[Pagoda One] Yeah Mate! Okay Then! Let's Learn About English Passive Aggressive Phrases and Sarcasm

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[@mishka422]

Our best passive aggressive phrase in the southern US is "Bless your heart". It can be said with a tone that really means "you are an idiot " or in a tone that is sincere. It's a guessing game!!!! Lol

[@lifeofjohn3993]

YES I totally hear this all the time. Like, "*something bad about a person*, bless his little heart!" like that ha ha

[@keandric2765]

LOL I'm not even from the South and that's the First thing I thought of X'D :)

[@hailycass4482]

ohhh ya

[@kiralind-obona2554]

I think the peak of British passive-aggression is loudly saying "you're welcome!" when someone forgets to say thank you for something

[@tommiemama]

And I think of that as a very American thing to do!

[@reaganb6013]

"we can go darker" next video: swear words

[@sizwemngadi7695]

I think "good for you" is another one used quite often

[@lifeofjohn3993]

Yeah and that doesn't translate well ha ha, so non-native english speakers have said "good for you" to me with no ill intent but I still automatically feel bad inside 😂 😂

[@kezeeanastasia7053]

@@lifeofjohn3993 wow honestly I never know that "good for you" is a form of sarcasm.. i use it a lot to encourage someone 😱🤣

[@arydimitri3100]

@@kezeeanastasia7053 me too.. so how do I know the "good for you" in a sarcastic way, or in a supporting way?

[@NsTheName]

@@arydimitri3100 A lot of it has to do with tone, which unfortunately makes it difficult. What I will say is that there are plenty of American's who won't take offense when it comes from someone who is not a native English speaker. I would just automatically assume that, that person just doesn't know that it CAN be sarcastic and move on. But if someone says it in a way that sounds like they're bored, that's a pretty good sign they're being sarcastic. A lot of people will say other things like, "That's awesome!" "You're doing great." "Well done." "I'm really happy for you."

[@Nostalgic_Owl]

@@NsTheName I have to agree with you there, as a scottish person, I hear a lot of sarcasm from people, mainly friends but a lot of brits can over step this specific line, but it just depends on the context as well as the underlying message behind it, I use 'Good for you' as both encouragement and sarcasm, I think it just depends on how it is said and the events of today but usually I will add a word before 'good' so it isn't taken as sarcasm like: 'That's good for you' or 'That will be good for you'

[@kallenmurphy]

My favourite as a South African in Ballito, "Oh is it" 😂

[@leanderinosanto7846]

My favorite one is. "I'll make a note of that." Accompany this one with a fake smile and I am ready to deal with people who are always sharing unwanted suggestions. 🤨🤨🤨

[@anyname13579]

One of my FAVORITE ways of being passive aggressive is when I'm chatting on a messaging service (mostly fb messenger) and I'm having.... Shall we say a heated discussion with someone, and then I'll just react to their last message with a thumbs up. It's SUPER passive aggressive and petty but sometimes you just have to do it.

[@tomzito2585]

Yes, this!

[@sarahmoellenberg]

This video is speaking to my sarcastic soul. At work, I use "As I said in my last email" or something along those lines and I end the email with "Thanks" before signing my name.

[@blahoro4654]

"no❤️" has become quite popular online now

[@reaganb6013]

it definitely is lol, but i don't think it's necessarily passive aggressive

[@dandeleon2764]

Or when people are arguing online, and end the conversation with a 🙂

[@sizwemngadi7695]

I would attend this class all day everyday 💯💯💯💯🙌🏾😂

[@PenguinPatron]

John's facial expressions in this video were the #best

[@anakinvader9120]

One that we use alot here in the US is calling someone "Buddy" or "Pal" like someone you are trying to avoid comes and talks to you, you're like "Hey buddy... my favorite person" Or someone being annoying you'd be like "Yeah, ok pal"

[@salsadip7453]

i think it's very interesting how 'uhum' can be used, in my country it depends on the tone and the lenght... like a short 'uhum' is just agreeing (when someone tells a story and you want to assure you're listening / want them to know you're on their side for example) and a long 'uuhuummm' would be aggressive!

[@daneroberts1996]

If I’m annoyed but don’t want to express it, I say “oh really”, but instead of raising the pitch of the last syllable like it’s a question I do it to the middle one. So i say “oh REAlly”. Via text, if I stop using emojis it means I’m annoyed. Even using an angry emoji means I’m less annoyed than the same angry message with just no emojis at all

[@arydimitri3100]

That's exactly the same way I use in texting 😂

[@danielhanly6557]

I use "sure....." honestly it works pretty well

[@kareenvu1568]

I'd say "well, if you say so." while flicking an eyebrow if I'm about to lose it. There might have been a tilt of the head on an occasion or two 😅😰 　 I didn't know about passive agressiveness until a few years ago. I find it hard to change those little habits 😅

[@Mrs.Silversmith]

My personal favorite is "I did mention this to you before ...." and then when they act confused I add "several times in fact." I also like to say "That's nice" to my kids when they are whining about something trivial. It drives them up the wall.

