Q&A: Meet My Parents | How they met, Our hair, etc. | Black & White Family

[@stephaniesommer7336]

Hello all, this is Mom. Thank you for watching the video and getting some insight into our family. Some of you were concerned by Dad's obliviousness to our racial dynamic. He really isn't. He knows there is more to me and the girls than just being his. Though being his is his main concern. He does not care what others think but as any husband and father, would give his life for ours. The girls are loved and encouraged. They were disciplined and guided. Taught not to be victims and never let anyone hold you down not even us. They have been enlighten about their ancestry; African, Choctaw Indian, German, Irish-both sides, English and a few others. The dynamic is great. I pray every child has these blessings. We all God's children made in his image, of one blood. Love one another as he are loved.

[@michelebradley7813]

Your husband seems like a really great husband & father. It's obvious that he respects & loves all of you guys, period. You're all Blessed🙏🏽❣

[@anonymousprivet1227]

@Stephanie His love for his family is not at question. Him showing no concern of a plight that adopted him via your children is concerning. Unfortunately many Afro-Centric women/males bury the reality of who they are once they form relationships outside of their ancestry. Then forming an overflow carrying a nonchalant mentality that affects/effects their spouses and children. Also, we did not establish the definition Black. You still use the terminology but now want to limit it when it comes to your children.

[@darleneroberson8146]

Stephanie Sommer ...Amen!

[@staceylosa9355]

There is no concern with Dad, he was raised like I was, meaning not to focus on race. It really never stuck with me when I was growing up, I just saw people as people

[@mikeweber6565]

@@anonymousprivet1227 no one asked you what you think.

[@lee48lee68]

Her dad keeps saying his answers are boring but his answers show how truly accepting, confident and loving he is. He doesn’t care what other people’s opinions are about his family. Not boring at all. Just a man who loves his family.

[@faithbutler1225]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼 yeeesssssss! I feel like that's what really matters!!

[@edvh88]

It’s nice to just see people love people as people, for who they really are, beyond their physical presentation. Yes we live in a complex society seriously impacted by the concept of race, but how nice to just see two people who fell in love and had a family. And luckily, were not intimidated or shunned or otherwise penalized by their communities.

[@cuquee12]

@@edvh88 Amen!

[@soniagrant8331]

I agree, I think he is awesome!

[@prettypoppin_552]

Don't be so sure. She literally made a video calling him a bigot and airing him out as a racist, but I guess they're working on their relationship now

[@ellamaariie]

Your voice would literally be PERFECT for voice-acting on a children’s cartoon like SERIOUSLY

[@ThankyouLord25]

Someone stated in another video that she sounds like Velma on Scooby Doo.

[@colorfulcodes]

so true.

[@JT-dj9vx]

So true!

[@noneofyourbusiness302]

Yes, a very sweet, soft voice 😍

[@sharjjahnaziz4122]

I said the same thing as well.

[@garydomaz1849]

I feel for your father. He hates being asked about race. He loves his wife and kids and that’s it.

[@faithbutler1225]

❤❤❤❤❤ yes!

[@ksam5673]

That's true. He's a decent man for sure but a bit toooo oblivious to reality in a sense.

[@cryforthemoon]

Well, to be fair white parents raise their white kids telling them "everyone is the same inside" as their way to combat racism. White people were taught it is more polite to not talk or ask about race. Because if you see differences some how that is racist? That's where you get the "I don't see color" comments lol I think this explains her dad's answers.

[@mrslavanderblu]

cryforthemoon Ugh, so true! My husband is white and I am black. It annoys me to no end that he claims not to see race. I do feel it’s a defense mechanism to avoid reality. Race needn’t divide people, but acknowledging there are different peoples and cultures is the first step to truly understanding each other and building community.

[@nyembsafric1]

@Biracial Butterfly 🤮

[@lauraredd614]

Your dad is the most dad type of dad that has ever daded And I highly enjoyed it💕

[@t.h.8475]

He is very dad like.

[@CosmicEremite]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 total dad vibes

[@butterflybei265]

You literally look like a girl version of your dad with your mom's hair

[@flyleelee5351]

💯💯

[@blessingike7004]

U put into words what I was thinking!

[@2paranoid2think]

but mom's face shape, so cute

[@noneofyourbusiness302]

I think genetics is amazing 👏 If your mom and dad had 10 children, maybe 4 would be light skinned, 3 dark, 3 a beautiful Carmel color. I did family tree dna, it was amazing 👏 I am white, but 49% British, 35% Scandinavian, 11 Finnish, 3% Turkish 2 % Italian. I love to know where my parents came from. I long to know their stories. But, at least I know where they came from and who I am. But, you can be who you want to be no matter where your ancestors came from. As in, you can like the things you like, golf, skiing, or swimming for example. Being good to everyone is the way to live🥰😍🤩 Love to all xoxoxo

[@michelebradley7813]

BEAUTIFUL❣

[@MsLhuntMartinez79]

Dad is chill. All his answers are so laid back. Mom is DOPE! Great folks

[@daintyflygirl4va]

Where is she frm?She looks like a Pacific Islander(Melanesia )

[@cfoster6804]

Yeah her mom is awesome. Wise woman.

[@polisigh216]

I also think having both your parents in your life makes it easier to claim your biracial heritage.

[@saintnicole3209]

Ricki B. It's not every biracial kid, just the biracial kids that have pressure from members on both sides of the family forcing them to "choose a side". The more that interracial couples educate their family members and don't force an identity on their children the less children will go through that.

[@saintnicole3209]

Mya Vat proof

[@pianoninja5276]

Sorry but u Couldn’t be more wrong 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@prue3318]

I don't even know what bi racial mean until im 34 and know about meghan markel.i know about mix children but in my country or in my village they is realy special in positive thing ,is more easier for them become model or actress .realy is not big deal.

