Neighbor Insists I REMOVE My Doorbell Cam As It's Filming His Wife r/AITA

[@nobinary2296]

Camera story was ridiculous. He's just butthurt he can't steal from OP. There's already been a string of burglaries. OP doesn't need to sacrifice safety for anyone.

[@songohan3321]

I would say instead, "Steal anymore." That guy definitely stole something.

[@lhuynh731]

The op wife is an idiot as well. She’s going to weep her consequences of her actions as well.

[@LadyNikitaShark]

@@songohan3321 porch pirates are a thing.

[@SirStanleytheStumbler]

I think that if the neighbor was one of the thief's caught OP would have just come out an said it. Ditto for the wife.

[@kellypatterson8506]

When I setup my security cameras my neighbor asked if I could adjust them to cover certain areas of his property as well, so I did, made him happy.

[@Gumbier_Than]

Awesome story! Maybe I consume too many Neighbors From Hell tales. 😄

[@allisonwinchester3108]

We did the same! We had an extra one and they asked if we could point one towards their driveway. Very kind older couple 💑

[@jennysmith38]

I have security cameras, and one of the guys in a block of units, nextdoor to my house, asked if the cameras filmed any of his unit, when he was told no, he was disappointed, as someone was throwing bird seed into his little veggie garden (he has a ground floor unit), and he had hoped we had recorded who had done it, the camera, that is facing where my car is parked, now, also includes his garden

[@kellypatterson8506]

@@jennysmith38 I betting there are more people out there who like being covered than those who get upset.

[@FrogsForBreakfast]

@@jennysmith38 You're a great neighbor 😊 Birdseed is a total scam. Birds don't even eat most of it, the rest grows into invasive weeds 😡 Anyone who truly loves birds should just plant native bushes in their yard, or research what the specific birds in their area eat and put out food specifically for them in carefully chosen locations to reduce risk of being eaten by cats or hawks.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

2nd story: if my partner did shit like that to my kids or to anybody for that matter, I would not be with them. That is sickening and the girlfriend needs major therapy

[@gingerleepuppy]

Yes and also should be careful , she is lucky to not be giving op an eating disorder. People have fallen into bad cycles for less.

[@wylie5525]

I wonder want the father is doing. Is he going to the gym every day, doing endless work outs and has the stick body? What is he going to do when his metabolism starts to slow down and everything sags. Hope he has something put away for the inevitable dumping when he becomes too fat.

[@Sakuraqueen]

The first guy has something to hide! He just sounds so creepy!! Thank you so much Mark! We appreciate all your hard work.

[@tabithadearth7507]

I am thinking that Story 1's neighbor is the impostor, or isn't nice to his wife.

[@someonespadre]

He doesn’t want to be on video owned by massive corporation that doesn’t pay taxes, I don’t blame him.

[@fcold9402]

Anytime his wife goes to the grocery store she is recorded. There is no expectation of privacy outside at someone else's door. NTA.

[@mistyvaughn6356]

Right? Is he going to hit up every store and tell them to take their security cameras down? He's sus af.

[@babamoeensam7.1.14]

Shhhh, he doesn't know that, don't alert him 😂😂😂😂

[@songohan3321]

Only a thief would care this much. OP better keep an eye on this guy in the future.

[@Ally.81]

Plus between the neighbor(a married man) and a store that can have a creepy owner or security guard if any of them was to use the video of his wife for something weird my money go on the store videos. Maybe he should jokingly ask the neighbor's wife if it bothers her and then tell her what her husband said and how he got the others neighbors on it, cause he probably tried to control her life before and she wasn't happy. Honestly the wife it's a bit of an AH also if it was my husband telling me this i will tell his wife right away not get on the neighbor side.

[@babamoeensam7.1.14]

@@songohan3321 i honestly thought he was cheating on his wife & doesn't want anyone to know in case they told her with the proof they have on camera.

[@dm9078]

Stop letting people borrow your chairs. The neighbor who “borrowed” the chairs sounds like the type who would sue if she got hurt if the chair collapsed!

[@brothersgt.grauwolff6716]

wouldn't surprise me if that was the plan insurance scams are more common than you think

[@josephbrown9665]

We have metal folding chairs that we use for parties and we loan them to our friends or our kids. We had a neighbor who was not friends with my wife and I but they were friends with my neighbor who I had loaned them to before. This neighbor tried to get my friends to borrow the chairs for their birthday party. I had a party on the same day. I said sorry but no. The wife came to my house with a wagon when my son was in my driveway boiling crawfish. She told him that she was here for my chairs. My son started laughing at her. She asked him what was funny she needs the chairs. He told her I’ll be nice once it’s my daughters birthday and we have our whole family coming here and we need every single chair that we have. He had a few ball park chairs in the driveway for me him and both son in law’s. The chairs that she was looking for were in my backyard setup with tables around the pool. She tried to grab the chairs in the driveway and he come unglued on her cursing her out. That caused me and the other guys to come out of my house. She told me that my son was rude I told her that I had already told you that I need my chairs for today. Go buy some. Dang your dence

[@galaxyfrog5719]

If the chairs were so cheap, why didn't she buy her own? 😅

[@tamsinmoore2111]

@@brothersgt.grauwolff6716 didn't even think of that but Damn! Completely valid point.

[@tamsinmoore2111]

@@josephbrown9665 ludicrous actions, she needed to be taken down, verbally of course. Bravo. I'm an Aussie, is crawfish akin to crayfish?

