malignant narcissist types. ps: I live in Chicago, and maybe 8 years ago, I was on a train going to or from O'Hare airport, I forget, and I saw you sitting in the same train car, lol. I was so happy to see you in person but I didn't say hi because you had your suitcase and it looked like you were tired from travelling or preparing to travel and I didn't want to pester you, but it was cool to see in in public! I have been watching your videos for years, you are fantastic... thank you for all the help you give to so many people, the world needs more people like you, sir.

@beckymichel1845 2 ай бұрын

This content was very informative and supportive of my current situation. I’m seeing firsthand how the desperate narcissist will DO ANYTHING to keep me from leaving. And then the “storm” hit. Thank goodness he left town (very dramatically) becuz I’m afraid my empathy of wanting to hold the crying baby MIGHT have kicked in. Which would have triggered remorse becuz I know the pattern here… I’m leaving. For good. This IS the last time. I’m going to heal my SLD.

@rori108rori 2 ай бұрын

yes I was exactly in this situation where I felt sorry, but I still decided not to give into it. That was so difficult, but it was very worthwhile in retrospective.

@triple999fruitful 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for explaining that. The leakage makes sense.

@jeannieotb8491 2 ай бұрын

Have watched so many videos on covert narcissism but your information on healing and self love deficit disorder is truly insightful and different and helps me come to terms with what I must do to preserve me. I do feel so sorry for his trauma but having been in a relationship with him for 34 years, I know i am powerless to help him and must preserve myself. sooo hard, coming to terms with who they really are and what they do to you, when all you do is love them.

@bestlife9925 2 ай бұрын

I left mine after 32 years. Financially I’m still figuring it out. Plus instantly had 2 parents need me medically for 7 years and counting right after. I’m still waiting for my time in the sun! I hope you can find your spots of sunshine!

@jeannieotb8491 Ай бұрын

Still waiting from mine too and feeling so frustrated.Sometimes God feels as vindictive as they are!

@mac-ju5ot 2 ай бұрын

Thank u Ross. Yes I have had to try to be strong to not get drawn into the drama .Counseling is difficult work. You explain it simple clear, consice example

@sandycarlyonroubal4898 13 күн бұрын

Thank you for your service and dedication to this community.

@pl1676 15 күн бұрын

Yes, I've seen that trauma leakage and it broke ME actually and I remained in toxic relationship. Damn. If you are empathetic person, this is hard as hell.

@beccalovesjesus1009 2 ай бұрын

Hello and good morning @Ross 🌞🌿🌷🌿🪻

@A.J.Canfield-ym2fe Ай бұрын

I can hardly wait for your book to become available. I have some knowledge of psychology, and I'm certain that your treatment program is tailor-made to fit my life-long torment! Thank You so very much...My gut (I'm learning to listen to it more) tells me you're on track!

@RossRosenberg Ай бұрын

Thank you for your support. The book is out. Here is a direct link on Amazon: a.co/d/2j6Jt6y

@bestlife9925 2 ай бұрын

Will order the next book! Chronic loneliness is my biggest block (I’m an only child too). The have my own children, a grandchild, and am recently divorced - it’s a hard place to be in my 60s - all this uncertainty. Ross, if you read this, which class do your recommend to help with the loneliness? It’s my last stubborn remnant to knock out (for childhood trauma from an emotionally abusive dad). Even though I can be high achieving, I can change lanes at the 9th hour from fear of failure (classic trauma symptom, I know 😅).

@RossRosenberg Ай бұрын

Thank you for your support. The book is out. Here is a direct link on Amazon: a.co/d/2j6Jt6y

@collie8 2 ай бұрын

thank you for sharing your journey and experience and thoughts

@RossRosenberg Ай бұрын

My pleasure!

@munchey99508 2 ай бұрын

Well, my ex just discarded me and went onto the next woman. He told me in a text “ I don’t want the divorce.” When I told him I was filing for a divorce. What about narcissists that are created because they are spoiled rotten like my ex was? He is an only child in his mid-50s now, spoiled by his overindulging, mother and father. I understand that’s abuse also. Still to this day, he can do no wrong in his mother‘s eyes, even though she knows that he is a disgusting and rotten human being.

@miriamcollins7587 Ай бұрын

Yes, mine was spoiled rotten and coddled as well. I do understand that it is detrimental to a child to spoil them. But to call it trauma…? I struggle with that lol. Trauma is what the SLD goes through all our lives.

@staciacrick3373 Ай бұрын

@@miriamcollins7587it’s abuse because the parenting prevents the child from becoming their own person, and does not teach reality. It instead teaches them to live in fantasy as a perfect child. When separation and individuation doesn’t occur the child doesn’t develop one’s own identity

@munchey99508 Ай бұрын

@@miriamcollins7587 I didn’t say his parents traumatized him I said that he’s spoiled and his wealthy parents never made him take accountability and they overindulged him because he is their only child. When he got into trouble as a 13 year old for breaking into a school and stealing things he blamed his friends and so did his parents.) He has been in and out of jail since just after high school. I understand that parents are biased with their kids but I’ve never been treated so poorly. I tried to help him and took him back so many times but his parents treated me like I was the problem. I tried to stage an intervention for his illicit drug use and his mom told him to tell me to stop bothering her with ‘our marriage problems’ (which he never told me was a part of his history.) He is a pathological liar, serial cheater, and a master manipulator. When I met him, I thought I had won the lottery in men, as my adult son said, “He is the most charming and charismatic man I’ve ever met.” He is…unfortunately, we all found out it was just a mask. 💔 It broke my heart.