[@KarineLherisson12]

Nicole White except they unfortunately live within a society that will enforce it upon them. Mom and dad are wonderful people who love their children and each other. The problem will stem from society.

[@TrievaTheDiva]

I love that Dad corrected that! He had Black and white daughters! She is biracial not Black.. it's clearly visible..

[@leaholiver9418]

Biracial people only claim their blackness when its convenient.

[@loveprevails7080]

Leah Oliver well they can claim both because obviously they're both.

[@anniebanana3698]

@@leaholiver9418 That's an insane thing to say. Oftentimes, society puts us in a box. For me, because I am more racially ambiguous, unless the person was black or had seen a lot of black people, I was put in a lot of other boxes before being seen as black. My whole life, all I have wanted is to be seen as both (not one or the other).

[@sasshil4202]

love prevails of course they can claim both. Word to take into account is *convenient* ,Leah Oliver isn’t wrong. However not all biracials do this.

[@Nenebackat-it]

It’s not because black people can look anyway and so can people mixed with black because of her hair people would think she’s a lightskind black person.

[@sexysitch3255]

Too many comments here are trying to dictate what race she is or isn’t. She is biracial; she is also black, she is also white. She can choose to identify however she wants and it is quite frankly no one else’s place to judge or have an input. Worry about your own identity, not hers.

[@beaujac311]

Erika D:. I've read just about every comment and I hardly saw any that tried to dictate her race. I saw way too many that tried to let her father off the hook when it came to acknowledging race.

[@goncalo.ferreira]

@@beaujac311 who cares. Care about your own self leave that dad alone weirdo lol

[@goncalo.ferreira]

Everyone is an expert in social studies nowadays lmao fuck off no one likes to hear an opinion from an ignorant teen

[@selinaBARMAR2565]

Well said! We can't tell people who they are. Many have not even figured out who they are as a person, much less carrying around a measuring device to determine one's degree of whiteness or blackness.

[@beaujac311]

@@selinaBARMAR2565 If her dad wasn't so opposed to recognizing that his daughter was having identity issues she probably would have never had them. Talking about race to him is like stepping on the third rail. She wanted to be assured by her dad that she was alright but he would not venture there.

[@cjzanders5430]

@1:40 - “They’re my kids. I don’t care if they’re purple.” Her dad says this with a purple Thanos character on his shirt. I already love this guy. 😂✊🏾

[@blkluv100]

His obliviousness is idiotic and selfish.

[@phil6748]

june bug don’t be so triggered

[@brosplit]

@Mikayla Raymond hypocrite. it is ignorant to actually ignore ones heritage.

[@weathergoddess]

@Mikayla Raymond You sound like a complete fool, PERIOD.

[@fxjrulpzxi]

Bro Split exactly, just like it’s ignorant to ignore and trash HIS! 👋🏼

[@teahgurl]

Her being biracial- Black and White is not a phenomenon. Idk why it’s such a big deal to y’all below. Being multicultural is amazing be whatever it is. Racism has mental impaired us.

[@edvh88]

Just shows how important it is to have parents who are so grounded and loving, discuss stuff but also don’t let it define them.

[@newnana9070]

Racism cripples peoples relationships with their own families. It’s on us to stop the madness. Theses last few days has shown us this isn’t working at all and people are tired.

[@AlakaxamM]

It isn't, but you'd be surprised how many heads are blown when family members dont seem to match. People will approach women moreso than men, and ask rude questions and make rude comments. People of all shades really should be normalized at this point, but sadly, to many, they are not. I appreciate her and her parents for being willing to talk about the contrast of experiences even within their household.

[@jrene9833]

Thank you!

[@patriciaforbes4562]

Thank you for being candid

[@SharmaineJoyel]

Thank you again to Mom and Dad for wanting to do this and help answer some of your questions 💕 Yes, my dad and I had a huge disagreement months ago but have been working on our relationship and better understanding each other, this being one of those things. I hope this video provides an interesting view of one interracial couple. Thank you 💕

[@juliettewilson4589]

Love your channel. No american is fully black or even fully white. If you look into your history only 90 years ago majority would be classed as mulatto. Mulatto means mixture... Mixture of African ,Native American and English, Irish and scottish celtic decent. That is the united states as america. So, as a nation you havent been taught properly about the heritage of the united states of america. 4% of "white" americans have african heritage... Thats because they come from years of mixture 3 or 4 generations of mixure of one black and one native american white europeans .... Thats is what you called the white man. So, futhermore 300 years its just a mixture of people. Therefore, mulatto was taken away from you as an identity but thats what americans are by heritage and decent ... Even if not visible or even on a dna test. Which arent accurate, but partically. 😊

[@d.alexis4056]

@@juliettewilson4589 this whole essay😂😂 true tho everyone got a little something extra in them they just dont wanna believe it. we all started in egypt anyways

[@juliettewilson4589]

@@d.alexis4056 my lovely. We did not all start in Egypt unless you are Egyptian. American people ... Are of west african decent (not east nor north majority if they are decent is from slavery), you are also of native american and english, irish and scottish decent. Absolutely everyone who is native to north america are these things. You are a product of mixing of these people, nationalities and decent. That is your heritage. You dna is and is different to your heritage and in turn both are different to your identity.

