r/AITA For Lying About My Wife Having Fertility Issues?

[@who_the_fuck_is_riley5813]

The story one update was golden. The wife coming out by just offhandedly mentioning taking a soccer ball to her balls was hilarious. It reminds me of the one story where the guy said his husband's blood didn't run through him, but his semen did.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

I fucking loveeeddddd that quote from that story, I was washing dishes and dropped one laughing from it, almost freaking peed

[@who_the_fuck_is_riley5813]

@@GabrielleHayes1921 I believe I was doing laundry and ended up laughing so hard it made my stomach hurt lmao

[@zerotodona1495]

Husband* you can’t change gender or sex. You can’t change biology. He is gay and he has a husband.

[@videofan1010]

I was definitely caught off guard - but in a good way 😂

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@zerotodona1495 Wrong. You can't change biology, but gender is in the brain so she's only changing her physical appearance to match the gender she truly is. Don't assume people's sexuality, and don't like your own comment if you want to seem legit lmao. But do some actual research into the subject before speaking next time, please :)

[@featherplushie]

Story 3: why didn't they just make the kid turn the hoodie inside out? That's what our school did. It was either that, or they made us change into our gym clothes or put duct tap over the logo

[@mintcoral]

Honestly everyone is on op about being a jerk for sending the kid away, but I wanna know what happened in the reflection room. The kid doesn't seem to think his shirt was inappropriate so I wonder if maybe the kid refused to change or turn the hoodie inside out. I've seen it happen at my old school. Students refusing to do something and it escalates past what the teacher thought it would. Our school did whole turn clothes inside out till students would do it for a period then turn it back once they left that class. So the choices then turned to wear your gym clothes, were a shirt provided by the school, or go home and change. If you came in in a bus you sat in the in-school suspension room till the end of the day, but I like inschool suspension they teachers didn't let you make up the work.

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

Had a classmate wear a shirt wear a shirt that said, "Tell your mother i said thanks." Somehow he made it through to afternoon Chemistry without anyone saying anything. The Chemistry teacher was not having it and had him cover it up or go to the office. He ended up borrowing a lovely, lilac hoodie from one of the girls in class. It's burned into my memory to this day.

[@alicereeds5952]

Yes exactly, a 3 day suspension is way over the top.

[@maurer3d]

My guess is the kid got 3 days suspension for refusing to turn the shirt inside out, after his parents refused to bring him an appropriate shirt.....

[@KatzMcKatz]

People can be so prissy about stupid things. That top was funny and didn't merit that punishment.

[@cebbi1313]

Story 4: The way he said that he can't buy anything big without her permission or he'd "be in trouble" gives me the vibe that they are seriously not on the same page. Regardless of who is in the wrong or whose fault the lack of communication is, if they had proper communication he could have given the reasons that his wife would be upset with him. He just says he'd be in trouble though, like a child who doesn't quite understand the rules adults set for them. Tbf though, I could very well be overreaching and he wrote that to save wordcount hoping that the reasons she'd be upset are implicit. It stood out to me though, mainly because I've heard that language used in a toxic way before.

[@IsMgb45]

That's just for the joint account, like any shared account should be, shared money must be discussed before spend. He can buy whatever he wants with his own "allowence"

[@Kris-wo4pj]

@@IsMgb45 hes not allowed to have his own money apparently even tho he makes most of it. Like just do split accounts why is thst such a problem unless she really wants his money for her own shit.

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

@@Kris-wo4pj He said he offered that, even offered paying two-thirds of the bills and she pays 1/3, but she "flat out refused that". So from the story, it sounds like he pays 100% of the bills, and still needs approval to spend any of his leftover money. So then, where does all her money go? And does that mean he has to pay another $11,000 for bills since she took that from the bill money he paid to "punish him" for not giving her the money he made from selling his items?

[@mbyerly9680]

If the husband and wife in the last story end up in a divorce, I pity the lawyers who must divide assets. Jeez.

[@babamoeensam7.1.14]

Well, it may take him a while b4 hiring any lawyer, he needs to do his research & make sure to get a good deal, you know 😂😂😂😂

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

OP#1 is the A-hole

[@selcouthnosvkota6214]

At school I have seen other kids wear the same "I love hot moms" hoodie, it does not seem to bother the staff at all, so hearing this surprised me abit...

