Peeing After Lower Surgery | Phalloplasty with Urethral Lengthening

Having had urethral lengthening as part of RFF Phalloplasty in this vlog I answer the question of how peeing feels after lower surgery.
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[@kuschelfreddy]

Well, that was interesting. I'm glad Robert asked these questions and that you were open enough to answer them. A lot of bottom surgery videos focus on optics or functionality when it comes to sex - which is important, too. But this one had new information.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Yes, they were great question, so glad you gained a lot from them.

[@2120musiclover]

Your level of honesty is so damn refreshing and awesome and educational! You’ve got yourself a new subscriber! Also, love your voice!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

What a blooming lovely comment, thank you so much! Lovely to have you here, welcome to the FinnFam!

[@_dukeluke]

I definitely had similar experiences to you after urethral lengthening- took me a couple weeks to feel like I wasn't just going to pee on the floor! Strange how quickly the brain adapts though, and I'm glad it sorted itself out 😜 I think for me the most noticable change afrer UL is that now I am much more comfortable emptying my bladder. Before UL, I would only be able to pee when I was absolutely busting and was always really dehydrated. It was definitely a mental thing to subconsciously reduce the amount I needed to go to the toilet. Now I really have no issue, so I go a lot more often and I am able to go as soon as I notice I need to (for example, if I were to go to leave the house and my bladder isn't full I can empty my bladder before I leave, whereas before I'd struggle to because I wasn't busting- I'd never be able to go 'just in case'). Because of that it does feel like I can't hold it as much, but I think it's less of a muscle change and more an emotional change if that makes sense? also, my surgeon told me that cisgender men tend to have more muscular bladders that are able to exert more pressure whilst urinating than trans men, mainly to account for their prostates and much longer natal urethras. As for me, I can push if I want to pee faster but I find it feels a little uncomfortable (which may just be me being hypersensitive and concerned of messing it up, I've only been hooked up for 2.5 months) but I feel the pressure is the same as pre UL. Maybe a little less in most cases though as as I stated above I'm not busting when I go now so it's not as urgent as it used to be, so I don't physically need to put as much pressure as I did when it felt my bladder was going to pop!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Yes, isnt the brain amazing! I can still feel the warmth in the old pee area, but now I jrust its coming out the right place! Thats a good point re the toilet issues, I was the same, would only go when I had to, never felt comfortable in public, so would hold it till I got home so I too often ended up dehydrated. Now I love peeing wherever I can! Perhaps this is why I go so much!! So yes, emotional re muscle change makes a lot of sense! Interesting about cis males bladders too, that makes complete sense from observing my boyfriend! Thanks so much for your amazing and insightful comment!

[@vernonbrechin4207]

@@FinnTheInfinncible - My guess is that cis-male bladders do need to exert more pressure to overcome the fluid flow resistance of their longer urethra. The resistance of the longer urethra can also result in the bladder not emptying fully and that results in more frequent urination since the bladder reaches full sooner. The stream control issue may depend upon the flexibility of the urethra and how much resistance to flow exist at the last few millimeters of the urethra. If it is tight there then the flow will accelerate before it exits, as in a hose nozzle opening.

[@ohmarkhin6079]

different between cisgender man n trans man?

[@hereforthecomments6860]

@@ohmarkhin6079 cisgender male(biological man) trangender male ( biological woman)

[@MitchNeedsABiggerBoat]

I’m... sobbing? I never had hope for phalloplasty working. I thought I’d never have a functioning penis that I’d be happy with. And your videos give me hope. Thank you. Thank you so much.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Im very glad to give you hope because there is much hope to be had! I am currently writing a mamoir of my process which I hope may help even more people. I also have a ton of resources over on my website if that helps too? finlaygames.com/category/gender-and-sexuality

[@Moosh207]

One of my favourite parts of this video, is here 8:01 where you mention that these days you take it for granted that you can stand to pee. I know that you have so much gratitude for the healing journey you've been on that has increased the quality that you experience. It just makes me feel happy that dysphoria doesn't have any power in the equation like it used to, and that you have peace, and that you experience freedom and not have to think about it as much anymore. I know what you mean about watching someone pee lol and I'm glad Chris let's people watch if they want to, but I get the feeling that you're meaning just you? And so FinnFammers shouldn't expect a video of it anytime soon? 😂 xx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Haha! Thank you for your kindness! And I've already peed for the camera far too many times! But....if it snows...l am writing my name and filming it!

[@TransKameron]

It’s so awesome hearing your experiences with this. I still am so excited each time I get to pee standing up in various places. I will definitely try to pee in the snow this winter!

