Neighbor Thinks She's ENTITLED To Our Drive And Parks On It, We Called The Tow Truck r/AITA

[@ResidentMilf]

"She just doesn't like the idea of her 'sworn enemy's' son being at her wedding." Is she a 1990's cartoon movie villain? Because she's acting like one.

[@TheKennethECarper]

I haven't had a sworn enemy since middle school. Even then, I was over it by freshman year of high school. Some grownups can be such children.

[@Russman67]

Story 2: Look, dad tried to warn the daughter and offered to manage the fund for her. Daughter with likely the ex wife in her ear, demanded the entire fund and burned through it. It's not his fault, the ex gave her bad advice. In fact that should be a lesson to the daughter. Not the asshole and protect the youngest child's college fund from the two of them!

[@mothertrucker936]

Absolutely. Especially since their mom is dying to get her grubby hands on more money. Why isn’t she paying back or taking a loan? After all she did take the money. Daughter should demand or sue her mom. I’m appalled at these parents who literally steal from their children and make someone else responsible for their actions. Also, I think OP should stick to the same system as he did with son for last daughter.

[@Russman67]

@@mothertrucker936 I'm guessing that her mom manipulated her with a sob story about how dad has been controlling all the money. Very likely told her that the money she took from her was completely justified.

[@solidmoon8266]

Sounds more like the ex manipulated their daughter to get some of the money.

[@mothertrucker936]

@@Russman67 agreed. How I despise manipulators who actually pull their crap on children. Sociopathic witch

[@josephbrown9665]

My kids all had college funds. They were for school only and they were not allowed to go towards anything else. I paid for anything that they needed during their time at school two of our daughters lived in a condo that we got for them to live in when they were in college thinking they would all go to the same school. Oldest daughter got a full ride playing softball in college and we only paid for her car insurance and food plus some books and tutoring she needed when she was playing softball middle daughter didn’t play softball for college but she wanted to get into the nursing program so we used some of her funds for her school but she only used about 1/4 of her funds because she only lived in the condo for a year and she had to move home by the nursing school she had got a Grant for half of it. Oldest daughter graduated from college and went to work for a laboratory middle daughter graduated from nursing school and we lost our oldest son in the military and our youngest son was still in the military. Youngest daughter graduated from high school at 16 and she had a full ride to school out of state and only a part in the state college so she went out of state. She got a job in the place by her school working for a family member. She only asked us for her car insurance to get paid her insurance bill was a little higher because she had her car stolen. She was going to medical school when she graduated college. She was going into her 3rd year of college but she would be graduating at the end of the summer after her 3rd year. She didn’t know what it would cost her for medical school but she was working hard to graduate college early and start medical school. Her oldest sister came to me and asked if she still had money for school in her account I was like yes you have some being you are the oldest but we had not started her account when she was a baby but we had for the other kids. She said that she would love to go to veterinarian school and she wanted us to help her if we could. I told her that I still have the condo and she could sell her house and she would have enough money to finish school but not sell her house until she gets into school. She surprised me and her mother she got in on her first try . Not many people get in on the first try. We paid for both girls to graduate from medical school debt free after the kids were done with school we were pretty much broke but they had finished medical school with no loans and we still had money for my two sons college and my middle daughter had half of her money left.. So family meeting my son had a loan that I had signed for him to start his own business after the military and we gave him his funds and the middle daughter her funds. My oldest sons funds were split up for the other 4 kids even . He has a son but he has his own college funds and savings accounts from his father who never got to meet him.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: NTA She asked to be "treated like an adult" and was told EXACTLY what would happen. The ex needs to pay her share of the college fund. Mom is horrible here in general but how can she take her daughter's college money and then say OP is causing her to struggle?

[@jtc1947]

@ Dominic...the EX sounds like a real gold digger or money grubber? All that the EX wants is MONEY! MONEY! MONEY! And to HELL who else gets harmed!

[@kevinclark495]

If my other half acted like that over my nephew their feet wouldn't even touch the ground they'd be gone so fast, some people are too pathetic for words

[@tomsautocadstudio6446]

I would bring the kid anyway.

[@lancerevell5979]

I agree brother and his wife-to-be are the AH here, but the guest list is theirs to determine. They are within their rights to exclude anyone they wish. Being an AH isn't a crime, it's just stupid. If they excluded my kid, I would not attend. I would also exclude them from my home. Tit for tat.

[@leegraves8878]

The dummy is marrying her anyway he will have a rough go of it.

[@mothertrucker936]

Last story: NTA. Tell brother IT IS a big deal. Op don’t go and don’t send a gift. Instead, go on a nice trip for you and your son alone. Anyone that agrees with the brides bs can be marked out of your phone as well. She’s creating a huge problem within the family even before getting married. That’s a freeway of red flags.

[@TheKennethECarper]

@@tomsautocadstudio6446 I wouldn't bring my son anyplace he wasn't welcome. Conversely there's no way in hell I'd attend that wedding if my son wasn't permitted to go. The brother doesn't get to cry that he wants his entire family at his wedding all the while excluding his brother's son.

[@jesterbrown90]

Story 2: NTA. What ex really wants is for you to give Jane more money to give her.

[@lancerevell5979]

OP already paid for her education. As he warned, she wasted it. That is on her. Giving the college money to her goldbricking mother was also her mistake. OP has no more obligation here.

