NEVER DO THIS WHEN CHOOSING A MAN by RC BLAKES

[@connielittle7214]

A lot of us Women have Wife written all over us, but we keep entertaining Men who can't read

[@jdouce6074]

That's a word right there 👀

[@jasmineburgess9029]

Lord this was a word. It’s sooooo true. Smh it just doesn’t make sense to me

[@isgromance2012]

Amen!!!

[@jennifersalinas716]

Well said

[@peacefulbliss323]

This is deep.

[@daughteroftheking721]

NEVER CHOOSE A MAN WHO DISTURBS YOUR SPIRIT! Period

[@sashaclarke2749]

Soo true 👍! I get that a lot! Then I exit, stage left ⬅️🚫❌⁉️

[@biba350]

When you say never choose man that disturbs your spirit what do you mean

[@daughteroftheking721]

Monroe B cause to feel anxious, unsettled, mixed up and or confused. It is thee opposite of peace.

[@tbri5852]

Amen

[@biba350]

@@daughteroftheking721 much appreciated x

[@myeattanosike4918]

Just because a man is sexually excited about you! Doesn't mean he's excited about you! Yep!

[@hopehendrick869]

So true

[@darlenecorley1062]

So VERY true!

[@kaleema1987]

That is true!

[@nicv278]

Physical beauty's skin deep right?

[@darlahenderson4734]

So true. I want love not sex . I love myself first must heal and than my king will find me. I am so sad but happy I am going no contact . He is going to never be happy he said I wouldn't. Projection . Thank Jesus

[@sunnyday741]

My mom told me that if you have to run after a man to get him, your gonna have to run after him to keep him.

[@evka24]

True

[@Charrisnemtblueprint]

Absolutely!!!

[@janellamurphy5665]

Got that right!!!@

[@queentinadoire6931]

Amen- Your mom is wise.

[@kidchocolate9253]

My dad used to tell us also, let the man call you, he would say you can return his call but never initiate the call.

[@t.p.anderson1833]

Never chase! My Mom always told me, "Never want a man that doesn't want you."

[@BlessedLady82]

TRUTH!!!

[@nikkyshamz2696]

No lies told

[@gypsytownsend2292]

My sentiments exactly. ..

[@kiyah5595]

Amen

[@Zamstein]

But even if he wants you, that doesn’t mean he deserves you ;) let alone a man that doesn’t even want us.

[@MonicaNouvelle]

Don’t waste time on guys who repeatedly disappoint. Wow!

[@nickbry7357]

This speaks to my heart so much.

[@KimK_AllDay]

My current situation..... he disappoints and always has an excuse for his shortcomings.

[@eerynessential]

@@KimK_AllDay my child's father..But that's what Narcissist do! They lie so much just like their Father Satan! We move on! Tho I'm use to his excuses..doesn't phase me

[@KimK_AllDay]

That's a powerful statement! Thanks Sis! And I've been no contact for 4 days. I ghosted him when at the last minute he canceled our date! This is the third time I can remember in 2 months. BYE BOY!!!

[@KimK_AllDay]

@@eerynessential It's tiresome trying to weed through the lies and gaslighting!

[@jamilabarnes845]

My intuition/holy spirit used to say "look at the picture exactly the way it is! Don't try to alter or change it to fit your narrative"

[@nikkyshamz2696]

This is it. He never allows me to be able to unsee the reality. So I can make an informed decision. Thank God for that

[@dimediamond]

Discernment. You know these men by there fruits. The soil. The leaves. Look at the tree.

[@lindaphillips6111]

Awesome wish I heard this 40 years ago

[@jamilabarnes845]

@@lindaphillips6111 its never too late. Wisdom always arrives at the appointed time that we will receive it

[@loveonpurpose2dar332]

Linda Phillips you and me both! We have it now amen

[@queentinadoire6931]

I chased my ex-husband to marry me- He divorced me 7 years later. Sisters listen to this man.

[@sophisticatedmm3632]

Wow that's deep

[@viviancheek2241]

I divorce ex husband. After five years.

[@andreaswanson1596]

I was thinking about chasing a man last week! Good thing I didn't! Pastor put me in check! Wait! Hold up! It would have been a disaster!

[@anti-inflammatoryfoodsbyjo148]

Sometimes we learn the hard way but God is in control

[@darlahenderson4734]

I am . He is so kind.

[@monicabrownhayes]

“Men sleep with women they don’t even like.”

[@rhode4917]

So true,some men don't even like women, and are not gay,but sleep with women cause they just want to satisfy their sexual lust. Sad.........

[@darlahenderson4734]

@@rhode4917 they will suffer. Hollow soul.

[@StandupGirl-ym3ey]

Truth!! Recently had a guy tell me he's never been in love before! Women have been in love with him, he's been married and has kids!! But hooowwwwwww? So now im the one u choose to give ur heart to? I wasn't sure how I felt about that ! We've stopped talking since then! Seemed unavailable emotionally! I want someone who k ows how to be vulnerable and has experienced a heartbreak! He would then know how it feels and possibly be open for real to giving and receiving love!

[@lilyinthevalley8107]

Coz men can separate sex and emotions perfectly.

