New Rule: Armed and Lonely | Real Time with Bill Maher (HBO)

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In his editorial New Rule, Bill addresses America's growing loneliness crisis and its link to mass shootings.
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[@MorrisonEnterprise]

"The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth" - African proverb

[@ToddHowes]

True. But is it the villages fault for not embracing an unruly child, or the parents fault for not making the child acceptable to society?

[@Michael-uv6cn]

I never heard that but it's true

[@ToddHowes]

@@dothedeed I speak from experience when I say it is a parent's job to get their child socialized and ready to meet their peers. My mother did not do a good job of doing this for me or my younger brother and we still feel the effects of it today. I don't blame the kids in my class for treating me differently because I dressed awkwardly, didn't shower as often as I should have or have the proper etiquette. I blame my mother. Perhaps the kids at school could have been more gracious about the experience, but thinking society should have a greater interest than the parent of the wellbeing mg of the kids is a recipe for disaster.

[@b1mw93]

America is overheating.

[@questioneverything2892]

Todd, babies do not come with 'How to' instructions. Most mothers do the best they can with the limited knowledge they have on child raising.

[@frankdawe5156]

I love that last statement: “If you knew how much everyone was faking it, you wouldn’t want to join them anyway.” Sooo true.

[@scorch4299]

so true. When you become an adult, evnetually you realize that everyone is just competing with the gift of gab to see who will do what for who and trade this for that.

[@chrismackerdush7728]

Me too. Echoes what Elon Musk says in that one YT short, about most of the ‘happy’ people on IG in reality not being happy at all.

[@tabbycat8511]

Truth spoken.

[@jessethompson1637]

When I would check out the lives of people who post a great life had lives that sucked so hard. Then you find out social media is really boring. Except pet pics and videos.

[@michaelmcgruddy9464]

He has such a way with words. Such a loving and kind person.

[@cynthiaellis5716]

It's refreshing to hear someone speak such truth.

[@wade0921]

Yes Cynthia, he does and on many issues and I am a conservative. And yes, he does make me cringe sometimes but he still is spot on on so many things.

[@phyllishenderson2704]

Amen! Go Bill!

[@rubyfirefly2582]

"If you knew how much everyone was faking it, you wouldn't want to join them anyway." SO TRUE!! My real-life friends who post the most pics of themselves looking fabulous are the saddest, loneliest people I know. They post beautiful pics in an effort to make themselves feel good. Bill's line reminds me of an episode of All in The Family where a friend of Edith's was talking about how sad she was in her married life and said how the books and articles she'd been reading made her feel like, "there's a party out there," and she'd missed it. Edith responded, "I don't think I'd go even if I was invited." LOL

[@barbarabrennan1753]

As a holistic Reiki master, I try to keep my body healthy. I don't approve of pahtttttt. It affects people in different ways. I wonder if the shooters imbibed. As I got older, I realized the people around me do. So why have they been so eager to be around me who clearly does not have that lifestyle. 🤔my hacker put in that smiley face.

[@keithhinchcliffe5629]

@@barbarabrennan1753 ? are you high?

[@lorenanders702]

Yes! I remember that AIF episode. 😂

[@XavierCachon]

Quitting Facebook and Instagram is one of the best decisions I've ever made.

[@bcor4219]

Same. So much better.

[@alexgunawan98]

why ? because you sad many people in the world have a good life than yours ?

[@kristopherloviska9042]

I quit FB in 2019 but came back in this year due to the pandemic. What I did different was that I kept my friends there to actual friends and family. Prior to that I would friend colleagues and co-workers. People I went to HS with but wasn't friends with. One thing I never did was to accept requests from people I didn't know in real life. I also stopped posting almost completely. I still have my opinions on most things, but in the glut of insanity which the trump years has been, I find it redundant and pointless to post the latest idiotic thing that he has done. It is exhausting. I also quit Twitter, though I rarely used it to begin with. Twitter is a complete wasteland. There isn't an issue out there that Twitter is an adequate venue for discussion about it. One cannot share a complicated, nuanced position on something, which most issues worthy of discussion require, in the limited format Twitter provides. I have an Instagram account, but never use it. Not even sure if I could manage to log in again if I wanted to. "Social Media" is an oxymoron. There is nothing social about it.

[@bcor4219]

@@kristopherloviska9042 never used twitter. Indeed, social media has replaced actual socializing.

[@minonuno3041]

Now you just got to quit KZbin

[@triplekillerable]

Facebook was invented by a guy who failed at being social, never forget that

[@robertbradford2837]

Im liberal and a fan of Bill Maher, but this mentality concerns me, as im an introverted person by choice. I dont want people to look at me as if I were some psychopath just because im quiet and like to be invisible to society. Modern psychology has glared a dark target over people like me in general, otherwise harmless in todays society.

[@jasonpaul6887]

And that inventor cuts his own bangs

[@missd2657]

​@@robertbradford2837 You mention that you're an introvert by choice. These people aren't introverts, they're angry at the world because they are socially awkward and feel it is the world fault. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert, useless you're blaming the world or women for it. I've never been on Facebook and I once read an article that read people should be weary of people which aren't on Facebook because they are probably hiding something, which made me laugh because I have never hidden the fact that I don't want to see peoples vacations snaps, pictures of their children or that they've just got engaged. It's just not my thing and I'm perfectly comfortable with that.

[@aa888zz]

These people don't do this because they are introverts or socially awkward. They do it because their standard of living sucks and need to blame someone else for their troubles. This is why Trump shines for these people. He channels that anger towards people of color. It becomes a battle for survival in their depraved minds. And if we know anything about nature, it's that it is justified to kill to survive. Trump and Fox news should be charged for inciting violence every time they begin to claim that there is an "invasion". If Bill thinks a recession will hurt Trump, then he is an absolute fool. All it will do is increase the number of angry people looking to blame someone else for their troubles.

[@johnbedtime]

What a brillant, overlooked point.

[@Jorge-ww9zy]

"Guys that were picked last in gym." Wow. That hit home. That was me when I was a kid. It really hurt my confidence. I'm more successful now but I can relate with the downtrodden. Violence isn't the answer but human beings are emotional creatures, and not always peaceful.

