Never Chase Him. Do This Instead (He Will Chase YOU!)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

UPDATE: Follow my “Master Your Magnetism” podcast on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/show/2sQpQcwuijinXm5y8G06O3 …or on Apple Podcasts here (feel free to leave me a review!): podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214 If you want to learn the secrets to attracting the man you want and inspiring his love, devotion and commitment, get my free "3 Keys To Attract The Man You Want" report and audio training here: helenahartcoaching.com/

[@TheFireGoddess111]

It is not available in Spain 😢

[@user-msjazzy]

I really enjoyed this video. Thanks!🥰

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Right now it’s available in the U.S., Canada and Australia, as it’s difficult to get apps started in other countries (since the laws are more strict) without starting in these countries first. Hopefully it will be available worldwide soon, and I’ll see what I can do to get the content out another way in the meantime too. ❤️

[@chiefbbjonesy]

cool downloading now ☺☺

[@IntuitiveWanderess]

Thanks Helena. Great insight and thanks for the recommendation to Voiceweb. I just joined and made a little introduction video. I think it’ll be a good use of my time. For you and anyone who’s interested, check my Voiceweb channel. The invite code is c6ts. 🥰

[@larryrubin5150]

Dont let anyone live in your head rent free

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here!

[@larryrubin5150]

Helena Hart --no thank YOU

[@gionagrace3343]

LOVE THAT!!!! Perfect!!

[@tmstroz8360]

I Iike that!!

[@kimlarge4077]

Good one!

[@misha_ry8476]

For me number 5 works like wonder, I just use my energy back for myself : when I started to even think about him, I focus back my energy to myself by doing simple things such as : painting my nail, making smoothies, cleaning my room, having girl chat with my friends, oiling my hair, yoga for 30 mins everyday, and many things more. All I can think about now is using my time for me and 24 hours seems like never enough. I work full time job 8 hours a day and sleep 7-8 hours too, why would I use the rest of my time for someone who doesn't even care?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Love it, thanks so much for sharing your experience here! 💞

[@sunshinexoxo4984]

Recently broke it off with a guy who wasn’t coming towards me. It was so difficult, but I’m starting to feel the relief.

[@meliel1715]

You'll get used to it. You'll stop being interested in men who aren't coming towards you. Why would you want anything less right ? :)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This video might be helpful in confirming that you made the right decision: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pXfZl4GjjLKom6c

[@Nikita_848]

I'm with you, sister!

[@lisebujold7865]

Hi Helena , this video for sure contain good topics and is full of good tips. I just realised i am part of your community since i got the code :) Make me smile because so many videos of Mathieu Coast that i 'v watched and he would recommand you and your community , and it 's like this morning i see , ah ! here i am lol My question today , is :"how do you calculate or evaluate consistancy?" Mathieu C. use to say that word too , and i need as much as possible exemples on this subject. Because sometimes , men are consistants to pursue for something they want ( sex , exemple , wich happened to me most of the time).But how do you detect consistancy for a potentiel relationship? Thanks ❤

[@lvillarreal6748]

How long did it take to start feeling better

[@ananeixon]

I do sports, I decorate the house, I call a friend or my family, I spend time with myself and read or watch videos or have a walk, I cook or bake, I play with my kids or go out with them, I go shopping, I work in my projects with lot of determination...I take care of my hair and skin...😍

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome, thanks for sharing! These are great. 💖

[@patiencekmumba7098]

That's nice

[@mimi12341234567]

What a good list

[@gabrielamartinyuk9894]

Chasing a man is an inner issue. If women are chasing, I would say to stop dating and start creating a real love for life and passions! Men chase women they’re interested in. We MUST not be interested in a man that is not interested in us! That is sadly a sign of low self esteem. Allow a man to pursue you. Just be at peace with yourself and you naturally won’t chase a man. 💜

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I love what you said here Gabriela, thanks for sharing your insights! 💖

[@Victoria_Fama]

Yep anxious attachment

[@sarahmh3971]

I use my masculine energy to clean, listen to Bible studies, and vegan baking! Its hard as I do have anxiety so staying active in some type physical labor helps a lot!

[@ranaazizahramadhani5385]

Same here girl, how do you manage your anxiety?

[@meliel1715]

@@ranaazizahramadhani5385 same. What kind of anxiety?

[@sarahmh3971]

@@ranaazizahramadhani5385 just staying physically active helps...also time with my dog. Its hard I know!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing! This video should be helpful for anxiety if anyone wants to check it out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGOxnHiGjruirKM

[@larryrubin5150]

Keep up the great effort especially the Bible

[@LewisLJ4]

I so needed to see this! I met a guy who I connected with on a deep level which overwhelmed as I’ve not experienced that before and I’ve found myself acting out of character and obsessing about him due to fear of not finding that connection again!! The lack of effort on his part leaves me feeling rejected and sick to the stomach and sometimes the thoughts and feelings about him consume me. I’m going to put that masculine energy into my work and own personal development. Thank you Helena 😊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! These videos should also be helpful for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/baPCk5RqoLeYl7M, kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYe1gqOdiMmgmNE and kzbin.info/www/bejne/pXfZl4GjjLKom6c.