[@098lip5]

Honestly I think people came down too harshly on the mom in the last story, the son worked hard and got a scholarship so he was able to go to the fancy school. The daughter didn't and so can't go to the super expensive school. The co-op she mentioned seems to be the best solution if everyone's worried about socialization and shit, especially if the public school is as shitty as she says (getting stabbed on the first day on school property isnt normal fyi)

[@christinedehn3257]

Tell her in real life you don't always get to sleep in late. Join the activity groups and just make it part of the schedule.

[@Cassandra765]

Story 1: NTA. Your property. Your camera. Your right. And it's highly suspicious that the neighbor is THIS bothered about his wife being on doorbell camera.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

“My dad’s girlfriend describes herself as being honest when she’s just being mean and she body shames us” I’m sorry your dad is with the female version of onision....

[@emilybarclay8831]

Onisheon

[@killdashade314]

She's not honest, she's just a judgmental asshole who assumes that everyone must be as self loathing as she is about her weight. It's a shame that past bullying has taken this much of a toll on her mental health, but that doesn't excuse her perpetuation of this toxic cycle. She needs a therapist not a nutritionist. Op should honestly call her out on this more. Also, there's no way the dad hasn't noticed what's going on, it's just better for him to have a thin gf even if she disrespects his daughter.

[@Davtwan]

There’s so many ways to be honest without being cruel. These folks don’t believe honesty and bluntness are mutually exclusive.

[@Nerdbookworm]

Onionson

[@JW-vd4il]

My Dad was one to say I might be gaining too much weight when I was a normal, growing teenager. I knew he was wrong and I didn't care what he said. Even though it was just annoying. One day a friend of his was over with his girlfrriend that I had met a few times but didn't know well. My Dad started remarking on my weight in front of them. I just rolled my eyes and left the room. My Dad's friend's girlfriend WENT OFF on my Dad. She read him the riot act, told him I was normal weight and he was an asshole for saying things like that to me, yelled at him that the crap he was saying to me was just plain wrong AND mean and also could make me anorexic when I was just healthy and HOW DARE HE and WHAT KIND OF OF FATHER ARE YOU?!. I was surprised, hearing this from the other room. I kinda knew he was full of shit but it WAS really nice to hear an adult woman tell him so, in so many ways. She also came and talked to me and she was SO CONCERNED to make sure I didn't believe anything he had said. I barely knew her. And that's what she did for me. Even though I knew my Dad was shitty, I didn't realize how much, and maybe he eventually would have gotten to me, without people like this. *That's the kind of person an adult can be to young people.*

[@bgcorporation]

Story 4: If she wants to go to school put her in school. Hell, put her in public and have her try out for scholarships so she can be put into the school she wants. Their son got a scholarship capable of paying half for the STEM school, see if there are more so he can get the full ride. I personally wouldn't want to remove him from the STEM school BECAUSE he earned it with the scholarship.

[@springtreats9509]

Exactly! If they pull him out it’s not going to fix the issue but escalate it.

[@jdgovender900]

Agreed, it doesn't benefit anyone by removing him and then you lose out on the hald scholarship. At the same time, they do need to start working on finding out how to help out the other children. Also, they need to work on the relationship between the siblings because one of them could act out in a dangerous way and/or things could become really toxic. It might not happen, but I feel it should be resolved properly

[@traviscochran6280]

That guy that doesn't like the door bell camera is a porch pirate. He's a thief. Either that or he is coming over to "visit" op's wife.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

You know that could explain why she was so upset too

[@ajperri2279]

Story 4: I'm a homeschool individual, a junior in high school, and I have been homeschooled through everything, along with my other two siblings. One of the issues I ran across while listening was people saying that the homeschooled child needed socialization with kids her own age. While socialization is very important, there are ways to do it while remaining home homeschooled. Through co-op groups, the one I am involved in has both a class day and a physical exercise day. I can also understand not wanting to send your child to public high school, the schools in my area have a lot of bullying, kids throwing textbooks at teacher, yanking other students to the ground by their hair, etc. One of the schools was on the brink of being taken over by the state, due to the number of suicides, it wasn't just the students who were the problem, it was the facility ignoring students who were pointing out the bully. Long story short home schooling is a great option, and doesn't make sheltered weirdos if the parents are proactive.

[@lokisgodhi]

In high school I lent some tapes to one of the kids with which I was friendly. He lent them to another kid, who claimed he had put them back besides me. I made the kid who I originally let them give me money to replace them. With actual albums, largely because I was pissed. The kid he lent them to was a known thief. (He burglarized houses for stereo equipment) I have no doubt he stole them.

[@michamocha]

The last story leaves me with mixed feelings. I don't exactly think she's TA but I can see how she could be. The son got a half scholarship so it makes sense how they were able to help him go to that school. If they paid full price and just refuse to pay for the other child, this would've been a hard TA. At the same time, we don't have full context on the public schools and it's understandable she would be scared to send her daughter to the school someone got stabbed at on the first day.

[@audreym3908]

Same here

[@matts1166]

It's not like she was totally forcing her daughter to be isolated either. She was given the option of going to a co-op learning group. My wife was home schooled until she graduated and went to a co-op learning group. She had several friends there, and that was in rural Iowa. If this is a larger city chances are the co-op would be much larger.

