No, the ‘Woke Agenda’ Isn’t Ruining Society - Here’s Why

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[@ValDraper]

Love the intermittent moments of existential dread that you push aside for what's necessary to cover. I too am constantly feeling those moments. Much love from NC, USA!

[@LuckyBones77]

Eyyyy, fellow North Carolinian 👋 We’ll make it through!!!!

[@KFoxtheGreat]

@@ValDraper NC fan here, too!

[@juttasteinhilber6998]

In the words of my 7-year old: "Why can´t people be, who they want to be. I don´t go around and tell them, who and how they should be. It is my body and my life! Isn´t it, Mama?" After I tried to (and properly failed to) explain, what Trump means with "the war on DEI". I love kids!

[@maxcrow890]

Thank you for educating people about your chronic illness and disability. I use your videos to have a baseline with the people I love to begin those conversations. The videos with your family encourage me to heal my trauma so I can have one of my own someday. You are an inspiration and I appreciate you. Thank you.

[@jennifers5560]

❤

[@jwb52z9]

There are those of us here who are Gen X as well...

[@jennifers5560]

Right?

[@DeeM1923]

Came here to say that!

[@stephaniec3619]

Gen X is ok! We are the often forgotten generation, unfortunately.

[@jennifers5560]

@@stephaniec3619 yeah, we should be used to it. 😬

[@Dexy83]

Exactly my thought! 😂

[@noblesshorts]

you NEVER fail to make sense AND make it make sense.

[@MaxMigacz]

I’m trans masc and just want to ask if you can make a video about history of binders?

[@noblesshorts]

that would actually be an interesting video essay. and if she doesn't make one, i would be glad to make one myself.

[@dorianthegrey]

Yessssss

[@Jhud69]

As someone who has a degree in English linguistics it always kills me whenever people who have probably not opened an English textbook in at least 20 years argue that singular they is ungrammatical. Not only it’s not but also it literally wouldn’t matter if it was because language changes. Also this discourse is not just in english - I’m Polish and some non-binary people here are also adapting ways to refer to themselves (if you don’t know - polish is EXTREMELY gendered, even more than languages like spanish or french. You can’t say anything without gendering yourself, or at least not without sounding extremely unnatural by only referring yourself as a person for example, but even then, the word „person” here is considered feminine grammatically. To the point where the word „partner” isn’t gender neutral here, it’s only masculine. To make it sound gender neutral, you have to say „partner person”. ). And well, sadly Poland is quite conservative and to add to that, we are EXTREMELY defensive of our language since we’ve been colonized multiple times before so some people act that if you don’t use „proper” polish then you might as well be a traitor to your own nation. It’s extremely difficult but at least I’ve been seeing more and more people who do change the language for themselves which is great.

[@WasFakestCenturyAesthetics]

using "they:' to pretend you don't know the sex of the person isn't exactly the most grammatical thing I've ever heard of though

[@Szystedt]

Yeah... I had a literal English teacher claim the same thing-did certainly not expect that. We had an assignment to write some sort of report on a provided fictional incident. The instructions explicitly said that the perpetrator should be kept anonymous, so I naturally elected to use they/them pronouns. Afterwards, we received feedback and were supposed to use it to improve our texts. But, the only mistake she pointed out is that I used they/them pronouns, plural, to describe a singular person. I just spent the time writing up a confused but polite message arguing that they/them can be used as a singular pronoun and that I did so to ensure anonymity-with several sources supporting my claim. She agreed that I was correct and claimed that she was merely more familiar with ze/hir and ze/zir pronouns-which kinda felt like a cop-out, but whatever, it didn't feel malicious, at least! I couldn't leave early so I was just left with nothing to do, though. (For context, I'm Swedish)

[@whitney69]

How often is onu used? Uczę się polskiego :))

[@thombruce]

@@Szystedt Was your English teacher also native Swedish? It's just unusual to me that she would know ze/hir and ze/zir but not think they/them were grammatically accurate as singular pronouns. You probably know this, but ze/hir and ze/zir are part of a set of pronouns called neopronouns. They originated, I believe, within the non-binary community as preferred pronouns by which individuals could choose to be referred. They are chosen pronouns in that sense, not at all the standard way to refer to a singular person of ambiguous gender. For that, "they" is correct. Some English speakers will argue that you should say "his or her" rather than ever use they/them as a singular, but Jessica covered the historic usage of they and them in this video so I don't need to reiterate why it's actually fine and correct to do so.