[@edwinhenry7531]

Agree. I was first picked not last but everyone has their problems. In high school most thought I would one day play in the NFL, but my mother did in life what people on the field could not do. She threw my scholarships in the burn barrel and I ended up doing 20 years in the Army. Tackled hard by my mother! But I do have 3 degrees with the top being an MBA and my military retirement. I also now make over six figures in some respects I am successful, but reality bites and I failed to even try to play pro ball!

[@oldsaggyorcsacs1630]

Violence is normal for humans

[@denimchicken104]

I remember getting picked near last for kickball every day. Then I once kicked a home run, biggest kick anyone ever saw. Then I was picked near first the next day. Never replicated that success. Then they stopped picking me early. Moral of the story? Life is a waste of time, kind of like this story.

[@bracedgod4505]

I was usually second to last, which is reflected in my romantic life too. Still lonely :(

[@johng4730]

I was never picked at all in gym. The teachers just told everyone to "partner up". After spotting a few of us just standing around and looking to the floor, they just said, "oh come on, you're not asking someone to dance."

[@majormojo]

A really important message. I have a lot of sympathy for young people growing up in this environment. 99% of what they see from others is bs and 100% of any mistakes they make are broadcast to everyone they know (and more!) instantly. The system knows only outrage and punishment and has no room for forgiveness. Such a harsh place to try and find your way in the world.

[@zacharyjohns1157]

"The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel."

[@SmazzitSEOTrainingInstitute]

Exactly!

[@stevethomas319]

Zachary, this is a well said and insightful comment.

[@FirstPersonHood]

We play the face game headless.org

[@mynameisasecret3826]

You copied this from a Ted talk

[@joebarcelona]

Bill Maher = ANTI-GOYMITE 00:10 "No shortage of 'reasons,' except for the truth that the "events" are facilitated, through handlers; partially embellished, with informants and crisis actors; or completely made up, FAKE, FALSE FLAG EVENTS, FOR GUN CONTROL, to control the population, when our financial system collapses, or until EVERYONE is thrown under the bus, and one or more U.S. cities, are attacked in a WWIII scenario, all for the benefit of Israel, and the war-profiteers??? ALL THE VIDEO CLIPS PROVING THAT THE EVENTS WERE AT LEAST PARTIALLY STAGED, HAVE BEEN REMOVED FROM THE GOVERNMENT CONTROLLED AND CORPORATE-OWNED MEDIA, INCLUDING KZbin. THE CRUEL JOKE, WAR/MASS MURDER/SLAUGHTER-FOR-FOR PROFIT for the benefit of APARTHEID ISRAEL (they just want your money, and time, not YOU), and U.S. War Profiteers, the 'joke,' is on YOU??? Had you ever considered that, while listening to Bill Meher?

[@dasstigma]

"If you knew how much everyone else is faking it, you wouldn't want to join them anyway." - Bill Maher, 2019 Now that is some sentence!

[@abashedsanctimony154]

He does it for the ones at home -Bill He is a mass brainwasher

[@steph.electric]

Part funny, part not so funny. But I agree that pussy, does relieves stress.

[@dasstigma]

@Mhm Mm Most definitely his writers, but that's not how history works, sadly...

[@shuheihisagi7851]

@@abashedsanctimony154 you talk like a Trumpftard. Don't act like Trumpf ain't trying to con your bitch ass, cuz fact is he already has. Bill happens to be an OPINION PIECE TALK SHOW. Only low IQ morons would be programmable to just take words at face value. Bill just happens to tell it like it should be, and he lands jokes with his opinion, including his writers opinion. Brainwasher, hardly. Least he ain't telling people immigrants are a invasion, cancer, CRIMINALs, rapists, murders, etc etc.

[@nativekidd9772]

It's perfect 😅

[@bracedgod4505]

I almost cried when he almost casually acknowledged that we feel like sht…

[@justinaacuriouswanderer1496]

I'm so sorry 😭

[@viper341]

It's good to see people address the real root of problem which is the fact that we have a mental health and loneliness epidemic, rather than just impulsively attack gun rights which wouldn't address the real problem.

[@GirlofNicky]

“Everyone is having more fun than you”. Social media in a nutshell.

[@zarakikon6352]

They're often only pretending they are to "keep up with the Jones's". Or they're desperate for attention.

[@mk11fan87]

“And you’re worthless” also social media in a nutshell

[@Wildflower1555]

So very true.

[@flaccidego4291]

"social media" is not social & it isn't media

[@reganisawesome123]

If you knew how much everyone else was fakin it, you wouldn’t want to join them anyways. That hit hard.

[@gooch2353]

Truth, majority of people exaggerating the fun their having fishing for comments(approval) of people they probably will never meet in person for the rest of their lives

[@GodricThe]

Would say hit homerun

[@YouSurfin]

i can hear, you don't have to repeat it.

[@danish6192]

He's hope for the lonely!

[@lepetitchat123]

Geez Bill really took the words out of my mouth... seriously his whole writing team is my spirit animal!

[@jonpowell4246]

"Before Instagram you could be a loser but not feel it because the winners weren't always in your face" Thanks for that bill.

[@mattleofric1766]

It's painfully true though 😔

[@edwardbremer6322]

" if a boy is rejected from the village, he would gladly burn it down to keep himself warm at night." This old saying is the truth.

[@gra6649]

This is one of the most compassionate things that I have ever heard on this particular subject. Loneliness, and feeling disconnected are two of the most dangerous places one can live in. It is hell on earth. We should all remember that.

[@francesgrumblatt3420]

Get involved , so many good causes , not ask what ---“

[@DreamFearless]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/eXqZo4tva9SMpLs I found this very insightful as well. Take care

[@gra6649]

@@jessewright2319 I feel bad for you. The truth is, that white people are not losing their privilege, it;s that things are evening out. And what you are feeling is that disconnection. You may be in a very dangerous place, please take care not to hurt yourself, or others.

