How Your Attachment Styles Affect Your Relationships

[@Psych2go]

Which attachment style are you? Comment below. And do you agree with these points?

[@cassaasmr]

I don't know

[@cranjismcbasketball615]

I’m not sure either

[@0rioni]

I do not know yet but soon will.

[@Skerrt]

i don't know

[@melikajavadi9254]

Psych2Go I’m lucky enough to be secure 🥰

[@sweetbaby9431]

Some ppl become distant because ppl took advantage throughout their life. No hard feelings but just don't want to be bothered.

[@kysmith5541]

^

[@eileenlester3313]

Amen.

[@Jakoby45]

Amen

[@Darcactusofficial]

Yeah, I'm really nice to people but they take advantage of that. So that is why I'm distant.

[@9_9876]

Indeed

[@emris2697]

I never had abusive parents though I have still ended up with the anxious attachment style as a result of other bad childhood experiences at school. I believe it’s important to highlight that people can develop negatively even with great and caring parents. It could for example be bullying or other adult figures that are neglectful and toxic.

[@vanillalia3816]

I'm gonna be a really nice parent when I grow up.

[@doctordl7757]

I feel as though alot of people have this intention without being self aware of how they come across as parents, when they become parents.

[@michaelwijayagames]

I'm gonna be a really nice parent when I have a child

[@yarabdlh]

That’s what every parent says when they were still a teen or a kid “I’m gonna treat my kids better” or just like what you said but in the end their kids will say that their parents weren’t the best. (Sorry if it sounds confusing)

[@zyiezworlz]

Yeah same.

[@yoshi_drinks_tea]

PLS NOTICE ME FIRST! I DON'T LIE Okay that sounds good and all, but the kids still need to know their place. You can pamper them from time to time, but don’t spoil them!

[@ALone-xw5ve]

anxious-preoccupied squad where u at

[@violetteroze8803]

Right here ma'am 🙋👋

[@BigPhatPandaGaming]

Right here!! Self sabotaging myself since I was 11. XD

[@enhdure8951]

:c

[@KiiTiiObaby]

Me!

[@RoseB45]

Yep 😭

[@NenaLavonne]

Your attachment style affects EVERYTHING. When you really understand what your own is, it can start the process of healing and much better understanding for how you operate in relationships and what your needs are ♥️

[@Psych2go]

What attachment style do you relate to? :)

[@joeyjointjebaiter1275]

What *my* needs are? I just wanna not be a shitty parent when im older

[@DreamTravelerZenddrex]

"We tend to find partners that resemble our parents." While I don't disagree with this statement as a generalization, for me and some other people I know, this is certainly not the case.

[@TheEmeraldLady]

Definitely agree. I saw my parents' and brothers' behaviour as something to be avoided (aggressive, violent, generally dysfunctional). My boyfriend is nothing like my family, and that's what attracted me to him.

[@mathildem6714]

That is why they say “tend to”, because it doesn’t apply to everyone. However, I believe the reason many don’t see themselves reflected in that sentence is due to the wording. Many who don’t end up with partners resembling their parents, might see their partners resembling other care givers from childhood. Is there for example and aunt or uncle, grandparent, neighbour or teacher that, if you think about it, resembles your partner?:)

[@christianpatrickfernandez62]

The parent here is I believe someone who stood the father/mother-figure in your life. So, it may not be your blood parent but someone who gave you the love (it might be a grandparent, aunt, uncle .etc) you were provided for.

[@BattlingOwnWar]

My first couple of relationships definitely matched that quote. Big age gaps, not receiving the attention I needed, getting emotionally abused and not actually knowing myself yet or my needs and always putting them first. Not knowing I was an anxious and avoidant and had no idea about my abusive upbringing. But now I’m in a relationship with an anxious and at first it was so hard for me to take in how much she fancied me and actually cared cos my mind at first thought she was like the others, out to hurt me and I wanted to avoid someone getting close. But when we started the relationship I was aware of my attachment from therapy and these videos etc and now know what to look out for and what ticks me off cos of my upbringing or what to avoid cos of it. My partner isn’t like my parents at all now :)

[@loveandletlove8529]

Exactly,it depends on the person,I know what works for me and I knew damn well that me having to be living my early life a certain way thanks to some people ,wasn't how I wanted or how I will want my future,I'm sure I'm not the only one who is attached to an ideal not attached to what they saw common...

