Are you actually ugly or do you just go on TikTok too much?

[@saraheb5080]

Deleting social media and being in public all day and seeing normal people has honestly cured my social anxiety and hatred of myself. It’s literally a poison to society.

[@causal_internetuser]

yep

[@Bizarrebarbie]

Thissssss

[@nessaloveslife]

This happened to me. I would go out assuming people were disgusted by me because I didn't have a full face of make up and perfect caterpillar brows or follow the latest fashion trend. Then I realized literally NO ONE CARES in real life. The beauty trends are all in our heads.

[@erikagreatrix4925]

Yep. I haven’t been on fb in almost 5 months and I am so much happier, and I feel so much more confidence.

[@xbabu142x]

Yup, socializing only gets easier if you socialize more and IF that is your thing. Forcing weird conventions on yourself from being bored but getting restless is not a good route haah

[@charlottebuijteweg7160]

I remember my mom seeing a glass skin end result of a video and just going “why is her face still wet?” It just completely made me realise the absurdity of the look

[@aihrtradio]

glass skin is a literal scam😭 their face looks wet because it IS wet (they film the video right after doing skincare... their face absolutely does not look like that after one hour)

[@ivatimova3556]

@@aihrtradioespecially with Tiktok having a default beauty filter which you have to go out of your way to turn off. There was this girl talking about how she noticed it and thinking to herself ‘where did my pimple from 5 mins ago go?’ 😃

[@idontreadorreply]

​@@aihrtradiomine does though

[@idontreadorreply]

Beauty is subjective :)

[@luxekook]

@@idontreadorreplyExactly. They said their subjective opinion.

[@Shr00mbunny]

Women’s bodies always being fast fashion is my Roman Empire

[@fragilebean6191]

THIS

[@Shanana234]

Omg wait.. YOURE SO RIGHT WHAT

[@mariamart_0]

TRUTH. Women’s bodies throughout history in every time, period, culture, and country has been a fashion trend. Lmao.

[@shiannafoxx]

You're so real for this

[@Jordansilva-h2i]

YES!! MINE TOO and even women skin colour is trending throughout time. In the 30s and 40s you’d have to be extremely skinny with no a$$ and bo0b$ then came the 50s it was the chubby hourglass till the 60s (you needed to be pale), in the 70s skinny but not too skinny came in trend, in the 80s and 90s it was the heroin chick trend (pale skin was a must) where you need to be extremely skinny to the point of anorexia and having a rectangular body, same thing with the early 2000s (tan skin was trendy), then came the 2010-2014 Tumblr era which affected me a lot with the Victoria Secret model’s body trends. The 2015-2018 trend (everyone wanted to be black) where you needed to have a tiny waist with big a$$ and b0ob$, slim fat. And in East and South Asia you have to be extremely pale, while in the western world is tanning. Let’s not forget that if you’re ‘ugly’ you’ll be treated bad and if you’re ‘attractive’ you’ll also be treated bad.

[@jemimajanvier4706]

Social media has made us forget what real skin looks like. A lot of these skin care videos are filtered and blemishes are hidden under good lighting. Yes, nice skin exists. But when was the last time you saw someone in real life with literally zero pores?

[@hotelbintang5797]

I found myself having pores all the time so when it comes to when did I saw pores? I'd say It's very recent tbh haha

[@celestea_.]

Right especially teenagers I had to tell my friend that it was normal to have her skin breakout from time to time because she’s going through puberty and her hormones are fluctuating.

[@soleil7259]

That's why people should go out more. As i worked in graphics, people these days like to present themselves as game characters and even they have more texture 😂

[@ArmantoAlex13]

Bella and Beyonce have had plastic surgery; so, find us someone who is ‘perfectly symmetrical’ NATURALLY!!

[@chelseaxoxo784]

Today My mom

[@starrydew]

one quote from mean girls i always think about is "i used to think there was only skinny and fat, but apparently theres a lot of things that can be wrong with your body"

[@gardeasimokejr5697]

The problem in that quote is the word "wrong".

[@Moi-ll1rt]

As a woman with severe acne, I can confirm that the glass skin trend was devastating for me Edit: the answers under my comment are so nice, thank you

[@isxbelle._.]

yeah acne is a natural thing that happens. I also don't like the trends where people treat acne as abnormal. personally I think acne is beautiful❤

[@lisakanzira6765]

OH MY GOSH YOU DON'T KNOW HOW REAL THIS IS

[@ForeverBlooming-05]

I don’t even have bad acne but this trend is such bs

[@Beautifulm3rcy]

Right! It took me a while to realize I have NORMAL skin! I thought something was wrong with my face because it had texture and bumps while these influences appear to have completely smooth and shiny skin.

[@AsteriskBlight]

Lot of women are also on hormonal birth control that usually fixes their skin. This is something i need to remind myself of

[@Soysaucyy]

I agree about the hip dips. I definitely understand the insecurity, however, I just don't find it something to personally be ashamed of. It's literally a bone structure that occurs in all humans; it's normal. I love hip dips.

[@chidiogoikeh4550]

Not all people have hips dips

[@violet12345]

Hip dips are completely natural. I also think they’re very hot tbh! (Totally valid to have them as an insecurity tho)

[@luvlydaytoday]

@@chidiogoikeh4550everyone has hip dips, some are less visible

[@ShutupandListen]

@@chidiogoikeh4550everyone has them, some are more or less visible 😂

[@leslie3550]

What's funny is that hip dips were considered to be sexxy when I was younger! Fashion, looks, makeup, everything comes and goes. They're known as trends. And a new trend will come. But maybe it's actually from 20 years ago!

[@emilygwynne6994]

A lot of men seem to think looksmaxxing is what they need to get a woman but when you actually read studies of what women care most about when selecting a long term partner, looks ain’t it! It’s “beta” traits like kindness, compassion, and trustworthiness. Being mainstream hot might help you get laid but not if your personality sucks.

[@xbabu142x]

Being hot with zero conversation ability is a terrible look the older one gets and that goes for either gender.

[@summero-my5in]

Ok but looksmaxxing when it’s just keeping up with hair hygiene, skin care and staying relatively healthy with food and exercise should be encouraged. It just doesn’t need that stupid name

[@stunnawhirl]

@@summero-my5inYes but a few months ago it did a complete 180 and is now about “mogging” other people, impressing women or just bullying people who don’t have a scientifically perfect face

[@larissabrglum3856]

Right, people of both sexes care more about looks for casual sex and less about looks for long-term relationships. If your goal is to get yourself a wife, personality matters a lot more.

[@notme8152]

But it's important to remember, "genuine" kindness, compassion etc... not the classic nice guy facade who secretly feels entitled to everything and hates women

[@cowboybuttz]

I stopped using TikTok six months ago and have not stopped preaching about this since thank you thank you thank you for bringing awareness to this

[@amiraa_...]

