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[@stephaniesommer7336]

Hello all, this is Mom. Thank you for watching the video and getting some insight into our family. Some of you were concerned by Dad's obliviousness to our racial dynamic. He really isn't. He knows there is more to me and the girls than just being his. Though being his is his main concern. He does not care what others think but as any husband and father, would give his life for ours. The girls are loved and encouraged. They were disciplined and guided. Taught not to be victims and never let anyone hold you down not even us. They have been enlighten about their ancestry; African, Choctaw Indian, German, Irish-both sides, English and a few others. The dynamic is great. I pray every child has these blessings. We all God's children made in his image, of one blood. Love one another as he are loved.

[@michelebradley7813]

Your husband seems like a really great husband & father. It's obvious that he respects & loves all of you guys, period. You're all Blessed🙏🏽❣

[@anonymousprivet1227]

@Stephanie His love for his family is not at question. Him showing no concern of a plight that adopted him via your children is concerning. Unfortunately many Afro-Centric women/males bury the reality of who they are once they form relationships outside of their ancestry. Then forming an overflow carrying a nonchalant mentality that affects/effects their spouses and children. Also, we did not establish the definition Black. You still use the terminology but now want to limit it when it comes to your children.

[@darleneroberson8146]

Stephanie Sommer ...Amen!

[@staceylosa9355]

There is no concern with Dad, he was raised like I was, meaning not to focus on race. It really never stuck with me when I was growing up, I just saw people as people

[@mikeweber6565]

@@anonymousprivet1227 no one asked you what you think.

[@lee48lee68]

Her dad keeps saying his answers are boring but his answers show how truly accepting, confident and loving he is. He doesn’t care what other people’s opinions are about his family. Not boring at all. Just a man who loves his family.

[@faithbutler1225]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼 yeeesssssss! I feel like that's what really matters!!

[@edvh88]

It’s nice to just see people love people as people, for who they really are, beyond their physical presentation. Yes we live in a complex society seriously impacted by the concept of race, but how nice to just see two people who fell in love and had a family. And luckily, were not intimidated or shunned or otherwise penalized by their communities.

[@cuquee12]

@@edvh88 Amen!

[@soniagrant8331]

I agree, I think he is awesome!

[@prettypoppin_552]

Don't be so sure. She literally made a video calling him a bigot and airing him out as a racist, but I guess they're working on their relationship now

[@ellamaariie]

Your voice would literally be PERFECT for voice-acting on a children’s cartoon like SERIOUSLY

[@YouAlreadyKnow8424]

Someone stated in another video that she sounds like Velma on Scooby Doo.

[@colorfulcodes]

so true.

[@JT-dj9vx]

So true!

[@noneofyourbusiness302]

Yes, a very sweet, soft voice 😍

[@sharjjahnaziz4122]

I said the same thing as well.

[@garydomaz1849]

I feel for your father. He hates being asked about race. He loves his wife and kids and that’s it.

[@faithbutler1225]

❤❤❤❤❤ yes!

[@ksam5673]

That's true. He's a decent man for sure but a bit toooo oblivious to reality in a sense.

[@cryforthemoon]

Well, to be fair white parents raise their white kids telling them "everyone is the same inside" as their way to combat racism. White people were taught it is more polite to not talk or ask about race. Because if you see differences some how that is racist? That's where you get the "I don't see color" comments lol I think this explains her dad's answers.

[@mrslavanderblu]

cryforthemoon Ugh, so true! My husband is white and I am black. It annoys me to no end that he claims not to see race. I do feel it’s a defense mechanism to avoid reality. Race needn’t divide people, but acknowledging there are different peoples and cultures is the first step to truly understanding each other and building community.

[@nyembsafric1]

@Biracial Butterfly 🤮

[@polisigh216]

I also think having both your parents in your life makes it easier to claim your biracial heritage.

[@saintnicole3209]

Ricki B. It's not every biracial kid, just the biracial kids that have pressure from members on both sides of the family forcing them to "choose a side". The more that interracial couples educate their family members and don't force an identity on their children the less children will go through that.

[@MyaVatMii]

Why would that make it easier?

[@saintnicole3209]

Mya Vat proof

[@pianoninja5276]

Sorry but u Couldn’t be more wrong 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@prue3318]

I don't even know what bi racial mean until im 34 and know about meghan markel.i know about mix children but in my country or in my village they is realy special in positive thing ,is more easier for them become model or actress .realy is not big deal.

[@butterflybei265]

You literally look like a girl version of your dad with your mom's hair

[@flyleelee5351]

💯💯

[@blessingike7004]

U put into words what I was thinking!

[@2paranoid2think]

but mom's face shape, so cute

[@noneofyourbusiness302]

I think genetics is amazing 👏 If your mom and dad had 10 children, maybe 4 would be light skinned, 3 dark, 3 a beautiful Carmel color. I did family tree dna, it was amazing 👏 I am white, but 49% British, 35% Scandinavian, 11 Finnish, 3% Turkish 2 % Italian. I love to know where my parents came from. I long to know their stories. But, at least I know where they came from and who I am. But, you can be who you want to be no matter where your ancestors came from. As in, you can like the things you like, golf, skiing, or swimming for example. Being good to everyone is the way to live🥰😍🤩 Love to all xoxoxo

[@michelebradley7813]

BEAUTIFUL❣

[@lauraredd614]

Your dad is the most dad type of dad that has ever daded And I highly enjoyed it💕

[@t.h.8475]

He is very dad like.