[@songohan3321]

Will admit. The title is doing OP a serious disservice. He has a well thought-out plan and let his kids know. I hope the youngest use this to make better decisions. Plus the ex is horrible in this.

[@jesterbrown90]

@@lancerevell5979 True, but i'm not ready to classify being manipulated by your own mother a "mistake". She loves her mom, and that makes it harder to tell whether or not she's taking advantage of her. Hopefully she figures out what her mom is doing.

[@nancyjay790]

Jane wanted to be treated like an adult. That means she is on her own. She was given access to an amount that should have covered her college expenses and left extra that OP said she would be allowed to use as she wished. She let her mother scam her. If she insists on having control, she has to deal with her mother, too. Just hope OP protects Amy's fund.

[@jesterbrown90]

@@nancyjay790 Yeah, but her mom had Janes whole life to condition her. I agree that OP needs to hold on to that money, but I can't help but feel a bit of pity for Jane. She's being used and she can't see it. Probably because it's happened for so long, it's become her normal.

[@MsAnimefan95]

OP4 should tell his brother that he doesn’t think it’s legal to marry girls that are still in high school, since she not only still seems to be there mentally, but is also blind enough to mistake a 5-year-old boy for another high school girl.

[@frith.calluna]

Someone, quick! Get some aloe vera for that burn!

[@sixxygrrl]

This! This is the comment I didn't know I wanted and absolutely NEEDED!!! 🔥🔥🔥

[@Gr33nP1x13]

😂🤣😂🤣😂 love it! Yes! All the yes! Seriously! I had issues in high school & got MY vengeance by being awesome ^_^ WHO HOLDS A GRUDGE AGAINST A CHILD THAT WASN'T EVEN A THOUGHT YET?!? Seriously...she needs therapy or OP's brother is going to lose his brother & nephew because his fiancee is a bitter woman that never grew up.

[@katwiltz1134]

All I did was vomit vitriol all over Reddit this morning so thank you for having a cohesive coherent relatable response

[@erikagehm2805]

For the college story: have the youngest talk to a financial advisor/counselor and maybe even a psychologist or counselor for the abuse going on.

[@jedimasters1462]

Story 4: tell your brother to grow a pair and tell his b*tch that your son is his family and is allowed to come. If she's not able to let go of something that happened years ago and doesn't even involve the kid, she's not ready for marriage or a family. They both need major counseling before they are able to get married and brother needs to really think if making Tara happy like that is worth losing his brother and nephew (plus any other kids OP has) forever.

[@25Erix]

VA = Virginia. TX = Texas. For future reference.

[@nancyjay790]

Virginia is a beautiful state, within easy driving distance of DC, several universities, museums, and historic sites. Especially lovely to visit in autumn! I have family in Texas, and I know it's got some great things too.

[@mykaelnyx8821]

Just don't get her a ring when you propose, get down on one knee with an empty box.

[@Koji-Alistair]

Brilliant 🤣🤣🤣

[@GabrielleTollerson]

nice lol 🤣

[@dorianleakey]

Few people commented on this story, your joke is the only one. I was blown away everyone was giving YTA votes, very odd

[@Charliebeth]

She doesn't want the son to come there wedding because she hates his mother? This shows how she will take out her grudge against the child for life. Probably be abusive in some way or another...

[@GabrielleTollerson]

makes me nervous about what she would do to a child being that damn petty

[@deborahkinnel5261]

Wow, so the bride is talking her anger and resentment out on a 5 year old boy? Red flag 🚩

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA so someone who doesn't live there can't give permission. She asked, He said no. That's enough.

[@Rhaenarys]

Id agree except they skirted on the questions about whose paying for everything. Just because you don't live there doesn't mean you don't have ownership, and if you do, that doesn't give others the right to make decisions against your own. If the step dad is paying for the spot, then he does actually have say in who parks there.

[@moimeself1088]

@@Rhaenarys yeah, that was my question too. Are the brothers paying rent? If not, i guess SD does have a say. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@fate_clotho9596]

That last story? Brother should NOT marry that childish narcissist!

[@81babyruthluv]

Last story: you are NOT the AH. The bride and your brother are being total AHs. If it were me, I wouldn't attend even if they changed their mind about your son. What a bunch of AHs.

[@barbarastorball2117]

Story 4 Op is doing the right thing by taking a stand if hes not coming unless his son come. The brother shouldn't be surprised that op doesn't want to come if other are allowed to bring their kids, when it's over a stupid petty feud from the past.

[@ashh4929]

Right? He isn't even with her "arch enemy" 🙄, she has basically no part of their lives anymore. Even if they were still together there are far better ways to compromise with the guest list. She's acting like a cartoonish vilian to 5 yr old.

[@TheKennethECarper]

@@ashh4929 What grown adult actually has an arch enemy in the first place? I'd say the brother is in for a handful with this woman.

[@ashh4929]

@@TheKennethECarper Exactly, it's kind of mind boggling. Like did she watch too many CW shows and thinks that's how real life works?

