NOSY COWORKERS | How to Deal with Rude Coworkers

NOSY COWORKERS | How to Deal with Rude Coworkers
Dealing with nosy coworkers can add unnecessary stress to your already full plate at work. When you have to handle pushy coworkers, intrusive coworkers, annoying coworkers, and rude coworker there is a right way and a wrong way to respond. In this video I’ll help you learn how to deal with nosy coworkers and how to deal with rude coworkers. Once you know how to respond to nosy questions and how to avoid answering personal questions at work, dealing with nosy coworkers will be much easier. Coworkers are not your friends and with these strategies, you will know how to get along with your coworkers, including difficult coworkers and jealous coworkers.
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[@JenniferBrick]

What's your preferred strategy for dealing with nosy coworkers?

[@anapaz8060]

Humor is def the way to deal with most awkward situations at work!

[@lacrossslounge5403]

GREY ROCK

[@dctrbrass]

I prefer to just be upfront. I think the deflecting stuff works, but that doesn't fit my personality. I politely just say that I'm not comfortable answering that question.

[@jjl6438]

I usually give ambiguous and vague answers or pretend that I don’t know/can’t remember. It’s somewhat polite because I’ve answered their questions but without any substantial detail. I find it so hard for myself to decline to answer directly, “I’d rather not speak about that” and the idea is amazing but in the moment, it’s super difficult to say. I want to work towards being able to use that one day.

[@jazmina4054]

I literally just stare back and say excuse me

[@Hollyhutch0422]

"Why do you NEED to know?" Usually befuddles them instantly.

[@bks6000]

When somebody asks me a nosy question, instead of saying, "That's not your business", I say, "I consider that a highly personal matter."

[@RG-ot1vy]

wow

[@DanaeLaurenTolbert1]

Maybe I am too forward. But I have openly stated 3 of the following in the most of professional tone and smile, "That's none of your business.", "You're not at liberty of knowing that information." , or "Why?" They all seemed to get flustered or wide eyed with embarrassment. People know when things are NOT their business.

[@anitaknight3915]

Good for you!! The audacity of people to even ask personal things. They are so nosey you'd think they should be working for TMZ.

[@Chance754]

The exact same thing happened to me I was direct but a little bit more shy about it. She was so shocked at first she was thinking of a response!!! Then she got an attitude.

[@taurahelms3068]

I get it. People think that working with them mean that they are entitled to know everything about you.

[@bxfbbxcbxc5328]

I treat all of them lile Malicious Marks. I don't trust like that.

[@AlaneLane]

😂

[@andreeaandrei678]

I have a coworker who asks me every single day questions like "did you buy this dress specially for this event?" "Are these ear rings real gold?" "Is this a new sweater?" and it pisses me off SO much

[@Misfit710]

I answer nosey questions with "Did you have an inquiry of anything work related?" and if the answer is no I just walk away. I go to work to further my own career not make friends or have boring small talk.

[@elizabeetle13]

💯

[@taurahelms3068]

Me too.

[@lashaydavis8593]

Yep I am thinking about using that one too. Or if they get personal I just give them a fake irrevalant work related answer lol 😂 because I am not going to give people at work an opportunity to use nothing against me no more.

[@holliehilton3224]

Of all of these, the best is, “Why do you need to know that?” I’m dealing with this right now, and I’m about to quit my job because of it. The real problem is this: THESE PEOPLE HARASSING YOU ARE USUALLY THE LAZIEST AND MOST INCOMPETENT IN THE OFFICE, and if management would grow balls and fire them, it would salvage the good, hard-working co-workers who actually keep to themselves and EARN a paycheck, not get it by a mere handout. This is a management problem, not a worthless co-worker problem.

[@GodWokeMeUp]

It's horrible because we live in a society that pushes over sharing.... I don't even have social media because I'm highly private about my personal life. It's so difficult trying to be polite. I had to leave my last job because the woman literally would lock me and her into a room and started harassing me because she felt like we needed "coworker bonding time". I had to file a human resource complaint... But it was so stressful how passive aggressive she got that I literally felt like I had to leave the job.