We can all be happier without this app. I deleted it in 2020❤

[@araiksims6322]

I've never had it but it feels like I can't escape the trends and standards

[@Alatus_Alias]

The real question is, have you stopped watching Yt shorts?😢 cause since ive stopped using tt for about a year ive been on Yt shorts 😮

[@Jessparada]

I stopped using it a year ago.

[@vvitch-mist20]

I stopped using it a few months ago. I got nervous about how I couldn't watch longer KZbin videos, so I decided to get rid of the app. Salty over KZbin shorts but I can at least switch to a long form video rather than go to an entirely different app.

[@the.sapling]

Personally I think you can’t glow up unless you’ve completely settled into your adult body. Like glowing up as a teenager is literally just growing into your adult body.

[@iamsydneydianeofficial]

Your right

[@sparklykitten0]

That's a pretty disturbing thought. I seen 10 years olds buying tongs to match their bras. Getting vit C creams and face rollers. Made me so sad and disturbed to see this in real life.. Made m

[@the.sapling]

@@sparklykitten0 how is what I said 1) disturbing or 2) related to 10 yr olds getting matching underwear sets??

[@flowerpower7065]

Teens are botching their under developed bodies. They dont know that theres a “second puberty” where your skin becomes loose and your body gathers more body fat and skin is less resistant, starts at about 24-26. Its the transitional phase of leaving a petite body over to a full grown developed body. 🤷🏻‍♀️ yall admired the older females like margo robbie until its you that has to age. Aging is a privilege denied to many.

[@the.sapling]

@@flowerpower7065 that end bit sounds personal 😭

[@vtheory7531]

Its just annoying how with the 'glass skin' trend, its only trendy when you have unblemished acne free skin. If you have 'glass skin' but you also have acne, then its just plain ol oily skin. They really expectin us to have our cake and eat it too.

[@yooomama4295]

Nah it’s just oily not glass 😂

[@PrincessYonna1]

Nobody has glass skin 24/7

[@1kidnamedfinger]

i've never in my life seen someone with natural glass skin, maybe if they put something on their skin they could achieve it but it aint natural.

[@lollopolli2962]

​@@1kidnamedfinger fr like me too especially at school like everyone has acne and it's not a bad thing

[@summero-my5in]

Not to mention those people are all using filters. Literally never seen a single person irl with the skin that every other girl on tiktok has 😂

[@riverrichardson1178]

Moral of the story: Beauty trends go in and out of fashion so love yourself because you’ll never truly fit into every single beauty standard.

[@Kamfechi]

I think Marilyn Monroe is an exception

[@thatsclownshit3145]

​@@Kamfechime when i can't read

[@Kamfechi]

@@thatsclownshit3145 me when I can't understand simple grammar

[@picahudsoniaunflocked5426]

Being real --- this is just as hard & just as glib as "insert beauty standard here'. Where's the magic button for me to press so I "love myself"? Like you're talking about something that can be a lifelong struggle for people, for whatever reasons, & we can spend as much money on the tools to learn to love ourselves as we do on beauty stuff. I agree we should "love ourselves" but I feel like we skip a million steps when we present that as a solution for societal disorders. I'd like to see more pragmatic solutions for how to get to loving ourselves. I want everyone in the world to have everything they need to feel good & I want everyone who isn't hurting other people to accept themselves, but maybe the world has to start being more accepting + loving to all of us, maybe we all need to be loving + accepting towards each other (if we're not hurting others). Maybe we shouldn't be putting the full force of fighting the culture on our individual shoulders.

[@ZoraSingsohh]

Amen

[@roiffeJJK]

looksmaxxing shouldn't even be a thing, cause it is just basically taking good care of yourself and we all should be doing that right ( excluding meowing and these weird exercises that's unnecessary ).

[@thesevenkingswelove9554]

Yeah but a lot of men don't even do the bare minimum that's why this trend exists 😂😅

[@Jordansilva-h2i]

@@thesevenkingswelove9554EXACTLY ARMY!! Those kind of men call other men who do ‘skin care’ gay…like it’s something everyone supposed to do it’s basic hygiene

[@juiciekiss]

looksmaxxing and the community is also so racist 😭

[@ritaa1359]

@@Jordansilva-h2iis ur def if self care looksmaxxing cuz there two different things looksmaxxing is where u fix ur teeth and have them white as day sharp jawline face needs to be perfect symmetrical and body lookin like body builder although it’s easy to achieve abs muscle 💪 the teeth and the jawline and face is the insecurity girls have that makes them get filler no doubt these men got it too to make there jawline noticeable

[@bria7885]

I did looksmaxing and I have improved so much though as a girl haha. I think it is helpful.

[@soogyu2468]

I feel like you should’ve talked about the whole button nose thing. It’s like people without small and perfectly slanted noses can’t exist on TikTok. Almost EVERY single filter changes your nose. They change skin color too which is so?? The changes in tone are WAYYY too much how does a brown person magically go pale?

[@imawakemymindisalive13]

see i have the PERFECT attributes, just in the wrong places. my nose has a very curvy, hourglass shape while my body is skinny and flat, straight up and down. i’ve got massive feet and small eyes. 💀💀 i’d probably want to kill myself if i got ahold of tiktok filters. i’ve stayed away thus far…

[@lindat.6743]

I agree with you! It's even seeped into makeup trends. Folks will contour the fuuuccc out of their nose to make it as tiny as possible even if it doesn't look natural or if their natural nose fits their face better! Crazzy world!

[@maddy_913]

I agree. I don’t have a “perfect” nose. My nose isn’t straight and it doesn’t perk up. I feel like it’s nearly impossible to find a teenage girl with a nose similar to mine and that is confident about it, especially on beautytok. everyone has such a straight button nose and I can never relate to anyone and or feel proud to see someone with an ethnic nose. But I’ve seen what a beautiful and confident women my mother is with my same nose and she gives me the confidence I need❤

[@0mfgeeze]

People forget that tiktok is a Chinese owned app. They are Asian beauty standards and a part of that culture.

[@forgetmaenott]

I still remember that TikTok calling button noses an “angel nose” and hooked noses a “witch nose”. I have what I suppose they’d call a witch nose and gradually I’ve learned to like it more. Not seeing all that nonsense about button noses has helped so much.

[@Makkiiii]

I deleted tiktok back in 2021 and i cannot stop telling you how much better my life has been since then. Even convinced some of my friends to do the same. It’s become such a toxic app all about looks

[@makaila8860]

Exactly

[@Beautifulm3rcy]

Same!