[@CosmicEremite]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 total dad vibes

[@TrievaTheDiva]

I love that Dad corrected that! He had Black and white daughters! She is biracial not Black.. it's clearly visible..

[@leaholiver9418]

Biracial people only claim their blackness when its convenient.

[@loveprevails7080]

Leah Oliver well they can claim both because obviously they're both.

[@anniebanana3698]

@@leaholiver9418 That's an insane thing to say. Oftentimes, society puts us in a box. For me, because I am more racially ambiguous, unless the person was black or had seen a lot of black people, I was put in a lot of other boxes before being seen as black. My whole life, all I have wanted is to be seen as both (not one or the other).

[@sasshil4202]

love prevails of course they can claim both. Word to take into account is *convenient* ,Leah Oliver isn’t wrong. However not all biracials do this.

[@Nenebackat-it]

It’s not because black people can look anyway and so can people mixed with black because of her hair people would think she’s a lightskind black person.

[@cjzanders5430]

@1:40 - “They’re my kids. I don’t care if they’re purple.” Her dad says this with a purple Thanos character on his shirt. I already love this guy. 😂✊🏾

[@blkluv100]

His obliviousness is idiotic and selfish.

[@phil6748]

june bug don’t be so triggered

[@brosplit]

@Mikayla Raymond hypocrite. it is ignorant to actually ignore ones heritage.

[@plantmessiah]

@Mikayla Raymond You sound like a complete fool, PERIOD.

[@fxjrulpzxi]

Bro Split exactly, just like it’s ignorant to ignore and trash HIS! 👋🏼

[@MsLhuntMartinez79]

Dad is chill. All his answers are so laid back. Mom is DOPE! Great folks

[@daintyflygirl4va]

Where is she frm?She looks like a Pacific Islander(Melanesia )

[@cfoster6804]

Yeah her mom is awesome. Wise woman.

[@sexysitch3255]

Too many comments here are trying to dictate what race she is or isn’t. She is biracial; she is also black, she is also white. She can choose to identify however she wants and it is quite frankly no one else’s place to judge or have an input. Worry about your own identity, not hers.

[@beaujac311]

Erika D:. I've read just about every comment and I hardly saw any that tried to dictate her race. I saw way too many that tried to let her father off the hook when it came to acknowledging race.

[@goncalo.ferreira]

@@beaujac311 who cares. Care about your own self leave that dad alone weirdo lol

[@goncalo.ferreira]

Everyone is an expert in social studies nowadays lmao fuck off no one likes to hear an opinion from an ignorant teen

[@selinaBARMAR2565]

Well said! We can't tell people who they are. Many have not even figured out who they are as a person, much less carrying around a measuring device to determine one's degree of whiteness or blackness.

[@beaujac311]

@@selinaBARMAR2565 If her dad wasn't so opposed to recognizing that his daughter was having identity issues she probably would have never had them. Talking about race to him is like stepping on the third rail. She wanted to be assured by her dad that she was alright but he would not venture there.

[@teahgurl]

Her being biracial- Black and White is not a phenomenon. Idk why it’s such a big deal to y’all below. Being multicultural is amazing be whatever it is. Racism has mental impaired us.

[@edvh88]

Just shows how important it is to have parents who are so grounded and loving, discuss stuff but also don’t let it define them.

[@newnana9070]

Racism cripples peoples relationships with their own families. It’s on us to stop the madness. Theses last few days has shown us this isn’t working at all and people are tired.

[@NicciGemz]

It isn't, but you'd be surprised how many heads are blown when family members dont seem to match. People will approach women moreso than men, and ask rude questions and make rude comments. People of all shades really should be normalized at this point, but sadly, to many, they are not. I appreciate her and her parents for being willing to talk about the contrast of experiences even within their household.

[@jrene9833]

Thank you!

[@patriciaforbes4562]

Thank you for being candid

[@MzPrttylilMagnolia11]

Your face when your dad asked what guy asks for you to pay his bills.. ooh sir if you only knew. 😒🙄

[@IamBrendaMarie]

You meet them online and they want you to send them stuff and you are not even sure if they exist. No video chat nothing 😂😂😂🤣

[@coronavirus5738]

😆😆😆😆😆😆

[@coronavirus5738]

@@IamBrendaMarie some do video chat with you and still need you to send money instead of wanting you for love.

[@daughterofzion8452]

The males of today act so effeminate it's gross, these males literally want to be treated like women.🤢🤮

[@VeryKinkyCurl]

MzPrttylilMagnolia11 right!! Lol

[@mysticalchile]

Listen, your dad just know that he liked your mother and asked her out. No thought behind it. He had daughters with his wife and that's just it. I nearly died when he said he thought the one-drop-rule was in reference to food. lol This man just lives his life, loves who he loves, and keeps it pushing.