[@naturelass]

story 4 i think OP's brother needs to reevaluate marrrying tara if she is so petty that she would be against an innocent child over something like being the son of a woman she dislikes then what kind of relationship will they have? what will she be petty and jelous over every female friend will she be hostile to the kids of other people to get at them? i mean op's brother is all FAMILY and yet he is ok with HIS nephew being excluded i mean i am sorry but last i checked the GROOM gets to PICK HIS guests and the BRIDE gets to PICK her guests and the fact that OP's parents are on his side says it all OP should stick to his guns if family was really important to the brother he would have told his to be wife to knock it off with the petty childish shit and grow up because the brother's wife sounds like she is very childish.

[@GabrielleTollerson]

facts

[@LunaMane]

With story three I think people are missing the point in that OP doesn't want the implication put out that he proposed to the girlfriend when he didn't, and have to explain why he hadn't. I'd say NAH, because I don't believe either of them are wrong for how they feel about the ring.

[@JessiL]

THANK YOU! I think he's perfectly entitled to feel bothered about the ring and he's not an asshole for having that opinion, because to me too that's a really strange thing to do to constantly wear a wedding ring that you weren't given by your partner and if my boyfriend did that would bother me a lot even when we have a very loving relationship. I feel like it's a combination of her fantasizing about being married and also pushing him into proposing to her that's what's bothering me most about it. I mean she does have the right to want to feel safe with it too but....she even wears this ring at home when they're alone?

[@gloriasowle8083]

He needs to put his foot down on this NOW. What will your son never be invited to their home. No family functions again if your son is there. She has to grow up.

[@msredux]

NTA she wanted all the money because she wanted to be treated like an adult, well actions have comsequences, she can work or ask help from her mother.

[@songohan3321]

I read that story and said, "This is not going to end well."

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

If I guess correctly, the mother probably told her she would pay her back and, of course, she didn’t and most likely guilt tripped her into not paying it back! Then mom says go ask your father 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@hopetirendi2386]

For the wedding story if the brothers soon to be wife is still living in junior high he might want to rethink this marriage. Take your kid OP somewhere fun instead of a stuffy old wedding that's gonna end in divorce!!!

[@ericaschaidt8588]

In story 4 OP’s brother is made OP won’t come to the wedding since his son isn’t invited. The brother says he’s upset because he “wants his family there”. Obviously that’s not the case, because he’s just fine with his nephew not being there.

[@TheKennethECarper]

Maybe once OP's brother has his own kids he'll realize how absolutely out of line he was to ask his brother to leave his son at home.

[@lujlp]

Last Story In about 3 years assuming your brother's relationship to that poor hasn't deteriorated into divorce offer to throw a family reunions and then call up your brother and tell him that the only member of the family not invited is his wife

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 4: “I want my family there!” Then why are you excluding your nephew

[@kathyjarvis1745]

To me li feels like the rejected child is of the wrong ethnicity (just a feeling of the vibe even if ethnicity has no issue) and the other children are” acceptable” Where how does it end?

[@GabrielleTollerson]

@@kathyjarvis1745 of course you would think that lmfao 🤦‍♀️

[@GabrielleTollerson]

@@kathyjarvis1745 see a therapist,you have an obsessive problem

[@JasperCatProductions]

Is your son gonna be excluded from Christmas dinner at grandmas cause SIL will be mad? Son can’t go to grandpa’s birthday cause SIL will be mad. Don’t go to wedding and don’t speak to bro until he gets his act together.

[@TheKennethECarper]

If it's a choice between your children and your siblings there's really no choice at all. I certainly hope the rest of their family doesn't go along with the sister in law's horseshit.

[@cynthiarothrock4255]

Explane to brother that his wife is a CHILD KAREN. and isn't old enough to marry ANYONE.

[@odysseus2656]

The second story reminds me of advice I read in the Wall Street Journal decades ago about what to say to someone who insists you loan them money or pay their way: "Why should we run through all of my money before YOU learn to budget?" Why should the father waste more money before the daughter learns to be responsible with her money?

[@GabrielleTollerson]

exactly

[@stevenmccart5455]

I'm constantly reminded of the man who asked some men getting out of a car parked in his driveway to please move because he needs to get in and out. After a verbal confrontation turned violent the group just left...so the man walked around to the side of his house hopped into his bull dozer and pushed and flipped the car out to and in the middle of the street. All while one of the men was hanging on to the side of the dozer screaming...he was taken to court and found not guilty. The "man's home is his castle " is still on the books in England.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

I love that! I have a bobcat in my backyard, so I will have to remember that 🤣😉

[@stevenmccart5455]

@@stirrednotshaken4823 true story. It happened in the UK a few months ago.

[@lauriestlyon8773]

Story 4. The brother needs to rethink and fast! She is an expensive mistake in the making.

[@namename2040]

Story 3 NTA OPs feelings are valid and there is nothing wrong in asking. That's is what OP asked judgement for. Also the first comment bsing about "oh it doesn't matter" "you're over thinking it" simply put if it didn't matter she would have taken it off.

[@zjefwinne3590]

Right? I wouldn't buy an engagement ring while she's not ready to make the engagement for it.

[@firedrgn656]

Completely agree. If I had a long term relationship and my gf refused to remove a fake wedding ring, when it is clearly bothering me and I've asked multiple times to take it off, I'd go find a new gf, one who actually cares about how I feel. Relationships are two way streets, and if she's not capable of fulfilling such a simple request, how many other things is she refusing to do that clearly bother him? Also, side note, a creep is going to be a creep whether you are single or married, there is a reason they are called creeps...