[@aesthetix3398]

Ikr

[@anayaa664]

Same with insta I deleted 4 months ago and life is just so peaceful

[@Kimmy_95]

​@@anayaa664you're right about Instagram. Before TikTok this app also made many insecure. I downloaded both but NEVER got addicted so I don't understand why so many get hooked on it

[@jessiet7599]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks they look like aliens and gets creeped out by guys trying to be seductive in the way they look at the camera... I agree it's super creepy

[@celestea_.]

I laugh at videos like that they’re so funny to me 😂

[@gwendolenyoung4198]

I cringe.

[@Insomnia19101]

It’s hilarious tbh how they think they’re sexy alphas it makes me laugh at them

[@terricagarey8731]

Yes those cheeks are all so sharp

[@pillbugm8914]

Those videos are so funny though

[@Raven-wq4li]

the best advice i have for people like me who get easily intimidated/insecure by the beauty pushed on tiktok and other social media is go outside. literally, in the less mean way possible. just go anywhere there's people. youll see that were all just normal people doing our own thing, of all shapes and sizes, no tiktok face, no filter.

[@the.sapling]

Everybody outside is TikTok pretty near me … I’ve come to the conclusion I’m just actually ugly

[@hanabakhouch8558]

​@@the.saplinghey i don't kniw where you live or hiw old you are but let me tell you one thing. I'm 28 going on 29 and I've had so many insecurities About my face and body despite literally having si many features people tell me they would kill to have. I was so brainwashed by Instagram back in the day, I'm glad my account got somehow hacked because it improved my mental health so much. Nobody looks like they do on Instagram. And nobody looks like they do on Tiktok irl. And the people who do, all look the same and wear the same clothes and have the same lips. It really is boring to me. The one true Moment i realize i was truly brainwashed was when i went to a sauna and saw REAL people some of my age and some way older. Some people have ashy skin, some look super toned, some people are hairy, older people have wrinkles etc. since then i started to almost just look at people in real life and i observe their features and theres literally at least one feature on a person that's cool, striking or just suits them so well. Once you realize how unique you are and how to embrace it, your confidence will sky rocket and you'll start loving yourself. It took me a good 10 years to get here and I still have a long way to go and I really wish u the best

[@ggraverobber]

Where do you live? If it's a big city, then you're out of luck since everyone slightly above average looks is flocking there.@@the.sapling

[@Ghostlove92Kat]

not where i live. everyone is perfect and beautiful and it makes me feel like an ogre.

[@the.sapling]

@@ggraverobber just outside (and kinda between) two tourist cities so if I’m “out of luck” 😭😭

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

I was a swimwear model in the early 2000’s and hip dips were a coveted feature because it revealed you were fit and lean… Trends are crazy. Just be healthy and look like a human. That’s all I got to say.

[@leonamanu1619]

your kidding, people actually liked hip dips??

[@aprilausthetic443]

That’s like one of my biggest insecurities that’s insane

[@missfineplace]

​@@leonamanu1619 girl ofc they loved it before these crazy social media models it is even crazy to give a name to that bone it's just a body part and gorgeous

[@imzabatch]

Wow, that's crazy. Ty for sharing!

[@feliciaf8]

damn didnt know that, i should love my own more T.T

[@WhoCaresAlisha]

I was bullied as kid and it took me a while to heal as an adult. The "looksmaxxing" people have sent me unsolicited messages and comments on social media. It really felt like the same thing repackaged under "constructive help".

[@imawakemymindisalive13]

real, it’s the same feeling when someone with genetically clear skin tells you to just wash your face and that if you would have basic hygiene, you wouldn’t have any acne. like okay jessica, thanks for telling me that. i didn’t know hygiene existed- you’re right, that’s definitely the problem. 💀💀💀

[@star67811]

looksmaxxing is js improving urself bro..... the black pill community are the "brutal" side ur talking abt

[@imzabatch]

@@imawakemymindisalive13 Thank you! I know someone who has had good skin all their life (they're 35 now and still true) and do NOTHING for their skin, don't drink enough water, and has a poor diet. Meanwhile I do so much to take care of myself and my skin and none of it has every helped my acne. People don't want to admit genetics play the BIGGEST role in how they naturally look.

[@Whatever37393]

@@star67811what’s black pill?

[@star67811]

@@Whatever37393 "looks are everything" "genetics are everything"

[@hkkobayashi7657]

Being constantly shown all these hot people is just not good for some people. When I look around the real world, I see normal people. Normal beautiful people. People who have blemishes and real freckles and they dress basic and normal. They look great and cute. But tiktok and every other social media wants you to believe that everyone should look perfect and flawless. But those people wouldn't date normal people. They worry too much about their looks and shit. I just feel sorry for the younger generation. They are involved in it so much more I never cared for looks. But stuff was still happening when I was young. We had some youtubers and singers that we wanted to look like. But nothing like this where we call out every different thing about us and try to get rid of it.

[@VideosForYou90]

Facts!

[@saulgoodgrrrl]

I agree 100% and I think so many of the issues people (particularly young ones) have today is because there is an overwhelming deluge of stimuli everywhere--we haven't evolved to see hyper-perfect people everywhere and it takes a toll on our self-esteem, even if we know it's achieved through filters, surgery, makeup etc. Now it's not even body image, people are feeling this way about politics and every other conceivable thing because it seems like the whole world is talking at us...shit ain't normal

[@lauraIarua]

Discordo sobre o básico. Pessoas são lindas se vestindo como gostam e querem.

[@RoseThorn48]

I totally agree with your take on hip dips I think hip dips are so beautiful, I'm an artist and I love to add hip dips to my character designs (I kinda like to add design traits that fight dumb beauty standards in general) I don't get how anyone could dislike these traits that are so beautifully human

[@ZoinEoin]

IKRR, since I learned what hip dips(I didn’t see any hate abt it yet) I started seeing that i had large hip dips and i just think they’re cute tbh!!

[@RoseThorn48]

@@ZoinEoin exactly! It makes me so happy for people to have more things about themselves to love and I hope more people can realize that they're beautiful no matter what!

[@nattievoices]

Personally I love my hip dips. I use to not have them since I was really heavy but now that I’ve lost weight and they are more visible I’m proud to see them when I wear clothes

[@rowenebell]

I personally hate my hip dips. They look cute on other people but I personally think they look weird on me. I know they're a natural thing but I'm very skinny and the hip dips just make me look worse. I'm not shaming them or calling them ugly, I just really hate mine

[@Sweets4mee]

Personally as someone who hates my hip dips is because its not often seen among people even though I know others have it and it's normal it's not seen on beautiful people as they have perfect curve hips it makes me realize how weird I look in clothing because of my hip dips compared to others

[@lucyluvsya27]

looksmaxxing and glowup videos started as “self improvement” and now it feels like “how i got rid of this normal feature that i was brainwashed into thinking is weird

[@misashanoo4322]

If only people put as much effort into being kind, helping others and making the world a better place as they put in to look perfect these days.