[@frowniebrown86]

He was sitting there trying to figure out how to answer the question, thinking it was about the 5 second rule 😂 wholesome.

[@deedledumb790]

I have a white husband and I empathise with how your dad is reacting. White men especially, never had to think about race because they are THE standard, the default. I asked my husband once, ''when do you remember meeting your first black person and thinking about race?'' His answer was 11 years old. They just grow up in a different reality where no one questions their intelligence, their status as a law-abiding citizen, their right to be in any space or their right to just exist. He obviously loves you and your family and seems like a real chill dude. Lots of love to you all.

[@kleedasantos3236]

NEWS FLASH; the majority of Black people don't have to worry about those things such as status as law abiding citizen🙄 If you look at overall statistics it will show how black people are treated in very similar way to white people in that regard, EVEN though black males commit more than 50% of violent crimes while only being less than 6% of the population.

[@salkisresmedicinalwisdom3291]

Straight up facts

[@SharmaineJoyel]

Thank you again to Mom and Dad for wanting to do this and help answer some of your questions 💕 Yes, my dad and I had a huge disagreement months ago but have been working on our relationship and better understanding each other, this being one of those things. I hope this video provides an interesting view of one interracial couple. Thank you 💕

[@juliettewilson4589]

Love your channel. No american is fully black or even fully white. If you look into your history only 90 years ago majority would be classed as mulatto. Mulatto means mixture... Mixture of African ,Native American and English, Irish and scottish celtic decent. That is the united states as america. So, as a nation you havent been taught properly about the heritage of the united states of america. 4% of "white" americans have african heritage... Thats because they come from years of mixture 3 or 4 generations of mixure of one black and one native american white europeans .... Thats is what you called the white man. So, futhermore 300 years its just a mixture of people. Therefore, mulatto was taken away from you as an identity but thats what americans are by heritage and decent ... Even if not visible or even on a dna test. Which arent accurate, but partically. 😊

[@d.alexis4056]

@@juliettewilson4589 this whole essay😂😂 true tho everyone got a little something extra in them they just dont wanna believe it. we all started in egypt anyways

[@juliettewilson4589]

@@d.alexis4056 my lovely. We did not all start in Egypt unless you are Egyptian. American people ... Are of west african decent (not east nor north majority if they are decent is from slavery), you are also of native american and english, irish and scottish decent. Absolutely everyone who is native to north america are these things. You are a product of mixing of these people, nationalities and decent. That is your heritage. You dna is and is different to your heritage and in turn both are different to your identity.

[@d.alexis4056]

@@juliettewilson4589 im talkin about how they found the oldest human bones in Egypt

[@juliettewilson4589]

@@d.alexis4056 There's a tribe in sub- saharan that has the oldest dna traces in the world and they look like a mixture of African and Asian. Sorry, I can't remember the name of the tribe but I'll link a video that discuss this and the origin of Asian People as a whole connecting to Africa. kzbin.info/www/bejne/jam3n4mNnLR6gsU

[@VeryKinkyCurl]

You look just like your dad with your mother beautiful crown of hair. I like your parents ALOT 🤗.

[@SweetLady095]

Very KinkyCurl That’s interesting. To me, she looks like her mom with a slimmer nose.

[@godsdaughter1962]

I was thinking she looks more like her father, too. She does have her mom's beautiful crown of hair. I think that her sister looks more like her mom.

[@callalilly7xh]

I'm sorry but mixed and biracial women are soooo much more better on the eyes than their dark ashy counterparts. Lol.

[@ipulchritudinous2484]

@@callalilly7xh typical naker trying to pit black women and mixed women against each other with your colorist and featurist bullshit Lol, it won't work here bitch. Joyel and neither does her sister date ashy ass colorist conquered nakers *LMAO,* Joyel is with an Asian and her sister is with a *BRAD👨🏼.* your bullshit doesn't work here nigga.

[@ihavenoenergyforyall]

@@callalilly7xh bitch get your ugly broke ass off this video with your trolling toxic ass

[@SophiaLovella]

my mom is black and dad is white too, and its the less common combo. It's just cool to see someone else who has that too. much love

[@idioyjohnathon2054]

Same

[@jxzminn7897]

Sameee

[@chalkzone0]

Same

[@amandaparfait9468]

Man I'm trying to be as unbothered to the hate & negativity in the world as your dad is 😂😂😂 love this video. Beautiful family ❤

[@beaujac311]

Amanda Parfait:. He's not unbothered he's ignorant. Or at least tries to be.

[@atrueblessing2166]

It’s not hard to do 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@furrsmith8131]

beaujac311 how can you call someone’s father ignorant on their own page??? Makes no sense and it’s soooo rude!!!!

[@beaujac311]

@@furrsmith8131 I call them as I see them. He's very blissfully ignorant.

[@beaujac311]

@kayemen415 When I say ignorant, I mean he ignores it because he doesn't want to deal with it. I agree with you that when you are born white in the USA you don't have to worry what anybody says because you have privilege. If you are black people will make you aware of it every day.