[@restrictedmilk]

​@@WasFakestCenturyAesthetics It seems you are conflating sex and gender. And also, saying that "pretending" something causes wrong grammar is a weird statement too... Things are either grammatical or they aren't. Pretending at content does not affect the grammar. Those are separate systems.

[@ambertyler5844]

I love your class, and the very smart way of telling people the way it is.

[@MsShaunaM]

Lesbian, trans woman boomer here!

[@birgitteandersen5886]

I get misgendered by so many people everyday, even by people who know that I am nonbinary. Most of the time, it is exhausting to correct people. Though, my partner respects me because they are also nonbinary that goes by they/them. It's rather refreshing to finally be referred to by my preferred pronouns.

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

Being 'woke' is just having empathy and care for people without privilege. It's so sad that's not trendy at the moment. It should be a forever trend.

[@meghanalmighty]

The funny thing is that we "woke" people can define it as you've done. The ones opposed to "woke ideology" can't define it. I think that's because they'd have to admit that they are, in fact, opposing human decency and dignity, which is a really tough thing to sell in a rally, press conference, or on a bumper sticker.

[@jennifers5560]

I don’t understand how “woke” is an insult. If you are not woke, you are asleep.

[@jessicawilson1751]

Thank you for the reminder of And Tango Makes Three! My cousin has a baby who's turning 2 this year. I got The Secret Ingredient for their baby for Christmas (another cute gay penguin book that has been banned), and from what I've been told, my cousin's kid absolutely loves it. I think banned books are going to be my gifts to them.

[@l6318]

I love this idea so much!

[@TheOfficialNumber7]

As a trans guy who doesn't really pass enough to go into men's bathrooms yet, I've had a few occasions when I have to use the women's bathroom where people have to leave, check the sign, and come back in LOL But it makes you think, it's probably much weirder seeing me, a trans guy, in the ladies bathroom, than a trans woman (who you probably wouldn't even notice) who actually belongs in the ladies bathroom. Shout out to my college who have a toilet labelled "Inclusive / disabled" That saved my butt so much

[@aspidoscelis]

Yup, having trans people use the bathroom associated with their assigned gender at birth only makes sense to "you can always tell" people. I'm a trans woman, also relatively early in transition, who doesn't think she passes... but at this point I'm getting mostly "ma'am"s or careful avoidance of gendered pronouns from cashiers and whatnot, with an occasional "sir". The first few times I got "ma'am"ed, I was happy but in disbelief-"you have got to be kidding me, there is _no way_ you're reading me as a woman". Sorry, cis folks, gender perception is a lot squishier than you think it is.

[@Hippiechick11]

Thanks for addressing this. You and your wife are a lovely couple, and I'm so happy for you.

[@jerrihadding2534]

I’m 75, so I guess I am a “boomer”. I am also bisexual. I spent 20 years in relationships with women. Now I have been married to a Swedish man for over 26 years. I adore your program! Greet Claudia and Rupert and the twins from a devoted follower with my warmest loving hugs!