[@marajones1828]

I remember the day I looked in the mirror and in horror rushes to my mom crying about how something was “wrong” about my hips. Before I even knew there was a term hip dips, I knew my hips didn't look like the ones portrayed in media so for my young mind I assumed it meant MY hips were abnormal. If I had a time machine I would go back and tell my younger self that my body was completely normal and that the media beauty standards were the abnormal ones.

[@Kayla-cr8bg]

Same thing happened to me with stretch marks… I got them on my thighs before puberty and I didn’t even know what they were 😞 Thought I had hurt myself. It’s truly sad

[@mihaelatrpevski3857]

Literally me being very insecure about my hips since i was fifth grdae thinking that i should have a thigh gap, and no hip dips. So later on that affected me in very bad way

[@pinkmenace2452]

same experience

[@jin394]

One thought I had a day later is that some of my feeling ugly doesn't just come from seeing others on social media but the own digitization of my face. Like I can look at myself in a mirror and think I look decently attractive but then as soon I take a photo it warps it. The one trend I actually did like online was the one showing people's faces from up close vs far away and zoomed in as it showed that camera angles can change how your face looks. But I have yet to master taking great photos so I often end up internalizing my bad photos rather than the good ones. My 'good' photo is back camera mirror selfie but I feel like I'm cat fishing when I use those! So stepping off media and tech can still help with that. Trust the mirror, not just your camera etc.

[@blairxxxxxxxx]

I needed this. I like my mirror version a lot.

[@c4tac133]

@@blairxxxxxxxxand the mirror is real life too. Also, i heard from somewhere that phone cameras really do warp the way you look (flattening the face b/c it’s translating a 3d image onto a 2d device) if you want a more dimensional look you can angle your face and body but yeah the camera lies

[@TheExostan]

same. i look horrible on every taken picture and see every tine asymmetry on my face

[@neomu-multi]

hell yeah, it’s got to a point where i don’t take pictures anymore cause it completely ruins my mood

[@loreleitwins]

this is so true, i haven't taken a picture of myself in 4 years (by myself, i've posed in group photo's and such) and it's making me so sad because i like how i look in the mirror but the camera just won't capture that). it's really hard to take care of myself when i barely see myself and i'm trying to get out of this vicious cycle by minimizing social media use. though i really wish i could just think of myself as pretty in the camera once and take some pics for my private insta to share with my friends :(

[@NicolesBookishNook]

Oh, the acne struggles! My face, shoulders, chest, and upper back looked like a solar system of zits. It was so bad, I was on acutane for a year! But now I have great skin and get compliments from it, but I remember family members saying they were embarrassed for me, they didn't want to go out in public with me, etc. and I don't talk to those nasty people anymore.

[@NicolesBookishNook]

I don't have many social media outlets so post stuff and so I just forget, but for that few year span of bad acne, no pictures. I cannot blame my teen self at all@pinkturtle2016

[@kianamcintyre9671]

So glad you don't talk to those people. I always hated how family members would treat you horrible then curse you for not talking to your own "family".

[@NicolesBookishNook]

I feel the same way though it took a while to accept that. They were so nasty in other was too, like pinching me until I cried, throwing snacks at me when I asked for some, making fun of my voice/hair/eyes, etc. and so on for ages, and thinking that was cute. I really don't see why they'd think that, but some people are just... not present in reality @@kianamcintyre9671

[@applejellypucci]

Yes please keep them out of your life.

[@ForeverBlooming-05]

Oh my when I noticed I had shoulder pimples I was done 💀💀

[@coolstorybro2658]

Hip dips is weird thing to me. Like I’ve never thought about mine, pretty much all of my friends have them. Like none of my friends or anyone ever have said “you have hip dips and that means your ugly” no man has looked at me and been like “ewwww hip dips”. People are so bizarre. TikTok is not real life. And I’m glad.

[@Magicalgirl20]

What i know from tiktok is that if youre just having fun, lip syncing to a song, but youre not attractive enough by tiktok standards they will bash you and bully you, but an atttractive person could do the same thing and they get nothing but praise. Its really toxic really

[@imzabatch]

It's really sick.

[@RaniaBhatti]

It shouldn’t matter

[@HeavymetalHylian]

We have to keep reminding ourselves that we can appreciate things without needing to have them for ourselves. I have gotten better at this when it comes to shopping - just because I see something absolutely beautiful doesn't mean I have to have it in my home. We should also stop shopping other people's bodies. We should compliment each other more and compare ourselves less.

[@c4tac133]

I love this!!

[@roxy4325]

😂 I feel this exact same way about relationships. Y'all have magical happy ever afters? Wonderful. Not me. The trauma of a hidden red piller is not worth it so I'll stick to being happy for y'all 😂

[@peppwoni259]

i would like to mention that a LOT of the "looksmaxxing" videos i see on tiktok and youtube shorts are TEENAGE boys. they post their "pre-glowup" pics from high school and by the time of their alleged "glowup" all that has transpired was that they reached adulthood. sometimes theyve lost weight, too.

[@Zullala]

Also I used to think that everyone who existed had hip dips haha. I thought people were photoshopping them out for a more cartoony look! Every art model I ever drew had hip dips so they became ingrained in my mind as standard anatomy (plus I have hip dips too). They are my favorite part to draw. I always emphasize the hip dips because I think they look so graceful. I was shocked when I learned that people in general don't like them 😮

[@peppwoni259]

the fact that they are also called "violin hips" speaks for itself imo. violin hips sounds lovely and femme!

[@KaiKailuv]

Technically everyone does have hip dips. It’s just that some people have hip bones that are more protruding and others have fat that fills them out. They’re normal and they’re beautiful either way 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@alwaysrootingfortheantihero123]

@@peppwoni259calling them violin hips sounds so romantic, it feels like term Anne of Green Gables would use. Makes me feel like I’m in a Victorian oil painting

[@gule111]

6:40 THIS omg. I deleted TikTok, Instagram and twitter in January 2022 but I still can’t escape the beauty standard and the pressure it brings. Its all over KZbin and Pinterest 😭 I just want to be content with myself for once but I always seem to fall for the beauty standards that social media created

[@sophia4475]

It's ok, you just need to consciously wean yourself off those things too - read books, go to museums or art galleries, consume content from people who aren't there to sell you a skin care product or influence you into feeling bad about yourself. Look up comedians, poets, scientists, historians, artists. You'll feel so much better about yourself, and open yourself up to tons of new interests. Good luck, you can do this!