I love that her dad plays her videos all day. That’s so sweet

[@purplegirl8036]

"He never asked me to pay his rent or give him gas money," "why would a guy ask that?" take notes fools.

[@fran791]

Those damn dusties

[@rayb5069]

Why would a woman or a man ask anyone to pay for HIS/HER rent or give HIM/HER gas money for HIS/HER car? Hopefully, ALL people will take notes and not purchase things they simply cannot afford. 😁✌🏾

[@innal4363]

Purple girl What guys asked that black guys. She should have included who.

[@60sAmethyst]

@@rayb5069

[@cherishtheday5450]

She’s referring to black American men doing music 🤣

[@mamawatorotalks8208]

This Dad is my husband he is just raising his child with love. That love carried their child through life

[@LadyDeevs]

Your mom has such a sweet, calming voice!

[@Dukie_2]

She is a very calm woman, and powerful too!

[@eyeofeye]

I am black and my husband is white and I bet we're about the same age as your parents. I am currently watching this video and when your mom talked about white women's reaction to her and your dad I laughed so hard because it is identical to my experience. I have 3 sons by the way ages 25,17 and 13. I really loved this video.

[@peace4naturals]

eyeofeye do you think it’s different for you and your husband raising boys? Do you think your husband answers would have been different? Just curious!

[@eyeofeye]

@@peace4naturals not really,my husband is also aware of what our boys would go through because of the way they may be perceived and we talked about the issues of privilege and how their dad is treated ( when not with us) versus how they may be treated by others. Ultimately we too teach the boys about all aspects of their heritage, that race is a social construct and that we are all human beings with unique backgrounds.

[@cindygodiah8022]

Your dad is a positive person

[@CrystalM1917]

He is positive....but he is also completely out of touch....because he can afford to be. His demeanor in this video is a great example of white privilege at work.

[@Coilygirl1]

@@CrystalM1917 I was about to type this but decided to read the comments first. He is a perfect example of white privilege. He gets to be oblivious to black issues which are his wife and daughter's issues. I think it would have been nice for him to be more in tune.

[@13579hee]

@@Coilygirl1 exactly!!!!!!!! I was about to say the EXACT same thing

[@GirlDo3]

@@Coilygirl1 I don't understand how you can be a familly man and not give af about your famillies struggles.

[@CrystalM1917]

@Andrea Mendenhall 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@HeyitsKimberlee]

This is a great video! I think you’re dad was probably thrown off by such in depth questions. At the end of the day, he now has had the opportunity to know more about the different experiences you’ve had growing up through your lens vs his.

[@coronavirus5738]

Mom hair is flourishing...it has grown so much since you and sis did her big chop!...Dad was awesome🌸🌺🌷🌹❤

[@katrinaecoleman]

Topic: Discipline Dad: If you don't do it as a parent...the police will. FACTS!!!

[@beaujac311]

Datrina Coleman:. But what if the police stop your child for DWB (driving while black). Those cops will see a black woman not a biracial woman and treat her accordingly.

[@rebeccaspratling2865]

@@beaujac311 yes I don't think he gets it. He's only aware of his own perception and probably thinks everyone has the same perception as him. 😑

[@jeffsommer7004]

@@rebeccaspratling2865 Your probably only aware of your own perception also. I don't think you get it either.

[@valerienardini6244]

When her mom answers the question about black culture and she’s says “lawyers, doctors, scientists” 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@carmeld45]

The one drop wasn't our rule...Great response Mom.

[@E.O8765]

@Dream Dream Serene That doesn't mean they are black though. They are still both. In this case black and white. There is nothing wrong with that so in claming both parts.

[@alexhoward1884]

@@E.O8765 People conflate black ad a race, sub-Saharan Africans, and black as an ethnicity, a social construct like the culture of African Americans. Plenty of mixed people are ethnically black. You can't take away from them just because of their mixed ancestry. Its ignorant to do so.

[@E.O8765]

@@alexhoward1884 I am not taking away her blackness everywhere in the world except the States they consider mixed people As mixed. Like they are. Why should I claim them as black and ignore their white side? Isn't that ignorant? Being fully black and being half black are two different things especially in the States where there is a lot of colorism. You are confusing ethnicity with race, that is very ignorant. Race is like being black or white, ethnicity is like being african-american. Biracial (with black and white) are half black. Period.

[@E.O8765]

@Jade Star What? All shades of brown? Tf?. I know that the concept of race was invented by the white man but that has nothing to do with what I was saying. In 2020 we consider white people caucasian and black people that have to parents of full african descent. I know for a fact that even black people claim biracial as fully black. Barack Obama is the prime example. He is biracial but black and white people view him as a fully black person. Especially in the States Lol. Outside is different.

[@kenithbalhan5779]

@@E.O8765 Not getting involved in an argument or anything. Just want to state that everyone is a shade of brown. In class my students were recreating their skin tones out of playdough and in order to create all of their shades (white children included) they had to use brown as well and of course brown comes from all of the primary colors being mixed over and and over. So at the end of the day we technically are all shades of brown. Some of us just add white to subtract pigment and others have to add more color for darker tones.

