Overcoming Anxiety | Jonas Kolker | TEDxTheMastersSchool

Jonas Kolker’s talk will explore the concept of “embracing the suck.” How does one turn a diagnosis into activism, empowerment and coaching?
Jonas Kolker is a 15-year-old in the ninth grade. From grades three through eight, he dealt with severe anxiety attacks that were triggered by his school environment. Jonas had to learn techniques and strategies that would help him manage and control his ideas as he progressed through his school career. Through his experiences, Jonas has learned about the workings of the brain, as well as the common fears we all have to deal with every day.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@DUflo100]

The worst part of my anxiety is that i dont know why i feel fear, i dont know why i feel anxious

[@sgt7]

Yes, I can relate. I think my anxiety is due to false beliefs about reality. I perceive danger when in fact most of my life is fine.

[@brendenstagg4862]

@Shaun Purvis it's very frustrating too

[@wendyp718]

A therapist described it to me as your "lizard brain"-- your primitive reactionary center (autonomic nervous system) highjacking your brain. If you can over-rule it and talk yourself down, using mindfulness, you can settle it down. Easier said than done, of course, but not impossible.

[@jdc4316]

TEZ then you can’t relate, that’s completely different to what the dude above is saying.

[@Dummmy999]

And that's the scary part

[@tez3349]

Anxiety causes you to be at war with yourself. All of you are warriors.

[@blueflare3848]

[@hazanhazara9804]

We are warriors but in this war we are captured by enemies so they are just torturing us everyday . I hate this anxiety .

[@kentyiluminada7676]

That’s exactly the problem!!! We are warriors, we gotta stop fighting it and just surrender to it accept it cuz we are fighting with ourselves once we accept it start we start reducing the anxiety

[@amitmondal9574]

Tez I\'m not sure but ,if anyone else is searching for cures for depression and anxiety try Nevolly Depression Remover Nerd ( search on google ) ? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my mate got cool success with it.

[@ZiasAndBlouPlug]

Blue Flare we’re getting shot down every single day

[@jorgebeltran1762]

Anxiety is caused by constant stress. You brain gets stuck in a fearful state. Then you fear your anxiety and all the symptoms it causes. You end up in an endless cycle you can't get out of. Once you stop fearing anxiety and stop fighting it. Then you'll start to heal. You have to overcome your fears daily. Just remember. It takes time. Little by Little you'll feel an improvement. Stop being afraid of being afraid. It'll get better.

[@sophiethelk9557]

This actually helps me a lot, thank you 💕

[@gjergjnaraci330]

I have been lucking for an answer but these one it's the best i found. Thanks and all the best to you.

[@alauto178]

I needed to hear this. Thank you so much❤

[@notagt4103]

He seems like he's educated at Harvard rather than 9th grade... Amazing

[@vickypersico]

he’s in Columbia now

[@asdanahohi749]

@@vickypersico the country?

[@flairy1661]

@@asdanahohi749 the university

[@David-10644]

Anxiety can be one of the most scary and hopeless feelings 😢

[@ZachGood]

I want to hire this kid for the non-existent company I own.

[@christinapickett2950]

That's funny

[@clover2321]

😂same

[@ProjectAna]

Hahahaha. Me too

[@ToyaWilliams]

Thanks for this great idea!

[@licata9844]

HAHAHAH YES

[@christinapickett2950]

My anxiety has anxieties

[@xMaGiiSK]

Within anxieties

[@SuperDoomNinja]

I get anxious that I'm going to get anxious. then panic because I realize I am already fulfilling my own self made prophecy.

[@joshuamejia7440]

SuperDoomNinja and since it actually happens I try to make a positive prophecy where I won’t have anxiety but only the negative ones seem to work

[@lydiayoon3843]

SuperDoomNinja same. I cause myself anxiety cause im so scared that ill get anxious

[@zeusincoming1279]

Christina Pickett I think fear and worry are double edged swords, those being servival mechanisms, and if we do not feel we have the emotional tools to deal, fear and worry turns into anxiety, and to me anxiety is a prolonged sense of fear and worry. But I value the "Serenity prayer" when I sense anxiety coming on. Knowing how to react or not react to any given situation is key!

