Pregnant at 54: expert advice on late-in-life pregnancy

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@Duluth218 7 ай бұрын

The last thing I’d want to be doing at 72 is planning a high school graduation party for my kid & hoping I’ll be around long enough to see them start their lives. No way would I want kids this late in life.

@bornaries7213 7 ай бұрын

Thank God it's not you! You won't have to worry about it at all!

@JocelynE-v8x 7 ай бұрын

Well it's not you and if it were, your kid would need therapy.

@finchborat Ай бұрын

And you don't want your kids to start taking care of you or your spouse once they graduate college or even HS. Aside from college, I've had to take care of my mom on a regular basis since I graduated HS in 2010. Plus, taking care of one parent and losing the other during your 20s is something I do not recommend. My dad was 72 when he died a few yrs back and my mom is less than 2 weeks away from turning 73.

@JocelynE-v8x 7 ай бұрын

My friend had a baby at 53. She is youthful and vibrant.

@finchborat Ай бұрын

Too bad her kid will be taking care of her and or her spouse when the kid graduates HS or college.

@JocelynE-v8x Ай бұрын

@@finchborat not true at all - she is very fit and healthy. A friend of mine had kids very young and died at 45 of cancer. Life has no guarantees.

@cashmereva 5 күн бұрын

Naturally?

@rowefamily8672 7 ай бұрын

I had six children and a set of twins at age 19-21,25,28,30 twins I had at 28 and my son at 30 I had my tubes tied after my son the sixth child but I know I could have had more children and I still had a period until I was over 50 so don't ever give up on having a baby if you are healthy you can have a baby after 50. my grandmother was 44 when she had my uncle.

@Shio106 6 ай бұрын

2 friends for my mom has pregnant in 52 and 56 the last one 3 girl beautiful baby 🎉

@hasisme1 7 ай бұрын

I had a baby at 40. I still had the energy and felt great. Six years later I am 46 and things have really changed. I don’t have the energy for a six year old. Don’t wait. 36 should be the cutoff. I know everyone is different, but…just my 0.02

@finchborat Ай бұрын

I'm with you 100%. My mom was also 40 when I was born (dad was 43). I don't remember them having energy at all growing up and aside from my time in college, I've had to take care of my mom in some capacity since graduating HS. Caregiving is all I've known since I got my degree 10 yrs ago. I have no job, no job experience, no GF/wife, and no kids because I was hit with caregiving way sooner than I should have. I feel like I'm taking care of someone that's about to turn 93 instead of 73. And she refuses to get extra help (doesn't want to get sick or get robbed blind) and has no issue with me doing 100% of the work (she's been immobile for over 6 yrs and refuses to do PT; I'm hoping it isn't too late). I lost my dad back in 2021 and the combination of tending to my end of things with his estate and possessions and taking care of my mom make me feel like I was approaching 50 or even 60 instead of 30. My story is why I tell people not to wait until 40 to have kids.

@hayleythompson8293 7 ай бұрын

I’ve never had kids I wish I did and I would be so happy if I was

@sofiafischer8395 3 ай бұрын

Stop criticizing women having children in their older ages. This is disgusting and sexist. Dudes have kids in 70th and noone seem to care. With life expectancy of 76 on average those women have more than enough time. It is no longer medieval age

@finchborat Ай бұрын

They (and men over 40) deserve the criticism, as well as lose custody of their kids and get locked up. It's more disgusting (and careless) to have a kid after turning 40. You shouldn't view your kids as your retirement plan. Men shouldn't have kids in their 70s. If you think the kids should be hit with the devastation that comes with caregiving during their 20s and 30s and go through the process of saying goodbye to a parent when they're young, you're a part of the problem.

@giftoflife365 7 ай бұрын

If one's eggs are okay and not scrambled, pray & hope for best outcome via the blessed triangle - indeed, life is a gift.

@sofiafischer8395 3 ай бұрын

And those who can't relate or are too old to function should keep it quiet. Noone asked your opinion about who should be born and who shouldn't

@Nick-ih5em 7 ай бұрын

Just dont get pregnant at that age .

@bornaries7213 7 ай бұрын

If you were listening she most likely didn't think she was going to be pregnant because she is in menopausal age. Most women that are at menopausal age are just having sexual relations without thinking they can get pregnant and then their body says yes you can! Open up your ears and you might learn something.

@JocelynE-v8x 7 ай бұрын

And I guess it is ok for men to father kids at 75 years old?

@finchborat Ай бұрын

Or really, don't get pregnant after 40.

@Lys-ih3uf 16 күн бұрын

Let people decide for themselves!

@finchborat 15 күн бұрын

@Lys-ih3uf Just don't let them wait too long.

@sharonrose50 7 ай бұрын

I’m 50 and there is no way I would want to do this again my son is 23 you just can’t run or take care of a child that age you just get worn out.

@rpaafourever7908 4 ай бұрын

Then don’t.. everyone is different and ages differently

@Mel.1973 Ай бұрын

Thats your opinion. And you have a right to it, but dobt go telling others not to. Its a researched fact that women who give birth over age 45 live longer, and are healthier...

@finchborat Ай бұрын

And you don't want your kid to take care you at 23.

@finchborat Ай бұрын

@@Mel.1973 But the kids of those 40-somethings will be hit with caregiving duties a lot sooner than expected and let's hope they aren't planning either of their parent's funerals before they hit 30.

@dmgsoultogetherness6667 26 күн бұрын

naturally?

@Sgv1tm 7 ай бұрын

Poor guy

@Anon-pc7vt 6 ай бұрын

Ouch scary tho

@AlphaT2Delta 7 ай бұрын

I had mt last kid at the age of 58 with 5th wife

@msdeyed4800 7 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@dionafeworki2387 7 ай бұрын

Grandma getting pregnant

@rpaafourever7908 4 ай бұрын

Not really, 54 is old for boring people only

@finchborat Ай бұрын

@@rpaafourever7908 That's still way too old to have a kid. At that point, it's even too late to adopt a teen.

@koolflows7581 7 ай бұрын

thats cool

@finchborat Ай бұрын

No it isn't

@sunnysimmons 7 ай бұрын

nice

@finchborat Ай бұрын

Here's some advice: Don't have a kid Once you hit 40, you need to either consider adoption or embrace childlessness.

@jeff7764 17 күн бұрын

You’re an angry person

@finchborat 16 күн бұрын

@@jeff7764 When you're stuck taking care of an ailing parent 24/7 and forced to give up your life and livelihood, you have every right in the world to be pissed off and warn people about the disadvantages of having older parents. And it isn't fun losing a older parent before hitting 30 either.