[@gaxalee7392]

First story: NTA Fertility issues are not one and the same and anything can cause them. It’s not Op’s fault that that’s the truth neither is it his fault his parents are/were obsessed with biological children. Second story: NTA You want someone’s services then you accept their preferred price. Real family/friends/family-friends would pay you what you deserve, not what is most convenient. Always value yourself and your hard work. Third story: NAH The teachers have to call out clothes that the school board/other parents would call inappropriate. Teachers could get more in trouble if it’s not called out. The kid shouldn’t have talked back, but he’s a teen and probably didn’t realize why the teacher is getting onto him. The school however sucks ass for giving a suspension for this; it’s not the teacher’s fault that they do though. Also, I’m not condoning the dress code. I think some policies are dumb and the consequences worse. Fourth story: YTA The Op sounds high or entitled. You don’t get to act like you, solely, own anything bought with money from a joint account, even if you then sell those things later on. You want something just for you buy it using money from a personal account.

[@Hydraxon1980]

sotry 4 wut???? did you even hear the story? he makes 2x as much as she does and obv he is forced to pay bills while they have the same amount of money to spend on themselves how do you consider it fair?

[@gaxalee7392]

@@Hydraxon1980 If Op wants more spending money, he should put it into a personal account, that’s what those are for. For a joint account, no one should be spending above a certain amount without talking to the other account holder, and you can’t claim things spent using the joint account as just yours.

[@noelhann5262]

Ok, but can we all just appreciate how “the worst I ever cried was when I got hit in the balls by a soccer ball” is such an amazing and hilarious way to come out?

[@MarkNarrations]

When you accidentally publish the video 😏👉👉

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Lol

[@kono_dust_da8180]

It ok

[@chulutheimposter5415]

Second time I've seen haha, all is good :>

[@justjenny5437]

huh? i’m confused, as usual

[@carolroberts4614]

Glad I found this!good evening!

[@awaasproductions]

Story 3 I get it that its BS that the kid got suspended but from the sound of it all the Teacher did was send him to essentially the Principal's office. It was the admin side of the school that dropped the ball here, so I don't think OP should get all the blame on this. That being said yeah is the shirt tacky & probably not school appropriate sure, but I think that like the one commenter said, a warning should be given at the very least before any action was taken.

[@dragonriderabens9761]

THANK YOU! I got the same impression regarding how the admin dropped the ball and overreacted If OP knew the kid would be suspended as a result of being sent to the principal’s office, I’d probably rule otherwise But from the sounds of it, OP didn’t do anything worse than get the ball rolling unknowingly

[@awaasproductions]

@@dragonriderabens9761 yup!

[@fc2806]

The wording also made it sound like OP did not know the admin would do that and was not expecting a suspension. Probably thought they would just get lectured as to why it is not appropriate.

[@awaasproductions]

@@fc2806 exactly

[@sammieh9695]

My question is was it simply the hoodie that caused the 3 day suspension or did the student say something or be argumentative about the rest of the day is iss. I agree it was on the admin, I wore plenty of inappropriate attire in school and they made me turn my shirt inside our and sent me back to class with a warning.

[@nikoking825]

I think in the first story while the OP was telling the truth and didn't do anything wrong I can kind of see why his sister was upset. When a person transitions with regards to things like surgery they more or less have to accept the reality if what that means regarding current technology which includes infertility--and no way to treat it. For OP's sister she's going through treatments, side effects, not to mention the pain--physical and emotional of miscarriages. So I think she might have felt like either he was being flippant or had no idea how much fertility issues can cause pain.

[@kimmy7299]

Story 3: girls are being policed at school for much less. Showing ankles etc because it is „distracting the boys“. Yes, 3 days suspension or suspension at all is WAY too much, but come on.

[@CurlyCrisps]

Story 3: Sound like the teacher isn't a hot mom.

[@dustyrose192]

I fucking hate schools that do this. Before our headteacher left the oldest year could wear their leavers hoodies. All the time. My friend and i loved wearing hoodies and they were just plain hoodies. However we were excited to have our leavers hoodies and everyone wore them on the first day. However we weren't allowed to afterwards. (new headteacher. high school sucks now because of him according to friends younger siblings) Its complete bnullshit. Let us were hoodies damnit

[@alg94]

story 1: my mom is basically doing the same thing with me ever since i became a hairstylist. now she's offering all her friends $15 dollar services (that would normally be $50) and is telling them i'll go to their houses to do it because we're on lockdown. like no ma'am i am not bringing my prices down and no im not going to people's houses when they can come see me in a salon when lockdown is over.

