Inside the World of Bar Girls: What You Need to Know/Old Dog New tricks

[@nikkibelmont9199]

most elderly caucasians with small pensions would go to southeast asia especially to the philippines to entice young girls to be either their girlfriend, young bride or caregiver. young filipina girls see this an opportunity to get out of dirt poor, poverty. i mean, do you really believe that these young, beautiful filipinas would fall in love with old wrinkled old farts expats??? seriously 😅

[@jpjay1584]

many do fall in love. the majority

[@williammiller4464]

Let me guess, you are the typical western man hating feminist. Want the power of a man, the privileges of a woman and the accountability of a toddler. Probably overweight, and can't keep a man around because it is their fault.. I have many friends married to pinay. Most have been married for a decade or more. Two have wives that are 35 years younger than them. They have been together in the US for and married for 14 years. They really happy. If these people were like you, they would have divorced the guy after they got here to climb the ladder. Before judging others, maybe you should look in the mirror. Guys like a traditional, feminine woman that takes care of herself. Nobody wants a manly female. No I don't know you, but based on your comments I know the type. Cat lady material.

[@lennyclark1998]

And do you think Beautiful Linda Hamilton was in love with Peter Jackson? How about Beautiful Beyonce? Jayz looks like a frog. How about all the girls that fell "in love" with flavor flav? Lets get down to the women of the west that chases after a guy with a beautiful house and fancy car? Look at the fantasy shows that our women fantasize over. So Cinderalla didnt fall in love with the baker or the builder. She fell in love with Prince Charming that looked good and had his daddies money. Dont be a hypocrite because an expat goes to get what makes him happy and a Filipina does what changes her life for the better. They both meet each others needs. Who are you to talk trash? Those who live in glass houses.

[@rayrdelle]

Do you really think your going to change the way of the world with your unhappy comment ❓️They got what we want.. we got what they want. Lets do this 🤓

[@jpjay1584]

@@lennyclark1998 not sure you ever dated an asian girl. perfect skin, nice body and exotic look(mostly) is whats on the outside. once you had a "local girlfriend" you will see it's not just the money. they are genuinely interested in a guy who has knowledge, who can make a decision, traveled an other country, has an interesting job etc. and F*CK!*G PLANS his new life to move to an other continent. and engages in adventures. the same little things we love to see them do differently they see in us as well. again, if it's just the money, she actually might be a gold-digger or maybe he is a boring guy who ruins her expectation and only stays on the sofa the whole day. NO woman in this word would tolerate this. gold diggers and manipulative women are in every country. but the majority of girls (everywhere) are just normal. so if you find a "normal girl" which you think is attractive and who loves you its more than just money. trust me. the majority are really happy with a Western man. (not all of course, but thats life)

[@michaelm9621]

Paul is the dad we all needed as a kid. Keep it up.

[@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234]

Hi @michaelm9621 Thank you so much! Your support means a lot to me. 🙏

[@Mexicobeanpole]

As a white female that is fascinated by your story telling, I agree with all the above. Whether in the Philippines or the US. I always felt I was supposed to look like a lady when in public, and save my tramp side for the bedroom with my man. I’m in my 60s, so that meant I didn’t follow the trends over the years. No boob job, no belly ring, no tattoos, no duck lips, no spider eyelashes, no long fake nails, and definitely no Brazilian booty lift, and if I was gonna wear a shorter dress it would be with flat shoes and not stripper heels. And one drink will do to sip on. If even that. Less is more. Like your wife, natural beauty. I think all of the above is the stuff of one night stands. Not relationships.

[@josedelnegro46]

I do not have many more one night stands left in me. God just give me one more.

[@bill426worker5]

I love hearing from people like you. Just plain common sense and that is such a rarity in today's world . rock on

[@randypi91]

Well said! Thank you, and I agree with your thoughts. My Filipina Wife and I just celebrated 30 years married. Age 34 and her 25 when we met. I am still blessed every day.

[@rayrdelle]

At the end of the day its all about, trust, honesty and character.

[@horacesubayar794]

Values like yours are truly a diamond of a find that most men should always seek and treasure.

[@leftyinhesperia1662]

I've also advised many of my buddies not to go for the young beauty queen. My friend Rick was in his 50's and in good physical shape from construction work and was successful. He went to the Philippines and found a 19 year old beauty queen and brought her to USA. She was so Maganda that when she was at the American Filipino parties, we all went to all the men could not keep their eyes off her. In about year 3 we found out she was cheating on him with a young man and ended up leaving him. He was so hurt and paranoid he went back to the Philippines and got a very homely woman around his age and has been happily married to her for over 20 years now LOL.

[@flinx649]

This is wha i recommend... I actually prefer the homely and a little chubby filipinas.... I married one 21 years ago.

[@Abelius]

You can perfectly go for the 18 yo beauty queen as long as you commit to the country that made her, and live in it with her. You don't take an ice cream to the desert.

[@youngandfree93]

​@@Abeliussome young 20s stud will take her away from the guy eventually especially if the guy is really old

[@roadwarrior528]

Please tell Rick I'm sorry for stealing his woman. She was so maganda.

[@naldebol]

I know of a very good hearted man that was head over heels for this girl from PH. He gave her the world. He was very good to her. He brought her to the US. Long story short, she cheated on him. She was a 10 out of 10, amazing body and face, and very natural (no surgeries). He "forgave" her after founding out. He suggested a get away to the Middle East. He came back to the US alone. Don't know where she is now.