[@isoyizausman1469]

Am exactly feeling like you right now Lewis. In my case, it's like he noticed av fallen for him so he goes all out and says spiteful things, giving me the "attitude" even. It's so unfair because he was first to indicate interest. It's not like I just got on and fell in love with him. Am really grateful for Helenas videos. Teaching me a whole....I wish I found them earlier in life.

[@enidrivero9582]

Wow exactly the same here!

[@staceywilk77]

I felt exactly the same! Are we all dating the same man? 😒

[@shaut9120]

@@staceywilk77 yes they’re all players aren’t they

[@fuw2523]

I go to my kickboxing classes to release this masculine energy.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome, thanks for sharing! Love it! 💙

[@fuw2523]

@@HelenaHartCoaching Thanks Helena! I recommend it to everyone 😘

[@rachelsuarez5996]

Awesome congrats!👌👍

[@kyliekellsdickson4065]

It took so many of Helena's, Adrienne's, and Matthew's videos for me to really get this concept. But I have found a man who consistently comes toward me and shows me with his actions how much he values me. It feels amazing!! Don't settle for less, ladies! One way I've been keeping my masculine energy busy is taking live-stream courses through my local university. These were not available in the past, so even though some things are closed, new opportunities exist. 🤗

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so happy to hear that Kylie, thanks for sharing your experience here! 💞

[@Reddbabbyy]

Matthew follower here ✋🏻😁

[@vhayashi7369]

I know I can bond with anyone that is genuine and wants a connection. I just can't find any men that aren't damaged.

[@garbagekid09]

Oh my. What age group are these men in?

[@beebuzz959]

@@garbagekid09 All age groups.

[@beebuzz959]

We're all damaged, but I think it's more being with somebody who your damaged parts work with their damaged parts.

[@wendyface6473]

Work on raising your vibration. When you work on you, in any way.. your standards raise and you'll find a better match.

[@vhayashi7369]

@@wendyface6473 I know, I just have a lot going on as a single parent exhausted from the aftermath of what all the Narcissists (ex husband) and family and former Narc friends have done. I get sabotaged every time I move forward and my house is out of order and haven't had energy to fix it all.

[@irene2081]

"I gave you 10. He gave you 20. You said he was better because he had given you more... But listen to this as well.. He had 200. I had 10." I read it somewhere, translated from my native language and I thought I had to share it here. Thanks Helena for your inspiring videos. Keep shining bright, angel! 🙏❤️💫

[@french_daily_cupcake17]

I can see the difference, Irene. Thanks for sharing this dear♥️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Irene! 💗

[@Jkljgffghn]

If it's money 10 then ok but if it's love 10 then how could someone else has 200 n u only 10..I mean if it's money then ok but if it's love then why you don't have 200????????

[@pepettehousemusic999]

I only put my masculine energy in planning my future to become a better person, financially physically and mentally ! We dont need restaurants, magic can be done @home ! + save money for the moment when everything opens again !

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing, Pene! 💖

[@marianchacon5289]

EXCELLENT WAY OF LIVING LIFE!!!!

[@ak-47intelligence75]

What I do to take all that masculine energy off is to give myself a manicure/pedicure, get my hair done, wear my best clothes and I take tonnes of pictures ! And if I don't take pictures, I call all my friends that I've not kept in touch with for a long time with the outfits that I have on. It's therapeutic and makes me feel good. I also love perfume so I spray my favourite scent and just enjoy it. Besides that, I speak French so I also watch some French movies to keep up with my vocabulary. It's educational and I like it so much ! Also, back in school, I was a long-distance runner so in the evenings, I sometimes go for a run. Makes me feel very energized.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Love it Rebecca, these are great! Thanks for sharing! 💖

[@always_sunny]

I love this so much. When I am feeling too much masculine energy, I would watch Helena Hart. She always brings me back to my femine side by transferring her femine energy to me.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so happy to hear that, thanks for sharing! I’m glad you enjoyed the video. ❤️

[@jazzyone1986]

During the pandemic I have been doing some reading, learning Spanish on babble, rollerskating, and running outside. Those are some of the ways I been letting out my masculine energy.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome Jasmine, thanks for sharing! These are great. 💖

[@theresamcgarry1230]

Learning golf, taking my bike rides and walks, hanging with my dog and cat, decorating my house for christmas, studying my bible . . Love your message.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome Theresa, thanks for sharing! 💖

[@carollawless4875]

I love the idea of screening someone. Do they meet what I want. If they don't, stop agonizing over it and move on! Yes!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad that resonated with you, Carol! 💕

