Our Wedding - Laura from the Bruderhof

Just a little photo/video montage of Laura and Chris's wedding. Music by a Bruderhof instrumental ensemble.
Laura just started a new channel, check it out at / @laurafromthebruderhof
Central to family life is marriage - a creation of God and a sacrament that precedes and transcends the authority of the state. Christ declared marriage to be the lifelong union of one man and one woman, and he intended it be a joyful union for the bearing and raising of children.
In addition to making vows of poverty, Bruderhof members also make vows of chastity, which require abstinence before marriage and outside of it. We rejoice when a man and a woman are led to true love by God. Marriage vows are made publicly before the gathered members as witnesses, and the marriage is then confirmed by the church through the laying on of hands.
We have reverence for members who remain single by choice or circumstance. In their life of chastity, they give witness to Jesus’ call to purity and singleness of heart. A single person who does not live near his family is welcomed into another Bruderhof family to share meals, activities, and support.

[@jacqpaschoud]

In these days where weddings cost tens of thousands of pounds how beautiful is this simple ceremony!!

[@shia7421]

It's what you make of it.

[@swicheroo1]

My wedding cost 300 dollars. I finished my doctorate. Drove to Las Vegas. Got pictures and a video for 250. 50 bucks for gas both ways. Took the money I saved and traveled the world with my wife for 3 years. We've been married 17 years.

[@dee4174]

I was just thinking same. Simple but sincere.

[@logothaironsides2942]

Sweet and honest. It doesnt look at all stressful or competitive and so many weddings are only about the impact they will have on everyone who attends.

[@lauras610]

I love the simple genuineness of this. The focus is on Christ and the love between this beautiful couple and community. ❤

[@elina2173]

Laura reminds me of Laura Ingalls from little house on the prairie, beautiful smiles, smart and full of life.

[@laurafitz3868]

Also remind me of Anne of green Gables!

[@VictorLepanto]

It's so sweet you got to wear a crown. You know, in Orthodox or Eastern Christian weddings both the man & woman are crowned during the ceremony. Just sharing, "God grant you many happy years in peace & happiness."

[@MySardarji]

Oh, I love the simplicity of this.

[@lindaf.588]

I absolutely loved the simplicity, and Holiness of the ceremony. Not as the world does weddings. I loved that a Christian wedding should be noticably different. The rest of the Body of Christ should take note of this❤️

[@BellaClarie]

I Love this. This is true love, and putting Christ 1st. In the world, people have expensive weddings, cheat on each other the night before on bachelor and bachelorette parties, make it about materialism and vanity, etc and most of those marriages end badly or in divorce. I hope to have a small wedding like this someday and find a man who puts Christ 1st.

[@Nobodycares668]

Lord bless this community, this couple, this channel of witness. Where two or three are gathered in my name, there I am.

[@deebee9151]

Your wedding was a beautiful and authentic expression of your love for each and your families and community and your faith. A lot of us can learn from you Laura.

[@buttface3875]

Wow, there is so much love from your community and you two in this celebration. I am so happy for you!

[@knittingdoula]

What a beautiful expression of love and faith for one another and the community you're both a part of! A belated and sincere congratulations.

[@suzannal6047]

Laura Oh, I thought you looked adorable on your wedding day! God bless you abundantly! God bless your marriage abundantly! May our Lord Jesus Christ always be in the center of your marriage and of your home!

[@IckyTzatziki]

Thank you for sharing these parts of your wedding with us, it brings so much joy. Hoping your joy together increases throughout your married life.

[@AlbertWRichter]

I pray Laura always smiles the rest of her life. Thank you for getting married and sharing a glimpse with me. Marriage is an amazing gift of grace from God.

[@Bruderhof]

Thank you!

[@theblessedhopeinthewordofy8248]

@@Bruderhof Yes this is beautifull. I love the simple way of dressing, also at weddings. :-) God bless you both! And congratulations from Denmark. Anne.

[@abhilashpaul9237]

God bless you my dear brother and sister in Christ. And Congratulations to you both.

[@GeekTrow]

I know this was a few years ago, but what a treat to have both your grandparents be there!!!

[@deepbluesong5067]

I thought the same think. How incredibly lucky they are

[@nnannaotuh1834]

I'm jealous. This is better than I even imagined it.

