On being young, unmarried, and female in Pakistan | Yusra Amjad | TEDxLahore

[@sanyfin]

and once you are married, every relative keeps on poking by asking, when are you expecting a baby.

[@sl7805]

And once you have the baby another million questions and judgements about your parenting

[@kimanhoanthi117]

V thanks for the tip! 😂

[@shahzaibkiani9606]

What's wrong with having a baby. I really agree that sometimes people significantly your relatives going to ask you these absurd questions but now a days, unfortunately it is becoming common that not to have babies at the time when you are enjoying a charismatic and perfect figure and you don't want to be get annoyed and frustated by taking this responsibility just for the sake of material gains. That's why obscenity and vulgarity is becoming common and a matter of great concern and proving to be the devastating and lethal tool by staining their soul and bodies as well and make them deprived of the true, pure and sacred essence of their life. Thats why we are obnoxious, perplexed, wandering, lost, hollow, bewildered, spiritless and lost the true and strong connection with our God

[@shahzaibkiani9606]

I have neither judged nor said something that is sacrilegous, blasphemous or against odds. I just gave my perspective and I don't think being opinionative and having a perspective makes you judgy. Yeah i looked every fibre of my being and each time when i looked into the mirror, the replied came you are phenomenal. Yeah, i am planning to take reading and comprehension lessons from you. Good to you. May you will be blessed with the best. Atleast happy to know you have spared some time to go through what i wrote

[@uesugikenshin386]

V great reply, thanks for the idea.

[@amalxiv]

Shes my teacher and I find shes a public speaker/poet and comedian. . . . Wow, I have the best teacher

[@soniakanwal9608]

you are lucky to have her as mentor..

[@supritiphani1282]

You do

[@amalxiv]

@it's O.K english

[@MuskanMuskan-xd6cz]

Kitni age hogi inki

[@lostsoulfadedbeing]

hey does she teach in private school or govt. school ?

[@garimapandey3385]

I am older than this beautiful girl and I blown by her intelligence her clarity of her thought's, you are going a long way girl hats off to you.

[@sbegum29]

Garima Pandey agree !!

[@aleempervaiz8789]

Garima Pandey : It's a research-based speech. Before delivering her speech on this forum she made exercise so many times. .

[@asreekhan7372]

How you say this

[@aleempervaiz8789]

@@asreekhan7372 : Actions speak louder than the words.

[@insideurgirl]

she would make a good second wife... sure

[@nancykhandelwal7156]

27, Indian unmarried and its been a while I haven't watched such relatable video. It's like someone has listen to my everyday thoughts and conveyed them in the most brave brilliant and beautiful way! Damn I wish I could this video thousands like in just one go! Sending you love blessings from India! Thanks a lot Yusra for this video. The words hit me when you said about your mother and sister it's like someone just narrated my story! "My friend isn't afraid I will end up alone she's afraid I won't at all" Gold 😍😍😍

[@aerofxunme]

Divided by borders, united by mentality. That's India and Pakistan for you.

[@christinasharon7687]

Quick question: do you mean the mentality of the positive intelligent thinking of this woman like numerous others or that of the society around us?

[@royaljot8062]

aerofxunme no way

[@zoeetabeatz]

aerofxunme ditto in India.

[@hz0029]

This is ❤❤

[@isnotarat]

& Bangladesh

[@shreyaranjan1963]

Soo beautiful.. being a girl most of us are taught to be an ideal wife and mother instead of being a strong individual responsible women... marriage is not a necessity.. u are a whole happy person missing no part dont try to complete yourself with somebody else ❤❤ earn ur own diamonds nd gold. Girls rock

[@MADvocate7]

You do know that boys rock just as much and neither arerthey taught to be career oriented.

[@Smiiile356]

I am Bengali, I am 24 and I am unmarried... Thank you for this beautiful video - you are intelligent and your video has touched me.

[@shoyebakhter2637]

I am also from West Bengal

[@quratulain7172]

That's my English teacher right there. Love you💕

[@umairumar8205]

Which institute is she teaching in?