[@damondominique]

I'm leaving this video before it's over so I am the one in control of the abandonment.

[@superDpermn]

Omg relatable af

[@LogAn-w7c]

No you just have Low attention span

[@nelmae6026]

Hey, can you guys do a video about how to avoid to becoming a toxic person? I'm scared on how much i'll try to avoid becoming one when i didn't even realize im already am 😔

[@santiagopulido6516]

Yeah pls I need this video

[@santiagopulido6516]

Lately I've been feeling like I prefer just to shut up so I can't hurt anyone else

[@epicrobloxgaymer69]

Good idea and even if they dont, I'm sure you'll be able to change

[@Hannah-cs1cv]

Heyy, I just wanted to say that toxic people know what they're doing, and are not trying to change their behavior, because they're gaining something from it. The fact that you're willing to change shows that you're neither a bad nor a toxic person :)

[@girlinblue4026]

yes please i also need this video

[@madao7865]

To all of you avoidant people in the comment section; let's avoid each other ...together :3

[@joeyjointjebaiter1275]

Lets ALL just avoid each other. Its quarantine, remember?

[@9_9876]

Heh

[@TheEmeraldLady]

Avoiding each other, together, at a distance! ♥️

[@namm1on]

Lol count me in

[@SelfAwareSaga]

hell ya😎

[@fernandogomezdelatorre3296]

The relationships you have with other people play a huge role in your life, they can be awesome but at the same time if not handled correctly they can become really harmful and toxic to you.

[@Psych2go]

Yes, and that's why self-awareness and education are keys. How are you doing these days?

[@trinaq]

I know, they're complex, and sometimes, you may normalise abuse behaviour from your family members, because you're accustomed to it, before realizing that it's NOT normal. 😭

[@TheDarkizer]

but it's hard though, once you love your partner so much , you just blindly love her/him . until someone slap you really2 hard in your face . agree with fernando, i had my first gf when i was at highschool, she change me into different person, from fatass to athletic , from mediocre student into top 5 smartest student in the class, from rejected from female students into popular among them, from the student that atleast skip 1 - 2 days per week into never skip any class. idk what she seen from me , she actually quite popular that time (she have slender body and pretty face [atleast for me] ) when other girl just stay away, she do the opposite , her influence still exist till this day.

[@intj_5398]

Thats me screwed then.

[@blickigraal5062]

@@Psych2go can u help keep me calm of Covid-19 please i almost spewed today and i have to have a bucket near me every night and have to keep extremely warm

[@savampire3275]

"I had loving parents but they weren't around often because of their jobs" so secure with a side of dismissive avoidant actually, comparing this to myself and all the friends I know i would say this is all accurate. But some people are in a weird middle ground between a few types i think.

[@mr.nobody4994]

I don`t think anyone can be put into a box, so to speak. We`re all a mix, after all!!

[@doctordl7757]

@@mr.nobody4994 I agree you could be 50% of a certain style, 30% of another style & then 20% of the final Attachment style I truly believe it's possible to be more than one.

[@minera7595]

that's what i'm thinking.

[@savampire3275]

@@mr.nobody4994 Absolutely!

[@jeannesnodgrass8073]

I wondering if I was the only one with multiple styles. I am not secure or clingy but am a mix of the other ones.

[@raven75257]

1:34 "let's talk about *_6_* ways your attachment styles affect your relationship" Title: 5 Thumbnail: 5 1:35 picture: 5 Huh

[@bam6182]

it's like they did it on purpose

[@Psych2go]

Good catch! You should be our editor lol

[@raven75257]

@@Psych2go I'm too lazy for that :/

[@bam6182]

@@Psych2go yea......l

[@colettelee1162]

@@Psych2go Are you looking for an editor? I'm not a professional, but I'm good with grammar and need work ☺

[@Hihijjp]

So that they can leave before they’re left... i felt that

[@abhiramirajeevan978]

Same

[@yerinpark2950]

I paused the video for like a minute just to think over that

[@caitlin2143]

Same

[@oliviabonon902]

Idea for a next video: How can you heal your attachment/become secure for each attachment?

