Perfectionists are Scared People (INFJ 1w9)

[@boopdino8053]

"I'm here doing the right thing" As an Infj 1w9, this is the most Infj 1w9 thing to say

[@BridgetCappel]

@@boopdino8053 I’m really trying to remove right and wrong and should from my language but boy is it tough when you’re a 1.

[@Will-fr5yh]

If only our mouths could form the words at even half the speed our minds are moving, perhaps we could convince our minds to be kinder to ourselves. Thank you for sharing. A fellow INFJ 1w9.

[@Coneman3]

Being an INFJ can be so hard at times. I think every INFJ life is probably worthy of writing a book about. The depth, the passion, the being overlooked, the dreams, the crap from others. I resonate strongly with Bram Stokers Dracula and unrequited love. The thing I value most in others is purity and integrity. Being an INFJ is hard to describe, there’s so much to it.

[@kdan4594]

I just got into enneagrams and it’s amazing to me that there are a category of people who literally think about the same things as me on a daily. I’m a 1w9. It’s always about self improvement and bettering myself. It can be almost depressing at times when I let my ego overwhelm me with thoughts that bounce from “I just want to do the right thing in this life” to “but what even is the right thing?” And I also find myself looking at the best characteristics in others and wanting a piece of it for myself (to be THAT intelligent, or that carefree, that funny, etc). Going into adulthood this was really tough for me. Being on the journey of self-discovery made me question who I really am. It was almost overwhelming because I’m like “I can choose to be anyone and anything. So who will I be?” I’m learning to stop over-analyzing things and to just be. To just be in the present moment and surrender all the control I think I must have.

[@Ginger-hi2to]

First time I hear about the same problem like mine. I'm an INTJ 1w9, so i understand your situation as hell. Thanks for this video, I wish we will achieve this chilling state, like 7)

[@leticiamarkossiancassapian6479]

I’m an INFJ 1w9 and everything you said is exactly the way I think, I and suffer for not being who I wanted to be for this world to be better... it’s kind of exhausting. I believe we should be more flexible with ourselves and remember that nothing in this world is perfect and yet we embody so many great characteristics! We will do great things, but it’s okay to commit mistakes :)

[@infjguy123]

My mind forces me to achieve perfection in every little thing which I do in my daily life and it's exhausting and frustrating 😩

[@BridgetCappel]

I feel you! It’s so difficult to let that go in the moment.

[@NavesNiche]

Omg you really remind me of me, fellow INFJ 1w9, thank you for being brave by being willing to be vulnerable with your truth, I super appreciate it, and it's really helping me, in understanding myself and also being braver myself, thank you.

[@maliksalih419]

being an INFJ 1W9 is just like trying to play every single role in its perfect way, taking into consideration every little detail and that's very overwhelming.

[@BridgetCappel]

That is too real. Thank you for understanding!

[@maliksalih419]

@@BridgetCappel Just always remember that "Perfect is the enemy of good". which means, insisting on something to be perfect prevents one from obtaining something good. Wish you all the best.

[@annemarieINFJ]

"If I could just learn how to be every person at their best, then I would finally be an acceptable human being". I don't know for sure if that is an INFJ thing, but as another INFJ 1w9, I relate SO much. I had this mindset my entire time going through school. I felt like the normal rules and guidelines of life didn't apply to me, and I just had to crack the code that everyone else already had and then I would be able to fit in and be understood.

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

Awww one can really tell that you are an 9w1, not only in what you are saying and how, but your.. energy, facial expressions! :D Hard to explain, as usual with Introverted Intuition-stuff! Once again, THANK YOU for being so 'raw' and real. This is what 4's adore in people, probably the most :)

[@hannahcrnkovich7115]

"Showing up as a human being...that gets in my way." Girl, I feel that in my soul!" 🤩🙃

[@SchizoidVision]

You are hitting on a lot of truths in this video. Its nice to see a genuine INFJ speaking their mind.

[@samantharae6119]

I love this!! You’re so beautiful inside and out and sharing all of this vulnerability makes me (and I’m sure many other people) feel understood so thank you ❤️

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

This!!