[@iamnoob7593]

Thats crazy , In my office i cant sit anywhere i want , I am boy , But my female colleague sits in other room with her previous team she worked with , She wants me to sit with her in the room , But i told its noisy and people keep talking. I sit in other room , She and her colleague from totally different team keeps checking up on me , Asking same damn question why are you are not sitting with us .

[@stever507]

They have a monitoring spirit. Just gathering information. Some are even unaware they are working for the enemy. I didn’t realize there was a spiritual component to all this until I went down the rabbit hole researching monitoring spirits.

[@pppp67567]

​@iamnoob7593 sounds frustrating. Bet she's aware it might make her look bad for not sitting with her current team but her old team instead. I expect they think if they can get you to sit with them, it stops her looking bad... unless they really just enjoyyour companyso much?!

[@lacrossslounge5403]

I go grey work I was paid to do a job Not sit around and tell my life story to a non factor

[@wolfesound]

"That's personal" or "I'd rather not disclose personal matters, thanks for being interested though." That's sufficient.

[@JenniferBrick]

💯💯💯

[@TeacherKellyTag]

I always used the approach of politely saying that I didn’t want to talk about it. I used to work with a guy who would push me and not take no for an answer. Eventually I would get frustrated and tell him it was none of his business and he would get SO offended. I wish I had some of these strategies back then.

[@nka82]

Oh geez I am working with someone like this now! I avoided him for a few weeks and he cornered me in the break room this week when I was refilling my water and proceeded to ask more nosy questions. I regret being friendly towards him because he was new because he's latched on! Ewww.

[@chrys_2399]

It’s a daily struggle…. . Our culture fuels it. They think they have the right and the need to know everything personal about someone else. And then they will try giving you advice you sincerely don’t need it. They will criticize someone’s cloths, someone’s personal life…. When they have nothing nice to say they say “ oh, your kid had got dark ? Or your child has got fat or thin “ or some negative thing….” How are your child’s school grades ? “ some times I wonder wether it’s trying to make small talk and they have run out of topics ? 😳 It’s pathetic…. And it’s rude…. Thanks for the video and the tips, Will try all that when I really don’t want to answer awkward questions.

[@rosesrabbitsandravens4350]

One of my friends was being stalked by a nosy coworker(s) on social media... she thought it was an annoying baby brother type, but the main culprit turned out to most likely be a closeted "fan" who she never figured for an actual, controlling, narcissistic troll! Yikes!

[@Critique808]

Coworkers keep asking what nationality/ethnicity I am. They ask what I do on my days off. So I ask what their nationality and what they do on their days off.

[@JenniferBrick]

That is extremely inappropriate for them to ask. I'm glad you mirror it back at them.

[@marissamills]

When you realize you’re a Bored Betty 😅😂 so this has helped me with the Malicious coworkers and also helped me be more professional myself! Thank you!

[@edwardtang1977]

Everyone where I work is nosy.

[@bmoshareholderappleshareho855]

I guess it is human nature to be nosy.

[@VAL702]

I’m out sick and I have a coworker that keeps asking me if I’ve tested positive - I’m so annoyed and that’s so intrusive

[@MountainsoftheHeart]

I absolutely LOVE pretending to mishear or misunderstand rude comments/questions.

[@rubentavares9416]

I had a co-worker pull my hand to look at my ring from my fiancé . She was like congratulations very insincerely and let me see this guy of yours, I’ll get your phone and storms to my desk to pick up my phone. I took it back and felt so cornered and showed her a pic after she was like let’s see another. Then she asked how did we meet, do we live together, how old is he ? I literally gave her all the information except his age but felt so violated and even more mad at myself for giving her the info.

[@taurahelms3068]

Yea we've all been there. It sucks.

[@iamnoob7593]

@@taurahelms3068 It is pyscholigical game , Simple , People need to master it to counter intrusive people.

