PROJECTION: When the Dart Lands

[@gwendolynmurphy9563]

"Now that my parents have died, I'm no one's child." Listening to this episode puts me in touch with my lagging appreciation of this, since they've been gone over ten years now, and I'm just beginning to engage psychically with their inner existence in me! Thanks for making this clearer.

[@jamesglines4698]

thanks so much for this, I feel it's saving my family and relations

[@PokerDuende]

Thank you guys. I LOVE this content.

[@JosephLee1962]

PokerDuende Thanks!

[@naetek6430]

Why they dont teach this stuff in schools , colleges etc.... LIFE CHANGING! Thank you

[@increasepeace5943]

Too often people within the systems are unfortunately perpetuating constructs of dysfunction.

[@johnege7352]

I would like to see more on how projection can evolve all to quickly into a participatory event. People who engage in ‘re-enactment’ and or have serial abusive relationships aren’t magically finding people or situations to perpetuate their victimization. There is an unconscious discernment in play of who will potentially engage us per the script of our projection. We don’t see or move away from people unwilling to use that script. There seems to be unconscious contractual script agreement. And it doesn’t seem to matter how much consciousness you interject, there are times when the participants are in alignment and that wont be broken. Like in your example of the coworkers who held a less than human ideal of you, no matter what you might have offered as a defense- your offer would have only solidified their shared projection. It almost begs the question, is anything we experience, even love, real.

[@increasepeace5943]

Peter Levine explains the reason this occurs. We choose partners with a similar energetic charge of unconscious energetic trauma memory. We then unconsciously try to rein act the trauma event but to complete the escape instead of the dissociative shut down & detachment split. We are all seeking to restore and complete the moment we never had the chance to free ourselves from being captive to early trauma. It is non verbal energetic stress release that is stored in the body memory.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

yeh, that'd be interesting. Did you find anything!? My parents, I now realise, drew me in to their contract. I always knew I wasn't who they believed I am but they managed to goad me and bait me in to emotion, anger and ''shouting'' through stonewalling, intransigence, indignant martyrdom and silent treatments. I didn't understand that there would never be any communication, so I tried to force conversation! I thought 'if I can just phrase it better'' for a long time. My main issue with their projection was that although my dad went to a psychiatric hospital with paranoia and depression a few times when I was a teenager, somehow I am the one who has emerged from the family narrative with the label paranoid. The opposite is true, I've always been too trusting and the mistakes I've made have been from when I gave people the benefit of the doubt when I should have been guarded. But yeh, I participated in this dynamic for decades and I don't know how to break out of it without ''dumping them'' 100% which is what I've done now. They invited me on Christmas day quote ''despite your behaviour''. Wow. They're always goading me.

[@Carmel明慧]

lol great anecdote from Jung's life - thank you for sharing that Joseph!

[@katarzynaek8954]

"You can have your own processes"! 💓 That brings hope! Thank you!

[@satishsinghal101]

Therapist in real good therapy hours is really setup, to be either a hero/god or a demon/villain. Key for therapist to know that and gently deconstruct the projection, and have patient see as how he/she is actually seeing themselves in the therapist. Only then patient can take projection back inwards, own it and reproject it is artistic form to enrich their life. Creation of all or any kind of art is also a projection, but that is not on a living human, as neurotic projection on a living being is sure to hurt their freedom. Best way for all analysts to make healing process, self sustaining is to encourage, patients to express themselves as much as they can, through any art form they can. Dream analysis can point to artistic talents and artistic drive the patient has. That is always a good starting point.

[@cryptzzz1188]

For some reason I always remember that there are 4 of you on the channel

[@ntobekososibo2042]

Hello! Couldn’t have missed Deb (I think) featured in the Dolan Twins’ latest video. Felt like I was sitting across the room constantly concurring. Love you guys and your work.

[@chrisd6982]

Check out the chewbacca noise st 13.38 !!! A cry of pain!

[@guavacupcake]

Do you have bat hearing?

[@chrisd6982]

@@guavacupcake Cant you hear it?

[@guavacupcake]

@@chrisd6982 only when I turn up the volume

[@chrisd6982]

@@guavacupcake What do you think the noise is?

[@chrisd6982]

Bigfoot!

[@edgreen8140]

Inner world i assume your talking about object relations. Im not a jungian therapist.

[@Mataharifilms]

Very, very helpful. Thanks. Only you don’t say anything about how to handle the ego backlash (“Oh my God what must she think of me??") when sincere steps are finally taken to withdraw the projection. Perhaps even putting it in writing to the projected-upon is inappropriate? Of course what she or he thinks is none of our business. But it’s a helluva shock to the ego, either way!

[@chrisd6982]

13.38 Podcast authors, what do you make of this audio anomaly?

[@increasepeace5943]

feedback through mic on group screen conference.

[@abinraj640]

Dream 42:06

[@MultiKoko73]

In Jewish religion girls have bat mitzvah at the age of 12. After bat mitzvah they officially become women. This is about leaving her childhood. Tomatoes paradise. In Hungarian paradise and tomato are called the same. Paradicsom. Leaving the paradise and having to become a woman and dealing with a man.