[@KimmyPat]

I lived in Thailand for two years and now live in Cebu with my lovely Filipina girlfriend. I understand the master manipulation that occurs to emotionally vulnerable men and it saddens me to see but most men have to get burned to learn. Great video as always...

[@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234]

Thanks for sharing

[@ejtaylor73]

The hardest lessons in life to learn are always the most painful ones, and the ones you'll never forget.

[@6foot596]

Most of those guys in Thailand who go to those bars are useless anyway. Lots of them get taken advantage over, left broke, have nothing left in life as many are very old.

[@b-41subject57]

You met her in cebu?

[@chrisdillon2073]

That girl you meet at the mall could have easily worked at a bar just weeks before it's just she finally got a friend to help her get a job at the mall .

[@patrickmanley4943]

So the PSA is: If the pretty woman likes to get drunk, seems overly friendly, has the English language down pretty good and has tattoos to boot then she is a big red flag. Yep or just use common sense . For myself personally I figured this out as a teenager. Women typically avoid men of suspicious character even if they are good looking. Because it’s a “man’s world” women tend to be more cautious. Even if a man knows he still often times just opts to think with his little head rather than his big head.

[@stannmcb3]

The comedian Mike Myers once said “I like a woman with tattoos. I see a woman with tattoos and I see a woman willing to make a decision she could possibly regret later”.

[@koufax174]

I’ve been handing out my “calling cards” for over 20 years. Looking women in the eyes with a relaxed smile gets me unbelievable results. It’s respectful and leaves the decision to a woman. With Filipinas it is amazing. No tattoos, no bars, no drama for me. Great video.

[@martypoll]

I am in Thailand and I am going to assume that the bar girl dynamics are similar. I once listen to a former Pattaya bar manager break down the girls into 3 categories. This was for girls in beer bars which are far more casual than the agogo bars with stages and poles. There were the younger girls (legal) who were bored in their village and were looking to party and a more exciting life. They generally sought out younger bar customers and were in it for a good time. There were the “lifers”. The ones that were the professionals that had been in it for a long time, say 10 years. Then there were the remaining girls, the vast majority of the girls, who had come to the bar because of desperation and because of bad relationships with local men. The first year at the bar is a bit of a struggle and a bit exciting and they make a lot of new friends with the other girls. After a year or two though the job becomes a grind. There is competition with other girls. There are high and low seasons. They have fallen in love many times only to see the customer/boyfriend move on. These girls would leave the bar in a second if they could find the right man. I’ve known several of these girls in the last category. I met my wife in a bar. I am currently 67. She is 42. We dated for 1 year. We lived together for 2 years. We’ve been married for just over 4 years. I wouldn’t speculate on the success statistics but there are successes. I see them in our village. As you can see, I lived with my current wife for 2 years, away from the bar scene, and took the slow approach. I’m not necessarily recommending this path but it has worked out for me. At this point, if our marriage wasn’t to work out it wouldn’t be because of where we met. It would be due to the normal success/failure of any relationship anywhere. I was married in the US for over 30 years. I know what a relationship looks like.

[@Dean-b2f]

Great post ! Reflects the experience of hundreds (hell, probably 10's of thousands . . .) of us who were in and out of Angeles City (Clark) or Olongapo City/Subic Bay over a period ninety plus years.

[@islandhopper100]

i have no idea what a good relationship looks like, so I would not be able to pick the good one out 10 bad ones in a bar. For someone like me, looking for love in all the wrong places does not end well.

[@kenmiller9]

A good percentage of the bar girls in Angeles City, Bangkok, Pattaya, etc. have local boyfriends or husbands waiting for them at home after the get off work, or waiting to pick them up. I've seen this in Pattaya after the bars close. In Thailand, some Thai men expect their ladies to earn money for them and it's OK to work the bar because that's where the quick and easy money is in the absense of job skills or education. In Angeles City, the bar girls prefer Filipino boys for love, but foreigners for their money.

[@danielstevenacker]

For a guy that doesn’t give advise - that was great advice! I’m not on the market but just recently spent my first ever six months in the Philippines. There are beautiful woman everywhere. There’s simply no reason to rush.

[@JohnSmith-dm1wo]

I’m going soon. Where are the best places to find the non hookers.

[@guy7008]

This is why a young dog watches an old dog. He knows the tricks.

[@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234]

Hi @guy7008 😊 Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughtful comment! 🐶

[@lavonyoung2366]

As always Paul you are spot on, especially the tattoos. I have never thought about the English proficiency being a problem but I can see where you're coming from.

[@bubbasinclair6514]

Well done, Paul. From beginning to end, well thought out and well done. Thank you,

[@johnhastings6564]

You hit the nail on the head with the red flags. Here in Thailand I would add an extra red flag to size up up a girl’s background: if she plays pool well she is/was a bargirl.

[@grahamjacob97]

I think my brother must have been a bar boy 😀

[@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234]

Hi @johnhastings6564 Thank you for sharing your perspective! Gratitude appreciated! 😊

[@Winker.]

Heads up to newbies of your channel: This is the best informative video Paul has made in my opinion, as a seasoned vet of Philippines travel totaling some 25 trips and approx 3 years spent there i have encountered all those " stereotypes" he talks about, one in particular i was getting quite loved up with, totally my type a real cutie..... 1... Spoke great English... 2... Had the tats which i dont like too but was blinded by that WOW body! ... 3 The lies about no kids at home etc. Pretty much the old adage if its too good to be true. Cheers.