[@d.alexis4056]

@@juliettewilson4589 im talkin about how they found the oldest human bones in Egypt

[@juliettewilson4589]

@@d.alexis4056 There's a tribe in sub- saharan that has the oldest dna traces in the world and they look like a mixture of African and Asian. Sorry, I can't remember the name of the tribe but I'll link a video that discuss this and the origin of Asian People as a whole connecting to Africa. kzbin.info/www/bejne/jam3n4mNnLR6gsU

[@MzPrttylilMagnolia11]

Your face when your dad asked what guy asks for you to pay his bills.. ooh sir if you only knew. 😒🙄

[@IamBrendaMarie]

You meet them online and they want you to send them stuff and you are not even sure if they exist. No video chat nothing 😂😂😂🤣

[@coronavirus5738]

😆😆😆😆😆😆

[@coronavirus5738]

@@IamBrendaMarie some do video chat with you and still need you to send money instead of wanting you for love.

[@VeryKinkyCurl]

MzPrttylilMagnolia11 right!! Lol

[@DaigeeDeJ]

God's child Blessed wym “treated as women”? I personally feel like women and men should go half and half on everything and not be one sided.

[@SophiaLovella]

my mom is black and dad is white too, and its the less common combo. It's just cool to see someone else who has that too. much love

[@idioyjohnathon2054]

Same

[@jxzminn7897]

Sameee

[@chalkzone0]

Same

[@mysticalchile]

Listen, your dad just know that he liked your mother and asked her out. No thought behind it. He had daughters with his wife and that's just it. I nearly died when he said he thought the one-drop-rule was in reference to food. lol This man just lives his life, loves who he loves, and keeps it pushing.

[@frowniebrown86]

He was sitting there trying to figure out how to answer the question, thinking it was about the 5 second rule 😂 wholesome.

I love that her dad plays her videos all day. That’s so sweet

[@purplegirl8036]

"He never asked me to pay his rent or give him gas money," "why would a guy ask that?" take notes fools.

[@fran791]

Those damn dusties

[@rayb5069]

Why would a woman or a man ask anyone to pay for HIS/HER rent or give HIM/HER gas money for HIS/HER car? Hopefully, ALL people will take notes and not purchase things they simply cannot afford. 😁✌🏾

[@innal4363]

Purple girl What guys asked that black guys. She should have included who.

[@60sAmethyst]

@@rayb5069

[@cherishtheday5450]

She’s referring to black American men doing music 🤣

[@eyeofeye]

I am black and my husband is white and I bet we're about the same age as your parents. I am currently watching this video and when your mom talked about white women's reaction to her and your dad I laughed so hard because it is identical to my experience. I have 3 sons by the way ages 25,17 and 13. I really loved this video.

[@peace4naturals]

eyeofeye do you think it’s different for you and your husband raising boys? Do you think your husband answers would have been different? Just curious!

[@eyeofeye]

@@peace4naturals not really,my husband is also aware of what our boys would go through because of the way they may be perceived and we talked about the issues of privilege and how their dad is treated ( when not with us) versus how they may be treated by others. Ultimately we too teach the boys about all aspects of their heritage, that race is a social construct and that we are all human beings with unique backgrounds.

[@deedledumb790]

I have a white husband and I empathise with how your dad is reacting. White men especially, never had to think about race because they are THE standard, the default. I asked my husband once, ''when do you remember meeting your first black person and thinking about race?'' His answer was 11 years old. They just grow up in a different reality where no one questions their intelligence, their status as a law-abiding citizen, their right to be in any space or their right to just exist. He obviously loves you and your family and seems like a real chill dude. Lots of love to you all.

[@kleedasantos3236]

NEWS FLASH; the majority of Black people don't have to worry about those things such as status as law abiding citizen🙄 If you look at overall statistics it will show how black people are treated in very similar way to white people in that regard, EVEN though black males commit more than 50% of violent crimes while only being less than 6% of the population.

[@salkisresmedicinalwisdom3291]

Straight up facts

[@LadyDeevs]

Your mom has such a sweet, calming voice!

[@Dukie_2]

She is a very calm woman, and powerful too!

[@cindygodiah8022]

Your dad is a positive person

[@CrystalM1917]

He is positive....but he is also completely out of touch....because he can afford to be. His demeanor in this video is a great example of white privilege at work.

[@Coilygirl1]

@@CrystalM1917 I was about to type this but decided to read the comments first. He is a perfect example of white privilege. He gets to be oblivious to black issues which are his wife and daughter's issues. I think it would have been nice for him to be more in tune.

[@13579hee]

@@Coilygirl1 exactly!!!!!!!! I was about to say the EXACT same thing

[@GirlDo3]

@@Coilygirl1 I don't understand how you can be a familly man and not give af about your famillies struggles.

[@CrystalM1917]

@Andrea Mendenhall 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Simpson4Fun]

Have either one of your parents changed after doing this video with you? Please do a follow-up. I’m Black and my daughter is multiracial, but she’s very light with blondish loose curls. I live in a predominantly Black neighborhood and I already see that even as a child her color and hair are constantly the topic of conversation! This video taught me the importance of not ignoring her differences but helping her understand them.

[@amandaparfait9468]

Man I'm trying to be as unbothered to the hate & negativity in the world as your dad is 😂😂😂 love this video. Beautiful family ❤

[@beaujac311]

Amanda Parfait:. He's not unbothered he's ignorant. Or at least tries to be.

[@atrueblessing2166]

It’s not hard to do 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@learnEnglishwithMo]

beaujac311 how can you call someone’s father ignorant on their own page??? Makes no sense and it’s soooo rude!!!!

[@beaujac311]

@@learnEnglishwithMo I call them as I see them. He's very blissfully ignorant.

[@beaujac311]

@kayemen415 When I say ignorant, I mean he ignores it because he doesn't want to deal with it. I agree with you that when you are born white in the USA you don't have to worry what anybody says because you have privilege. If you are black people will make you aware of it every day.

