QAC 41 - Am I Asexual? | Never Too Young To Know

[@MyrnNecromanson]

My mom breathed a sigh of relief when i came out as ace to her. She had just been worried that I would have sex before marriage, so....that was nice. My dad was confused, and disappointed, but mostly because he wanted to scare my boyfriend in typical dad manner by cleaning my brother's shotgun. and hey, now they arent flipping their shit, telling me to be chaste when I'm hanging out with males.

[@ErinFlatFingers]

This is a very important video. As a 15 yr old ace, I have been invalidated far too many times, and it led me to question my identity for far too long. The way you explained this made me feel so much better about my identity, I feel a lot more valid for identifying as ace now. Thank you so much!!! Happy AAW!!! :)

[@QueerAsCat]

+Erin Flat Fingers thanks for watching and happy AAW to you too! i'm glad that you feel more comfortable in your identity now. :)

[@glen2764]

This video also helped me. I am 13 and the media has been invalidating my feeling because I’m “to young”.

[@precieuse588]

happy pride month

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace???

[@celinasjourney]

At this time im a 15 year old ace "as well"

[@annzhang7127]

I've known I was panromantic asexual since eleven years old.

[@sky2068]

Me too :) I had a boyfriend when I was 11 lol. It lasted three years though so if my kid wants to date, I'll let him date.

[@yy-ws9qm]

Annie Zhang you knew your sexual preference before puberty? Sounds like bs lol

[@azaleamcpeanut484]

I needed this video. I am always having an inner conflict with myself asking myself if I'm really ace or not. I ask myself the same question addressed in the video. The first time I heard of the word asexual was when I was about 16 or 17 and I'm now 20. I'm been struggling with this for that long and not to mention my romantic attraction too but that's a whole other story. Thank you for this video queerascat 😊

[@DavidMartin-lg7tf]

Same

[@emuuya2745]

y y Puberty can start at 8years old,I think.

[@stariio3007]

I'm 13, almost 14 and it was only a few months ago when I figured out my sexuality. I was very confused at the time. I knew I didn't feel sexual attraction towards people but what really confused me was that I didn't know that there were more attractions besides sexual. A quick google search later and I found out that I was panromantic asexual! :D

[@QueerAsCat]

+Stariio w00t! another pan ace! *high fives* yeah, finding out about other, non-sexual types of attraction really helped me understand myself as well. :)

[@DavidMartin-lg7tf]

I am a young panromantic and asexual that i wonder how common that is because it seems like almost all of the people here are

[@cyriswinters5233]

@Gizmo Cat so you don't know if you're aromatic???? Sorry if that's no lt it. If you're between romantic and not romantic then you're Grey Aromatic

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace???

[@asiljanijara169]

@@mrlynx68 have you considered that maybe it isn't very helpful to question the asexuality of random aces on the internet? Just a thought...

[@Amanda-ex4sr]

When I was little I said to my mom "Mommy I never wanna have sex." She said "You'll change your mind" Me: *thinking* I don't think I will. Me now: (About 8 years later) Oh Asexuality that makes so much sense that describes me so much.

[@juniperr6530]

You know what's funny? I was fluctuating from straight, to bisexual, to gay for over a year since I didn't know who's pants I wanted to get in, turns out no one's! Thank you for making this video. I'm 13-14 in a few months-and I see people telling other young asexuals that they're too young to know if they experience sexual attraction, but aren't we always seeing people my age doing it all the time? I'll keep in mind that it might change later on in life, but right now, the asexual label fits me perfectly :)

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace now?

[@hansolbling8141]

I honestly feel like the teens is the most ideal time to understand your sexuality. In the teens where you're going through puberty and being surrounded by friends who _won't shut up_ about how hot a person passing by on the street is, being exposed to the label "asexual" could be so...amazing? It saves all the suffering of feeling weird, broken, or excluded from other people. I can say that myself tbh. I'm thankful for finding the asexual spectrum at an early age tbh. What made me realize that I was demi/grace (for now lmao) was all of my friends literally _drooling_ over how hot someone was and just not...feeling it. That was sorta my moment of realization.

[@thelredtheunready1894]

I'm actually 12 and asexual

[@prehistoricwatergun0136]

High five qolmes

[@matthewmorris7813]

Omfg me too!!

[@lidaruzicka5726]

Same

[@exactly3053]

13

[@flarabi6318]

ancala ㅁ

[@glory5792]

When someone says they're bi, no one questions it, but when I come out as aro/aco, I'm completely disregarded as too young to know. I may only be sixteen, but I've never once had a crush on someone and cannot see myself in a romantic/sexual relationship with someone in the future. Recently I've begun questioning my sexual orientation, only because of the people around me telling me what I am and am not. I had no idea how much I needed to hear your words, but I thank you so much for making this video!

[@QueerAsCat]

thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts. :) actually, bi people often face the same problem when coming out as you've described here, but yeah. i understand how frustrating and hurtful that is-- to have others tell you what you are or are not; what you can know or not know about yourself. it's offensively obnoxious and ridiculously hypocritical, among other things.