[@Electrichead64]

Just keep in mind that if you meet a girl and "after" she asks you for a little money to help her family that is the same thing. I dont know about Dumaguete but in Olongapo which was my first experience with the Philippines, you can meet a girl for a "date" at Jollibee or Yellow Taxi, you dont even have to go to the gogo bars. Most of these retail shop girls are lucky to make 7000 peso a month and if they can have a date with you and get you to feel sorry for their family and part with a "measely" $40, you can make a pretty big dent in their reality for the month, so sometimes you have these part time freelancers as well.

[@paulmarshall4794]

I'm a shy person as well but I did meet one girl at work that I just had to pursue. So I worked up the courage to start talking with her and then eventually asking her out. We did date for a while but eventually the relationship ended, but I do not ever regret working up the courage to pursue her, wish I had done that when I was younger. Also, about the cards, when I was in my last couple of years at College / University, I was sharing a place with 5 other guys. We got to talking one night and discovered that a few of us had dated the same girls and that we had the same taste in women. After that it became a running joke about not leaving your girlfriend alone with one of the other guys. We decided to make business cards for ourselves and called it the "House of Blades", you never knew when one would stab the other in the back for their girlfriend. It was all in fun, but these cards started to circulate and on a few occasions, I would have a girl come up to me and say, hey you live at the House of Blades. I ended up getting a few different dates and girlfriends from that experience.

[@OzeMike]

Paul one of your most honest appraisal of finding the right Filipina I have ever seen on the internet. Should be compulsory viewing for every newly arriving expat.

[@rjman123au1]

Terrific upload Paul. A ton of common sense and no histrionics. You treated this subject with tremendous aplomb. Quite possibly one of your top ten videos! The insights you provided are priceless and a must follow for any man interested in finding a good partner in the Philippines. Cheers from OZ mate.

[@kmilton1593]

Agree 100%. Excellent blog, Paul.

[@mountainmusings23]

Paul, our opinion on tats is the same. When I was a kid the only people who were tatted were convicts and sometimes ex military (usually NAVY} and if they were women, they had history of addiction, loose morals and/or prostitution. We know they have been in vogue the last 20 years and these stereotypes are not todays reality, but they just turn me OFF!! From a mental health perspective, I truly believe people who get tats are desparately wanting to change something about themselves, (personality, weight, emotional pain etc) but have been UNsuccessful, so turn to the tattoo as a surogate change. Emotionally the feeling of "At least they've changed something" about themselves. However there is no resolution to the original problem, so they contiue to get more and more tats. Painting with a broad brush? Yeh maybe...but it is accurate in most scenarios among those with addictions to ink. (One of my adult children has a sleeve)

[@noahcount7132]

Paul, I'm with you 100 percent on the visual turnoffs you mentioned, with particular emphasis on the body graffiti and the boozing. 👍

[@hanksandoval3466]

Yes, Very Informative! I'm surprised you had the cahunas to put all this out there. You are Right On Point. I did 25 years in military and seen this.

[@michaelallen4297]

Interesting video. Thanks!

[@leftyinhesperia1662]

My mother owned bars my whole life, so I know how they work. I have been telling my buddies for years that its very rare to find a good woman hanging out in bars all the time or even working at the bar. My buddy found a street walker aka bargirl in manila and fell in love and married her. He brought her to Oregon USA and they fought constantly because the woman was mentally unstable in my RN opinion. When he told her he had enough and was going to divorce her, she and her 16 year old daughter made up a story that he molested the daughter and sent him to prison. It was a totally BS story but they managed to pull it off. While he was in prison she divorced him, sold the house and took everything he had. She later confessed when she ended up back in the Philippines with all his money that she made up the story to get over on him.

[@mountainmusings23]

Tragic

[@GerinPhils]

Sorry to hear this tale...but your buddy did not "manage" the divorce the right way....if he offered her enough $$$ to divorce, she most likely would have played ball ,,,. Instead he backed a desperate woman into a corner...not a smart move.

[@Matipid_Lolo]

That is crazy. He lost the house in the divorce? He must of agreed to give her the house. Why would he do that after she set him up? 😞

[@leftyinhesperia1662]

@@Matipid_Lolo He was in prison not much he can do in there. She got a lawyer and got it all.

[@leftyinhesperia1662]

@@GerinPhils well thats why its good to have a prenup and make sure to give the woman something. When I see a prenup that is totally one sided I know the judge going to throw it out. At least put in there she gets $5000 or something on her exit.

[@tccdlinux1471]

LOL Agree with your red flags. Totally agree how the tattoos look bad, bad in the US and here. Great video.

[@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234]

Thanks for watching!

[@georgehouchin7785]

I'm from the USA and lived in Angeles city and I was very lucky to meet a waitress in a bar and we have been together for a little over 3 years most of the girls are not there because they want to be they are just trying to provide support for their family and kids and you can find out pretty quick if she really loves you or not by the little things that she does everyday

[@pauls4742]

Good video Paul! You're honest about your own experience and what you know and what you don't. Every situation is different and you need to keep your eyes open and be realistic.

[@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234]

Thanks 👍

[@judekidder]

Good video with good information thanks Paul

[@sandy-quimsrus]

Have to say that I remember that criminals had tatoos, now it's cops often with a bearb too. Makes me feel old to say this but the world has changed a lot in the last 30 years.