[@aamnahere6250]

As a Pakistani woman, I can completely relate with her and I'll say it's not exactly the same for men. Yes, men are also asked when they would be getting married but not the way girls are harassed. Their own parents believe that if they don't get married their lives would be miserable that they need protectors because how else can women survive. Men aren't told that they can't have hobbies because if they do what will their wives think? Women, however are told not to sit a certain way, talk a certain way, laugh a certain way, dance a certain way, cook a certain way and even exist a certain way so that their husbands and in laws can find them tolerable. She isn't saying that marriage in itself is oppressive she's saying it might not be for everybody. Not everyone wants to get married and let's be honest with ourselves an unmarried man has a much easier life living among his family than a woman. A woman would be forced to get married after a certain age no matter how progressive her parents might be either through physical coercion or emotional blackmail. If you're a man and you don't understand what she's saying it's because you don't go through that stuff every single day of your life the way we do. If you're a man who believes it's just as bad for men then you are a typical man who doesn't acknowledge that in our society women have it a lot worse simply because your insecure self can't acknowledge that patriarchy is oppressive.

[@PhysicsHubPK]

@@Imrankhan-jt2kn she didn't say that Islam is a curse she only said that our society forces women to get married which is not compulsory in Islam it is a Sunnat so it is the women's choice to get married or not .

[@ummekulsum8097]

Our society should change for good. So that we women also get married happily by our will...like the Islamic way. Our society made it like this....our parents house is company which mend women for men which is unislamic. Society should should teach both men and women to be good like Islamic way. Understand y we women are backing out from marriage...then u LL know the real problem and then u LL get the solution. We are not products we are human...if we adjust in life, men should also adjust. Women's are only made to adjust which is unIslamic. If man start living Islamic life then life will be easy for women also and she can also be religious.

[@zarailly]

@The first part- totally true - Pakistani myself, sharing these same feelings but just never seen them in words and also have never had a real serious discussion about this - thank you

[@stuarthastie6374]

Aamna Here women as property.

[@shahzaibkiani9606]

So this is what your religion has taught you. Dear there is always a difference between the world of fantasy and the realistic one. In novels it looks so amazing to read that you have to be bold, you have to be courageous. You have to take stand for yourself. You really don't need to compromise. you don't need to sacrifices your dreams, desires for someone. Honsetly, I do believe in this and an ardent beiever of don't need to sit at the table where respect is no longer served. But there is a smooth difference between western culture and islamic perspective and both are great contrast of each other. If being sitting, wearing or talking in a certain way makes you feel annoyed and frustated then you really need to consult God for this discrimination. May be you query will be solved and honorable men are just implementing the rules and regulations imposed by the creator. if you have some personal issues with your God then extremely sorry for your impuissance and helplessness

[@ridaaftab2630]

Well I am 24 graduated in dental surgery And the next thing for me is my house job and for my family is my wedding That is so unfair to my parents who first give up their money for my education and now for my wedding because if they dont do so they will be blamed as parents who are dependent on their daughter's earning... Hope someday this silence breaks.

[@fatimanaz1431]

💔💔💔💔💔

[@kalyanmitra4996]

The best part is you care about your parents... Very good

[@gulabsinghsingh7248]

You want to do house job Why only job in house while you have really worked hard to work in hospital or any clinic Please stop thinking about house job and get out of your house And build your career

[@ridaaftab2630]

@@gulabsinghsingh7248 House job is done in hospitals after graduation to gain experience.

[@adhipmukherjee5723]

@@ridaaftab2630 In India it's called House Surgeon/Junior Doctor after completing medical graduation

[@rachnakhanduja1651]

Yusra, you are the voice of thousands of others.... and not just of those living in Pakistan. I am 36, unmarried, Indian. And i have heard every word of 'advice' from my elders that you have told here... from going on vacations with my husband after marriage to not buying a house as i am not married. I am proud of the way you have presented your thoughts so beautifully... especially at such young age. Perhaps will bring a change to the mindset regarding women... although my personal efforts have all failed miserably. God bless you.

[@supritiphani1282]

Hi Rachna - keep seeking with God's Guidance if you wish to get married. I am 2 years more in age than you and I have been seeking for a long time. One more thing I hope you marry whom and when you want to, not just because the world wants you to....

[@supritiphani1282]

@B Z - Hello. I understand what you wrote. I am just going to add to what you mentioned. There is a big difference between meeting males for friendship, dating, etc and quite a lot will be available. When it comes to a male settling down the things they consider is very different from dating. I am single as I am yet to find the man I would like to marry and vice versa :)

[@captainkaizo3824]

@@supritiphani1282 are you a Muslim? Why you need to bring religion?