[@cyriswinters5233]

Lol I started questioning mine because my group chat all agreed that they thought I was Asexual.

[@Mistyrious]

Young biromantic asexual here: I've casually mentioned stuff on the topic of asexuality to my mother, but she is one of those "asexuality doesn't exist" people. She says it goes against biology (said the same about homosexuality when I countered, but believes in that so idk...). I'm in 8th grade and hopefully will go to boarding school. I'm pretty much planning to do a "tell and run." Come out over email or phone, and pretty much ask that if they don't accept it, ignore it and please don't try to change my mind. On a lighter note, my other idea was put Ace flags all over the house before my flight xD

[@QueerAsCat]

+Claudia Randomness the "tell and run" thing is something i've done in the past. i also like the ace flags idea lol. wishing you all the best either way! :)

[@sleepyaugust2182]

That's sad good luck

[@bloop2345]

I feel like you stole my life. This is EXACTLY what my life is right now. WHO ARE YOU?

[@ebsulem]

Edit: turning 21 soon, still asexual! Also have come to terms that I’m aromantic! Thank you for this video :) I'm 12 and I been slowly figuring out what's going on with my sexuality, all of my friends was talking about crushes and every time they ask me I always say no because it's true. They always laughed at me and thought I was saying a lie and showed or suggest some "hot" boys, or girls that I would like but I had no interest . I been going all over the Internet to figure out what was going on with me, your video really helped me :) I'm starting to know who I really am!

[@EllunaHellen]

+Emma_Blue_ 54321 UUUUUUUGH. I'm sorry about the whole crushes situation. So annoying when people don't have anything better to do than try to get you to 'admit' to liking someone, huh. Good luck figuring everything out!

[@cyriswinters5233]

Lol I swear it's like you can't not have a crush. There have been few cases where I have looked at someone and thought, "they're cute" but it's never like that. Everyone I see looks like a generic person. Even the models in magazines and commercials. Actors, artists of all kinds, they. Look. Like. Everyone. Else. Doesn't matter how they look it does nothing for me 😂

[@ebsulem]

Cyris Winters I completely agree with your point haha. Hope things work out for you, have a nice day (:

[@cyriswinters5233]

@@ebsulem you to!

[@glen2764]

I recently came out as ace at the age of 13 and I’ve never been more confident in my sexuality and you need to realize that defining your sexual identity is mainly for yourself (if you feel comfy) It’s also a very fluid thing, I can change. And thats fine! The LGBTQ+ community if for getting to know yourself better. I never knew what ace was, and one day I heard about it and I suddenly related with it. Middle school is hard with everyone pressuring you to say who you “like” and If you saw one one, they say “sure” Like why do you have to “like” someone? Ive known by the 6th grade that I didn’t feel sexual attraction and limited romantic attraction to boys. The LGBTQ+ community is just about being YOU and not what others tell you to think or love

[@SomeoneCalledDana]

Even as a non-asexual person, your explanation and advice about basing your identity off of who you are NOW was very comforting and well put, and really made me think. Thank you for this excellent video! Love this support for young queer people

[@andybee1381]

Well, I think 6 is too young to know. The average age of first sexual attraction is about 10. As an ace person, I think you can start to ID as ace at around 12 or when they go through puberty, but wait until 16 to really solidify that identity. I knew I was demi when I was 15, maybe 14, before I had even experienced sexual attraction, and just after my first romantic crush. I didn't really have any experience or personal attraction statistics to base it off of, I just knew. So I will support young aces and make sure that they feel valid, I just don't want any kids to feel like they're trapped in this label. That's just my opinion though.

[@sbcd7808]

The average age of first sexual attraction 10??? What?? But that’s so young how? when I was 10 those were not the thoughts crossing my mind. I mean I’m 14 now and they still aren’t aren’t crossing my mind but that’s not the point. 10 is so young.

[@greentea6345]

That’s interesting! I’m 13 and a Panromantic Ace. Knowing some people know at 10 makes me feel like it’s okay for me to be ace at this age.

[@cyriswinters5233]

@@sbcd7808 maybe it's where you're from. You can start to go through puberty around 10 years old (at least for girls idk about boys) when I turned 10 people started talking about getting a girlfriend or boyfriend. I'm now in middle school and dirty jokes are everywhere.

[@ToperPerson]

@@sbcd7808 Your school must’ve been as innocent as heaven

[@sbcd7808]

@@ToperPerson Amazing thing called distance ed. I stopped having to interact with people when I was 9 lol.

[@e-811]

Thank you so much for making these videos. I'm almost sixteen, I'm trans, I'm nonbinary, I'm Asian, I'm gay, and I'm probably ace, and I'm gonna keep existing for me and for people I love (and now for you) and to spite bigots.

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace now?