[@hamptongal62]

Had a painful breakup this summer. Since then, I've been practicing self-love, concentrating on my career, staying fit and connecting with friends and family.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing, Terry! ❤️

[@staceywilliams1624]

You ...are like a really good big sister. ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Aww thanks Stacey! 💗

[@chempanda6388]

I've noticed that sometimes our actions and energy we try to give off may or may not be aligned and others can pick up on the subtlety.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, thanks for sharing your insights here! 💞

[@laurajuarez919]

Great Advice....I have never CHASED a men before, because I VALUE MY NEEDS AND I VALUE MYSELF....The right men will find me and if HIS, interested in me, HE will ask for my phone number....I will ALWAYS wait for him to take the lead....

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Laura! 💖 I’m happy to hear that - I actually talk more about that in these videos: kzbin.info/www/bejne/b524amp5qM97aLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5yphYConsego5Y, kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYfRm5ppiquMmrs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYe1gqOdiMmgmNE.

[@dd-pw8tw]

Spoke straight to my heart,,,take the focus off the man who just isn’t showing up~redirect that focus on what would feel good to you coming from a man. Such a meaningful video, thanks Helena😍

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad this resonated with you! This one should also be really helpful in terms of your mindset: kzbin.info/www/bejne/baPCk5RqoLeYl7M

[@hadjerchb719]

Thank you 💖 I had an anxiety attack yesterday and thanks god I see this video today. You're such a beautiful soul ✨

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! This video should also be helpful for anxiety: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGOxnHiGjruirKM

[@angelawillis8377]

I've been picking up hobbies that I've neglected. And I've been in a process of rebuilding myself from the inside out. I got distracted by this. Thanks for the advice. It makes so much sense.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Angela, thanks for sharing! 💗

[@graciakinyanjui6937]

i deleted his number never chase a man waste of time.... you are the prize gal

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing, Gracia! 💖

[@b.k.r.doggielover5449]

That's perfect advice, comment. 👍

[@alcudiababe1]

I met a guy years ago and I chased him, I know I chased him but I was doing it to get that high of being around him. I knew I was doing it, Mom and Nan told me to stop, play it cool and I was getting all these stories of how to play it cool and what they did, don't do that but I couldn't stop. I literally couldn't stop and I wasn't even after his love, that's the crazy part about it, I wanted the feeling, the high energy feeling of being happy around him and deep down psychologically it was because I hadn't felt so high and happy in a long time, and I did it for myself, not for him but because he made me feel a certain way within his energy, charasmatic energy. We'd smoke, laugh hard together and I loved it. It didn't really have a great ending, he was a bit of a jerk to me because he did pull away. He was interested in the sex but I told him I only sleep with people who are interested in having a long term relationship with me because I knew if I just did it with him it would make it harder to in effect pull away when it was time and looking back I respected him for phoning me up saying that he was just looking for fun - which on many levels I was but obviously sleeping around for fun wasn't my idea of fun but to be told from another guy I was too good for him after him made me feel better

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💜

[@jmaries8674]

The not having feelings until they come towards you is something i learned from ur free trial seminars a few yrs back. i try to live that and share it w my gf.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome! This video should also be helpful in terms of your mindset: kzbin.info/www/bejne/baPCk5RqoLeYl7M

[@alfreire72]

Life is so abundant. We don't need a men that doesn't value us. I've been there but moving on. Embrace the experience and move on.

[@etam.5787]

@Ana Freire... So is she saying that everybody who focuses only on himself/herself is happy? 🤔 I know many couples that focus on each other, not in a toxic way, and ARE happy...so why they are always suggesting to single people to let go and focus only on themselves? If we all apply thus rule, in this world there would be nobody in a couple...makes no sense to me, sorry. The focus is on giving to the other.... and then karma will bring the love to you...

[@alfreire72]

@@etam.5787 should i focus on a man who doesn't give a shit about me? ;)

[@etam.5787]

@@alfreire72 Of course not, nor on a man nor on a friend nor on a parent or a sister/brother. The same rule for all. But in this world we are not alone...so focusing only on ourselves is not the key... it should be said differently. How do you explain happy couples? I think repeating to single persons that thwy should focus on themselves is starting to be a kind of... a bit wrong. Everybody should focus on themselves....but not only. State it differently. That was my point.

[@alfreire72]

@@etam.5787 I am not alone. There is the concept of being single is an empty life. I have friends who are my family, i have a really rich life. Now I am recovering from a surgery. Who is helping besides my mum and brother? My friends! The family I choose to share my life with. I know I can count on them. I don't have the man of my life but I have love in my life. My happiness doesn't depends on finding a guy. If he comes along he is welcome. If is not bye, bye!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

@Eta Pagnanelli - This video is intended for women who have a tendency to obsess or focus all of their energy on a man who’s not “there” - whether he’s only giving her crumbs or not showing up for her consistently. I’m obviously not saying to only focus on yourself at all times and never anyone else. I know it can be difficult to pull your attention off of a man who’s not stepping up when you have strong feelings for him, so that’s why I created this video.