[@Ally.81]

As a parent it is hard to take a side, but i do understand the daughter wanting to be a normal teen also i understand the mom fears... My kods are in first year of high school(twins) and before they started high school several of them, from different first year classes decided to meet and get to know each other. So my daughter has 2 of her friends going to the same high school and they were sitting together talking when they were approached by two girl that told them to be ready to give them a pack of cigarettes a day if they want to be protected and one of them got her hands together so they can see what she had on her fingers, honestly i don't know what it's called it's the metal thing that u pit your fingers through it and punch someone. Anyway my daughter is not one to be bullied and told them no and to move on, bit she told me whem she got home and i contacted the high school the next them and told them, luckily they seemed very shocked and told them of they try anything to tell them right away as they don't accept stuff lile that. So yeah i do understand both, but she should talk with her and find a way maybe tell her to wait till next year that maybe they can work something out i don't know. I feel for both of them.

[@michamocha]

@@matts1166 exactly. I think a learning group would be a good idea for the two to sit down and discuss. I think alot of commentators are just quick to pick up pitch forks and view this as black and white, wrong and right, when it's a bit more complicated than that. Neither are wrong. They're just having a hard time communicating and finding a solution they can both agree on.

[@AzraelThanatos]

@@matts1166 Also she didn't want to go to the co-op because it would mean getting up early...which she'd have to do with a normal school anyway. It's also the middle of the school year with this one.

[@conckretangel]

Last story: NTA. Jacob earned the right to go to the school by getting a half scholorship. If it was paying for the whole thing and still saying there wasn't enough money, OP would be the AH, but that isn't the case. Race is not a factor in this. Honestly, if it was the other way around, I doubt there would be an issue. OP gave options that the daughter did not want.

[@aaronsosa7736]

Yeah that pissed me off. How is it that some people immediately assume racism when no one else even took race into consideration at all. I think they the racist one because they have such a problem with the white kid getting a scholarship.

[@smellyolegoat150]

Jacob earned a half scholarship to that special school. How the heck could anyone justify taking him out of that school. Yes, the daughter should be allowed to go to public school if there’s no way they can figure out how to pay for the Christian school. However, letting the adopted sister’s tantrum cause him to have to give up something he worked hard for is insane.

[@stacys8729]

Agreed, all the commenters seemed to totally ignore the fact he earned a scholarship to go there.

[@wmdkitty]

@@stacys8729 Well, tough. His schooling shouldn't take priority over his sister's schooling.

[@smellyolegoat150]

Shawna Burt However, if he's working to earn his success, and his sister is not, he should not be penalized for her shortcomings. The sister has the same opportunity to excel in the areas where her gifts and talents lie. She can apply herself to her music and work towards scholarships, grants, etc. Her parents should be doing everything they can to guide and assist her in that endeavor. Honestly, I think the mother should look into other income earning options to help afford the private Christian school. They can also try Go Fund Me type fundraisers and try different church organizations. It's unclear if the daughter sings and or plays instruments, or maybe she writes music. Whatever she does, she needs to work hard toward making herself achieve a level of proficiency that will also allow her to earn her, her own accolades and success. You never penalize your hard working driven child and hold them back because of the jealousy of a sibling. Even if I agreed that the parents needed to ignore their son's hard work and success. I would still point out that the spoiled and entitled daughter has a lot to learn. She is being horrible to her brother because of her envy. If the parents are doing something wrong, her anger and resentment should be directed at them, not her brother. I would never reward such behavior. However, I would do everything in my power to help her work towards and achieve her dreams, including figuring out the money for school tuition. If I failed at that, I would allow her to go to public school with certain conditions such as good grades, school activities involvement, and acceptable behavior.

[@stacys8729]

@@wmdkitty I disagree. Mom preventing her from going to public school may be wrong, but taking away the support for the son after he earned a scholarship for 50% of the tuition doesn't make any sense at all. The daughter could also apply herself and work hard in subjects she excels at and earn a scholarship, if she wanted to.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: NTA They took chairs without permission. They then broke the chairs. You borrow and break? You pay. And what are you doing Mark?

[@locusxe1411]

Story 1 NTA- is the neighbor gonna walk into a store and tell them take off their cameras cause it’s weird?

[@MGP2210]

12:50 No its not cool to accept Barb's word on OP's chairs. Mark / Mike is not off the hook. Do not ever lend out someone else's stuff (I did this once, more than 15 years ago and am still ashamed). If your are entrusted with it, protect it and return it in as least a good a condition as you received it.

[@gelibeanzcantrell7192]

story 4 omg 😩 i HATED being homeschooled!! i was from 5th grade till 9th and had to repeat 9th cuz i wasn't getting the help i really needed. i feel so bad for Tionna and hope OP will figure something out or else she's gonna lose her daughter...

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA What did he expect? He has to keep the video in tact for police. If it is changed a defense lawyer could rip it apart. If he is concerned, he can talk to his wife. Fuck considerate, he was the one being disrespectful. Also, his reaction doesn't make sense.. Is he the one taking the packages? A lot of burglaries in the area snd now he wants them taken down? Yeah, no.

[@Nevertoleave]

I thought that too but either he was playing real cool hoping to see something he could flip out over or he’s nucking futs

[@rayfordreed9304]

Story 1: "I won't make a suggestion to my wife wife, because I don't want to tell het what to do, but I will tell my neighbor what to do."

[@Gumbier_Than]

I get misogynist/chickenshit vibes from him. He "owns" his if and/or too cowardly to deal with her.

[@MovableNu]

@@Gumbier_Than Or he doesn't want there to be proof of her whereabouts 😬

[@PowerStar004]

I like to imagine a story about a dude who's wife is poly and he doesn't want to tell his wife's wife (she's also married to his wife, but not to him) what to do.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Rayford Reed thats what i thought. Lol

[@mkaylor121]

I would keep the son in the stem program and send the daughter to the high school. she's smart enough to not hang out with wack people

[@freethebirds3578]

That she's whining about getting up early for the co-op and doesn't think she will for public school makes me question that conclusion.