[@mackenzieshea4448]

Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! Thank you so much for this video. Ever since I learned what sex was I was uncomfortable with it. I thought it was just always expected in relationships, especially marriage. I always wondered if I could avoid it. I also wondered if I was the only one. I wondered how I could tell people. Then I found out what asexuality was. I was about 14 when I found out what it was, 15 when I began to identify myself as asexual. Knowing my parents, I thought they would understand. At first they seemed cool about it, but when I talked to my mom about it, she told me I was "too young to know." I hadn't even been romantically involved, how could I know. She told me she didn't want me to put a label on myself because things could change. I told her no one knows me Disneyland than I do. I also told her that when I learned about asexuality, I finally felt complete. She dropped it. When I told my dad about asexual awareness week, he laughed and said "you're kidding right? There's no such thing." That will probably be something I will deal with later. For now, I am a 16 year old ace who is wearing purple, white, black and grey ALL week. Thank you for telling me what I wish others did.

[@QueerAsCat]

+mackenzie shea thank *you* for watching and for sharing your experiences. i'm really sorry to hear about your parents' reactions and complete lack of support and understanding. i hope that they come around in time, but in the meantime stay strong! as you know, you're not alone. have a great Asexual Awareness Week! :)

[@AbiThomassings]

I'm a young ace myself. Other teens tell me I'm too young to know, including my friends.

[@doodledonutdream]

me too :/

[@cyriswinters5233]

Oof. My friends all thought I was Asexual

[@siradmin6791]

So. How are you doing now?

[@lightrayy]

Did you come out ? If so how ?

[@SadeMetsavirta]

I still don't know if I'm asexual or demisexual or whatever... I'm 22 and I've never dated anyone or done anything intimate with anyone (just kind of kissed a few people when super drunk but didn't enjoy it at all) :/ I'm so confused and feel so abnormal

[@genkichan5653]

Nothing Abnormal about that' its just proof that you're not an Animal. But Human. and everyone has their discomforts.

[@sleepyaugust2182]

Have you ever looked at someone and wanted to have sex? If do you may not be ace

[@silver5296]

@@genkichan5653 humANs aRe animaLs 😂

[@Ferndapple1024]

Thank you so much for making this video, it seriously means a lot. I realized I was asexual around 14-15, and I'm 17 now and have never been in a relationship or experienced sexual attraction, and haven't had any interest in the latter. Yet even my closest friends will tell me that "I've never been in that situation there for I can't really know" and it bothers me, but I'm not going to deny how I feel for that reason. If things change, then things change, but right now I feel comfortable in my identity :D Happy Asexual Awareness Week!!

[@QueerAsCat]

+Forest Fern happy AAW to you too and thanks for watching! ace pride FTW. :)

[@drewharris7785]

I'm 41 and I'm just now realizing I'm on the ace spectrum, still figuring it out. It's not a race; we have our whole lives to learn about who we are

[@marshalljohnblount1993]

I can out as Asexual in my early 20's but I always know I was different...You are never too young or too old to be you....

[@frickfrackthesnicksnackisb3668]

Thank you so much. I'm about to turn thirteen and have been confused as hell for the past few months. I've had so many doubts in myself about my asexuality/aromanticism and it was very fufilling to hear your words of encouragement.

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace now?

[@justaweebeatingpockyalonei3882]

Ace teen here who recently figured out their identity, THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! Your words are making me so happy. My parents are really accepting of the lgbtq+ community but im just worried they’ll say im too young

[@grim3075]

I nearly cried while watching this. Ive been questioning for 4 years now and i wasnt able to call myself ace just cause im not an adult yet and maby itll change but im so tired of constantly second guessing myself, i was finally able to tell someone i am ace today. Thank you for making me feel validated.

[@lovelyh.969]

I'm 14, I've felt like I lacked a sexuality since I was 12. But I do feel like I'm too young to know, probably because I haven't experienced an actual sexual situation to actually know if I'm ace. I know I'm ace, I just don't feel ace at all. I feel like it's not important

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace now??

[@singingsarah8133]

Thank you so much for this video. I'm young. Heck, I'm only 15, but I've finally found a word that describes how I feel inside.

[@QueerAsCat]

+SingingSarah that's awesome! so glad that you have. thank you for watching and commenting. :)

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace now????

[@RobAGabor]

I was 46 when I figured it out. I found out other people felt the way I felt, and that clued me in. We didn't have KZbin when I was 12. We had Disco and Space Invaders.

[@mon-6416]

Thank you so much for this video. I am 18 years old and I just started college. I realized I am ace about 9 months ago. Finding videos like these have helped me feel more comfortable. Athlough it is a small community, it's nice to see so many informative videos. Thanks for everything you do.

[@megan7958]

this was exactly what I was trying to explain to my mom when I came out to her, but she was too focused on the label to actually hear why I wanted it. I've been questioning everything since then, and this makes me feel a bit better. I teared up at the end of the video. thank you.