[@stevenschaus6751]

I appreciate your views and experiences.. Noone should be offended by it🙏

[@egovorch]

Paul, it is inevitabel that all of us have been through what you had mentioned. It becomes a learning process for all of us and future expats. The good part is many of these future expats now have you to help somewhat guide them around without having to actually go through what "ExPat John" went through. There are wonderful Pinay out there, but they are hard to find. Much like having to crack open 1,000 oysters before. you find that pearl. You were fortunate enough to find your pearl in Baby Mae and rest of us only hope to be that lucky and find ours as well. Thanks again for the awesome vlog and for the great wisdom you impart to all of us...

[@yrosales546]

Dear Ego. You will find that good Filipina partner. Just take your time and be discriminating. And when find her, love her, respect her and she will be yours until you die. Guaranteed. You get what you put out. I am a 76 year old Filipina expat.

[@rizzamaeong]

my Filipina input: ✅on Tattoos, i personally don't like tattooes. However, my suster and my nurse cousin who have tattooes, i have to defend. They are absolutely a good catch. gorgeous and good characters. sharp brains too. yet they have a bit of tattoo. ✅on English-speaking Filipinas, lots of us can speak good conversational English. we are not dumb. is all. 🤷 So many good points in this vid. Makes sense.

[@islandhopper100]

I do not like tatoos, but it is something I can overlook for more imortant qualities. Honesty, discipline, perceptiveness to name a few. Same thing with English, I would be wary of good english speakers but I would reject them out of hand for it. Time has a way of revealing the real person underneath the often wrong first impression.

[@purplesprigs]

Tattoos are like penises. They are not much to look at, but they belong ONLY ON MEN. If a woman got undressed to get busy with me, and I saw a tattoo, I'm out!

[@roustabout4fun]

Always Christmas time w the bar girls~look but dont' touch, maybe a lap dance for the Wishes! Leave your Emotions out of it because it IS what it IS! Enjoyed your video and remember guys...keep your "✌Independence"!

[@lesliefeigley239]

Neat looking couch cover. Card is idea, Thanks Les

[@davem8898]

Been using the biz card thing for years now and it’s a great idea. The downside is if she takes it home and her husband or boyfriend sees it they can contact you and it makes it hard on her and maybe you if they contact you. But I’ve used it all over the world with some luck

[@rizzamaeong]

if ahe works or has a business, the whole family has lots of biz cards at home. Totally, not a problem.

[@grahamjacob97]

If she has a husband more fool her for taking it home.

[@davem8898]

@@grahamjacob97 definitely true but that doesn’t mean it couldn’t happen

[@waynebardowell6016]

Very informative video, and we expect nothing less from you, let me just say I enjoy your videos, I mean really enjoy your videos. You are a master of your craft of delivering information to potential expats. I was very lucky to find a Filipina, and not just any Filipina but a true blue one, who loves me and loves our children. We have about 23 years of difference between us, but it works. She is true and so am I, we have about 10 years of marriage now and I must say things did not change at least from her in these years. God willing I would love to settle in PH and start a newer, I am not that well off, but in the Philippines, I am so much better off financially. Your channel has thought me and countless others how to tip-toe and navigate the many pitfalls and what may happen. God Bless you and Baby Mae and enjoy life, and God Willing I would love to have a coffee with you one day. Take car Paul, loving your content, more, more, and more.

[@dm-fw3qu]

Nice video. You seem like a really nice guy. I’m married 25 years to a Filipina. Best decision I ever made. Thanks. Take care.

[@guycoletta6466]

You’re a great story teller Paul 😊. Thank You

[@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234]

Thanks for listening

[@Saintor1]

Couldn't agree more about large tattoos, generally speaking. It is a red flag for whoever I meet. Why would anyone inflict this permanently on their body is beyond me. It is rare that we hear this, especially on YT.

[@kinhason46]

Tarnished angels?

[@davidstrumsky7012]

Tats remind me of, say, stock-car rallies - the sponsors' stickers plastered all over the chassis, like advertising, no class... or what we used to call bumper-stickers, cars with them pasted all over. TMI at best, cheap at worst.

[@billboker3848]

Paul another excellent video - always enjoy your analysis and perspective and ideas- agree 100% on the tattoos why mess up beautiful skin - take care Paul

[@larryryan6173]

Great video Paul I think you’re going to get some interesting comments. I always enjoy your channel

[@MrWoowootila]

I use to use the business card pickup when I was working contracts overseas. My company gave me a huge box of business cards when I started working there. At first I thought what am I going to do with these. The companies name, my name and position were on the card. I have a high paying job. Hypergamy is a big influence in dating. Women want to move up in dating and marriage. If I saw a beautiful woman a lot of times she would be at work. I would simply complement them on their beauty and tell them I would like to get to know them better. Here is my card and let’s go out sometime. No pick up lines, a little mystery and the card showed I had a high income. Follow up with a coffee date or something short to get to know them better. Very effective dating strategy and took advantage of my limited days off. I remember one time I saw a work friend randomly twice in a day while out. Each time with different women. He was teasing me the next day about seeing me with two different women that day. I told him let’s get the story straight I was with 5 different women that day. Business cards, good scheduling, and short dates was a effective way to screen future girlfriends.

[@delaluz4634]

Great marketing Paul as controversial issues are amazing for click bait, most would agree that the major combination of red flags would be proficient in English, single mother, tattoo/s, exposure to foreigners, and a drinker. Food for thought, one of your fellow KZbin vloggers financee fit that description. Imho and thanks for sharing.

[@FreeInPanama]

Paul, absolutely agree about extensive tattoos. It is a big warning signal. Luckily there are plenty of beautiful women, who do not have them. Keep up with a good work. Love your podcasts.