[@abbigayedavis1730]

she sounds like a predator and sadly we have have fallen victim once or twice but we can be wiser going forward

[@dcabral00]

If someone is doing something inappropriate at work, they should feel bad.

[@bmoshareholderappleshareho855]

It depends on how personal the question is. Any question regarding sex or money is considered rude. Whoever does not know that is stupid. I used to work in Payroll and we deal with a lot of confidential information. People were always trying to get me to reveal something. Some people just don't understand that protecting information is part of the job.

[@yomammasaidso]

I'm an office manager for an engineering firm, and I maintain my office very tidy and clean on a daily basis...a caucasian male coworker walked into my office and observed how nice my office looked and stated that my career should have been in maintenance instead of there because "I like things clean"...mind you--I'm Hispanic and a woman.

[@florencia2771]

Omg how rude

[@KelRuchell]

That was definitely a microagression. Not cool

[@Nezuko_yoyo]

This is ridiculous. In the year 2020 we have come so far in accepting the rights of various kinds of people but we can't even respect co-workers. It's just insane that I would be forced to work with someone I don't know, I don't like, and even have to go so far as to avoid them and play "Tricks" to get them to leave me alone. This is just sad. This is suppose to be 2020 where we all live our dream lives and make money doing what we love. Please, for the love of god and all that is good, if you TRULY don't need to be at your job and you have SOME oppurtunity to work for yourself and be your own boss then at least TRY to do it. You shouldn't have to feel trapped at work. You shouldn't have to feel like you need to strategically hide from your co-workers and constantly deflect invasive, passive aggresion, rude, personal gestures and questions just to earn a living. I'm telling you this isn't right.

[@JenniferBrick]

I totally agree that humans should be treating other humans much better. But humanity has both an amazing fantastic side... And a horrible side. Sadly, creating your own business isn't always a fix. You still end up working with clients, possibly partner, and more. But you do get to choose who you do and don't work with ☺️

[@Nezuko_yoyo]

@@JenniferBrick Thank you for the advice. yes you're right there's no way to avoid working with people. that's a good point

[@wakeupalready2099]

No what’s not right is every workplace I’ve worked my entire life has been toxic I’ve learned to stay to myself and even then people want to drag you into drama and if I could work and be my own boss I would and you seem like the pushy type lol it’s no one’s business about my personal life people at work are just nosy nothing else

[@DeeJ0000]

I think using tricks to get people to leave you alone is just as draining as answering the nosy person's questions. It's exhausting to spend all day doing this, so it is better to avoid them if you can.

[@jonathanhuck9918]

After I get pushed multiple times to report back about how "I am REALLLLLLLLLLLLY doing" I'm going to respond with - "I'm so stressed, thanks for asking, can you help me with this assignment, it would REALLLLLLLLLLLLY help if you sent in this paperwork to XYZ, I'll leave it on your desk."

[@kymgarcia09]

I have a younger coworker who asked me why I'm not married since I'm already 36..like I only know her for less than a week lol

[@JenniferBrick]

So rude on so many levels - and never anyone's business.

[@helenarose580]

@@JenniferBrick I had a co worker ask me who I live with lol

[@rachelturner1318]

When I first started working I had poor social skills so I was that young co worker who asked stuff I now know was impolite. Years later she will look back and realize it was impolite also hopefully.

[@RachelNdumia1]

Whoa, It really pains me when people ask such questions. Like it's low key single_shaming. Next time just respond, I'm not comfortable answering that question, excuse me but I have to attend to xyz and then get out of their prescence/ walk away and go perform that task.

[@mrsjade30]

Ewwww! I can’t deal with immaturity. Super nosy ass people. Sorry u had to deal with that.

[@lorineilson7529]

I work with someone who has to know what the manager tells the lead in my area. The lead will tell her even though it's really not this persons business. She wants to know what I'm going to be doing on my days off and she somehow knows peoples personal business. And she'll talk about it. It boils down to her not having much going on in her personal life. I don't say much to her. But the last time she asked what I was going to be doing on my days off I said whatever I want to do because I won't be here at work!