[@aliciamilne2302]

Thank you for this! I learned more about me and that I’m not the only one ❤

[@erikaera1295]

I'm on a similar journey. So glad to have found another infj channel to watch. :)

[@dreamchaser7603]

What’s the most ironic is that you are already so bright, unique and exciting! However, you seem to never notice that and not value yourself for how different and outstanding you already are.. It seems like while other people are trying to gain qualities we already have, we keep trying to hide and shelter ourselves from the world…

[@KatieMae525]

Even as someone who isn’t an INFJ, i relate to this so much! I can’t wait to see more videos 💕

[@DariusLong]

Thanks for sharing this Bridget. I'm a INFP, 9w1, and I struggle with the need to be perfect, like a lot. I'm really glad I watched this!

[@therealjohndoe3862]

It is rather true. I have this perfectionist bent that I struggled to understand for years. Once I understood, I revealed a very child-like fear I have of exposing myself as incompetent. This can manifest as something as simple as dwelling on a typo in an email...for hours or days. I have put much work into this and many other facets of myself, and the fear has diminished with this deeper acceptance of who I truly am. Once we raise our awareness to such things, and with work, it gets better. I just try to improve little things every day. I just wish I could be as perfect as my thoughts feel to me, at least most of the time. Agree with you, and nicely done! And no, I no longer expect perfection, just improvement!

[@BridgetCappel]

“Being as perfect as my thoughts seem to me” oof that hits hard! We are such idealists, nothing lives up to the standards in our heads.

[@therealjohndoe3862]

@@BridgetCappel True!

[@PlanetHendrix]

I think it is very brave of you to put yourself out there like this. I have always seen you as a very strong and very confident people. It is good to know that I am not alone in many of my personal issues. Thank you for talking about this. I wanted to say more but I am not sure how to say it.

[@BridgetCappel]

Thank you! You are most definitely not alone!

[@PlanetHendrix]

@@BridgetCappel Thank you. And that is the same to you. I am here if you need.

[@barbararuiz3638]

I see you, your pretty amazing and brave being vulnerable and open. I have a fear of being judged to the point of anxiety,it has held me back so many times.It really helps to know more of us are alike that different 🌅

[@user-bi7fn5wy7g]

Thank you so much for make me realize this, I'm struggling to that perfect image too. The way you communicate is like me, i really feel not alone.

[@jex_be]

to change the world people need to watch and learn from infjs 1w9

[@Sara-tu6ml]

Hi, I am also INFj 1w9. This was wild to hear someone that sounded like they'd been in my mind. 😲

[@tristancappel]

Love this!!! Ur amazing

[@mokari9268]

Yay, I'm so happy you embraced your previous emotional video, very cool. Sometimes it does well to let emotions out, spigot, spigot - better than the fire hydrant tears :')

[@BridgetCappel]

Hard to do, but thank you!

[@dixiegardner6207]

You are one of the most likeable and authentic people on KZbin. God made you so unique and real. Turn all of those feelings of unworthiness into gratitude to the Creator. When we begin to thank him for what and who we are, the focus is relieved from ourselves and is put back on him, where it belongs. This releases us and frees us. God bless you. You are exactly who and what you were meant to be. Enjoy who you are. He does.

[@nauticalnausicaa7790]

It's probably time I followed you -- I'm an INFJ 1w9, and I think we might have the same colour season!

[@BridgetCappel]

Oh my gosh that’s awesome!! Glad we have so much in common 😊

[@aliciamilne2302]

Definitely had to hold to the mantra of progress not perfection :) I don’t think perfection is attainable in this life nor do we fully understand it because we see things through the lense of this mortal life

[@Coneman3]

I think I am the same type as you. I find it hard to do anything without constantly seeking to make it better. If I reach a practical limit, then I move to another interest. The result is I have too many ongoing perfectionistic projects. It can be exhausting. We struggle to enjoy things until they are perfect.

[@robot7759]

Respect for your vulnerability.