[@JcBravo8]

I mean she’s mostly likeu to fall in the bad crowd. She’s trying to be entitled and succeeding.

[@samakiraroyjanssen6326]

@@freethebirds3578 i never even remembered that she got WAY more options than just homeschool or private school

[@cgi2002]

Amuses me she thinks the "Christian" school would put up with her. Christian schools are traditionally very discipline focused (and have poor education focus) and don't take kindly to children acting out. Also they tend to also have longer hours than public schools, start earlier, expect attendance at early morning events, generally, they aren't as easy as this kid seems to think they are. Keep the son in the STEM school, send the daughter to public school. She's already made it clear via her behaviour she is going to find a way to fall in with the bad crowd, may aswell make sure she does it properly.

[@samakiraroyjanssen6326]

@@cgi2002 i mean, i dont know about America, but i went to a private christian school, and it wasnt that bad. like, not bad at all. no early morning events with expected show-up, kids acted out, but teachers were almost always able to handle it (sometimes things were done that endangered others, like slidnig massive chunks of ice down the hall as fast as one could, and they would give detention). hours were 9-3, so 6 hours. 5 classes. but yeah, i would wager to guess mine was the odd one in the case.

[@birdieballet503]

Story 4... Have any of those commentors been homeschooled or met people who have been? I was private and homeschooled. I now teach kids of all different schoolings (home, private, and public). Homeschoolers definitely don't have a lack of socialization. In fact, a lot of times they have more. They can finish all of their schoolwork in a few hours and spend more hours in the day doing extracurricular activities or hanging out with friends. Homeschooled does not equal unsocialized and we really need to stop thinking that as a society.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

THANK YOU!!! I was homeschooled, I was in softball, President of my 4-H club, I was in the FFA, I showed Hogs at fair, etc... I was definitely socialized. Anyone who thinks homeschoolers aren't socialized was clearly never homeschooled and if they were they must've lived in a super strict household

[@wmdkitty]

LOL please! Every homeschooled kid I've met has been unsocialized and unable to interact appropriately with others.

[@birdieballet503]

@@wmdkitty That is very interesting to hear. I would be curious to know the circumstances, because with the hundreds upon hundreds of homeschooled kids that I've met (between those I knew growing up, and those I now teach), none of them are more socially awkward than any other child (usually they are less and know how to properly interact with people of all ages, not just their peers). With the expection of kids who have something like autism which makes them appear socially awkward. But that is the same regardless of schooling. Though, those children tend to be homeschooled at higher rates (at least where I am) because taking them out of an overstimulating environment and teaching them at home can be really beneficial for the child.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

@@wmdkitty you've never met me and I was homeschooled. My parents even took me traveling because I could take my homework with me and I got to meet tons of people that way too, plus by 13yrs old I got to go to 25 states, it was fun and I actually found the kids my age quite immature, but I still had friends my own age and wasn't socially awkward.

[@songohan3321]

In story one, I guess he can't go to any store/school/signal light/Restaurant/metropolis area. If you don't want to be recorded in public areas by security cameras, just become a vampire or Cursed Spirit.

[@NineHundredDollarydoos]

It's one thing to want to try and encourage someone to lose weight, particularly if you're genuinely worried about their health. But blatantly and openly trying to guilt-trip someone into losing weight purely because you don't like the fact that they're fat is some super crazy bs.

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

Exactly! When it comes to weight loss, what matters is personal health, not just how you look. The only reason OP’s stepmom is trying to get her to lose weight is because she finds it unattractive, not because her health is at risk. Its not “trying to help,” it’s being shallow and controlling.

[@marist6734]

Story 2 brought back a memory of when my grandma got me and my sister a sweater for Christmas and reminded how I needed a bigger size. I’ve been battling an eating disorder and feel uncomfortable seeing her now because of it. This kind of stuff sticks with you

[@pharma37]

Obesity (heart disease) is the number one cause of premature death in the states, as well as being the the largest contributing factor in health insurance costs that we all share. If people on average were more fit, then the world would be a better place. She was bullied, and now promotes fitness. A lot of people (such as the poster) take this negatively because of insecurities. It's good to have goals.

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@pharma37 Dude. There is a difference between obesity (which I agree is bad) and just being a little chubby, but still normal weight. OP is of normal weight, and healthy. It's one thing to encourage fitness and health for someone who is heavier. It's another to tell a perfectly healthy person that they are unhealthy because of their weight. Being too thin is a problem, too. Starving yourself is just as bad as obesity. Please look into this more because you sound like you're very uneducated on the nuances of weight in relation to health.

[@pharma37]

@@thedestroyasystem 70% of America is clinically overweight, with 36.5% of those people considered Obese. I would argue that the OP is surely in the overweight category, and can use a diet, and fitness program for a better life. Make excuses all that you like, but it's just laziness, and individuals can change to be better people.

[@pharma37]

@@thedestroyasystem I'm a fitness expert.

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@pharma37 OP literally gave their BMI. They are a healthy weight. Read the post.

[@dancingkitty11]

The red light on the camera tells you it's recording. There is your notification. That guy is driving your house.