[@user-msjazzy]

💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@cynthiastenstrom5361]

Yes. My mother taught me to never even call. Let them call you. Dont chase them. Exactly.

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

So glad your Mom taught you right! 💚

[@tavilibra7101]

I couldn't agree more. A man waiting on me to call has already had his last conversation with me!

[@vera1419]

@@tavilibra7101 that's spot on. Hahaha. Preach!

[@devinncaprice822]

even the sperm chases the egg!!!!!

[@toshajohnson1007]

Facts!!!

[@devinncaprice822]

@@scorpionkingggodson5507 even more of a reason not to chase #bestill he will come to you!

[@Neenz2990]

Wow

[@gail_7192]

True!!!

[@joiperkins7243]

Now you're saying something!!!!

[@YesIamMichelleC]

Thank you for these gems: 1. NEVER ignore your intuition (Never choose a man that does not agree with your spirit). 2. Never chase a man. Pimps want to be chased. Let him win you. Kings want to conquer. (facts) 3. Never choose relationship status over an actual relationship. A real relationship is about mutual interest, sacrafice, respect, and growth. 4. Never use sex as dating currency. What does a man offer that is equivalent to your body? 5. Never choose style over substance. Swag don't pay the bills.

[@natural3362]

Gosh! Queens must choose men that heal them

[@toniabala3793]

Thank you

[@ShahadaMuhammed-gs1nr]

All this is true and I experienced all this. Thanks Pastor Blakes for your biblical lectures and personal opinion! All praise is due to Allah.

[@coriwilliams1983]

"NEVER CHASE A MAN" "When you become the kind of woman, that does not need a man. You Then Become the Woman a Man needs" Rc Blakes Jr (Preach)

[@perfectlyyoubeauty]

Love this!!

[@briana14333]

YES! Girl, I had to play it back! A word!

[@joytandoh3034]

Very deep

[@officemute6096]

This was excellent

[@asobugasobug2896]

Wow. Powerful

[@Christine_Jean]

“You gonna exchange your body for dinner?!” comment made me tear up. Sad reality.

[@saranox7319]

One deranged dude tried that with me, now he is pissed and devalues me that there are more beautiful woman out there anywy. What a CLOWN.

[@babyc.3015]

For coffee, even. 😔

[@lauradavis63]

I don't think women feel too old, they just lose hope when they get older.

[@crystalcormier9376]

As us women get older the dating pool gets tougher and tougher out here. Not lot options for us older women. You deal with alot damage men especially if there divorced. You meet men with all kind of crazy baggage.

[@toshajohnson1007]

I agree. Just was talking to my sister about that. You're right Queen

[@gypsytownsend2292]

Human emotion has no age limits.

[@JOYELLE93]

I agree.

[@sashaclarke2749]

Facts!

[@juliecousin2695]

“Pimps want to be chased... A king wants to conquer”. Sir you said it all right there! Thank you for yet another powerful teaching🙂.

[@evka24]

Wonderful saying !!!

[@denetriawright9100]

HA!!...

[@audieblack5332]

Wow, a powerful message to adhere to. Save yourself a lot of pain.

[@adelasante8574]

Because a man is sexually excited about you, doesn't mean he is excited about you... Thank you so much Bishop R. C. Blakes

[@kirsten1007]

Yes that is my problem there are sexually interested/excited. It really isn't flattering anymore

[@eveheart2876]

😂 yep. Women need to know some men put women in categories . Is that simple.

[@eveheart2876]

@@kirsten1007 then they put on a role

[@eveheart2876]

I have had that happened to me once , the relation lasted for 3 months . I was curious to wrapped my mind around it yet the guy saw our dates and memories as just excitement

[@jesusnameaboveallnames7369]

07.14.2023 Rite ... & it may have been a while since he had sex. I asked my live-in b/f, (I was under the impression that we would get married) (thank God it never happened). Anyway, he kept putting me down for my weight. I finally responded; I was overweight when we got together, so why did you get with me?? His response was that he needed someone to help pay the bills & he wanted sex. .... There ya go. I went tnrough alot of heartache with him. Never physical, but much emotional, etc. Also had a man once that said we could get married, but if I gained weight, he would divorce me. Much heartache from him. Thank God we never married. 😐

[@ed000]

Queens,we should never make these mistakes when choosing a Man: 1. Never ignore your intuition 2. Never Chase a man 3. Never Choose relationship status over an actual relationship. There are 3 types of men 1. the pimp or misogynist man 2. The simp or weak man 3. Kings get Queens,who is a gentleman. Kings give genuine answers to tough questions asked by Queens. 4. Never use sex as dating currency Eg. Dinner,drinks, lobster, gifts...hell No! Sex never equals Love. Because a man is sexually excited about you does not mean he loves you. A man can sleep or have sex with you and will never love you or accept you as a Wife, period!! The proper exchange for your body my dear Queens, is genuine Marriage. 5. Never choose style Over substance. Style will eventually mean less and as a woman,a time will come when Character will be a priority. Wow...this message blew up my mind....a confirmation of my past mistakes But I promise myself I can and will do better. Thank you RC Blakes Jr. Amen to the prayers.

[@dimediamond]

Thank u

[@edwinafranklin5561]

I'm right here as well.

[@nanaakua7467]

Same here dear

[@racheledmonson572]

Rita Asare Yes God!!!