[@catnaprelaxinoz6927]

Well said. Thanks Paul.

[@chuniquepaceno470]

Love your channel, and what you share mirrors my experiences in PI (ditto on the shyness, here, too), having been stationed there for three years while in the Navy in the early '80s. I married one of Group B, a bartender/manager, who turned out to be a fantastic spouse, until I left her for another--of course--younger woman. We're still great friends and share a tremendous daughter out of the relationship. When I took her to the US, she studied nursing and now makes so much more money than I ever aspired to earn in life and has been able to do great things for her family back home. As there is no divorce in PI, I sometimes joke with her that we're technically still married in PI. I had friends while on various WestPac-bound carriers who fell for the girls who had ongoing relationships and strung my friends along, and yes, the warning signs are there for those who are not head-over-heals in love with the gals. As for the English proficiency, my lady had college and that was one of the things that attracted me to her, she laughed at the punchlines of jokes at the right time (as long as the jokes weren't too involved)...very hard to do in a foreign language. She wasn't/isn't a drinker, fits your profile. Back in the '80s, the only people in PI that had tats were ex-prisoners, but that has changed, as you note. Even though I was a career Navy sailor, I never got a tattoo, but all of my kids have them. Keep it coming, perhaps some day I'll get a chance to meet you in person as I sometimes still visit PI, even with my ex...but as friends. Her family still loves me, for some reason. Loved the card story, and the fact that you're so non-judgmental/open-minded...all the more impressive for a fellow old-geezer. Now ruin it by saying you vote/support trump.

[@RCFSULAW]

Dude. The Philippines government past Article 26(b) of the Family Code which is a divorce exceptions for Filipinas married to a foreigner. If he files for divorce in the USA or any country where divorce is legal and obtains a final judgment then she can be officially found to be recognized as single in the Philippines. All she has to do is get a certified copy of the final judgment of dissolution of marriage from the place(county in the USA) and file a petition with the Philippines Regional Court. That court will then recognize the divorce as legal and write a judicial order which recognizes her as a single woman. The court then send this document to the Bureau of Statistics so she can then obtain a Cenomar. Please look up the law and let your ex-wife know that she can be legally considered single in the Philippines and free to marry. You owe her that. Most Filipinas and foreigners do not know this law exists. Just Google Philippines Family Code Article 2 B Divorce Exception

[@ragjamrock]

I think all tattoos should temporary until you've had it long enough to decide it should be permanent or you've gotten over what made you do it in the first place.🤔🏝️

[@hermannsiegling7803]

hey Paul, love your perspective on tattoos. Natural beauty is all it takes. 99% of all tattoos are terrible and generate less beauty, not more.

[@Abelius]

Good tattoos are expensive, not to mention it is rare to find someone with enough skill. Pretty much every tattoo you'll find on a Philippines bar girl will be that blue blob Paul mentioned. So, it is what it is: an act of rebellion against one self. I hate me for having become a prostitute, so I scarr myself. You don't want to be with someone with such low self esteem. Totally different tale than your typical Western girl getting a colored butterfly tat on her hip.

[@dalexfilms]

Precisely! If they actually enhanced a person's appearance, everyone would get them. We don't, and there are very good reasons for that.

[@michaelfay8660]

They make you look ugly and cheap tramp stamp!

[@tedlasalvia9668]

Well said Paul. You are spot on! Your views on not giving advice are well taken. You can't save everybody, nor should you. The information you have given us comes from life experiences and are often the result of us surviving our mistakes. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me! After you've gone through some of these events, you'll see them coming a mile away. I just wish that certain emotionally desperate expats didn't come to the PI while they are in that state! It just adds fuel to the worlds oldest profession (not the one that immediately comes to mind - I'm talking about grifting). Keep up the great videos Paul!

[@joycebroomfield8237]

Interesting discussion on Love and relationship in the Philippines 🇯🇲

[@user-bs3yh9tb3t]

Another great video, Thanks Paul. Keep up the great work.

[@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234]

Thanks 👍

[@jaytomson7052]

Ok Paul. You said it.

[@senseofstile]

As you found out, the women with children (in your home country and the Philippines) are almost always a bad deal. If you avoid that scenario, you probably won't get scammed. The women standing in front of the bars are not bar girls. Those are greeters. It is interesting about the workers/waitresses/bartenders. Usually these filipinas are forbidden by the bar owner to date the foreigners. There are two reasons for the this. One; if they are attractive, single, no kids, they won't last long before they are snagged by a foreigner and the bar/eatery owner doesn't want the inconvenience of hiring/training a new worker. The other reason is the bar/eatery owner is jealous. There are rare situations like Ron (RIP). Ron could care less if his waitresses dated foreigners. Some of his waitresses only lasted maybe 2 weeks before they were married to a foreigner and left with the foreigner to his home country. Ron knew the existing waitresses had friends that needed a job so, everything always worked out. Drinking at the bar. I would say if there are filipinas drinking at the bar with proficient English, my guess is they have kids and are probably separated. If they are single no children, I doubt they would be there. The business card. I do approach woman. I do strike up a conversations. Some are married/committed or possibly not interested. Yep, this can involve a lot of rejection. However this is the way it is. Well, it is the way it is if you are trying to meet a woman that is single (not separated) , attractive (remember beauty is objective), no kids, and of course born a female. Tattoos. I can't recall ever dating a woman with tattoos. I don't think I have a problem with it but, the "tattoo women" might not be interested in me. All of this is my opinion from my experience. Hopefully this post will weather the storm.