[@syrinacrockett8290]

We have a saying in the south where it can be used in passive aggressive way or in sincere way and that saying is " oh bless your heart". Depends on contexts of the sentence; whether you just did or said something stupid then you will hear "bless your heart" meaning "I'm sorry your so stupid", but if someone close just passed away, you been sick or hurt then it would be sincere. My friends tend to use "good for you" or "lovely" when someone they don't like starts bragging about something.

[@crazymusicchick]

That's nice, lol I actually got it from British tv (Mrs Brown). btw the most sarcastic American would be chandler from friends "could I be wearing any more clothes " ok that one was joey lol

[@pankosushi]

I'm Australian and "good for you" is pretty much always used to say that you don't actually care about what the person has to say.

[@shelbyfries8304]

I think sarcasm can easily be expressed by dragging, and holding out your words. Like, "Yeaah, riiiight"..."Oh, reeealy?" "Nooo, I don't get it." My favorite passive-aggressive phrase I learned from an older Gentleman. I even heard him say this to his wife! You have to say in a lite, upbeat tone... "Well, sounds like a personal problem!" ...And then smile, nod your head and walk away! Lol😂 I use it all the time now. It actually works great. Most people take the hint and think it's kinda funny and I happily let myself off the hook.😄👍 Some of my co-workers and family members are starting to use it back at me!

[@pagodaone_5697]

So good!!!

[@tamalam]

Y'all are all so sarcastic and I love it.

[@tjk772]

I smile too sweetly without saying anything... sometimes with a little "umhmm😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊"

[@gazman1238]

Here in Australia if someone tells you they are "Fine", I promise you it is the very last thing they are feeling. What they really mean is "Go away, I don't want to talk about it - at least not with you."

[@reaganb6013]

in the american south "bless your heart" is common, it might sound like a nice thing but it really means "you're stupid" haha

[@tomzito2585]

Oops I just wrote the same thing LOL

[@Heytno]

I think it’s the same in England 🤣

[@Nostalgic_Owl]

I think my favourite which is something I hear in Scotland quite a bit "No kidding, Sherlock', my family use this a lot if we are all looking for something and someone suddenly reminds us that we need to find what ever the object in question is

[@danielhanly6557]

Same in Ireland except we say "No s$%#, Sherlock" 😂

[@tjk772]

I use "(oh)yeah" or "let's do that" in a little forcing tone... usually depicts actually not wanting to do something that someone suggested and excessively forcing to do that which ironically means the opposite.... I LOVE SARCASM

[@eideanbotha8655]

I love this theme! I think it definitely helps to grasp the body language of a foreign language. Actually seeing you use the words with your body language and voice really helps to get the point across. My favourite passive aggressive phrase: let me get that for you. With a forced smile. For when someone tries to do something but makes it worse.

[@anhducle3031]

You guys should upload more because i love watching all of your videos! Love from Vietnam

[@britbc4461]

American Brittany again: two I love to use at work when I am feeling snarky- 1. Thank you so much for your feedback :) = I'm deleting this and not taking your feedback 2. Great job on this = everything else you do is crap! THIS time you managed to do something correctly.

[@Rebecca-ck8fn]

I think my favorite is: Really, I wouldn't have known if you hadn't told me. Or You don't say.

[@britbc4461]

American Brittany: If I use lol it means "I know you are trying to be funny but you arent". Also, I only think periods are passive aggressive if they are after just a word or two. Like "okay." or "not now."

[@theostrydom345]

Another one we use alot in South Africa is "sorry nê"😂😍❤

[@romguid]

"As per my last email/message" is something I use a lot. And here I thought I'm not passive aggressive.

[@ericak2710]

I'm from the Midwestern US (Minnesota). We pride ourselves on "Minnesota nice" which is basically veiled passive aggression. One I often hear is "that's interesting." A way of saying that something is odd in a negative way all while avoiding any confrontation like a good Midwesterner.

[@anyname13579]

Theme idea for October: the dark side of English/language/slang lol. Great for Halloween!

[@pagodaone_5697]

Thx for the idea!!!

[@clemsonbloke]

@PAGODA ONE , What I want to hear is John speak with a British accent and Sam to speak with an American accent. That would be fun! Seriously, it would be good to do a video on all the different accents of English speakers. Keep up the good work.

[@shivanjanisharma8462]

When I watch your videos I become crazy.😂😂😂🤣

[@suriya0605]

My sarcastic line is "You get me everytime"

[@lemueltabutol4454]

Wow. I didn’t know that the implication or the tone of telling “as per my last email” or something similar is that negative. It’s a good thing I haven’t used anything like that in any of my emails.