[@gra6649]

Jesse Wright Again I sense that you are in a lot of pain. I know all about feeling isolated. You may think that I’m judging you but nothing could be further from the truth. I hope you have friends that you can talk to. You calling me weasel may be a sign that you feel that striking out will make you feel better but that will only last a second or two, and then that black dog of loneliness, and isolation will descend on you again. I will not report you. Who could I report you to? But I’ll say that you need to talk with someone, be it a friend or maybe some kind of counsellor that you feel you can have a connection with. A friend would be better. Just don’t hurt yourself, or anyone else. Listen, your karma is your karma and you’ll do whatever you’re going to do. But know this, the word is a better place with you in it. I know that sounds corny but it’s the absolute truth.

[@haroldmoore8385]

G R A you made him run away. He all up in the comment section.

[@tdevil101]

In my opinion, I think this is the most heartfelt monologue Bill ever did.

[@aloshyreji4313]

Old Bill himself suffered till his 20s...He feels them.I really think a friend or girlfriend can really help them.Distorted reality and social media faking is destroying us

[@AngelLPena]

Me too ❤

[@scottkrafft6830]

This is ridiculous. Bill Maher is a guy to go HAM on anything; Trump, religion, whatever it is. Thus, I expected him to REAM out these vile monsters. Instead, all I found was disappointment. These are mentally disturbed, misogynistic, often racist, vicious killers, and they deserve to be treated as such! Every single person that dies by the trigger of one of these maniacs is a black spot on this country and our history. And not only is the problem not being fixed, but it's even getting worse. It's time to crack down on this, if we don't want any more lives to be lost.

[@FatMax420]

@@scottkrafft6830 Most of these vile monsters were born of mental and emotional abuse and systematic suffering. There's nothing disappointing about understanding the root cause of the problem and trying to address it. Clearly throwing people in cages hasn't worked out well for us. Because we incarcerate more people per capita than the entire world and it hasn't lowered murder rates. Perhaps maybe if we didn't actively shit of the poor and mentally ill in every way that matters they wouldn't end up motivated to shoot everyone in the face. We live in an elitist survival of the economically fittest society that doesn't give an honest fuck about the health and wellbeing of it's fellow man and we wonder why we're targeted for death by crazies.

[@juanedoses8715]

@@scottkrafft6830 hmmm seems you know alot about that

[@joeybwalsh]

I was wondering why Uvalde and Buffalo weren’t on here. Then realized it’s 2 years old. The message is still not being heard.

[@adamhastings3780]

You killed it on both sides this time Bill.. Well done, very fair 👏

[@SabaDhutt]

The most honest, brutal speech about the subject of mass shootings, loneliness and paranoia I ever heard. %100 on point.

[@TheOwlCreek]

"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." - Jiddu Krishnamurti

[@JukainPwnsSurvives]

I Love krishnamurti very few ppl quote him nowadays

[@Celisar1]

For your personal actions no one else is to be blamed in the end but you.

[@mjkittredge]

@@Celisar1 that's BS. There are always contributing factors outside the individual. We don't live in a void, we all influence one another.

[@truckerdude9172]

@@mjkittredge But it's your choice as an individual on how you react to someone's BS.

[@mjkittredge]

@@truckerdude9172 we have instant reactions beyond our control, at least initially.

[@keeganfisher1900]

One of the best messages via Bill Maher in recent memory!! It's such an invasive problem that truly effects everyone. This one hit home.

[@user-pz4eh7mc1n]

A child that is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth

[@cameronreyno7175]

It’s sad how right he is. I couldn’t even laugh at this segment.

[@redsock1298]

...a sweeping categorization on why millennial's have mass shooters, being related to loneliness and low sexual satisfaction? Logic is not only lost on this generation but Bill Maher has figured out their direction for social policy. How pathetic that school shooters and serial killers have something so in common with this line of logic. Men who have become so incompetent that they blame their loneliness and lack of sex life on others and Bill Maher will agree, "this is why they are shooting up schools." How about this is a waste of time. Does it not remind you of the idiots who blamed the rise of serial killers on violent movies and pornography. So it has nothing to do with access to guns, child abuse, sexual abuse, neglect, intolerance (which is clearly stated in the motives of some mass shooters), etc. Any number of things that actually determine a persons inability to show empathy towards others but you think centering on the every-day common man's plight of having to watch your friends be successful on social media is a key factor. This is not to mention any of the neurological factors present in serial killers and other violent offenders. You and Bill Maher must be having a bad day and want to kill someone lol but I assure you, you are unlikely to do it based on not getting laid in the past 6 months or seeing your ex-girlfriend eating paninis with her fiance.

[@alexanderschmoldt2982]

i couldntlaugh either. cause this are people, even if they are white men, who are hurting. that why he should have compared 8chan, to the political correct twitter rage mob. and with the purge of youtube, twitter and facebook. it will only increase the divide. and what he is also ingoring, the education gap, everything has to be a gap now: in the 80s the educationsystem was sexist cause only 20% of students where woman. today only 30% are men, and in 2013 the leader of the green, proclaimed in parliament, women are the smarter people, and half of parliament cheered. but in th 80s the more educate men took woman as partners an lifted them, or made families. not the 70% woman want a partner already on eye level so they taketh 30%men, and the rest 40% are left alone, and since all have university degrees, the selection is often over character or body so, the bad and the ugly are left. (speaking relativly here)

[@bugeye8749]

Cause it hit too close to home u loserr lmao

[@josephparrotta1159]

But he was doing it for you, the folk at home!

[@Talos1963]

I’m not sure if he’s right, and the way he expressed this was in extremely poor taste. The whole thing just came across as cruel and unsympathetic. That’s pretty much what he is alleging is causing the problem to start with... I’m not suggesting Bill has to find a solution, but he shouldn’t contribute to the problem. The nervous laughter and groans from the audience pretty much said it all. He went too far with this one.

[@aos1762]

"Suicide bombers with axe body spray" - iconic

[@henrikrolfsen584]

Based on what Bill Maher is saying, the Nazis had the best possible formula for Human Society: A dominant culture, based on mutual love, respect, fidelity and heritage, taught in all public schools, with emphasis on both physical, and mental fitness. Intense military training aimed at preserving the unity, and continued existence of both that Nation, and Culture. A comprehensive screening program, as part of the education system, which weeded out all those of weak character, and mental defect, and subjected them to special intensive education. The small number of students who continued to display violent behavior, and mental defects, were subject to Euthanasia . In Germany's Third Reich, there were no criminals; there were no mentally defective, because these were promptly eliminated. The hopelessly mentally defective were gassed, or injected with deadly poison. Those convicted of violent crimes, were tried and beheaded, in the basement of the Police-Station-Courthouse, upon being found guilty. Each and every citizen, in Germany during the 1930s, was instilled with pride of community. Under such conditions, engaging in criminal activity would mean bringing shame upon their whole family, and community. Violent attacks upon the citizenry, were dealt with swiftly by well armed police.