[@ItsSonya94]

OMG. Your mom reminds me so much of my mom. She's so aware, so woke, kind, very smart and thoughtful. Your dad is blissfully oblivious but not in a mean spirited or privileged way. In his mind, this is his family. He chose his wife. He loves her. He loves the kids they had togetgher. The end. He doesn't care how the world or anyone else views him or his family. Which is admirable. But I can also see how his blissful ignorance can cause problems or issues in certain situations.

[@pacificodelnorte6628]

He is privileged to be able to be "blissfully ignorant" about race issues when it comes to his wife and daughters. As a white man living in America, he personally doesn't have to think about race. He can navigate through the world, and obviously has, virtually unscathed by his race. I was surprised though that he was as unaware as he was. I noticed that he too was a little surprised, and even felt a little embarrassed himself, at how oblivious he was of some of the racial experiences his wife and daughters faced. I clearly see it was not intentional on his part. It just was not on his radar for whatever reasons...his privilege. Well, he's awake/enlightened now! You live. You learn. Right, Alanis Morrissette?

[@ItsSonya94]

@@pacificodelnorte6628 you are right. His privilege ALLOWS him to be blissfully ignorant. Great point. 👍🏾

[@beaujac311]

@@pacificodelnorte6628 You can tell by his response it was very intentional. He just did not want to deal with race.

[@marilynharris4831]

I think the Dad should educate himself. I feel he should have at least been familiar with the one drop rule.

[@marilynharris4831]

Obama is referred as the first black president because of the one drop rule also because you are perceived as what you look like and he doesnt look white

[@coronavirus5738]

Mom hair is flourishing...it has grown so much since you and sis did her big chop!...Dad was awesome🌸🌺🌷🌹❤

[@HeyitsKimberlee]

This is a great video! I think you’re dad was probably thrown off by such in depth questions. At the end of the day, he now has had the opportunity to know more about the different experiences you’ve had growing up through your lens vs his.

[@katrinaecoleman]

Topic: Discipline Dad: If you don't do it as a parent...the police will. FACTS!!!

[@beaujac311]

Datrina Coleman:. But what if the police stop your child for DWB (driving while black). Those cops will see a black woman not a biracial woman and treat her accordingly.

[@rebeccaspratling2865]

@@beaujac311 yes I don't think he gets it. He's only aware of his own perception and probably thinks everyone has the same perception as him. 😑

[@jeffsommer7004]

@@rebeccaspratling2865 Your probably only aware of your own perception also. I don't think you get it either.

[@mamawatorotalks8208]

This Dad is my husband he is just raising his child with love. That love carried their child through life

[@ThEEnlightenFemme]

The one drop wasn't our rule...Great response Mom.

[@Eisobi]

@Dream Dream Serene That doesn't mean they are black though. They are still both. In this case black and white. There is nothing wrong with that so in claming both parts.

[@alexhoward1884]

@@Eisobi People conflate black ad a race, sub-Saharan Africans, and black as an ethnicity, a social construct like the culture of African Americans. Plenty of mixed people are ethnically black. You can't take away from them just because of their mixed ancestry. Its ignorant to do so.

[@Eisobi]

@@alexhoward1884 I am not taking away her blackness everywhere in the world except the States they consider mixed people As mixed. Like they are. Why should I claim them as black and ignore their white side? Isn't that ignorant? Being fully black and being half black are two different things especially in the States where there is a lot of colorism. You are confusing ethnicity with race, that is very ignorant. Race is like being black or white, ethnicity is like being african-american. Biracial (with black and white) are half black. Period.

[@Eisobi]

@Jade Star What? All shades of brown? Tf?. I know that the concept of race was invented by the white man but that has nothing to do with what I was saying. In 2020 we consider white people caucasian and black people that have to parents of full african descent. I know for a fact that even black people claim biracial as fully black. Barack Obama is the prime example. He is biracial but black and white people view him as a fully black person. Especially in the States Lol. Outside is different.

[@kenithbalhan5779]

@@Eisobi Not getting involved in an argument or anything. Just want to state that everyone is a shade of brown. In class my students were recreating their skin tones out of playdough and in order to create all of their shades (white children included) they had to use brown as well and of course brown comes from all of the primary colors being mixed over and and over. So at the end of the day we technically are all shades of brown. Some of us just add white to subtract pigment and others have to add more color for darker tones.

[@LadyShyye]

I grew up like your mom. I used to get teased for speaking properly. I was accused of " acting" white because my accent was not one of slang. My parents are from Georgia but don't have that heavy twang. I was raised in south Florida and our last neighborhood was all white and we were the first black family there. My mom is lighter than Joy-el and always thought to be hispanic.

[@naomidoner9803]

I'm from south Florida too... but now in Jacksonville... I just wanted to comment about your use of proper speech... I think it's funny and irony because I can't understand half of what my Caucasian grandchildren say because they "talk black" and my 2 mixed granddaughters read early and speak properly because they have a fantastic black mother who teaches them... I'm old now I thought the black/white racial issues were getting better but some from both sides will just never stop trying to group us by color and yet both sides adopt the cultural norms of the other such as speech, dress,...

[@JermaineAuNatural]

I love this dynamic. Dad being white makes a difference in his experience and views but his ability to love y’all is beautiful. That holler your mom made when you said you were asked what’s the rest of you?😹😂🤣🤣 it’s funny when parents find out things kids experienced at school and some of the things kids say to kids. I enjoyed this.

[@simpleeazy1018]

She moves her mouth just as her dad . Def his child 💕

[@Vernon1960]

Joy-el, I remember you referencing an issue with your father and am extremely happy to see that it has improved. We "old men" can be blessed with a bit of tunnel vision but having a little more life experience than yourself, we would love to assist you with avoiding mistakes we have either made or witnessed. We only desire your happiness and success in life!!!! This was a very interesting post and thank you for sharing.