[@julianacristina9060]

Dear Khaduja, I am 36 as well, brazilian, unmarried and everything is ok! Is very common here! 🙂

[@Lifestoriesforteens]

Oye chutiye sir kha lya yusra khusra ne hamara

[@riddhimanna8437]

She is the kind of person I have in mind when I say I love and respect Pakistanis. There are millions of others like her I believe and I wish the rest of the people in our beautiful neighbouring country becomes as thoughtful, responsible and progressive as she is.

[@rasbijalpatel310]

Such fluency and spirited speech. Your students are really lucky to have a determined you. Courage in language,we can hear it.

[@IndianGirlGermany]

The series beginning from "Are you married?'" to ...."why isn't she married"?.. Incredible!

[@asreekhan7372]

What is incredible

[@garysahi100]

If I was in the audience, I would give her a standing ovation

[@ayechatkori]

Me too.. I would also wanted to meat her personally, what an inspiration she have.

[@srashtiahuja370]

I don't want to get married before 30! I have alot to do before getting married. Marriage includes taking a lot of responsibilities and one shouldn't get married untill he or she is ready for it.

[@saveforestanimal2490]

I don't know why people think they cannot make their career after marriage ..if you see the all precious era success person they all married before time and got succeed in their life ....this is scientific that men women can marriage at right time if they need to marry so they can do their all valuable things on time ...some how I m not agreed on this do marriage bafter career or 30 ..

[@supritiphani1282]

You are right sister

[@sowhat2873]

@@saveforestanimal2490 she never said anything about career and there are things that can happen only before marriage due to time and health issues. And people get married at the ages of 50 or 60 and are happy with their partners. And its only her personal choice its alright if you wanna get married earlier

[@shurik3nz346]

Either you marry before 30 or you don’t marry. After 30-35, your value (to other guys) goes down.

[@srashtiahuja370]

@@shurik3nz346 I think not everyone thinks the same way. And who said no to dating?

[@richabhardwaj2929]

Hats off to her confidence... God bless her.

[@sbegum29]

Richa Bhardwaj ikr!!

[@rahulentertainment2112]

hi

[@jaykhan9557]

In the later years to come ..we"ll see where her confidence takes her..

[@stuarthastie6374]

jay khan PM I hope !

[@georgeholmes1490]

Best wishes, i wish you, God bless.

[@shivshakti1454]

I am 33 years old girl unmarried living alone...No family, no friends, no bf, no work whatelse left...m frm India

[@hushhush2378]

U r like me...☺

[@VijayPatil-vm9re]

Where are you located. Do you want to marry someone or like to live alone. What do you do?

[@hushhush2378]

@@VijayPatil-vm9re Pakistan. If u r asking me.

[@soniakanwal9608]

I like your confidence may God bless you

[@shivshakti1454]

@Uym O its hard to go out and I am not looking for Fun or anything just for MARRIAGE... Many astrologers said I will never get married... Its ok I have learnt to live with this curse

[@joyeetadutta1415]

I m 26.... Single... Indian... Usually gets to hear kb hogi shaadi.. Ab toh karlo.. N most important line is jahan Jana h shaadi k bd husband k sath Jana... In short India is no different in dis issue..

[@ummefarwashorts]

Same here dear i m 25 i m women n i m Pakistani 😂😂😂

[@rahulentertainment2112]

hii

[@maxlaguna9712]

Lets get marry.

[@محمدهادیاریافر]

@@Imrankhan-jt2kn خداراهیچ وقت فراموش نکن

[@jeaniek4980]

I'm 25 and single lol

[@sehamsaleh3634]

“Language is not right or wrong.... it is simply spoken” 👏

[@rmkatkarkatkar866]

999989llppppppooi0 555 ........ .

[@imaginativegirl126]

She is so delightful. I wish she had been my English teacher throughout my school life.

[@doityourselfpakistan6535]

I am 90 year old man and still unmarried and happy and enjoying my youth .

[@gulabsinghsingh7248]

Have you ever done any intimate relations with any female or woman

[@nishobit.1293]

@@gulabsinghsingh7248 Look who his revealing pervertness.. 🤔

[@anaayana2632]

@@nishobit.1293 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😁😁😁😁

[@aurboda]

that seems a little hard to believe, do you have social media i can follow you on?

[@doityourselfpakistan6535]

@@aurboda that was a sarcism

[@shahzadaslam384]

She pointed out a universal issue in subcontinent

[@ravidasnayak5433]

no she is saying about her community

[@uesugikenshin386]

Shahzad Aslam yeah

[@chatoicchaos1470]

Ravidas Nayak if you dig deeper it’s get universal due to misinterpretation. Misinterpretation Again misinterpretation of the common religion in that community which would prevent them from doing this yet they indulge. Other than that they are the architects of their own destruction

[@sabaripaulmajumder5196]

True

[@rational0]

Cousin marriage happens in all islamic communities, in pakistan in india, in Saudi and UK France ...

