ONLY Date Guys That Have These Green Flags! | Dating Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

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[@Portia620]

Comparability most important

[@LOVEGARDEN-ce8fs]

1. Compatibility creates chemistry 2. Chemistry ❤5 green flags: 1. He takes responsibility for his life. 2. Talking with him is easy. 3. You can be your authentic self around him. 4. He shows respect even to people he disagrees with. 5. You feel expansive with and without him.

[@yurimaperez1145]

Someone stable and “consistent” with their words/actions. Someone who makes me feel secure and no doubts. Chemistry and good values is key

[@Portia620]

❤ 🙏 rare !!

[@Sabina-ve9ie]

My green flag: He reacts calmly and is interested in other opinions or critical feedback. 😊

[@katemiller5990]

Ohhhh Mat 😢 I would have been so grateful to have known this before I got married 10 years ago. I’m now in the middle of a divorce, because although we tried very hard to make it work, our compatibility was not good, there were lots of red flags I missed and my spirit, in the end, was broken very badly. I will have another chance after this, and if I choose well this time and I’m happy in the end, please know you will have had a sizeable part in that. Thank you for what you do, you are making a difference 💛

[@carlinetorweihe4246]

So sorry to hear this!

[@Essyzubi]

Stay strong!!! Time heals everything!

[@Portia620]

Long term! When he says he will do something…he does it!!!! No excuses! We are human and things happen sometimes but he always follows thru!

[@jeanettehigginbotham]

Character, honesty, transparency.

[@jrb4347]

I ONCE dated a guy where nothing was his fault. It was very confusing for me. I asked if he comes with a customer service line and he said I don’t understand what do you mean - I said I need to speak to someone in charge.

[@clarissaywy]

Wow, there was this guy i dated where he's always right and will always argue to prove himself. Like a know it all, seriously annoying, and lack empathy. He was more interested in being right over the relationship and whether it would hurt my feelings. So glad i got rid of that one. Matt, you're right, he really lacks respect for me.

[@jackdeniston6150]

@@clarissaywy But if you were arguing with him , that means you are the same.... And you are always right, right?

[@ShortDarknLovely]

I like when a man has had long term friendships with men & women. And his relationship with his children & family. How he interacts with the people in his family is eye opening.

[@paulettewhite2866]

The mutual chemestry of love and respect. The feelings that dont go away. We understand each other and want the other to be happy!❤ Not jealousy but protective. My relationship there was never a fight or arguments, had a solid outlook on life and leadership. We walked in life hand and hand, a team, for 15 years until cancer took my love away. Communication is top priority! ❤

[@LipstickNsofrito]

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[@a.d.b535]

All true. My bf is so attentive to my heart that I have peace and calm with and without him. Prior bf turned me into an anxious mess with his dismissiveness.

[@ireefree2024]

Feeling peace is a great indicator of a great relationship ❤

[@rebeccayeatesmakeup]

I think emotional intelligence is a green flag for me. Like if you have a disagreement or voice something that hurt you. It’s a real test of his character if he can take responsibility but also can self reflect, have empathy, apologise and wants to fix the situation. If he can’t then that’s a massive red flag as feeling safe to communicate your needs and hurts is really important for the relationship to work. Number 2 in being safe to openly talk is what led to my last relationship failing. I tried to communicate my needs and wants, but fell on deaf ears. Which made it harder to feel safe to have hard conversations with him, but he broke up with me instead of trying to fix the problems. It made me realise that I don’t want to be with someone who I don’t feel safe with and also can’t engage in deep conversations whether easy or hard.

[@Florida_gyrl]

You know Matt that’s one of my biggest top qualities I’m looking for in the right man. Someone who can have a conversation and we are talking like we’ve known each other forever. The connection isn’t forced. It’s just there naturally. It’s so difficult to find a man with good conversational skills. Most men get too caught up in their heads and get too nervous to just have a conversation. It’s a major turn off. I can’t imagine being in a relationship or married to a man I cannot ever talk to. It’s not attractive to me and it’s unhealthy. I have known so many couples that tell me they don’t talk to their spouse for days or weeks because they are angry with their spouse. It’s passive aggressiveness and childish. Communication is key in a relationship. Hey! I’m more than happy to hold out for a man that can hold a conversation and we just click. It’s worth the wait!

[@nm9412]

I just discovered you and love your videos! Thank you! 😊

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.

[@faatinlantra9683]

I feel you, it’s been nearly a year and I’m still trying to overcome a heartbreak. Even when someone nice tries to approach me I just push him away because I can’t let go of this habit of comparing him with others. He was very sweet to me but used to talk behind my back with our mutual friends. That’s when I ended it because I could no longer take the disrespect.

[@KerriLynnBulger]

Excellent video! I learnt all of this the hard way. I've given up on finding a decent partner- too 'gun shy'. I prefer to live happily single free of abuse

[@julianelydokken117]

Love the way you express your knowledge and experience. Thank you so much.

[@hathortheshapeshifter]

Focusing on the positive . I like it

[@slcollazo.2911]

Love it - your content is amazing! Well balanced and full of healthy relationship perspectives. Keep up the great work, Mat, you da Man!!!! 👍

[@moniquel3451]

A big one for me is that he need to show me and make me feel like I’m a priority NOT an option ! Amongst other big issues, 1 being infidelity, on several occasions with multiple different women when we both agreed to have a monogamous marriage is in part why I separated from him.

[@CoachAllison]

Not dating, but it good to know

[@Florida_gyrl]

Same here!