[@harshbrownes]

This kid is really good at presenting.

[@chacha-pt9ew]

_im ur 444th like & 1st comment_

[@evanduggins4641]

Embrace the succ. Ok but seriously this kid is better at presenting that I ever will be I’m proud of him

[@kaylamorrison9802]

Evan Duggins This dude is only a year older than me and I wish I could present like him!

[@antiflag1207]

+Evan Duggins I've been investigating treating shyness naturally and found a great resource at Seans Shy Program (google it if you're interested)

[@dewanshutrivedi7331]

I've been researching treating anxiety naturally and found a great website at Aghy magic method (google it if you are interested)

[@techygod998]

I have spent months investigating top cure for shyness and discovered a fantastic website at Seans Shy Program (check it out on google)

[@415RespectLoyalty909]

come on guys. he practiced. he studied for the test. he needed to, to get over his aniexty... he embraced it by perfecting it

[@bbozeman03]

I have horrible anxiety, but it’s unexplainable. I don’t have an enormous amount of stress. I just want to be normal again.

[@Sofiaa8080]

I feel u i just want to be a normal teenager and go to party's without being so scared

[@aklm6146]

Meditation is the key I promise you

[@JETX946]

You are perfectly normal, as much as anyone is. :) Its hard, but it’s learning to adapt to that part of who you are.

[@lukester102d6]

Anxiety for no reason is my case 😂

[@rightelectricalservicesllc1220]

Pray to the good Lord 🙏 he is perfect. He can handle all your problems. Bless his holy name. Ill pray for you

[@attackerstoasdfa]

*"The fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself"* - Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

[@Cherry-cw4ix]

oh thats something i know

[@We-kv3ze]

“We suffer more in imagination than in reality.” - Seneca

[@sallyhere8]

That so true

[@aciddottie4067]

This made me realize I don’t need medication and I don’t want medication I need to keep going to school with my anxiety and deal with it I will make progress

[@WafflessGaming]

Ei8ght Easton How’s it been going?

[@ThisOneGoes211]

Medication in conjunction with therapy is very effective.

[@dajo492]

He doesn’t say medications do not help. They are just not the only thing. Some people can do it with no meds but no one can do it just w medication. , hope u are doing well. Fellow anxiety sufferer.

[@jdc4316]

Medication can be great though, if you can manage without then kudos to you

[@TonyaA7]

Dr.Caroline Leaf says them meds are harmful to the brain . She says they even cause worse issues etc. She also says anxiety, depression, etc is not a diseas or disorder. Its actually a response to thought patterns that havent been dealt with. The way to overcome is to deal with and rewire the brian theough the mind by remewing the mind with truth and life and casting out the negativity... It also has alot to do with perspective.. One can change how we see a situation from the past that started the anxiety and as we choose to no longer respobd negatively in time the anxiety will go away. Check out her channel . She also has books n stuff also.. She's a Brain specialist.

[@mnto123]

Here are 10 tips I have for dealing with anxiety: 1) Find the trigger and confront it. Running away from the problem rarely solves anything in the long term, but confronting your problems may help reduce the effects of a potential trigger. For example if you repeatedly but yourself in a situation out of your comfort zone, such as with public speaking, then the stress reaction elicited may reduce over time, and as a result it will not be as terrifying to do a class presentation or such (exposure therapy). 2) Harness anxiety by turning the negative into a positive, e.g. if stressed about workload, get it done rather than procrastinating. Or use your experience of anxiety to help others with similar problems. 3) Find a distraction. If you are plagued with negative thoughts, then do activities which prevent you from focusing on negativity, i.e. keep yourself busy. 4) Invest yourself in a hobby, read a book which you feel will enlighten you in some way or start a routine of going gym or playing sports to build confidence and increase endorphins. This also links in with goal-setting. If you set a goal and achieve it then you will get a boost in neurotransmitters responsible for a good mood. 5) Maintain a social network. Often anxiety can make you feel isolated so discussing these problems with a good listener can help you feel connected. Some people may shy away from this in fears of upsetting the recipient. If this is the case then only give a limited account of what is wrong. For example, if you do not want to say that you are suffering from depression/anxiety because you feel they wont understand or will find it distressing, explain it as being worried but not being sure what the cause is. 6) Act as a self-therapist. Personally I wouldn’t want to pay for a therapist as the money I lose may increase my anxiety - because I’m cheap lol, but you may not even need a professional to listen to your problems. Talking to yourself about your problems and brainstorming ideas out load regarding what may help alleviate negative symptoms may help you. Personally I found it useful to go over my thoughts out loud while having a shower or lying down (provided you’re in a private and comfortable setting). 7) Remember other people (even celebrities) are going through the same thing 8) Understand that life is full of tests. Maybe these trials happen for a reason? 9) Music can help, especially when artists discuss issues relevant to what you’re going through. Personally I find Kid Cudi a good listen (Soundtrack to my Life, Reborn, Cudi Montage etc.). 10) Spiritual contentment. Perhaps religiosity can help relieve feelings of emptiness. -Emre