[@PinkYellowGreen2023]

This is a great video... are you married, do you have kids, how much do you make? All of these are questions nosy people ask at work and get mad as hell when you tell them the truth about it not being their business. This is why I just try to do my job and keep the personal aspect of work to a minimum.

[@leafmebee]

I struggle with this I'm too direct.i say 'you ask a lot of questions don't you?' and I learned ask them the same thing back immediately. When they feel uncomfortable usually they stop.

[@shutit4024]

I’m in my early 20s dealing with a rude co worker I notice she’s only rude to me and 3 other co workers because we are in ours 20s she’s in her early 60s somebody had told me she seems to have an issue with younger people but when she took whatever problem she had she took it out on me and I just answered with “ok” but I wanted to cuss her ass out so bad but I am planning on leaving the job soon

[@BE-bs8oe]

Here just the opposite happened; a new senior worker facing veryv provocative right on personal questions. The answer to "what did you do in life before joining this company ?" was: " breathe, like you and all the other humans on earth." Instant silence by all colleagues around followed. No new questions asked by this bored Betty Malicious Mark mixture.

[@adrienelson7358]

This is really helpful. I work with a nosy lady who wants to know everything in my life after my father passed away. I can't easily avoid her, but I can't ignore her. This would help plenty.

[@SasquatchActualFitness]

I am always direct and say leave me alone or GTFO.

[@dionstephen88]

I talked to my pastor about this and he Said when they get nosy ask if they know Jesus as there Lord and Savior.

[@slytherinsheir1308]

that's awesome, I'm deffo using that 😁

[@Nezuko_yoyo]

I have a co-worker who walked into the elevator with me at work on one of my first days (Violating Social Distancing Rules). A male about 20 or so years older than me possibly 25 years, and he just stared at me. In my mind I'm thinking, "If this man wants me to introduce myself, I would be more than happy to, but don't prompt me to do so by STARING at me.". I am an introvert. That means I don't enjoy talking unless it's necessary. This guy staring at me is clearly an extrovert, because the next thing that comes out of his mouth is something like, "Why are you so quiet? Hello?". He didn't politely introduce himself. He didn't ask me how I was, he just asserted his opinion of me on me and stared at me. From that point on I felt like this person was a tad bit obnoxious because he was in my personal bubbble at work (I don't like it when guys get too close to me even if it's a loud warehouse) and forcing me to talk when I didn't want to. I am a friendly person, but at work my main goal is to get my work done and to go home. I have absolutely no intention of getting to know anyone there because most of the people there don't have anything in common with me and I don't have anything in common with them. If they were to get to know me they would be shallow-ly interested and if I were to get to know them I'd be shalowly interested. They KNOW this yet they still insist on making small talk with me. They KNOW small talk makes me uncomfortable, I've hinted that I'm not interested in talking many many many times. Why should I have to dedicate mental energy towards avoiding people at work? I am not being paid to socialize, I am being paid to show up, do my job, and get out. and in case you're wondering, the work environment I'm in isn't a team working environment, so no teamwork isnt' necessary at all. it is a completely solo job.

[@JenniferBrick]

That is an incredibly strange interaction, and I would say that even if I wasn't a fellow introvert. And complying with rules during a pandemic should be a non negotiable. I had coronavirus and can say 1) no one wants it, it's horrible, and 2) if you spread it, the guilt is massive.

[@Nezuko_yoyo]

@@JenniferBrick oh wow thank you for responding! lol iim so sorry you had to read that i was just got triggered and went into rant mode. thanks so much for the video though I'll think about your tips.

[@JenniferBrick]

@@Nezuko_yoyo I tackle of a lot of the unsexy unpleasant topics about workplace issues here. While ranting can be unproductive, it can also be a necessary purge of the feels... and way for us to become internet friends :) I'm glad you found space here.