[@soniatita9856]

Compassion.

[@DarlitaStephens]

I've learned that everything you said is 100% true. Once again, you hit the nail on the head with this one.

[@PopFizzPaperDani]

My first green flag is that they notice I exist. 😂

[@hulahandskc]

Definitely. I’m realizing I need this too, but not really getting it in my current relationship.

[@GloriaJ.Bronson]

This is an excellent video. I'm still struggling to move on from my seven year relationship. My ex, who I genuinely thought was the love of my life, broke up with me a month ago, and I just can't seem to let go. I feel frustrated and helpless because nothing I've tried has brought him back. I've attempted to move on, but my heart still aches for him, and I can't see a way forward.

[@GloriaJ.Bronson]

Thank you for sharing this valuable information. I just did some research on Fatherabulu, and it's surprising what I've found. He seems genuine and capable. Thank you so much for pointing me in the right direction.

[@gayschaye4600]

These are great. Well said.

[@LandE520]

Great video. A+! 💕

[@lifewithmargot]

Wow 🤩 what valuable information! Thank you 🙏

[@acd1168]

Your wisdom is very appreciated. Thank you so much

[@mariellegrant6248]

Thank you Mat for these very wise advice! 😀💐🙏

[@evefeng6339]

These are such amazing advices! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom, Mat!!!

[@barkharani2693]

This is one of your best videos Matt.. Loved each word..

[@debtan6367]

That was so nice. Loud and clear...I hope I can find someone like that soon 😇🙏

[@carmencollazo-edwards4939]

Thanks for this great information!

[@ry2yb]

So good! Thank you!

[@chloebelle4923]

This is SUCH common sense, yet, VERY valuable information for me going forward -~ thank you! I personally needed the reminder to take personal responsibility for my challenges so that I can attract someone who is the same! Much appreciation to you!

[@CoachAllison]

I say both

[@clarissamendoza8322]

When I was single: Is he a good person per se? That's the 1st thing. Other things seem workable. Now that I'm married, compatibility in values, time, money seem to be just as important. They are not that easily workable after all. Before tying the knot, I made sure our genes are somewhat compatible too. I don't want to deal with genetic/hereditary diseases that come out since childhood. Marriage is hard enough, no need to make hospitals your 2nd home.

[@Portia620]

😂😂

[@roxanekeeley-monet9352]

I love your honesty Matt, you're awesome 👌 Roxy - UK

[@annstar2793]

Typically it’s 1 and 5- chemistry and feel peace when not around them. Or just 5.

[@deliapasqualini970]

I disagree with you on the first point: chemistry and compatibility. You may have great chemistry which doesn't create/increase compatibility (true) but a solid compatibility doesn't not create/increase more chemistry at all. That's in or out. No half measures. Then it becomes something you forcing yourself into

[@Venusya1]

Exactly

[@tanviyamudi5873]

Hi Mat, I find your videos really amazing. Can you make a video on how to forgive your partner, especially for cheating.

what's the significance with your bracelets?

[@EmilyGloeggler7984]

Honestly, those are red flags for me and not good indicators of finding what I knew I prayed for in a future husband. Compatibility didn’t create chemistry for me no matter how many of the same values we had and I’m so glad that I rejected those red flag guys that were “compatible” and had “chemistry.” I found out what worked for me (before I met my only ever husband.) My criteria were simple - 1). Do he prioritize and Fearijg, Loving, and who obeys God and His Word consistently. 2). Does he also enjoy music and singing? 3). Does he enjoy travel? 4.) Does he want children? 5) Does he like cats? 6) Is he accountable and will permit accountability? 7) Is he honest? 8) Is he faithful? 9) Is he willing to genuinely be platonic friends, even if he is rejected? Those were my criteria and I’m glad I rejected those compatible and chemistry guys to find my husband and guess what? He’s not confident, and yet he’s humble, ethical, faithful, loving, etc and I’m glad I sifted through all those frogs and found my husband. :)

[@LetJesusTouchUrLife]

Conversating ❌ Conversing ✅

[@summerposkas8312]

People say reverse psychology helps but I’m afraid to use it because I’m scared it won’t work.

[@tijanaurkovic985]

It is not true that compatibility creates chemistry. Then that's good friendship.

[@Portia620]

Was not attracted to my ex but chemistry happened when we had sx because I always got off! It can happen!!!!

[@Portia620]

I want an x ray machine! Sooo many players users and ugh!

[@RadicalValkyrie]

Me nervously watching this and hoping to tick them all off 😅 Phew...all of them ticked of.

[@jeanettebohm3569]

I have no dates my providers don’t allow that 😂

[@clarissaywy]

My green flag: If he keeps his word and his words match his actions. Consistency.

[@EzeaguChidimma]

Sorry but you didn't do the video that i requested

[@braininjurydiy]

far out 9 out of 10 people don't have a responsible mindset

[@jeanettebohm3569]

I need a soulconnection a real divine Man. 😉

[@ammamaw]

Compatibility, chemistry, great conversation, shared humor, all of which he didn’t get in his marriage for the last 25 years. But…. Still married.😐 Comfort zone? Victim mentality? Maybe just used to his life as it is - warts, loneliness & all. So disappointing for me. But you’re not gonna change it

[@Jan-qv8ku]

Very important. Thank you

[@Ameryarina]

Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.

[@gemstar7447]

I hope time will heal your heart 💚

[@christielove9000]

Thank you for this insight, very helpful 😊