[@simpleeazy1018]

She moves her mouth just as her dad . Def his child 💕

[@julieallen5212]

Your dad 😂 he's like race, what race? A foot race?

[@ItsSonya94]

OMG. Your mom reminds me so much of my mom. She's so aware, so woke, kind, very smart and thoughtful. Your dad is blissfully oblivious but not in a mean spirited or privileged way. In his mind, this is his family. He chose his wife. He loves her. He loves the kids they had togetgher. The end. He doesn't care how the world or anyone else views him or his family. Which is admirable. But I can also see how his blissful ignorance can cause problems or issues in certain situations.

[@pacificodelnorte6628]

He is privileged to be able to be "blissfully ignorant" about race issues when it comes to his wife and daughters. As a white man living in America, he personally doesn't have to think about race. He can navigate through the world, and obviously has, virtually unscathed by his race. I was surprised though that he was as unaware as he was. I noticed that he too was a little surprised, and even felt a little embarrassed himself, at how oblivious he was of some of the racial experiences his wife and daughters faced. I clearly see it was not intentional on his part. It just was not on his radar for whatever reasons...his privilege. Well, he's awake/enlightened now! You live. You learn. Right, Alanis Morrissette?

[@ItsSonya94]

@@pacificodelnorte6628 you are right. His privilege ALLOWS him to be blissfully ignorant. Great point. 👍🏾

[@beaujac311]

@@pacificodelnorte6628 You can tell by his response it was very intentional. He just did not want to deal with race.

[@marilynharris4831]

I think the Dad should educate himself. I feel he should have at least been familiar with the one drop rule.

[@marilynharris4831]

Obama is referred as the first black president because of the one drop rule also because you are perceived as what you look like and he doesnt look white

[@JermaineAuNatural]

I love this dynamic. Dad being white makes a difference in his experience and views but his ability to love y’all is beautiful. That holler your mom made when you said you were asked what’s the rest of you?😹😂🤣🤣 it’s funny when parents find out things kids experienced at school and some of the things kids say to kids. I enjoyed this.

[@onedollarbleach6891]

Biracials w black Mom’s are the best! They’re always in-tune and balanced within their cultures, and for the most part non-toxic ❤️❤️❤️

[@Naturalista91]

I know, right! Often it's such a difference

[@ChloeCapri1]

Have either one of your parents changed after doing this video with you? Please do a follow-up. I’m Black and my daughter is multiracial, but she’s very light with blondish loose curls. I live in a predominantly Black neighborhood and I already see that even as a child her color and hair are constantly the topic of conversation! This video taught me the importance of not ignoring her differences but helping her understand them.

[@ImmanuelaBribena]

4:32 I forgot I even asked that question, lol. My heart jumped when I heard my name, I was like "What did I do?" 😂

[@aurelea2153]

🤣🤣🤣

[@ImmanuelaBribena]

@Yvonne Blake Um she asked for us to send in questions and I did just that! I obviously wasn't expecting him to be like "Well they don't have my skin colour, so I rejected them". They're 100% his kids and 100% beautiful just the way they are. I have seen how some biracial women aren't really accepted by both sides, or are accepted by one side and rejected by the other side (Which was also talked about in the video btw). I just wanted to know how he felt about the stigma surrounding his children. And how he prepared his heart to protect his kids against the hate (e.g the weird stares they would receive in public or being called octopus head, which was also discussed in the video). I'm glad she has such an amazing dad, his answers were the best. So no, my question was not "ridiculous".

[@_mmhmm_270]

Yvonne Blake hush its a question

[@stephpowell7648]

THAT'S RIGHT DAD 👏👏👏👏👏👏They're Black AND White!

[@PHlophe]

you have looks similar to my baby daughter

[@teahgurl]

Find that on an application lol

[@MCMLXXXIX1989]

@@teahgurl You can choose more than one race on an application.

[@beaujac311]

Steph Powell:. But dad doesn't believe that because he doesn't recognize race.

[@parisperier4207]

teahgurl I’m biracial and put both on every application I apply to. We have the best of both worlds, get over it. Don’t be hypnotized by the government.

[@a.treasure...]

I think your dad is so sweet and a pure soul. This is how you should be if we lived in a perfect world..... But since we're not ...this is why these uncomfortable conversations need to happen, so many people are genuinely clueless about the difficulty of the everyday life of people different from what they know... You can't change what you don't know.

[@cuquee12]

Thank you Joy-el and thank you to your parents! I know these topics are not easy and you are very brave as YT comments can get very interesting. I believe Joy-el you are an amazing lady. I just began to watch your videos and I can tell your parents truly love you. It's apparent that you yourself have never had these convos with your parents. I hope this opened a door for more conversations with your parents. I think honestly, your parents are of a different perspective because they were just raised differently. Thank you for sharing with us. You guys are a loving family! ❤❤

[@A_J___]

I like the question of culture. You can look one way but what CULTURE do you identify with? To me culture is about these things: 1. Who you spend your time with 2. How you talk around other people (language, vocabulary, slang, vernacular accent, etc.) 3. Religious beliefs 4. Moral beliefs 5. What you do for entertainment/leisure 6. What you do for work 7. How you enact and respond to social cues 8. Behaviors related to physical appearance It's also important to understand that your culture is BEYOND RACE and stronger than race. Think about it. An African American and European American set of friends may have more in common culturally than an African American and a Nigerian even though the AA and Nigerian are the same race.