[@ektagupta5120]

Indian ,28 yrs old, will NOT get married, loving family, well educated and successful. n EXTREMELY HAPPY.

[@saritapaul1869]

Ekta Gupta i am also an Indian 34 years old unmarried ,wish NOT to marry ever , not successful but independent. Success to me is to build my own house one day but till now just managed to buy the land.

[@ektagupta5120]

@@saritapaul1869 Right...Happiness comes from within...not from any other person...It's all about being happy in life after all...lots of love.

[@eldergod4817]

It's your choice though. but marriage is fulfillment of life

[@zibycp2008]

Sarita Paul Why invest in a house and land if you are not raising a family? Is it for investment sakes? Perhaps, the sale of assets will help during retirement ? Aren’t you bothered about support during old age?

[@abhi565b]

@@ektagupta5120 dont be a feminazi..Marriage is the most beautiful moment in ones life..

[@zenchango]

The way she speaks. It's priceless. How she put her minds and thoughts into words are inspiring and her voice is being heard. Loved it.❤️

[@SanaKhan-nt9yu]

I can totally relate to what she is saying. I am 27 years old, Indian. I met a Pakistani women in america who asked me, "kis pagal kutte ne bol Diya tumhe america aane ko, apne walid walidein k sath nahi reh sakti Kya?" This is an incident that happened with me and I will remember it for life. We often remember how people made us feel so i guess yeah, i will never forget those lines coming out of her mouth. I chose not to tell her anything bcz she was a mother of 2 and if that's what she had to say to someone younger than her, then I have nothing to tell her. This incident also made me realise how society thinks about women and how small and insignificant our dreams our in front of their eyes. This is how society is, perhaps I would have had a similar response if I were in my hometown. I bet atleast one of my relative would have asked me the same question. So guys, this is not a problem of India or Pakistan. It's much bigger and it's everywhere. I guess this is something that we all must realise. I am successful today and not dependant on any man. So my dear sister's, wherever you are, India or Pakistan or any other country, follow your heart and nothing is more important than your own life, career and dreams.

[@abdulhannan5256]

I dont think this issue is with girls only, there are boys who are facing that too, including me "Bhai agar kuch karay ga nahi to koi apni beti kasay dega?" "Bhai apna haal dekh gym ja varna koi apni beti nahi dega" i mean seriously? Why does everyone care about marriage more than that person? Its just the backwardness of this era

[@96muslimgirl]

Hannan Faisal its not like nobody ever cared about the person though.. i see it like this; when we are kids we are cared for, prepared for the future, we learn how to live life the best we can etc. Then the time comes where we have to take on the place of the previous generation and start a new generation, passing down our values like this. And that is how life continues. And yes, men definitely have their issues too, it is not just women that experience difficult times.

[@user-vg9ns9fz6u]

thats because ... they try to tell u ... learn to take care of urself first to take responsibility of someone else. its not wrong. its like advice about reality of life.

[@neverghost4507]

I agree with you. But most of the time it's asked from the girls why isn't she married? How does she look? Bandi Sundar nahi hai! What's that?

[@beawadood5504]

Just what I was thinking. It's the same with boys in our society. I see it happen to my brother a lot more than it happens to me. And he's 4 years younger than me. I guess he just needs it more than me. Lol

[@pyaarnirvair1487]

You are absolutely right. Even the fact that men are given a burden from birth, saying that they should study and stay strong, no one hears them when they're sad. Dear men, I lost 2 dear brothers due to depression, talk about your problems, you matter. Turn yourself off if you're sad because you cannot jump without going down.

[@sudhirsingh9128]

I am from India and I liked the way u talked about women's rights. Love ❤️ from India 🇮🇳🇮🇳

[@surajsathyarthi816]

pakistan strictly need these type of independt girl. just wowwwww,look at her confident.lots of love and support fron INDIA

[@afanali6248]

This was in Lahore, one of the biggest and most modernized cities in Pakistan, it is very common for girls to be liberal and independent in the city.

[@TheMraaqib]

We do have.

[@miliaurora1038]

@Uym O Hi, I have seen you in so many comments section. How are you? Are you from India too like me?