[@doctordl7757]

I highly recommend you all to read a book called "How We Love" by Kay & Milan Yerkervich it goes in depth on how to heal yourself from your attachment style. Thank You Psych2go for changing my life❤

[@RosheenQuynh]

It probably isn't free and doesn't have an audiobook ☹

[@duchesslorde3840]

@@RosheenQuynh it's not free but it does have an audiobook

[@jrg305]

Just downloaded it. I've been to therapy for 9 years, individual and group, modern psychoanalytic practice. I've still never had a serious romantic relationship at age 34 and would label myself avoidant / ambiguous /disorganized. I have both avoidant and ambiguous traits.

[@doctordl7757]

@@jrg305 I am in the same boat as well I am 27 & have NEVER been in any serious relationships. Keep in mind that "How We Love" have different names for the same Attachment style but still has the same meaning. The book defines 5 Attachment styles Avoider, Vacilator, Victim, Controller & Pleaser

[@doctordl7757]

@sammy Roberts Cool something else to add to my reading list 😆😆😆

[@user-zf1xu3nj2q]

I like how you would upload everyday XD

[@Psych2go]

Yes, we literally uploaded 3 videos yesterday. What topics would you guys like us to do next? :P

[@blickigraal5062]

@@Psych2go HELLO U JUST COMMENTED AND I JUST COMMENTED ON U

[@SsofieLund]

Psych2Go what to do if your parents are more proud of your other sibling, and egnoring the other 🙏🏻😔

[@trinaq]

Indeed, I adore that they upload videos frequently! 😍💕

[@lochiness.]

@Psych2Go Maybe problems introverts might have with care in friendships and how to work with them. Like... I am SUPER introvert regarding this topic and I've just watched your levels of friendship video. I consider some people as close friends although I barely meet anyone of them ever (even in times without Corona) And I don't even know why I don't meet anyone, there's no fear behind that. That is the main reason why most of my closer friendships die when the other friend isn't a natural part of my life anymore (like work or school or neighborhood) I soon will be out of school and I fear to lose some of my closer friends that I really don't want to because they mean much to me...maybe you could give people like me a little advice :3

[@valentinabg09]

Now I understand why I'm always drawn towards emotionally unavailable people

[@yuli4ka.w]

This sounds a bit vague and over simplified to me.

[@9_9876]

Yes kinda

[@BifolikaDesigns]

Yes like we need more real life examples

[@carolgreen9274]

Of course it's vague... There's only so much that can be said in 5 minutes! At least this info gives you something to build on and research for yourself! Love it!

[@speaktruth9989]

It is

[@carolgreen9274]

@Nasrin Ali I'm sure that there is, however my thoughts are that given the topic also the time allotted to it, 5 minutes really isn't that much time when individuals once made aware can research & conclude on their own!

[@moonspot675]

Isn't there another Attachment style? When you're being spoiled as a kid?

[@manaaralhakim6843]

It’s called the golden child syndrome I think

[@demonheart13]

@Deven M. there are kids who are genuinely good kids who's parents just throw presents at them rather then actual love, so long as those children behave in a way the parent sees as good. On the outside it looks like a healthy parent with a healthy kid, but it's stressful as hell on the kid who grows to rely on outside influences rather then themselves. (From experience, my grandmother just isn't a loving person, she is all business and responsibility, and my mom tried real hard to show is love and support. But it's pretty clear she didn't know how. If we did something"positive" she praised us for it and seemingly let us do what we want, but when going against the things she wanted us to do, she defaulted to guilt trips and silent treatment. Weaponizing her "love and support" in ways that I doubt she ever realized. I was a pretty sheltered kid and if I told you about it you would say I was just a goody two shoes who always listened to their parents, when it became obvious as I grew older and more independent that I was not a good kid, instead I listened because I was afraid of what would happen if I didn't. Being a "good kid" was nothing more then a way to survive in a world where I had no voice or experience)

[@nomadictraveller705]

@@lightinthedusk 1) I did want to hear your entire life story because it reflects mine perfectly 2) Did you make any progress finding a happier life? I feel like I took a wrong turn and instead of healing I'm now driving straight into a disaster zone. Instead of trying to deal with my past issues I lashed out and went rebellious. I tried to reign myself in and be "good" again for my partner but I don't think I can do that anymore.