[@sashaclarke2749]

Thank you for summing that up! Got it!

[@talaya2523]

You're not out dated; you're speaking biblical truth!!

[@myrnadavis2409]

I know that's right 😊

[@tonyasullivan7130]

AIN'T HE THO.

[@veronicasparks7125]

It was told to me, as a child, that, I should not be married, or, have children. My godmother, wanted me to, go through school, get a college education. I went through school, then, college, but, it was the wrong choice of college, which, in turn, made my life, a living hell. Listen to the elders, even if, their not the one, you were, born from. They have, insight, the likes of which, you will never know!! I miss her, so very much!!

[@kathleenwilkins1803]

Amen ..Love his teaching..Thank you God I prayed asking for guide for I ever date or give by body to a another man

[@Giftis2sing]

I know that’s right!! He is right on time!! 😃

[@joannieagawa7322]

"When you become a woman who does not need a man, you then become the woman a man needs." Thank you for being so on-point, Ptr RC. My own father, also a pastor, passed away last October...BUT every time I listen to you, I remember him and praise God for advice I've heard from him and you which have either plucked me out or kept me out of harm's way. :')

[@crystalcormier9376]

Sis thats powerful statement pastor said!!!

[@discerningtruth6848]

I am sorry about the passing of your father. "Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his faithful servant. Psalm 116:15

[@doreentaylor1311]

Thank you for the information 🙏

[@mikafishet8043]

Praise GOD

[@laguilera1118]

Got to choose a man with your future in mind. 💯 Don't waste time ladies on guys who repeatedly disappoint. The years will pass by and when your youth has gone by you'll kick yourself for wasting time. Don't waste time. Can't say it enough.

[@buzzingbee9499]

So true 23 to 38 waisted and caused so much pain healing is hard from this. I wish I could have those years back. Spend them with a good man that never would have betrayed or left me and the children. Never would have abused us. Hope young ppl will see our comments.

[@laguilera1118]

@@buzzingbee9499 sorry you went through what you went through. Work on your healing. It takes time, but do it for yourself and your children. You deserve to be at peace and they deserve a happy mom. You're wiser now and it's never too late to meet a decent man. ❤🙏

[@VeeDizzle83]

Same. I'm 37. Was too broken to recognize true love. Pushed him away to chase men who played games with me. Now I'm old and wrinkled up and MUCH too old to hope for a husband and babies apparently. I get depressed from time to time because i see pregnant people and wish that i had been smarter when i was young. Now I'll surely die alone...

[@laguilera1118]

@@VeeDizzle83 you're 37 years old now? Not to dismiss what you wrote at all, but if you're 37 years old now, I just want you to know that you're not old at all. I'm sorry that you too have made poor choices in your past, but you're still alive and I feel it's never too late. You can still have kids at 37. My mom had her first child at 38. Don't beat yourself up. You know better today. I wish you continued healing.

[@buzzingbee9499]

@@VeeDizzle83 you cant be wrinkly yet at 37. Screw these men we need to get out and do things we enjoy and he will come along💞 atleast I hope so. So depressing

[@DriMilli]

Never choose a man that disturbs your spirit 💯💯 Anything that stirs my spirit is addressed immediately with discernment from the most high . 💜💜

[@uniqueandgifted]

Absolutely!!

[@kaleema1987]

Truth

[@vera1419]

Amen to that!

[@yabe1496]

Not even if that man is your father or brother, mine love drama and want me to behave as their mother to spoil them.

[@goldenopportunitytospeak6293]

We do Jesus on this channel not the Most High. 😒

[@iamsevenjb4085]

Swag don’t pay bills. So true!

[@naturale_appeal2790]

Swag never impressed me. Never! 🙄

[@richricogranada9647]

What is a swag in dating?

[@taffytobias6122]

I'm just now breaking away from a Narcissist of 8 years! It has been an awful life for me ! Lord I'm 63 yrs old ! Even at my age I still feel God has someone for me . I just have to work on myself and i am ! Thank you Pastor!

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

Just saw a couple in their late 70s get married.

[@genevawebster6696]

Sorry to hear this. My husband of 3r years pass away 3 years ago. I was 55 at the time. God told me not date without His permission So I haven't dated since. What you said is a little shocking to me because I've always felt that older women don't get played because they know the game and don't fall for but a woman at any age van be played because of need for love. So thanks for saying this so that I can be on the watch for the older players!

[@bestill6505]

@ Taffy... May the Lord keep you and abide in you. May He alone feel you up and give you all the love, confidence and comfort you need. Your emotional health and healing is there and certainly the Holy Spirit will comfort and shower you with reassurance....it is well and will get better... Day by day!

[@terib5467]

@@genevawebster6696 a narcissist is very good at what they do and they are everywhere. God is protecting you...continue to wait on His direction

[@daphnejackson8773]

So true

[@peacefulbliss323]

My dad when he met my mom knew she was the one. A man knows.

[@JOYELLE93]

I believe that when you said, "a man knows."