[@thatonedudegames]

"sure I'll get rid of it but then I'll hold you legally liable if stuff goes missing. Maybe I'll get a shotgun for trespassers"

[@muppetsrule1143]

My public high school was the "known drug school" even though in 4 years I went there there was only one incident with weed. Meanwhile the private Christian school down the road had a bunch of kids get arrested for cocaine

[@flossimoth]

yeah, I used to go to public high school in a place where all the high schools were shitty, and it was nowhere near as bad as people made it out to be. most of the bad situations happened to people who put themselves out there to get into trouble, the people who would start fights for example. as a kid who actively avoided that I barely had a problem outside of usual teen drama of relationships and friendships starting/ending, and the occasional school fight. hell I even hung out with kids who smoked behind the home ec rooms for a bit but never tried the cigarettes. given how expensive said cigs were, the others never really pushed the issue when I declined haha

[@izzlebizzle9581]

Story 4: YTA, don't pull the boy out of his earnt opportunity but I beg, let the girl go to a normal high school and give her the chance to earn a similar opportunity

[@Steampunkkids]

Exactly! I homeschool my two kids. They have autism and don’t thrive in the school environment. I ask them several times a year if they want to go back to public school. They always know that they have that option. A child should NEVER be homeschooled against their will.

[@conckretangel]

Did you not hear that the public high school is not safe or the part where the mother tried to give her an opportunity to be with others in a co-op. She gave her a chance to be around others. The daughter responded that she didn't want to get up earlier. The mother tried to compromise.

[@izzlebizzle9581]

@@conckretangel okay but the daughter is going to have to compromise if she doesn't want to be home-schooled anymore, that compromise is getting up earlier. The safety point is a non-issue. Everything is unsafe, everything is potentially dangerous but that doesn't stop life from going on. The daughter clearly is extremely unhappy in her current situation so they need to try different options especially if her only issue with going to a normal school is waking up early. I don't want to wake up early for work but I have to because that's what the job I want needs of me. She needs to learn now that when you want something out of life, you have to be willing to make sacrifices

[@conckretangel]

@@izzlebizzle9581 Safety isn't a non-issue. It is stated that someone had been stabbed in the school not long before the post was posted. The daughter wants to be sent to the christian school, which would force OP to take her son out of the stem school. A school that he earned the right to go to by getting a scholarship to.

[@izzlebizzle9581]

@@conckretangel so send her to a different school in the district, there are other options. Shit like that happens all the time. People have been stabbed at my old school and yet people still send their kids there, it's still the best school in the county. Stabbings are targeted attacks, has the girl done anything that would cause someone to stab her? No, so the mother is being overbearing and controlling. There are safeguards that schools can take to ensure she is properly integrated into the school but because the mother is so fearful her daughter will be attacked she refuses to let her live a normal life. I could get stabbed walking down the street, does that mean I don't go out? No because you can't live your life in fear and you certainly shouldn't be stopping someone else from living their life because of YOUR fear

[@Actio83]

FFS the stem school kid actually applied himself and deserve more help than someone who don't care

[@legion6211]

Story 1 We all are watching every day everywhere

[@frankhooper7871]

I don't know about the USA, but here in the UK I'd guess 1 in 10 or so houses have a Ring doorbell recording video; you wouldn't be able to walk down the street without being 'caught' LOL

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

One if my neighbor has one and I didn't know, went to take them some rum fudge and they weren't home, his voice came through though suddenly and I just about drop the fudge scared me do bad, I couldn't find him and then finally spotted the camera, he had it above my head lol

[@starwarriorterra8373]

Heavily depends on where in the US, and even what individual neighborhood, so it's hard to say. It could be many, or it could be few.

[@justarandomsasquatch1480]

the one with the gift..really should have said " Its lovely, but since I can't wear it and cant return it I will donate it to someone who needs it more. Nono I can't let you take it- people will think you never got me a gift, I have to donate it as charity"

[@A.x3]

What a great idea mark! Please have your friend talk about her experience and would love to hear how she recovered. I am still in the process of doing that myself 😭💔

[@crem-crem4070]

Mark should make a “My spicy senses are tingling!” Shirt with a waffle man spoof of spiderman Seriously, Mark. Make me your head of marketing and fan product production.

[@4Just1Girl]

@Keza Motlana--Keep Thinking Spicy! That spicy waffle shirt idea would actually be a great marketing idea! I mean really, would anything more sales worthy gain more interest for merch faster than selling a few shirts with a spidey waffle in mask saying You have activated my spicy senses! There are several good ways "Spicy senses" could be used to sell more waffles merch!

[@crem-crem4070]

@@4Just1Girl RIGHT?! Mark needs to hire me. I don’t even want payment, just permission to put it on my CV

[@audreym3908]

With cinnamon around the corner

[@4Just1Girl]

@@crem-crem4070 😁😉🧇🧇🧇

[@tamsinmoore2111]

That would be a great job! I can (?) work the Aussie arm if you need it!

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

Pausing now: is his wife stealing too? Sounds like she's stealing too Edit: orrrr wife has feelings for OP and OP doesn't know Second edit: orrrrrrrrrrrr what if they're in the witness protection program?? Could be possible

[@locusxe1411]

That’s kind of reaching

[@Gumbier_Than]

Then they should stop going over there where there's a camera.

[@tamsinmoore2111]

Story Two reminds me of Jo Brand. She told a tale where her husband bought her a dress two sizes too small, saying 'I can't wait to see you in this!' So for his birthday she bought him a coffin. THAT'S how you deal with body shaming twats!

[@lorrainemarshall9476]

Love Jo B, best humour ever.

[@tamsinmoore2111]

@@lorrainemarshall9476 have you seen her on 'Alan Davies Presents'? (AD and four people sit around a table and just tell stories and determine the title of the show at the end. I think that's the title, something tickling my mind like 'Title Unknown' or something...) When Jo was on the title came from one of Jo's stories 'Thwarting Sex Pests'. Hell of a woman!