[@cocohitchman3209]

Narcissistic! generally are anxious preoccupied or avoidant or anxious avoidant

[@farahsafi5291]

Hey I was the good obedient kid too. I got decent grade, never get in trouble, graduate university on time. My parents quite spoiled me. But they never really teach me anything. We never go on vacation. Never really do anything together. My dad kinda anxious person sometimes it stressing to be around him. They provide me materialistically but not emotionally. After graduate uni I started get confused and panic. All I know was study to get a good grade. I realized I don't know anything about life. I also never really feel comfortable around my family. It always feel awkward. I got really depressed. Its been 5 years since then I still stay at home do nothing. I got better tho. But still don't know how to change my life. I need mentor but too scared to go outside to find one

[@FutureFendiFsnista]

Definitely avoidant here after my narcissistic family of origin. It is difficult to get to know me because I am shy and don't like getting too close to people. My best friend (and my only friend) doesn't know my deepest darkest secrets because I keep her at arms length despite how close we are. I have never been in a relationship too because I don't like when a man shows too much interest (no matter what stage of the relationship). The second a man shows me any kind of interest I avoid him like the plague and get turned off. Its an absolutely terrible and immature way to live and really lonely at times. Videos like this are helping me learn more about myself and why I am the way I am. Thanks for this! 💕

[@shivamnow]

It's so important to understand our past to be able to build our present and that in turn builds our future.

[@Psych2go]

Yes, what strategies do you take to understand yourself better?

[@shivamnow]

@@Psych2go I often try to understand the source of my emotions, my actions and how it's linked to my past traumas or incidents and this way, I am able to dissociate my past from our present.

[@avatarjonathan3568]

I’ve watched a lot of videos like this and I always end up feeling worse after... I know I have an insecure attachment style and truly recovering from a poor childhood has been a struggle for me through most of my adult life. Watching these videos makes me more aware but no more hopeful than I was was before because I don’t really see any way out.

[@ElizahMendoza]

Sad how I used to be secure when I was younger but I eventually became dismissive-avoidant because of all the trauma :(

[@raven9ify]

Me too.. I remember before my first boyfriend who lied and cheated on me.. I was secure and had higher standards and was generally trusting. After that I had a few more failed relationships. Now m single for over a year, and intend to stay so until I heal myself and regain some of the structure I had in the past. But time is not on my side. N m in my 30s now. Sometimes m scared that I will end up alone. But I know this time in solitude is necessary for my overall growth both mentally and spiritually.

[@JenyCampillanos]

Thesame here

[@lucymziri1130]

This is such a wonderful and underrated channel!

[@Psych2go]

Thanks!

[@TheRealGuywithoutaMustache]

This is actually really good info, I learned a lot from this video

[@roaringwater6519]

Why am I a little bit of everything 😭🤔

[@flamingphoenix824]

Why is anything?

[@zahra_pdf]

Same!

[@joeyjointjebaiter1275]

You arent. Avoider contradicts anxious and secure contradicts all of them

[@Sunshine4]

It might be situation dependent.

[@abbywilliams9144]

I’m so dysfunctional cause same!

[@JoshuaAlto]

I'm quite related to secure attachment.

[@kchocolatek28]

Congrats you didn't have shitty parents, one of the lucky few. Don't waste it.

[@lupito6692]

Why are you flexing on us so hard

[@joeyjointjebaiter1275]

Good for you. Have fun actually being able to trust people

[@9_9876]

Lucky

[@TheOrangVegetal]

Finally another positive thing on this channel i can relate to

[@trinaq]

I love how the shoots at the top of each cartoon represents personal growth! 💖😍

[@Psych2go]

is it cute? :)

[@Γιώργος-ε3τ]

@@Psych2go yes

[@ryrieee]

@@Psych2go yes it is!

[@swatisaini6447]

@@Psych2go so cute😍🥰😭😘😻❤️❤️

[@januarysson5633]

Is that what they represent? 😌

[@michalette]

I wanna be in a relationship after this quarantine

[@mxwitcher]

Same

[@destinysecret2030]

Hope the date isn't in the hospital

[@lumiiforyou]

Did u get the relationship u wanted?