[@ritadoran5039]

And a man acts on it gets his queen with love and respect Amen

[@SunnySummer777]

What if my current so says he knows I'm the one...but hes still a man Child?!🤔 I feel like I'm putting too much work into telling him how to get his life together before we can get married

[@terib5467]

@@SunnySummer777 if he's a man child, i.e., grown boy, he is just telling you what you want to hear to keep you around. Your intuition is telling you he's not the one for you.....listen. A king will be ready or will get ready on his own for his queen.

[@AriaPringle9053]

@@SunnySummer777 Girl I think u know what u need to. Trust your instincts.

[@kcamille5573]

The 9 dislikes I'm 99% certain are from guys who have been exposed by this powerful teaching

[@TheTerrylwg]

I've had 33 years of pain because I ignored my "inner voice" and didn't understand the red flags of Narcissism. Too bad there wasn't an Internet or KZbin back then. How I hope for every woman to study Narcissism and understand it thoroughly, so they can run from it at first glance. I wish I could turn back time and not be so stupid!

[@uagang3872]

Don’t regret a single thing that has happened to you because it makes you who you are today. You’ve endured the pain, you’ve learned the lesson, heal and move forward. God bless you along your journey

[@cameronbeauregard5220]

?

[@loveonpurpose2dar332]

I’ve spent roughly the same timeframe trying to please him on all fronts. We simply had no knowledge about this back then. It’s imperative not to blame ourselves for what we didn’t know; that he was the problem and they didn’t know either and to my understanding they cannot be healed. They think it’s every one else who is flawed. FREEDOM FROM THIS HAS COST A LOT OF US TOOOOOOO MUCH ANGUISH. I pray for you and you pray for me and let us watch God change things! Amen

[@kikiandco1899]

Be kind to yourself and accepting and look at the future with infinite possibilities. ❤️🙏

[@tailsthefox6568]

Narcissist have many faces, your not stupid, your just a human with a heart! I was married to a Narcissist too and man I was taken on a demonic diabolic ride with a evil clown. It’s hard but with Jesus Christ you can overcome.

[@brendab1276]

A couple of quotes that hit me deeply are: "Whenever you exchange sex for something short of exclusive lifetime commitment, you're selling your dignity for whatever you're getting" (is it worth it as an exchange for drinks, dinner, a little time?). Also, "If a man is not marriage material; and if a man is not at least pointing in the direction of the altar, he should never have the benefit of your body." Amen. You are teaching valuable lessons. Thank you.

[@linda4915]

Ditto....Amazing teaching ,why oh why did I not know this when I was in my youth or joined the church sooner........exchange your body for dinner 🍽 is dinner equivalent to your body

[@maguiedossantos2925]

💯🎯

[@maerose5053]

We fool ourselves to believe we are just being doubtful when we have that feeling. And usually we find out later that we were correct to feel something isn’t right.

[@patriciarogerse4043]

God Will Continue To Bless You More Pastor You Open My Eyes.

[@jayrodriguez4119]

On point

[@rebecca9519]

So true, I regret not listening my intuition and my gut feeling.

[@mwilakuseka7756]

Often times i have ignored the feeling and a year later wished I had taken to the hills.

[@lol-fn4um]

I am actually a Muslim Girl watching from Germany. A few days ago i came across one of your videos by chance and i have learned so much from you in a short time, about the dynamic between man and woman and the dynamic between the feminine and masculine energy within myself . Nobody ever thaught me this Things before.... I Wish for you and everyone Reading this, Joy and fullfilment in your lives ( me included). Amen Amen Amen ❤🙏

[@PranaChi369]

Wishing Blessings To You As Well Sister❤

[@michealdarden6518]

This dude right here!! Good God Almighty!!!!!!!!!

[@cameronbeauregard5220]

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[@5Luckyducky]

Yes sir

[@kimberlyblunt]

The truthhhhhh

[@ed000]

"Feel the pain BUT watch the Transformation" RC Blakes Jr.

[@ingridgarner3385]

Get a man that has the RIGHT HEART! Yes!

[@kimberlynhughes3658]

I recently lost my husband of 22 years. We were together for 30 years all together. At 50, I will soon be re-entering the dating scene. But what I'm seeing out here isn't encouraging. After having a good husband who treated me so well, took care of me & our children who was supportive, responded to my requests (like I told him I was getting too tired to take him to work once we had a baby cuz she'd be up throughout the night & we shared our car, my husband took me to look for a car the next week. It was a second hand car that cost only $3000. But it was a good car that lasted me for over 8 years, a FORD ASPIRE!!) I still drove our newer car too, but he responded. Many men don't want to be providers. I'll probably be alone, cuz I have a lot of self esteem & my expectation is fairly high! I have a lot to offer, so I'm not going to settle for less than my standard!! Plus I like a man who spends a lot of time with me. We shall see!

[@talaya2523]

I can buy my dinner , gifts, and can be content with a book preach pastor!!!

[@michellesimms5372]

Real Talk Sis💕 I Agree👀👌💯

[@crystalw7620]

I grew up under the hand of a toxic father. And now as a woman I have made a lot of bad choices when it came to men. When I listen to you I can't help but cry and wonder what if I had a different father who really took the time. The hardest part of this is still trying to figure out who I am. Watching your videos helps me. Thank you.