[@zappawench6048]

Everyone looked so happy to be celebrating with you both on the occasion of your marriage! You both looked so happy as well! Goes to show that you don't need a huge white meringue dress to have a great wedding and a successful marriage. Wishing you joy and contentment together and congratulations on having two beautiful sons x

[@DoreenBellDotan]

We expected some members of our Kibbutz to come to our wedding in work clothes with mud on their golashes. They surprised us and came all decked out in clean jeans. Wow!

[@andybrophy100]

Beautiful... absolutely beautiful.

[@pamelaleonard6897]

Ohhhhhhhh thank you for sharing your sweet, lovely wedding!!!!! I'm sooooo happy for you both!!!!!! God bless you!!

[@cardero1952]

Beautiful wedding! Thank you for sharing. 💕

[@sarahr7425]

This is so wholesome.

[@elishamalisha]

Thanks for sharing!

[@dawnpetras5146]

congrats ! thankyou for including your viewer's! God bless your marriage Laura :)

[@luv2knit61]

so glad to see you again! Best wishes to you and Chris. it looked like a wonderful wedding😀

[@diddl03]

So beautiful 💛👍

[@MinhSen11]

I love you guys so much!

[@seancambeulful]

Congratulations!!!

[@ann40069]

Simplistic beauty.....💜💐

[@StephyGrowsWeed]

i actually like the idea or the fact of you all just wearing whatever you like/what u also wear on any other day. At least that was my impression. I don’t like the idea of having to dress up for a specific reason. Neither for church nor a ceremony, nor a birthday, a wedding, or whatever. No struggle to find a nice dress that is only worn once, no waste of money .... so easy, so nice the way you handle it.

[@bharatirai527]

Beautiful ❤❤

[@our3geckos]

Beautiful, poingnant and to the point ❣️ ♥️May God Bless You Both For Many Years♥️💞 ALOHA FROM HAWAI'I 💞🌹 LYSSA 🌹

[@Barthony]

congratulations! loved the video

[@pepperless7218]

Beautiful

[@hidinginsight1879]

Laura ALWAYS is beautiful and what she wears is ALWAYS pretty. No need the "trappings" of the "typical wedding".

[@traceybooth5840]

CONGRATULATIONS FOR 5 YEARS AGO YOU HAD A BEUTIFUL WEDDING. XX

[@LeighAnnWagor]

Congratulations!

[@lorenawaldner402]

congratulations to you both, May you always keep Jesus I. The center of your marriage, God Bless!

[@NM-js8ky]

Sweet the grandparents speak 😁

[@jaynareynolds3684]

Congrats!

[@irenedavo3768]

Wow!

[@unathleticutd]

congratulations

[@davidnicholson5241]

Lovely 😍😍😍😍

[@englishlanguagewithnina5965]

I think it is beautiful to include the family. I also very much appreciate and like what you and your husband had to say about marriage in your "how we met" video. If I am ever blessed with marriage - I would like to make my family a part of the wedding.

[@Bruderhof]

Thanks! -Laura

[@snmcchurch6860]

so cute!

[@h34p]

nice people, fundamentalists, but nice people. wishing all the best.

[@alienblunt3737]

congrats!

[@susihuber2388]

OmG the elders have such a strong German accent! How come?

[@AL-bv7jt]

Because they are German. The Bruderhof are a breakaway from the Hutterites. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bruderhof_Communities She covers it in another video, I just can't remember which one. I'm wondering if, like the Hutterites, most of their interactions with one another, is all in German as well?

[@fienn5227]

Hm, makes sense, "Bruderhof" is a combination of 2 german words

[@susihuber2388]

fien n yeah, that’s obvious (I‘m Austrian). But the way they pronounce Bruderhof ist totally different than you would say it in German, and the Huttites migrated centuries ago, so I‘m still wondering...

[@AL-bv7jt]

@@susihuber2388 the Hutterites that live next to my dad still speak German with one another all the time. They also have German accents and their families have been here in Canada for generations. It's probably a bastardized pronunciation. Not quite English and not quite German. Kind of like Canadian French isn't Parisian French.

[@nancig9648]

Your wedding cake is stunning. Congratulations

[@richards.mchardy3556]

I may not belong to your church... I believe in Jesus Christ and in our Father in Heaven I wish you both a long and safe journey in life as one. May God bless you both

[@jansullivan9662]

You are so pretty and always smiling, can tell you are happy. Was wondering could you have worn a wedding dress if you wanted to, I don’t mean to buy one but if one was available to borrow etc?