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 4: How is New SIL going to handle family holidays "Oh all other nibblets are cool to show for granmas birthday, but OPs son has to stay home because I hate his egg donor and I want to punch his face because she was a bitch to me"

[@MsAnimefan95]

“Oh, I wouldn’t do that! But it’s different in this case, since it’s MY wedding!” One, the nephew IS going to pick up on that. Two, if she’s so fixated on OP’s ex that simply having the nephew there means she won’t be able to focus on her own wedding, maybe she should think about getting a therapist before getting married.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

@@MsAnimefan95 Yeah this girl has a long list of hang ups if she can't let go of HIGH SCHOOL bull shit

[@prcervi]

future sil so never got over her highschool peak, damn b really must not have anything else going for her and kid is plenty old enough to understand that he's being excluded for no reason

[@HidForHG]

@@prcervi Exactly. If they don't want to make it a big deal then ask the other siblings to not bring THEIR children. That Bitch is say the nephew is NOT family. NO respectable parent would allow someone to treat their child that way just bc. A wedding is just something that happens, not a mystical once in forever event, which considering the massive hang-ups she has she'll be having many.

[@songohan3321]

Story 4 is just the continuation of a Disney High School sitcom.

[@gabrielledormuth4634]

In the last story I had to listen to it twice cause I don't believe how immature his brother's fiance is being, I mean not allowing a 5 year old to come to their wedding cause his mother is an enemy of hers It's sad 😥 😞

[@GabrielleTollerson]

not only sad but also petty as hell

[@smellyolegoat150]

I was so angry with that last story that I was literally yelling while sitting in my truck. I agree with everything Mark and the other commenters said. I would be extremely upset with my siblings for their stance. They basically took a stance that stated loud and clear that none of them consider their nephew, OP’s son, as real family. The brother will definitely rue the day that he married that woman if he goes through with it.

[@marthaandrews441]

If your son cannot attend the wedding because of who his mother is, what about Xmas and thanksgiving? I wouldn't go to the wedding either if all the other nieces and nephews were attending. Good move dad.

[@jeandobkowski8571]

child at wedding...OP needs to think about how this women will treat his son after they are married. Will son be excludes rom all family events? The brother needs to step up. The bride needs to grow up and quit living "in high school". very unbecoming and petty. The child is innocent...bride not so much!

[@Hpe68]

Well I'm finished with part 1 of an important test and now it's time to relax with a mark video

[@MarkNarrations]

Well done Enrique, hope it went well friend!

[@idalarsson6417]

🙏🙏

[@saltysnake3774]

Story 1: OP should send her a bill for the cost of that parking spot.

[@Gr3nadgr3gory]

She'll be charged more for the tow. I hope she didn't learn the lesson.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

4th story: So the exes son can't be there, but the exes old hookup buddy and partner can be? One came out of her after the other repeatedly came in her, the way she thinks you'd think both would ruin the wedding for her. Hell, can I go for him and wear a shirt with the exes face painted on it? Edit: "he wants his family there", so his nephew isn't family because his bride says no?

[@LoveableNiki]

Last Story: OP's brother, FSIL, and siblings are all TAs. Shoutout to OP's parents for standing up for their grandson. FSIL is actually disgusting. Brother is trash for excluding his nephew. When does this end? Sounds like Jason isn't going to be welcomed into brother's home. Maybe Brother and FSIL will not attend family events that Jason attends. If I were OP, I go NC with Brother. I attend family events and ignore Brother and his family. How dare Brother treat his nephew this way. Why would you marry someone like this? It's so DISGUSTING!

[@JP-eh4ee]

Story 2. The ex wife is the definite AH, jane is becoming an AH if she keeps pressuring Amy.

[@suzannesamocki1639]

Story 4...do NOT acknowledge the bride's ridiculous request. Ever. This child is NOT the mother. And if she insists, ridicule her EVERYWHERE, in person, on line, in any community setting...let her understand SHE IS THE FOOL!

[@pattyslater514]

The last story makes me physically ill. I am shocked that the groom can't see the absurdly deplorable immaturity of this fully grown baby woman..... but for others in the family to ask him to just go along with it to keep the peace. I am curious though, has anyone turned the tables on them and ask if it was their child that was band from this family event, would they just bend over and take it in the poop shoot to save face for the family?

[@TheKennethECarper]

That's a good point. How many people are likely to care about keeping the peace when it's their children being treated like shit?

[@LeggoMyGekko]

In the last story, it almost sounds like the guy that ex and Tara fought over, was OP! I don’t think he realizes it, but that’s what I got from it, and it would make a little more sense, if it was the kid of her “sworn enemy” and the “one that got away” I mean, she married his brother. Still not healthy, good, or kind, but it would make more sense

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

That thought occurred to me too

[@2ndbreakfast29]

Oh my god that last story steamed my buns. Screw that fiancee and the brother. What awful people, obviously they need a reality check. Also Mark keep being fabulous, I love your "waffling"

[@barbarastorball2117]

Story 2 nta Op did give Jane money for college, Jane decided to give it to her mother. She should be asking any of the other kids for money for school when she squandered. Jane needs to get a job if she can't get help from her mother who clearly should not have been taking money from a daughter.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

OP knew about the Exs atempts to get at the fund from the past. This outcome was known and likely. One question, "Do you want this, or dose your Mother want this?" to make sure this was Jane's wish and not Her mom with a knife to her back.