[@GradyGordon-bl9py]

Hey Paul, I like the fact that you tell it like it is, and yes, I personally am not a big fan of tattoos especially on women, but this is delicate subject I have known some women who get tattoos for sentimental reasons, and maybe that means she’s not your typical traditional Filipina who is more reserved, but maybe she has other traditional values that still would make her a good life, partner, and yes the drinking every night and going out all the time, plus having a lot of foreigner ex-boyfriends, plus having money problems every week are just a few red flags, really enjoy the channel 😎

[@highdesertforester]

My experience with Filipina bargirls goes back to the late '60's when I was in the US Military. It was a different scene back then. We were young, slim and relatively poor. Many bars had girls to sit with you, dance with you, and drink expensive ladies drinks. Those drinks were how they made their money. Some, but by no means all, would go out with you if you paid the bar fine however it was a point of honor with us not to have to pay for it. A few would go home with you after the bar closed once you got to know them for a while and they generally wouldn't ask for money. A more innocent time back then.

[@kingmaafa120]

Before the internet and social media

[@josedelnegro46]

I was sitting on a working women's bed to day. I introduced her to a friend. She asked why my friend had not called. I told here he was looking for love and a wife. She said she did not want a husban. She asked me if I wanted a wife. I said no. And never a pretty fit women like you. I want an ugly fat pig for Heat in the winter and shade in the Summer. But maybe I cannot afored to feed her? I guess I am stuck with you?. She said but I eat all the time too. I paid her what she asked and left without the 130 pounds of romance around my neck. I hope my friend Romeo finds his true love. I see my true love in thé mirror each day's shave. To love is hedonismo to pay is deviné.

[@Matipid_Lolo]

Naw. Young, slim, guys still can get a bar girl for free. Lol we just aren't young, slim guys anymore. 🤣

[@davidhelfert7249]

I injoyed the whole thing including the fact about the tattoo part. I don't think girls or women should have any tattoos on any part of the body it's awful. ❤

[@kinhason46]

Tarnished angels

[@utue10]

Just a woman that you don’t want to bring to your mama!

[@FilAmFamily]

I love a woman with a smaller well placed tattoo! Very sexy! I am a conservative 57yo male so not all older guys hate tattoos. I have a lot of friends whose wives ( mostly nurses) have tattoos. Times have changed.

[@bannertraveller5879]

not your body not your choice

[@FilAmFamily]

I think tattoos can be very sexy on women if strategically placed. I am 56 yo not one of those old farts who can’t stand change.

[@dbf70]

I’m with you on tattoos, sometimes I feel I’m alone on it these days….🤮

[@dalexfilms]

Actually, a majority of men prefer no ink.

[@MasonsAlienGrow]

I was shu with women before. After a stroke and cancer and a pulmonary embolism I realized that I almost died several times. I’m not shy now. I think life is too fragile and short to not do what I want.

[@hansreynders6853]

Well I'm still shy, but the strokes cancers and other attacks can wait.

[@riadmatar5005]

I am with you on the tattoo on anyone, and the drinking alcohol 💯. It’s a good video as always.

[@keithmelton4795]

Hay Paul , hope you and Mae are doing well . This is good info . The man who did the card introduction . Humm. Food for thought . Youl take care

[@jbjorl]

Good practical sound advice. Thank you Paul!

[@blick1986]

Good on you mate, thanks for the words of wisdom.

[@marcelmaly4112]

GREAT video - just like always. Thank you.

[@PAPACREDIT]

great video

[@Mottleydude1]

My experience was a bit different Paul. I’ve been married to a Filipina and have been for going on 19 years with an 18 year age gap. I had been visiting the Philippines for four years before I met her about a half a dozen times for around two weeks to a month at a time. Not once when I was single did I visit any of the red light districts or even hang out at the bars in the Philippines. I was also in my late 30’s and very, very physically fit with an athletes build. I also have blue eyes and blonde hair. I wasn’t the hunter. I was the hunted. I had lots of one night stands and a few I hung out with for a few days. I was just completely flattered by the attention I was receiving from beautiful Filipinas but I never let that go to my head. As in the U.S. a one night stand was a one night stand and I have never taken those seriously. Most of the Filipinas I had one-night stands with were mostly college educated career girls and weren’t exactly that serious either. They just wanted to have a roll in the hay with blue eyed handsome foreigner. Most of those I met at places other than a bar or a nightclub. I had a lot of fun but never took one seriously. I also spent quite a bit of time hanging out and networking with Filipino friends or touring the islands and enjoying the beach scene. It was from doing the former that I was first introduced to my Filipina bride by a Pinay friend. She was adorable (and still is, that’s her photo to the left I took of her last year just before she turned 42), College educated, from a prosperous middle class provincial family, good English skills and boy did we click. With that experience and the accumulated experience of visiting the Philippines regularly over the last 20 years or so is that you do not need to hang out at bars to meet pretty Filipinas. They will often come after you. Now I’m not being judgmental about guys who do visit the girly bars or red light district. I just didn’t need to and I’ve never been fond of the bar scene. Having said that and having some common sense and self confidence I never saw these girls as red flag girls as I never had any serious intent with girls I just met and hooked up with for a night or so. In other words I just bypassed the places where that themselves were a red flag as that’s where you’re most likely to meet a red flag girl ( though by no means exclusively). That right there will save a newbie in the Philippines a lot of grief. As for the tat thing, yea I don’t find being covered with tatts attractive but it doesn’t exactly turn me off either. It may be a red flag but with that in mind I did experience a few Filipinas like that and they were remarkably talented, uninhibited and fun bed room athletes but not exactly the type to bring home to Momma. Now as for the women who have a Tatt or two and the Tatt is well executed I don’t have a problem with and often are attractive not just due to the quality of the artwork but because of strategic location. I have a hypothesis that when a woman gets a tattoo or her first tattoo where she has the tattoo placed will be a subconscious symbol of some part of her sexuality and she subconsciously or consciously wants to draw attention to that part of her sexuality. For example have you noticed that girls who have a tattoo on the small of her back quite often have a cute tushy. It doesn’t take to much imagination to infer what her favorite position is. Another example is girls who have a hard core sleeve tattooed on their arm are often Bi, Lesbian and/or tend to have dominant personalities. So I do believe that tattoos are definitely a sexual signal. So if a girl has multiple large and small tatts all over her body I think it’s a sexual signal that she is a hooker or that she really uninhibited about sex or she has an associative personality disorder. 😂😂