[@oftenunsaid2175]

Try to limit how much time you get on KZbin and Pinterest. For example find hobbies, work out, watch your favorite movies, etc. I deleted my Facebook, Snapchat, and Instagram but I still somewhat use Pinterest and KZbin. With Pinterest I create inspiration boards or use it for when I play the sims 4. For KZbin I only use it to watch content creators who have the same interests as me and I unsubscribed to people who make me feel less than. Only Subscribed to content creators who motivate, inspire, and help you, Hope this helps!

[@sleepyjester]

@@sophia4475 this comment is genuinely so reassuring thank you

[@serene1275]

This is why I don't understand why this video is about TT above the rest. I check up for news and things are never reported by MSM on there. YT, and Pinterest are copying IG and FB a lot which I found annoying seeing young girls and women who used filters like crazy.

[@serene1275]

​@@sophia4475 Great idea! Exactly what I do go to the central library where I lived getting peace of mind collecting books of great interests to read.

[@ghala6790]

I stopped using Tik Tok two years ago. I don't regret it. I was pregnant and the TikTok content at the time made me feel stressed and angry, so I got rid of it.

[@sm1purplmurderedme583]

i dropped it ab 2 months ago and i’ve never felt happier

[@Reycobaby]

The ssme here

[@SpiderPunk]

I only look to tiktok whenever I want to obsessively look at things I enjoy like decorating bags and backpacks with enamel pins and decorating my reusable water bottles

[@bigpapawalkingdownthestreet]

I think glass skin has been a thing in kbeauty for a long time before the tiktok trend and im pretty sure most achieve it by putting on something after their skincare that basically just looks shiny

[@LaLaLoopsyCutie]

yea i get that look from putting almond oil in my cerave lmao def isn’t expensive

[@copiumforthepeople]

yeah, strange because I always called it "my ol' oily skin"

[@saturationstation1446]

glass skin is in reality just the way fresh skin cells look when not covered by bacteria and dead cells. imitating that by putting on shiny oily substances is the scam thats used to make money off it. all you gotta do is 1-get adequate daily nutrition 2-use a loofah on your skin when you shower, scrub with intent, you are basically sanding the dead cells and bacteria out of your skin. 3- dont drink alcohol or put substances on your skin, they'll cause mass cell death or cover the new cells up. thats literally it. just dont be weird and live cleanly. fresh skin cells have a transparent look to them

[@Angryoyster]

I started looking through my dads old photos and he would point out different people and who they are how we know them etc. but I remember different woman he would say “oh this is so and so and she had all the boys chasing her back in the day” or “she was so beautiful” now I noticed two things one, a lot of the woman he said were stunning looked kinda like my mum 🫶. And two all these woman looked “normal” they didn’t look like tiktok beautiful they just looked like woman who were happy healthy and full of life. So all this to say you’re not ugly, you’re just human. And bring human is the most beautiful thing you can be.

[@mmgs1148]

As a kid I was insecure going through my parents photos, they were attractive as teens even and here I was looking like Smeagol from lotr, underweight because of selective eating disorder and that made an impact on my appearance + curly hair I did not know how to treat. When I was 19 I had a glow up finally and was secure enough to admit I look like dad, i grew into my big nose with a bump but my teenagehood was a hell and many people bullied me because of my looks and because I didnt have a boyfriend 🤡 But if I didnt have a glow up, i would probably spiral down in the ideology similar to incels and strictly right-winged

[@soggyfroggy22]

This makes me think of Megan Fox. I remember watching her in the Transformers and thought she was super pretty. Now I do still think she is still pretty, but not like before. She’s starting to look like every influencer.

[@cxpherv9581]

Megan fox in transformers was GORGEOUS. my first female crush. And I agree with how her current look is so influencer-y. It may also be because she has aged, but the aesthetic trends that are relevant right now have definitely influenced her current appearance. 25:46

[@mandalaqueen828]

She looks creepy and disturbed in the face and her fake tan has reached black face levels. Everyone used to fancy her when she still looked human

[@chidiogoikeh4550]

Well she’s not a teenager anymore so 🤷‍♂️. You man will dog pile aging women’s looks regardless of surgery

[@imzabatch]

@@chidiogoikeh4550 Huh? No one is dogpiling, one. Two, she's had multiple cosmetic work done to her. She literally talked about it herself on a talk show or podcast recently.

[@chidiogoikeh4550]

@@imzabatch I’m saying that people are mean to aging women irregardless of cosmetic surgery or not

[@Ohsnapitzann]

I'm so happy that I never downloaded this toxic app

[@VideosForYou90]

Same!

[@wibblywobblytimewarp3180]

Same here and I still refuse 😌👌

[@hairbycyn2568]

Same!

[@jaysouthmusic8230]

Same here

[@lolhi511]

as someone who has had the app for years, please never download it, it used to be great but now it’s ALL about beauty standards and people unneeded irrelevant opinions, it’s so, so damaging, especially to kids who are being exposed to it far too young now, it’s genuinely so messed up i’m so happy you stayed away from it 😭😭

[@grc.illust]

as a teen who has hip dips, I've always found negative connotations towards something so normal absolutely ridiculous. thankfully, i've never really been insecure about this trait, but when I see the idea that "hips dips are bad" being especially drilled into younger people like me who are still developing, it's really sad + disappointing :/ like bro muscle is SUPPOSED to wrap around your bones so of course a lot of people's hips are going to look like that -_-

[@gymnastReena]

Hip dip insecurities have been around since tumblr days

[@chloeann666]

Ikr. Don’t quote the old magic to me, witch… i was there when it was written

[@lalaland2107]

I never even knew that and I was there…. I just genuinely always found them ugly even back in those days…

[@kellye.5678]

Yeah, I was insecure about them when i was like 16 which for me is about a decade ago. It's so silly.

[@nattievoices]

Dude tumblr was the reason for my body dysmorphia and ED

[@gymnastReena]

@@nattievoices literally. I saw sooooo. may horrible things on there as a child. people showing their eating disorders and giving tips on not eating, people cutting, taking pills, s3xual things. horrible

[@4phrxdite]

Two years ago I barely came out of bed and couldn’t even look in the mirror because all I saw were my insecurities. My grades lowered a lot and I don’t even know how I got out of there. A year ago I deleted TikTok, and during all summer I also deleted Instagram. Man oh man, life's so much better now. I see myself in the mirror and I love myself. It is so crazy how my mentality of “you are not good enough” changed to “I may not be perfect, but I see myself beautifully”. It was TikTok (I was a big stan since 2017, it was hard for me to delete it). TikTok all along that made me believe things about myself that weren’t true. I’m still amazed on myself and I’m so grateful I had the strength to get rid of the app.