[@gresilaalburo1766]

Thank you for sharing some tips to cope anxiety. I've been struggling this for over 2 years and now I'm recovering, thank you so much.

[@desiraycarranza3053]

I have been struggling with my anxiety a lot lately, I’m just here to let you guys know it does get better. The few tips that helped me move through it were. 1. Anxiety is an emotion not an illness. It’s ok to feel anxious sometimes, there is good anxiety. 2. Sit down with yourself when your anxious and write down why, now face that fear. Mine started with, I am anxious because I don’t want to always fear everything. This slowly started to go away because you physically cannot feel like this 24/7. Lastly, prayer helped me the most. Remind yourself you are strong, you are not alone on this journey, and all things are possible with God on your side. I love you all who are going though this, keep your head up. You are needed here, you are loved, this too shall pass. ❤️

[@amandaclark1466]

you clearly didnt have anxiety disorder, everyone has anxiety but for some its worse. You dont just "get better" over time anxiety is also a disorder/illness

[@PhysiqueFuel]

Thank you so much 🙏

[@wengjiechong]

anxiety disorder is so different from anxious....... don't misleading people

[@cobblecattt]

Yes!! So good!❤❤❤

[@rlhunter6200]

Young people like this man give me hope for the future.

[@Bold_bezels]

i have anxiety disorder and this video is one of the best talk I've seen so far. good job jonas

[@badguybeats]

Now you doing good?

[@chipbuttytime3396]

@@badguybeats they were doing good for the 10 seconds it took to write the sentence. anxiety is on the rise, massively.... pep talks don't cure it that is for sure

[@ayushbothra1180]

I overthink at some extreme levels, and I do that so much that it exhibits physical symptoms like shivering & vomiting. Also, I'm a victim of anxiety, self talking, and imposter syndrome, and I take everything so personally that my eyes get filled with water due to outrage, but people think I'm about to cry like a baby. I have had all these problems since childhood but only during covid I discovered about these issues.

[@GetSoberWithMe]

Hmm sounds like me...i let it beat me after years of fighting and have been disabled 5 years..now i sit home all day which made things way worse and now its extremely hard just to go to the store n back so im at the bottom... constantly so nervous n im way beyond sick of it..kept turning to drugs but not anymore, its time and ive been fighting hard past 6 months, seems no progress..idk bout anyone else but as for me i know if i can just get to God ill be ok..almost there feels like but i still gotta do my part and exercise my faith(which is getn outta here n maybe even working idk) but that's where i am...hope u find what u need

[@PrisyxD]

@@GetSoberWithMe I just read your response and wanted to ask you a question. I hope you take this with no offense but have you tried Lexapro? I had such severe anxiety where I couldn’t wear shoes because I the hard surface of the soles would make me feel I was going to crush my tongue. My anxiety stemmed around my tongue. I wasn’t even able to say that word or even spell it out. I was over conscious of it being there and took it to a whole mother level. If I went out, I’d have to wear slippers and pat every door in every aisle of any grocery store I went to. I couldn’t walk long distances because I would thing I was never going to get to my destination and be fearful every step. I would spit on my shirt as a self soothing gesture. I would also become voiceless, couldn’t speak and not talk with anyone and had to hide. I would try to be as barefoot as possible. I take medication now and it changed my life completely. I can wear shoes again, walk far distances, everything changed. But sometimes like if I drink too much caffeine, it comes rushing back and I still have a hard time sleeping. But I hope you find peace and figure something out for yourself. I just wanted to share my experience so you know you’re not alone