[@eka-eteololade710]

You forgot the food aspect. Do they eat Okra soup?

[@agresticumbra]

Can’t speak for the family, but I prefer okra fried, not in soup - and I’m a soup lover!

[@bettysally237]

I can answer that when people falls in love with some one color is not a issue because they just sees that person

[@leelee-ht4vi]

That's true Betty Sally. My late husband was white and I only saw him as my husband. Not my white husband.❤

[@yolandagomez1168]

Your Dad is so laid back, and I can see he is a big guy. So no one probably dared to say anything about his black family. That I can see there is love there.

[@beaujac311]

So you think that a big mean black man married to a white woman will stop people from saying anything about them? If you do I have that proverbial bridge in Brooklyn for sell.

[@nomalangak]

I remember my daughter coming home distressed because she didn't look like everyone at school. I told her its because she was special, she asked me why and i told her because she was golden and that was the end of that. Phew! she loved everything about herself after that, knowing her thats what she told her school mates. I am forever grateful to her school environment as well because it takes a community to raise a child.

[@LadyShyye]

I grew up like your mom. I used to get teased for speaking properly. I was accused of " acting" white because my accent was not one of slang. My parents are from Georgia but don't have that heavy twang. I was raised in south Florida and our last neighborhood was all white and we were the first black family there. My mom is lighter than Joy-el and always thought to be hispanic.

[@naomidoner9803]

I'm from south Florida too... but now in Jacksonville... I just wanted to comment about your use of proper speech... I think it's funny and irony because I can't understand half of what my Caucasian grandchildren say because they "talk black" and my 2 mixed granddaughters read early and speak properly because they have a fantastic black mother who teaches them... I'm old now I thought the black/white racial issues were getting better but some from both sides will just never stop trying to group us by color and yet both sides adopt the cultural norms of the other such as speech, dress,...

[@marinahernandez7103]

You look just like your dad❤️

[@worldhealthrn]

Thank goodness your Mom married someone who loved her for her and did not get caught up in foolish thinking. She is the smartest person on you tube and a beacon of light for many women as far as I'm concerned. And she and your dad have set you up to know how to recognize love and not be too foolish to accept it. What a wonderful family legacy you are continuing 🤗

[@MeeksLp]

I loved this video I'm mixed race too I was born in the U.K where I believe was easier than being mixed in the states but I was a 70's kid and there were only 2 mixed kids in my year group luckily she was a girl too and we became best friends because we looked so similar massive afros that meant we really stuck out. My mum was white and dad black my mum had no knowledge of how to care for my hair and it was basically an afro unless our black neighbors braided it for me. I grew up mainly happy but until high school most of my friends were white and I sometimes wished I was too. My parents were not good at teaching us self esteem and to be proud and happy to be mixed I can see you didn't have that problem. My mum's family especially her mother never really excepted us as her grandchildren she kinda just tolerated us which hurt alot. Anyway enough rambling you are awesome so glad I found you. Sending love from England xxx

[@gracecallowayable]

Your dad is so down to earth!!! And your mom keeps the family grounded!!! Beautiful!!!🧡🧡🧡

[@LeanneAmaning]

“the only thing he wants to do with me is hang me from the nearest tree” i am absolutely screaming

[@AllIAm1]

He was shook when she said that and she was so unbothered lmaoo

[@misswogdaily2344]

Wow I love this family! Mom and dad are so relaxed and so chill . Their personalities help children to grow up to be confident in who they are and secure

[@fadumomohamednur1266]

I love your parents and your dad is so innocent I can see how disturbed he looked about your experience with racism in school. I think its important more than ever to remember that no matter what you are, what you do people will always have something to say. I am so glad I came across your channel! Love you girl

[@randomgirlontheinternet404]

Your dad is such a dad. Thank you for doing this. What a lovely family!

[@marthawarrington7748]

The western world is so obsessed with skin color that it is sickening, You are a beautiful family and that's what matters. God created ALL colors and colors combined are beautiful

[@deemaverick987]

The entire world is. Get over yourself.

[@Victor-Goncalves]

HAHAHAHAHAHA!!! I assume, Martha, you've NEVER been to the eastern world then.

[@marthawarrington7748]

@@Victor-Goncalves no. I am from the Caribbean. And get mostly American news unfortunately. Sometimes British news to on BBC . But I hate racism, it's a satanic trait. Fortunately I didn't have to deal with that shit growing up. Skin color just determine the amount of melanin one possesses. I call myself melanin chocolate. Won't exchange that for no other complexion, for I am beautiful and wonderfully made in God image and likeness

[@worldhealthrn]

The Caribbean??!! And you didn't have to deal with color??!!!! Colorism is non-existent in the Caribbean???... maybe you just mean you didn't have white people in your face daily, but their legacy and influence and perspective is there...among blacks, Asians, and Indians

[@beaujac311]

@@marthawarrington7748 You must be one of them Sammy Sosa type Caribbeans.