[@komaedakat1583]

What really bothers me while i'm watching these kinds of videos, is how it basically says "you're doomed in life." But i want to see it as, even with my not so good childhood and my trust and abandonment issues, i can still have a fulfilling life. I know i was brought up with a challenge, and i will take that challenge. If i ever become a parent, i want to be a better parent then my parent, so no more kids have to deal with the challenge i didn't get to chose. But it's up to me to step up and actually be a parent, be there. And when it comes to a relationship, i do have those problems with my anxious attachment style... But it's something i can work on too. Psych2Go, i'm NOT as useless or broken as you think i am. I can change my life...

[@Orange_Swirl]

I'm pretty sure they didn't mean it like that.

[@zoesimone5058]

I think they are just trying to make it clear to some people who didn't notice their behavior or why they act this way I believe that I can change too and I'm working on it♡!

[@Kira6311]

I had absolutely same feeling after watching this. On the other hand I think this should've kinda motivated people to recognize these patterns and work on themselves which is a good thing.

[@TheEmeraldLady]

I don't see any judgment is this video, rather it's explaining how your parents and your environment can affect you for better or worse. While we can't change how we grew up, we can change our lives as adults. I was told I was sick in the head, horrible, and unlovable a child (amongst other things), so for someone like me, these videos actually show me that I'm reacting in a normal way, given how I a was treated! How cool is that to learn? Pretty cool! 😊 Now that you know how you react and why, you can move on to changing your life for the better. It's tough, but you'll be happier in the end. Don't lose hope, I believe in you. Good luck ♥️

[@sarmistha3627]

Wow!! Great point of view friend. Thnkx for making me realize tht.

[@proxi1394]

As an avoidant, I often have to watch videos like this to remind myself that my actions may hurt others who don’t see things like me.

[@evienguyen1635]

Reading everyone’s replies about their childhood difficulties made me feel less alone. Even though our childhoods and lives may not have been what we wanted so far let’s work to improve and love ourselves first. The first step in fixing a problem is recognizing it so we are already on the right track. You are all strong. You are all loved. 💛

[@ilachesis937]

I'm watching all these videos and I keep on getting the feeling that I am a mix between anxious and avoidant. My parents were kind to me, but I guess living in constant pressure and desperation to prove myself made me this way. I'm clinically diagnosed with depression and anxiety for years now and I've made very little progress. I seem to fall back down and even further whenever I successfully make one step. I've always been so afraid of failing because people and even my parents treat me differently if I do. I've always been distrustful and avoid people and making connections as much as I can because I'm afraid that they will take advantage of me and leave me once they see who I really am. I never committed to someone because I see myself as someone very unworthy of any kind of love, kindness and care. A few months ago I met someone who brought so much change and light to my life. He takes good care of me, listens to me, tries to understand me in times when even I don't understand myself. He makes it his mission to show me that I am someone worthy of love and affection, someone who doesn't deserve to be left in the dust. Even in moments when I try to push him away, he stays. And I've never been more grateful. In return, I try my best to reciprocate everything he is showing me and work on making myself better, not just for me but also for his sacrifices. These videos help me a lot when I feel lost and need some sort of guide to understand how something works or why it is happening. Thank you so much 🖤🤍

[@alaaye5237]

Can being bullied as a young child affect your attachment style?

[@y.k.6328]

I believe so. Personally, I am the fearful/disorganized type (mix of both anxious and avoidant styles). I didn’t grow up in a physically abusive family but my parents were overprotective and controlling (which caused me to develop anxiety disorder) Also, I was bullied by peers at young age. Getting bullied by my friends as a child gave me permanent trust and self-esteem issues. I’m 22 now but I can’t settle with long lasting friendships and relationships because of that.

[@askatuproductions]

Well, I'm Avoidant but I had very warm and loving parents. However, I stop trusting people when I started school and got bullied and rejected by -apparently- everyone.

[@joyh8382]

1000%, especially if it was intense or made deep negative effects on you.

[@random-ft4mf]

your attachment style has to do with your relationship with your caregivers, especially in the 18 first months of your life. ofc bullying can affect it, but I think the way your caregivers react to the bullying affects your attachement style more

[@AniWey]

Heal your inner world and start giving yourself the love and attention you crave. I was the anxious attachment for a while but when I stated to give myself love and prioritize myself thats when I stopped seeking outside validation. Remember YOU ARE ENOUGH. ❤

[@turtlemeat.]