[@deezvidz218]

What? story one is about the transgender wife....

[@Mistfall254]

Story 2

[@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer]

You can maliciously comply with the reduced fee, Charge your mother's friends a $150 callout fee that's a up front bank deposit then the additional $15 that they pay you before you even start cutting their hair Essentially you'll be charging them $165 for a home visit haircut.... they won't be bothering you after that

[@Mewse1203]

"It's her over everyone else" The way it should be.

[@nixiethepixie]

Story 1: NTA - I have fertility issues, my family have fertility issues. And so does OP and his wife. Yeah, it's not due to the same reason, but they still can't get pregnant. That's pretty much the definition of it. Also, what choice did OP make? The only people who made any choices were his sister and her partner - nobody forced them to go down the route of paying for treatment and trying for a baby. Yeah, it's an AWFUL situation for his sister, but still. That's not fair to attack someone like that. Update: That was the best update I have ever read, as well as the best coming out story I've heard too. Story 2: NTA - Dear Family Friends don't get discounts - and I'm guessing that it's frustration that's why he calls the son dumb. And that woman is entitled. And the mum is shallow af - it's just social standing to her. Story 3: UNPOPULAR OPINION. NTA. And one big reason why; the teacher did not issue the suspension. They essentially sent the child to the principal's office for it, and the admin/year head/whoever decided to issue a suspension. Yes, the suspension is way overkill if it was just the hoody situation, but I'm wondering if the kid kicked off and that's what escalated it. Anyway, yeah. Hoody should have been a warning not suspension. My school banned any slogans and graphics on clothing on non-uni day to avoid any issues of 'is it, isn't it' regarding offensive/inappropriate attire. As you've said, a lot of my teacher friends and family friends talk about how it's utterly ridiculous but there are things they HAVE to address/confront because if another parent complains it has an impact on the school/teacher (also UK). Story 4: ESH - OP used the joint account, the profit belongs to the joint account (bar the $2k of it which was from his account). The wife sounds like she's controlling his purchases though as well. And they are BOTH acting like children and are being extremely petty. Marriage isn't a business arrangement, at least not anymore. So they both suck.

[@DJCherryTempo]

Mark sounded alot happier/upbeat in the intro that normal. Granted, I always watch KZbin on double speed...

[@MarkNarrations]

Double speed, must sound crazy :)

[@Mkay999]

Who is the “we” and “our” channel? The people want to know.

[@kittenswithbows]

Well, it's us, isn't it?

[@nucitamoore]

This is a socialized channel, sir.

[@ezra2701]

He says "our" because he feels like it's not just his but all of ours☺️

[@terra_the_nightingale135]

*We are Us*

[@videofan1010]

The Waffle Gang!

[@charondusk5608]

Story 1 - TBH, I think OP was in a no-win situation there: Say "fertility issues", sister thinks he's directly talking about her and ends up hurt. Say "Better for the world", sis thinks he's having a go at her choice to go for in-vitro and ends up hurt. I'd say it's more of a NAH, tbh, but maybe he should've asked the sis first if it was okay to say what he did. At least it worked out. Story 2 - OP did nothing wrong, end of discussion. I know from personal experience that tutoring is not easy even in the best of circumstances, let along with a kid who has zero interest in getting better, but to have someone go over your head and offer your services for considerably less than your normal rate, just because SHE wants to look good? Fuck that noise, and I have to wonder if she was getting the extra money behind OP's back. Story 3 - "Facepalm" OP is a major asshole. In my former school (And yes, UK), so long as the clothing in question is not offensive (ie swearing, slurs, inappropriate imagery, etc) and won't get them or anyone else hurt (such as wearing something with long ribbons in an area with machinery), it wasn't a problem. Hell, even the secondary school I studied at, which had a uniform, wasn't that fucking strict - so long as we met the basic requirements (black shoes, black pants/skirt, white shirt, tie and school blazer/jumper), we could do whatever the hell we wanted so long as, again, it wasn't offensive. Story 4 - These two are both petty idiots, but while I'd say ESH, the OP is the bigger AH of the two of them for using joint money but then acting like he deserves it all.