[@CBrady-jw8ps]

Very proud to not be on any social media whatsoever and loving every minute of it

[@kylebrown6726]

This needs to be made viral. Next level truth

[@allemander]

Kyle Brown This clip was overflowing with falsehoods, misrepresentations, gross exaggerations and verifiable misinformation. You have been lied to and manipulated by corporate media giants. Just like a gun, Bill, himself, is a tool.

[@bugeye8749]

C’mon now how old are u? U kno only the most asinine superficial crap goes viral n mainstream 🤮😪

[@RIXRADvidz]

@@allemander your words apply directly back to You. everything you spout is exactly what the ''fake news'' screaming troglodytes post on comments, you are as fake as the words you type in your comments. and now we see it, because You Are ALL OVER the comments with the same shit schtick.

[@ramonmoreno8014]

@@allemander sit down loser

[@claytonh7545]

Damn. Bill Maher speaking the truth. This what I’ve been telling people. It’s a sad truth that nobody wants to hear. As much as I enjoy social media and the internet, it’s toxic.

[@danielkokal8819]

very toxic. social media is a cancer, rotting us. But Bill did confirm that its not the gun but the shooter.

[@claytonh7545]

Daniel Kokal and I totally agree 👍

[@daveyhouston]

Not just killers on youtube suicides too btw most suicides are adult males middle aged not just teens but no one seems to care

[@mactastic144]

Davey Houston Media doesn’t give a fuck if they’re correct, incorrect, partially correct, or half correct.

[@yerout7168]

Social media is very toxic. Just awful and people are so wrapped up in it. My god!!!!

[@gaylewilliams4805]

This commentary is spot on in many ways! The internet, and social media specifically has made us more connected in completely meaningless ways.

[@juliaphillips7963]

I was lucky enough to be a sober alcoholic in Los Angeles before the internet and I was fulfilled on many levels. I had friends, meetings to go to 7 days a week... hundreds of them, a sense of purpose, service, support and so much more. I know there are meetings for just about every addiction and I hope people get out of the house and connect in person. It changes you and counteracts loneliness and isolation.

[@Hypercube1729]

This was AMAZING. Bill is totally on point here!

[@MarkyMark1221]

kim Dierichsen except in Norway and France

[@abashedsanctimony154]

@@MarkyMark1221 you mean muslims

[@JohnSmith-hs1hn]

No, there's something about white male culture that makes them shoot, not "depression". Otherwise, we would have a bunch of other demographics shooting random people up. Typical 'white nuance' when it comes to admonishing white behavior, where we would otherwise compulsorily do so if the assailant were a muslim or black male. WHITE MALE CULTURE and pathology is responsible. Nothing else. White male culture is 'the motherload of bad ideas'.

[@kurtvonfricken6829]

John Smith Explain the DC Beltway snipers.

[@kendane2001]

I concur. He was frustrated he couldn't get laughs. But it's hard to laugh when realize everything he said about angry young men is the truth, and it's only a matter of time before another shooting.

[@KatieNicolexx]

I'm a young person and I dont have social media. I've seen what it can do to people. I have a happy life and I have friends. I dont need to know what everyone else is doing because it isn't part of my life!!!

[@AnexoRialto]

My daughter's boyfriend asked her to get off of Instagram because it was frustrating her too much. Because it's fake, but she was taking it seriously. Back in the old days, some people used to send a letter at Christmas time where they explained how Johnny just got into Harvard, and they'd just bought a lake house, and they'd all gone to the Maldives to get away from it all. It was fake then, and social media is fake now. It's just more fun to fake now because of the photos (with filters and photoshopping obviously).

[@totalannihilation9065]

Barely anyone in social media is happy. I've seen people where I go and are with their face on the phone the whole time except when they take a selfie to post how much fun they're having, like 15 seconds. It's sad but it's the life today. It's kinda hard to be off of it IMO. Just live your life no matter how boring it is and let others fake how great theirs is.

[@azraiel1984]

This video aged perfectly 👍

[@gussalazar449]

When I was in grade school many years ago, there used to be a youth program called "I am thumb-body" and as I remember it, it had to do with growing self esteem and confidence in children. A program like this today would be of great help to kids growing up into their young adulthood phase. Does anybody remember this program?

[@randolphpinkle4482]

Feeling unconditional love as a child will last you a lifetime. There is nothing more essential to a happy life.

[@kamrudkd]

Lol..u are are one of the wises ppl on the Internet. What a poetic way to state one of realities mathematic truths. Sadly those that have never experienced it will not be able to comprehend the magnitude of ur powerful words sir. x

[@devilsoffspring5519]

It's not unconditional, though. Deliberately becoming a parent always comes with an agenda. Parents expect their kids to grow up and live their lives in accordance with their demands--usually certain minimum expectations for school marks when they're kids, and certain job titles and income range when they're adults. Otherwise, the parents will be disappointed in their kids and may even disown them.

[@areuarealman7269]

What does unconditional hate do ?

[@devilsoffspring5519]

@@areuarealman7269 Unconditional hate will cause kids to grow up with severe depression and anger, and causes antisocial personality disorder. By the time they're adults, it's almost impossible to treat even with ECT and powerful drugs (possibly including illegal drugs like MDMA.)

[@pitbossea]

Unconditional love does nothing but tell you no matter what you do it’s ok cause it doesn’t really matter.

[@dr.skulhamr3220]

Indeed! "If you knew how much everyone else is fakin' it, you wouldn't want to join them anyway." lol ... mother approved!

[@mrtambourineman6107]

Hey fuck you joey jerkoff!

[@gabrieljordan8015]

For me - being a loser just meant I stayed at home on Friday nights to read books or play video games and then when I got up on Saturday mornings I would just go to the gym for a few hours and that was pretty much it. I'm so glad I got my 20s out of the way back before social media became what it is today.