[@chelseamiracle128]

That’s part of what landed me here. My father is a misogynist. He thinks even as I sit here pregnant I should be minding my weight and that I only exist to look nice for men and have to make a certain amount of money and own the right things…. He used to abuse my mother. I ended up in an entanglement with a narcissistic pimp oddly enough. I had to go through some hell before I went to therapy and saw my childhood for what it was. The root of my pain and the root of never feeling good enough. He told me I wasn’t from the time I was a little girl.

[@ramonawilliams219]

Dear sister, in response to your statement I am, full of joy, and expectation to hear that you are in a new journey in your life. The beginning and releasing of tears of hurt, disappointments, abandonment, and not having or knowing the gifts of a father to his daughter. "The Father Daughter Talk." Is from the Father of the Most High. The servant man of God hearing the voice of the Lord... We are blessed when we walk in our purpose.

[@angelagabriel744]

Me too

[@tracyb2291]

You get what you settle for...

[@msdecemberloveangel8236]

Im older now and I've wasted a lot of my years on non sufficient men who didnt qualify. Yes I have. When u said that, that makes wanna cry. Honestly. Tears are rolling down my cheek as I type.

[@tarabeverly3680]

❤️

[@JustMe-gx1ys]

Finding this Pastor has been my lifesaver for real.can relate to every area spoken regarding a broken queen consciousness. Straighten this Crown and keeping it moving 🥰 🙏🏽🙌🏽💯

[@nanaakua7467]

Is very true dear. He has made me go back to my king n trash d clown.

[@tuniquecraftchannel1235]

Never choose a man that doesn't agree with your SPIRIT 👏🙏

[@LB-bu5xf]

👏👏👏👏 My beautiful ladies, you're going to get what you think you deserve. No one can do to you what you don't allow them. If you know you're the daughter of a king, why allow yourself to be treated like the daughter of a pauper? Know your worth, or men would put their price on you.

[@lindsaymarie7238]

Everyone used to tell me that my standards were too high, but here I am, with the man of my dreams getting treated the way I knew I deserved, happier than I ever dreamed possible. Yes, I met him late in life, but it was all in God's timing!

[@SB0707B]

God is So Good!!! 💕

[@mirarami1055]

20.48 A real relationship is a mutual exchange of interest, sacrifice, respect, & growth ✍🏾🤓

[@viviancheek2241]

I'm 62 seasoned, as a young girl my mother and grandmother told me never run after a man when he leaves let him go, running after a man he knows what you're doing but when you don't run after him he's wondering what you're doing.

[@nicv278]

1.Never ignore your intuition/inner voice, gut instinct, red flag despite how good he looks. 2.Never chase or settle for a man that doesn't agree with your spirit/spiritually/soul. If you are searching for a purpose in a relationship, then you are not ready and need self work instead. Because you view relationship as a purpose and for identity. Kings wants to conquer, pimps wants to be chase. It confuses the masculine/feminine synergy. Trophy wife is exclusive and elusive. 3.Never choose relationship status over actual real relationship. Real relationships are based on mutual attraction. 3 types of men: masochists: toxic masculinity who lacks the empathy and understanding, the emotional intelligence to be the meaning partner. A trained narcissist, a pimp. The world has conditioned women to be attracted to him. A weak guy who doesn't have a back bone. You never feel safe nor protected. Kings. They love to conquer. How to explore one's soul? Questions provide answers to their motive. 4.Never use sex as dating currency. Sex doesn't equal love. Because a man is sexually excited about you doesn't mean he is excited about you. Sex gains sexual access. It does not translate it to love nor wife material. 5.Never style over substance. Swag ain't pay no bills. You can style a man but not their character or add substance to it. My take: would you date yourself if you were a man? If no, self work. When you are on that journey, that's when you don't need a man. 😄 Probably the physical strength to help with the diy/groceries 😋

[@tennescahowell8569]

All these Narcissist spirit need to Stop.

[@ThePhoinix33]

My point exactly

[@sherryking8727]

And we need to run the other way when approached by them

[@maevelucky7153]

I blame music industry on that

[@feliciacarrington681]

Every time I get lonely,and feel I need a. Man I ho to these videos thank you for telling me the truth I been in denial for years.

[@nowKissthaQueen]

Or i do things that makes me fall more in love with myself

[@PrettyVicky1991]

Shared this to my younger sis and we both love hearing your wisdom, all glory to God for creating you♡♡♡

[@sandrablake5199]

Im 74 years old. I married a man 40 years ago, that had me seeing soo many red flags afterwards! But, I was locked into the marriage because I was married in the Church and I wanted to honor my marital vow to God🙏🏼 Thinking I could change him was soooo far from right. He was the BIGGEST BOOGIE MAN I EVER MET😈👹! I was raised by an abusive father, molested by 4 of my 5 brothers, n only knew those types of men. I was conditioned to fish for Sharks😩! I finally had to flee for my life from this man n eventually divorced him😊!! Thankfully I GOT AWAY🙏🏼. But, I paid the price of all the damage that caused the RED FLAGS GOING OFF THAT I IGNORED😢 I’ve been following you and your council for three years and how I wish I could have had theses videos of life before I gave my self to that MONSTER🙏🏼 Thank you for all this valuable information. 👍🏻.