[@hcplsmf]

Similar boat here. 🚣‍♀️

[@AJ_SouthernGal]

Some people can just be plain out creepy. I'm an extrovert but hate it when ppl get in my personal space or ask questions that are invasive. That guy is weird, I hope you don't have to share an elevator with him again - & if you do, get off on the next floor or better yet, stop the elevator & ask HIM invasive, nosy questions 😉

[@christinet3280]

Thanks Jennifer! I love your advice and your humor.

[@JenniferBrick]

I'm so relieved I'm not the only one who thinks I'm funny. Thank you so much 🥰

[@choromlee]

Thank you!!! It really helps me!

[@bobbyboy1797]

I hope you continue these videos, they're quite cathartic.

[@JenniferBrick]

I'm so happy they're helping you Bobby. My video next week is about dealing with gossip, it will be live on Tuesday!

[@bobbyboy1797]

@@JenniferBrick Looking forward to it. Also I haven't watch many videos on this Channel but what kind of jobs have you worked?

[@JenniferBrick]

I worked in tech for most of my career, in professional success, training services & customer success. Before that I did a bit of everything: recruiting, accounting, sales, network admin, tech support, wholesale manager for a major retailer.

[@LxUxNxA]

I work in healthcare and it always amazes me how patient confidentiality is something that is universally known to be so important ( it’s the law!) and must be abided by but when it comes to the staff .. my lord! If someone is sick/ personal issue / bereavement etc it’s always the same people desperate to find out why people not in work so they can gossip about it. They will ( not even subtly) jab away at you trying to extract any information you might know, it’s so rude. I find it rude in general even if it’s a friend / family and nothing to do with work. If people want to share their business with you they will, if they aren’t doing so it’s because you don’t need to know - it’s so simple

[@amarachiubani9011]

What about a nosy boss?

[@Tubes12AX7k]

You have a great channel, totally invaluable. A couple other points about some of these personalities: Bored Betty - she's probably asking EVERYONE these sorts of personal questions, don't feel like your conversation is "special." And it's equally likely that sharing your stories. Malicious Mike - has some level of insecurity. He wants to know the lay of the land and he line everyone up and assign some level of "value" to them, he's going to judge you. In fact, he wants to find something to judge you on. Sometimes you can play into their narcisism, answer one personal question and then ask them a few back and act wowed over by their responses. Narcisists love talking about themselves, so let them.

[@dcabral00]

Ask an inappropriate question the answer is: "I promise you don't want me to answer that question" if they ask why, I will tell them that is because is unprofessional, and unethical and it would force me to act accordingly. I promise it will never happen again.

[@beasaroseco5840]

Jen you rock!

[@shahshreeta]

Nosey. Yes very annoying people to deal with.

[@chriswalls5831]

I dont answer them they are fake ppl

[@taurahelms3068]

The same. We're in a professional environment and I don't feel the need to explain.

[@EvySurvived]

Don't answer the ?, then bombard them with 50 questions.

[@Joy-xe6df]

Exactly! That’s one of things I used to deter people from asking me a bunch of questions to ask them a bunch of questions.

[@revolutionarypresence]

OMG...the Mercedes strategy almost made me spit out my coffee. I was asked that q by someone busing tables at a restaurant before (my husband and I tend to stick out in a crowd and I think maybe she didn't realize how little we actually know each other). Totally using the Mercedes strategy!

[@JenniferBrick]

Super effective 🤣

[@thatgui88]

I've actaully use the Mercedes method and it completely blindside them

[@criticaldrive7688]

My condolences for your friend.