[@samwaqar2450]

suraj sathyarthi Pakistani girls are undoubtedly confident but with dignity Alhumdulillah

[@zoyasaeed8383]

We have many.. thanks for your concern

[@LetsHangOutWithAmna]

If this talk is from Kinnaird college then those red paper aeroplanes behind the girl on the curtain are made by me and my team. I made 200 of those. Sadly I was not able to attend Ted.

[@laibatariq3671]

Aamenaa Tanveer yes ,it is from Kinnaird college

[@ramshilli2989]

Sorry for you. :-(

[@md.farhadmia1148]

Bvrxxx

[@dishabhatia3769]

I love her voice and her talk!❤

[@rahulentertainment2112]

hii

[@namratad2836]

She's one of the best i have seen. confident and such clarity of thoughts, not to mention choice of words! Love from India!

[@mehakjaved3219]

im 23 and unmarried and u speak my heart out....

[@Mohds-ou2jp]

Why still unm?

[@attariaattaria4342]

Same

[@Kis603]

I am 30 .... unmarried.... and living very happy with myself....

Lol 23 me to ajkal koi shadi nhi karta

[@rajab4187]

hi we are of same age just 2 year difference can we talk?I'm 23 now

[@lpsuganthi394]

why I clicked this video is because she told that she is unmarried in Pakistan. I am a Indian girl,who always wanted to change world and one of goal is I will not marry.I saw myself in her .Everyone here in this world has a real existence in planet.Our duty is to find what it is?..

[@haiqarizwan9981]

Lp Suganthi Its so true. I totally relate to you. I am a Pakistani and facing the same problem but no one understands me. Everyone thinks i am talking nonsense when i say i want to follow my dreams. 😢

[@pooja350]

@@haiqarizwan9981 keep living your truth sister.

[@halaahmed3412]

Yes u and I are citizens , individuals , adults ... we have existence ...only if people could understand ... I am 18 but I have huge plans ahead ...wish me luck ..Love from Pak💚

[@AshishPanthee62]

@@halaahmed3412 I wish u good luck

[@yasinmuhammed7242]

I live in India, and I’m older than you, I teach English literature to young girls in college, and I’m still unmarried. What you have just described is my life and I can relate to you very much. Thanks for putting it so beautifully.

[@paramjeetsingh926]

Wow!!!!!! Incredible speech brilliant poems every word this young lady speaks comes from bottom of her heart. Maybe after sometime we all will forget her name but not her thoughts. I SALUTE U YOUNG LADY & AM A PROUD OF TWO YOUNG & BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTERS LIKE U. 😊😊😊

[@shuchitashuchita8282]

"Language is not right or wrong. It is just spoken." Wow... Inspiring young woman... Hats off

[@zahraajaz1277]

As an overseas Pakistani in the UK , it makes me really happy to see Pakistan moving towards modernisation, and she spoke English so beautifully, for sure breaking the stereotypes that people have against Pakistani education❤️

[@MADvocate7]

You mean breaking Islam. Forced marriages happen in village

[@zahraajaz1277]

@@MADvocate7 Not breaking Islam but forced marriages do happen the most in villages

[@uma20012]

I am so proud to see a Pakistani girl so strong and determined in standing up and talking about this issue. Please keep it up and make our women strong in just being their own self! THANKYOU!

[@theliterati3961]

"You are half of a whole." wow! That really hit me.

[@hopenotout5559]

I guess it had hit you a bit more hard... Painkiller suggested

[@hopenotout5559]

@@imadyounis199 میری انگریزی اچھی نہیں ھے آپ ذرا خلاصہ کر دیں محترمہ کی باتوں کا؟

[@hopenotout5559]

@@imadyounis199 سمجھ میں نہ آ جائے؟

[@kimhanuel5615]

"Language is not right or wrong it is simply spoken" this girl is amazing

[@fatmaahmad8874]

Remarkable young woman. Keep inspiring and keep rocking.

[@AshwaniKumar-dm7ef]

"Language is not right or wrong, it is just how you speak it." One value added to my life. Thanks💕

[@AtharvaBhamburkar7420]

My first reaction," YOU GUYS HAVE HARRY POTTER???" From a highly stereotyped view to a mainstream thinking country. May the bond be restored with humanity and peace shinning bright over all of us! GodSpeed

[@saadawan5502]

Not only do we have Harry Potter, we have Harry Potter inspired cafe.