[@TheOfficialNumber7]

That's really sweet :)

[@kimyoonmisurnamefirst7061]

I've been looking into the evolution of masculinity in GB and the US, in particular, and found (no shocker here) the standards of "what makes a good man" has changed over time. I kinda got curious about it during the 2024 US election where a lot of younger men felt "threatened" by feminism, etc. bell hooks has a book on it called, "The Will to Change", but that conception has changed since and was different prior. Anyway, on Adam Conover's channel there is a fantastic activist from the ACLU who made a comment about public bathrooms... that public bathrooms are often a sign of where people want to kick people out from public space. <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1725">28:45</a> for the time stamp, BTW. They cite that previously, Black people, Japanese were also disciplined from using public spaces. So later when it was gay and trans, it's a sign of how the public is trying to exclude minorities from public space, which is why it's important to win in that arena. Usually it's a way to make sure that "those people" cannot be in public space at all. Which is good to keep in mind, I think. Another smaller caveat, someone in my uni class rightly pointed out that disabled bathrooms, especially for disabled people are not gendered... It's been living in my mind since on the how, why, and how it came to be, etc. Maybe it goes towards not thinking of physically disabled (and others) people as sexual beings? But then my mind floats other hypotheses.

[@mark6302]

They fear what they don't understand. ...Or refuse to understand idk...

[@orionh7201]

it is sooo frustrating that as someone who can barely work but can't even get a care practitioner to sign off for disability for me, that because I'm married I would hardly get any assistance anyways because my partner has an above minimum wage job. Plus the limits... they make it so you can't even dream of saving up for anything in life cause you risk getting 'benefits' cut off

[@genshin_lore_enjoyer]

Did I got notification? No. But I came to the channel in the most crushed statement and your video is a bliss. I took myself water bottle in bed and will watch video

[@mosselyn5081]

I was tickled to see you reference Kory Stamper's "Word by Word: The Secret Life of Dictionaries". If you haven't read it, I highly recommend it. It is a delightful, funny, and informative book. You might think a book about how dictionaries are done would be dull stuff, but you would be wrong!

[@KFoxtheGreat]

While I know it's not a huge interest of yours, I'd love to see a video responding to some of these issues in the gaming community. Or maybe just in "nerdy" media in general if you haven't already. I'm on the edges of these circles (I mostly read), but my partner sees a lot of "culture war" rhetoric on a regular basis.

[@biancalawrence3178]

Hi there, 64 (tomorrow), year old baby boomer who has a stack of LGBTQ+ friends, some married, some not. Although I will use the standard pronouns unless someone wishes to be addressed otherwise. Although you did say not all Boomers are closed minded and not one of my group is so. I have 2 degrees in information science so not an issue with computers. I sometimes wish some people (not yourself), could understand that it's us Boomers that invented the computer and remember that the sixties was the time of free love and many gay people saw that era as a time to come out. It's not Boomers that are prejudiced or bigoted, it's prejudiced and bigoted people irrespective of which "box" you're put into.

[@dorianthegrey]

You're a minority among boomers bro. Its not that hard

[@DeeM1923]

​@@dorianthegrey"bro"???

[@biancalawrence3178]

@@dorianthegrey Actually most of my friends are boomers and none of them are like that. My family are of Western European extraction (1st generation), and European Boomers are far more open minded than American Boomers.

[@dorianthegrey]

@@biancalawrence3178 I'm sure if you thought about, you don't interact with most of the people you knew in school though because they weren't so great. Just because you did a good job picking your friend group and got lucky with family doesn't mean you're in the norm.

[@biancalawrence3178]

@@dorianthegrey It's not necessarily people I went to school with, it's people I have met over the years that have shared my interests and passions. Intelligence (both emotional and academic) and people who fought for the same injustices as I have. Our lives in apartheid South Africa were drawn together by the injustices of the system and the democratic integration of people after 1994. We are all boomers because of our birth years and no box anyone chooses to place us into makes us any less proud of the achievements of our society.

[@maryel5398]

I can’t decide if Gen X being left out is good because we are being lumped with Millennials, or if we’re being lumped with Boomers. My friends are all liberals, but I definitely know Xers who fall far on the other side. That’s why they aren’t my friends… I have watched over just my lifetime people’s views change (and change back at least publicly). I’m frightened of what is happening in the US now.

[@evilgingerminiatures5820]

Looking forward to part two

[@jennifers5560]

Me too!