[@casiedragmire4686]

I love this video, it made me so happy to see. When I came out to my parents, they told me I was rushing into classifying myself, and that I would probably experience sexual attraction in the future. They told me I was too young to make a decisions about my orientation and that I was most likely not Asexual. Seeing this video almost made me cry tears of joy. It makes me feel so valid and happy, to know that I'm not too young to know my orientation. Thank you very much.

[@QueerAsCat]

thank you very much for your kind comment and for watching. :)

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace now?

[@feralpupboy]

This is a year old but I'm still commenting. I'm fourteen. I remember making a rough plan for my life when I was maybe six. Go through school, go to college, get a house, adopt a kid. That was my plan. My grandmother pointed out that I didn't have a boy in that plan. I told her I didn't think I wanted a boyfriend. She told me I was way too young and that one day I would find someone I love, get married, and have kids. I then realized my whole life I've been told that I would get married and have kids. But, why? What if I didn't want to? I have had similar issues over the years. When I was ten I told my sister I wanted to adopt when I got older. She highly discouraged the idea. Telling me "Oh you'll want the baby to look like you" I told her that why should I create another baby if there are perfectly good ones without homes? My sister told my parents and that idea got shot down very quickly. Did anyone else have these problems?

[@cyriswinters5233]

Lol don't worry. I got that too. I always wanted to adopt a kid, I never mentioned anything about getting married. They all thought it was just that thing that everyone went through saying "I'm never gonna get married!" But here I am at 13 almost 14 and still wanting to adopt a kid. I don't care whether I get married or not that's what I wanna do. My parents used to say "you'll find a boyfriend" because young me looked at the TV and said omg he's cute and proceeded to hug the TV. Now they say "someone" idk if they're catching on or have theories 😂 I think young me always thought "I'm gonna give the kids in orphanages a home! They need a home!" Now I have more reasoning... I don't think my parents really care whether I have kids or not but I think they would want me to.

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace now?

[@feralpupboy]

@@mrlynx68 yep, still ace as hell.

[@-bitterlemonade-9437]

This video has helped me so much. Im 13 years old and questioning if im ace or not, and im scared that im wrong because ive never been in a real relationship, ive never kissed anyone and ive definitely never had sex, but now im a lot more confident about deciding, thank you

[@mrlynx68]

Do you identify as ace now?

[@-bitterlemonade-9437]

@@mrlynx68 yep! gender fluid aro ace

[@EllunaHellen]

I was that kind of person who kept telling herself I might eventually feel sexual/romantic attraction until I was 23... then I got sick of it and was just ready to identify as aro/ace, so I did xD. I didn't know about the identity when I was a teen (I honestly don't necessarily wish I had, because even when I did find out about it, it took me a while to identify with it and it might have taken me just as long had I found out about it earlier. Might've saved the 'might be gay' confusion I had for a while, though :P), but found out about when I was 20? 21? Maybe even 22? and called myself 'possibly ace' for a while after that. So yeah. This message is important! Identify when you're ready to, whether that may be at 13 or 23 or way later, or even earlier!

[@ellygreen2850]

you are the only person that has ever said anything along these lines, thank you. This video made me so happy

[@thewomanwithnohead]

Woah woah woah, thank you for making this video ! Just ... THANK YOU ! I've watched tons and tons of videos (and articles) about asexuality, since many months ! And this is truly the first time I've felt this great and happy after that, like I'm not alone, "too young", or anything else. I'm 26 and I always knew their was something a bit "different" about my sexuality, but never told anyone. I think everyone, whatever their sexual orientation & gender should watch this video, it says everything everyone should know about. Thanks again !

[@QueerAsCat]

+ONE MINUTE VIDEOS wow, thank you for this incredibly kind comment! i'm honored this video helped you. :)

[@runire4804]

Thank you dearly for this, I've thought of myself as asexual for a while now but I've always been invalidated by my family. It makes me happy to hear that you understand, fellow ace! ^^

[@QueerAsCat]

your family will never know you better than you know yourself. whenever your family invalidates you, try to keep that in mind. :)

[@ScorpionFlower95]

Preach, preach, PREACH 💙💙💙💙

[@badgermoon101]

Thank you. This is so important, reassuring and comforting.

[@reverb6494]

As being a young(14)part of the big three(as i like to call it) that neither alot of the het or lgbtqa+ community believe in (non-binary biromantic asexual) this is extremely validating and uplifting. Thank you thank you thank you so much for this.

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace now?

[@sophiem6050]

Thank you so much for this video. I'm heteroromantic asexual and today I was feeling really bad because I have been made to second guess myself due to people telling me I'm too young or that I need to be in a sexual situation to know if I'm really asexual. This video has made me feel much calmer and confident in my sexuality.