[@maddy_913]

Tiktok is ruining the world’s beauty standards. I have a more ethnic nose and I feel like it’s nearly impossible to find someone whos nose is shaped like mine and who is confident about it. so this comment is for all the girlies who don’t have a button nose and that’s ok. we’re all beautiful and we should be proud to carry our culture and ancestors traits with us❤

[@izzyha6173]

" pig " nose here ❤️ I was bullied over it for years but honestly it's kinda cute. One of the only things I do actually like about myself 😊 and it's my great great grandmas nose, my grandma has it and my mom and now me 😁 I hope my children have it aswell 💕

[@maddy_913]

@@izzyha6173 awww im so happy for you🙈

[@humblescrumble737]

it sucks to see all the people hating their noses or getting them altered to fit the extremely narrow standard. but there's a movement of people loving their ethnic/aquiline/hooked/etc noses and it's really nice to see

[@georgiana1147]

i dont have an ethnic nose,but im eastern european and most of my family has pretty big noses, except my grandma who literally has the most perfect button nose ever💀💀 im gonna be extremely honest, ive never saw someone w a nose similar to mine, and im genuinely not joking. Even when i look up "nose types" i cant seem to find mine because it is so unique. Its literally a combination of a bunch of nose types😭

[@angelcore1669]

I have an ethnic nose and it's always been my favorite feature of mine. Ethnic noses are beautifullll ❤️

[@Wonda447]

This is why I don't have TikTok anymore because I would always feel so self conscious about myself and I'm only 17. Like why do I have to be perfect all the time, when that is not reality.

[@vetabolkonskaya0212]

I had such severe acne that I couldn’t even sleep properly... my face hurt if it came into contact with anything. I took acnecutane for 9 months, it was a difficult time. my psyche went to hell, my hair fell out, my hormones were raging, and depression began. when I saw annoying people with perfect skin who began to teach me what to do with my “ugly face”, I just wanted to fall into the ground... I’ve already tried everything in the world, my house is more like a cosmetics store: cleansing gels, serums , creams, peelings, acids. “I’m on pills,” I said and they looked with judgment. Everything is fine now, I'm cured! but my skin is still prone to acne. People don't listen to others, they don't know what you're going through, you're beautiful and strong and don't let anyone make you think otherwise!

[@22696]

So sorry you experienced such severe acne! I struggle with moderate plaque psoriasis and eczema (not so much now due to medications) and I ran into a few instances where people would tell me what to do since it didn’t look good… It’s not like we choose to suffer?? 😂 Now I hit second puberty due to hormonal issues and I definitely feel the pain of physical and mental discomfort once again. I’m so glad you’re doing better now!! I hope it can only go up from here for you ♡

[@imzabatch]

Beautiful comment, as someone with adult acne that is only helped with pills as well!

[@s4kr0]

Honestly it's scary how many insecurities arise just because of tiktok. Like I only started seeing my hip-dips as a flaw BECAUSE of tiktok, and that is genuinely sad because I know others feel the same way. Also, I am extremely scared for the kids in our current generation (A LOT of them have access to tiktok or youtube shorts). Our current beautystandard is just scary. I wish you all the best💓

[@chrissy505]

These toxic TikTok beauty standards were getting to me and I felt like the only one who genuinely felt this way, Thank you so much for this video

[@madammelizzy]

The tiktok and beauty standarts just bullshit. Live your life sweetheart ❤

[@isssraelangel5856]

I actually find hip dips kinda cute. Like people really wanna make u insecure for literally no reason at all like wtf

[@flowerpower7065]

Yup. Just because you’re insecure about your shit don’t mean i gotta. Stop projecting ✋🏼.

[@paintedfingernail2308]

New day, new insecurity is so real. I didn't think at all about my jawline and side profile until I downloaded tiktok

[@firstclasswaffles]

TikTok and social media REALLY messed up Gen Z. Puberty/teenage years are known for being difficult. Celebrities are not the norm; that's why people like models are chosen in fashion because they're only naturally like 10% of the population. Others have cosmetic procedures and a whole paid team behind them trying to copy the 10%. No one over 25 takes the Kardashians seriously or want to be them...same reason why people watch America's Funniest Videos: entertainment.

[@genevievemariewilliams9906]

My standard for Instagram is taking a good enough photo to post. If I don't like it I'm not posting it. There is no way I am putting that much effort into photoshopping my posts.

[@Kingofthenet2]

Fr tho

[@RaniaBhatti]

as you should

[@rachidarachida04]

As an artist I also found it weird that hip dips are an insecurity because I love drawing them I always give hip dips to my characters.

[@sleepyjester]

same!! and i used to always think “damn i’m really just projecting my insecurities onto these characters” but now i’m starting to see it like nah maybe these features genuinely are just pretty

[@rachidarachida04]

@@sleepyjester right!!! That what I love about art, I always draw one of my features in my characters and it just makes me love my features more.

[@cos37]

Off topic but you’re entering your mainstream youtuber era and i’m here for it

[@themagicfrog1902]

This is so true. I remember being 17 and addicted to tik tok. I was crying every single time i looked in the mirror because the same type of beauty was being presented to me, so I started hating myself for being ugly. It got so bad that I ended up uninstalling tik tok, which was the best idea I ever had, since my opinion about myself skyrocketed after that.

[@sn0wangel04]

If you love yourself you won't feel horrible when someone else is prettier or better than you. + i don't like the glass skin trend because it shows that people try too hard to be pretty which translates to "they don't care about anything but their looks" which is boring. What about everything else? The good u can do in this world? The people who need help? Your mind, and talent mean so much more than the way u look. And trust me if you are an awesome person people are gonna fall in love with you for you and not for the way that u look.

[@kellye.5678]

I just personally don't like glass skin on myself because I feel like it emphasizes texture and makes me look greasy. I definitely prefer a natural matte finish.

[@sn0wangel04]

@@kellye.5678 tbh it doesn't look very good, some people have it naturally and they r beautifull but some of theese influencers overdid the glass effect and in result it just looked greasy and oily.

[@flowerquio]

Isnt glass skin just clear skin? Wanting to get clear skin or have it, don't make you prettier

[@sn0wangel04]

@@flowerquio tbh i had acne for a very long time and it didn't bother me i still felt pretty. And yea ur right it is clear but it's insanely greasy, it's okay if u want it ofc cause beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so this is just my opinion, but most of the time people get it after alot of skincare and it's not natural.

[@hotelbintang5797]

I'm sorry but I'm one of ppl who'd in love with a person with the way their look. It's nice to be amazed at someone's face doesn't it? It's nonsense to see someone's in love the ugly ones, like, dude no one's going in love with u if u wont take a bath at least..

[@kianamcintyre9671]

When i first moved to the states, i thought i was gonna see all pretty girls, preppy, alt, baddie, etc, that were on tik tok, all day eveyday when i walked on the streets, but boy, was i wrong. I couldn't believe, i was do captivated into believing that was what a whole population looked like. I actually become more confident since i moved here since my home country was sort of restricting.