[@blossomhb]

Jessica you’re amazing! I was JUST wishing for a resource like this. Then I open KZbin and it’s the first thing I see! Thank you so much :)

[@Charlotte-hv6ll]

Leaving a comment for the algorithm

[@Adenif]

It's illegal I'm this early here

[@Whatisthisgremlin]

Anyone who says “I don’t use pronouns” just looks so dumb. Like ur making urself look like ur choosing to be illiterate 😭 😭 😭 Also close-minded ppl treating gender identity & neutral gender pronouns as stupid no different when they were kids & were using new slang that was being invented or (wearing in-trend fashion at the time) & being told that they were talking like(/looked like) a dumb@$$. It’s not “stupid”, it’s just language evolving.

[@charlespentrose7834]

Clearly they don't realize that "I" is a pronoun.

[@pennycheshire5608]

I love when you do videos like this. They’re so clear and concise and clever I feel like I could send them to almost anyone and they could connect to it, even if they’re initially hostile to some of the topics. Appreciate you 💜

[@BeccaB-dr6vd]

What about "people are weak now because of wokeness"? Or whatever else along those lines.

[@eshaleemadgavkar]

This video says everything about misconstrued notions about queer and trans people. As a non-trans questioning person, I'm absolutely grateful for your video :) Plus Riley Gaines could've learnt to better her skills in swimming after "losing" to Lia Thomas instead of being the transphobe she is.

[@bluueeberries]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1594">26:34</a> Lol I was just thinking about the way that Aragorn from Lord of the Rings runs 😂

[@aspidoscelis]

I think part of the issue with 'they' is that "but it's plural" is a (wrong) post-hoc rationalization of a (correct) prior observation that this violates the norms they grew up with. Relative to boomer era English, we're going from "'they' is sometimes singular in reference to an unspecified person" to "'they' is sometimes singular in reference to a specific person you know". Even though the "but it's plural" rationalization is wrong, pointing out that singular 'they' has been around forever does nothing to explain or resolve their emotional reaction to change. It still isn't the English usage they grew up with and they're still upset by that.

[@jennifers5560]

This is the example I like to use. Me: “I went to the doctor today” Them: “Oh yeah, what did they say?”

[@aspidoscelis]

The "singular 'they' has been around forever" response is also kind of unsatisfying to me (as a non-prescriptivist trans person who thinks change in language is normal and in this case desirable) because it entrenches the conversation within the "what English usage is correct?" framing rather than moving us to the "if using a particular pronoun makes someone feel better, that's a good thing" framing. For a queer person alive today and affected by the pronouns people use, whether or not a particular usage was normative 100 years ago totally misses the point. We're asking people to be considerate and inclusive _now_ and historical norms are a particularly awful authority to appeal to in that context.

[@aspidoscelis]

@ Whereas, if we both know Dr. Anderson, in the 1980s this would have been non-normative: me: "I saw Dr. Anderson today." them: "Oh yeah, what did they say?" In the 2020s among most millenials / gen-Z, that's ordinary English. Even with a known binary gender, I've been noticing it's not unusual for people to use 'they' just because, well, gender-neutral language is fine and a lot of the time someone's gender isn't salient.

[@turtlemagic58]

I'm a 66 year old African American cis-woman. First: This is a great video. Second: It's easy to attribute this particular values expression to Boomers, but it is an expression of values. Values are based on many things that even some young folk embody. As a Boomer, I'm weary of being told that I am simply intolerant because of my age, when, in fact, I am tolerant because of my age. We all have to grow through the same stages of development. No stage can be skipped or hacked. Some of us are further along that others. Remember that Boomers were taught that, somehow, age and biology are inextricably linked when they are simply workmates. Some of us Boomers can see past our shaping. I love your videos. Please never stop.

[@mari6s]

Great video, thank you so much! At the very least, it makes me feel not quite as alone :D As a language teacher, I particularly LOVE when people say they're against pronouns. I sometimes reply with a confused expression and deadpan tone, "Oh, but don't you feel like it forces you to repeat names and nouns an awful lot?"