[@abelieverinabel6922]

dont call yourself a loser ..the losers are the people who go and start shooting random people for no reason u aren't a loser so stop calling yourself that please..

[@bxi1547]

Truth

[@jkellis2]

This has aged like fine wine for the past few years.

[@dulynoted2427]

“All the lonely people. Where do they all come from?” -Beatles

[@CAP198462]

Simon an Garfunkel maybe? “I am a rock, I am an island”

[@guancholi2441]

That's a damn good question, because they wouldn't exist if there hadn't been some very unlonely moments in their parents lives.😉

[@luisreyes1963]

"Where do they all belong?" 😢

[@vroom843]

One is the loneliest number . Three Dog Night

[@veratikon7882]

I was expecting him to just rag on young men, but i have been positively surprised. People need real friends. Truer words dont exist.

[@letsgetcancer7265]

Keyword being "real". Most friends are phony.

[@HappyBlanabaPlant]

Even if these folks do get real friends, they will probably eventually get jealous of their friends’ relationships and drive themselves back into isolation

[@veratikon7882]

@@HappyBlanabaPlant How can you know? Having real friends from a young age is possibly the best way for people to avoid the sort of anti-sosial behaviour you are talking about. Theres a reason people always tell you "go get some friends".

[@HappyBlanabaPlant]

Veratikon Ah, from a young age perhaps you’re right. I thought he meant getting these folks friends right now like that will change their minds all of a sudden

[@veratikon7882]

@@HappyBlanabaPlant Who you are around does affect your world view. Your opinions can change.

[@Dilomight]

When I had a Facebook account I had maybe 80 friends, people I actually knew that were mainly family members. When I met co-workers who wanted to be friends I was shocked that they knew like 5,000 people when they weren’t well liked at the workplace. I’ve deleted my Facebook account and don’t miss it. The ones that bothered me the most were the single parents posting‘heartfelt’ memes when I had an idea of what they were like in real life.

[@paulbitgood2117]

This is so accurate! Bill has hit the nail on the head here.

[@Thunderchief-rt3gt]

Martin Scorsese's 1970's classic "Taxi Driver" is more timely than ever. Recommend

[@StephanGrove]

Are you talking to me?... Are you talking to me.....? lol

[@donaldpaluga]

I hope not. We don't need to give the TRIGGERED snowflakes a reason to off someone to impress Alicia Christian "Ivanka" Trump

[@lucaa.6406]

They. Can’t. Touch. Her.

[@joseph4861]

@Jordan Moir why I hate tribes .... groups and people.

[@davehoward22]

If there were lots of people running round with guns,lots of people would have seen them

[@doughnutfingers]

15 Seconds in and I can already tell that this is the "Real Time" that we've desperately needed. Great job Bill.

[@lefttheleft8934]

@Alex M I like get it Alex like an infant like a little baby I am censoring my foul language that is what an infant you so funny Alex you funny guy.. hey dick head

[@hubgiles7889]

@Alex M Because they are needed in this case..

[@hubgiles7889]

Doughnutfingers, You are becoming self aware, choose your priorities carefully.

[@alricthered226]

@@lefttheleft8934: I want to know why you're having difficulty with elementary-level punctuation. I'm glad you "left the left." You couldn't possibly been representative of the general education level. I'd like to know what _leftist_ ideas you ever had, and what ideas do you have now.

[@bigmuscles250lbs]

Stopping bullying would prevent a lot of mass shootings.

[@timw4383]

I'm glad I watched to the end. Because he really hit the nail on the head.

[@AJR-zg2py]

This is actually one of the most compassionate takes I've heard on the subjects - Bill doesn't just write off "the losers" and makes an effort to educate people on the dangers of loneliness and finding an echo chamber that distorts your perspective. The internet is great... but like Bill said, while it makes communication easier it doesn't necessarily make it closer. It's a facsimile of the real thing.

[@dkupke]

AJR 1986 part of how Charlie Manson got his followers deranged to the point of murder was isolation. KeePing them as far from others as he could so there was no one around to say “Um, ya know kids...that’s crazy talk.”

[@fredyscanlan]

He still plays the audience for cheap degrading jokes. He started off well.

[@DeadDancers]

I’m not convinced that loneliness = murder other people...

[@fredyscanlan]

@@DeadDancers not always but if you live in a hyper macho society where you are either a badass or a soyboy, and everyone has guns, then someone will snap eventually. This shit only happens in America on the whole so it is a societal consequence. But yes loneliness shouldn’t equal go murder someone:)

[@fishbone3333]

@@fredyscanlan For every loser that rampages with a gun, there are hundreds of thousands who cope in non-murderous ways. I am so sick and tired of media trying to "understand" these killers. However, we are a gun-obsessed nation and there are hundreds of millions of us. Simple math suggests that we will have to endure the semi-frequent mass shooting, even though the perps are extreme outliers. There is no way in hell we, as a nation, will ever do anything to ameliorate this stark fact.

[@Informatic1]

One of my favorite Bill Maher speeches ever. This kind of stuff could bring the left and right together better than most people IMO

[@pgai824]

I legit felt this speech

[@brandaanderson1673]

What sane left leaning person wants to 'get together' with a bunch of idiotic, racist naïve fools who would vote for a traitor? Not this one.

[@kesh4171]

@@brandaanderson1673 Because you are a programmed moron with no thoughts of your own. Stop listening to the fake news, people on the right in general are not racist. Stop being part of the problem.

[@brettelway6576]

@@brandaanderson1673 As a republican, I enjoy hearing the truth about this thing by a guy who literally disagrees with everything I believe. You're the problem, and you seem to be excepting this divide that has happened between the left and the right .

[@neverlistentome]

How many guns protect Bill Maher? Remember, the left is fine with guns as long as you can afford private security to carry them. And if loneliness is the cause of gun violence, ban cell phones not guns.

[@francesa9776]

Nailed it! It will be a miracle if humanity survives social media and the Internet.

[@xelamercedes]

The Mike Pence Vibrator.....solid gold. Thanks for that.

[@teh201d]

The audience isn't laughing because it's a serious topic.