[@thelying2594]

Everyone kind of forgets America is all types of people not rich white kids with no restrictions. That's Cali if anything and even then it's not as much as you think. Stereotypes are people's enemies so try and remember that.

[@AdairaLeigh]

I have polycystic ovarian syndrome too and it is honestly so refreshing to hear that I’m not the only woman struggling with the horrible acne from it. I get paranoid just walking through a store cause of my skin 😅

[@SofiA-nf7os]

I also have PCOS and got acne but my doctor prescriped some birth control pills specifically for the acne and those actually helped. Another thing that seems to help is cutting out dairy products

[@lacedsiryn]

That attractive/ symmetry study makes no sense. I know plenty of people who have said that Bella H is not attractive at all. Beauty is so incredibly subjective, that study was worthless and completely impractical.

[@rynfiqah8644]

Finally someone else sees what I see nowadays. How everyone literally look like each other & it’s hard to find the real ones lol. I like this vid! Thanks for talking hehe😊

[@BR41NW4SH3D]

Looksmaxxing is such an irritating trend. Like tf is a canthal tilt?!

[@valorie444]

nazism

[@reginageorgetownuni]

Off topic but you're so gorgeous ❤❤ cheekbones, eyebrows, lips, all on fleek 😭😭

[@foxxie9304]

i'm obsessed w your vids!!! i hate the influence tiktok has on young people now... it's hard to even perceive oneself as something other than a product striving to be 'beautiful' nowadays. tysm for this vid! youre amazing :)

[@matiisme]

14:27 I completely agree abt the uncanney valley point. Specially in kpop and kpop fandoms. It's so normal for kpop idols to get work done, but nobody talks about it. Furthermore, fans take it as a personal attack if anyone points it out, they claim the artists look different because of puberty or makeup or whatever. But puberty and makeup doesnt change ur entire jaw and nose structure (for example). I also think alot of kpop idols look totally uncanny valley, and like theyve come straight out of webtoons (and i dont mean that as a good thing). It just looks creepy in my honest opinion

[@fluffythebluepersian4888]

Turning 30 has been awesome for me. It's like you enter a new chapter of liberation and ascending becoming your true self. You see your mortality for the first time which helps us realize so much of this ish is petty and meaningless. They say life is understood best in hindsight and we realize we unfortunately use some of our youth worrying about these things then we realize later it didn't matter (the phrase youth is wasted on the young) On a side note, I do feel bad for these young men with the looksmaxxing stuff going too far, but ironic seeing that we women are starting to see what a dark rabbit hole it becomes yet now men are falling into it.

[@charlesintune]

The crazy thing is: beauty is still subjective LMAO. (Not the plastic surgeon telling us we need plastic surgery haha) great video!

[@jessicamimi4464]

As a parent I wouldn’t allow my teenager to have any kind of cosmetic surgery unless absolutely needed. And as dr I wouldn’t operate on a teenager

[@humblescrumble737]

right.. i'm shocked there are so many practitioners operating on people who are so young in the first place

[@RaniaBhatti]

@@humblescrumble737yea they always say wait until you fully develop and even then you don’t need it, why mess with natural self

[@Zullala]

A lot of these beauty trends are ridiculous and perhaps even dangerous... But I got to be honest, putting my tongue on the roof of my mouth does make my jawline look more snatched. I always do that right before I take a picture, but I can't be bothered any other time.

[@nika1739]

honestly i know loads of you can relate but since watching these kinds of video essays it really helped me feel more confident and embrace my natural beauty and uniqueness and have a completely different outlook on life these days not influenced by social media

[@solarjade6661]

Your lip combo ATE.

[@GoziTV]

“Instagram is not your girl -it’s KZbin” very happy that you are not trying for force other platforms, just made a video about why I left Instagram. This was a great video cheers to your next successful year! ✨🥂

[@roohellenthal6302]

I used to go on tiktok a lot when I first downloaded it, and that’s when I felt I was at my lowest self esteem. Then I finally deleted it, soon enough I got dragged back into it and started criticizing myself more and more, until I started seeing the patterns and catching on, I deleted tiktok a few months ago and now more than ever I fell way more confident in my skin and realized how harmful social standard rlly can be on just a singular app.

[@Beautifulm3rcy]

The same thing happened to me. I was literally at my lowest, and now I've been off tiktok for 2 years and found Jesus on the way too! Never been happier

[@SpiderPunk]

I do want to continue using tiktok, but I also like to watch youtube videos like these. Its like a balance between fantasy entertainment and then a snap back to reality.

[@NicoleAspen]

I live in LA and we probably have more plastic surgery than some parts of the US, but you’d be surprised how many other random places jump into BBLs, Botox, and filler waaaay more than here. For example: Miami, parts of NY, Salt Lake City, etc. plus, what you see online are the way exaggerated and botched examples of filler and Botox. I guarantee more people around you have gotten work done but you can’t tell. Good work is minimal and subtle.

[@Ghostlove92Kat]

i live in scottsdale. it's hell.

[@serene1275]

I went to Hollywood with my family years ago and it seems the majority of the women (men too) looked too perfect. That was till my mom whose employer was from Beverly Hills said it's all cosmetic surgery.

[@TheOriginalLauraEmily]

Ok this is so unrelated but your lipstick looks sooo good on you. I’m obsessed.

[@mynameISsky]

I'm 49. I'm not "beautiful" but I am fricken' adorable. And a lot of that is simply being natural - no make trends...no surgeries...no extreme anything. Also, it's faster, easier, and, cheaper. ;)

[@rodrickheffleylover]

you’re videos honestly mean so much to me thanks for making so much great content girl!!!

[@ZoinEoin]

How can hip dips be unattractive?!? They’re so cutee, how are ppl saying they are a bad thing?!? Probably my favorite feature to both draw and see on myself!!

[@ForeverBlooming-05]

I never got the hate either!! I’m skinny w/ hip dips n adore them

[@ForeverBlooming-05]

I never got the hate either!! I’m skinny w/ hip dips n adore them

[@gorfyvee7787]

They are hips.

[@EM-ju8bk]

It's such shallow bs. Honestly, if we can't help ourselves with the insecurities then we should just delete the apps. I've never been a fan of TikTok and personally find it so boring. Thanks for your video, it's very well informed and interesting

[@imzabatch]

Thank you so much for talking about Keke Palmer and her adult acne! I have adult acne too and I'm sooo insecure about it because none of the other adults around me have it, but knowing this about Keke Palmer made me feel so much better about it! Ty! 🥰🥰

[@Alice_offwithyourhead]

I have to thank the universe and myself for never going on TikTok, not knowing who these people are and not giving one single F. I have to mention that I must be in that .1% of people who never have edited a photo of themselves. I didn't know how to, I still don't know how to and I have no desire to. In the end, we all die. In death, is someone really going to mourn me and think, "Oh, she was ugly and should have edited her photos." Of course not. My soul is what matters (to me). These people really need to stop staring at their phones 20 hours a day. Society has become a bunch of self-obsessed A-holes who lack self-awareness, sympathy and empathy for others, and are out of touch with reality. Great video! My first time seeing you on here. You are a very beautiful woman, so don't let anyone tell you otherwise. We're all just going through this journey that is life in this universe together, and women need to support other women. Much luck to you.