[@AtharvaBhamburkar7420]

Erum Malik 😅😅

[@AtharvaBhamburkar7420]

Saad Awan woahhhh😃

[@AtharvaBhamburkar7420]

themidsummerdream well,lets not get into what we have and you don't... Cause that list would stretch till eternity! Lets appreciate the fact that someone stood up for a whole generation and pray that things get better there!

[@jekyll7110]

It's actually very popular here.

[@ZaharahFitness]

This is society, NOT Islam. Islam is very simple and peaceful

[@suhassreehari876]

What a joke lol 😂😂😂

[@zainabfarhan5823]

I love how girls are starting to stand up for themselves. I honestly couldn't be prouder! This is so beautifully worded, I couldn't have said it better myself.

[@belogical2396]

Zaynab Farhan cause the end is near

[@goldi1018]

@@belogical2396 it's sick how submissive women, wo endure bad treatment are a good sign but women fighting for themself is a sign for qayamit. Seems like your religion hates women

[@lishalopez1017]

Blown away! This has to be my new most favourite video on KZbin, hats of to such an inspiring women.

[@naqshburhan]

Damn! I like the way she questions authority.

[@touseef_akhtar]

I was in the Audience :D Had a wonderful time. Thanks TEDx Lahore

[@gowthamkumar2534]

I just can't stop myself from seeing this video

[@tenny6246]

PAKISTAN NEEDS MORE BRAVE AND EDUCATED PEOPLE LIKE HER. LOTS OF RESPECT FOR HER AND HER WAY OF LIBERAL THINKING THAT MOST PAKISTANIS DON'T UNDERSTAND OR SIMPLY IGNORE IT.

[@zareengulabi9569]

Woman don't have to get married in order to get the respect they deserve After girl complete her education she could do many things in life like travel have her business buy her own car n house.Not just get marrued at 1 .Otherwise wats the use of education if u end up sitting in kitchen or with kids.

[@wajihaali7538]

Zareen GULABI what an amazing thought....

[@munibaafzal570]

How exactly you plan to raise your kids without having education. I guess we have quite alot unmarried educated women out there but what we really need is EDUCATED MARRIED WOMEN who can raise further more generations who’ll be educated because she was. Shaadi is not just for unparh, man!! Kitchen me sirf unparh khana ni banatey!

[@sowhat2873]

I agree with one part but one can be a stay at home parent and be educated. I think such decisions should be made by individuals and their partners. Not be society that how should a couple play their role to be part of a place.

[@hammadhussain3082]

@@munibaafzal570 Agar parh likh kr bhi kitchen mein khana banati hein, without being paid the due diligence, tw matlab parhayi ne degree tw de di aqal nai di.

[@yogesh9175]

wajiha Ali I think, we would be better off if we adopt children. Why produce more children when we can put the existing human resource to use?

[@hanafromtunisia6545]

From "Assalam u alaikum" to .."however you chose to say it " I admired her😍😍

[@moonstruckrevera6861]

I got married at 32 years age, while my friends had high school going children.

[@MuzikAficionado]

Wonderful Yusra! You have beautifully given voice to the thoughts and struggles of hundreds and thousands of girls and even women. Hats off to you!

[@gonnermleggies4813]

What an amazing poet. I couldnt agree more with everything shes fighting for. Being a woman is hard enough without all the pressures put on us by society. I am 29 and unmarried. I also had to have my uterus removed because of endometriosis so no children are in my future. I dont mind because I am happy with myself and my freedom of movement. It breaks my heart that so many women all over the world are shackled. I hope that I see some real change in my lifetime. It's going to take so much work but I believe people standing up and breaking the silence will make it so.

[@snjvnijoshi7144]

Thinking of marriage gives me depression I really want to be single in my entire life We got only 1 life mannnn commonnn

[@sadiahaidermasud771]

If it gives you 'depression' then that means something is seriously 'wrong' with you.

[@crochetcharms]

Dexter Dex just because she doesn't want to get married, doesn't mean anything is wrong with her. And marriage *is* a complicated thing.

[@snjvnijoshi7144]

@@crochetcharms thanku so much☺️

[@crochetcharms]

jiminee pabo no worries, dude. You do you! It's your life, people don't get a say in this, *you do!*

[@snjvnijoshi7144]

@@crochetcharms I agree😊😊

[@envirooh9274]

What an incredible speech from a fellow Pakistani woman

[@HanifArif]

This Girl, make me be very hopeful about the future of Pakistan. Brilliant

[@belogical2396]

Hanif Arif first of all it is "makes me" ! correct you semtance she is just the proof that this is not pakistan but najistan

[@gamerwitch6676]

And that u forgot to add if somehow you are not married even after you have a job.....u must b having a secret relationship

[@kavitakurani1652]

Hmmmm Islam khatre me he ladies chilla rhi he 😔

[@kindnesshappiness9715]

😂

[@Thecannibalfrombeyond]

@@kavitakurani1652 😂😂😂

[@khizarhayat1387]

Or somehow you have bad charcter so no one is asking your hand like seriously

[@anumcodes]

That doesn't only happen in Pakistan but also amongst Pakistani born people living abroad. Fantastic and insightful speech.