[@NicholasJH96]

I usually you short words or the Silent treatment with people but if am annoyed or irritated by someone not working properly I usually swear at my devices.

[@shivanjanisharma8462]

Sarcasm chantelle 😂😂😂🤣🤣

[@tjk772]

I usually say "oh yeah?" In a questioning tone with wide "asking" eyes and a light nod.... it's pretty understandable😅

[@arydimitri3100]

Is it just me, or the way John waving his hand, it looks so friendly? 😂

[@deripfina]

Ary Dimitri right?? he just seems so friendly

[@tomzito2585]

The British should trademark passive aggression for the many clever and witty ways of delivering a remark or retort. The classic British delivery of a passive aggressive comment is deadpan (sans facial expression). "Are You Being Served?" is an old British comedy which used passive aggression as an comedic art form. I find British wit very entertaining and catching Sam's one-liners, quips, and expressions (which are always well within the boundaries of professionalism, just funny) is one of the main reasons I enjoy this channel. Sam represents his country well in this regard, especially when it comes to the friendly rivalry with "American John". Clearly they're still mad about the tea.

[@lifeofjohn3993]

That may be one of the biggest reasons why I love British comedy so much! Also I make sure to dump tea and drink my 'Merican coffee at least once a week in front of Sam

[@tomzito2585]

@@lifeofjohn3993 Oh that's awesome John! Thank you for responding to my comment. You guys are so much fun to watch and you are an excellent representative of the States.

[@lifeofjohn3993]

@@tomzito2585 thanks Tom!!!

[@pootii_a1380]

My passive-aggressive thing is the "Yah okay" paired with the thin lips and the eyes scanning you from bottom to top. Sometimes with the added open mouth tongue curl thing.

[@francisastudillo4220]

More videos in a week please :(

[@rebecamasias7012]

That 'yah' Chantalle mentioned is really use in spanish (ya), italian (gìa) and portuguese (já) speakers too! We use it in a passive agressive way too haha 😝

[@VivaCohen]

Ugh, I hate when people use periods in texts or say "as per my last email", but I can be pretty passive aggressive unfortunately. I think being sarcastic can be a form of humor (unless you're crossing that line... but what do I know, I'm American lol), but being passive aggressive is always intended to hurt someone (even when you don't realize you're doing it).

[@irenevania5714]

My fav is “.....right.”

[@hailycass4482]

3:46 that happens to me toooooo and its so annoying

[@kylereynhart]

When my sister asks a Stupid question like "Are you going to swim?" and its like 40°C outside I'm just like "Noooo!" with a Huge amount of Sarcasm 😂

[@abigailbbyg2024]

yyeay, everyday i learn something new hahahahaaha thanks guysss

[@nanacazume5324]

It's remember me my school's days, when people said to me "you're pretty for an asian" (I'm half Japanese born and raised in a western country)

[@tomzito2585]

Another classic form of passive aggression in the American south is, "bless (your/his/her/their) heart". Ex: "Oh did Johnny just get fingerprints all over he freshly cleaned glass window? Bless his heart."

[@rudipittaway8800]

If u want sarcasm come visit S.A🇿🇦😂

[@lifeofjohn3993]

I learned about this from Chantelle 😂

[@Nostalgic_Owl]

I was gonna suggest Scotland as we Scots actually quite like dry humour, just depends who you talk to

[@CeravvvEgan]

British people don’t do face to face confrontation or being upfront. They will say it behind your back instead. I really don’t like it. I appreciate the straightforwardness of Afrikaans people. Dutch people are upfront too. I like to know where I stand or if I’ve done something to upset someone

[@hanruwatkins7300]

I always thought it was "Ja Okay" and not Yah Okay 😂

[@livingaschantelle2997]

Ya/yah/ja. I’ve seen saffas type it out in all ways. So this isn’t wrong. Please remember that everyone might not use the same way or spelling only you use. Thanks for watching the vid⭐️

[@mthunziphakathi4215]

@@livingaschantelle2997 true

[@NsTheName]

Plus, the "Ja" comes from the Dutch influence on Caucasian South African's so the producer would need to have that information to spell it that way and they likely don't know much about Dutch/German etc.

[@afp1435]

The most passive aggressive way to end an email in England is to end it with “regards” instead of “kind regards” 😂

[@keandric2765]

Lol this was a fun one. Sarcasm and snarkiness can be so fun XD :)) How is Sam's arm healing up? It still seems pretty bruised, poor guy :(

[@sonyjoyce2895]

I wonder if the statement ”thanks for your time” is passive-aggressive. Some of our customers used to say this at the end of calls. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@juliannunez8805]

Usually I say "Now I see" but I don't know if it is passive-aggressive

[@sammurai1408]

You're pretty fly for a while guy.