[@angelsandocean2853]

The best advice ever! To use missing from him muscular energy on your own projects, become successful!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad that resonated with you! 💞

[@Lydia-Roe]

What I have done with my masculine energy: Joined the military reserves, became a medic (in addition to furthering my normal civilian career). Put myself on track to complete my degree, as well as become certified in trauma yoga. I reconnected with my kids, and I am getting into different body awareness workouts. Lots of energy to spend on yourself.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Love it, thanks so much for sharing your experience here! 💞

[@katherine6029]

Helena, thank you so much for this video! I've been watching your videos since March and your advice is just killer! I was ghosted two weeks ago by a man I was very interested in (whom I NEVER would have expected it from, based on his morals/character and how much of his energy had been coming toward me) and it really hurt! I'm still dealing with the pain of feeling like I "messed up" but your advice here really helped me reframe my mindset! xo

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Katherine, I’m so glad my videos have been helpful for you! I’d recommend checking out this one for your situation (I’d love to hear your thoughts on it!): kzbin.info/www/bejne/b4bMdI2pg6-tpNE

[@faye_bulous]

5 great tips! I’m using my masculine energy by doing gym, cycling in the nature, I also read lots of self development book in relationship and self love ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome, thanks for sharing! 💖

[@ewamarcjan909]

Woman should always put herself on pedestal to feel better about herself and shine with her confidence and feminine energy. It’s the way to go! Always! Not the other way around. 😊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💖

[@kristinsmith5954]

I started my own business! That really fills me up.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome Kristin, I’m happy to hear that! 💚

[@ricardabetzing3407]

Great! All the best - how’s your business?

[@gionagrace3343]

Absolutely! Always stay true to yourself! Do yourself a favor and always put yourself FIRST! Keep busy with your family and friends and hobbies. Its a beautiful and wonderful thing to be in love with the RIGHT man however it will be a living Hell if its with the WRONG man. You better pray that your Mama gave you a backbone instead of a wish bone. Love to all 😄❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here, Giona! 💖

[@gionagrace3343]

Thank you Helena ❤🙏

[@hope9672]

I read the bible, love my fav TV/movies (rom coms), DIY home improvements like painting areas that may have some chips, shopping (home improvement), looking up new recipes, spending time with my dog (walking her) etc

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Love it, Hope - thanks for sharing! 💖

[@Shriyatoo]

KZbin recommendations are sometimes so scary. How funny that I discoverd this video exactly 1 year after the post because now I'm in such a situation.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These videos should also be helpful if you’re in this situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/baPCk5RqoLeYl7M, kzbin.info/www/bejne/pJXPe3iMibSgasU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYfRm5ppiquMmrs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYe1gqOdiMmgmNE, kzbin.info/www/bejne/b524amp5qM97aLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/anTFgGynh9Kpeq8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/joHMgYuMf5eFrLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/bKOQoH5rZ56em9U, kzbin.info/www/bejne/iamXpad7gLp_has and kzbin.info/www/bejne/iJXdl6OmaKZrfKc.

[@ruthcrawford3015]

You can find outdoor activities that are safe, for 1 for sure, and with others who are up for it. Hiking, kayaking, paddle boarding, tennis, Pickleball, fishing, biking.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome Ruth, thanks for sharing! 💚

[@alwaysjazzyful]

I needed this so much! I'm focusing more on my job and starting Tai Chi

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad this was helpful! Awesome, thanks for sharing! 💖

[@sososun4753]

It's almost a year ago when I found your channel. Looking back before, I can say I've changed to better. and that's because of your coaching. Thank you Helena from the bottom of my heart. ♥️😘🌹

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m so happy to hear that! Thanks for sharing your experience here. ❤️

[@christineribone9351]

NAW! What you're saying is to give up and hope that there's someone as great as he is. NOT LIKELY!

[@roxannetamberen5996]

I started renting an art studio in an art district. I've been using my masculine energy to do art and also hop on Zoom meetings to stay in contact with the human race.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome! Thanks for sharing, Roxanne! 💖

[@KaylaStacey]

This is exactly what I needed. Everything you said I felt like it was for me. I have been going through exactly this. I have been trying hard to forget him and thank God for what he has shown/taught me from him. In addition to working on myself and my energy and understanding and realizing how high value I am. Thank you so much again! Really such a blessing! Could not have come at a better time ❤️🙏

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Kayla! This video might also be helpful for your situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pXfZl4GjjLKom6c

[@apriljohnson7772]

I started a new hobby which is cycling I’m loving it ...I find different bike trails to go to every Sunday and Sunday is now my self-care I’ll find something to do for myself whether it’s cycling reading etc.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome April, thanks for sharing! 💖

[@dianneciresi6324]

You guys need to do a video on attachment styles that says who is best for us to have a partner relationship with. That's why certain couples don't go well with one another. One runs away when their partner is clingy & needy, as example

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Diane, I’ve done several videos on that topic - here are a few of them: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rqacnoRsotmZmbc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGOxnHiGjruirKM and kzbin.info/www/bejne/iZ7VkHV3ia9raZI.