[@suparna852]

​@@GetSoberWithMepls do Gyan mudra/Chin mudra everyday. In a severe case like yours, you need to make it a priority. 1 hour in morning and 1 hour in evening is best for you. It's scientifically proven that Gyan mudra can cure all mental problems. Just do it for a week and you'll start seeing changes. I promise. Join your thumb and first finger together with a slight pressure(not over pressure, also make sure your hand is relaxed and don't have pressure anywhere else, and keep your spine straight either in a sitting or lying position). I do it everyday and it has changed me.

[@suparna852]

​@@PrisyxDyou can try yoga(especially pranayam and meditation). It will give a permanent relief. There's even evidence that meditation can change your brain within 6 weeks. Also, couple it with chin mudra/Gyan mudra. You can start seeing your mind relax by just doing this mudra for 15 minutes, but the longer, the better.

[@rynarashidkhan673]

When I had anxiety I didn't even know I had it, I just thought that I'm just not feeling good or having a bad time. But when I came to know it's anxiety I was kinda surprised because I thought that I was that kind of person who is strong and can never have depression or anxiety.

[@zameeransari1530]

Dude, i was the strongest kid in school, still the strongest in college, but deep down anxiety has broken me, but now it's time to fight back.

[@rynarashidkhan673]

@Do You Know thankfully I don't have it right now at this point. I don't know about future 😂

[@rynarashidkhan673]

@@kg7148 there's honestly no way to get over it, u just have to go with it.

[@gabrielvanlalruata2528]

Telling yourself its just Anxiety when started to having panic attack really helps !

[@excuseme1543]

yeah! it reminds your brain that you are dealing with an emotion but that you are not that emotion :)

[@troybratcher8716]

im on anxiety meds and it helps me amazingly, plus i learned to realize the next day at night when your in bed and worried about the next day is 90 percent wrong what really happens

[@jeffmccauley4267]

Finally just got out of my few month stint of anxiety and depression. It’s like it never happened when you climb out of that funk. Grateful to have those stairs to climb when I just wanna crawl in a hole and give up. Glad to see we’re all in this together. I love you guys

[@MrScoonyG]

What cured you do you think?

[@amandaclark1466]

sadly ive been like this for years it just wont get better for me if anything its gotten worse since i turned 13

[@satan6703]

@@amandaclark1466why it doesn’t get better?

[@Wolfie-tc5my]

He did a brilliant job of underscoring the importance of cbt and exposure treatment not only against most common anxiety disorders but daily stressors that we all deal with in one way or another.

[@imaginarygurl1321]

From the day when I had my first severe anxiety attack I am never the same person as I used to be....I am changed now but I try to look all this in a positive manner. My senses get sharp and I am more sensible. It is hard to accept that u have anxiety disorder and the worst part of all this is the physical symptoms of anxiety. I keep telling myself that I am a fighter this is my battle and I only can win this battle. Fear will feed anxiety and I won't let that happen. I hope we all get better soon.

[@badguybeats]

Yes you're right how are you doing now?

[@jacques1098]

Brave guy to engage with all those people, good job!

[@butter5144]

Jabba Jib Jab yeah

[@anitaravji8021]

He was so clear and informative about this disorder, whilst at the same time showed his strength in fighting through it.. amazing talk :)

[@avgjxv4379]

My anxiety is everything except leaving my room/house because I know I will feel nauseous/vomit

[@NazimAli-ib5ew]

Avgj XV same

[@orangeswalnuts7861]

yep

[@liekevalk154]

I feel you

[@philton5978]

anxiey nausea is the worst :(

[@Xxxcssaqq]

Lol same 😂 actually I forgot about restaurants since year.

[@3milyee]

This kid is an amazing presenter, I'm a college student and cant even present in front of a class without stuttering all the time

[@jeremiahsongrecordings6319]

Oh my goodness!!! My years in school was the same!!! My childhood was a horrible experience with anxiety attacks!!

[@kitkatherine23]

Jeremiah Song Recordings same, sometimes teachers would have to separate me, read and let me chill then go back to class so I would be okay.