[@charlestellis7021]

Ja, no well fine!

[@mystogan8714]

Loved the video 😍😍 (Not being sarcastic 😂)

[@hbws4786]

영상 올라올 때마다 챙겨보고 있습니다 케미가 좋으시네요 ㅋㅋ

[@lifeofjohn3993]

잘 봐셔서 감사합니다~ 근데 제가 한국어 공부하고 있는데 혹시 자주 쓰는 간접적인 부정표현이 있나요?

[@pagodaone_5697]

감사합니다! 자주자주 놀러오세요~^^

[@hbws4786]

@@lifeofjohn3993 왠지 아실 것 같은데, 상대방이 좀 부담스러운 제안이나 요청을 할 때 거절의 의미로 "생각해 보겠습니다" or "그건 조금 어려울 것 같아요"라고 완곡하게 대답하는 편이에요. John: 돈 좀 빌려줄 수 있어요? Sam: 죄송하지만 좀 어려울 것 같아요.

[@lifeofjohn3993]

@@hbws4786 ㅋㅋㅋ 저도 "좀 어려울 것 같다" 표정을 많이 사용하는데요 😂😂

[@nallari411]

is it just me or does Chantelle looks a lot like Elisabeth Moss?

[@danilasahaja7636]

Me: As my previous comments u are so adorable Sam Sam would be like: yeah sure Me: 😍

[@bmoirangthem]

Umm quite like it...👍

[@tomzito2585]

When your wife is slamming doors and cabinets around the house and you ask, "You alright?" and she says, "I'm fine." That means she's angry. Head for the hills.

[@arusha0072]

Came back home tired after working all day. It’s my roommate’s turn to cook but she is Sick. “Great! Now I have to cook as well.”

[@MegaChickenpower]

WE FOUND THE REAL JONH FROM

[@user-tl1wy6yf9q]

I am a bit confused! What is the difference between passive-aggressive and verbal irony?

[@lifeofjohn3993]

There is some crossover between verbal irony/sarcasm/passive aggressive phrases. Passive aggressive, however is really focused on the aggressive part. You intention is to show your annoyance and/or displeasure with the listener. Verbal irony, however, can be any sort of phrase where you say one thing but mean another. It doesn't have to show aggression to a listener. Example: This weather is fantastic! (when it's rainy and windy out). To sum up: Passive aggressive is showing aggressiveness to the listener Verbal irony just means you say one thing but mean something different

[@user-tl1wy6yf9q]

존의인생Life of John Thank you for the answer! Now I learned one more vocabulary and its concept. I thought of it this way but I asked to make sure.

[@ritchieli5654]

5:30 Haha I always use "lol..."

[@ironsword7]

Where's Walter these days?

[@kenny5132]

I think they mentioned in a comment before that he is focusing on his own channel

[@k.vn.k]

As previously commented...

[@sushi777300]

Oh that's sad

[@sunbaby4218]

I've heard "I didn't ask"

[@rin_is_fab]

hi i missed u guys❣

[@2WarriorJay8]

"K."

[@almasmith906]

Afrikaans.....Goeeeeed.....with the thin lips😜

[@k.vn.k]

‘Lol’

[@feshgogulululu]

the only thing i say is “ok” “epic” or “c00L”

[@keandric2765]

Lol l do the "ok" and "cool" thing too xD

[@elke9499]

Lol... where's Wally. I mean Walter☺

[@miftahulfaris4400]

I don't know man, It's really dark in here, can't see anything.

[@rin_is_fab]

ooh sarcasm~ i saw a vid that british people are good at it.. hi sir sam👀😂

[@rin_is_fab]

*sam being excited in the word sarcasm*🤣

[@rin_is_fab]

i hope you guys are doing okay❣

[@lesliesagara8739]

I’m not sure if you guys realise this, but each of us can only subscribe once, and like once per vid, unless of course we like to subscribe and unsubscribe or like and dislike over and over...lol..............

[@craigchambers4183]

I....like, subscribe to your comment. (Was that too subtle?)

[@lifeofjohn3993]

Not for you own son 😂😂 But also make sure to, like, subscribe to the channel too

[@VictorGarcia-wl8tb]

Guys where is Walter? :(

[@pagodaone_5697]

Hi Victor, He will not be joining with us anymore due to his request. However, you can still watch his video on his KZbin channel Kozzie tv 😊

[@tjk772]

You know when you use "please" with a formal, but mean phrase... for ex: Can you PLEASE😒 stop talking?.... this would mean "SHUT UP!" but then other person cannot complain either because you're saying it in a formal way with PLEASE😜

[@AJ----]

Lol

[@user-rn5jk6hh6e]

Ok I must block this channel right now .. Because I can't keep watching Sam and neglecting my lectures, I have a final exam soon Wish me luck.