[@erikherrera9045]

Hello Jennifer, I work at Costco Wholesale. One time, I picked up a protein shake sample from one of the Demo ladies, and right next to her was a nosey coworker on a stepping stool stocking a pallet of merchandise. When he noticed me picking up the sample, he made the comment, “Oh Erik, that means you are going to have to work harder now”. I quickly replied with a, “You’re right! Instead of making half-a-step, I’m going to take a full-step”. He instantly cringed and caved in because the Demo-lady just laughed hysterically, and the cherry on top was me walking away with my cool strut. The end. Best Regards, Erik Herrera

[@JenniferBrick]

I appreciate the snark 🙌

[@erikherrera9045]

@@JenniferBrick Well I appreciate your appreciation. Have a splendid day!

[@anitaknight3915]

@@erikherrera9045 omg I really appreciated the fabulous laugh you just gave me from this example 😂👍🤣.

[@acfollowjcor318]

One of the nosy behavior I noticed is that some keep looking at other's computer screen instead to mind their own business, this may not be specifically nosy but is annoying because there are people that talk bad about someone and a little later act as nothing ever happened in the workplace, other just started in a job and act as they are in charge, some watch videos instead to be working during work hours, there are also some workers that talk trash about the other that is in the next cubicle, and there are the ones that keep making silly conversations in the middle of the office while others want to WORK, I guess those are just some of the reasons that many want to work from home, the problem is NOT the work itself, the problem is the co-worker's behavior, so please people, WORK and stop talking so much.

[@Liz-wz8dh]

I have a coworker like this. They listen in on everyone's conversations and report back what they heard to the boss. I have to tell anyone who comes in to see me for any thing remotely personal to step out of the office because the boss and coworker will know everything that is not their business. They take the "always listening" concept wayyyy too far and nosy people like this are a big part of the reason I hate that concept. It really gives license to people who don't have their own lives to claim they are just managing the business when really they need watercooler gossip.

[@parler8698]

Right about broadcasting good gossip about your awesome work. Wrong about answering personal questions. Turn the question around and ask them a question. Say "I'm not sure, how about you?"

[@AnonBloggerCom]

Mine is in the adjacent cubicle. I'm trying to decide whether she is a Rude Ruth or Malicious Mark. Loud as hell, too.

[@maritkaa007]

I must tell you Jennifer that I moved from Poland to the UK and one of the reasons for me staying in England were nightmare memories from corporate jobs in Poland. Watching your videos I realized that people abroad aren't much different and no matter where I am need to learn how to cope with their behavior and have thicker skin.

[@florencia2771]

Yeah, I experienced 3 cultures, I found in all 3 cultures you’ll find polite people and also the ones who love gossip.

[@maritkaa007]

@@florencia2771 which cultures did you experience?

[@calico-kat-mom6204]

the only thing I don't like about these videos is that they're too short 😊😊

[@wakeupalready2099]

I just say I don’t bring my personal life to work I only talk about work at work

[@sandrahart6195]

Marital status or single status is a reason to be nosy or fire you. WOW.

[@ManasateluguTravelgirlinusa]

Nosey be like : i just saw yesterday u logged off early at 4 🤔 what’s going on ,then i called on ur cell phone immediately.hmmm

[@Inkironnrum]

My first week at my new job occurred less than one month ago. The personal questions about what I am getting paid came in droves. Then, came the questions asking me how much my car costed me and if I am making payments. Also, how much are those monthly payments. And there are those who think they are my boss but are not. Their job title and tasks are no different than mine, however, they have taken it upon themselves to tell me what I cannot do after my work hours. It is completely mind boggling when coworkers, people I don’t even know personally nor professionally can simply approach me with a free pass to ask or tell me something beyond appropriate boundaries. After my first week, my supervisor told a coworker what I get paid. That coworker told other coworkers. And now, the attitudes I face day after day is obvious and it doesn’t even phase me. I’m sorry, not sorry, but if you don’t know your worth and are not confident to express your worth then that is on you.

[@vacationeyes6430]

How about politely letting the nosey co-worker know it's a little too personal?

[@classicwrehasha]

I appreciate your concern, but I don’t want to talk about it. Rewind, play, repeat.