[@AyeTVsco]

an 80's movie is missing its kid

[@leebrown1779]

I’d swap him for our modern Gucci gang any day.

[@ComoDibujarTodo]

Karate kid?

[@oooweebaby4483]

Yes!!

[@omarmaya1263]

"Hey, hey, hey! Don't you.. forget about me.."

[@ziomuro7440]

As long as I have my senses i will never give up, this is what i always tell to myself when i get anxiety

[@billhyun2873]

Awesome poised talk. Embrace the suck shows the practical love of a dad and the wisdom of the son to understand. Great job.

[@Dhruviii952]

"Don't be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart." - Roy T. Bennett

[@sadiyamulla8067]

he has a soothing voice

[@itxshruti]

Thank you tedx for a talk where the guy is actually addressing anxiety disorders and best way to overcome them❤

[@terseplayz4757]

This helped me so much I thought I was a psychopath I thought I was crazy. Just turns out I had anxiety being educated about this and educating other people about this helps me so much. It makes me feel so relieved.

[@hannahblythhammond]

Amazing proof anxiety can be overcome...... + 2 those still struggling- it took a super lovely clever child with support + loving, helpful parents 25% of his life 2 overcome.... + unlike older anxiety sufferers his habits hadn't been conditioned 4 decades. Bless U all.

[@redplayboy3751]

Lucky he had not panic attack while he was presenting in front of people

[@babrielle]

andry gunawan I was thinking that too

[@danielsalvador527]

Lucky? Did you know that even if he would have had a panic attack 10 out of 10 in fron of all that people he would still be able to make the presentation :) so the problem is not the panic attack is how you react to the panic attack

[@flyingpotatoe1299]

It takes consistency and hard work to do such a thing. Don’t bring luck into this dude.

[@magdalenasiemek9869]

Loved it! So young and so much experience... Well done

[@kendrick.8920]

He’s right, for some reason, each morning before school, I get worried, but then when I get to class, I’m not worried anymore

[@jayla2002]

This was amazing! I'm so glad to see that you're doing better and that you taught me something new

[@themimsy]

Anxiety. Fear for my next test? Fear for what kids will say about me? Fear over nothing. Overwhelming, panic, fear, worry, self deprecation. Crying, hyperventilating, my depression mixing with my anxiety, my asthma worsening the hyperventilating. No clue why, no clue how to stop. I pray. I give my worries to God. I beg Him to take my burden, my yoke of anxiety for whatever happens, or for nothing. It's not immediately gone, but when I think about it and talk to Him, I feel it slowly lifting off of me. As if a heavy, immovable weighted blanket was being lifted off of me, allowing me to run and move again. Thank you God, please continue your work and show people your love and helping hands.

[@thebowtie6966]

I'm confident all of us will have moments where panic will take us over if we aren't prepared to handle it. Heed this young mans' words; they may save your life or others.

[@jullianrobbs1601]

I honestly want to thank the person who made this video, it has helped me so much with my anxiety. When I will like i'm about to have a panic attack, I watch this video and it makes me feel better. Thank you 😊

[@daneofarrell9460]

I gotta be honest. When I heard he was in 9th grade I instantly was very sceptical. Some kid talking about something he thinks he knows about. But I was very wrong. His maturity is very high for his age and more importantly I really thought there was wisdom in his words. The evidence he provided was easy to digest but also made you wonder a little bit. I think he will go very far if he chooses to pursue mental health in any field.

[@Humble-Savage]

Anxiety isn't a weakness, it's your body's way of telling you to grow.❤

[@johnwall2wizards]

Absolutely incredible. Wonderful speaker, provided terrific examples that all of us can relate too and backed up his point with statistics and rationality. And only 9th grade! Got a lot out of this. Well done brotha

[@austinfahrenheit3191]

Thank you. I've been searching for a video on anxiety to show to my year class and this looks perfect.

[@catherinedooley5981]

I was trying to describe to my psychiatrist what I felt like when I had anxiety attacks. It was so hard to describe. He described it perfectly!