@mas7241 2 ай бұрын

Read your Magnet book doc. Amazing.

@mvbigmagic4048 2 ай бұрын

Thank you. This video explains why the school administrators harrassed me about taking my child out of their school because they were making her stand outside in a courtyard while it was snowing. I explained why I was pulling her out, and all they could say was I was "rude." LOL! Core shame. They still haven't admitted that what they did was wrong. And I know now they NEVER will.

@elleluxe 2 ай бұрын

Epic ❤

@fabiankaufmann6213 15 күн бұрын

There is a legend in Switzerland about a bridge that always collapsed. A pact was made with the devil and the devil kept his part. The bridge held. But he demanded the first soul to cross the bridge. So they sent a goat across the bridge. It is a level of madness, but has anyone ever tried to find another victim for the narcissist, who they could possibly even build up in the initial phase and then you be discarded by the narcissist themselves without hurting their ego and still escape to freedom*. *Which of course can't be anything other than TV and chips. ;-))

@drkknath 2 ай бұрын

Looking forward of the book sir

@RossRosenberg Ай бұрын

Thank you for your support. The book is out. Here is a direct link on Amazon: a.co/d/2j6Jt6y

@stevenkovler5133 24 күн бұрын

My wife would be me , tell me she hates me and then the next day ask why I loved her and beg me to never leave her. I also made a lot of mistakes. I now look back and wish I did things differently. Maybe we could have figured out our marriage and saved it . I realize I do love her , even if she does not know what love is :. She associates love with money .

@GoProDem 2 ай бұрын

It’s been a few days since I went to one of your workshops. The year was 2016. You’re the first person who brought into focus that we had a narcissistic personality disorder in the White House. I truly appreciate the awareness you provided. You are still easy to understand and have grown as a therapist and educator. Thank you for your work.❤

@debbier9555 2 ай бұрын

Many people in politics and at high executive positions are narcissistic/psychopathic. Those are the people who run major companies, governments... the world.

@wallymarcel1 2 ай бұрын

And now we have an “As If” personality disorder in the White House. Things are really working out well.

@rulaj1 2 ай бұрын

@@wallymarcel1 Biden is slaughtering children and families who have no defense.. He's a psychopath, I think. I think most in our government are narcissistic and psychopathic.

@chilloften 2 ай бұрын

Here we go, are you a psychiatrist? Are you aware of the term flying monkeys? Smear campaigns? I’m worried about you. I’m worried about your sense of reality. I’m worried you are gaslighting yourself and not seeing reality and where the true hatred and rage come from.

@OligosFew Ай бұрын

It's reasonable to note the tendency for narcs to be in politics and in the limelight be it business or entertainment.

@irinamladenoska7539 2 ай бұрын

Ross, I have healed my codependency, but pls help me learn how to help the children that we have. I am separated now....(I have been in a mariadge with a narc).

@kimb4849 2 ай бұрын

I'm now in that stage where I don't get engaged. I'm observing and I no longer have any attachment to him. I'm in the final stages of leaving... but the anger I feel for the wrong doings I've put up with for 40 years and his inability to own them, is so hard to manage. Is there anything I can do to help lift the anger?

@miriamcollins7587 Ай бұрын

You can’t heal that until you leave. For now it is your fuel.

@An-mei 2 ай бұрын

Would a child feel responsible for his mother coming down with a deadly health issue during her pregnancy with the child? If so, could this cause why they cannot feel empathy for the weak, hurt or ill? I'm wondering how common this is for those with mothers with compromised health and if it happens have you ever seen someone heal from it?

@meloneymoore8856 2 ай бұрын

ALL FACTS!!!😇😇😇-Xclusyph Icon

@LMG689 2 ай бұрын

I’ve been working on my recovery as an sld for some time. My narcissistic spouse has a definite personality disorder and is exactly like you describe. I am so afraid to leave even though I pray for any kind of end to this madness. I wish I could just disappear

@user-qt9or4xu9l 2 ай бұрын

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@annelbeab8124 2 ай бұрын

If we overstructure things, it takes long to see anything other than the structures and we don't see things in plain sight. Just looking at what causes all the 'disorders'. Is there much a difference? It's often just the choice of 'exit strategy' that differs.

@GoProDem 2 ай бұрын

🫶🏻 Good afternoon

@clincpb8903 2 ай бұрын

good night

@fabiankaufmann6213 15 күн бұрын

This intro is a bit toxic despite the good intentions and good work of Mr. (Dr.?) Rosenberg. You are good enough wihtout going through these 8 criterias...! And it's unconscious blame shifting, because it implies that you're only in a toxic relationship because there's something wrong with you. But I would disagree. Half of America has fallen for D.T.'s charm. For example, a child together who is at risk of parental estrangement, the cost of a divorce, the effort of finding a new place to live, and having the courage to leave a possibly long-term marriage that others see as good, where you end up being seen as a nutcase - that can be extremely difficult. You don't have to feel any deficit towards someone who isn't in such a relationship!