[@lizzythewitch]

I told my mom that I think I'm ace but she keeps telling me that it's just because I'm your young but I'm 17 and most of the people my age already figuring out their sexuality. She thinks I'll feel sexual attraction to someone when I get older. I'm kinda sad because I know that she'll tell me I should go and see an sex therapist when I get older and will probably keep telling me that something is wrong... but I just hope that my predictions are wrong I hope she supports me

[@leaestheticdogo2645]

Ace dose describe be way better than any other orientation, but because of my age (14 soon 15 in 3 months), and never being in a relationship, I feel like I can't identify myself because of that. I would ask my friends but it's kinda like what if I was overreacting the whole time and feel the say way? But hopefully in the future I will understand myself more.

[@mrlynx68]

What do you identify as now???

[@amerikiwicookiecake9093]

This really helped me feel valid and like there are people like me, so thank you.

[@tessbenedict5082]

thank you. this helped me confirm my identity in being asexual!

[@squish6912]

As an aro/ace I just wanna say that there can be a deeper form of platonic love and relationships that can connect with things like sensual or physical attraction. This can lead to holding hands, cuddling, kissing, and even marriage and raising kids just as really good, warm, loving friends. I like to think of it as a super friend. You may be aro/ace if you're looking for a (platonic) relationship that revolves around warm hugs and cuddling on the couch under your favorite blanket while watching finding nemo on repeat and eating ice cream. This took me a long time to understand and I hope I can help at least one other person discover who they truly are. I love you all

[@asiljanijara169]

Thank you so much for making this video. I'm 16 and i've found that the label (panromantic) asexual describes me pretty well, but when I told my parent's they said that maybe I just hadn't found the right person jet and that I would find out if I was really ace when i was older. Hearing what you said and reading the comments was exactly the validation i needed after that. Thanks again

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace now??

[@asiljanijara169]

@@mrlynx68 jep, I'm still ace

[@asiljanijara169]

@@mrlynx68 and even if i didn't identify as ace anymore, that would have been a valid understanding of how i felt at the time. None of these categories will fit forever, they just need to fit for the moment.

[@mrlynx68]

@@asiljanijara169 thank you! I want to wear an ace bracelet because I 100% feel ace right now but I’m not sure if it may change in the future and I don’t want to make a big deal then turn out heterosexual :(

[@asiljanijara169]

@@mrlynx68 ah, that makes sense. I'm sorry if i was a bit rude earlier, I misread your comment as part of the usual acephobic reactions to stuff like this, because the 'you're to young to know' reasoning is pretty common. Have a good time and live your best ace life!

[@randomperson-fz7ne]

Thank you so much, I’ve been questioning my sexuality for a few years, seeing this video has helped me find who I am

[@lunarskys2645]

Wow- that gave me all the answers I didn't know I needed until a while ago. I feel better now. Thank you.

[@MiniNymph]

I wish I'd been able to watch videos like this before I came out. When I was ten, I thought people would be totally ok with me not wanting to ever couple up. Why the hell wouldn't they be ok with that? I was such an optimistic kid. Now I'm sort of mostly out to some people and not at all out to the rest of the people I know. Part of me wants to just go "Whhhhheeeeeeeee, look at my asexynes! I rock every sock!!!!" but then I think about how people reacted before and I decide against it. If they knew about ace culture, they would figure me out, but instead I think they assume I'm gay 'cause of all the cake jokes.

[@QueerAsCat]

+MiniNymph it really does sucks having to pick and choose who to come out to and having people make assumptions about you. can totally relate to that. :(

[@meganjones1750]

I just released so much from 2:59 - 3:24 Im currently trying to research and discover I only started yesterday but I already feel like I think Im asexual herto romantic. This problem of being young and in experienced has been on my mind and even my friends have agreed maybe Im just not ready or nervous/scared or not 1000% comfortable or confident with my intimate parts of my body. I am 17 but I do think I am asexual thank you so so much for helping me and comforting me this helped me

[@marymyers5794]

I really needed to see this video thank you.

[@QueerAsCat]

thank you for watching. :)

[@Spam.ani.salami]

im 13 and everyone I came out to told me I was too young and couldn't know so im so thankful for this!!!!

[@Spam.ani.salami]

although my parents did accept me for who I am and im so happy for them.(they also told me im too young but eh)

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace now??

[@hannahkrantz3131]

I literally cannot put in words how much this video helped me! Thank you I needed this so much!

[@chimmi.com_]

This is exactly what i needed. Im questioning myself but ive never been in a romantic/sexual relationship. I havent even reached 20 yet so this helps so much

[@turtlebugs2859]

When i was in kindergarten i had a “boyfriend”. Years later ive learned im lesbian. Ive been thinking if i was ace for awhile now. Im still 14. Ive been interested in sex, but it doesn’t sound like something i would ever do or enjoy. This video was helpful to me because I did think that i was just too young to know.

[@sophias.1459]

Thank you for making this video. I have just resently found out that I am asexual, and when I told my mom her said I was “too young to know” and that “I just haven’t found the one yet.” Which made me start to question myself

[@user-gi8zx9de3u]

Thank you so much for this video! It really did help me out and I really do appreciate seeing something like this out there, so thank you :)

[@QueerAsCat]

+blurryface thank *you* for watching and commenting! :)

[@anushkachowdhary7740]

Thank you, so much for this. This is exactly what I needed to hear.