[@LeanneAmaning]

“the only thing he wants to do with me is hang me from the nearest tree” i am absolutely screaming

[@AllIAm1]

He was shook when she said that and she was so unbothered lmaoo

[@a.treasure...]

I think your dad is so sweet and a pure soul. This is how you should be if we lived in a perfect world..... But since we're not ...this is why these uncomfortable conversations need to happen, so many people are genuinely clueless about the difficulty of the everyday life of people different from what they know... You can't change what you don't know.

[@onedollarbleach6891]

Biracials w black Mom’s are the best! They’re always in-tune and balanced within their cultures, and for the most part non-toxic ❤️❤️❤️

[@Naturalista91]

I know, right! Often it's such a difference

[@nomalangak]

I remember my daughter coming home distressed because she didn't look like everyone at school. I told her its because she was special, she asked me why and i told her because she was golden and that was the end of that. Phew! she loved everything about herself after that, knowing her thats what she told her school mates. I am forever grateful to her school environment as well because it takes a community to raise a child.

[@ImmanuelaBribena]

4:32 I forgot I even asked that question, lol. My heart jumped when I heard my name, I was like "What did I do?" 😂

[@aurelea2153]

🤣🤣🤣

[@ImmanuelaBribena]

@Yvonne Blake Um she asked for us to send in questions and I did just that! I obviously wasn't expecting him to be like "Well they don't have my skin colour, so I rejected them". They're 100% his kids and 100% beautiful just the way they are. I have seen how some biracial women aren't really accepted by both sides, or are accepted by one side and rejected by the other side (Which was also talked about in the video btw). I just wanted to know how he felt about the stigma surrounding his children. And how he prepared his heart to protect his kids against the hate (e.g the weird stares they would receive in public or being called octopus head, which was also discussed in the video). I'm glad she has such an amazing dad, his answers were the best. So no, my question was not "ridiculous".

[@_mmhmm_270]

Yvonne Blake hush its a question

[@worldhealthrn]

Thank goodness your Mom married someone who loved her for her and did not get caught up in foolish thinking. She is the smartest person on you tube and a beacon of light for many women as far as I'm concerned. And she and your dad have set you up to know how to recognize love and not be too foolish to accept it. What a wonderful family legacy you are continuing 🤗

[@MrSlm1982]

I can relate to your dad 100%... I'm oblivious to things, and just live life. My kids are just kids, and my wife is my wife.

[@Dr.Nellah]

the question about your dad maybe having a biracial son i think really showed maybe his ignorance to race. I know he thinks the 'I don't really care about colour' answer seems like he's open minded but really its not realistic. You obviously had a different experience because you're black and him being oblivious I don't think really helps. I think the white privilege shows because only a white male can be 'colourblind'. It's really interesting, btw im really not coming for your father he seems like a lovely man, just an observation and thought. Your parents are lovely :)

[@MichouThe]

She is biracial, stop upholding the one drop rule. Its actually not benefiting black people.

[@neoagegirlthemaverick7468]

@Papa Jose well, they are in America, if you live in a country that is predominantly your race you won't worry about "race" issue, America is a unique experiencing b/c we have a mix of races and cultures, and it's not about being "responsible" its about carign about his kids experiences and how the world is treating them.

[@royalty1978]

@thokozani duwinde exactly... black people have no racial pride at all smh

[@loveprevails7080]

Papa Jose well said

[@loveprevails7080]

thokozani duwinde I'm black and can't understand why people would consider mixed to be black oh where is you are your father's child rule ...she is mixed not black..

[@LivingInTheShade]

Wow those questions are seriously personal.

[@breshannondevereaux7725]

Hi! I am mixed as well, with the same family dynamic. This is such a treat for me because it's more common to see white mom, black dad. I love your family! I was also told to identify as only black. I would tell them that I would NEVER exclude my father. I was BOTH whether they liked it or not! Thank you Joy-el! I feel like I have a sister in you! Great video! New sub!

[@A_J___]

I like the question of culture. You can look one way but what CULTURE do you identify with? To me culture is about these things: 1. Who you spend your time with 2. How you talk around other people (language, vocabulary, slang, vernacular accent, etc.) 3. Religious beliefs 4. Moral beliefs 5. What you do for entertainment/leisure 6. What you do for work 7. How you enact and respond to social cues 8. Behaviors related to physical appearance It's also important to understand that your culture is BEYOND RACE and stronger than race. Think about it. An African American and European American set of friends may have more in common culturally than an African American and a Nigerian even though the AA and Nigerian are the same race.

[@eka-eteololade710]

You forgot the food aspect. Do they eat Okra soup?

[@agresticumbra]

Can’t speak for the family, but I prefer okra fried, not in soup - and I’m a soup lover!

[@MeeksLp]

I loved this video I'm mixed race too I was born in the U.K where I believe was easier than being mixed in the states but I was a 70's kid and there were only 2 mixed kids in my year group luckily she was a girl too and we became best friends because we looked so similar massive afros that meant we really stuck out. My mum was white and dad black my mum had no knowledge of how to care for my hair and it was basically an afro unless our black neighbors braided it for me. I grew up mainly happy but until high school most of my friends were white and I sometimes wished I was too. My parents were not good at teaching us self esteem and to be proud and happy to be mixed I can see you didn't have that problem. My mum's family especially her mother never really excepted us as her grandchildren she kinda just tolerated us which hurt alot. Anyway enough rambling you are awesome so glad I found you. Sending love from England xxx

[@marinahernandez7103]

You look just like your dad❤️

[@BreeDarcel]

My whole thing about people being considered mixed is that there are darker skinned people that are mixed, but because they are darker skinned they aren’t as easily accepted as mixed. Also there are mixed ppl who are mixed with things other than white. A lot of the times it seems like mixed really just means to a lot of folk that you’re a person mixed with black and white that has lighter skin. Or if not lighter skin, lighter eyes, and looser hair texture etc. So much of this is about phenotypes and is centered around whiteness. Which what does it even mean to be white other than being not a person of color? Whiteness is based on not being any other culture rather than being anything in particular culturally.