[@alexwhite6597]

Mark's videos never dissapoint

[@GIChiyo]

Story 2: "If I was not comfortable being at a higher weight and work a lot to stay smaller, NO ONE CAN EVER BE HAPPY AT A HIGHER WEIGHT" jfc mind your own business woman...

[@cgi2002]

I'm waiting for OP deciding to have children and been pregnant. Just imagine the girlfriends reaction to seeing her with a pregnancy belly, her head may litterally explode.

[@professorroundbottom438]

If someone gifts you a garment that they know won't fit you, thank them, accept the gift, then pick the seams out and make a throw pillow out of the panels. That's the next gift they get from you.

[@FriedaMMartin]

Good morning! I’m chilling out trying to figure out some basic photography and making ice cream related items

[@sevenlewis3687]

Mark, your positivity makes me feel so relaxed and entertained every day! Thank you for being a consistent content creator and having such a great relationship with your viewers. Been watching you for over a year now and it’s a bright spot in my day every day ♥️

[@Karl-Walter]

Story 3: That's exactly the reason for having indemnity/casualty/liability insurance. A neighbours "friend" borrowed my trailer and I got it back with a 7" hole in it, so I had to replace the whole bedplate (4 ft wide, 6 ft long). Guess who never got to borrow my trailer again . . .

[@jamestown8398]

I like how you react whenever you read a story where a Mark is an asshole. "Oh no, you're making Marks look bad!"

[@Ravenpaw3544]

I was confused about last story, I thought he only got to attention because he earned a half scholarship for it? It sounded like if she did the same they could do it for her to, did I mishear that? If she's musically talented she could theoretically earn a scholarship for that for a private school if she wanted to work for it? (Talking strictly cost wise not the other bs stuff lol)

[@songohan3321]

From what I understand is that the daughter just wants to go to any in-person learning school period and not be home-schooled anymore. The private school was a suggestion because it was close-by and I think OP just doesn't want to send her to public school. I went to an inner-city all-black high school myself during the 90s. It definitely was some events that happened but you had more freedom to discipline back then. It also help that the teachers, both white and black, were older and used to inner-city youth. It also helped that when I started school there, a bunch of the 9th grade "kids" were there for six years and the really bad ones dropped out. I can see OP'S point. Maybe look for a magnet school or a good public school known for its arts, music, and/or theater programs. Most school districts have them and they tend to most have a good environment.

[@artemishallihan8973]

loves sitting back and listening to a story or two

[@crystadawn8176]

Story 2: buying clothes that are too small in order to motivate yourself to lose weight is literally one of the first tips I got in the pro ana community. NTA

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

It reminds me of the movie, Requiem for a Dream. The old lady in that film tried to lose weight to fit into a dress and it ruined her life. It’s like the textbook beginnings of an eventual eating disorder.

[@savageinkstudios2969]

Story 2: my stepmom used to do that to me, every holiday she'd get me womens clothes several sizes too small (im a chubby trans guy). Cutting her out was one of the best choices I've ever made.

[@lorrainemarshall9476]

Good on you, toxic relatives are the worst. Keep your chin s up. Lol.

[@Athlynne]

The NERVE of Barb. I'm plus-sized myself, but if I damaged someone else's property, however embarrassed I might be, I would right away apologize to them and immediately offer to replace it.

[@missluciddreams3472]

Mark is a great guy... let's work hard to get him to 100k subscribers 🌞

[@MarkNarrations]

You're a legend Lucid!

[@livsweetdreams]

Story 1 He may just be trying to stir up trouble so he can later start arguing with his wife to isolate her, could be the beginning of abuse

[@Cheycartoongirl8]

Hello Waffle Gang! May all your waffles be incredibly tasty and the coffee/tea always be warm! Life Hack: Learning a new language? Figure out the 100 most frequently used words at first. These words make up about 50% of every day speech.

[@saltytoshiro3685]

Day 126 of reminding Mark that he's amazing and that his work is appreciated ❤️

[@jlady4110]

Neighbour could also concerned if he's having someone other than his wife over and afraid the bell cam might catch it?

[@pastelbell]

Dude, security cameras are meant to- guess what: SECURE YOUR PLACE!!! If he's so upset that his wife was caught on camera for a short period of time, he can go sit on a cactus since he's such a prick. Also, like everyone else is saying- for someone who's *supposedly* 100% innocent, he's definitely acting suspicious and like he was going to try to burglarize OP's home. I get that people have different reactions to being caught on camera, but the neighbor is acting like he had a rock solid plan to commit theft and try to get away with it to some capacity, but that OP installing security cameras screwed his plan over and is now trying to us BS excuses to try and push any suspicion (of a potential robbery plan) off of him.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

Agreed, and I love that cactus line, got to remember that one lol 🌵

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@louellacharlton4425]

Hi hello Broken. Have a splendid weekend. Hugs all around. As always stay safe.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@louellacharlton4425 you too, much love 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@bendingtwilight]

The last story said they had mixed comments but you only read the YTA comments

[@audreym3908]

I would love if he could do more of those! I was thinking ESH and NAH for it.

[@chulutheimposter5415]

Hello Mark!! How are you today? I hope all is well and I wish you a great day!!! I just noticed you say comftorble, instead of comfortable. Yaay, finally someone who says it like I do! XD

[@brendaburgner-williams8515]

There's cameras everywhere!! He sounds controlling!!