[@jesspanichas4747]

I'm 14 questioning my sexuality on whether or not I'm asexual and I told one person (my best friend) and she told me I'm probably too young to know and so I figured it's just a phase until I saw this video. Thank you so much

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace now??

[@queenscythe13]

I really appreciate this video! It's helped me a lot with coming to terms with myself because my parents don't understand.

[@beforethecoffeegetscold]

I'm nearly 14 (never had a relationship and "that")and always told myself:"I can't be asexual, cause its normal to feel this way,when your young" Now I am really questioning;^;

[@mrlynx68]

Do you identify as ace now?

[@halwaffles]

This video was very calming. I've only recently started adopting the ace label, although I feel like an imposter since romantically I identify as hetero. So I feel like it's wrong for me to call myself ace since I worry that could invalidate more "real" members of the LGBTQ+ community, people who go through worse struggles than I have regarding who they like. So idk, but it's comforting to know that if for some reason the ace label no longer fits me, that it wasn't wrong for me to use the ace label for the period where it felt right.

[@lemin0u]

You can still be asexual, you don't have to be aromantic!! You are valid

[@emmaw1602]

i needed this a lot, thank you :)

[@Finch912]

Thank you. As an asexual child myself, this means a lot to me. My parents say that I will never be happy with a romantic or sexual partner, or that I’m too young to know. So, thank you for this video.

[@ericagrace4700]

I really needed to see this. Thank you❤️

[@allvibesgoodvibes]

Thank you. THANK YOU. I am sixteen and have been questioning if I'm ace for a pretty long time now- some of my friends also told me that there's no way to know that yet but I just don't feel the need to be in a relationship to find out, hell I'm probably aromantic too. I know I'm late to this video but it's helping me a lot right now

[@cyriswinters5233]

While you may realize you're something different when you get older it's okay to identify and Aro-Ace now. It's all a matter of figuring yourself out and that takes years. But it's not bad to identify now. Im a bit younger then you and a bunch of my friends think I'm Asexual..I identify with that but I'm not gonna be open about it irl until collage

[@giovanagoncalves4164]

Oh my God. I don't know how to thank you for this amazing video!!! I'm here on your channel for the first time and I already think it's awesome! You got yourself a grateful young lady! And a new subscriber!! Kisses, loved you!!

[@maddiecupak175]

"Oh it'll happen someday, don't worry. I think you just need someone as special as you," is typically the kind of well-meaning thing I hear. Which is possible. But does kind of invalidate how I feel in the present. So thank you for this video. For a lot of reasons, I don't plan on coming out as ace/aro just yet: I'm still not completely comfortable with that definition, I used to feel "straighter" than I do now, I'm questioning whether I might not be more in the gray, and most of all, and this is not speaking against them, the people around me wouldn't really understand. Whether that is through a completely different experience of being a sexual person who's had to deal with coming to terms with having sexual attraction for certain people, or through just plain not knowing that asexuality is even a thing and being skeptical about its existence. The former kind of friend would be the first I would be comfortable telling, and I will honestly never bother telling the latter kind. They just wouldn't understand, and some would disregard me altogether. I know I have zero obligation to come out to anyone as anything which is why I'm not going to, but it still blows because I FEEL like I have some sort of responsibility to do so. It's like I want to talk to people about how I feel, but I also really REALLY don't. Because like noooooooobody gets it. And even the asexual community I would feel weird getting into because I don't feel completely asexual either. Like sooooo questioning to the point where my sexuality is really just "I don't give a single fuck just stop talking about it," but I don't think there's a group for that. EH.

[@elizabethoroxom3915]

Thank you so much! I’m pretty sure I’m asexual. I honestly thought I could have been bi, lesbian, but it turns out asexual is the word that I identify with.

[@shooky69]

I'm currently 17yrs old and I really want to tell my mum I'm a biromantic ace but I don't know how since, I don't think the older generations understand and I don't know how to explain it :/

[@QueerAsCat]

+Stiffy Price please ignore the comment you just got from the troll who has nothing better to do. explaining is hard regardless of the age of the ppl you're explaining to, but it is true that some people aren't open minded or arent understanding of things they personally have no experience with. that said, i hope you can find the resources and strength you need to explain to those you care about. when you're ready to do so, of course. there's no rush. :)

[@shooky69]

+QueerAsCat People really don't have anything better to do 😂 Thank you for the advice! I appreciate it c: I hope I can too! Just takes a lot of time I guess

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace now?