[@ardettedorsett6329]

Thanks for the candid interview. I love how Joy-el handles her hair and her persona. You are blessed!

[@curlrockincrazy455]

I love you guys! Reminds me of my family. Race was honestly never talked about, so I had no clue. And I have experienced some things, but I know myself and see each person for who they are. I’m proud to be mixed! I love different cultures. It’s most important to be a good person, and protect yourself from the bad. I think you guys good beautiful people❤️

[@Llupe9021]

This is a regular family that happens to be biracial.

[@marajaneee]

i love how your dad was smiling when your mom was talking about how they first met haha so precious.

[@inci113]

It’s SO GREAT to see such a STRONG family! Your story is a variation on a theme of my story! Kudos to y’all!

[@breshannondevereaux7725]

Hi! I am mixed as well, with the same family dynamic. This is such a treat for me because it's more common to see white mom, black dad. I love your family! I was also told to identify as only black. I would tell them that I would NEVER exclude my father. I was BOTH whether they liked it or not! Thank you Joy-el! I feel like I have a sister in you! Great video! New sub!

[@cgreen2984]

"Time out is weak. Sometimes the lesson needs to be learned through the butt." That's right, Mom. That's how I was raised -- discipline/corporal punishment with love. I'm thankful for it everyday.

[@ChristinaWoodard1993]

I believe in discipline, but not corporal punishment or spanking. I don't believe you can beat kids in love.

[@lezzulee]

Great conversations.. Dad's exceptance laid the ground work for this success story💯❤️

[@edvh88]

“You are a person” I love your mom so much!! Your dad too. Great examples.

[@sihlem444]

I can’t get over how much your mom looks like my gran and mom...

[@kanyaflybug]

I'm sorry that happened to you...I hate that often society makes being black a bad thing... I've felt pretty bad about myself in the past but not anymore. 😊

[@coronavirus5738]

Well white and black kids gave her hell because she had the best of both worlds and wouldn't pick a side. Black kids said she wasn't black enough and white would say she's not white enough...I have a friend where both her parents dark but she came out light and kids pick on her saying she got swapped at birth. Kids learn racism at home and bring it to school.

[@kanyaflybug]

@@coronavirus5738 very true. It is something learned at home and sometimes because of the honesty thing in children, they can be crueller than adults. Again, I'm sorry for those lifehaps. But luckily, things can change and get better!

[@mave143]

You are a beautiful, black Queen!!

[@kanyaflybug]

@@mave143 so are YOU! I want us all to have this support for each other. It's SO important!!!

[@Antikia]

Her dad is from a different generation so his answers are gonna reflect that, I think it's beautiful that he found a woman he loves and had kids, if everyone was like your dad the world would be a better place.

[@beaujac311]

Antikia:. I'm from that same generation so that won't fly.

[@oldfartnewstart1928]

Your parents are delightful! Both seem so calm and happy. And you dad is verrrry funny. You lucky girl!

[@yvvetteellisonellis1252]

Your mother is super intelligent - she answered those questions open and honestly - Nice family

[@wulitatsegaye3385]

Your mother is SUCH A WISE WOMEN, as she talks, she calms the sense of the listener and your dad, is an open book......you my Dear are very, very blessed. 💋💋💋💋💋💋💚💛💖💚💛💖💚💛💖💚💛💖

[@newnana9070]

Women remember that stuff. Especially if the person is special. He seems like a man that loves from his heart. We need more people like him period. I like your parents!! Your Dad is super cool. I know about the looks you get. I have a granddaughter that looks mixed but isn’t. She got genes from 3 generations back. But she looks like her mom when she was little.

[@CRUISERJ1]

I love the Parents attitudes about all of this. Your Daughter is very beautiful and just signifies the power of Love and truth.

[@victoriamintz795]

Your dad is an awesome man his answers are so genuine and straight forward. Your mom is incredible too. Well done

[@LivingInTheShade]

Wow those questions are seriously personal.

[@brandyyolidio4213]

Aww you have your moms thick full hair, lucky you!! I love thick, lush, healthy hair😍😍😍

[@oliviaeverett9880]

What a beautiful family and you guys show the love and the strength in your family. There is so much easy and comfort in your dialog as well.

[@barbryll8596]

My best friend in grade school was biracial, but I didn't even know or think about such things. All I remember is her dad (Jamaican) made spicy delicious food and I was welcome with open arms. I think all our parents didn't make a big deal about colour in the 70's where I'm from( western Canada 🇨🇦) Joy el your parents are awsome! It was really nice to meet them together.

[@darleneroberson8146]

Why are people so hung up on the color of other people’s skin color?!!! Lord I pray for a better day.

[@sharjjahnaziz4122]

I have noticed that living here in America that Americans are so hung up skin color and race. But outside the borders of America that no one really cares.

[@myjoyquest]

It's a "marker" one that encompasses many stereotypes. Mainly for ignorant people to remain ignorant. If you're measure of a person is based on skin "color" you're as deep as a puddle. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@beaujac311]

Darlene Roberson:. Blame the black people for crossing the Atlantic and telling white people that they will work for free.