[@Hug_the_Bunny]

Chinua Achebe may be a newer author, only about 66 years ago, but in Things Fall Apart he uses it. <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="389">6:29</a>

[@FriendlyKitten]

Thank you for doing info :3 always appreciated.

[@serenityacheron]

This was so good! Looking forward to part 2 already!!

[@Pipsqueek3]

Watching this will help me feel better ❤❤

[@timferguson2682]

Love the wardrobe parade!

[@deliad9960]

😂🤗I appreciate you. This was excellently done.

[@graublauYT]

Looking forward to part 2 ^^

[@idontwannaknow9385]

Not a native english speaker here. Just wanted to ask why the pronoun 'it' is not included in the pronoun discussion. Like, in my native language, everything has a gender. From hell to the sky, every single thing is either male or female (and if even the walls are female, why can't I be?). In english, there is he/she/it Why can't we choose to be called 'it' when it should apply to things that have no gender? Sorry for the dumb question

[@kelleyjohnson7949]

Not a dumb question, you don't know if you don't ask! "It" in English is specifically used for objects. Calling a person "it" would be very dehumanizing, almost giving the connotation that they don't deserve personhood

[@aspidoscelis]

@@kelleyjohnson7949 There are some people whose pronouns are 'it / its'. As someone who doesn't always want to be lumped in with... you know... humans... I have some sympathy for this.

[@MollyPrewittWeasley]

"Ye started to fade from use in the mid-16th century". We're still clinging onto it in some parts of Ireland.

[@ColorJoyLynnH]

I’m a boomer (white cis het middle class educated, AKA privileged). My life is so much better because of all the people in my life who are not like me. Except they *are* like me, but not on paper. People from other countries, people who are deaf and LGBT and all of the above. People from all different religions.Trans people, Black people, all the other flavors of humans. Life is so much better because of all of them. I keep learning.

[@salem_the_therian]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="20">0:20</a> I’m… I’m BI and.. disabled!! *dramatic gasp*

[@tablelamp801]

It’s so nice to hear a calming voice in all this❤

[@auchenshugglegranny]

boomer here frequently ashamed of my generation and totally agree making friends with them does make a diffrence

[@ValDraper]

Finally finished this video. Such a great video! Really enjoyed this one. It's something we don't talk about enough, and it's good to get videos like this out to the public.🙌

[@badfox1133]

Idk, but it made me so happy to see you using sign language in the intro!❤

[@PatchworkDragon]

As a nonbinary person, I'd love a good response to "you just want to be special" or "you think you're too good to be a woman?" I'm looking forward to more of your brilliant video essays.

[@maddormouse687]

I always love to see more videos! Especially informative ones, like this one.

[@jerrihadding2534]

This entire conversation would baffle me if I were not so horribly well acquainted with American disinterest in truth when that truth is uncomfortable for them. As said in my previous comment, I am a 75 year old American bisexual woman who has been living in Europe for nearly 36 years. The point I want to make about this horrifying and ridiculous controversy regarding Trans people is this. I’ve used public restrooms my entire life, including our school restrooms. NEVER ONCE in all of my 75 years has it occurred to me to question the gender of anyone else sharing the bathroom with me. And yes, I have experienced incredibly embarrassed men who entered the woman’s bathroom by mistake. I cannot help but wonder, how do ANY of these misguided and destructive politicians imagine that the first thing any one of us demand when we are desperate to pee, is to examine the genitalia of everyone else sharing the bathroom before entering the toilet cubicle?! As I said: Ridiculous!

[@onceuponamelody]

Thanks for talking about the marriage inequality issue for us disabled people. They could just solve the problem by taxing the rich more, but as we've seen, they really don't like to pay their taxes. And some people actually just WANT to be bigoted, hence them getting upset when someone tells them they can't use slurs anymore... 😢

[@lauramarutz2356]

Some of my fondest memories are from a protest. I'm an old lady now but I will never regret standing up for my gay friends. My whole life has been about treating people as human beings with dignity, respect and kindness! I will always remember the day that same sex marriage became legal in the US. June 26, 2015. I was 51 years old and just sat on the rug crying and explaining to my grandchildren why this was so important. I believe in diversity, equity and inclusion but above all I believe in kindness and compassion!