[@Aconitum14]

I am suffering from anxiety since very long, having panic attacks for 3 years, i simply love to share my story , you all are warriors , i can feel your struggle, i know its like a war with yourself, but i must tell you that deal it with as your body part,

[@tedjones4110]

Just remind yourself that the only thing causing the panic attacks is your mind. Id suggest going to the doctors and testing your lungs, heart and blood test. once I was told I was fine its just my anxiety I was remembered myself that im fine, im healthy and just take deep breaths. Always remind yourself its only anxiety

[@mahamkhushboo6557]

@@tedjones4110 it's very horrible broo... My also in anxiety.. Headache. Sleep disturbance.. Fear of death.. And sometimes its going me to peak... I don't know. What's happend to meee.. Im afraid. I'm tired of my life..😭

[@nawalshahid4964]

@@mahamkhushboo6557 me too, how you doing now??

[@mahamkhushboo6557]

@@nawalshahid4964 😫😫😫😫😫

[@nawalshahid4964]

@@mahamkhushboo6557 i know right, i cant take this anymore, my heart keeps pounding so bad... I just cant, especially living in Pakistani society with family pressure, peer pressure, academic pressure not to mention trauma, tragedies living with me since childhood. I am tired, not knowing what should i do to keep myself optimistic...

[@littleflower23]

Great presentation by a young but very experienced person. Nice job Jonas!

[@MarkyBoyle]

Something being assumed with exposure treatment is that there an object of your anxiety. Sometimes, there are those with anxiety not attached to something in particular.

[@fuzuzafitness8354]

I know what you mean, this is where mindfulness and CBT come in, Just go see a CBT therapist trust me you will feel better.

[@MarkyBoyle]

What I mean is that sometimes it's generalized anxiety. Just anxiety about nothing in particular, an over arching feeling of doom. Not necessarily a particular object of those anxieties.

[@bucherbuch2134]

true. I have the worst panic attacks at night, they just appear, wake me up with absolutely no reason and leave me horrified. I even fainted and vomited from my panic attacks without any particular reason.

[@MarkyBoyle]

Bücherbuch wow. That sounds horrible. :(

[@hunterurban5465]

yea i think most anxiety is detached from a certain object / scenario . thats more PTSD

[@skyicee4801]

i need exposure , but i’m so scared

[@azi8832]

Try 'EFT tapping' (many videos on it on youtube) , then try exposure.

[@NorthernSpartan]

What are you scared of? What can happen if you expose uourself?

[@melancholy_moth]

My anxiety has to do a lot with feeling like I am worse than everyone. I always feel like I’m just a sub human entity that doesn’t deserve to be alive. I can’t even go out for a walk with my mom and walk in the opposite direction of a stranger because I just get so much anxiety from literally just being seen by others.

[@aaronpenberthy107]

From a recent psychology graduate in the UK, I commend you going out and speaking to people about Anxiety and treatment methods

[@jesskolbe609]

Thank you, thank you! I appericate you sharing your experience

[@gianlucacastro5281]

Very cool talk from such a young guy, amazing to see people like this.

[@lauragalindo5562]

Him telling the story of 3rd grade actually gave me low key anxiety because that’s how I feel when we have to do some type of competition on P.E regardless if I’m good at what we’re doing or not or when the teacher starts asking math questions around the class....I don’t cry but like I can feel my heart beating so fast,and the fear!

[@laurao2107]

I get this so much so blessed and grateful some speak on this topic for those who struggle to have a voice or the confidence to get on stages like that hope I can be like him one day!

[@mvrckisk97_39]

This is awsome what a confident guy I wish I could be able to do this

[@nasque]

Great job!

[@dyahannurrr]

My experience with anxiety : I watch something that wakes me up, such as stand up comedy (by laughing ourselves, we throw out stress inside the body. Remember: the best medicine is to laugh). Heal yourself by laughing out loud when you're alone.

[@ID.002]

Very true words, spoken extremely well. Thanks.

[@juliemcneely-kirwan9314]

This was great. What a brilliant and wise young man!

[@paulwoodclientvideos5507]

Epic video Jonas, I am glad you have got over your panic attacks. This kid is 100% right that exposure therapy is better than drugs or talking therapy.... But that is really only scratching the surface, the rabbit hole goes far deeper than you can ever imagine.