[@15oClock]

1. I don't get this guy. Unless he's got something to do with the thieves, he shouldn't be afraid. 2. Body positivity, this is not. This girlfriend needs way more therapy than she does exercise. 3. Other Mark should've have asked before lending them, but Barb broke them! That's her fault, solely. 4. Tionna deserves a future as much as Jacob! She can have one, but not with OP homeschooling.

[@samakiraroyjanssen6326]

Tionna should get a scholarship that pays half of the cost of where she wants to go then.

[@NarnianRailway]

On the chairs, most likely the people did not use them on a hard surface like a patio or deck. If used in the lawn on grass, each leg of the chair may settle differently into the dirt when weight applied. The aluminum can twist and deform. The same can occur with aluminum step ladders set up on dirt and cause the frame to twist.

[@jacegallagher8589]

Story 1 NTA. You had a valid security concern about your property. Maybe you should have deleted the footage of his wife at that moment, but you were right to have surveillance.

[@cmills2131]

Camera-man needs to say, "Yes! I will remove the camera." Then install a hidden one. Neighbors are undoubtedly up to no good. Catch them at it.

[@ScooterBond1970]

Story 3: What is this thing you are doing, Mark? 😄

[@missbish1000]

Defiantly something hinkey going on with that guy complaining about the door camera.

[@crazeeaz]

I don't understand the people who argue that they aren't paying because they're just "cheap chairs". Well you shouldn't have any problem paying for the cheap chairs then, Scrooge McDuck!

[@zerobolt9506]

Story 3: it's nice to see Mark taking the initiative to admit when he's been a bit of a AH and telling himself off for it. 😂😂😂 just joking.

[@dje9834]

Retired nurse of 30+ years. I've always told people it's good to have a little extra weight on in case you get sick. People usually lose a few lbs. while sick.

[@mangoshateu361]

Story 4: as someone who has been home schooled I wish I was put in public to have those interactions with people instead of the off chance of church once a week. Not having social interactions get extremely lonely, which can lead to depression ,social anxiety, and self isolation. Please don’t do this with your kids especially if one is already in school. P.s the only “friends” you would make are family, and sometimes family ain’t/shouldn’t be your friend. YTA

[@audreym3908]

That depends on what u do afterwards,.

[@dragonriderabens9761]

What would you have OP do? Punish the son by using HIS scholarship to pay for the daughter’s choice of a private school? Force the daughter into a school she has stated she doesn’t want to go into? Put the daughter in danger by sending her to a school where a kid got stabbed on the first day before even entering the building? OP is trying their best, but their options are limited, and I think a lot of people, including you, are missing that

[@katiesmith2031]

Hi Mark thanks for the video hope you are having a wonderful day much love

[@zapacunotres59]

Story 2: At first I was like "Yes! YTA!" then I heard it...NTA Story 4: The YTAs are dumb. Seriously? What is she supposed to do? Risk her kids getting hurt? And homeschooling is school. Also, she was offered co-op, but didn't want it because they made her get up early. If she goes to school, she's going to want to return to homeschooling pretty quickly. Also, it's not fair for her to pull Jacob from a scholarship.

[@Siinwu]

ya that first story, he only acted that way cause either him or his wife are stealing packages too. NTA

[@JBond-hw5nj]

story 1 the neighbor is clearly up to no good

[@seanmachado7681]

Where in the world would the paranoid "filming my wife" neighbor be living ?? That makes no sense at all. Your front door/street is a publicly viewable place.

[@rumdrunk2190]

His wife might be on the run from a ex or the legal system. Or he might be controlling.

[@jessefalling4956]

Rant warning! Ok so my whole family has gone through very similar things with respect to the last story. IMO above anything I'll say later: family helps family. In my family, if we have someone who was on the receiving end of the blunt side of life then we do what we can to help them out. My mother became the full-time caretaker of my grandma when her health turned, my cousin ended up footing the medical bill for his father when he was diagnosed with cancer, and at some point half of my family has lived with another part of the family for any given extended period of time. This also goes for when we find out that a family member is gifted somehow. The same cousin I mentioned earlier excelled in the STEM field and my family housed him for some time while he was attending a very prestigious private STEM high school since the school was 30-45 minutes closer to us than his family. Almost directly because of that choice, he was able to get into other STEM programs and eventually graduated from MIT. He ended up doing very well because of that and was able to pay his father's medical bills later in life. My own mother worked 2-3 full-time jobs and another 2-3 part-time jobs just so we could afford to have my sister and I be able to participate in the sports we loved and eventually get through college. So, I applaud OP for taking care of her mother and still wanting to give her kids to the best education she was able to give at the time. Obviously, we don't know the exact condition her mother was in. She might only need some assistance for certain tasks around the house or she might need help doing everything and OP has to give her full attention to the mother. We just don't know. That being said, we also don't know a bunch of other specifics. Did they grow up knowing that they would most likely be home schooled? When did they know about the STEM program opportunity and when was the son accepted? Did they discuss with their kids about how that would effect them if they went down that path? Did OP and/or her husband have to take on more jobs to pay for the STEM program? Did the son have to get a job to help pay for the program? There are probably more questions that we could ask that I didn't think of or forgot to add, but this just goes to show that this story shouldn't be answered by whether or not OP is TA. This sounds more like a mother who is trying to do her best for her family who is asking for help. I do not think OP and her husband should pull their son from the program. He's worked hard to get there and he deserves to finish it. It's not fair to him after settling in there as well as it being a reward for his academic achievements to take that away and give part of it to someone else. That is a fast way to create resentment between him and OP/her husband as well as between him and his sister. Also, I think that they should try to find a way to get the daughter into a private school they agree with if they are vehement about not sending their kids to the public high school as it leads to a similar resentment. My suggestion, albeit it's far from perfect, is to have both the son and the daughter pick up a job in order to help with the financial burden on top of OP and her husband also trying to get another job each if they can. If the kids already have jobs then let them know the new ground rules that have to be put in place. Everyone chips in so they can go to their respective school. From my own experience living in a low income to low-middle class income household is that there is always someone hiring and there is always another way to make some extra money. My family has a saying "If you truly want something, then make a way for it to happen." You don't get anywhere by just standing around watching what's going down, find a way to make it happen. Sorry for the rant! I felt like OP wasn't being treated all too fairly and wanted to give another perspective of this scenario. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and anyone is free to disagree with me. I also wanted to make a more constructive piece of criticism because I believe OP just wants to do her best by her kids and I don't think that negativity is what's needed for this story to find the best solution. Thank you for reading and reply if you want to help find a better path for this family. I hope everyone has an amazing day!!