[@MydieLy]

I have to disagree with you on Story 2. This subreddit is not called AmIRight. He was seriously underpaid, no question about that, but the way he behaved towards the son, calling him dumb etc, makes him.a huge asshole for the arrogance. Physics is *hard* for many people so to assume you can grasp the subject simply by putting effort in is wrong. And not understandimg physics as a Subject doesn't make you dumb..He sounds like a bad teacher for Students the boy's age. 25 as his normal rate suggests he's usually tutoring adults who already have a college Level of understanding of the matter and just need some help. If he seems unable to grasp the needs to treat the boy differently than that and start at a more basic level, then that's also on him. He asked if he was the Asshole, so yes, an asshole he is for his whole approach from Start to finish, even if he is rightly angry for being underpaid. ESH for Story 2.

[@goddessmelanisia]

When I was growing up, we were just told to turn graphic tees inside out if they were inappropriate.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: why exactly is that A)inappropriate, B) worthy of a 3 day suspension? This seems like a gross overreaction. She would have been WAY hateful to the shit we wore back in the day. Cradle of Filth called...

[@wmdkitty]

1: NTA. It's not a lie, Wife is infertile. Sister just sounds entitled and is just upset that she's not getting all the attention. (PS: She could adopt, instead of spending several years of college tuition on something so selfish as IVF.) 2: NTA. OP deserves to be paid fairly for their time and effort. 3: ESH. Kid sucks for wearing a clearly inappropriate shirt. OP sucks for sending him to the principal. Principal sucks for suspending the student. And the parent sucks for defending the shirt. A reasonable course of action would be to send him to the lav to turn the shirt inside out, and tell him not to wear it to school again. 4: YTA. OP needs to stop spending ridiculous amounts on _multiple_ campers. Wife is right, OP is irresponsible.

[@threeducks157]

I volunteer as a cyber security/computer forensics TA, so sometimes I tutor ppl and God... Parents sometimes drive me up a wall. "You are too expensive", "my kid(grown ass college student) is not learning" are one of the best hits, heck I even gotten inappropriate offers to "put in extra effort".

[@pete5489]

last story is ESH, he is entitled only to 75% of the profit in my opinion, but both of them are petty af

[@Hydraxon1980]

Nah she is controlling and just wants his money even when he proposed to pay 66% of the bills she wouldn't have it bc she is greedy af

[@little_lion_heart9850]

The teacher one, I feel like the teacher could have just asked the boy to turn the hoody wrong side out. Maybe they didn't think of that at the moment. But I don't think it is specifically the teacher that sucks here. They sent the kid to be dealt with through the proper channels. I feel like the real issue is the extreme over reaction those 'proper channels' had to a stupid harmless hoody. So, very mild YTA for the teacher, but mostly a giant YTA for the school system.

[@bobbyjay205]

just by her sending him to the office implies something more serious than the shirt. Insubordinance. The teacher was the AH for over-reacting. And was wrong to ask him to change in the first place. There was nothing explicit written on the shirt.

[@patgraziani60]

For the last story, the only so called problem is that the man should replace the 2k he took from the joint account. Everything else is his, and the fact that a grown man has to ask for permission to buy anything using money from his personal account is mind blowing. The wife is absolutely the AH for taking the same amount from the joint account in retaliation and she should replace it immediately. If not I would not contribute another dime until that money is replaced, she basically stole from her husband. For those who might wonder I am a woman, married for 17 years until I was widowed, so NOT from a mans perspective.

[@reinwolf534]

I agree but let's not forget he had permission to take the money out as well. And he had to have permission to buy everything else he bought as well

[@WolframKKM]

Story 4: Split. Your. Finances. I seriously don't understand joint finances at all. Money is one of the biggest issues in people's marriages. OP likes to gamble his earnings (albiet in a pretty reasonable way) and the wife clearly has anxiety about it but also wants to reap the rewards. This is going to blow up in their faces.

[@mtimm9023]

Oh god. That was so inappropriate. What about dress code? He should have warn a shirt underneath. Not everybody has the same sense of humor. Or even could worn in it inside out. Send a note home talking about the shirt. 3 day suspension was over kill.

