3 Ways to Respond to Thinking

[@pattyboucetta1897]

I'm reading a book called Don't Believe Everything You Think and he says thoughts are fine, it's thinking about those thoughts that cause suffering. So true.

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, exactly.

[@robrybacki9434]

Awesome book!

[@AlexMar-r]

I forgot about this amazing guy , 5 years ago I was living in NJ I started having panick attacks and got Gastritis ! Oh boy , let me tell you I couldn’t eat anything because I would bloat immediately and it will trigger a panick attack shm , I was scared of dinner times when meals were larger . Fast forward ⏩ this guy thought me this very same approach , emotions and thoughts without before my dinner were the worst , so I had to start with eating small portions and use some logic .every day was less bloating and more reassurance till anxiety leaves I didn’t even notice when I ate a full meal because there were no negative thoughts . 5 years later I’m almost under the same problem but this time my chest it’s irritated from acid reflux and eveytime I eat I feel like my food will stay there and choke me shm , it’s been 3 days since I found this video again and I started to eat and have less fear , and eat little more with more confidence .

[@bethmulligan1]

I so appreciate the distinction between positive vs accurate Brilliant!! 👌

[@mollieanne]

my favorite quote is from Vivian Leigh as Scarlett O'hara in Gone with the Wind, "I can't think about that right now."

[@vanessawilhelm594]

I think positive thinking and gratitude is great - but toxic positivity is not. No one will be upbeat every second of every day, but in some self help groups or even some brain retraining groups/programs this is being promoted. When a certain program tells me to interrupt every thought I have in the day that isn't "good" or "positive" I find it difficult to cope, it then feels like I am trying to "fix myself" all day. Your approach suits me much better. I actually tried a TMS approach years ago, but because of the approach I mentioned I couldn't cope and gave up on the whole tms idea. Everything happens for a reason and here I am, nearly 3 years later - recovering and doing the work however, without all the rigidity and without trying to stop every thought I have in the day.

[@Inge508]

👏👏👏throw away all the rigid stuff, go with the flow! Happy healing Vanessa❤

[@Eliokd]

Yea, that's why I'm not keeping up with the brain retraining programs. Fake positivity is just exhausting

[@Bachconcertos]

And pretending life is dandy - it can be but it everyone is stressed out even if u are not.

[@koenrouwhorst4173]

Fully agree! If I can retrain it I do, but sometimes it just doesn’t work and then I’ll just accept the emotions let them flow and move on.

[@Inge508]

I truly believe we can THINK ourselves sick by taking our negative thoughts as truthful. My mom thought herself mentally ill by putting all her negative thoughts on repeat.. I was judged by her for always bringing in a more positive scenario.. negative thoughts often go back to resentment, and clinging on to dramatic situations.. Nowadays I view a negative thought: is this bringing me safety, is this helpful to be happy/to recover? Mostly it isn’t, so I let go of engaging in them, like you say Dan.. I’m really Thinking myself healthy and recovered ❤

[@Rike-gr1jg]

Enlightening message! Thank you, Inge! Have a great day! 🌷

[@Inge508]

@@Rike-gr1jg❤❤❤

[@vanessawilhelm594]

I can totally relate Inge. My mum always respond with "that's just who I am" when being called out on her own behaviour keeping her stuck. I am hoping as I am learning, that I can guide her aswell. Moving away from generational trauma to generational wellbeing.

[@Inge508]

@@vanessawilhelm594 oh dear! It’s not easy! I tried in vain and my mom ended tragically.. but I applaud you for trying it and stopping it for yourself!🤗

[@deejanz3763]

Very wise words, Inge. Thank you for posting!❤

[@susanmccachren9267]

Super helpful and so timely..sometimes I say to the thought " thank you for sharing ." I like all the suggestions here and esp the things you explained, Dan. Big thanks!