[@marieonishenko]

100% I live in Canada and while the province I’m in Alberta has the best disability in my country. My partner’s income affects me greatly. One day we will be financially not eligible, and I will lose my benefits, and he will have to pay for everything. We are not married, currently engaged, but because we are common law, his income already affects mine. Legally, you have to tell the government you are common law after cohabitating for two years because you have to claim your taxes together. We’ve been together for 6+.

[@philurbaniak1811]

👍👍 love you, Jessica, thank you for all that you do!

[@chillero3heftig712]

thank you so much for your effort

[@jennifers5560]

I am one of those queer people that kept some troublesome straights as friends when I came out. They did mostly come around to the right side of things and oooh do they hate it when I bring up things they’ve said in the past. 🌈🏳️‍🌈

[@anathematic5083]

As someone who does not run, I feel very attacked right now

[@Bocetoverse]

I feel like a soldier who's just been armed with studies and common sense to fight against disinformation and bigotry. See you on the battlefield folks 🫡🫡

[@allisavercool227]

I love this video, I often have trouble articulating things in the moment

[@Ulthar_Cat]

I loved this. Intensely 💜 please keep going 💜 I love you and all your videos 💜 thank youuu 💜💜💜

[@daisychavez4135]

you and my other favorite youtuber alice cappelle made similar vids!! really enjoyed watching both of them, loved seeing you two explaining in your own ways ☺️

[@pjaypender1009]

I agree that Boomers include Caitlyn Jenner, but we also contain Sylvia Rivera and Marsha P. Johnson. We marched for your rights. No, Caitlyn didn't, but the idea that *we* didn't is absurd.

[@KerliaRockwood]

Love this! Shared! This is so important and thank you so much for making it and for all your hard work! Love to you and the family! 🖤🙌🏽✨☺️

[@lkm2287]

So informative and interesting. 🙏Even though, I think, most of the people I would have these discussions with, just don't want to change their opinion or learn more about it ...But knowing more of these facts and backgroundinfo will help me to feel more grounded in these types of conversations.

[@KatsuragiNamika]

Early cookie for meeee!!! 🥰

[@jessicaoutofthecloset]

🍪 or 🥠?

[@KatsuragiNamika]

Can I have both 😋 OMG SENPAI NOTICED ME

[@amaliesofiavestergaard]

I love you and your family. Thank you for this and for existing and sharing your life

[@Lola24691]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1144">19:04</a> YESS i get harassed all the times and sometimes because im in America in Texas im scared of getting physically attacked Get me outta here

[@abilevitt3334]

❤

[@jennifers5560]

❤

[@venereveritas]

This video is fantastic. Please make more! ❤

[@badfaith4u]

We have always existed. We might have had the vocabulary but we were here, are here, and will be here.

[@Roanmonster]

Wait, I'm confused. I am a progressive but I'm 100% down with reintroducing thou/thee. What do we do??

[@nadiamotyleva]

Not everyone speaks English. In some languages using "they" as a single person pronoun is completely grammatically unacceptable and even impossible. I wish it was easier

[@tabithayork9379]

Are you doing okay? You look on the edge of tears many times here. I know you don't owe me an answer, particularly since I've never commented before, but I have watched you for years. I just hope you're taking care of you when researching and filming these hard conversations. ❤

[@Zoey_the_Rat]

Thank you for speaking up for trans people! We need all the support we can get right now

[@jwb52z9]

The US almost got rid of the marriage penalty for benefits for disabled people.

[@carrieblack3690]

Thanks Jessica! (I hereby offer this food for the algorithmic gods and a hearty upvote for any boomer content you wish to produce)

[@dorianthegrey]

Actually seeing a video before it's weeks old, what?