[@sirlancealittles]

I am a Clinical Psychologist with 30 years of experience dealing with people. I was branded a INFJ quite sometime ago. I never really accepted that evaluation because placing 'labels' on people puts them into a box. It limits their potentiality and personal growth. At worse, it can destroy a individual's self determination and freedom. I have never encountered a 'classical' INFJ before. Why? Because certain characteristics of this personality type have many subgroups some of which overlap other MBTI personality types. That being said I will describe the characteristics of how a 'orthodox' INFJ thinks, behaves and responds in strict accordance with the MBTI Personalty Test. Be forewarned, I find some INFJ 'stereotypes' rather funny. And will approach such in a humorous fashion. INFJ's posess a wonderfully unique sense irony and will immediately recognize the silly 'stereotypes' others have attrubuted to them.....So lts break some myths about INFJ Personalty Types. When a INFJ gives you the dreaded 'Death Stair' they are not sttempting to understand you. They are wondering if you're carrying a gun. Killing INFJ's is a pleasurable experience. Why? Because everyone hates a smart ass. INFJ's frequently experience 'Sensory Overload' issues. They love Forests, Parks and Woodland areas to recharge their batteries. Why? Because trees don't talk! A squirrel cannot complain it has 'Daddy Issues'. Pine trees do not suffer from 'gender identity' problems. And I have never seen a bunny rabbit strung out Crack Cocaine. Solitude is bliss. Never say to a INFJ, 'I do not understad', They will run away screaming or jump infront of a bus. No one understands them. INFJ's sometimes don't even understand themselves. INFJ are almost like Chameleons. They attune themselves to better understand (subconsciously) certain situations. Why do a INFJ 'Door Slam' people? Because it's called a Coping Mechanism. They dislike being emotionally hurt. There is nothing strange about this. Some people become acholics others pill poppers. INFJ's will just run away and pretend you never existed. It never works. INFJ's have the psychic ability to absorb people's emotions. No. This is phenomen is called 'Transference'. If you continuously talk about your problems, a INFJ will unconsciously adopt some aspects of your emotional state. However, INFJ's posess strong identities which prevents them from going completely insane. INFJ's are the most honest, compassionate and sensative people on Earth. Not really. Mother Nature just screwed them up genetically. They're brains are hard wired to respond during crisis situations. A 'diehard' INFJ will instinctively sacrifice their life attempting to save yours. No questions asked. Why? I have no freaking idea. I didn't invent the rules. Ask God. I'm sure She knows. INFJ's think differently than others. Yes. They think outside the box. They live outside the box. They have never actually seen the box. What does it look like? Does it contain groceries? INFJ types are occasionally arrogant, cold towards others and aloof. This is actually true. Being omnipotent has its drawbacks. INFJ's have a difficult time sugar-coating the truth. Being overtly honest is their trademark. However, if they sense someone cannot handle the truth, they lie to protect that person's feelings. INFJ's are stubborn yet will openly admit to errors in judgment and making mistakes. INFJ's think too deeply. They want to solve everyone's problems. They get frustrated when people ask for advice, then completely ignore their recommendations. They do not understand why everyone keeps making the same mistakes over and over again. Eventually, a INFJ will simply give up. The phrase 'People need to learn the hard way' was invented by a INFJ. So was the 'unfriend' button on Facebook. INFJ's do not respect authority because they have developed their own Moral, Ethical, Spiritual and Cognative belief systems. Mature (older) INFJ's care very little about how people perceive them and less about the impressions they make upon others. INFJ's enjoy approval and acceptance (like everyone else) but infrequently compromise their princepals to simply fit in. Do not mistake a INJ's confidence as egocentrism. There is a difference. INFJ hate themselves. They feel alone within the world and misunderstood. Being a INFJ a curse. Consequently, a small minority INFJ's often experience psychological Depression, Alienation Issues and Avoident Behavior problems. The phrase 'You are your own worst enemy' accurately describes a INFJ's perception of themselves. The most admirable personality traits of the INFJ are (1) INFJ's care more about other people than themselves which makes them a easy targets for emotional exploitation and abuse. Never play 'Guilt Games' with a INFJ. They already persecute themselves (subconsciously) for being different. They don't have the ability to forgive themselves for past mistakes, A INFJ's unforgiving 'Guilt Complex' is an integral part of their personality. INFJ's have occasionally been known to slowly kill themselves over time, believing they deserve such suffering. 