I'm clingy but I never do anything that will make it seem that way. I'm scared of people leaving me if they think I'm clingy which ends up making people think I'm distancing myself from them. I do it because I want to give people their space, but I'm worried all im doing is pushing people away, and I don't know how to stop :/

[@retrogradesnake1612]

fcking rt

[@khgameplayer]

Avoidant-dismissive. And I'm afraid to pass that on to my son.

[@sersnuggles7697]

anxious resistant attachment style: [exists] me: Ha! Desperate for love, social approval and gives 100% love to somebody who might not like you. [cries] yeaa that sounds like me X3

[@borbtippy0ne409]

Nice animation 👌

[@Psych2go]

Did you enjoy this?

[@borbtippy0ne409]

@@Psych2go yes UwU

[@KeiraA333]

Anxious-preoccupied parenting + disorganized/insecure peer environment (major bullying). After living most my life this way^^^ I got too damaged and traded anxious-preoccupied style for Avoidant style laced w/ previous. Disorganized/Insecure part of me rules it all quietly. Slowly getting weaker but never ever rly gone.

[@kyleighraasio6613]

I think I could possibly be anxious or disorganized. My family seemed to be like an emotional swing. Ive become a bit of a people pleaser but I definetly thing this channel has helped me so much💓💓 i used to get really upset and angry and take it out on others and myself. While i still have many problems in myself perceptions ive found this channel has helped calm and find myself and have even shown me the toxic people in my life. Thank you💕

[@SherrainePhillips]

Dismissive Avoidant here. Literally cannot stay with someone and would rather leave before I’m left ☹️ Not just with romantic partners, it’s hard for me to make and keep genuine friends. There’s like this invisible emotional bubble around me I don’t want people to get through

[@mitty4790]

Same :(

[@SsofieLund]

Can you do a video of, what to do, if your other sibling gets all the love and support, while the other one gets neglected and used? 🙏🏻💗

[@Kaempfdog]

I’m a cross of secure and anxious. Can’t say my parents didn’t try. But some people don’t understand emotional spectrums as well as others and they only JUST discovered what low self esteem even meant.

[@LiquidToast42]

I'd just like to say the combination of your voice and the animation is very comforting to watch.

[@doitfordavine5064]

Right before this vid I got an ad about attachment styles

[@giannalomeli2216]

Secure attachment here, only because I realized my anxious-avoidant-dismissive -insecure attachment pattern was keeping me from the intimacy I craved. Being raised in the foster care system can take a serious toll on your wellbeing, if you know any foster kids be kind to them 💗.

[@TwilightTownnn]

wow, the comments are kinda boring when you are early to a video

[@galacticdreamz1320]

Your voice is so soothing and like hearing ASMR and I LOVE IT😤😤

[@scarlettassassinator6192]

Video: *talks about dismmissive- avoidant attachment Me: why does this topic shows my life?

[@101cartoonstreet3]

Your voice is so soothing

[@milily]

I’ve once heard my parents talk about me. Just as they are, I’m aware that during childhood I changed from being secure to anxious. ._.

[@lilyy017]

same-ish here. my mom and dad would fight because my mom thought my dad’s slightly abusive disciplinary techniques were way too much for a girl my age. she said by him handling me like that (i won’t go into detail), i was subconsciously being taught that it was okay for people to manhandle and push me around. he would stop periodically and just verbally put me in my place by calling me a bitch and things like that. it really sucked though because despite being treated like that, i somehow idolized my dad over my mom still. it’s better now, but still keeps me up some nights. anyway, i hope you’re doing alright, with time and meaningful relationships it’ll get better💜

[@oraora5647]

Am I the only one that got a attachment style ad before this?

[@spacegirl424]

Hahaha, I got it too 💛

[@Yuseigo]

despite growing up in a negative environment I've evolved myself to grow past most of the issues I've had and i refuse to let my past destroy my future

[@katieburke2902]

Don't appreciate cataloging people. We are all different & unique. ♡

[@snowcoco_YT]

Are you guys overworking ?, animation takes a while and you upload often, 🙁don’t overwork!😩😫

[@Psych2go]

We are in isolation, so we are doing our best:)

[@snowcoco_YT]

As long as it’s not overworking👍

[@pouinichan]

I looove this channel!!!❤🌸 i follow you since 2 years. This channel grew a lot. Thank you

[@theusernameicoodfind]

Wow I’m anxious down to the letter. This like many of your videos helped me understand myself and my ex a little more. Thank you.