[@xfreelunch]

Hey Paul....one of the 'very' crazies here. (smile). I got a tat when I bought my Harley back in the states...somehow, I figured they had to come as a joint package. Have to admit that I regret it now, not to mention that the tat sucks. (Part of being crazy, me thinks) I have a question...not sure you ever read these things.... but I have been living in Brazil for over 20 years and after watching hundreds of vids about the Philippines, Vietnam, and Thailand...I have considered trying something new. Do you think it is possible for a 74-year-old crazy person to make a life there? I am already acclimated to living overseas. Part of the issue is the cost of living and ease of immigration. I have a permanent visa here. I rent a huge house, am pretty much a home body...but my cost of living is really affordable. Around 800 usd a month. What do you think?

[@ronfrederico7251]

Paul all interesting. Referrals from friends or family can be good.

[@donwebb6776]

Paul, outstanding video, great content. Have a great week!

[@troybadger55]

Last tip 💯! Great info for anywhere you are!

[@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234]

Thanks for watching!

[@pierrebernard719]

Great advice Paul! You've redeemed yourself in my eyes. On my next trip out there, the cards are coming with me. Also, you guys did a wonderful thing with the helmets!

[@bluelagoontipplerloft6130]

Thanks for sharing friend, keep up the good work 👍😁

[@danmcqueen5295]

Great video!

[@dustbusterz]

Paul, There Is Some Brilliance to The Business Card Idea, But I Very Quickly Came Up With a Scene that is Unappealing to me about That. She has The Card, He Walks Away. Now Maybe She Loses it, or Let's Say for a Moment, She Really isn't Unterested, So After He Walks Away, She Ditches the Card. Now Someone Else Finds it. They Now Have Your Home Number and if They Are A Bussiness Type, Could Call and Try to Generate Business. Unwanted Calls that's My Point. Could Lead to unwanted Calls From Strangers.

[@tomcase2837]

My 1st trip to the Philippines was in 2005. Women there as a whole were more attractive, had less tats, and had lower bmi then than they do now. I'm married 11 years now to a sweet filipina and very happy I'm not in the market anymore due to the lower quality of choices. Of course there are exceptions but on average that's how i see it. Hope i didn't piss anyone off, just sharing my thoughts here.

[@james-sh2lq]

Spot on

[@mikea.7646]

Another great one Paul. Thanks!

[@rickbold9337]

Nice closing statement. Summed it all up. I totally agree with all your points.

[@tomcataleno9128]

Very good video info/observation ,,,thanks Paul

[@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234]

Very welcome

[@randypi91]

Tough topic. Old Dog can tackle any subject and succeed! Flying to Dumagete today from Manila.

[@david-zo5os]

I like the card technique. Thanks

[@Ray_Warren]

Pretty damn good!! I also don’t like tattoos on women. I feel it’s bad graffiti on natures beauty.

[@jamierose4088]

Thanks again Paul. Entertainment and advice. Well done.

[@elephantinrm]

Paul, you’re spot on. I personally love tattoos and bar girls. However I’m just a people watching kind of guy. When it comes to relationships or one night stands simple intelligent woman work for me. Otherwise it’s just eye candy.

[@fialee8]

I think those criteria applies to everywhere around the world. Heavy drinkers and lots of tattoos is not the lifestyle I would be interested in dating (other than on a transactional basis).

[@pyrojguy2527]

As we are the same age and probably grew up with the same principles, I have to agree with you that tattoos are a deal-breaker for me. I don't care if someone GETS a tattoo, but it's not for me. And this is from someone who spent 2 tours of duty off the Vietnam coast during my time in the Navy from '72 to '74. I was taken, several times, to parlors while my buddies and I had been drinking, but would spend hours searching through the illustration books because "I wanted to find one I'd still want to have when I turned 50." Well, I'm 19 years older than that and never did find one that looks good on an older person, let alone a younger one. As George Carlin said, "That rising sun on your lower back may look good in your 20's, but by the time you're 60, it's going to look like a crazed octopus trying to escape from the crack of your ass!" Another good thing about spending time there in the military is that I learned my lesson about bar girls and began making friends with the 'regular' girls that were street vendors, talking to them and getting to know their real lives by spending the weekends with their families. I remember my time in the Philippines fondly and I'm hoping to move back there for my retirement within the next year.

[@bobbsmith1959]

"There's this blue blob on there". After laughing for about 10 minutes, I subscribed.

[@stevenrobberts3238]

With you on the tattoos. Agree with your red flags, applicable in any country.