[@4d.4c.4b4]

Oh God, you really saved me Helena, I just needed to hear this now in the state where I am now, I was literally over investing in a man prematurely and scared him off - I used to hate dating rules with passion but now I am humbled and now really want to put a lot of effort into focusing on myself and learn and maybe go on dates to practise what I am learning without expecting sth serious to develop which is what I was focusing on with my recent potential situation 😕 thank you thank you so much 🤗🤗❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💗 This video should also be helpful if you tend to get overly invested too quickly when you like someone: kzbin.infoRt2E2mU5yhk?si=0Ee1X25ujBQEgLZM

[@Aliveinthesky]

Masculine energy in gear: exploring nature trails and hiking.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Love it, thanks for sharing! 💖

[@bezzerbear]

I’m using my masculine energy to work on my business which has fallen by the wayside. I’ve gotten behind because I prioritize men filling my needs and it’s really hurt my confidence in my finances and career. It really helps knowing what to focus on now to attract the right man. That and organizing my house, planning weekend things with close girlfriends, going horseback riding, and looking to get some ice skating lessons this winter!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Lindsay! These videos might be helpful for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jWm5nIeqgc6Khck and kzbin.info/www/bejne/onezXpSPi9GijKs.

[@bezzerbear]

@@HelenaHartCoaching I love you Helena!!!! 🙏😭😍❤️‍🩹♥️ Thank you so much 🔥👏👏

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re very welcome! ❤️

[@inneelvina6614]

Sometimes I feel pissed in our relationship of course but I decided not to put my hapiness in other people's hand including my bf so I just try to get my self in a stable emotional state and just go on with my life without overthinking

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💜

[@vjcarter4657]

I feel like I don‘t have to try not to obsess, because once I feel sad, hurt, or devalued, I naturally reduce my energy toward him

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that, thanks for sharing! 💞

[@genahamstra9287]

This has been such a struggle for me! After 3 1/2 years, my boyfriend(18 years older than me) has given me so many mixed messages. I have been trying to keep myself as busy as possible. Your message is spot on! Working on myself is helping. If only I could shut him out of my brain!!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad this resonated with you, Gena! These videos might be helpful for your situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eaa6mZtjedN_gLs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/foPZe3iAa96ae5o, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jKjKmXuggdN0eKM, kzbin.info/www/bejne/qJ-7oH6JgqaHpaM and kzbin.info/www/bejne/oKLHkmxtqrWFp6s.

[@user-ur7km9fx2c]

Damn! And I thought the age mattered

[@ritafrahm4318]

This is JUST what I needed to see today. After losing my long term on again/ off again boyfriend to complications from alcoholism a few years ago, I shut myself off emotionally to any male contact; allowed myself to gain quite a bit of weight. Then, I met this awesome guy who I'd known of for quite a while on social media/ networking. We share many interests and hobbies, etc...We felt an amazing chemistry. He has a vivid imagination and would go on and on about all the awesome things we'd do if only we could be together. He inspired me to lose weight and have a new lease on Life. I became attached, but we live 2600 miles away. So meeting and developing a relationship is impossible. There are a few other complications as well. I need to gradually move on from my near obsession with him and be realistic; which I'm doing. This video REALLY helps

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad this was helpful for you, Rita! Thanks for sharing your experience here. These two should also help: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYe1gqOdiMmgmNE and kzbin.info/www/bejne/baPCk5RqoLeYl7M.

[@chichimamushka5851]

GIRL!!! i feel like i should be paying you for this advice like SERIOUSLY

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so glad it’s been helpful for you, Sandra! ❤️

[@maryjflanagan1922]

I have a man that I really like living with me. Within a month, he tried to move to California for several months. After that fell through, he asked if he could have female company. Those two actions really changed our non committed, non exclusive rather open relationship. I have to close the physical relationship and take care of myself. I am doing better at work and soon will begin cleaning up my own life.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Mary. This video should be helpful in terms of your mindset: kzbin.info/www/bejne/baPCk5RqoLeYl7M

[@purpleicemix1909]

I cant stop staring at ur gorgeous hair OH GAWDD U R SO PRETTY ESPECIALLY UR HAIR 😩😩😩😩💖💖💖 especially those waves at the end omg so smooth and goood i love them

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much! 💗

[@GilliMarieMoody]