[@modmiss5081]

I cc everything and use their name repeatedly when being direct but polite. They stop immediately 😊

[@AbsoluteMdot]

I have a co-worker who is so damn nosy and obsessed with me. She watches everything that I do and always wants to know what kind of iced coffee I'm drinking and questions me when I switch out my handbags. It's super creepy and weird.

[@Nathan-jx6lg]

Working with other people is a nightmare

[@sontodosnarcos]

I wonder how many people watching this video realize that they are the type of ugly person described here, and if it makes them feel bad about themselves.

[@pamelahough3896]

Im a bored betty! Holy cow! I kept asking everyone what's for dinner since I'm bored.

[@florencia2771]

If you ask me about my dinner, I will invite myself to your house for dinner since you’re so worried about my nutrition

[@Joy-xe6df]

I tend to ask a lot of questions too. And if a coworker shares something and then I ask them a question about what they’re sharing and if I think it might be personal what they’re sharing and I might not want to talk about it I always put a disclaimer that if they don’t wanna talk about it they totally don’t have to and I respect that and I get that. But for me talking to people is it to not to slander them or to be malicious or anything like that. I just I’m very friendly with people at work with. Not over extensive amount because I don’t like to over share or to get too personal. But I try to keep things light and keep things positive and because Talking to people I find does make the day go by faster. I hope people can be so negative why not turn into a positive conversation instead.

[@wakeupalready2099]

@@Joy-xe6df no personal questions are rude we aren’t friends so your doing it to be nosy

[@rox9461]

⁠@@wakeupalready2099agree! I also hate small talk like leave me alone I just come to work to work

[@miyabi57064]

And he talks to me like he's the one who decides if I get paid or can fire me

[@bluefamily3937]

What upsets me the most is when the Rude Ruth runs to the boss with half a story she THINKS she's discovered about you and spreads it all around the office and never mentions it to you at all.

[@katrinah1898]

I'm a bored Betty. What is the difference between being nosey and general conversations or trying to get to know someone?

[@BeautifulDreamerK]

My male coworker messaged me bc I changed my pic on my Microsoft apps. It’s really not a big deal. And then he proceeds to ask follow up questions about it. It’s not even a big deal but he just wants info so he can gossip and use that as an excuse to talk to other people. Pathetic.

[@ampamp999]

Iam currently forced to deal with a colleague who is like Malicious Mark. He is very subtle in collecting data, try to set up 'you and I' coonection with no context, but in a very polite way. Although I did not tell him where I live , he would say 'you and I we live in a same suburbs..bla..blax'. I tried ignoring. But it's annoying to hear it again and again. So I provided a wrong city and suburb name in west coast where I do not live :and now a days he is implying 'oh..you live tax free state' .Iam just fed up of his envy and jealousy.He is least empathetic but more interested in gathering personal data. He has to provide unsolicited info like my younger daughter, my older son, my other son...for which I do not respond. I purchased a hammer :and I hammer on a boxing pillow, thinking that it's his face, when I am forced to have a telephonic conversation..thats the only relief. Just terrible..

[@josephhilt2423]

Nun ya. Huh? Nona your business.

[@bmoshareholderappleshareho855]

Or you say, "Why do you want to know?"

[@noona514]

Move your cubicle. Even better.

[@elizabeetle13]

I tell them straight out that it is none of their business.

[@Doodlefisher]

My former boss was asking me about relationships I had in the past and I don’t know how he knew that but I found it rather disturbing. Not only was he being intrusive but other workers knew about my social media that I don’t broadcast. What do I do?

[@Doodlefisher]

Then I got fired because I wouldn’t reciprocate and so he strategized and pit me into a stressful situation in which he persistently nagged me because he knew I would eventually react to the turmoil.