[@latoyajones2733]

Glad you got out hope you doing alright

[@vegigirl7440]

I was never much into marriage, but kept meeting guys who were. Met one who wanted to get married after only a few months...big red flags, right?! I thought so too, after all , my intuition was telling me no ( i never was in love with him), but then had a dream, which i thought was God telling me that this was my husband... and i thought that he seemed like a decent guy that i could learn to love and have a deep friendship with....little did i know, it was the devil's advisory, coming for my soul...like you, i realized i made a mistake, but because i married in the church and gave my word to God, i thought i had to stay. Spent most of my married life crying, depressed and eventually angry. This man told me from the beginning, that is, after we got married, that he was most important person, what he did, said, had, was more than anything i was doing, saying or had. This man had no empathy, sympathy, love, didnt listen to any advice from me, expected sex on demand, never said 'thank you', 'im sorry', 'i was wrong'...the blame i put on myself for allowing this behavior , i certainly was intelligent enough to have ended it years ago...so, why do we allow it? I would say, i didnt know the bible well enough to have known my self worth. It was after getting a divorce (after 34 yrs of that misery) and having gone thru a following failed relationship that brought me to this site. Pastor Blakes has been a true God send when making me face my reality. I hope to someday have a Godly relationship with a man, but first need to be ok with myself. Hope you can find the happiness you need and deserve also! 🙌

[@sandrablake5199]

@@latoyajones2733 Just wanted to say thank u for hoping I’m doing well👍🏻 I am now going to b three years into being free of that Monster😊 It’s been a very tumultuous journey but well worth it. I’ve been with my daughter n her kind husband who took me in and endured this process with me. Im laughing and socializing once again and recapturing who I was before that nightmare situation began 40 yrs ago. I’ve lost 25 lbs, changed my hairstyle and remade myself over from the inside out! I feel confident and very happy with the REAL ME😊 Most of all I give credit to my God for being there 24/7 holding my hand and guiding me through the storm. I didn’t do it on my own, nor by myself, but with faith in God and the information that Pastor Blake’s and others on KZbin 🙏🏼 Never give up on yourself. I’d you can endure all the abuse a toxic man handed out to oneself... one can certainly love oneself and recover because there’s no harm in a healthy relationship with oneself👊🏻😍 I hope u too are well and free if you were in a toxic relationship or marriage?🙏🏼

[@karendavis1559]

😞😞😭

[@andreaswanson1596]

Thank GOD you got out! May God continue to heal and restore you! 🙏💕🙌

[@e.adriannapatterson3900]

Those persons who gave this Powerful message a thumbs down have an #unteachable spirit...so dangergous. Knowledge is Power.

[@ladyzinada5341]

Agree

[@evezazzle5974]

"Queens ask questions only Kings can answer." ❤️😩

[@ntrasmr87]

Lol “u gotta be able to look at him “.. That pause was everything!

[@kiarabailey1084]

That part just came on and I hollered 😂😂😂😂

[@shawntaewillis6256]

😂

[@sharonpatton355]

Why is it so hard to listen to that inner voice?

[@sharonpatton355]

When a king conquers a woman isn't a woman giving up her self worth standards and values when we give in to a persistent bnb of a man .

[@lillieetienne4446]

Thank you for taking time to teach even older women who never learned how to be the Queen she really is

[@laneym5893]

Thank you Mr. Blakes for using your God-given abilities to captivate the hearts of fatherless daughters and misguided men. You are truly a lifesaver. May God continue to bless you.

[@user-qo3mk1ck7h]

"Sell your dignity for lobster" wow! Powerful.

[@zoraidacastro5403]

Definitely!!!!

[@chellez29]

When you're a woman of a certain age, this resounds beyond recompense! Either you're here or you're not! 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@altheamitchell166]

Just because a man is sexually excited about you, doesn't mean he is excited about you. Omg what a word Pastor. I just love how you just say the raw truth.

[@Sakura.6262]

Thank you Mr. Blakes for teaching us the " life skills"

[@bjones7780ify]

B6KGD

[@theresajackson1894]

❤️🌈

[@sadiecornwall7710]

RC Blakes Every word that u speak is the total truth ..💯 🙌 ..U are the best 👌...

[@starsergeon8706]

Thank for helping my doughter Love you.

[@starsergeon8706]

God bless you may the Lord keep on 🙏 you, you're great.God is very happy,with you .

[@raihanazh3246]

“What does a man offer that’s equivalent to your body?” I legit almost cried. I feel like I’m getting a father daughter talk right now. As a Muslim woman I am taught to always wait until marriage and I’ve practiced that. I’m 22 I’ve been married before but I’ve been struggling after marriage. I fallen into sin. I pray Allah (God in Arabic/the most high) forgive me! ❤️🤲🏽

[@jamilladiallo1321]

May Allah guide you on the right path.Inshallah

[@MyleaJones0901]

As I see it, a man’s heart is equivalent to a woman’s body. For a man’s treasure is in his heart!! To me, a man should offer his heart with a wedding ring that alone is equivalent to woman’s body.

[@astorzable7210]

I've been telling everyone who will listen about these videos.

[@babyjells]

Same!!!! Men & women. Folks are sleeping on Pastor Blakes.

[@natnat5978]

Oh

[@lisae3357]

I’ve been hooked since last yr

[@astorzable7210]

@@lisae3357 I am too. I even bought his Queenology book just to be supportive.