Exercise DAILY. This is the best way you can handle anxiety and neediness. Trust me. TRUST🌬️🕊️.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing! 💞

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

Good reality check. Focusing on myself and seeing how they show up for me and I feel with them for sure. Thank you 🙏 😊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Lylanya! 💚

[@crystalcourtz]

I did not even realize that this was brand new!! needed this

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad it was helpful, Courtney! 💕

[@chlariepeace6810]

A guy 4 weeks ago asked me to be is girl friend but it was my week and he never got me card or say happy brithday and never came to see me on my brithday he went to meet is friend i got a massage from mark rosenfeld life coach he wish me a happy birthday and all the best that made my day 🤗😀

[@pinkypie445]

I'm focusing on loving myself more and moving on

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that! 💗

[@elizabethcreated9263]

Separate the feelings from the person.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, that’s so important! 💕

[@gabbrielle5241]

Brilliant brilliant brilliant. How articulate, succinct, and RICH with ALL the really important aspects I need to hear! I’m in love first & foremost with my book I’m writing. Simultaneously is my wonderful network of female friends. During the roller coaster emotions of online messaging, phone calls, and dating, I return to this foundation to keep me centred and focussed on my own life. This way I can make better decisions about any connections and maintain empowerment and mastery over myself in my dating process. Thank you for your wonderful channel! 🤗🙏🏻💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Gab! I love what you said here, thanks for sharing your experience and insights! ❤️ These videos might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5yphYConsego5Y, kzbin.info/www/bejne/iXrUqX2qi9p6abM, kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYfRm5ppiquMmrs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYe1gqOdiMmgmNE.

[@simi6152]

I used to chase guys I was so attracted to only to chase them away and have them disappear. I've learned from my mistakes and realized that holding back and walking away was the better option.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💕

[@Suz562]

Helena, thank you so much for this video!!! I am going to apply everything you shared. You're amazing and I appreciate you and the work you do to help so many of us amazing women ❤️ One way I'm taking my energy back and putting it on myself is spending time with people who value and appreciate me.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re very welcome, Susan! I’m happy to hear that. 💖

[@sachaisenberg9756]

Listening to you is what I do for myself. Thank you.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re very welcome, Sacha! ❤️

[@lamorenascott8472]

I had someone tell me I couldn't be w out them. So it came to me as a challenge. Now they look for me when I'm not around. They will work for your attention. If it's not then you already have space between you and them.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💞

[@smileymanimal77]

Thank you Helena, I recently dated a guy which only lasted 3 weeks from the first date. He put in so much effort, calling me everyday, cooked for me, he appeared to tick alot of my boxes. I did think it was going really quick then all of a sudden he said his feelings were not strong enough to carry on. I did blame myself as I was well for 2 weeks with a viral infection so I wasn't 100%. Maybe he came into my life to remind me there are decent men out there. I have set up some dating rules now and make sure I take it slow next time. ❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 Thanks for sharing your experience here, I’m glad you were able to find that out quickly before investing more time and energy. These videos might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXm1ZJeAbbacgqM and kzbin.info/www/bejne/b4bMdI2pg6-tpNE.

[@smileymanimal77]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you I will definitely watch these and make notes. I'm taking a break now and starting again in the new year. ❤

[@jie1136]

I'm experiencing this now we're really into each other for a month then he suddenly lost interest in me we still chatting sometimes but it's not same as we used to be he pulls away getting Distant and It's hurt for me cause I'm falling into him already!

[@radicalhonesty3628]

watching this video and it is bringing up so much stuff in me: I trauma bonded, yet again, with another person, I met online. the pain is excruciating. I wanted so bad, for it to be love. I purposely went out of my way: to burn down any and every red flag, that emerged. and now they are all just way too painful to ignore. I'm dying inside. dying. the pain is agonizing and tormenting. so much so that I just wish I was, in fact, dead. 42 years old and I've never been in a relationship. never had love. It's hell. absolute utter agonizing paralyzing hell. soul rape.

[@deewils381]

🙏🙏💝

[@likitha4806]

❤️🙂

[@Maoceia]

I LOVE LEO! He was the first thing I noticed. 💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

He loves joining in on my videos! 😂

[@kimgordon3695]

1:00 separate the feeling from the person 💝

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, that’s so important! Here’s an article I wrote on that topic: helenahartcoaching.com/do-you-still-feel-attached-to-a-man-whos-no-longer-there/

[@michellemoffett9458]

Yes a lot of men are wishy-washy and not worth my time. I'm holding out for God's best! Right now I'm enjoying my alone time as well as my time with friends and family and doing things that I enjoy. I've been working on myself the last two years mentally, emotionally even physically with losing weight.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome Michelle, thanks for sharing! 💖

[@kimgordon3695]

Reach out to your Tribe. Share gratitude, ingenuity & vision 💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Love it, thanks for sharing! 💖