[@jenniferwhite6089]

its does suck now when I am a girl now to basically to pee outside now in general speaking I am NO long to able to stand up anymore now

[@pmbluemoon]

@@jenniferwhite6089 Too cold to pull down the layers here in northern Minnesota! Either hold it or freeze lol...

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Me too! I see a new style of urinal and it makes my day to use it!

[@finallyrob4231]

Oh thank you so much for answering my questions!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

My absolute pleasure! Thank you for awesome questions!

[@radiantsquare007jrdeluxe9]

i'm not transgender but these informational videos are absolutely fascinating

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thats wonderful feedback, thank you so much!

[@hollismartin5066]

I sure hope myspouti gets funding! I would love to get a reliable STP that doesn't leak. Thanks for the shout out, I hope it gives it a boost.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I hope so too! It has a crowd funder so hopefully people will get behind it!

[@shaycollier2090]

I want to say thank you for educating people so openly and honestly. I understand how it may be a bit awkward talking so personally for yourself, but having someone just be straightforward is wonderful.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Your comment means the absolute world, thank you so much. Yes, it isn't easy to be this open, but I know how valuable this info is and I have been determined to create the kind of content that I wished Id had access to at the start of my journey. Thank you so much for your appreciation!

[@blaisearwyn3405]

You're the best, Finn!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Naw, thank you!

[@pmbluemoon]

I never thought about half of the questions you have answered in this video actually! I opted out of lower surgery except hysto and ovary removal. Still have my "bonus hole" and a tiny bit of cervix because the surgeon who did my hysto said it would mess up my pelvic floor muscles being I have multiple small hernias and it wouldn't work to sew it all together if they took the last piece out, so I still am at risk for cervical cancer and still need to get paps done (BLEH!!) I love the "comedy" in your explanations of how your brain has to get used to the new plumbing hookup though, I always enjoy candor and humor when discussing things! 👍 I wish I could wake up a cis male, but you know, even if I did what you've had done, I'd be trying to see how high I could go and far, and write my name in the snow! Nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed to try! Same goes for my cis boyfriend, I asked him, if he had been born a woman, how would it have changed how he acts for sex stuff, and he said he would be extremely promiscuous lol! So, the point of telling everyone that is, for him and I, if we were opposite sex, we'd both be doing anything and everything (within moral and lawful reason of course!!) we could do. 😱🤪😁 Thank you so much for sharing your experience, it helps me to decide if I want to move forward with any surgeries later on or not. I guess my biggest thing that bugs me is, it wouldn't shrink back up so it would be out of the way, and I don't want my balls sticking to my legs in the summer! (small balls or no balls, but then where could they put the pump??) OK, I'm sorry if I overshared my personal preferences, but, this is an issue after all for trans stuff. Keep being awesome and tell Christopher he's not the only one who goes through a myriad of questions about how it feels, works, and all that! My boyfriend gets a LOT of questions all the time from me! 😄💖

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Not overshare at all, it helps so much, to see other peoples thought process and journeys, I feel honored that you feel able to be open with me my dear friend! Chris will be happy to hear hes not the only bloke who has to put up with a boyfriend who is overly fascinated with ever aspect of his penis and the way it works! Much love to you fella, to you both from us both!

[@pmbluemoon]

@@FinnTheInfinncible Thank you so much for the love! Much love right back to you both as well! Happy Halloween! (do you have Halloween in the UK?)

[@KJ1234]

Very informative! Btw, I love that purple shirt! Looks great!!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thanks so much my friend!

[@wegotthepower]

Thank you so much for this video! I´m currently waiting to get stage 1 phalloplasty & I´m thinking much about these things. I myself also want to have urethal lengthening, but as I´ve understood it, that would be in a second surgery when I´ve healed from the creating of the phallos. The surgeon I met though to get information, he said that the complication rate when it comes to urethal lengthening is about 50/50 & I´m wondering if you heard of these numbers before your surgery, or other numbers? That obviously got me thinking a bit more, but at the same time I really want to be able to stand to pee. But I can´t deny that I´m also afraid of something going wrong & that it might not work... do you have any thoughts or suggestions on how to deal with these sorts of thoughts? Hopefully I´m going to get stage 1 after the new year has started, but I haven´t gotten a date yet.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hi my friend, yes, over here urethral lengthening is the second stage as well. I'm not sure what the statistics are now, but yes, there is a high rate of complications. A lot of chaps have issues with urethral strictures and need to have a fix, myself included. The rate of complications worried me too, but I also saw, that most chaps eventually got through all the complications and ended up peeing successfully, which is what helped me to decide to go ahead in the end. It takes time, to sit and work out whether to take the risk, the only advice I can offer is to not rush yourself. For me, the idea of not trying to get urethral lengthening made me feel awful, I knew I had to at least try. So, I had to then work out if and how I would deal with the complications when they came up. I then went forward, with an acceptance that I was likely to have an issue at one point if I didn't, great, but I prepared for it regardless. That preparation then helped when I did have issues. The complications were awful at the time, but my word they were worth it for being able to stand to pee! Not sure if you saw this vlog about urethral hookup? kzbin.info/www/bejne/oWirdZ2Gr6itmMU