[@songohan3321]

OP'S plan is very detailed. I need to make notes of this.

[@Kittinlil]

4th bride rejecting an innocent child. OP definitely not the A hole. Brother needs to sit GF down and tell her to grow up, and get over not only herself but over the jealousy of her ex. This is not just about taking out her pettiness on an innocent child, it shows she obviously has not gotten over her the rejection of an EX. HUGE RED FLAG there in itself. Aside from all this, brother claims to want family but the nephew is family. As others pointed out, what event will be next, she either refuses to and forbids brother from being part of because she refuses to be around an innocent boy who has done absolutely nothing to her. Mark you are right the situation is pathetic, and the bride to be is being beyond wretched. I know if I was the brother I would not be wanting to be with anyone that could be that rotten by taking such petty pathetic shit out on a child.

[@annvictor9627]

I think the family should boycott the brother's and Tara's wedding.

[@iSmileyPerson]

If the bride gets away with barring the nephew once then she’ll do it again and again and again. It’s a child. She’s holding a grudge against a SECOND GENERATION. What the hell?

[@TheKennethECarper]

That kind of crap is a great way to tear a family apart from the inside. She's already caused a rift between brothers. What's next? I can't imagine the grandparents would approve of their daughter in law trying to ban their grandson from every family event. That woman is going to be a cancer on that family.

[@TarisLuna]

Story 4 If the brother would want the family there he would have put his foot down and let's ops son attend

[@15oClock]

1. Probably should go to management about this. If the stepdad is management, time to move. 2. Jane should've been smarter than to trust her mom. Two outta three kids isn't bad, if a little cold. 3. Feels more like OP's problem than a real one. It's not like she lies that they are married; it's a prop. 4. Tara never grew outta high school, didn't she? She doesn't have to invite Jason's mom, just let him go!

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

Story 4: NTA. Really?!?!?!? Op’s son can go to his uncle’s wedding over some highschool bs?! Tara needs to grow the hell up! The brother has no right to be angry at OP for not wanting to go, it’s his fiancé that has this petty need to hold onto high school drama that’s preventing part of his family from being there. She is so petty, pathetic, and childish for hating a child cuz she’s projecting a decade’s old drama onto an innocent child that had absolutely nothing to do with it, besides being the son of some girl she hated in school. She’s literally acting like one of those evil and insecure stepmother’s that hate their spouses children because they came from another woman.

[@cheskydivision]

Omg the fact that he brother would be asking op to not bring his son. so OP's brother is ok getting married to a woman that hates his nephew for no reason. Will this mean op can't go to family functions with his son if she is there?. I'd definitely go nc with brother over this. How will she treat this kid if they ever meet up at the same place. OP's brother should be ashamed for going along with this.

[@TheKennethECarper]

The family function thing is only a problem if the brother and his wife are holding the function. I can't imagine any of their family members going along with this on a regular basis. Not that it's okay that the boy is being excluded at all. I think the FSIL and brother are pieces of shit for excluding him. I'm just saying future occurrences are likely out of their control. Could you imagine being the sister in law and going to your new husband's parents saying, "If your grandson is coming for Thanksgiving dinner I'm not coming!" My reply would be, "Go fuck yourself!"

[@lorifiedler13]

If brother actually goes through with the wedding, for every family gathering, op and his son should always go. If Tara gets bent out of shape, that's on her.

[@mkitten13]

Last story, such complete BS. You do NOT put kids in the middle of something that's between yourself and another adult. Like, I suffered some serious bullying up throughout my childhood, but I am very careful about talking about it (especially with naming any names) around my own nieces who are growing up in the small town I am from, just in case kids they know end up being related to any of my former bullies. Kids are not responsible for any transgression made by any of their family members, and honestly that bride is seriously pathetic to try and ban a child because they happen to be the child of someone they have issues with (especially when that parent wouldn't be attending anyway).

[@zapacunotres59]

Story 2: Jane was warned. Amy being pressured isn't okay and this Dad is awesome. 4: NTA, his brother had no right to pull that.

[@donnahebert1321]

Last story- think from the child's viewpoint: "Mom has thrown me away, now dad says I'm not family (if he goes with the Bitter Betty)!?"

[@jessilyngray1223]

I used to bartend and I always had a ring that was my 'engagement' ring. You wouldn't believe how much that kept the guys away.

[@Slicksterpat]

Story 4 I would call a family meeting and when brother shows up with her in tow I would tell her to leave as this is for family only and she is not.

[@songohan3321]

Story 4 sounds like the continuation of a Disney sitcom.

[@cynthiarothrock4255]

The bride started it over a person she never even met just because she didn't like his mother. Is stupid as SHE IS MARRING INTO THAT FAMILY AND WOULD SEE HIM REGUALY IN REAL LIFE AND WOULD BE RELATED TO HIM SO EITHER DONT MARRY INTO THE FAMILY OR ACT LIKE AN ADULT .

[@gaxalee7392]

I don’t understand the mentality that we owe boundary encroaching/law breaking assholes warnings before we call the appropriate companies/authorities to solve the issues. Adults should know the typical consequences to various actions: park illegally=get towed, break in someone’s home=get arrested, assault=get arrested, etc. This idea that they deserve or are owed a warning first is, even mildly, encouraging/rewarding the behavior. You’ll call then they’ll remove all evidence they have access to that proves they did something wrong, in this case just moving the car.

