Overcoming the Dread of Responsibility: Here's What You Need to Know!

[@lovaaaa2451]

Very difficult thing for someone like me with bpd and being on the autistic spectrum. Learning to work and having my own place for the first time at 26, making it work even though I was abandonned by my ex three weeks ago. I am super proud of learning to take care of myself even in such a difficult situation!

[@Spheregrid2]

I'm sorry to hear about your relationship ending. I wanted to comment and say I'm proud of you for working and having a place of your own and pushing on even though you're dealing with hard times. Keep up the good work and make sure to keep taking care of your self!

[@minhtutran8264]

So proud of you, let's keep going

[@ajhproductions2347]

I’m a single dad, widower, and I have a daily struggle trying to be the responsible one 😂 half the time, my 11 year old will be more insightful than I am. Oh, and just picked up the CBPD book by dr fox. (The one with the purple cover). The book is amazing, I’m glad I got it. Thanks dr fox, if I could pick one dr I’d use,it would be you. 🙏

[@estelao.b.1473]

Ok I am getting his book. Does it ship to Europe?

[@Julesyoutoo]

@@estelao.b.1473 Hi, how about having a look for yourself! Seriously though Estela, yes the books do ship to Europe because I ordered one online last year from the UK. Best regards. x

[@dubaiedge]

"Everyone has talent. What's rare is the courage to follow it to the dark places where it leads...." Best advice I have to give anyone after 61 years in the planet. Persevere no matter what. No matter what. All you get nearing the end is your memories. Make em what you know you can live with.

[@jenynz5334]

Thank you 😊. I'm almost 50 and still don't know what I want to be when I grow up. And when I'll grow up. And when I'll stop half expecting that million dollars to appear 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@uniicorniumx]

Is this a real-life story ? Just asking. Not judging at all

[@jenynz5334]

@@uniicorniumx Yeah, sadly.

[@ladybaabaa3294]

I feel this. A LOT.

[@angelawhite2022]

The anchor analogy hits deep. Everything you say is so true.

[@lizvtaz6]

I think part of it is societal expectations. I have cptsd and I really did not feel like dating anyone in my 20s. I was not healthy enough for that and I did not really fall in love which I am now convinced was caused by cptsd. It def was for the better that I did not date when I was 25. People does not wanna see your problems or help you for that matter, yet they criticize you for not doing things "at the right time".

[@beauthentic7493]

Yes, unfortunately some people and parents are apathetic but don't internalize that.

[@thereisnosanctuary6184]

People does not wanna see your problems?

[@WhitePelicansareReal]

This is great for this day and age, I wish I had it when forced into adulthood at age 18. Although, I learned quickly what worked and what didn’t. I guess I just kept remembering who was really looking back at me in the mirror. I had to quit hearing those parent tapes and make my decisions. Thank you for another great video!

[@StewARTist5]

I have said since a very young age that I didn’t want to grow up. I had anxiety about growing up and would cry thinking about it.

[@sarahs413]

I appreciate the analogies you make! It causes a "click" in my head. Thank you!

[@DrDanielFox]

That’s great. I’m so glad they’re helpful.

[@OriginalR69]

Dr Fox, could you please do a video addressing deeply ingrained overwhelming core shame and guilt, for those of us who are exceptionally hard on ourselves please? Many thanks and blessings. I love your work 🙂

[@theeternallowlyoutcastrn]

Financial responsibility is REALLY scaryyyyy. It scares the living crap out of me.

[@DrDanielFox]

It’s does many people.

[@theeternallowlyoutcastrn]

Alright. Thanks for your reply kind Sir🙏

[@Nat06]

I had to deal with that in my 40’s because of codependency that was created by my NPD mother. It was very hard but extremely worth it. I would say there is absolutely no other choice anyway.

[@Florabebe777]

Thank you Dr Fox. I needed to hear this message. 🙌🏽

[@sarahs413]

It's been found that ever since I was 5, around my peers it was as though I didn't exist around them or ........ WASN'T GOOD ENOUGH. That's followed me throughout adulthood. Problem changed from calling in all the time to begging for more hours all the time. It's a strange change of events. It's HARD.

[@nadinesnoopy]

Thanks! So lucky to have you and your guidance!

[@DrDanielFox]

Thank you for support the channel. It means a lot to me. I wish you well.

[@ariellejoy8705]

This is very encouraging, thank you so much!

[@evequeen8282]

This video is SO helpful. Thank you.

[@DrDanielFox]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Jazminksie]

This video is fantastic.

[@theeternallowlyoutcastrn]

Thank you for saying they dont give up❤

[@fabje1985]

I have BPD and Cannabis addiction and for me it is very difficult to take responsability to work for my own money. I'm lucky to live in a country ( the Netherlands) where I have social welfare but now they are pushing me to participate and I feel I'm on the verge of going into a self detructive fase. The flipside of the social welfare is that for the last 6 years I have completly isolated myself and have no contact with any family or friends. Having no social network is very difficult for me.

[@pumamanta1771]

I relate and I am in a similar situation in the US. I will give you the advice that I would give to you as a friend.l, hopefully useful for me as well. Find something that brings you joy and then find or create a job monetize your skills. Here at least we can work a little bit but not enough and there is a grace period for a few months. I hope you can give yourself a break and then start to work on what you can and then little more and more until you see your capacity and your limitations.