[@GalaxyGirl08]

Bree Darcel Great observation

[@Vikifus]

Exactly. I feel like it's easy for someone who is so light to tell us all how to identify, but I for example am brown-skinned with dark hair and eyes and more afro-centric features and honestly sometimes it feels like everyone is allowed to call me black and treat me as such, but if I call myself black instead of mixed all hell breaks loose and I am "harming the black community" or "denying one half of myself". And I don't see it that way, because I don't see race as something biological but as a social construct. I identify as mixed because I'm mixed. I identify as black because I look black and am racialized as black. End of the story.

[@valerienardini6244]

When her mom answers the question about black culture and she’s says “lawyers, doctors, scientists” 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

Your father has the luxury and privilege of not having to contend with “race.” He was oblivious to all of the race questions. It simply isn’t accurate to say that Blacks are equally represented in all disciplines and areas of life. It would have been more accurate to say that we are the token minority in every profession and that there needs to be improvement in this area. There are still huge disparities in wealth, income, education, distribution of wealth and ownership of assets. You are a lovely family regardless of the ills of our society. Your parents are a very cute couple and I really enjoyed this video! Thank you.

[@bakarifuller88]

I think this is why so many biracial children dont know their "black" until the 💩 hits the fan. Obama had no ideal now he realizes it in full

[@tiffmonique7154]

I noticed the oblivious attitude towards race too. At first I thought I was tripping but now I see I'm not the only one to notice this too. I really love her channel and he should have been more open and honest for her.

[@napturallyyours70]

Absolutely agree with you about how oblivious her Dad was to the question of "race"! The mother knows what it feels like and also the daughter Joy-el. He will never know what it feels like to have his character, intellect, physical presence and appearance judged solely on the color of your skin.

[@tigerlily976]

We are not black so how could we know it, race has nothing to do with how you are treated, we are mixed, period!!!

[@glamgetter1910]

Tiffany Smith Same here. I was listening to the video while getting ready and I kept pausing and rewinding. It was very “all lives matter” type of thing. I don’t think he was ready. I hope he’s willing to learn.

[@randomgirlontheinternet404]

Your dad is such a dad. Thank you for doing this. What a lovely family!

[@newnana9070]

Women remember that stuff. Especially if the person is special. He seems like a man that loves from his heart. We need more people like him period. I like your parents!! Your Dad is super cool. I know about the looks you get. I have a granddaughter that looks mixed but isn’t. She got genes from 3 generations back. But she looks like her mom when she was little.

[@julieallen5212]

Your dad 😂 he's like race, what race? A foot race?

[@bettysally237]

I can answer that when people falls in love with some one color is not a issue because they just sees that person

[@leelee-ht4vi]

That's true Betty Sally. My late husband was white and I only saw him as my husband. Not my white husband.❤

[@jasonemond7034]

i feel like i'm watching my own life but in a other dimension, like you my mother is black my father is white, i came out white with type 4 hair i really thought i was the only one

[@helenacatharina]

jason Emond same situation! We’re not alone❤️

[@cuquee12]

Thank you Joy-el and thank you to your parents! I know these topics are not easy and you are very brave as YT comments can get very interesting. I believe Joy-el you are an amazing lady. I just began to watch your videos and I can tell your parents truly love you. It's apparent that you yourself have never had these convos with your parents. I hope this opened a door for more conversations with your parents. I think honestly, your parents are of a different perspective because they were just raised differently. Thank you for sharing with us. You guys are a loving family! ❤❤

[@gracecallowayable]

Your dad is so down to earth!!! And your mom keeps the family grounded!!! Beautiful!!!🧡🧡🧡

[@stephpowell7648]

THAT'S RIGHT DAD 👏👏👏👏👏👏They're Black AND White!

[@PHlophe]

you have looks similar to my baby daughter

[@teahgurl]

Find that on an application lol

[@MCMLXXXIX1989]

@@teahgurl You can choose more than one race on an application.

[@beaujac311]

Steph Powell:. But dad doesn't believe that because he doesn't recognize race.

[@parisperier4207]

teahgurl I’m biracial and put both on every application I apply to. We have the best of both worlds, get over it. Don’t be hypnotized by the government.

[@cgreen2984]

"Time out is weak. Sometimes the lesson needs to be learned through the butt." That's right, Mom. That's how I was raised -- discipline/corporal punishment with love. I'm thankful for it everyday.

[@yvvetteellisonellis1252]

Your mother is super intelligent - she answered those questions open and honestly - Nice family

[@Shomefune96]

Why do I just love these folks. Your dad, so honest, so str8 forward and so cute! And your mom as usual, just awesome. Love u guys!

[@beaujac311]

Marisa Saeed:. He's not honest at all. He just doesn't want to acknowledge that race exist. He's got them blinders on tight.

[@beaujac311]

@Andrea Mendenhall He's uptight about anyone calling his daughters black. But yet he says that he is color blind.

[@beaujac311]

@Andrea Mendenhall It's funny how when the question did anyone ever give you any funny looks he said no. He said he never noticed. The mother and daughter both shook their head yes that it happened all the time. Somebody is not being truthful and he seems to be outnumbered. And his color blindness only works when he wants it to.