[@jaceem4175]

Glad your spreading the message to others. God bless you! Womens and Mens need to see these videos.

[@mariafriend644]

After many years of poor choices, I’m beginning to make better ones. All due to listening to you. I am feeling proud of being a good daughter to my Lord and savior. Thank you.

[@elisha052550]

Teach ; you not old foggy - ITS GODS WORD - Thats HIS WORD - THE WORD OF GOD OVER ALL ; NO SEX B4 marriage

[@reubenwilliams51]

Amen sis!

[@tumisodiphofe6373]

You can always give a man style but you can never give him substance/character.

[@mercytriplem8340]

Thank you for the message ...my man is very stingy even during emergencies which makes me wonder is he the right guy for me ...because men naturally want to be depended on when they really love a woman...so which brings me to this conclusion...that guy is not the man God has for me....he is also lazy in terms of job hunting...am only 20 years..I can't let him lead me to a lifetime full of regrets...I am destined for greatness....lemmi set my alarm so I can catch you live...since am in Kenya and ts now 10pm

[@mercytriplem8340]

@Dominique e I think I have to do that

[@lauradavis63]

God has so much more and better to give you💕

[@amukoamercy1172]

Pole..

[@graciakinyanjui6937]

What are you doing with him.. you date for future if he doesnt look well packaged for the future RUN... 20yrs ,, pls focus in building yourself first

[@evolveug8161]

Girl... You can do ALL things through God who strengthens you. Believe that u can and u will. Chase after God...and not chasing after all manner of "men of God"... Chase after knowing the word of God.... Jesus Christ is the way, truth and life...and we know Jesus Christ is the word...so The Word = The truth!!!!! You are a blessed woman. BELIEVE IT!!! If u need to talk...hit me up.

[@lyndellemodeste2439]

I am so blessed to have found your channel Pastor Blakes. I have been learning a wealth of information from you. I am 52, going on 53 in 2 months time. I have been single all of my life. If i get married, he will definitely be a king from my Heavenly Father.

[@eeba2023]

Real relationship goals interest , sacrifice, respect and growth. I was dealing with a narc, all about him. He was selfish and lacked the skills to be in a "real relationship". He was a time waster.

[@lauralusk6292]

I always fell in love with a Man’s Potential not the actual Man 🤦🏾‍♀️ Talk about not listening to my intuition🤦🏾‍♀️ Work in progress ... Preach Pastor !!

[@alexisalford735]

Looking forward to this!!! Thanks for pouring into us women....we definitely need it and we give all praises to God for using you for such a time as this...

[@nadenehall6843]

Amen to that

[@Charoletta77]

I listen to you three years ago with a broken-heart, and thought I had it and learned , I had the same mistake again with someone who was more clever than the 1st, SMH ,I must listen and act on your teaching this time , I saw the red flag and allow myself to get use again. Pray for me please 🙏🏽🙇🏽

[@latoyajones2733]

Praying for you

[@kimberleysmith4175]

@@latoyajones2733 You are going to be ok

[@anti-inflammatoryfoodsbyjo148]

I prayer God send you someone to rescue you from this self destructive cycle. Keep prayering.🙏

[@equitablehealthcare-drnatashak]

Therapy, you have to purge the psychological trauma from childhood.

[@magentared5822]

Charoletta77, you will come out of this stronger and will continue to grow in your journey. Keep connected with your spiritual sisters, keep striving to grow and your king will find you. Praying for your complete wholeness.

[@laguilera1118]

Pastor you're only on #1 and already you hit it on the nail. So true. I ignored my inner voice, it was blaring NOOO. That situation lasted 7 months, but I live with a consequence from ignoring my intuition. It was crystal clear. I'll never forget it.

[@vernettaevans1403]

Same here! 8 months because I rushed. Was just getting a out of a relationship and I allowed this man to convince me that we should date. We started off great and now I barely see him.

[@TN23able]

"Pimps get old...Simps get disrespected....Kings get Queens" You couldn't have put it any better! 👏👌❤

[@JOYELLE93]

Awesome teaching, Sir!! Everything you said is on point. I love when you said, "Make the mistake. Feel the pain. Learn from it. Get up and do better."

[@melissaharland5609]

Simps are simple

[@melissaharland5609]

Appreciate your wisdom

[@melissaharland5609]

Substance = Integrity

[@raihanazh3246]

“It’s not what God intended, but it’s what you settled for!” Omgosh... spoke to me!

[@RahkeemTalbert]

Cheers to RC Blakes 🍷 you're giving the ladies the jewels tonight 💎😁

[@aliciawoods8925]

When I was 22( three years ago), my mom’s friend wanted me to date her son soo bad lol. She would call me every night asking if I called him . I didn’t feel comfortable calling him because I always felt that if a man is interested then he would call the woman. I was being respectful so I would call him when she asked me too. It did not sit right with me AT ALL. It made me look like I was desperate and chasing her son. I could tell her son was getting annoyed with me calling him lol. I let him know that the only reason I was calling you because your mom asked me too. I never heard from them two again after that lol

[@Amorantasia1]

I love your videos Pastor! Thanks so much for your awesome teachings 🙏🏾

[@JoannA-sweetly]

You have restored to all women dignity. We have been pressed and lied to by society, family and men. WOW!!! The freedom in knowledge Pastor!