'Hell on Earth' is their punishment and they willing accept it....sometimes. Not always. (2) Once you secure the trust of a INFJ, everything about them suddenly becomes clear. The stereotypes vanish. They are people you want within your life. They have incredible insight into human nature and will identify your weaknesses and lift you up from darkness. Seeing the world through a INFJ eyes is the greatest gift they can offer. It would be impossible to understand a MBTI typology without stating the negative traits of a specific personality group. The 'Dark Side' of a INFJ is rather frightening. Never test their 'Authenticity' or personal dignity. Do not play games with a INFJ. They have limitations like everyone else. A INFJ can determine your intentions or plans within minutes. Literally. This Hyperobservient behavior is quite unique. Avoid getting into heated arguments with a INFJ unless you are prepared to be intellectually, emotionally or psychologically castrated. They have cognitive resources almost beyond understanding. A vindictive INFJ will never stop until they destroy your life (this has nothing to do with physical murder). Such behavior is almost Psychopathic in nature (hence the concern INFJ's may be catorgized as possessing a Psychological disorder rather than a Personality dysfunction). INFJ's are not prone violent behavior. The good news is they give up easily, This is where the Door Slam or simply walking away from a argument comes from. If a INFJ loves you, be prepared for lengthy romantic rituals. Box's of candy, flowers, poems, lovely e-cards, teddy bears and such. But be careful. A INFJ understands how to manipulate situations to their advantage. Including the human heart. Once they reveal their true inner nature however, you will begin to understand why only 2% of the world's population are INFJ's. They are just so dam charming. INFJ's dislike small talk, idle conversations, superficial people and hypocrites. Life is too short talking to such individuals (but they understand its occasionally necessary to be socially accepted) INFJ's are not spontaneous. They just pretend to be spontaneous. Their minds are always attempting to 'connect the dots' even when there are no dots. Avoid getting into deep conversations with a INFJ. They are walking encyclopedias. They will jump from topic to topic then back again to support a idea or theory. Male INFJ's are 'scattered brained' in the worst way possible. But there is method to such madness. The are searching for the correct answer to a specific problem. And 95% of the time they will discover it... or have a complete nervous breakdown trying. Occasionally, you will notice them acting rather mysterious, doing unusual things or just behaving weird. Get used to this behavior. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. The INFJ is just going through a 'stage' or experimenting with something that interests them. Like building a Thermonuclear Bomb or discovering a cure for Herpes. Never tell a INFJ they possess a 'Old Soul'. They are terrified of being reincarnated again. INFJ's are aware that neither Heaven or Hell wants them. Why? Because God doesn't want the extra competition or deciding who should run the Universe (Him or a INFJ) and Satan can't deal with a INFJ pestering him for all eternity. That would be considered cruel and unusual punishment. Aliens will never abduct a INFJ. There are some things too bizarre even for Extraterrestrials. So next time you accidentally encounter a INFJ, break all COVID 'Social Distancing' issues and hug them. INFJ's are a endangered species. Literally. Whatever purpose they were created for has already been accomplished. I like to think they represent the noblest form of humanity. A personality type which everyone aspires to immulate....Intelligent, Wise, Caring, Altruistic and Protective. 'More human than human', as the movie Blade Runner once committed. If anyone knows why INFJ's are slowly disappearing , its more important now (than ever) for this typology to connect with one another. Spread the word. You are NOT alone. You were NEVER alone.

[@Rinsuki]

I had to chuckle at the part about how INFJs "are terrified of being reincarnated again" because I've caught myself saying something along the lines of what the heck was I thinking coming here to Earth. I probably took a wrong turn and ended up here because if given the choice I would just float in the primordial goo and never take form again for my own sanity and the sanity of others lol.

[@kavishankarpandit3019]

Keep it up

[@saige2975]

im an infj 9w1 too ahh

[@sirius1912]

💚💚💚🙏🙏

[@Bubguzzlers]

Why r u so cool tho

[@lunade13]

Borderline

[@BridgetCappel]

That’s a pretty unfounded and rude thing to say.