[@Sophiasme]

I’m actually crying like as a young girl who isn’t allowed to wear the makeup and the clothes and get lashes and stuff done( my mom won’t let me) it’s hard to feel pretty when everyone looks like a Barbie doll. I’ve just started watching you and you’ve made me realize I’m still beautiful even though I don’t look like a Barbie doll. Thank you sm❤❤❤

[@valorie444]

you’re stunning! don’t let people tell you otherwise.

[@DarwinRoger893]

You don't necessarily have to be beautiful to be worthy. I know your insecurity is that you're not beautiful like the people online but even if you're not, even if you don't fit into the beauty standards, that should not make you feel less of a person. You deserve to be happy without needing to fit in or be beautiful.

[@shinjiki1197]

the glass skin trend was actually a big korean skincare trend back in like 2016 !! when tiktok started coming out and the trend got recycled i feel like it brought back a lot of older trends snd made them go viral

[@uchiha_fan_1018]

As a 15 year old girl i honestly just want to live my life without having to worry about my body or my face, I really just want a piece of mind and make REAL connects yk?

[@20gmartinez]

I wrote a research paper about incels last year that took me an entire semester of research and writing and it's truly frightening. One of the deep web forums even gave me a computer virus. Please make a video about it, I don't think most people really understand the extent of it.

[@angelaflying9591]

When can I read your research

[@laangela6629]

for me, i became aware of my hip dips around 2013/14 in the tumblr ED era & when the thigh gaps were such a huge trend. and seeing the hip dips slander come back is so heart breaking cuz i remember how much it hurt not fitting that type of body image when i was SO YOUNG. praying for all the people to find confidence in their bodies & looks & to not be stunted by the high & ever-changing standards of society 💜

[@nayebare.]

I love how you explain the stuff like incel and TikTok and like give a short informative backstory - thanks!

[@otf.snpr73]

My mind is like ,,When I‘m dead, nobody cares about all the worries, insecurities I‘ve had all my life. And when I die I wouldn‘t care as well. So there‘s no need to think about the unnessecary things while I‘m alive“

[@Sunny_Mooon]

I was insecure about my hip dips before tiktok, but a lotttt of people became aware of them because of tiktok and I remember this got me mad because I thought "even tough I was aware of my hip dips nobody else was really paying attention to them or even knew what it was, but now everybody will be more aware"

[@jenniferschiller8827]

Girl I just found your account and dude I don't think I've ever felt someone to be that pleasant and relatable to listen to. Much love from the german girl

[@oohlalalia]

ooh this is gonna be an interesting video

[@NkirukasWrld]

I hope you enjoy ittt!!!

[@applejellypucci]

Glass skin in real life is often over exfoliated and plasticized, speaking as an esthetician. You can damage your barrier overusing products. Cleanse, tone, moisturize are pretty much standard steps. My skin doesn't have acne now because I'm in my 30s but I wanted to chime in for anyone struggling with acne or feeling bad that they can't afford a cabinet full of expensive product.

[@the.sapling]

An esthetician forgetting sunscreen? hmmmm

[@arnhildurl7666]

Having acne doesn’t make you imperfect ❤

[@faithalexis3117]

THE 13430 PLUTO INSTRUMENTAL ON THE INTRO IS JUST CHEF'S 💋

[@hagelslag9312]

Today I learned hip dips is 'problem' apparently? The fact I learned it from this video shows me I have no reason to go back to social media. My SO looooves them and even points it out from time to time, and that is all I need in my life. I'm good!

[@mikapeach1]

All social media is bad for your mental health and it’s getting worse. I deleted everything. I do love your channel you are such a well spoken gorgeous girl ❤

[@KZesty]

I recently went to Japan and was surprised at the effect that going to the onsen (public baths/springs) had on me. I'd never been in a sitiation to see other women naked, not being sexualized, not posing and worrying what they look like, just going about their day and taking time to relax. It felt good to realize that we are all different and share many similar features too. It was like a spiritual experience.

[@meowmeow3163]

THANK YOU! That comment at the end about how the people who are setting the beauty standard aren't even able to achieve it... I'm going to be using that FOREVER because you are so right!

[@courtneymckissick2014]

Picking apart people just feels icky. Beauty standards do change over time. To many people, the most beautiful person from the Victorian era just isn't beautiful by today's standards. It also depends on the person on what they find attractive. I've never really noticed if someone is extremely beautiful or extremely ugly; mostly I just think, "It's a person. No big deal". Even on tiktok or celebrities, this isn't something I care about or notice.

[@CoverLuxe]

My mom was known as one of the most beautiful people in her small town while growing up in the 60s/70s. She is now approaching 70 and looks 20 years younger than that and is still beautiful, and she doesn't even have a beauty routine. People have also told me that I was also beautiful growing up, and I look a lot like my mom. My confidence still tanked in my late teens/early 20s though because of social media. I realized that I looked nothing like the type of face that is algorithmically pushed online with these girls who have millions of followers. I started to think like, "If I don't look like them, is that a problem? Am I really beautiful if I don't fit their mold?" I recognize my negative thoughts now, and looking back it is truly amazing how much social media was able to poison my mind in this way, pulling my focus away from those around me who loved me and whose opinions were the only ones that actually mean anything. At the end of the day, these people on social media have never seen or met me, never actually judged me, and I was judging myself, incorrectly at that. They are on there because it makes them money, and I won't keep letting greed get in way of accepting myself.

[@jalaberga]

I just wanted to say thank you for taking time and making your videos I can tell you work very hard and put a lot of time into making these and I appreciate you!! You are going to be very successful on here dude keep it up 🩷🫶🏻🫶🏻

[@apricusnorth9593]

Girl you're speaking facts. Thank you for reminding us not to conform to the unrealistic beauty standards set up by these so-called "Tiktok and IG influencers".

[@Im_Zion]

The glass skin trend was actually a very popular term and trend in Korea WAYYY before tiktok picked up on it.

[@dollopofdaisy]

i really do feel like beauty tiktok has made my insecurities so much worse, like i've always disliked my nose but now i constantly about how i might be happier if i got a nose job :( hate feeling this way and i try to resist but it's rough being inundated with these standards