[@anthonymontone5029]

Ater having been to Philippines several times of the years and having had relationships with similar girls as described, I agree 100% with Paul's views. Like him I also have made mistakes but not ruined as others. Take it slow and take everything "with a grain of salt". Eventually you will find the right girl for you.

[@Megb1222]

I respect your opinion about tattoos, I have almost half of my body tatted up but not on the neck/face or chest. Ive never worked on a bar. I have my masters degree. We view tattooes differently but yeah maybe I am just lucky a man found me who has the same passion about it ❤❤❤

[@rednab2001]

Spot on with you evaluation of the bar girls. I have been away from the Philippines for a long time, but nothing changes in the Philippines. Tattoos, drinking, smoking and drug use are sure signs that a girl is or was a bar girl. There are very, very few exceptions to this. A good Filipina will not be involved with any of that. For anyone looking to go to the Philippines, make sure to keep the two categories of women separate. There are girls for recreational use, and there are girls with wife potential. Do not mix these two up. They are mutually exclusive. Bar girls are for fun only. Yes, for Western men, it is tempting to want more from a bar girl. They are usually attractive and sexy and they aim to please. You have to set definite boundaries with bar girls. Wife material girls have to be treated completely different. They will vary in looks and will not dress or act overly sexy. A whole different rule set applies. When I was stationed in the Philippines, I was 26 and single with a pocket full of US dollars. I was running through bar girls like a lawn mower through grass! But I occasionally had real dates with girls that worked in local restaurants and clothing stores. These dates were very traditional with nothing more that hand holding and maybe a goodnight kiss. I would of never thought of trying to bed one of those girls. They were nice, polite, proper ladies. Bar girls in the Philippines have the same objective as strippers in the West. They are there to extract as much money from you as possible. Always keep your guard up. I loved the bar girls when I lived there, but I always kept my money hidden.

[@LeeHill66]

I'm with you on the tats. I don't like them and certainly do not want them on my woman.

[@simplyArleneDura]

Bars woman's was so dangerous because every man's can used them anytime what about if she had HIV or else if you use her you got her sickness very dangerous sickness

[@dovoso5685]

Hey Paul, nice video, and you reminds me of a story= This guy was walking into a fancy restaurant and an attractive waitress comes forward asking him what he would like . So the guy says ; just a beer for now. The girl comes back with the beer and the guy asks her for her name. She says Cathy, and the guy says ; nice to meet you Cathy, you know, you remind me of my second wife. The girl says ; really ? how many times have you been married ? the guy looks at her and says = Oh, just once.

[@peteroenglund6509]

Peter here again, I'm 71 years old reasonably good shape physically AND I'M PLANNING ON MAKING THE MOVE TO THE PHILIPPINES IN NOVEMBER. 😃👍

[@johnclark1469]

At first I really wasn’t interested in this topic since I would avoid the type from the get-go. But knowing your acumen for telling it like it is with discretion, with all your experience and that of friends, watched and found this to be close to a must watch video for any foreigner visiting the Philippines. Great insights and honest observations. totally agree with the tats as well. It always saddens me to see a beautiful girl with a big blob on her skin.

[@simonschmalz1525]

Couldn't agree with you more what say makes good sense and ill try what you say when im phils thankyou

[@gailmaplesden7380]

Western men have been so screwed up by Western women that they have given up on approaching women as they get so tired of being shut down. They come over to the philippines with this attitude and it takes a while for them realize that the women in the philippines are open to dating if available to do so and asking doesn't offend them.

[@DonFashionBeauty]

I met a young single Filipina with two girls in March. Since then she has been video chatting with me and tell me how much she loves me, which I do not like or even believe. I have a heart for the pinoy people, and agreed to help her when she needed help with money. I did not expect her to be so lousy with money. I was sending money every three days. I felt I was being taken advantage of. I stopped the video chatting immediately and changed my phone number with explanation to her. Because a feel like helping her with her children, I have since decided to send her 100 USD each month to help them out. Our Lord would expect much more. I will let my spirit be my guide.

[@danielhackney7806]

@deadlinemaster, You said "I have a heart for the pinoy people". I'm glad you do have a heart, BUT if you are going to send money why is it you only send it to a young Filipina? There are PLENTY of Filipino men and Filipino married couples that need financial help. I'm always a bit suspicious of the expat motive to send money ONLY to young girls where he is trying to BUY her love.

[@sethrolls6408]

Why do you send money to a woman you know nothing about? Don’t do it a good Filipina never asks for money.

[@danielhackney7806]

@@sethrolls6408 He mentioned she was a "YOUNG Filipina". He's not sending a dime to any older women in the Phil's. He also said "Our Lord would expect much more. I will let my spirit be my guide." Bull crap, it's not the holy spirt guiding him it's his DICK! He definitely likes sending money to YOUNG girls!

[@joycebroomfield8237]

Happy Independence Day to you Paul and the Americans living in the Philippines. From Joyce in Jamaica with lots of Love 🇯🇲

[@gibblespascack1418]

Agree with you on tattoos. If you have a good artist do it, then it has potential to be something. However, most tattoo artists are not good at drawing something permanent. If a person could do a good Fresco, then I might think about that, but I have not seen anyone who could do a good Fresco in 1700 years. Many tattooed people should re-think their tattoo artist. Because he sucks and if you were sober, you might not have made that choice.

[@CarlWithACamera]

I know a guy whose view about girls choosing to sport large visible tattoos is that it shows they have poor judgment, and that’s a good thing because it means they might also choose to date him. 😂