[@Lenneke8422]

When i have negative thoughts i always say to myself " Is this helpful?" And usually the answer is no. It works most of of the time but there are days or especially nights when laying awake these negative thoughts are running the show it is work in progress. My progress is that i am aware of it. Slowly and staedy i am getting there. So i keep walking 🚶‍♀️on the road of recovery. Ty Dan love you ❤❤❤

[@pampatton8658]

I always look forward to your videos. I may not watch them on a daily basis, but then at other times I may binge watch! What a gift you have given to create these videos every day that have fresh and relevant content. The constant exposure to these nuggets of truth and encouragement really do assist in creating a mind shift. I pray that all of your generosity comes back to you multiple times!

[@Inge508]

A thought is nothing more then a collection of brainwaves. Coming up and passing by day long..🌸

[@Inge508]

Brainwaves meaning fabrication of the brain

[@nancyrussell6598]

WE DO GIVE IMPORTANCE TO NOTHING @@Inge508

[@monishareddy1]

Love this !

[@anjash6169]

Beneficial as always. You give me a lot to think about😊. ❤

[@Eliokd]

One of Richard Carlson's books, "Stop thinking Start Living," talks exactly about that. Thoughts can't hurt us unless we give them importance and believe them to be true.

[@Rike-gr1jg]

Thank you so much, Dan! Wonderful video!!! I already started to buy into my negative thoughts much less. And I can tell you they were really a lot and strong and also destructive. Now I can observe them pretty often and sometimes ask: Hey, who are you, did I invite you to the party? As a guest would you be so kind to think about your behavior......? ...... Funny what then happens 😊 Have a nice day Dan and all! ❤

[@Inge508]

Well done Rike, for noticing that pattern! Have a great day too❤

[@Summerkirsom]

I like the way you share your understandings of what so many of us try to navigate. This is very important to take in. You also make me laugh at myself for believing my thoughts. Us humans are quite complicated it seems.

[@PainFreeYou]

Absolutely, we are complicated.

[@davefionamaycockbrynaert9259]

Love your comment about the roommate!! You rock! Thanks Dan.

[@anitawoodward63]

Thank you for this. My thinking is my downfall. I get so anxious before an event (like meeting people!) and my thoughts run wild about all the horrible things that could happen. I get dizzy and faint. I am planning a trip to my homeland, England, in 4 weeks and am paranoid about the airport and all the crowds. I am going to try really hard to use your tools. I have "visions" of being in a crowded elevator, or bus and have a panic attack, which has happened before.

[@PainFreeYou]

Remember - our thoughts do not need to be taken seriously. We don't have to believe them.

[@pattyboucetta1897]

The book The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer is awesome regarding our thinking. Highly recommend..

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes it is.

[@LilyOscar333]

Love it Dan.. “ thoughts are the language of the brain, feelings the language of the body” and one affects the other.. as it’s all one. ❤ Have a lovely day Dan and everyone. The quote is Dr Joe Dispenza ..

[@Inge508]

Love the quote! Have a good day too Lily ❤

[@LilyOscar333]

@@Inge508 thank you Inge .. Have a lovely day.. still raining ☔️ .. sun around the corner 🌞

[@Inge508]

@@LilyOscar333 Rain here also! The sun will get a very warm welcome 😜🥰🥰🥰

[@burcat]

“I’m not going to think about that right now “……reminds me of Scarlett O’Hara in Gone with the Wind. She’d say “I’ll think about that tomorrow “. 😄

[@MrSleskus]

A thought is just “an event of the mind” as a fart is “an event of the body”. It’s funny how we assign so much worth to a mind event versus a body event. I like to refer to negative thoughts as “a mind fart”. It helps me to laugh at the thought rather than become it.

[@mantratouch]

I totally resonate with what you are saying that our brain doesn't work by replacing the negative thinking with positive thoughts by fixing it. I just joined better me to do some child trauma and they keep teaching challenges negative thinking by replacing with positive thoughts there,after I read that my whole body chronic pain feels much worse today. I am so glad I found your channel later today ❤❤

[@lynnchauvie3526]

There is a great book "Don't believe everything you think" it's great

[@Shobz-e8s]

What A Great analogy! Dont talk to that guest!! 🙏

[@SurrenderCrew]

Thank you Dan ❤❤❤

[@Water_Serenity]

Love your analogies!