[@tendousatori6030]

This is perfect for commission drawing

[@swagmanandy]

No neighbour YOU don't dictate to your wife, and you DON'T to me.

[@ShowdogTiger]

She needs to talk to the Christian school. They have scholarships too.

[@MysticOceanDollies]

Many states also have scholarship programs so she should definitely look into it.

[@oldwoman5942]

Doorbell camera...NTA...maybe he and his wife are thieves.

[@colleenthecatlady2344]

Chairs::: don't lend them out anymore!!!

[@katiekates4416]

Ooo we got some spicy ones today! I find it so funny when parents think sending their kids to a private school will be better. My best friend went to a private middle school, and not to say this is all private schools, but they have wayyyyy more drugs than an average high school. In public school the worst thing you'll encounter is alcohol or weed, private school kids have more money to get wacker shit. They had middle schoolers taking Adderall and smoking weed. Its never "better" or "safer." The only real improvement is private schools usually have better resources. But socially, they're much scarier

[@annvictor9627]

The neighbor upset about the camera reminds me of that J. Geils Band song, "Centerfold". XD

[@JUMALATION1]

Story 2: I'm still technically 2 kilograms overweight according to BMI but not healthy at all, having rapidly dropped about 23 kg. That GF is toxic as all hell. She can't force her own weight expectations on others who are happy just living life.

[@MysticMae21]

She doesnt want to get up early one day a week for co-op. But then wants to get up even earlier 5 days a week to go to regular school? Girl doesnt know how good she has it and is jealous of her brother.

[@ashutdownmcdonalds9466]

Mark saying "sus" is hilarious.

[@maxamillion26093]

Story 4, NTA you’re trying to do what’s best for both your kids

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

Agreed Edit: I was homeschooled, you can easily socialize when homeschooled, I played ball, was in 4-H, FFA and other things. Anyone who thinks you can't socialize homeschooled was clearly never homeschooled

[@zerotodona1495]

Jacob is in a stem school! A stem school! That’s so much more important than singing.

[@Sugarylamb]

I r4ecently heard this story about this girl being sold/kidnapped, so I cant help but think maybe the husband kidnapped the wife in the first story????

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

Ooooo a fellow home true crime detective, love the theory and now I wish OP had more details for this. That could make sense if he did something in the background of that video that he shouldn't have. However your comment also made me wonder what if they're in the witness protection program? I love these further out different theories

[@Sugarylamb]

@@GabrielleHayes1921 OOOOOH YES, I really hope this story gets an update because it can go so many different ways! The plot twist potential is amazing! 🤩

[@Snowshowslow]

Story 1: does no one cares about privacy here? OP could at the very least have promised to delete the footage after every few days when nothing has gone missing.

[@karinavaldivia4252]

Maybe one of them is stealing?? Story 1 NTA

[@albertgongora6944]

I'm going to say this on the first or you fifty bucks that the neighbor and his wife have been the one that's responsible for getting away with actually stealing the packages that they normally get on their doorsteps which is of course Opie's house why else would he be concerned and start questioning why him and his wife were on camera I bet you they've been working with the people that have been sent out getting those packages from their doorstep because they're the ones normally staking out the house by making it look like they're normally visiting and it's not inappropriate and if I was in Opie shoes and the wife is so concerned about being respectful of their neighbors feelings then she shouldn't complain or bitch when they lose packages they would rather respect the feelings of these two neighbors instead of understanding that this is a time that it's necessary to have these cameras up that way this can stop

[@francit4856]

When neighbor kept going on about hus wife on Doorbell Camera, OP should have asked "Why? Are you uncomfortable with this. It's not like we watch it unless something goes missing. Are you concerned your wife might take things?"

[@Athlynne]

If Tionna wants interaction that badly, she can get up earlier and do the co-op thing her mom suggested. It would be a waste to pull the academically-gifted child out of his school just because another child is bored.

[@nightthornkvala94132]

If you take something (like IKEA chairs) without permission isn't that stealing whether you supposedly plan to return it or not?

[@Mitzthatonekid]

That intro came in STRONG- your voice got deeper wow!😍😍😍💖💖💖

[@krystiharper]

First story get wrecked some courts need the full footage or it's inadmissible in court.

[@dawnngl]

My family has a hearing impaired person and he was told by his hoa to remove his ring and find him for mouth so we took the hoa to court and won now everyone in his area has one the man is just being paranoid

[@marianhoblyn1901]

Just wondering if the op in the last story is qualified to homeschool her daughter, and if not could this possibly be why she not academically gifted? Send this kid to school ffs.