[@beethistlewinery6682]

she just wouldn't. Common property, no real exceptions for even celebration or formal things. She is issued clothes that fit and that's all that's necessary. A wedding 'dress' is a trapping from the modern world and would not fit at all into their poverty vow.

[@EezeeListen]

I cannot understand why there are comments saying that the lady should have worn a special dress. These people obviously have no understanding of the way of life the Bruderhof follow, and especially where they place their values. Ignorance or the inability to empathise is rife in this "wonderful" modern world!

[@elainethomson1712]

Eezee Listen on my wedding day we worn what were we comfortable in it not all about what you wear or the cake or the bridesmaids but the most precious thing is the person who you are going to spend the Rest your life with

[@ChristinaOurWoodHome]

lovely! I especially like Laura's flower crown ☺️

[@dimicdragan5922]

Congratulations, so nice to see couples sticking to the real biblical values...

[@yanireyes6827]

Oh there no difference in everyday clothes and your wedding day It would be nice to at least wear a dress on that day but I understand is not part of the religious congratulations on the wedding

[@delphinium5555]

Yes I felt that a pinafore or dress in the skirt fabric would have looked lovely for her husband.

[@lepolhart3242]

@@delphinium5555 it's a very simple wedding so they wouldn't wear an outfit specifically made for their wedding. I like the fact that they're different from modern weddings and they haven't spent lots of money on an extravagant dress that is only worn once as its ridiculous how much people spend nowadays as many get divorced anyway. I like what they did. Even before modern times poorer people especially (as richer people bought a specific wedding dress to show their wealth and social status) didn't wear special outfits only bought for their wedding, there wasn't the money to do so. People generally wore their Sunday best outfits for their wedding and rewear them afterwards so they always got their money's worth. Laura Ingalls in Little House on the Prairie did this as she wore her best outfit to her wedding but it was also worn many other times as well. Extravagance was never popular at weddings and I prefer this rather than materialistic modern weddings.

[@AndAllThatHair]

Yeah I also wished she got to wear something a little bit more special. Notably Chris is wearing a button down and dress pants. That’s a change from his jeans and T-shirt. Nothing crazy, just a bit singular for the day. However Laura is BEAMING with joy and that was the best and most important part.

[@lenaannis8787]

@@AndAllThatHair Ι agree. Nothing fancy but just for one day something different than her grandmother...

[@Pigletpronto]

Yeah, getting married in a khaki shirt , with a nylon black zip jumper on afterwards for warmth. Seriously, I'm a christian and got married in my parents back garden wearing second hand clothes, but the top was embroidered and the skirt silk, all rose gold colours. i find it literally disrespectful the bruderhof have girls marry jn their whatever workwear , as if any type of aesthetic beauty of clothing is in of itself a sin. A simple white cotton pretty blouse and skirt, costing practically zero could have made her look as beautiful as an angel.

[@lizzieb9302]

Some days when I'm surrounded by people and the hub hub I long for something like this. I think it's a beautiful life if you want it..no judging, no competition, no drama..

[@dixonpeters6884]

What church is this?

[@Bruderhof]

Former Mt. St. Alphonsus campus in Esopus, NY

[@JMCass-bp3sb]

Just wondering what religion the bruderhof practise as they had the ceremony in a Catholic Church ( the stations of The Cross on the surrounding walls.) It is very simple & dignified compared to some modern weddings where the focus is on the brides make up & entourage.

[@emmib1388]

they are Christians -- they purchased the church that was formally a Roman Catholic church.

[@Smee17]

Is that an actual Bruderhof church? I have to admit I was expecting something much plainer (like the little Welsh Baptist chapel I grew up attending).

[@rachelcookie321]

Do women have an option in the Bruderhof of wearing something a bit more formal on their wedding day like a wedding dress? I noticed Chris had a nice shirt and trousers on. I respect Laura’s decision to wear what she wanted to on her wedding day, just curious about other couples. Personally wearing a wedding dress is something I’ve always looked forward to since I was a little kid so while I could give up other things, I think I would always be sad if I didn’t get to wear a wedding dress. It is probably bad to care so much about a piece of clothing but it’s something I’ve dreamt of for so many years so it’s not something I could give up easily. Your wedding is a gateway to a new wonderful part of your life so I would like to feel special on that day.

[@jadebradley7825]

I noticed on the video prior to this one you both had rings on her right hands. Is that common in your community when you are engaged? Does that change to your left hands when you are married? Also, Where did both of you live prior to marriage, were you both living with parents?