[@wr9418]

Yayyy! I love it when you read my mind. A weight lifted off when you said "we've heard stop thinking negative, why are you so negative". Makes me feel shame I can't stop it. Great video.

[@alandry6872]

Will strive to employ this attitude!!! ❤

[@margalisetamplin6726]

Good talk Thank you

[@miltosmaris4108]

I laugh about the last person of the party! Great video Dan, thank you!

[@elenirivers5205]

Towards the end of the video you talked about someone who had chemical sensitivities. I thought that was really interesting as it connects with something I have been contemplating lately regarding all the food and allergy trips that are going on these days. I was starting to head in that direction thinking that might fix my ‘problem’ but hate the thought of becoming so wound up with a long list of foods I should not eat. I’d be interested to hear more on this theme sometime.

[@alexandreturgeon465]

Awesome video ! I'll try my best to apply this to my own thoughts. 🙏

[@tina_820]

This reminds me of your video that talked about your brain teleporting. It was a definite aw ha moment. I do it all the time. Now it’s way different teleporting, happy teleportation for me. When I teleport to past, future, pain I get onto the bus.🚌

[@elisabethj6613]

Thank you Dan💕🙏🏼

[@LilyOscar333]

Love Mel Robbins.. ❤

[@lindascott7644]

❤❤ Another Great Talk Dan.. Thank you for these daily videos.. ! Hope you have a Wonderful Day!!

[@Jam-m7m]

I just subscribed

[@NEChristo]

Sounds suspiciously like Dr. Suess. I’ve got a thinking problem so I have to fix my thinking with my thinking because I have a thinking problem…I think 😂

[@MusicLoverJC]

Dan all the safety works and seeing it at just TMS will work even if I’m taking meds? I’m taking lyrica for nerve/burning pain… which does not cover the entire pain, taking lexapro for anxiety/depression (as a way to break the pain cycleand trazodone to sleep…I’ve developed imsomnia All the pain came 4 months ago after very complicated C-section which required a second surgery 10 days after due to a pelvic infection… when I got home the following week I started developing chronic low back pain, now has also been paresthesia, dysesthesias, burning on skin at the contact of clothes or pressure…. They say all mri are ok and the nerve tests… So I’m still experiencing a lot of symptoms and meds are not it.. Will this approach work even if I’m on meds? TIA for the response

[@jackieragan1819]

My twin sister passed away last week. That’s all I think about. I know it’s grief.

[@PainFreeYou]

I am so sorry for your loss. This video may help. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aKi9hYilo7OAbpo

[@uhh_briget]

love this dan! i have a hard time not responding or tuning out my thoughts on high symptom days (i struggle with dizziness/vision issues), what do you suggest then? especially when out & about

[@CruisingWithElena]

Makes sense my freeloading head messages got to go bye❤

[@jennaishere]

Dan Hi 👋 I’ve been watching your videos the last week and confused about ‘messages of safety’.. do we send messages of safety all day or maybe when we’re going to do something that we fear (mine is go to the bathroom IC related) or is it just when we have the pain? 😂 I don’t know if I’m doing this wrong

[@inthedougout301]

where did you get those cool blue light blockers!?

[@PainFreeYou]

raoptics.com/

[@andrewrice9383]

I suppose my thing is, I get disappointed in people who cling to positivity and respond badly to negativity. Blending with a part as you might say.

[@juliettestamp6933]

Good point to say I am bored with them thoughts

[@remkomooij]

Just read steveO s book about visualisation and him noticing what nasty images he had off his back and replacing them with positive healthy images made him heal. How do you see this with regards to thoughts. I notice when i am imagining healthy images the images with damage show up. Is it same here? Just let them be and is it still a good thing to even visualize a healthy body? Or is this still engaging?