[@Rayyan420z_]

0/5 “Incomplete” YEAH RIGHT NO OFFENSE BUT THATS ALL THAT YOUVE TAUGHT US “INCOMPLETE”

[@philmccraken7126]

May God help u

[@poetrycorner3612]

So nice to hear you Yusra, so nicely spoken without putting anyone down; absolutely in love with your voice. Those poems are beautiful. I am 27 and I feel proud to have been privileged and being born in a family that respects my decisions. Always been supportive, they're okay with me marrying whenever I am ready and with me adopting a kid. Lots of love from India :)

[@dipak1978]

I had been an Indian student of Eng Lit. Aging now 41, but wish I were your classmate or a student at least... Best luck as an unmarried beautiful girl.

[@anisdaudjudge]

I am an Indonesian muslim Father with 4 beautiful daughters. the eldest one is 26 years , i let them free to have their preference .... Marriage is something personal , no parent should be involved . I let them to decide , when and with whom they like to marry. Allah might protect and bless them.... thats my pray to Allah.

[@faatimahfarhad1523]

True insights, can totally relate. And loved "red and gold". WOW. WOW. Love her play on words. ❤

[@dancingnachos3634]

Beautiful thought process and very articulate. Its not about being married or not married but giving enough independence to make your own decisions and being in a physically and emotionally safe world.

[@ahadkhankhattak9936]

I am Pakistani I am man Respect womens👏

[@Livewell-xgi]

You are an amazing woman, Yusra. I have so much respect for you. You call people out without fear because you know what's right. You command a room. You don't care who you offend because some things need to be said. You speak with true authority. I don't understand Urdu but your emotions said it all. Thank you for speaking up.

[@amnasiddiqui9711]

The moment she said she loves Harry Potter, I hit the like button.

[@areebamehboob5507]

I am a Pakistani girl. I am 14 years old and I was lucky enough to have moved to Saudi Arabia when I was 9. This lead me to see that the things that my culture has lead me to believe are not true and right. My didn't get to go to college because she got engaged at my age and she is the smartest I know. I don't want that for myself and luckily my parents agree with me but the judgement of my extended family can be so harsh without them realising it.

[@ankitanandy6076]

I completely agree with you. I too had to gulp down comments like why are you so picky about food your mother in law wont like it, why do you have so many shoes after all your husband will not allow these. I still unmarried and I am happy.

[@shahiprodhan7011]

I was pleased to hear 'THE SPEAKING' of Teacher YUSRA AMJAD, who had the special poetic ability to focus her thought by her beautiful English. I would be longing to attend to her (Yusra) more lecture in VIDEO.

[@sarahrome885]

You inspired me May Allah grant barakah in all your efforts and may you shine like a star InshaAllah Much love and respect , A fellow single ,unmarried ,Pakistani girl 💞❤

[@sameenakhan6096]

Love her style of talking and off course her creativity and analysis as well...amazing.. Fabulous😍😍

[@nurulainmohd3198]

27 and unmarried. Well i guess this situation happen mostly everywhere. And im from Malaysia.

[@feddiefeddie3085]

Agreed!! Um malaysian too!! Hi!! Which part of malaysia?

[@ahsnsb]

yeah but oppression in pakistan isnt comparable to that in most other countries.

[@mdjilu8184]

Hggyyyyyyyyyyy

[@saira_6151]

Positively amazing to hear such an intelligent and independent young lady. She will scare many. Because truth often does. Go far. Aim high.

[@rajnaik9]

Amazing 👌🏼 Your thoughts reflected out here in India as well...

[@Anish7777]

konse gao se h bhai..?

[@rajnaik9]

Anish Kumar good question🐷

[@mhsolutionz]

well! to some extent we can say it's the dilemma of Asian countries.