[@kimmikaotic]

Scary how accurate this is. I’m definitely anxious attachment style.

[@smig2801]

Any chances an abusive relationship can affect this later in life? I grew up with the "anxious" style but after an abusive relationship years ago it became a mix with "avoidant", it's harder now to trust others.

[@Heavenlystar987]

Totally. I used to be anxious and now I feel I'm avoidant because of my first relationships that were pretty bad...

[@Heavenlystar987]

Been having a hard time putting my barriers down... Sometimes I manage to lower it a bit and observe the person I'm dating, but if they don't act accordingly to the minimum of my expectations barriers go up suddenly and there's no way back...

[@karlad4082]

OMG! It’s scary how accurate this informational video really is. Dismissive / avoiding is right on ☹️

[@VICMORROWFAN]

The traditional green 🍃 has returned in all its abundant glory. Even the little one has one. Awesome.

[@castroirabradleys.4655]

I love these psychology content. It helps us understand ourselves and others more

[@Psych2go]

Happy to hear!

[@boyfriend6821]

Aaahhhh! I love this style! I love how the characters in the start all had different leafs-

[@askatuproductions]

I think I'm Avoidant, but I didn't have neglectful parents, not at all! I always trusted them, but when I got into school I used to be bullied by my classmates and ignored by teachers. It was an awful experience and I learned how to be independent (and a loner) there. I DO believe I'm worthy of love, though.

[@CorgiInc]

Ok, this is wonderful, but the animation style? I'm in love! :D

[@shalsparkles]

OMG! I have been struggling so hard trying to figure out making masks. This is a life saver. THANK YOU SO MUCH ♡♡♡♡

[@eeeo2196]

This is so important topic. I struggle with it a lot!

[@kriscrossender4525]

Disapointed Fearful-Avoidant wasnt included here as it was in later videos. I myself am that and related somewhat to the things said for both Dismissive-Avoidant and Anxious-Preoccupied

[@alvinistrange]

I have studied this a week ago for the ap psych exam

[@Psych2go]

What did you relate to and how did the exam go?

[@alvinistrange]

@@Psych2go Oh in my Princeton review, it talked about different attachment styles and the AP exam went well, I feel like my answers were not fluffy, but got straight to the point. Btw thank you for responding, I love your channel

[@thutrangpham1269]

OMG I have watched as many video of Psy2go as possible but this is the video that surprises me the most. It describes exactly the feelings at my deepest part inside of me that many people around me don’t even think they exist. Thank you Psy2go so so much I mean watching your videos make me understand a lot more about myself!!!

[@Mr1001977]

Refuse to be labeled. We more likely to have mixture of all styles. Just enjoy life instead of over analysing yourself, it can do more harm than good.

[@lizzielouuu92]

our parents are definitely our first teachers but they don't teach us how we deserve to be loved, but how they are able to love us. they teach us what they know, whether that is healthy attachment or not. just because our parents taught us one way to be loved doesn't mean that is all that we deserve. and saying this i am someone with a mixture of the last three attachment styles. just saying some of the statements that this channel makes are very black and white. i like to think of psychology as a study of all of the shades of grey in between black and white.

[@arnesis90]

When you click the video, hoping that it will disprove that you are the anxious type and it just confirms it even more.

[@El.Duder-ino]

Thank you for these videos, they help a LOT! Thank you!

[@annisafebriyanti693]

i relate to insecure avoidant attachment style. what the most painful thing is now i found out how my parents treated me growing up had actually shaped me for what i am as a person. and i'm crying because the struggle i have to endure on dealing with my own attachment as an adult.

[@luciadiaz2333]

It is important to tell that we aren’t in only one attachment style, depending on the actual situations and multiple factors of life can affect our attachment style. Also people with the insecure style can modify some of it by theraphy and finding relationships with a secure attachment style people.

[@mintyyling]

Also, just to note! The "Disorganized" attachment style is also called "Fearful Avoidant" :)

[@VioletEmerald]

So there are like 4 names for this I think? Those 2, also Anxious-Preoccupied, or Anxious-Avoidant? Are those all the same?