[@invalidclosedaccount6810]

Hello, just found your video. Thank you. when I came out to my mum the first words out of her mouth were that you are too young. 🍰😃

[@QueerAsCat]

+ACE TEENBLOG hi! thanks for watching! i hope your mom realizes that that isn't for her to decide. that, and it's bs anyway. :)

[@NonBinary_Star]

"Just because one concept prevailed over the other didn’t mean that either was stable or self-defined. Straightness exists only by continually marginalizing queerness." - Jacques Derrida

[@yomnahossam6773]

I’m 19 and my family tell me I’m still young to know or I never had a relationship and in the future you’ll meet the “one” 😒

[@Yamileth.solis16]

I'm a 13 year old ace. I'm actually pretty open about it ngl. But people constantly say I'm to young to know or "I just haven't found the right person". But the real things it that I don't want to find that person ever. I've never had sexual attraction to anyone and I don't expect too. I also don't see myself changing in the future. 🖤🤍💜

[@AlexisRose2008]

Omg I can relate I’m 13 as well and I get the same comments from people 24/7 💜🤍🖤

[@Yamileth.solis16]

@@AlexisRose2008 glad to hear that we habr the same problems. But always know that YOU and only YOU can decide who you are.✨

[@megimations6140]

im trying to figure out if im ace or not but I haven't had enough crushes to know what I like. i don't even know what sexual attraction feels like and I don't remember experiencing it earlier so I'm thinking of labelling myself as grey asexual. there's always time to change my label if necessary as well

[@ALEXXXXXXXXX23]

2024 14 year old here. I told my best friend I was lesbian, asexual and non binary. She told me I'm too young to know I'm ace. I found this video and seeing all those comments of ace young people around my age makes my heart melt. I love this community ♥

[@SkyeID]

I knew I wanted a surgical transition by the age of 8, and the desire to do so has been on my mind off and on for 30 years, so I agree that people are never too young to know themselves. And.. damn I'm getting old!

[@QueerAsCat]

+Skye ID aren't we all! @getting old

[@snowywithluv2508]

I just turned 11, and I perfectly fit the definition of asexual. I was wondering if it was true, since I thought i was a little too young and that I should wait a few years to know, but this helped me a lot. Thank you so much!

[@EsmeraldaDp]

Thank you so much for this video! I'm running the fb page of my school's ally comitee and it is SO HARD to find great videos that have French subtitles. :) Keep doing what you do ^^

[@QueerAsCat]

+Esmeralda Dp (LauFashionBeauty) thanks! i'm incredibly fortunate that someone who saw this video subtitled it in French for me. :)

[@EsmeraldaDp]

You're welcome! :D Yep, thanks to that person ahahaha :)

[@garlic4535]

My mom tells me "You are NOT an atheist!" Like with she clearly doesn't know me then and tbh idk if I'm ever gonna come out to her as panromantic acexual , ik if I ever do shes gonna be like "No you're not. You've never even dated anyone how would you even know"she makes me feel like I can't open up to her but then she says "why dont you open up to me, you don't love me" ugh its stressful 😒

[@cyriswinters5233]

You're mom can't tell you who you are. That's for you to find out. I'm agnostic, young, and identify as Panromatic Asexual. If you're mother is closed minded I would suggest against coming out because you may get more frustrated

[@salamanderheart]

I am 14, nearly 15. I identify myself as an ace. My dad refuses to believe. He's confident to say I'll change. I'm so frustrated.

[@Charlie-qi1xn]

I am a young ace/aro and even though I have come out to my mom and to my 2 close friends who were, to quote my best friend "not surprised", about my sexuality I am still quite worried about some other things... 1)My dad's side of the family: I happen to be an only child so even though my dad hasn't mentioned kids I know I am expected to have them. Also, it seems from the talk of the older generations in my family that a boy would be preferred. I know my dad doesn't hold these same somewhat off-putting views but he would definitely tell me that I was just going through a phase when I tell him or maybe even be somewhat upset for "choosing my lifestyle"(I put this in quotations because being ace or aro is not a choice). 2)My grandparent's on my mom's side of the family: My grandparents have nothing but support for the LGBTQ+ community (but they don't know about asexuality and aromanticism so ...) but the consensus is that I have a normal sexual and romantic relationship with someone to be happy (and that I will be a mom which seems to be a reoccurring theme ). 3) My schoolmates: Middle school sucks because everyone talking about everything that makes you uncomfortable on an secondly basis and won't change the subject. My very sexual friends have already expressed pity for me saying that I have never had any real romantic attraction. I can only imagine their reactions when I come out of the closet. (Should I record their responses?)FYI none of these people are still close friends of mine. 4)The LGBT community: I have always felt at home with my LGBT friends (so all my friends) But a lot of people think ace aro people don't belong so I'm scared to go to pride. I will probably go with my friend ( the first person who I came out to and said to me that she thought I was ace or aro). She was so supportive of me when I came out and said I could go with her.

[@bwapty251]

Thank you for this video, I’m 15 and believe that I am asexual, I’m not sure about romantic attraction yet, but I will figure it out. I keep question whether I am ace or not, but this video helped. Thank you again 😊, have a good day y’all.

[@bloody_nihilist8595]

this was a very helpful video for me, I was having a hard time because I thought I was too ypung to know

[@thealmightyflabigail]

I really needed this thank you im only 12 years old and lately I've been feeling asexual

[@maralynn1851]

Same!