[@msglyf5034]

Helena, We've broken up a month ago. But before the month end we decided to meet. It was great he told me he misses me and wants to get back and fix everything.. but after meeting him he wasn't doing anything, hes not reaching out and he never make an effort.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! While I don’t know the details of your situation, it sounds like this might have been the “one time date” with the first type of man we talked about in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rmncfJSNg8mkbck

[@kellihart3885]

THIS.THANK YOU♥️👑🥂I NEEDED to HEAR this..Just reinforcing my energy to be positively loving and focused internally on all the things that I deserve.Never Settle.THANK YOU..Beautiful start to my day.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Kelli! This one should also be helpful if you haven’t seen it yet: kzbin.info/www/bejne/baPCk5RqoLeYl7M

[@Mrs.T305]

Ladies u can do virtual dates as an idea during the pandemic to bond with someone. I love voice web. Thank you Helena.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing, Natalie! I’m glad you’ve been enjoying Voiceweb. ❤️

[@melissaaredfield5407]

Walking everyday with a friend or friends is the best!,

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes! Thanks for sharing, Melissa! 💕

[@clarettabellamy4859]

Hi Helena! I love your videos. I'm using my masculine energy to focus on my career, cleaning/donating clothes, and spending more time with family.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Love it Claretta, thanks for sharing! 💖

[@CindyGinTN]

Great video Helena I shared it and n my channel. Don’t chase them work on yourself I say this all the time. ❤️💯

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much, Cindy! Yes, that’s so important! 💗

[@celissewillis9399]

2 is like a true apology is changed behavior

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing, Celisse! 💞

[@tasrajwani]

Helena Hart, you are brilliant. Thank you for your inspiring videos and advice. You have helped me grow my courage and perception as a woman and a soul. I love how you are living what you are obviously meant to do. Congrats on your engagement. 💖

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Tasleem, I’m so happy to hear that! ❤️

[@mhurleybea]

Love your videos Helena they have really helped me. The pandemic has been a challenge, I try to do one "masculine " thing a day if I can. One thing I did was organize all my photos electronically and taxes lol. I have also found hanging up photos and decorations helpful. Then the second biggest help has been meditation. I try to focus on the present.Thank you for sharing thr podcast idea too😀😇🙏💜

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Mary, I’m so glad my videos have been helpful for you! Thanks for sharing your experience here, these are great! 💖

[@patriziaverrelli4657]

I never had to chase him, he did it all, but after several months he changed from very hot to cold. I loved him very much but my efforts all went unnoticed, he walked away. I was grieving, but after a few months he returned but only for a short period, left again. I feel devasted, betrayed, hurt, and pure shock! Again he closed the door in my face and I wait, and hoped it could be saved but over the last 3 months yes I attempted in several ways to reach out, but all my efforts went ignored. I am so angry, sad, I thought there was a much deeper connection than with anyone else 💔. His behaviour is very cruel, and I was always very good to him, I don't I deserve that. I had so many unanswered questions, and felt I deserved closure.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Sorry to hear you went through this. I’m glad he showed his true colors before you got even more invested. These videos might help affirm that it’s a GOOD thing that he’s no longer in your life: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pXfZl4GjjLKom6c and kzbin.info/www/bejne/iamXpad7gLp_has.

[@bethshaferman6712]

Love this, thank you so much. Always pops up when I need to hear it. But yes, aside from my apt being OCD cleanly and organized🙏🏼 lol (I've always been a Danny Tanner😂), I've challenged myself to read even more and get through my list. I read a book a day. And TV series I've been meaning to watch. So many things this year I did to catch up on me and with me! And by the way, Selena on Netflix.. watch it!😍

[@corinnepierce2929]

Yes to all of that!! 👏❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Awesome, thanks for sharing! 💗

[@pure-pisces9470]

That's what I do, i feel so rejected & wonder what's wrong with me that they dont want more with me than once, & try to figure how i can be different to want me, so wrong i know, why does it affect a female so much when a man doesnt want her, yet they r not fussed at all??!! Can't say anything, then I would seem needy & overthinking 😔

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This video should help you start to turn things around in terms of your mindset: kzbin.info/www/bejne/baPCk5RqoLeYl7M

[@thesoulonquest]

I was cooking and gardening along with taking few online courses.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing, Priya! 💖

[@empressironbladder8942]

Wow. I have really learned from and enjoyed your information laden content! Say, I was wondering, is there a list of Feminine and Masculine energies? I feel embarrassed to ask, but after watching one of your earlier videos with Matt, I realized that my energies may be out of balance from having to rely solely on myself, and frustration at how often I have to analyze and discern the true intentions of the men I would like to actually try to build a relationship with. What can a person do to increase their feminine energy, or vice versa, how do you use masculine energy to your best advantage without driving people you care about away? Thank you Helena, and this a great channel!🙋🏽‍♀️

[@kimgordon3695]

Meditate, grounding, chakra healing

[@bodybalancer]

Good question, id like more videos on that too

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Great question! This video would be a good place to start: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aoKQqWedgNebf6s ...and here are a few articles I wrote on that topic: helenahartcoaching.com/the-1-way-to-attract-the-man-you-want-or-the-man-youre-with/, helenahartcoaching.com/how-to-be-in-your-feminine-energy-to-attract-the-man-you-want/ and helenahartcoaching.com/how-to-heal-your-maculine-and-feminine-energies-so-you-can-finally-have-the-love-you-want/.