[@barbryll8596]

My best friend in grade school was biracial, but I didn't even know or think about such things. All I remember is her dad (Jamaican) made spicy delicious food and I was welcome with open arms. I think all our parents didn't make a big deal about colour in the 70's where I'm from( western Canada 🇨🇦) Joy el your parents are awsome! It was really nice to meet them together.

[@yolandagomez1168]

Your Dad is so laid back, and I can see he is a big guy. So no one probably dared to say anything about his black family. That I can see there is love there.

[@beaujac311]

So you think that a big mean black man married to a white woman will stop people from saying anything about them? If you do I have that proverbial bridge in Brooklyn for sell.

[@fadumomohamednur1266]

I love your parents and your dad is so innocent I can see how disturbed he looked about your experience with racism in school. I think its important more than ever to remember that no matter what you are, what you do people will always have something to say. I am so glad I came across your channel! Love you girl

[@brandyyolidio4213]

Aww you have your moms thick full hair, lucky you!! I love thick, lush, healthy hair😍😍😍

[@chrisd5520]

Their perspectives were very interesting. Your mother is so articulate and sweet. You are such a cute family. I am a new sub from France hoping my comment will make sense 😋

[@caityblackcherry2673]

Chris D your sentences were beautifully written!

[@chrisd5520]

@@caityblackcherry2673 Thank you!

[@lillyrice2241]

One component of Black culture is the care, maintenance and styling of our hair. And applying oil/"grease"/moisturizer to our scalps daily.

[@AnimalLover2400]

I dont apply product to my scalp daily and I am black. "Black culture" only applies to african americans/black americans. There are cultures outside of the USA. A lot of African and Carribbean kids get bullied by Black Americans for the differences in culture.

[@Naturalista91]

Daily? Not true at all

[@oldfartnewstart1928]

Your parents are delightful! Both seem so calm and happy. And you dad is verrrry funny. You lucky girl!

[@puzzlesjay]

Love your moms explanation of the One Drop Rule!

[@ardettedorsett6329]

Thanks for the candid interview. I love how Joy-el handles her hair and her persona. You are blessed!

[@Ron71997]

I don't know how this was in my recommendations, just gotta say what an awesome family... your daughter is beautiful. You two brought her up so well, respect!

[@beaujac311]

Ron A:. Her father should have dealt with her race issues. That's what fathers and mothers do.

[@marajaneee]

i love how your dad was smiling when your mom was talking about how they first met haha so precious.

[@yknight4240]

I love your parents attitude they are living their life nobody's else's. They love each other and their kids! Two good people found each other and found love that's all that matters.

[@faithbutler1225]

Yes❤

[@edvh88]

They’re the best of what America can be.

[@kelendra]

Man... the privilege of being unaware and willfully ignorant of issues that directly relate to your children and wife is scary. I’m so blessed that my s/o has put in the necessary ( uncomfortable) work .

[@bloopdaddy]

@Watchingall look, it's great he's able to judge all races by their character and doesn't pay much attention to racial stereotypes. But for fuck's sake, he has a black wife and biracial children. you have to be deliberately ignorant not to make a bigger effort to understand the issues that affect your family- though he may not judge them, society does. Others do.

[@leoskiss3390]

@Keisha C I agree with you, being willfully ignorant is childish we live in a real world with real issues that his own daughter faced not too long ago( she was slapped over her head by a random yelling something about her Afro) that was sad and imagine not being able to connect with your own parent because they don’t “see” things as a big deal

[@Pussinbootszzz]

Watchingall quit cappin. This man is willfully ignorant

[@callalilly7xh]

Notice that it's ALWAYS the dark skin hard-faced fe-males who love to start mess, create drama, and pick fights? What a miserable life! Ugh!

[@Pussinbootszzz]

Watchingall it’s English, you just don’t know the slang. Don’t defend ignorance.

[@kanyaflybug]

I'm sorry that happened to you...I hate that often society makes being black a bad thing... I've felt pretty bad about myself in the past but not anymore. 😊

[@coronavirus5738]

Well white and black kids gave her hell because she had the best of both worlds and wouldn't pick a side. Black kids said she wasn't black enough and white would say she's not white enough...I have a friend where both her parents dark but she came out light and kids pick on her saying she got swapped at birth. Kids learn racism at home and bring it to school.

[@kanyaflybug]

@@coronavirus5738 very true. It is something learned at home and sometimes because of the honesty thing in children, they can be crueller than adults. Again, I'm sorry for those lifehaps. But luckily, things can change and get better!

[@mave143]

You are a beautiful, black Queen!!

[@kanyaflybug]

@@mave143 so are YOU! I want us all to have this support for each other. It's SO important!!!

[@sihlem444]

I can’t get over how much your mom looks like my gran and mom...

[@wulitatsegaye3385]

Your mother is SUCH A WISE WOMEN, as she talks, she calms the sense of the listener and your dad, is an open book......you my Dear are very, very blessed. 💋💋💋💋💋💋💚💛💖💚💛💖💚💛💖💚💛💖

[@CRUISERJ1]

I love the Parents attitudes about all of this. Your Daughter is very beautiful and just signifies the power of Love and truth.

[@COURTSamaziing]

they are PRECIOUS!! no wonder they have a precious daughter

[@areldia7287]

A Zoom meeting would do well to discuss biracial life globally. You all have such great attitudes. Please think about having a larger forum inviting others to chime in. Having biracial nieces and nephews and also living in AZ which has a very large population of biracial people. Please consider a Zoom or Streamyard that will convert to possible meet and greet once the Rona is a memory.

[@lizcoleman5229]

Great video. I'm biracial also and it's interesting to hear other biracial families speak about their experiences. I also consider myself both black and white.