[@wegotthepower]

FinnTheInfinncible Hey, Thanks so much for your answer! Yeah, it seems like it’s in stage two here. One thing I didn’t know prior to my meeting with the surgeon was that they doesn’t take the graft to cover my arm in the first stage. They put on something called Integra that should help the body recreate cells & stuff & make the body & skin more susceptible for taking care of a graft. Did they do like that for you too? So they do the phallos in stage 1 & then 2-3 weeks later I have to go back in for them to take off the Integra & take the graft from my thigh to cover my arm. Yeah, I understand that & I agree. One of the main things that led me to take the decision to do phalloplasty is the need & longing I have to be able to stand to pee. I don’t know exactly why that is such an important part of it, but it is. And as like you wrote, if I don’t try to do it, then I’m going to walk around my remaining time on this earth wondering if it would have worked & how it would’ve been if I did go through with it. What kind of preparation did you do to prepare for the complications? If it, god forbid, wouldn’t have worked when they did the hookup again, would it then be that you had to keep going to the toilet as you did when they did the unhooking of the urethral lengthening? I’m just thinking if the worst will happen... I did see your vlog before but thank you for linking it again! I watched it again & it’s so helpful that you share your experience! It’s so hard to get information here in Sweden about those kinds of stuff & Im not sure, but I don’t think that many chaps here in Sweden do the urethral lengthening, because of the high complication rate. Also, I don’t use a packer cause that only makes me feel more dysphoric, but do you have any coping strategy when the dysphoria is through the roof?

[@dim20ple]

The frequency is going on with me now and urgency too. I’m four years post op from urethra lengthening. My doctor thought I had a stricture however I suspected differently because volume was strong. I had a cytoscopy and there’s no stricture. Dr. Garcia looked at photos from original surgery and compared them to find my urethra has thinned which happens with age. He thinks that I may be tugging or angling my penis in such a way too that it’s signaling I’m done. I can push the urine out and honestly feel like I’ve emptied the bladder only to feel like it’s urgent an hour or so later. Thank you for sharing your experience it’s reassuring to know this is a matter of urethra lengthening. He discussed rerouting to behind the scrotum and will give it some thought. My goal now is to retrain the drain.

[@mauriziavilla3958]

Dear Finn I remember that video and your emotion! That’s annimportant step!! I can only imagine how different is something so obvious and natural like peeing! Every single step isn’ t obvious and it’s imprevedible, that I learned from you! 💋💋!!!!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Ah what a lovely comment! Yes an everyday thing from most folk but for me....life changing! So blessed to have you share this journey with me, thank you!

[@BeverleyButterfly]

This was so interesting I wonder if your control will get better as time goes on....why do I think there will be a writing my name in the snow video lol

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hahahaha! If we get snow...I am trying it!

[@BeverleyButterfly]

FinnTheInfinncible it would be so rude not to xx

[@jenniferwhite6089]

@@FinnTheInfinncible wonderful its does suck for my now in general to pee outside now I am a girl lol

[@pmbluemoon]

@@jenniferwhite6089 One of the drawbacks of being female, that and even if you squat, you have to make sure you're pointed downhill or you get your feet wet! ACK!!

[@Moosh207]

@@pmbluemoon Lol 😂😂 so true! ..or one could dig a hole in the ground and squat over it, but who wants to carry a shovel around in their bag lol

[@cherjohnson5807]

Very interesting 👍

[@jenniferwhite6089]

a bit overall, in general, you do not have to worry as much to have a bladder infection yea you can still get them just not that easy as a girl now it's easy to get any feminine infection I found out especially when I ride horses I get bladder or yeast infection afterward

[@pmbluemoon]

Yeah, I can say that being FTM, not getting lower surgery, it can be a disaster for infections of any kind, shorter urethra: shorter distance for bacteria and other things to travel to the bladder and kidneys. if you get bladder infections and it goes up into your kidneys, you can actually start going a bit nuts, your brain chemistry will be really odd, lots of mental health issues come from bladder/kidney infections so keep an eye out for that! Take care of yourself for sure, always get your checkups on time/yearly just to make sure nothing is going on that you don't know about 👍😯

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Yes that is true! UTIs are awful, I had loads during my urethral lengthening and it was hell!