[@PucKitt]

Thank you for this vid and the next one as well. As a Trans Man I appreciate it and have it earmarked as a vid to play aloud to "certain" people 😂

[@Dexy83]

It's only been 20 days since the evil Oompa took over, less than 30! 🤬 Only 1440 days to go... 😭

[@jennifers5560]

So many days left….😭

[@allpau6199]

Yes please more videos like this

[@nadiamotyleva]

I am a bisexual millennial woman and a long time subscriber of Jessica's. I used to be leaning left but now I'm more of a centrist. It's so hard to navigate politics lol, I see reason in both left and right points of view and my mind is constantly on fire trying to process all that's happening in the world right now and trying to stay a decent and kind human being

[@meghanalmighty]

The right, however, is trying to tell the people who want to be centrist or neutral that everything left of them is "woke". The reality is the "left" believe in truth, science, and human decency. Trying to combat climate change isn't leftist. It is centrist because it's a fact that we need to. I feel like a lot of people want to be neutral in politics, but that's not the way it can be right now, at least not for those in the US who are legit watching their democracy go up in reich-style flames. Dr Ibram X. Kendi articulates that the opposite of "racist" isn't "not racist" because neutrality on a subject like that isn't really possible. Dr Kendi says that the real opposite is "anti-racist", and that being anti-racist includes interrogating our own moments when we are being racist (even when we don't mean to be). Thus, one either believes or accepts there's a hierarchy of races (and acts on it, sometimes proudly, as an overt racist would) or they don't believe it and actively and intentionally work to dismantle or callout systemic racism (as an anti-racist would). Those who are "neutral" or "not racist" are, in fact, simply being inactive-which is still complicit and accepting of racism, ergo quietly racist. So, to expand on that idea, being neutral on the subject of gender identity and sexual orientation is trying to say you both believe and don't believe these are facts in human existence. You either believe that trans people are real and deserving of equal rights and protections under the law as everyone else who enjoys those protections, or you don't. The nuance is only in how actively you participate in supporting or decrying trans or queer people. Same for climate change. You either believe the scientists who've been warning about this for literally decades or you don't believe them. I do think there are plenty of topics where we see nuance or where there are multiple true things at once or things are so complex that it's challenging to parse out clear "sides". But human rights and the existential crises we're globally facing is not that nuanced.

[@izzy6455]

Great video

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[@DeeM1923]

Gen X??

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[@Tracey-l1o]

If you are classified as Deaf.. why aren't you signing bsl throughout. Instead of keep signing "hello, lovely people"... I hope you realise alot Deaf people not good at English so subtitles itself is not good for most as rely on BSL!!!

[@pennycheshire5608]

She has a video where she explains her choices around signing if you want to check that out. The gist iirc is that there are multiple sign languages even just for English speakers so having good captions is more reliable for broader accessibility.

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[@geoffreyhughes1]

I think they have pointers that the aphabet should be heeding: 1. Leave children be 2. Islamists are not your friends or allies 3. If you want to transition then start your own divisions in sports. Thats about it really. I dont hate anyone. I am just realistic. Life is hard for everyone; no one is "special". Have a good day!

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[@degenincel]

Welcome back to my channel looks really good in this video. Edit: This joke doesn't work very well and is cringe.

[@susannahallanic1167]

I'm a boomer, according to you, Jessica. I certainly don't consider myself a boomer. I consider myself a human. Each human is different than the next, we all have so many attributes because we must adapt. If you are being slotted into a slot in the culture in which you are in, you are slotted there because your culture fears your humanity. Changing the culture is a lot of work. But dividing differences is a lost war. What was culture two thousand years ago is not culture now. You and your family are just fine, but 25 years from not, you will see changes and you will know you are still a human. By the way, I changed my name and introduced myself as I named myself. I didn't expect my family or some friends to ever call me by my new name but some did. I did and still do, expect people to whom I am newly introduced to call me the name I recognize. I expect them to spell it correctly if they address an envelope. The ones who don't? I don't worry about it but I know that they are specifically limiting any growth in trust of friendship.

[@meghanalmighty]

@jessicaoutofthecloset Jessica!! Gen Zed!