[@Freespirit038]

I really liked that in one of your recent videos, you said you can respond with ‘oh well’ instead of ‘oh no!’ We are told we have to repeatedly bat away thoughts and replace them when actually we only have to stop paying so much attention to them. Like the arsehole room mate 😂 This video has really helped - thank you.

[@1STBUCKLEY]

"you wouldn't know the highs, if you didn't have the lows "

[@amarahmed3112]

We were treated for very long periods of time with benzodiazepine medications and antidepressants, and the obsessions and intrusive thoughts did not disappear, and our brain became damaged and highly sensitive, generating many thoughts and a lot of anxiety. What can be done Thanks

[@PainFreeYou]

Regardless of the impact of the medication, there is only benefit to teaching the brain you are safe. The concepts in this video are still valid and should be implemented. Convey safety to your brain. My fast start playlist maps it out. DansFastStart.com - there is hope. You've found it.

[@sherrilawrence662]

I love Dan's response AND I understand about the brain damage from meds❤

[@sherrilawrence662]

Buddhist's and teach talk alot about "indifference " a concept they call equanimity. At least my understanding is that these are very similar ❤

[@GodHelpMe369]

Nothing to live for. Nothing to hope for. 999-trillion oceans of despair and grief. Rage rapes me. I feel suicidal. I don't breathe. I am submerged in frozen darkness. My soul silently wails. I have nobody. I'm all alone. Desperately. Lonely. Filled with anguish and terror. I can only pray to die. I don't know what else to pray for. All I feel is misery and desperation. Grief eats my soul. I cannot, do not breathe. He left me. Discarded me like last week's garbage. The despair is truly unbearable.

[@PainFreeYou]

I don't know why you are feeling this way, but if you are truly thinking about harming yourself, contact a suicide hotline. Some guy on KZbin is not your lifeline. If you are dealing with chronic pain or other chronic conditions, it is possible my work can help you get better. If interested, check out my fast start playlist. I would encourage you to watch the entire playlist, take notes, implement and repeat that process until you get well. This stuff works. DansFastStart.com - begin here. Success stories: PainFreeYouSuccess.com

[@cheryl8493]

It was so funny I told my husband don’t think about a red car. Don’t think about a red car so he says blue car blue car blue car lol.

[@PainFreeYou]

haha - nice.

[@queenofhearts.]

🙏🏽

[@MaryJones-fs4wf]

So what the 3 ways are?

[@PainFreeYou]

It's in the video. Don't stop the negative thoughts. Don't fix them. But don't believe them.

[@MaryJones-fs4wf]

@@PainFreeYou got it, thank you

[@iskateveryday]

my trading method is good but i cant seem to make profit , its eating at my nerves and im ready to relax

[@Estilove1]

If you tell your brain you are ok and it doesnt have to react to a "perceived" threat, how will your brain know what a real threat is? Im not sure if im making sense. Isnt it your brain's job to perceive threats (whether real or not is another story)?

[@deniserouthierledoux8133]

Love the part about the a-hole living in my head.

[@PainFreeYou]

Haha - yep.

[@1STBUCKLEY]

The algorithm in our brain always feeding our bodies 🙄

[@julissarivas6992]

This tip might just work. "Don't click on it" Thank you

[@PainFreeYou]

I did a video on that tip: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mZPQkGxunZyImbs

[@julissarivas6992]

@@PainFreeYou awesome thanks!!

[@ajyvr305]

What helps me is ANTS 🐜🐜🐜 All Negative Thoughts Stop! Not sure who came up with it! When the negative or worrisome thoughts start marching in. I think of the ants stuck and having to turn around and leave. I talk to them too! 😊 You are not welcome here...bye now. 💞🐾🐈‍⬛

[@Dandelionsandbutterflies]

Yes this it’s so bad 😂😂😂😂😂

[@elizabethhauser4395]

Toxic positivity

[@Bachconcertos]

Oh well i know what that a is - 0h well.

[@ajourneywithm.e.reflection8880]

How about brain fog.....

[@julissarivas6992]

Positive people are so annoying. Lol

[@PainFreeYou]

haha