[@emmib1388]

the rings are membership rings that they received when they officially joined the community - wedding rings are separate. She grew up in the community with her parents -- not sure of his background.

[@louisemerriman1079]

No distespect but dont you wear wedding clothes ? Congratulations both of you xx

[@loveandpeace787]

Would you be considered similar to Anabaptists?

[@butterflybeatles]

Why are they in a Catholic church?

[@Bruderhof]

The main building at The Mount community - where the wedding took place - was formerly used as a seminary by The Redemptorist Fathers of the Baltimore Province for more than one hundred years. This building contains an elaborate Romanesque-style chapel with imported Italian stained-glass windows depicting the life of Saint Alphonsus of Liguori. We use the space for student assemblies, concerts, and community-wide events. While it is a Bruderhof tenet to live simply, this architectural space has a beauty one can only appreciate. -Melinda, Bruderhof Communities

[@nandutuharriet1565]

Very simple imagine dressing like these in these century

[@Wrennie_bird08]

I spy Clem and Sarah❤️❤️

[@robinrubendunst869]

I'm not part of the community. I do wish on the very special once in a lifetime day, you wanted to wear a special dress. Isn't there anything in you at all that wanted to dress up and look not just pretty and wholesome but really breathtaking? I guess not if you grew up in the Bruderhoff, it's not like you're giving anything up... that sounds snarky, but I don't mean it that way.

[@Bruderhof]

Thanks for responding. There's something in what you say. But I think there is also beauty in simplicity and spontaneity. - Laura

[@robinrubendunst869]

Bruderhof, Laura, you are 100% right. Your hearts are clothed in joy, and that is enough.

[@aboveallLove523]

I want to escape this secular world. I would like to move here! MY SPIRIT knows I belong in fellowship and safety in Christ like family. I am a mother of 3 expecting my 4th in April. I'm not safe where I'm at please pray for me to find a good new home. I have been suffering with attacks from evil people....I dont want to live like this. GOD only knows! Please pray for me.

[@normamimosa5991]

I somehow wondered into these Bruderhof videos. Laura appears to be a really inwardly beautiful person, an apparent result of a giving and loving Bruderhof community; however, I simply do not get why this and similar religious communities go out of their way to make the women look so dowdy. Strange, actually. Applying their belief in the human creation by god, he went out of his way to make young women beautiful and sexualy enticing, so why the cover up? One has to admit that this communal living offers a lot, not least, no worries about self-sufficiency; however, how would such a community last without the creativity and benefits derived from self-sufficiency and capitalism? With the benefits of capitalism, they live a minimalist life. Without those benefits, they would be living a very primitive life of struggle.

[@mikewood8680]

Right? The church is well adorned but the clothes very unfeminine. See my comments above.

[@lepolhart3242]

@@mikewood8680 why does it matter that no wedding dress and tuxedo were worn at their wedding. It's beautiful that they had a very simple wedding with no frills. Wearing a wedding dress for just one day is very wasteful as in the olden days most people never bought specific wedding outfits and just wore their Sunday best for their wedding which they wore many times after their wedding. It was the norm especially for poorer people.

[@lepolhart3242]

I don't think it says anywhere in the bible that women should be beautiful and sexually enticing. Women are not ornaments.

[@lepolhart3242]

@Julia A beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Beauty is as beauty does.

[@Lori_L]

@@lepolhart3242 - have you read Song of Solomon?

[@aspenenglish4976]

Why are they in a fancy church? I though Anabaptists were against that. I would think she would at least be able to wear a nicer dresser. The man was more dressed up than her. They’re very kind, good hearted people but things change and sometimes for the better. You can evaluate those changes and adapt according.

[@thomasreeves5580]

Do you delete any comment that questions your faith, or are you in an echo chamber?

[@Pagan_Heart]

I was just wondering the same thing... 🤔

[@annarocha3254]

She leaves many comments that disagree with her. Perhaps she filters a few but her comments certainly don't seem to be an echo chamber on most of her videos.

[@bellablow4287]

Irony 🤣 you literally sound like the definition of echo chamber

[@adwells951]

Why don't you have a white dress and veil? I love this thank you for sharing!!! Jilly oxo

[@Bruderhof]

We wanted to have a simple wedding and that's what it was. Glad you liked the video - Laura

[@saffronhammer7714]

I don't think the Bruderhof wear white gowns or veils for weddings.