[@haplessasshole9615]

I always love watching the little worm zip around on one of the apple blossoms at 16:54. Looks like he's on some wild-assted speed. Cracks me up.

[@itjustmemanning8441]

Story one; NTA You said No. Then neighbor tried to get around you. Why did they think that would work out for them? LOL!

[@crazy4cheddar]

In regards to Story 3: I had a grad ring that ended up fitting my ring finger on my left hand best. I have very small fingers. When my fiancé went to go purchase a ring, he had sat my grad ring on his finger to know where it sat to know roughly my size. And it worked I haven’t had to resize the ring once. The op could use the same method with her ring. I also use my rings to fidget with as I have adhd and the texture of the gems and claws is satisfying. It could help the op’s gf in the same way.

[@ericaschaidt8588]

While this is good advice I’m curious how this method would help OP with his dilemma? There’s nothing about sizing his girlfriends finger for a ring in the post.

[@crazy4cheddar]

@@ericaschaidt8588 perhaps it could help them think about the ring in a positive light? Like it gives him an advantage?

[@samantha1102]

My aunt begged her bf for years to get her a ring. He finally caved. She got wedding ring set. They weren't engaged. He told her that. She still wore them. They weren't promise ring either. She could wear it on other ring finger.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 4: OP's brother: I want family there Also OP's brother: except for my FIVE YEAR OLD nephew. She needs to grow up and OP's brother needs to grow some intestinal fortitude. Excluding a single family member for the reasons stated is 100% ridiculous and I wouldn't go either. Edit:Mark is absolutely right. Pathetic

[@Rhaenarys]

Agreed.

[@cynthiarothrock4255]

I wouldn't marry the husky. And I'd tell her so

[@TheKennethECarper]

If my brother pulled that shit with my kid he'd be my ex-brother.

[@mikejones9080]

The brother who wants to exclude his nephew from the wedding needs to lose Tara before he finds himself folding every time she gets a burr under her saddle. This broad is evil!

[@yol4203]

I had this exact problem. Brand mew neighbors just moved in and started to park in one of our spots without asking. At first i did not say anything trying not to cause problems but as time went by their antics increased until i snapped and put the entire family in their place. Every since then they hate me but they know i dont give a fuck and they haven’t parked in my spot in years.

[@fairladykd6734]

Park behind them/block them in and refuse to move. It's your drive/parking spot so you can stayed parked for as long as you like!

[@augustineabram1545]

Wait. Isn't his nephew his blood relative. If your son is not welcome at the wedding, stay away with your son. This is a hill to die on. NTA

[@TheKennethECarper]

I agree. To be honest, my brother would probably end up uninviting me from his wedding anyway for calling his wife a bitch after what she said.

[@hilarymurray8741]

First story : NTA OP As you pay for the parking spots, whatever your stepfather says does not count, especially if you pay him rent. Entitled neighbour has to learn to understand the word 'No'. Keep having her car towed, if you have to, and call the police if she gets stroppy.

[@lkayh]

One of the commenters asked an important question: Does stepdad pay the rent and parking fees? If so, those spaces are HIS and he can give permission to this woman, whether OP likes it or not. A good towing company will make sure who has the rights to the space before towing, but if they’ve towed just based on OP’s say-so when he doesn’t have the right, OP could end up on the hook for the towing fees, storage, and any other inconvenience this woman encounters. OP might end up being TA, not for his very justified frustration with this awful woman, but for overstepping his actual legal rights.

[@halvik5852]

With that last story there is a complete lack of perspective from OP’s siblings. If he were to go along with it, that child would pick up on that he’s being excluded. All of his cousins get to go to things why not him? Do you know how a child interprets that kind of thing? He’ll think it’s his fault. That he’s “bad” or else they would want him there too. And not only does the brother not see this but apparently all of his other siblings don’t either. Thank god their parents are sensible at least. This kind of thing has the potential to destroy that child’s mental health for life. How would they feel if it was their kid(s)? Good on OP for not backing down. His brother’s future ex-wife is a real piece of work.

[@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer]

Story 1 OP needs to put up a security camera facing the car parks in case the entitled neighbor keys his car out of spite

[@Tammohawk1]

If I were your brother I would get a sign saying, "NO unauthorized parking" That would go quite a ways I would think. Until that entitled person comes along that is. lol 2. Jane knew what would happen and how much money she had available for college. If she ended up giving her mother some of that money, that's not on OP but her mother. Mom owes her that money so she can go to college. 3. YTA I've worn rings on both hands since I was a teenager. Prior to being married I wore a ring on my left ring finger, never a wedding ring or band, but a ring. It didn't mean a flipping thing except that I liked that ring. People really over think things sometimes to their detriment. 4. OP's brother really needs to do some deep soul searching about this woman. I don't think he should marry her because she is so immature and mean. How can you be that ugly to an innocent child? I would understand if it were a child free wedding, but it's not.

[@sixxygrrl]

I really want a follow up on the nephew and the wedding. The FSIL is the biggest AH I have seen on here in many a moon. 🤦

[@TheKennethECarper]

The FSIL is a major league asshole but the brother is worse because he's going along with it.