[@sp-dw5jx]

This was so well presented and helpful with the same issues my teen faces. A very impressive young man. Thanks!

[@MasterKitOfficialChannel]

There are a lot of ways that social anxiety manifests itself. The #1 thing for us to start with is understanding where social anxiety comes from. It actually doesn’t come from society. And the label of SAD is a little bit deceiving. It actually comes from your core underlying beliefs about yourself. Let’s break down some of these beliefs. 1 - Unconditional Self-Love It is the sense of accepting yourself fully, being present to the moment, loving yourself as you are without guilt . Once you are able to do that you become immune to the SAD. There is no reason for you to be anxious. 2 - Your Individuality You truly are unique. There is nobody else like you in the entire universe. The sooner you are going to realize that and be able to combine that with USL the sooner you won’t be bothered by any social interactions or events. 3 - Your Emotions It is your ability to express and feel emotions freely and to not feel guilt about that. Emotions are a part of your individuality, your self-love. And be able to express emotions if you are alone or in a social setting. Without having to apologize or justify your emotions. 4 - Finding Solitude There are 2 spectrums. Being alone and longing for company or being always surrounded by people and longing for some alone time. Both of the sides to the spectrum have the same root that your core beliefs of USL, Individuality and emotions are miscalibrated. If they all were set right you would be happy, and not anxious right now. Master Kit is a clinically proven system to show results when working with a mental state. Thank you for posting ❤️

[@poojithaborra1650]

Jonas I had the exact same feelings, that u experienced when u went to school. I experienced it throughout my college days and even now at my work. I did some research and found the same things that u talked about to combat this i.e do it anyway, and don't give a lot of damn about yourself. I hope these anxiety attacks stop, but it's not in my hands. A very informative talk indeed

[@neaveguest23]

This is so similar to my persona anxiety experiences. I've been working on it for 3 years now

[@Pedro-kq5tl]

I don't know what triggers me I'm always anxious. I don't know what I fear and what should I face

[@makolliemine]

Pedro Viteri exactly how I feel

[@sandradeslauriers7244]

Me too

[@merncat75]

Your explanation of your experience was excellent It's hard to put anxiety into words especially for those who don't understand it

[@sydneyanglin650]

This helped so much, the waves really worked with me it calms me.

[@KrysP325]

Great talk Jonas. I agree with the exposure method is key. You have to really analyze what is causing the anxiety to properly use the exposure method and benefit from it

[@karankaler8777]

Anxiety hurts you deep down and there is hardly any moment in a day where i am back to normal but again something starts in mind.I think being communicative with friends and family and being in every moment helps.But there is a thing that everyone has their different way to calm down anxiety and fears.Its been 3 years i am going through anxiety,ocd and overthinking.But i try to be in my shell and not compare with anyone.When feeling and fears control over it sucks.but be positive and do the things that makes you happy.

[@pignaccasara626]

oh gosh, I was the same too, since 3rd grade.... I would feel a terrible pain in my chest and they all thought it was milk intolerance and I had no idea it was anxiety... but my parents never considered ( or maybe did not want to consider) I had social anxiety, but it kept getting worse to the point at high school I could not talk during exams anymore. My family and I normalized it, labeled it as "insecurity". You were lucky your parents did help you. Last year I went back to school and I am in so much fear every time I have to face an exam I start shaking and I paralyze. I started therapy now that I am 30, and I feel more accepting of myself. But I have no balls to tell my family I was diagnosed with anxiety.

[@empressatheism5146]

Anxiety is killing me

[@empressatheism5146]

@@TerminalFailSafe No one will understand me they might just think I'm having a drama or something. My life is not normal. I freak out (phobia maybe?) when I hear the sound of a telephone or sound of a hammer so hide myself and wont let other people see me cause they might think In weird. Im losing the battle against depression and anxiety.

[@user-lv4wh1uj9v]

you are not losing you just think that you are losing but try to focus on things that make you happy, distract yourself from these anxious thoughts

[@madsxo9116]

Empress Atheism I feel the same :’(

[@sweetestcyanide]

Empress Atheism it’s going to kill us all if we don’t do something about it

[@bballjulien]

@@empressatheism5146 as therapist will make an enormous improvement trust me

[@bellab5320]

Went through the same in grade 6and 7, thanks for sharing your story🖤

[@iheartmilacat]

I understand this I have anxiety myself. this is my second year having anxiety. you are not the only one. don't forget help is always out their.