[@johnreed9050]

@@Bruderhof Are you affiliated with the Amish in any way? The headcoverings on the females are similar to Amish or Mennonite dress

[@forreal245]

@@Bruderhof There's a difference between "simple" & "nothing special" even if your short sleeve shirt & skirt were any SOLID, pale color (other than gray) versus looking like "just another day on the farm look." (I remember your fiance saying, "I hate boring.") Oh well, it was your choice, your wedding. Congrats.

[@LitoGeorge]

@@forreal245 after reading your comment three times, I'm still aghast. I'm astounded to think I understand what you are actually saying. Your opinion is awful and your heart could do with some renovation. Good luck with that.

[@englishwithjasonchacko7212]

Very wonderful to be wedded with the grandparents and parents together as an example!!! But please take this seriously, you should have a special wedding dress for marriage, that need not be costly, but it should be special as bridal dress.A modest while gown will be fine. And for groom too , Remember even Jesus bride has a special marriage dress!

[@englishlanguagewithnina5965]

Jaison - I like what you have to say about Jesus' bride having a special dress - but it isn't appropriate for you to tell a woman what she "should" have done on her wedding day. I doubt you know them personally.

[@forreal245]

I agree. Her dress was "inappropriate" & did not "reflect" anything "special" about such an important life event.

[@grigoreturcan1368]

Here comes the materialists to tell them what is special. Do you know for them the special event happens in their soul not on their appearance. And plus their thirst sex in life. :D

[@saraschneider6781]

What a shame. Chris actually dressed in an outfit fit for a special occasion. Laura looked like she was off to hike in the woods. Certainly there is a compromise between sloppy and outlandish/gawdy that would be modest and simple yet look nice. Actually the lack of care taken for the appearance is more attention grabbing than if it would have been flashy.

[@mikewood8680]

Sorry but you can dress conservatively without looking frumpy. There are clothing patterns available that would lend to nicely cut and very modest styles. The ladies tops are like men’s shirts and the skirts like sacks. They are clearly skilled in making clothes. A few updated sewing patterns would make a huge difference and look more feminine without looking worldly.

[@margaretkearsey6603]

I totally agree- Even the Amish are a little more stylish. I was shocked at her wedding attire. They are a wonderful couple.

[@lepolhart3242]

It's not your place to say what somebody should have worn to their own wedding its not a fashion event so it's not important how stylish someone looks. If you go back in history especially poorer people didn't buy a special outfit for their wedding, they wore their Sunday best outfit at the most which was worn regularly anyway for church. Modern people seem to be obsessed with money and fashion. It's nice to see a different way of doing things that doesn't rely on superficial looks and materialism.

[@Mandzsym]

Appearances are often not the reality. Why are these women dressed to look so dower? Is the community ruled by men?! The guys attire is casual; why are these women dressed down for goodness sake. A special occasion wedding dress would have felt wonderful I'm sure ... and I don't mean glitzy etc, just a mans shirt and awful skirt! What are they trying to prove? Most women would like a dress of some kind to be married in surely? I know its deemed wrong to judge, I'm simply wondering why all the women are dressed to look so old ... Even our beautiful Mother Earth basks in radiant colours ... I hope the lessons this community is living is learned well and they are truly happy and not simply led blindly. We all need colour in our lives Blessed Be 🌼

[@Mandzsym]

@anOrnithologist Sorry to disappoint you, no cats!

[@blaze.eliana]

They like dressing that way.

[@Mandzsym]

@@blaze.eliana From what the video shows, they have no CHOICE. They do not choose their attire, they are handed it! It's all about control! Religion has always tried to control the masses as do governments and usually organized by men. And no, I'm not a feminist nor dominant have a cauldron before you ask! I'm simply observing!

[@blaze.eliana]

@@Mandzsym they choose to live the lifestyle, which they know includes wearing modest clothing. They have every opportunity to CHOOSE to leave if they please.

[@Mandzsym]

It's called brain washing but then again, no different to so many other religions and lifestyles. As long as anyone is happy how they are living then so be it. We are all entitled to own opinions and free thinking. Or are we? Now theres a thought! Be kind, do kind. Happy Sunday to you.

[@akeffo]

These people put me to,sleep. Zzzzzzzz

[@deckiedeckie]

These are not Christians.....these are but selfish and egotistical little people....Happy Christians.....they take the grace and leave the charity to others.....(A Camus)

[@Smurf431]

Congrats!