[@sixxygrrl]

@@TheKennethECarper you are absolutely right about that.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 2: I get the feeling Jane was pressured way harder into giving mom the fund. This wasn't her wanting to be seen as an adult but her mother putting even more screws to her and using the fact shes now on paper an adult to force OPs hand. OP new that the Ex had been after the fund for years and shouldn't have given over the purse strings to a newly 19 year old kid.

[@nancyjay790]

Thing is, OP said his son started to do the same thing when he started college, but backtracked after talking with his dad. This is a pattern of OP's ex trying to force OP to pay for her lifestyle. The son listened to OP, but Jane did not. Each should reap what they sowed. Amy's fund should be protected. The ex will repeat this behaviour if allowed, and then both of the daughters will be either unable to complete their education or in debt, while their mother looks for a new mark to fleece.

[@lorifiedler13]

She made the mistake of trusting her mother.

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Why doesn't your brother just put up signs exclaiming that parking in his driveway costs xxx amount, payable in advance, and then put a "boot" on any car that he hasn't collected the fee for until the driver pays up. That way, wouldn't the owner of the car be on the hook for theft of services even if they did call the police to protest? Wouldn't they just be ratting themselves out?

[@ezra2701]

Okay so I listen to Mark when I fall asleep and during my morning routine (even tho I sleep at 2am lmao) so hearing my name being shouted out was wild. I love Mark

[@MarkNarrations]

Haha, thanks so much for the support Ezra. Cute kitty in the pfp! :)

[@maggpiprime954]

Very cute kitty pfp!

[@ezra2701]

@@maggpiprime954 her name is Mittens! Unfortunately I don't have her in my custody anymore but she's safe☺️💗

[@maggpiprime954]

@@ezra2701 Awww, glad she's safe tho! At least you can still send her birthday and holiday catnip. Maybe she'll be able to stay with you for catsitting sleepovers when her home human is away!

[@ezra2701]

@@maggpiprime954 haha thank you! And I wish but there person that has her I'm not in contact with (long story) but I know where ever she is, she's got plenty of food and cuddles which is all I can hope for

[@jraxreviewsxcosplayxmore6934]

Using post-secondary education as a punishment or privilege is gross. Op if Jane cuts contact, never ask why. ESH

[@melvinthewatermelon4459]

For story 3 OP admits that the ring is sentimental to his significant other that alone should be enough of a reason for him to back off.

[@cgi2002]

I would counter that he shouldn't bother getting her an engagement ring. She's already shown that by wearing that ring on that finger, she doesn't believe in that tradition. But he should also drop the topic entirely, its just a ring, it has literally no importance to anyone except her. Ignore it, and as that finger is already wearing a ring, there is no space for an engagement ring so one isn't needed. Note this isn't about the ring, it's about the finger. That's the key point, she could wear that ring on any finger, by choosing to wear it on that specific finger she is showing she doesn't believe in the tradition that only engagement and wedding rings are to be worn on that finger, which by extention shows she doesn't believe in the need for those.

[@jedimasters1462]

She's lying her a$$ off about why she has it on that particular finger. A true creep doesn't care about a ring, but the creeps she's claiming about will actually be DRAWN to her for it. It's the whole thing about either forbidden fruit or wanting what someone else has. Any woman with half a mind knows that it's not going to stop them, but bring them. I personally think it's her way of getting attention. If it really was about it being sentimental for her, knowing her bf was uncomfortable with it on THAT finger during the two years, she would have switched fingers. I can see why OP is tired of it and snapped because she's not even really caring about his feelings and is pushing for an engagement while wearing the ring. Before you jump me about being a guy defending a guy, I am 100% female and I don't believe that only women's feelings matter.

[@catandrobbyflores]

@@jedimasters1462 I would have at least switched the ring to the other hand after starting to date someone because it did lead to awkward situations. I have had guys hit on me with my engagement and wedding band in full view so I agree it wont keep all unwanted attention away. I think mostly this story is about a failure to communicate.

[@jedimasters1462]

@@catandrobbyflores He did talk to her before about it a few times, but she was the one not listening and he finally snapped. Of course, reddit only sees it as a guy snapped at a woman and so they just jump on him, even though he had two years of reasons to be upset about it. I'm all for her wearing the ring because her mom gave it to her and her mom's now gone, as my own mom is gone, but she's pushing it by always having it on THAT finger while also trying to get him to purpose. They both need counseling before they are ready for marriage.

[@GabrielleTollerson]

@@jedimasters1462 FACTS

[@gloriasowle8083]

Absolutely do not give Amy's money to Jane. Also when Amy gets her money discuss dole it out per year. In order to keep mother's hands off.

[@Gr3nadgr3gory]

People really think that other people being assholes makes them one.

[@Mikedeela]

The owner said she can park there, so she can park there. Unless the OP is paying rent, which he never mentioned, the owner can do what he wants. If he is paying rent, and the parking allocation is part of the rental agreement, then the OP can have her towed. Otherwise, he can get sued for towing her.

[@raeishimura]

Wow. Story 1, love the entitled people. just incredible. NTA at all. She went behind your backs to complain, but you're an adult and you're living there. She's been told before that she is not allowed to park there by the people living there. She HAS a driveway, why is she even parking in the OP's drive, is it just because she feels like it? No, let her park in her own driveway, and if she refuses, tow her. She was already warned, so that's it. She gets to face the consequences.

[@beth8891]

£10 an hour??? Outbloodyragous!!!