[@FlyinSolo8319]

How about the ones that see you on your phone, and they just GOTTA know what you're looking at..I just give them the most blank stare, basically saying "mind your fking business"

[@caitlynwoodruff7226]

I have a coworker that accuses me of taking multiple breaks and hanging out in the bathroom for so long when she doesn't even know the situation she even had an audacity to blame me she's been working alone all day because I was in lunch with my husband (he and I both work at home depot but different departments

[@miyabi57064]

And my nosy coworker's name is Mark

[@stever507]

Just answer by saying in a serious tone “I’m sorry but all questions must be submitted in writing “ as Gene Wilder answered in Willy Wonka. 😂

[@Sepidehify]

@JenniferBrick Okay but what if Rude Ruth comes and sits in your office? How can you get away? She finds her way to your office and decides to take a seat just so she can ask you personal questions. IF I tell you what this person asked me you will be stunned.

[@JenniferBrick]

She comes in and asks overly invasive questions because she knows you will let her, and you will prioritize her comfort over hers. You won't set a boundary because you don't feel safe making her feel uncomfortable by saying 'it's inappropriate' or 'what a strange question to ask in the workplace.'

[@Sepidehify]

@@JenniferBrick Thank you Jennifer. Okay I hear you. I need to set some real boundaries especially with this one. Just because we are coworkers and friendly towards one another doesn't give her the license to pry into my life. She is a very unfiltered and often direct person so I will have to just be direct with her because now I think that's the only way she will get the hint.

[@EliMagidsLuxuryHomes]

You Break their Legs --- Nosy Bodies ! Elbows are graceful :-). NY style ! Malicious Mark---I know a guy in Brooklyn.........

[@jedjed8491]

I am from India.. and one of my senior coworker asked my senior manager why did you go to UK as his younger brother is working there and my senior manager stays with his mother in India... But When I had asked him about his brother about him being in UK my manager said please don't ask me why didn't you go there. And I told him nope why will I?... So I asked him a different question(please note my conversation with my manager was in private) so I asked him didn't you ever feeling of going to UK to your brother? He didn't react badly but replied... Properly... Who you among me and my senior coworker found more nosey?

[@jazmina4054]

Tell me why mine always wants to know shit

[@cleopetraducic4301]

🙏🏽💙

[@angeliazhang2008]

How about answering nosy coworkers messages? I figured sometimes when u answer them with text message it’s different.

[@carinanavis4615]

Non of your beeswax

[@dongmingzhu666]

I got colleagues asking me how much I paid for my house, car, etc. Honestly, I don’t know how to answer them. I suppose in the country they are from (India), it’s okay to ask such questions?

[@bokccraigatron007]

Nosey people get me badly 😂. Just tell them I’m talking about none of your business and keep moving 🤷🏾‍♂️💯

[@PinkYellowGreen2023]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@kristinmeyer489]

4:37 As funny and satisfying and even tempting to do this, isn't this perhaps a bit risky in the age of Stasi "see something, say something"? If you answer a nosy entitled jerk in a way that doesn't give them what they feel ENTITLED to, AND you make it sound crazy, bad things can happen to you. Stasi are EVERYWHERE, targeting and deliberately destroying the lives of completely innocent people. Why not just NOT answer their question, and ask THEM a very nosy question?

[@mariebenovil3540]

In the past, I have told them in a nice way please mind your business or, I will say that don't "have a life.

[@Pwnagotchi-0]

I ignore them, there’s a black guy I work with who is very nosey and insecure and it’s very obvious but everyone has just learned to ignore him.

[@DeeJ0000]

What does him being black have to do with him being nosy? Nosiness is rampid in all races.

[@shreader327]

How to deal with nosey co workers? Eat a bunch of deer meat chili and stink up your work area.. they'll leave ya alone. 😏

[@fuzzyduck1989]

Well, when you work with a group of people and you're spending a good amount of time with them you'll want to know a few things about them (Just to know with whome youre dealing with after all.....) personal stuff included!! If they ask very personal questions that you don't feel like telling them you can say "why is that important to you"? or "why you're asking"?

[@elizabeetle13]

I've never been THAT interested in anyone else's life. I have one of my own. When it is a co-worker, it's about work. Period.