[@sarahs413]

From the very beginning you're spot on!

[@DrDanielFox]

Thanks

[@danielestaub9445]

Very encouraging. Thanks!

[@HS-hi6wc]

Dr Fox, could you share your journey and how you became who you are?

[@dawngartner1185]

Thank you for detailing that out. It answers a lot of questions I had about my ex. He refused to move forward on his own. And he is VERY financially irresponsible.

[@DrDanielFox]

Glad you found the video helpful.

[@your-name-here.]

I'm almost 45 and I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up 😂

[@debmills894]

@DrDanielFox can you please help? I’m 41, I feel like a 12 year old, what can I do to help me feel like an adult?

[@emilemerten6535]

Hi At night I tend to argue with people in my head, I can’t control this and It keeps me from sleeping. I know I worry a lot but this is different I keep forgetting that I’m the one that is thinking this and it’s not really happening.

[@DrDanielFox]

I would encourage you to start writing it out. You can do this in like a journal format where you’re writing out the different words and statements that are in your head. This not only slows down the process, but it allows you to see it and that visualization can help you better manage it. I wish you all the best.

[@sebyv9305]

why don't 2 therapists sit in a session, wouldn't client benefit and get a lot of feedback about an issue rather than seeing everything from a personal perspective, provided that the cost to client remains same. a healthy discussion from 2 mentors/experts would definitely have an impact.

[@AdrienneZazulak]

What if you made millions of mistakes over the years due to untreated adhd? My subconscious is now TERRIFIED of hard work as some sort of cptsd response. Only after years of therapy do I think I'm making progress. A few months ago I pushed it too hard and went into a burnout/meltdown(which really wasn't much more than usual but I understand I need to start small)

[@AdrienneZazulak]

@Stefa Nia I understand your fear! the stimulant adhd meds are great. I tried the non stimulant kind and it was awful. The only drawback to my meds is the slight decrease in quality of sleep. It's not like other meds where you can't miss a day though, so if I need to, I just stop taking them for a week to recover. I do that once a year or so. They really take the edge off my dread of daily chores etc

[@AdrienneZazulak]

@@stefania3538 I get it. I was told I had either bpd or PTSD. In therapy, we figured out it was cptsd. The Venn diagram between those two has a sweet spot where the symptoms overlap. Might be worth looking into. It's a complex issue, and you can't treat it with just one thing. Meds, therapy, irlen lenses, exercise... Somatic work. It all helps. You just gotta find your way. I still have lots to work on. Sucks about the medication shortage. Good luck on your journey!

[@elsameze]

I can relate a lot with things you are saying. Especially making decisions on medication that I can't sustain without them!! In my case, I have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression for 20 years... I am just now finding out theres BDP / CPTSD, I basically can't function without antidepressants but they make me SO EXHAUSTED I can't really function on them either. Thanks for reading and for sharing @@stefania3538

[@elsameze]

How did you differentiate between CPTSD and BPD? @@AdrienneZazulak

[@AdrienneZazulak]

@elsameze a competent/reliable therapist or psychiatrist, one that you e comfortable with. Or in rare cases, perhaps a GP. They're trained in what to look for and sorting out all of with you. Even then, don't take the "label" too seriously, as it's really just a tool they use to start the journey and find ways to help you. I've noticed that the best therapists don't focus on diagnosis, more on helping.

[@theeternallowlyoutcastrn]

I love this video❤

[@DrDanielFox]

I’m so glad you liked it.

[@theeternallowlyoutcastrn]

I feel like fhat anchor has been there in all my life.

[@bobohobo7652]

Thanks

[@DrDanielFox]

You’re very welcome and I hope you enjoy the video.

[@kimberlybaker5133]

Can you please increase the print size of text in the corners in the videos please? I deal with both slight hearing loss and sight limitations so it really helps. Thanks

[@Anotherhumanexisting]

What’s scary is seeing even neurotypical, able bodied Americans are struggling to be financially secure… as someone with multiple diagnoses I have no idea how I will survive financially in this economy once my parents are gone… I’m pretty smart and like to work, but finding a job that provides a safe, stable environment within my physical limitations AND also pays a living wage is nonexistent.

[@DrDanielFox]

It's definitely a tough situation, but don't lose hope. There are resources and support systems available that can help you navigate through these challenges. Keep exploring different options and stay determined.

[@deborahbain9915]

My teacher when I was Young said She Sets herself too higher goals

[@oneafteranother4588]

Do you currently practice in texas?

[@DrDanielFox]

Yes. Please see my webpage for more information. Www.drdfox.com

[@gaurs230]

I felt like I had to work extra hard just in general because of some shit in general

[@breahgardiner3702]

My bpd is listening, my dependant pd does not want to hear this lol.

[@kenandurrance3470]

Bpd and dpd too 🙋. Are you getting any form of treatment or therapy for your dpd?

[@theeternallowlyoutcastrn]

i am a chocolate chip cookie! I will be

[@gaurs230]

Low self esteem yes for sure very lower poor self esteem just a lot of it

[@theeternallowlyoutcastrn]

It is literally distorted

[@thereisnosanctuary6184]

You're not my dad. No.

[@demaskatorr]