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as asexual??

[@samallen9033]

Yeah, It's strange that you are allways too young to know your sexuality unless it's straight.

[@aleksyjakubowski9907]

I am panromantic asexual I'm 15 and my "friends" told me I am not ace BECAUSE I AM TOO YOUNG... I am sad because I just need understanding

[@mrlynx68]

Do you still identify as ace now?

[@mariaclaragiaccaglia26]

i'm 15 and I don't know if I'm straight, gay, bi or asexual

[@user70867]

thank you I'm a young ace but I knew I was ace since I figured what it meant and it's pretty tough in school since I actually was questioned "don't you um wanna....you know with him" I'm not out publicly and I don't think I would come out as ace because almost all the people at my school are a little closed minded on different sensualities and genders other than heterosexual and boy and girl. My mother has actually accepted me being ace but I also explained to her that I may not be sexualy attracted to anyone I still find them physical please and I would maybe like to presue a romantic relationship

[@The_Keeper_of_Names]

I wish I had found this sooner. I've already accepted who am and that it might be my labels will change with me. That acceptance of myself came a few weeks ago. Maybe I would've accepted myself sooner if I had found this months ago. It's cool to find another non-binary ace though. Reading through the comments of 11 year olds makes me feel weird being 16 and only having come to terms this year. Then again a few years ago I did decide on a bit of whim I might not be straight as there a statistical chance I'm not regardless of whether it's small. I always questioned ace and then aro due "lack of evidence" showing me being straight.

[@screech4876]

This helped me... Now I think I identify as Ace! (I'm pretty young and I thought I wasn't allowed to be like this yet, or that it might be a phase.)

[@xraym2356]

YOU HAVENT POSTED I FOREVER.

[@QueerAsCat]

+Xraym ....haven't i?

[@xraym2356]

QueerAsCat Oh, and you were awesome on the asexual portraits project.

[@QueerAsCat]

Xraym thank you! :)

[@wylanthegay7284]

Thank you so much for this video!!

[@ashxx9579]

when I was around 12-14 I always thought about sex as something that would happen later in my life because ''everyone has sex''bla bla bla and sex-ed in school, now I'm 16 and realised almost a year ago that i don't think it's never gonna happen, i discovered i was ace... i've hardly ever looked at a person not even at a hot celeb and thought about sex with them and if i did it made me cringe and feel weird.. I didn't know i'm ace for a long time mainly because i didn't know the term. i wish we would learn about it (lgbt+ in general) in school and not just the biological aspect of hetersosexual sex and contraception etc

[@thelunarghost]

Middle School was the awakening point and it truley was hard. I had much going on I felt i was possibly pan or bi curious but then when i tried engaging in relationships they just couldn't truly work. I waited until I was older to try dating, there was only two people i ever felt i clicked "with" As in Soul Mate Zing My mom is over protective and considered any information i got on sexuality as unnecessary hogwash. It caused me to hate myself i felt so different. Many Ace People have felt alienated like this. I didn't; know my sexuality had this name I didn't know my romantic preference had a separate name. It's great to know I'm not by myself and it "isn't a mental condition" It's better late than never I suppose

[@areqtwsx]

I turned 10 back in Dec 2020, and I’ve been doing a lot of research on sexualities and romantic orientations. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m most likely asexual homoromantic, as I’ve never had a romantic attraction to boys, and I’ve had a few girl crushes. I’ve always thought of sex as thing this that I never wanted to do, or hear about much. The idea of it just seems gross and displeasing to me. Some things may happen on the future, where I identify as something other than this, but for now it’s just what I go by.

[@rexventura4603]

Haven’t seen the vid yet, but I’m watching this just to see if this can help me see if I am ace

[@EspeonaSparkle]

Thank you so much for this video!!! :'D

[@opossumbur_kbt7150]

I'm 14 and I think that I'm an ace, I just don't really know yet. I told my mom and she told me that I'm maybe just too young to know...

[@AlexisRose2008]

I’m 13 and everyone I know told me the same thing all the time ^^ so I relate to you but you aren’t young to know they just don’t understand give it time and they will understand ^^

[@tomoko2354]

I'm 10 and I feel like I'm asexual but I just want to know so I don't be wrong about anything but this really helped so thank you so much ❤️

[@lestemplesvivants]

I've been experimenting sexuality since I was a child. I've have always been really curious about that subject and how it works, and especially, how it feels. Now I can know that I'm asexual, even if had sexual experiences. I've been afraid for a long time that maybe the asexual community would not accept me for my past. I hope that they will not judge me. Thanks for this video.

[@QueerAsCat]

the asexual community isn't a monolithic group; we're all individuals with our own individual opinions about things. that said, anyone who doesn't respect *all* of you, including your asexual identity and experiences, isn't worth your time and would not be speaking for the community as a whole anyway. you know who you are, even if others refuse to respect that. best wishes~