[@claireorourke7350]

How I have been putting the energy into me I am focusing on finding work,helping my neighbours and watching you tube and listen to step by step by Whitney Houston and greatest love of all every day it's manatree to help with my independent life

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome Claire, thanks for sharing! 💕

[@4d.4c.4b4]

During COVID I got addicted to walking and I need to do so again

[@sunnirv]

I can’t wait to see more Leo! 🐈‍⬛♥️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

He loves to be involved when I’m recording videos! 🐱 Here are a few more that he’s in: kzbin.info/www/bejne/iamXpad7gLp_has, kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYfRm5ppiquMmrs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/gHvbnHiYnadogKs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/b524amp5qM97aLc.

[@beckybogart9562]

He is also my business partner. I'm taking classes to enhance the business to make IT better. Also building a new area of business

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome - thanks for sharing, Becky! 💞

[@penelopegriffin6442]

This video is perfect Thank You 🙏 Watching it at least twice and taking notes 🌷xx

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Penelope, I’m so glad you enjoyed it! This one should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYe1gqOdiMmgmNE

[@DaughterOfLove17]

I rejected a man because he was coming on too strong and yet gave me stability. It freaked me out. But somehow I miss him and would like to communicate with him about that but it seems like he has moved on 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This video might be helpful for your situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qmeZfKajZqZ_m9E

[@DaughterOfLove17]

@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you, I will check it out

[@mariaelenabartesaghi6322]

Bravo!!! Everyone should watch. Thank you

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! This one should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYe1gqOdiMmgmNE

[@addicted183]

Thank you for this video Helena! I've been using my masculine energy towards my website. I've been working pretty hard on it!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Ash! Awesome, thanks for sharing! 💜

[@tinafuentes8016]

Love your videos Helena. Can’t wait to hear your podcast. The hardest thing for me is wanting more with my best friend. He shows me so much love but as a friend. How can a man and woman be this close without romance? I am too scared to reveal my feelings because my gut tells me if he wanted more he would tell me. I wish he felt the same

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you Tina, hope you enjoy my podcast! Thanks for sharing your experience here. ❤️

[@tinafuentes8016]

Something you said recently really resonated with me. Stop using your masculine energy on him and use it on yourself. We know that (everyone says focus on you) but it’s the way you said it. Understanding masculine energy is what we use to chase, and make things happen was so helpful. Xo

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Absolutely, I’m so glad that resonated with you! 💞

[@tinafuentes8016]

Sometimes lightbulbs go off for some reason. Like we are meant to hear it. Xo

[@sophieschroeders3556]

He got out of a 5 year relationship, We we’re dating 2-3 months, it went to smooth i think. He is not ready yet. I suggested to take time.. he took space. But keeps liking all mij insta posts/stories

[@prettypenne662]

Thank you sister Leo ♌️. I was getting frustrated w your male guests. Not there fault but they don’t get us. It makes more sense from you! You get it. This is real authentic and genuine content. From a real honest woman. Thank you I love your guests and their channels but this hit the 🎯!!!!!! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🔥 🦁

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad this resonated with you! 💞

[@ellielopez4410]

111 subscribers, Congratulations 🥰. Helena. Love your guidance ❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Ellie! 💖

[@N00pe731]

I needed this tonight!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad this came at the right time for you, Alexandra! 💗

[@tg9898]

Thankyou Helena. Your videos have helped me a lot over the past few months. I've found it hard to let go but I'm getting there. Its baby steps, as there are issues with my work life and finances too. He told me monday as soon as lockdown is over he will come see me, he even added I promise on the end. I pulled away last friday, uk lockdown, inconsistency etc. I'm getting there xxxxx

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad they’ve been helpful! 💗

[@tg9898]

@@HelenaHartCoaching I have to just let you know that following on fron watching your videos over and over, they help to ground me and remind me that the issue isn't always me nor is it always him, and that sometimes pulling back in the correct way really helps. My man, following me stepping back, turned up to see me last night. Very unexpected and a shock. We had a good talk and things are back on track. I spent weeks not knowing where it was going and now I realise that that was the most counter productive mindset. As soon as I started to appreciate me and focus on me, the magic happens. Thankyou xxxxxxx

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so happy to hear that, thanks for sharing your experience here! 💞