[@kimberlypanozzo8304]

Perhaps they never considered the ramifications of social media, and that we, as a culture /society, have a very large hand in this

[@Dokurider]

It's hitting a little too close to home for them.

[@Hirnlego999]

No, because he is making the matter too simplistic. As if other countries do not have loneliness problems. WTF.

[@HeyYouSA]

@@Dokurider Bingo

[@b1mw93]

Like that stop people from laughing anyway😒

[@jonesjack6088]

The really frightening part is that everyone is laughing about it....they are lauhging about it because they know it is true. Its easy to write all of these people off as crazy losers with guns but it misses a wider social problem.

[@tarquin113]

Jones Jack They’re laughing because otherwise Bill will chew out their asses

[@cisco8650]

Well, Maher did almost strike at what really is the problem in our society: too many males with grievances. I've been thinking about it a lot for the past several years...what the fuck is wrong with males?

[@JMyrk]

@@johnvanoort4673 Most of them don't have the balls, or aren't rock bottom enough, that's all.

[@TheEmanExperience]

white males get treated like shit now. you can discriminate, bully them, marginalize them, and group them up as violent racist thugs. the very thing the left I thought is or was against.

[@DjDarkD]

I find it scarier that the people in the audience hesitate to laugh, because their environment has made them believe that you aren't allowed to laugh about certain jokes. Left aside if the joke is good or not. It's always a specific type of joke that gets (even a crowd at Bill Maher) oo-ing en ah-ing, but not laughing.

[@stevemoreton2751]

So spot on..glad he has come atound

[@thomasallison1514]

This aged very well. Wake up.

[@kilifischkopp1442]

I love how Maher mixes some honesty and humanity into his sarcasm. He's a good guy. :)

[@debravalreyes2033]

How is he a good guy ? He believes in hoax stories and promotes them on his Jewish show.

[@lilbit5557]

@@debravalreyes2033 please, tell us just what good you are doing to bring awareness to the madness, as he said, these children are learning from the internet/social media, how to be a suicide bomber, American style. That is what makes him a good man, maybe you could learn something from this, maybe watch it again and pay attention this time, if you don't get then you're not paying attention to the world around. Spreading hate is not helping these children.

[@mrtambourineman6107]

Fuck you jerkwad! #maga

[@shimes424]

Social media (for most millennials, my gen) is basically high school 2.0 Life is a contest for these people

[@Smartass012]

Young men what about the shooter what about Sol Pias what Trans shooter

[@lking1540]

What about the guy who ran his car into the crowd, that guy needs better mental health, when will america have that conversation.

[@shimes424]

Whataboutism is an infectious disease. Facts and statistics are its anti-viral

[@lking1540]

@@shimes424 I'm pretty sure the guy who shoot up parkland had autism.

[@alricthered226]

@@Smartass012: I'm not following the meaning of your comment. What are you referring to, "Sol Pias" and "Trans shooter"?

[@stoney_2002]

I get told every now and then from people on TikTok that I give them "school shooter vibes" which to me hurts my self esteem more than anything. Of course I would never do anything like that ever, but for people to think about saying something like that constantly is a problem with the country. If only school shootings didn't happen as much, me and every one else who's been called things like that could avoid being called something that doesn't fit our character.

[@vytallicaq.6881]

Most people aren't going to get that vibe from you. Just focus on the positive-minded people, and dismiss the others. People who try to direct negative attention to others, are people who RECEIVE a lot of negative reactions themselves. And they don't know how to deal with it, so they just try to redirect the negative attention to someone else out of desperation. Don't feel humiliated when people are like that with you. Most people understand that the instigator is the one with the problem. ✌

[@cooliest2267]

Social media is again super toxic and superficial. Do you really think these ppl would say that to your face? I bet not lol. It's a false narrative to get in your head so the best thing is to have positive internet time

[@stoney_2002]

@@cooliest2267 Yes I totally agree. People who have nothing better to do than say things like that on social media are pretty much just cowards.

[@mariegarside8830]

Incels with anger issues, low self esteem and a gun. What could possibly go wrong?

[@michaelyoungstrom9412]

Bill nailed it! Especially the social media part. 100% true.

[@pengyzin8668]

He's absolutely right

[@DeadDancers]

Then how come other countries don’t also have problems with mass shootings?

[@jebidiahnewkedkracker1025]

Well better ban it then...Get those primarily DEMOCRAT politicians from Caifornia to do their grandstanding and pose for photo ops, and spout off THEIR talking points....

[@jebidiahnewkedkracker1025]

@@DeadDancers They have stricter gun control laws/regulations....But before you might think of saying "Amen"--- ask yourself if you REALLY want to live in those other countries. There are plenty of CHINESE that would rather live HERE, I'm willing to bet. I am also willing to surmise that other countries may not have mass shootings like we do,but despite their their strict gun control, still have significant gun related crimes in their major cities never the less.(We know for a fact that MEXICO doesn't have any firearm problems😂😒) Also remember the journalistic motto: "If it bleeds it leads!" Regular gun crimes like "angry husband shoots wife and lover" or "desprado shoots gas station clerk", or even gang shootout kills two" is too blase and boring--Mass shootings are MUCH more exciting to report on. If the former types of stories make newspapers at all they are relegated to the "back pages"

[@Milesco]

@@DeadDancers Also, other countries have universal healthcare, so people with mental health problems can get treatment before they go completely off the deep end.

[@rickjohnson9558]

I'm white, 55, have no friends, and haven't been laid since the Clinton Administration. I wish what Bill was saying wasn't true, but it absolutely is. I've thought often about departing this mortal coil---thankfully, I've never been attracted to reactionary politics, and am intelligent enough to realize my problems are of my own making. Last nights episode really made me think.

[@rickjohnson9558]

@Jason S. Thanks---I'm just saying that whatever misery I endure is of my own creation, and you can't blame "other" for your own misery and unhappiness. Gotta look in the mirror.