[@beaujac311]

@@sharjjahnaziz4122 Just read a US history book and you will get your answer.

[@eesmith69]

Amen, Darlene Amen!!!

[@MrSlm1982]

I can relate to your dad 100%... I'm oblivious to things, and just live life. My kids are just kids, and my wife is my wife.

[@tigerlily976]

I love you stay true to yourself no matter how many people in the comments try to force you in a box, I love that!!!

[@stephyepjio6281]

Thank you for your families honesty and your openness about being an interracial family! It’s a great video to inform people. I hope this video will help other mixed racial people and families :)

[@Ron71997]

I don't know how this was in my recommendations, just gotta say what an awesome family... your daughter is beautiful. You two brought her up so well, respect!

[@beaujac311]

Ron A:. Her father should have dealt with her race issues. That's what fathers and mothers do.

[@COURTSamaziing]

they are PRECIOUS!! no wonder they have a precious daughter

[@imBlaq]

Your dad is really a good spirited person, and a great lovely mum you have. I could see it all about love with your family, most of all it comes from your parents.GOD bless you.

[@portiawebb533]

Thanks for sharing this. Your parents are very friendly and open! 💓✨

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

Your father has the luxury and privilege of not having to contend with “race.” He was oblivious to all of the race questions. It simply isn’t accurate to say that Blacks are equally represented in all disciplines and areas of life. It would have been more accurate to say that we are the token minority in every profession and that there needs to be improvement in this area. There are still huge disparities in wealth, income, education, distribution of wealth and ownership of assets. You are a lovely family regardless of the ills of our society. Your parents are a very cute couple and I really enjoyed this video! Thank you.

[@bakarifuller88]

I think this is why so many biracial children dont know their "black" until the 💩 hits the fan. Obama had no ideal now he realizes it in full

[@tiffmonique7154]

I noticed the oblivious attitude towards race too. At first I thought I was tripping but now I see I'm not the only one to notice this too. I really love her channel and he should have been more open and honest for her.

[@napturallyyours70]

Absolutely agree with you about how oblivious her Dad was to the question of "race"! The mother knows what it feels like and also the daughter Joy-el. He will never know what it feels like to have his character, intellect, physical presence and appearance judged solely on the color of your skin.

[@tigerlily976]

We are not black so how could we know it, race has nothing to do with how you are treated, we are mixed, period!!!

[@glamgetter1910]

Tiffany Smith Same here. I was listening to the video while getting ready and I kept pausing and rewinding. It was very “all lives matter” type of thing. I don’t think he was ready. I hope he’s willing to learn.

[@palmer491]

I'm sooo jealous of your afro. And I feel like its been growing so quickly 😍

[@soniadaniel6295]

You and your parents are beautiful people and that's what matters, embracing the character of people is more important than the colour of their skin.

[@areldia7287]

Just found your channel and cannot wait to binge watch. Please be safe in AZ that Rona is crazy right now. Your parents so rock.

[@megshawskitchen]

I smiled the whole time watching this beautiful love story. So inspiring to know that love always wins

[@deewescott2505]

Love your dad, he loves his family and did not care as he was happy with his family. Love your mom also. You guys were balance

[@cfoster6804]

You're mom is a real one.💞💖 Your dad seems cool.

[@snowflake5921]

Never thought to see this upload! Very much appreciated thank you so much 😊.

[@olgamusteata134]

I love your Dad is sooo chill ❤ he loves his wife and his children and doesn't care about racial stupid questions 👊

[@jazzabd2773]

I think you have strong, wonderful and supportive parents. You are beautiful with a beautiful family too.

[@suey8227]

I love Dad in this - a fun loving goofball who just accepts things for how they are : )

[@karluslamark9321]

I just love people bcuz the UNIVERSAL MASTER GOD made us all and all colors of people are just beautiful to me!!!

[@Vernon1960]

Joy-el, I remember you referencing an issue with your father and am extremely happy to see that it has improved. We "old men" can be blessed with a bit of tunnel vision but having a little more life experience than yourself, we would love to assist you with avoiding mistakes we have either made or witnessed. We only desire your happiness and success in life!!!! This was a very interesting post and thank you for sharing.

[@ToeNailBreaker]

"..I remember filling out those forms and I would check both.." Love this Mom!

[@venusisqueen8993]

Both your parents have nice personalities. I can see how they clicked they are both very cool & laid back

[@Shomefune96]

Why do I just love these folks. Your dad, so honest, so str8 forward and so cute! And your mom as usual, just awesome. Love u guys!

[@beaujac311]

Marisa Saeed:. He's not honest at all. He just doesn't want to acknowledge that race exist. He's got them blinders on tight.

[@beaujac311]

@Andrea Mendenhall He's uptight about anyone calling his daughters black. But yet he says that he is color blind.

[@beaujac311]

@Andrea Mendenhall It's funny how when the question did anyone ever give you any funny looks he said no. He said he never noticed. The mother and daughter both shook their head yes that it happened all the time. Somebody is not being truthful and he seems to be outnumbered. And his color blindness only works when he wants it to.