[@Timbulathespidermonk]

With story 4, I’d report the brother to the police because he’s obviously trying to marry a toddler.

[@grannysweet]

2. BEST DAD EVER!!!!

[@canadalovesanime3137]

story 1: She wanted to have her way, she got what was coming to her. She most likely knew that the step father is a tool, and went to him for permission. OP played things out perfectly. NTA story 2: She gave away her money for her education. Now she comes crying for help. She needs to go ask her mother for all HER money back. Mummy used her own daughter's education fund for her own selfish wants. Daughter needs to be the adult she claimed she was, and figure it out for herself. If I was OP; I would warn the youngest one about what happened. NTA x 100 story 3: I did this for years after getting away from a toxic, stalking ex. I used my mother band to keep creeps away. If OP is so worried he needs to either get her her own ring, or shut the heck up. His pride does NOT override the girlfriend's sense of security. If I was that girlfriend; I would be reassessing that relationship. YTA x 1000 story 4: She HATES a child because of his mother who isn't even in the picture. I could understand if OP was married to the woman, and the SIL refusing to invite her, but a child who wasn't even alive when they had their troubles? Brother needs to reconsider being with a person who is hating a child for no reason. It won't stop at the wedding. She will refuse to go to family gatherings if the kid is around/insist that holiday functions are held at HER home, where the child won't be invited. OP; needs to stand up for the child, DO NOT GO! This needs to OP's hill to d*e on. NTA x 100000

[@jeremyk.6456]

The dad should tell his daughter Amy she can give her sister the money that is left over after she finished college to help her sister out. So if her sister/mom doesn’t want to figure out a way to cover the extra costs due to loaning the money to mom them the sister will have to wait for her younger sister to finish school and hope that it wasn’t more than her total costs. That includes waiting during her sisters year off to work so then the older sister should get a job to cover the costs until she has enough or her sister finishes school and has money to give/loan to her older sister.

[@riceracm]

24:27 *BITTER BETTY* 😆 I might start using that...😜🤦‍♀️

[@bethking9830]

Maybe the girlfriend/ fiance could put her mom's ring on the other hand? Seems like a simple compromise

[@monicathapar3107]

Oh my gosh do more stories about your brother if you can or would like! That was awesome! But I know you said you could be a bit of a pain, but that's still hilarious

[@georgecharles941]

when it comes to wearing the mother's wedding ring on the ring finger...regardless of what you think to the contrary, the wedding ring finger is ONLY for an engagement ring and the wedding ring. That finger is to remain empty until then.

[@Acidfunkish]

Punishing the son for his mother's crimes... 🤔

[@81babyruthluv]

She is probably wearing it because she misses her mother. Also, the defense of using the words "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm married" doesn't even work with guys. They still try to bother you. Even wearing a wedding ring is not enough of a deterrent for many guys. I remember overhearing a guy at my workplace say that he always hit on a married women because "if the woman thinks she can do better, she will go for you". LOL

[@chelseaatherton9813]

Thanks!

[@MarkNarrations]

Another one...argh so sorry chelsea and thank you so much :)

[@SerratedSun5841]

Story 4: holy shit how pathetic of the bride he’s a child

[@byronwatkins2565]

If parents don't teach their children better, they will forever remain spoiled snotty brats with entitlement issues. I would suggest that she ask her mother to repay the loan.

[@SilverAce3]

Story 3. I'm sorry but your in a relationship pretending to be married to avoid creeps? That's normal when you go out, not when your around family, friends, and work. She can be comfortable with it but everyone needs to see that having to saying your not married, and that be part of an introduction is not normal and raises eyebrows. Like their own coworkers thought it was strange. It's a caveat that op has to deal with, yes he should if he loves her, but at the same time we know these things put strains on relationships. If it is an insecurity it is not healthy to keep clinging to it for so long and not acknowledge it as such (she notes it as a need. ) . Creepy people cross boundaries that's what they do, to women, to men. A ring will not stop one. That said, op needs to actually talk to her about it and not be freaking out and projecting due to him wanting to propose. Yes she has mentioned marriage, some people like to image what sort of venue they would like. Not everyone goes into that sort of thing blind. Don't attack for her insecurity help her work on it or talk to you about it.

[@JootjeJ]

Your brother sounds great. That little story cracked me up.

[@angelsfaves1355]

This has bothered me so much I had to track this down and find it again - I can't stop thinking about it. YES wearing a wedding ring in order to keep creeps off is a thing. I have done it for over a decade. It doesn't stop everyone but it slows them down.

[@murraystewartj]

Mark, loved you brother's solution. Cops won't do anything, tow companies too slow? Drag that car into the middle of the road and things get fixed in a hurry. Your brother is an example of why entitled idiots shouldn't mess with people who have access to heavy equipment, a short fuse and a willingness to be the hero we all need. Spot that man a pint and toast him on behalf of all of us who would love to be able to do that. For vicarious towing fun, I'd recommend TGoger's channel. It's video feed from the parking lot of a tech company in Texas located near several large entertainment venues. Many signs posting 24-hour no parking and the tow companies, while not on contract with this firm, no the hot spots. It started out slow, but the quality of the videos has gone through the roof. Sadly, due to pandemic shut downs and construction in the area recent post have slowed, but check out the channel and feel the drumbeats. You'll never look at a tow truck again without hearing them.