[@skyking6989]

Im 32 introverted and extremely lonely cant get laid either but that dosent mean i want to commit mass murder. These guys think getting laid is all that matters in life but there is so much more to life then getting ass

[@aaronmerkel5216]

when i'm out, i sometimes take pictures and joke "look like we're all having fun so we can make everyone jealous on facebook" LOL

[@rara1800]

Don’t always agree with Bill Maher but I think he’s on to something here

[@osxgp]

As Bill said before, social media is more like anti-social media. Not an exact quote but he nailed it

[@knelle1114]

Social media is a waste of time, except for youtube, where you can actually learn things.

[@PARIS8500]

Agreed SM has little redeeming value but I do greatly value the Internet.

[@Cbd_7ohm]

Not fully. Depends on what you follow. There are some great Instagram posts. Their censorship bad though.

[@whatevernevermind5960]

I only use YT & Reddit.

[@donklem3270]

Unless of course you say something the Yootoob controllers don’t like, like a conservative view, or anti-Vac comment, or saying the 2020 election was a rip off steal, which it was.

[@sp4nrs]

@@donklem3270 😂😂😂 go back to to 8chan buddy, they’re missing your wild stories. This segment was about you lol

[@herecomesawoman7975]

I was a complete outcast and nerd. I know I am not male and I do know that the bullying I see that is the cruelest is directed at the men. However, for someone who felt like complete shit about herself, after high school I was able to build my self-esteem and had some great times. I want to tell these young men this. You can define yourself and make your own way in this world. Just because your little shitty high school doesn’t have room does NOT mean the world won’t have room for you. Bill is right, everyone is faking it anyway. No one is having that much fun and if you have to use social media to prove you are “living your best life” then you have missed the mark by a country mile.

[@RAIRADIO]

Why does America think that they are the only people with loneliness and mental breakdowns? If that was really the issue, then this epidemic would happen to every country.

[@TunTheOfficial]

The first minute was honestly some real shit.

[@b1mw93]

All of it.

[@donaldtingler9213]

Do you own a gun you show it to your friends are you in a little group at school of gun owners

[@DeandreKey]

When he said the cup of noodles joke I looked over and remembered I was eating noodles 😨

[@edvh88]

Noodles are one of the best things in this world. Eat your noodles with pride!

[@HappyLife-tg8yy]

@sebatian LMFAO

[@HappyLife-tg8yy]

How about you eat beans instead of noodles you dummy?

[@Meemeeseecoo]

Hell yeah those noodles are killer.

[@jonathanlockett5358]

I'm watching this at the plasma center

[@robinrahmani4705]

Maher and his team of writers are superb. No other show talks about issues in the same style and manner as he does. Such a great mix of comedy and discussion of serious matters.

[@vunguy3n]

Great job on this one, Bill. Spot on.

[@Timbales1979]

It says "Mother Approved" toward the bottom of the box of the Mike Pence Vibrator! 😂😂

[@b1mw93]

Now that is comedy.

[@mrtambourineman6107]

Er thanks for pointing that out...you must get through a lot of vibrators asshole! Ha

[@hubgiles7889]

@Saint Christopher Pence has a wife?

[@tlindfld]

Lolololol

[@Dino-Hrnic.]

Hehe its funny cus pence didnt rape anyone and bill maher considers him a total loser cus of that not cool like bill clinton hehe goooo democrats democrat governer ralph northam says trump is a racist and he is in the kkk so he knows soooo cool both bills and ralph are so cool all democrats are soooo coooooooooooooool

[@DarthSparhawk]

He is very right. Don't compare yourself to others and find real mates to have a drink with.

[@microeconomia2561]

Wow! This guy can be prophetic at times. Seeing this "New Rule" posted in august 2019 and how compelling to these present days` reality it is makes me wonder why the problem of loneliness has not been addressed. Where is the business minded attitude of Americans to solve problems? It is time so show it.

[@trews1]

wow. until I saw your comment I didn't even realise this wasn't a recent video. So you're right, this is just as relevant now as it was three years ago

[@fredlebhart1393]

Researches have found the links between all of these shooters and a checklist of what to watch out for. Just saw that tidbit in the news today. Its suicide directed outward, to the people the shooter feels wronged them. They are planning on dying. Makes fighting it a little different.

[@mfv2024]

I was just thinking the same thing.

[@blacblack7187]

Most people won't admit that they're lonely and dissatisfied with their lives, especially on social media. The "living the dream" delusion is very real and strong here in America. Social media, combined with non-stop advertising is as much of a killer as cancer and obesity in the U.S.

[@gerrywhelan5761]

"Where ....................solve problems" you mean to make money but not solve problems is the real American attitude, America has become like a business really, a giant shopping mall!

[@timwhiteside9971]

bill you're totally on point with this one .

[@lbriley7426]

From someone who considers themselves right wing. Well done Bill Maher for speaking the truth. 👏🥳

[@lbriley7426]

Cactus Jack Using proper grammar.

[@lbriley7426]

Cactus Jack Well at least you still got to accuse me of being a Nazi, nice.

[@SmugSuspenders]

@Cactus Jack Cactus Jack won this argument. He was serious about wanting to hear your motivations

[@RoastedLocust]

@@SmugSuspenders , yeah, bubba didn't want to tell the truth that he's pro-gun and really just liked Bill's statement that guns don't kill people; seething loners that can't get laid kill people. Bill never said we shouldn't have better gun control though.

[@SmugSuspenders]

@@RoastedLocust Hubba Bubba!

[@landofthelivingskies3318]

I cant complain. I was a kid in the 70's, a teen in the 80's and my 20's were the 90's. Life wasn't complicated and we learnt how to be decent people by watching Seasame Street and Oprah.

[@rezelltheblack]

Also when we got our asses kicked at school it wasn't on KZbin for us to be made fun of for the rest of our lives

[@hodaka1000]

70's 80's AC/DC at the local pubs.

[@LazarusSlade]

Well, one car argue these two shows in particular, planted the seeds of this self-esteem movement and the victimhood mentality! This lessons should have been taught to you by your parents, not t.v. shows!

[@KatieRaeRae]

And Mr. Rogers ❤

[@toshiyaar7885]

Yay! (PS 90s best decade of last century)

[@xx_Joker_xx]

So true! BRAVO for telling it like it is!

[@rachelweyenberg9574]

This is golden!! Epic. Thank you Bill Maher👊

[@michaelalvarez1268]

I continue to watch Bill solely because of his writers. Thanks you, you academic, underappreciated nerds. I appreciate your perspectives.