[@carolynwilliams4926]

You wife has gain a wonderful husband. Your children has gain an awesome dad. May god continue to bless everything you touch. So many woman need these teaching and lesson you are giving out.we as woman are lost out here and so many have no self respect . i just want say thank you for everything you are doing on your platform.

[@latoyajones2733]

Thank you God for pastor Blake

[@abrilenejohnston-scott2769]

Do the kings you describe really exist in society?

[@Jazz.Ministry]

Ladies shift your mindset. Stop “looking” for a man and wait on God’s best. Work on you so you can attract what is for you and discern when a man is not for you. Stop settling for the misogynist, pimps and simps and prepare for your King. God bless you Sir this message hit differently ‼️🗣🙏🏾🙌🏾

[@Boopooh43]

Some of these men have so much swag and chasing the "bag" they don't have the time nor inclination to put energy into a relationship with you.

[@princessgigiking]

A classic man does not want to be chased by a woman. 💎💎💎

[@angelagabriel744]

"Never use sex as a dating currency ". Thank you for such a great advice ♥ ♥

[@simonewoodberry5053]

Yes never chase if he wants you he will make it known......

[@dudumthimkhulu2615]

Oooh Daddy Blakes, I bless the day I found your channel. No man teaches it the way you do. I have grown so much since i found your channel. God bless you 🙏🏾

[@刘婷-f3z]

Thanks for inspiring me to finally end up a toxic on and off 1.5 years relationship. I wasn’t feeling good of myself the whole time, feeling unloved, unimportant, unprioritized, unvalued etc. I am feeling weak and weak. It just consumes my esteem, my dignity, my respect for myself.

[@888hereandnow]

How are you doing now?

[@rebekahlewis8310]

Hope all is well!!! God is going to bless you with someone that loves you!!!

[@2951hawkeye]

I am really really busy but today as soon as I get time I want to watch your stuff. And right now your messages seem to be all over my KZbin recommendations. Some people hate algorithms. But if they know who's in charge of Math and everything created that's good, they might enjoy them better.

[@gloriagarris1574]

True Pastor. When we fall, we need to learn from our mistakes get up and do better. Nobody is perfect but God is faithful.

[@pumpkinandbeau]

Thank you. I needed to hear that I don't have to beat myself up for my mistakes. We've all made mistakes.

[@kriszma1212]

Yes

[@misssj569]

If he doesn’t have substance, give the whole man away! I’m looking for my future Bae 😍

[@ThePhoinix33]

I’m guilty,all presentation and no substance.. suit,stacy’s ,smell good etc..late husband was a demon in a suit.. don’t do it ladies

[@latoyajones2733]

Ladies we to need to wake up

[@janeirahill8013]

You really said it Pastor! These five points were really awesome! Our value is worth more than a lobster and steak dinner! Blessings to you and all that you are doing to help us! If only ALL women would have ears to hear.

[@lemonspring6425]

Thank you so much! In a world, where people talk about dating and sex as interchangeable words, your sermon is very important to keep me strong in my belief that dating and sex are not the same thing. Celibate till I find the right partner.

[@genxx2724]

Exactly. I have a friend I dated for a short time 20 years ago. He claims we weren’t dating. Turns out he equates dating to a fully-involved relationship including sex. He said just going on dates is “platonic.” What a moron.

[@eveheart2876]

Same

[@masakoamano4704]

I saw evil in his eyes, but I ignored it. As time passed, he grew more and more uncomfortable seeing me. He chose to walk in darkness while claiming he was a child of God... So, God sent my guardian angels to take him away to protect me. Amen 🙏

[@annsitymakena2382]

Pastor RC Blake's just empowers and blesses my heart ! Glory to God for this ministry!

[@CeeGusts_49Waves]

At 40:55, “ You can always give a man STYLE, but you cannot give him SUBSTANCE!” The FACTS!! 👍🏼

[@thokomatshiga5051]

Thank you Pastor! I am truly humbled by your teachungs. Im 39 and Im starting to c where I have been getting it wrong. I completely receive your teaching and I pray that Holy Spirit will engrave it in my understanding and my heart every day.

[@Mia-me4uy]

Excellent message I didn’t have a father or any male role model in my life growing up. I am just now at 38 fighting to learn to love myself. Thank you for teaching me💗

[@TheEmpowermentQueen]

Pastor Blakes, you're sharing some amazing jewels for our crowns 👑. Thank you.

[@latoyajones2733]

Great message

[@cfleagle1]

I would substitute old and outdated, for wise and experienced. So much truth in this talk. Thank you, both, for being the perfect example of how a couple should live and love.

[@humbleM571]

I'm new Mr RCBLAKES, and I appreciate the spirit that you have you speak the truth everything is on point, thank God for real Man like you. keep pushing and waking us women up trust me we need it.🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😊

[@andreamagyar7776]

Welcome in the club! ☺

[@lebogangmolefe5254]

Lord I am forever grateful for these kind of teaching, finally I have conquered the battle in my mind,and I can confidently say my life has changed for the better.... never shall I be desparate for a man... I'm a QUEEN therefore I know an understand my value.🙌💞