[@timo42069]

This is what i needed, someone my age to actually understand.

[@clover2321]

He's so smart and well spoken

[@pepe3540]

One of the best talks, instantly puts you in a good mood.

[@christinetimm1931]

Useful information and excellent presentation skills! Thank you.

[@jahncompose]

Your resilience and perseverance through tough times are truly admirable. Keep fighting, and know that you are never alone. 💪🌟

[@ColonelCosmology]

Absolutely, we’re in this life together. Funny how suffering is one of the greatest unifying factors there is, we can take solace and what we’re feeling is shared amongst many

[@KTB77777]

A well spoken young man Thank you!

[@francismausley7239]

Positive prayer can help... "O God! I will no longer be full of anxiety, nor will I let trouble harass me. I will not dwell on the unpleasant things of life. O God! Thou art more friend to me than I am to myself. I dedicate myself to Thee, O Lord." - Inspired by a Baha'i Prayer

[@mehakfaisal140]

greattt jobb thank you so much for giving a new meaning to life hatss offff!!!!

[@youtubesitess2217]

Whenever I fell anxious I feel stomach pain where I can't eat anything at all but after I finish this anxious moments fighting with my mind my stomach calms down as I feel that I'm hungry more than usual

[@julieholmes5266]

Great content. It isn't easy to be so vulnerable. Nice job!

[@hamza3065]

Amazing, actully a life saving talk

[@xanderbanter3752]

What a smart inspiring kid :) thanks for this

[@mrabinak]

I am going to have my students watch this...great explanation!

[@johnb382s]

I’m always so tired it hurts and feel like I’m gonna die at any moment you can physically feel the pressure in your brain and body it’s exhausting

[@013DREC]

Sometimes I get very anxious in social settings. Like to the point where I just either try to churn it out through being chill/quiet, being on my smartphone, and worst case, just to dip. I’m gonna make it a thing to put myself in these situations and use alternative, more engaging methods to get over this.

[@bravo1117]

Anyone feels like their heart stops? Or just me

[@aklm6146]

I do. Because I have anxiety. But trust me on this brother. MEDITATE! Believe me!

[@bravo1117]

Ken Manzon How do you meditate?

[@aklm6146]

@@bravo1117 I'm very new at it. But I went on KZbin and searched meditation for anxiety and I found this one video that really helped me and the way I view my situation. Just find a place in your house that's quiet, that could help you focus. There's a lot of guided meditation on KZbin. It's best if you have earphones so it's all you can hear. Goodluck bro

[@aklm6146]

o search up. Let go of anxiety, fear and worries on KZbin it should be a 22 min. Video

[@ComoDibujarTodo]

Not like it stops, but more like it's beating irregularly and more intense

[@ceaz25]

Great talk my man, thanks

[@zeusincoming1279]

I believe anxiety is a double edged sword, it can motivate us to do better,or cause us to sabotage ourselves. I for one have experienced both. I have stressed job interviews so much,I did not even go to them, and I have stressed jobs so much I have chosen to walk off even though I had no other income at the time. AND there has been times stress has pushed me out of bed and motivated to do something about my financial situation.

[@excuseme1543]

on a side note, Masters School is a $50,000/a year private school. this guy is a great speaker! i'm glad i'm not alone

[@pitt004]

Thank You, Jonas..

[@jimthornston7554]

Thank you for this video.

[@floridaboy8133]

Everyday I get these constant thoughts through my head and always think about my heath it’s something I always am thinking about, it’s beginning to take over my life, I don’t know what else to do, it feels like my mind is always moving at 100 miles per hour, I don’t know who to talk to about this or what to do but I guess I just have to keep my head up

[@wolvesgirl1565]

My anxiety is very strange. I was fine for a long time, and suddenly I woke up one day and my fears about the future and what kind of person I am and who I will be came flooding in. I was so over whelmed by it all I cried on all the super bad days. It's really hard sometimes to just let it leave your mind knowing it's gonna come back.