[@pmbluemoon]

@@FinnTheInfinncible That sucks 😕 I imagine, because when you've got a lot of stuff going on down there (tissue damage, foreign objects from surgeries) that it can get pretty nasty. Glad you got through it! I bet you are too!👍

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Oh goodness yes!

[@wolfsong3718]

I love seeing lamey cat in the background

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

He's always around somewhere up to no good!

[@Cut13_pa_t00t1e]

This is very helpful, I’m gender fluid, and want bottom surgery, Buuut I’m not old enough- so I’m trying to do research for now and trying to get my mom to let me take testosterone,

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hi my friend, I am glad it was helpful, thank you for watching! It is good to have long term goals in mind, and do some research, but then its important to identify and focus on the initial steps to get you moving towrds those goals, which for you sounds like starting at the begining with testoserone, and having those important conversations with your mum. I have lots of info over on my website, which might be helpfu finlaygames.com/welcome/

[@thomasmarengo3637]

Hi Finn, Can I ask you how long it was before you could lower your phallus and wear regular briefs? How long did they keep at elevated after your first surgery? I know this is on an older video. I hope you see this. You are a true inspiration and I am about to schedule my first surgery. I am very nervous and your videos provide reassurance. Thank you, Thomas

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hello my friend! Thank you so much for joining my Friend of Finn club, welcome! Thank you for your incredibly kind words, Im so glad to know my videos give so much reassurance. In terms of elevation, after phallo you'll need to keep your peen at a 45 degree angle for about 6 to 8 weeks depending on how your swelling is. I am a huge sweller, so for me it was a couple of months before I could wear regular briefs and then it took a while to find the right ones, I went through many styles that first year before I found the right knd! I know this comment is three months old now, so I wonder, have you scheduled your first surgery?

[@thomasmarengo3637]

Wow. What did you wear for pants??? Outside the house? And yes, my surgery is finally scheduled for July 20th, 2023! I also bought your book, and it is a comfort. I’m 60 this year with health issues, so I’m very nervous. Thank you for replying!

[@stephaniehamilton6217]

You should check with your doctor to see if you have an overactive bladder, they can give you tablets for it.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thank you, lve had those tablets before for my bladder, l think some of it is sugar related, l ha e noticed if l have a hot chocolate or any sweet treat in the eve, extra weeing happens!

[@stephaniehamilton6217]

@@FinnTheInfinncible that could be a sign that you are pre diabetic, often having hypothyroidism masks diabetes and it isn't until you become symptomatic that it's detectable; that's what happened to me. It turned out I had been diabetic for 15 years and by the time I started showing symptoms my blood sugar was so high I was on the verge of a stroke or heart attack and had to be rushed to hospital. If I were you I'd get it checked out just to be safe. Hopefully all turns out well for you my friend.😘

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Oh goodness, really! I do need to see my doctor...thank you!

[@TheRogueDM]

Very interesting!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Why thank you kind sir!

[@mayhmmaydn]

Really? Lmaooooo bwahahah.. Ok love.. I need that laugh so blasted badly... Coodles!!!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Haha Glad you enjoyed that!!

[@pmbluemoon]

@@FinnTheInfinncible I think a LOT of us did! 😁💖👍💯

[@thisdggo7637]

i love your personality

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Aw thank you!

[@lia-el4kk]

Do you have to manually pump the erectile device to become hard?

[@dragontailstudio8791]

Wen I have bottom growth will I still sit? Also, how long will it take, and can I pee standing up after surgery

[@jheighten7568]

You are hilarious. Thank you

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Why thank you!

[@kassimhussein942]

I just had my acl surgery and i cant pee

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

If you cant pee then you need to contact your doctor or consultant

[@Poeboi]

Love ya Finn

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Awww I love you toooooooooo!

[@BJKage]

Your smile always makes my day, I have to make you another sheep Trans colors or LGBTQ+?

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Aw bless you! Always love a trans sheep!

[@BJKage]

@@FinnTheInfinncible If you go to pinterest and check Lalylala youll see, how it´s gonna look like.

[@drakingson]

I'm gay. Do u like guys?

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Yep I am gay!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

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[@ModernMessiah]

There's no advantage of being a guy except maybe being stronger and making more money. Not worth turning into a man

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I havent turned into a man, l am a man!

[@07Flash11MRC]

Bruh, you literally debunked yourself in the same sentence... xD