[@jennatandy6272]

I am the secure attachment style because of therapy I’ve gotten which has really improved my life and made me so much happier.

[@idkhmm6902]

LOVING the art style. 💛

[@laraelixirs]

Im so happy that i discovered this ! It will help me a lot

[@decades3774]

I love this video so much, it made me understand behaviour i couldnt grasp before both in my friends and in myself, thank you

[@caliliah]

My complaint with this channel is that they never have videos explaining how to alter your mindset to become the more “ideal” version of yourself. How do I have a secure household? How do my partner and I work through our psychological scars and become better for each other? These videos would be much more beneficial if they gave examples, I don’t need something specific to my situation, but just a general guide would be nice. I feel like they makes the same video with 50 different titles and no new information.

[@BrotherTree1]

An Attachment Style advertisement popped up before this video. Coincidence? Also, I think there's a time and place for all types of attachment styles. They all have to be well moderated, balanced and optimised and having this balance readjusted when circumstances change (or call for readjustment so that matters regarding yourself, others, the situation, the community, the world, etc. don't result in further damage) so that you use these attachment styles as strategies or tools to solve problems and not make them worse, helping you to understand what's good for you across time and understanding what's dangerous to your wellbeing across time. For example, who you think is complimentarily good for you in your life, whilst keeping those that aren't good for you, away from you and well protected, defended and bounded from destroying your life and wellbeing. This can be people, to situations to be involved in, as well as your actions/decisions and what you do to impact yourself and/or others.

[@CelineOng]

I am dismissive-avoidant and I have anxious style as well

[@girlinblue4026]

thank you for doing this video, lately i recommended it, now i am happy to learn about it from this channel .❤

[@brendamendez1355]

Can you make different videos about each attachment style and explain them individually?? Thanks for the video, really helped a lot ♡

[@Psych2go]

We are thinking that actually. If we anyone else is interested, let us know below so we can follow up.

[@doctordl7757]

@@Psych2go You guys are doing a great job! Thanks ❤

[@doctordl7757]

You should read a book called "How We Love" by Kay & Milian Yerkervich it goes into detail about each Attachments and how to heal from them.

[@vivianjames8518]

I have a little bit of everything here. Possibly because I try to cope, and change my habits or feelings. Grew up smothered, and then abandoned. So it’s difficult to say which fits most, I guess.

[@JoJohXD]

Thank you for helping me figure out that I am sabotaging myself

[@b1njjj95]

This is such an interesting topic. I would love to learn more about it. Please upload more videos on this topic.

[@tnt6227]

I was definitely disorganized. Still sort of have some aspects of the disorganized attachment style in me but true love is definitely slowly healing me😊

[@failurez4387]

1:33 thank me later. that's my brain when I'm zoned out lol

[@tweeze123]

I envy those with a secure style. They are bubbly, social, have tons of friends and are very loving positive people and their parents are just like that. I used to be like that in grade school but then turned into avoidant style 110%.

[@hritiksingh1996]

Please upload how to heal from anxious preoccupied attachment style.

[@pekopekoyama4945]

I don’t understand self worth and I beat myself up over it. People care about me but I can’t trust anyone fully. I want friends but I can’t accept them fully. I don’t know if I can accept someone but so far I don’t fully trust anybody fully. I’m scared of being heartbroken, that feeling is awful. I don’t bother getting close to anybody because of it. I want to though, I want relationships but I can’t trust anybody in fear of rejection.

[@nicolemcanderson2185]

I can truly say I experienced all styles at times throughout life period

[@aaronschell1691]

I am probably Anxious-Preoccupied and Dismissive Avoidant plus maybe some Disorganized. I am a People-Pleasure. I want to make everyone happy, but I have come to realize that you cannot make everyone happy. I learned it is hard. Also, I learned that you need to find your "TRUE" friends in life. A lot of people who say they are your friend are not. I feel alone most of the time when I am sitting at a table with them or hanging out with them. Oh well. I guess it is what it is.

[@startcamera..review3930]

Do some relationships videos for beginners Im in my first major relationship in 25 yrs Who has anxiety, insecurity, GAD ..and short temper

[@UnlicensedThinker]

I think I am a combination of the fun and not so fun of all of those styles LOL Or should I say I can see that in my life since I learned to dig deep into my true self to become a truly happy person ;)