[@klawtawar]

Raj Naik agree with you

[@dnranjit]

Marriage is two people coming together to solve problems they never had in the first place...certified with 13 years of experience

[@saira_6151]

lol

[@Mr.Moon16]

Any one: I will take stand for my self. Time: I will stand for my self Time wins Never challenge it

[@komalpanchal2125]

I come from a Gujarati family in India and I am so proud to say that my Father always wanted me to do whatever I wanted to achieve great in my life. I wish every girl's father was like him.

[@dreinhard52]

This woman is a prize , seeing this gives me confidence in the future of Pakistan.

[@sandysandy967]

Will write everything below-: 1. You are good in english more than your urdu or hindi. Its a compliment. 2. You described well about your views and thoughts in the lahore society and how you faced problems for being an individual... 3. I found few media personal as well as the few speeches were really well explained. May be its only 1% of the population but it will give a better impact on pakistans progress. Before 6 months its the worsts to see any news channels of any country its justs negetivity and now many things has improved hope the ship never sink. 4. It seems you learnt and memorise a lot in explaining these words like poems. Justs many peoples dont have heart and may be thats why they remain in that condition as you described. May be they are foxys and for them what matters is not love its something other things thats why they live like this. We are not here to judge as the result is contradictory. 4. These questions you described asked in the soviety are actually there reflection. Its their formation and may be its correct or not, lets again not judge. You know if you are breaking the age old rules its better to be self confident and true to yourself. If you have the courage you have the way. 5. Not well constructed, you say in hapazard way. Very well said. Thanks.

[@archanaasatkar]

Love from India...! Very nice yusra..! Wether it is India or Pak.. situation is same dear..!

[@varadagrawal1]

Just one word for the lady. Wow! Not only India or pakistan but the entire world needs such kind of people

[@vibhusingh9152]

I am young, unmarried single boy, why has TEDX not contacted me yet😠😠

[@komalzeb8124]

Lol cause u have written "has" twice 😉😂

[@truptisagar9397]

Hahahah

[@vibhusingh9152]

@@komalzeb8124 oops🤐

[@komalzeb8124]

@@vibhusingh9152 now it's double space between "TEDX and not", i guess😝

[@munirahusein6979]

The well spoken girl you have proved, cannot be generalized, everyone makes choices and at the end of it , one has to be able to face the consequences too, I am married, working as a lecturer in a PG Dept. and have 2 girls- decisions can be based either on circumstances good or bad.

[@thinkingaloud7925]

There can only be one thing worse, Being a young Hindu unmarried female in Pakistan.

[@dilsere1775]

😭

[@guy73]

There is one thing that is worst. Being a muslim in India, male or female.

[@aditimuke7819]

There aren't any hindus left in Pakistan

[@guy73]

@lulu see my answer above

[@ayechatkori]

What a speech Madam, I haven't heard such valuable speech for a long time, you are such good person i can say, you are inspiration for All, and I am always in favor of gender equality, education of girls, and wish they can do whatever they want to do in their life, off-course they have so many choices rather than only being married.. Salute your spirit Yusra Amjad .

[@tanishamarko9251]

She's is praised with beauty elegance and intelligence indeed♥️🌼

[@yasmeenmahmood5221]

My daughter is in her mid 20’s I let her be her own person but I do worry about her and other women getting married later and later. You have given a beautiful explanation but plz don’t forget marriage is completing half your deen.

[@naqialvi679]

Probably one of the most worth listening things! You go girl 👍

[@kashfia_7767]

Walaikum Assalaam Ms. Yusra Amjad. I'm from Bangladesh. You're an excellent & highly motivational speaker Subhan Allah. Keep going on like this.

[@mairaskh6572]

Mesmerizing.......its jst nt abt d ideology BT d confidence she spoke along with ......was really commendable

[@nohafaisal2491]

She had spoken by heart and the confident............incredible ...........

[@ms-zo3zb]

So true what she just said,,,misogyny is has always been part of pakistani culture and so much talent could have been discovered if women were allowed to think beyond marriage

[@saira_6151]

Right? When I say that we'll I don't want to say what happens but you get the idea. It's a fact. Misogyny is the culture of Pakistan.

[@sa22g10]

We need more female poets ..it is..good the way she expresses her views on society in Pakistan..

[@tubaashraf7108]

*Language is not right or wrong, it is just spoken* Waoo

[@anumehakaushik9514]

I am an indian girl and sister we have same aunties and same taunts are being passed on us girls here. You are a awesome speaker i just loved you.

[@novelamurmu8954]

U thrilled me and fill me with hopes. God Bless you. Keep Strong and blesses.