[@inci113]

It’s SO GREAT to see such a STRONG family! Your story is a variation on a theme of my story! Kudos to y’all!

[@lezzulee]

Great conversations.. Dad's exceptance laid the ground work for this success story💯❤️

[@MarthaMessage]

In america do those forms make you choose between black or white? In the uk there's always a few 'mixed' boxes i.e. 'mixed white and black caribbean' which I always pick.

[@mayacordalia]

Caribbean is not a race. While the Caribbean is predominantly made up of black people, we have white, indian and chinese descents.

[@puffymuffin9064]

I just said that in a comment

[@selinaBARMAR2565]

@@mayacordalia Caribbean of course is a region, with Island nations. Within those islands there has been more than 500 years of history of mixing amongst Natives, Africans, Spanish, French, Arab, Asian Indian and Chinese, Jews, and Middled Easterners. While the region's nations are dominated by African heritage, Cuba, Puerto Rico and Dominican Republic, have a lot of Spanish heritage mixed with African and Native. In Jamaica, there are some who are clearly mixed with the Caribs, the natives of the region. It's a big MIX. Unlike the United States, the Caribbean identifies more with the mixed roots.

[@marthawarrington7748]

The western world is so obsessed with skin color that it is sickening, You are a beautiful family and that's what matters. God created ALL colors and colors combined are beautiful

[@deemaverick987]

The entire world is. Get over yourself.

[@Victor-Goncalves]

HAHAHAHAHAHA!!! I assume, Martha, you've NEVER been to the eastern world then.

[@marthawarrington7748]

@@Victor-Goncalves no. I am from the Caribbean. And get mostly American news unfortunately. Sometimes British news to on BBC . But I hate racism, it's a satanic trait. Fortunately I didn't have to deal with that shit growing up. Skin color just determine the amount of melanin one possesses. I call myself melanin chocolate. Won't exchange that for no other complexion, for I am beautiful and wonderfully made in God image and likeness

[@worldhealthrn]

The Caribbean??!! And you didn't have to deal with color??!!!! Colorism is non-existent in the Caribbean???... maybe you just mean you didn't have white people in your face daily, but their legacy and influence and perspective is there...among blacks, Asians, and Indians

[@beaujac311]

@@marthawarrington7748 You must be one of them Sammy Sosa type Caribbeans.

[@misswogdaily2344]

Wow I love this family! Mom and dad are so relaxed and so chill . Their personalities help children to grow up to be confident in who they are and secure

[@prislaem3838]

Your father looks so young though! both of your parents are gorgeous!

[@brendapaul5950]

Hey Dad, You are lovingly unaware of racism and yet you are in a loving, long term marriage with a dark skin woman (as I am) who owns her blackness by being herself. When white people say they don't see color, I always thought it was a bunch of nonsense. You, Sir, have made me re-evaluate my thought. It's clear that you simply love your wife and your lovely girls. If you had had a son, I think that you/dad would have been forced to engage in a different way with a mixed son, especially if he had more of mom's complexion. I just admire that you are in a long term and healthy marriage with strong commitment to family values. Blessings!

[@rebeccasmith1008]

No, your first thought was right. Until white supremacy is dismantled race and color will always be a thing.

[@jeffsommer7004]

@@rebeccasmith1008 Fake news. Your a victim, blame yourself. kzbin.info/www/bejne/rIC4nmqChNOqp9k

[@Antikia]

Her dad is from a different generation so his answers are gonna reflect that, I think it's beautiful that he found a woman he loves and had kids, if everyone was like your dad the world would be a better place.

[@beaujac311]

Antikia:. I'm from that same generation so that won't fly.

[@curlrockincrazy455]

I love you guys! Reminds me of my family. Race was honestly never talked about, so I had no clue. And I have experienced some things, but I know myself and see each person for who they are. I’m proud to be mixed! I love different cultures. It’s most important to be a good person, and protect yourself from the bad. I think you guys good beautiful people❤️

[@lorebay2593]

Just like her dad, but has melanin and mom’s hair, definitely a mixture of them both. Ahh sweet they been together 30 years.

[@VM.medias]

Your dad is an awesome man his answers are so genuine and straight forward. Your mom is incredible too. Well done

[@pgirl9959]

Not "hang from the nearest tree" 😭😭😭😭 Your combo😍😍 Aren't genes AMAZING!!

[@88ashjen]

Ok, my daughter is biracial (black and white) I love your hair!! My daughter and son's texture came out the polar opposite! She has wavy and straight hair and my son's hair coily hair (his hair is long). I love it though. I love how different they are even from each other. She also has the same colored eyes as you that change to blue and gray often but mostly green.

[@johnhaymer5056]

Thanks for the video. I seem to be coming across so many different types of videos since I am trapped by this pandemic. Just constantly coming across subjects I have never seen before here on KZbin. Again thank you so much. You are a very pretty and intelligent person. Stay strong

[@edvh88]

“You are a person” I love your mom so much!! Your dad too. Great examples.

[@TansieStephens]

Oh my goodness 😍 Your parents remind me of mine... especially your dad! He looks like my dad, talks like my dad, and wears similar types of t-shirts. My mom also sports her afro all the time 😍 This is so nice!❤

[@beaujac311]

Tansie Stephens:. Was your dad as oblivious to race as hers?

[@oliviaeverett9880]

What a beautiful family and you guys show the love and the strength in your family. There is so much easy and comfort in your dialog as well.

[@megshawskitchen]

I smiled the whole time watching this beautiful love story. So inspiring to know that love always wins

[@deewescott2505]

Love your dad, he loves his family and did not care as he was happy with his family. Love your mom also. You guys were balance