[@ramonmoreno8014]

Ignorant

[@motogun1040]

This is SO accurate. Good job, people NEED to hear this

[@lindamiller5026]

Bill, I am a female, not pretty, and always picked last in gym... But I am a law abiding wife, mom and grandmother. I love your humor! You are my favorite Libertarian!!!

[@mrejpeguero]

He is more neutral than ever.

[@Willverinerage]

I honestly think this one is the best new rule he's EVER done, he blended the comedy, in the beginning, and then got very serious at the end. Finishing off with a GREAT line.

[@SmokinSilentJoE]

Social media is extremely fake. I have never had a Myspace or Facebook and I can tell you I'm a lot happier then most. I have my wife, kids, and family which is my social media.

[@SpyroTDragon]

But you have youtube.

[@christeenkimmel4907]

KZbin is entertaining, facebook and twitter are sewers.

[@astonrude1013]

SpyroTDragon the irony

[@minimumeffort4948]

@@SpyroTDragon I have no real profile on YT, I don't post anything about my life, I sub to channels I like and that's about it. Not everyone puts out content on YT. It's also way easier to disconnect from.

[@kalvindotcom]

This one had me rolling. The cut their own bangs and the mike pence vibrator hahahaha

[@Wh00says]

Nothing denotes a great point more than a long awkward pause and a compelled applause 🤷‍♂️

[@TheMantisStrikesAgain]

4:00 I'm watching this while eating a cup of noodles!

[@rato7718]

that noodle is looking at you, did you hear that, that noodle knows nothing!

[@wcsxwcsx]

Now you're on the list!

[@mikeleblanc5030]

Bragger I'd love some noodle's I just get the broth .....noodles is for company 😀

[@Joelivingsten1667]

The horror

[@johnrencheck2283]

I wouldnt eat that shit on a plate give me cup a soup or give me death!!

[@MrPlaiedes]

Tough crowd. Bill crushed it as always. I'm 8 months clean off facebook.

[@ignisterzone5399]

I have not been on Facebook for more than 5 years. Life has been better since I quit.

[@bolasblancas420]

Out since 2014... My phone is my tv.. Not my social life.

[@Quball87]

I'm six months clean from Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Much better life and mental health

[@pamsniderhan3054]

I'm a never wanted to get Facebook. Thought IT was a stupid thing too begin with..told ALL my friends I want to be able to see them when we talk because I like their company. I went to be able to see them when they're laughing or whatever..and if they don't like that's their problem I'll just wait till it's obvious that the Facebook craze ENDS Because it will..Lol

[@anitabooker1311]

Good 4 U. Stay away from Facebook.

[@jacksontobacco469]

Awesome monologue Bill Maher! Everything you said was soo true!🎯🤣

[@chesterdesmond666]

“People take pictures of the happy moments in their lives. Someone looking through our photo album would conclude that we had led a joyous, leisurely existence free of tragedy. No one ever takes a photograph of something they want to forget.” -Sy Parrish -One Hour Photo (yes I know it is a movie not real life)

[@peteroleary8964]

I'm 50 years old. I've had the same 3 friends for 30+ years. I'm on the intergeek a helluva lot. Never have I ever thought that anyone else was better than me, or was having more fun than me. I've never had the urge to kill someone who doesn't have the same opinions as I do. Why? Dunno. Maybe it's because I can read a book, listen to music or go for a walk. Maybe it's cos my parents told me - at the age of 4 - "As long as you're happy with yourself, it doesn't matter a Tinker's Curse what other people think of you.". From 1973 until today, I have not given one shit about what anyone thinks of me, and yet I've had people want to spend time with me; Listen to some of my ideas and thoughts; Laugh at my crappy jokes and just appreciate being around me. I could take people or leave them. If you don't like me - no skin off my nose; I like me. Once you stop wanting other peoples validation, and just appreciate your own, you'll be so much better off. People who need people AREN'T the luckiest people. They're just pathetic cretins who need validation because they have no self-worth. People who matter don't care. People who care don't matter.

[@frankmaitland2569]

So you are Anecdotal

[@michaelpondo6324]

Thats a great insight into your blessed life. Wish we could all say that and really mean it. Great for you thanks.

[@hangukhiphop]

Same but without all the shitting on people who aren't like me. We all got our own problems...

[@hecommentswithmyhandle1698]

☺ You're exactly like me. ☺ I used to care so much what people thought. Now I don't give a f! 😂 It's really quite liberating. 😂 You can bleed out for some people, and they will complain your blood isn't red enough. It's a dead end job to try to please anybody. People pleasers live in revolving doors. They can never make a decision, cause they don't know who they are. Crap. How boring life would be if we were all the same anyway! I love to argue! 😄👉👈

[@MK-hh1vo]

@@tonyanzalone384 The quote is saying people who matter don't care (about social media.status) and people who care (about social media status) don't matter. Get it?

[@Hollowsmith]

"Social media provides just enough companionship to prevent our motivation to leave home and meet real people. But meeting real people isn't just about companionship. It's also about interacting with lives outside our algorithmic echo chambers enough to identify reality, and realize how much reality differs from those echo chambers."- Tristan Harris

[@Tommykey07]

I noted the same thing before he did this monologue. So many mass shooters are friendless and bitter and shooting sprees is there way of lashing out at the world that they can't fit into.

[@kathleencochrane9698]

These are the best explanations I've heard!

[@MrGriff305]

This was a brilliant segment that I wish everyone would see. BTW.. I don't do social media. I prefer KZbin addiction.

[@maryroberts1813]

You're impressionable and dumber than dogshit,libtard.

[@bulidrians2182]

@@maryroberts1813 Is this necessary ?

[@rodprops]

Same here

[@marcopolo2375]

@@maryroberts1813 hey, bitch, what's your problem?

[@MrGriff305]

@@maryroberts1813 Are you a bot? You sound programmed.

[@dd22musicfan1]

That last line might be the best line he's ever said on his show. Truly inspiring writing.

[@necessaryJustice_4all]

Thanks Bill. Well said, as always.

[@erlstone]

the solution is to be a "volunteer".. for anybody, at anytime and at any age... help others and good things will happen to you