[@helema23]

the teacher didnt give it to him the admins did. what is missing is if he said or did anything while there, ie telling them he had no shirt under it.

[@dragonriderabens9761]

@@helema23 not true The kid flat out said he couldn’t take the hoodie off because there was nothing underneath to OP

[@roelthas]

Suspension is not a punishment, the kid should have gotten extra homework of something on that line.🤷🏽‍♂️

[@cheskydivision]

I'd be pissed if mom screwed me over like that. Mom and her friend are AH.

[@Nuqutu]

Last story: I'm I the only one who notist that the wife had to approve!! what the husband get (with his money) but that's no mention of it going the other way around as well?? She shouldn't get anything at all. He can put the money he took from the joined account back, but nothing else. If she want more money, she can do the same and invest. Don't be a baby at take it all from the joined account??

[@nixiethepixie]

See, I went with ESH as I was aware the wife was controlling purchases anyway. But for me, if you take money from a joint account then any money you make from that joint account needs to go back into it. So, his account was entitled to $2k and half the profit from the $4k camper, but not all of it.

[@tessalynn3]

My second oldest daughter got the "I ❤️ Hot Moms" hoodie and loves to wear it when we go out 😂

[@daniellediller5070]

Lol I love how cheeky they are way to rock the hoodie!🤣

[@shootingcomet082]

Story 1: I say OP is kinda the AH. Not for saying that they had fertility issues, but because he hurt his sister over a very sensitive issue and seems to dismiss what she's going through and the pain his comment caused her. Especially seeing as she's been keeping their secret and seems to be supportive of them.

[@tkb5726]

For story 1: the way the wife came out was fucking hilarious. Oh my gosh that is funny. What a powerful way to burst the closet open. Nicely done ma’am. 😂

[@dianagoenaga7263]

I feel so bad for OP's sister, she must be going through so much grief. I don't think she's a bad person (like that one commenter said) she's just a hurt person lashing out. Also, it's so sweet how OP always tries to mention how much he loves his wife every two sentences 😍❤️❤️❤️

[@indianspartan76]

Story 4: NTA. She sounds controlling

[@laurenarchibald]

thank you my thoughts exactly

[@indyfmw]

With story 4: it looks like he paid the money back from the joint. I don’t think people seen that. NTA

[@ZoeAlleyne]

I hate punishments that stop kids from learning. It is so counter-intuitive and unhelpful.

[@marie34K]

I used to be a teacher and I tutored quite a lot of kids . The second question parents asked ( after asking if I can /will tutor their teen ) was how much I charged . If they didn’t ask I told them . So OP going to the 1st session without agreeing on a price first seems totally unreal . Or OP is not so clever as he describes himself . And saying that the teen is dumb proves he is not a good tutor . Uninterested doesn’t mean dumb .

[@LaineyBug2020]

Story 3: I remember my guy friends wearing T-Shirts to school that had giant letters on the front spelling out the words "ENOUGH MR. NICE GUY! ON YOUR KNEES, B!TC#" and "68 AND I'LL OWE YOU ONE" R.I.P. Gadzooks!

[@keplersdream901]

Story 2: NTA. Parents are cheap and are always looking for a scapegoat. I've had parents try to underpay me for my expertise/tutoring because they are looking for a cheap babysitter for their young-adult children. Most of them, however, can barely write correct English (as a native language) and are mathematically illiterate. Story 3: NTA, provided that such hoodies are explicitly against school rules. I do think, however, that a three-day suspension is a bit harsh...unless the kid did something else. I also wouldn't trust the parents here; parents lie all.the.time when it comes to THEIR KID. I have seen them lie about kids' behavior, even if there's 100% proof. They're emotionally bankrupt.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Story 3: 😑 really? Straight to suspension over a shirt?

[@reddogf.1389]

and three days at that, eesh what overkill!

[@reptiles3244]

@@reddogf.1389 not overkill the kid probably didn't wear a shirt underneath so no one could tell him to take it off it's amazing all you imbeciles didn't realize that

[@reddogf.1389]

@@reptiles3244 i'll bite. call home for parent to bring shirt or tell him to go to bathroom and turn it inside out. :\

[@reptiles3244]

@@reddogf.1389 you think someone who purposefully wore a inappropriate jacket without a shirt would turn it inside out

[@reptiles3244]

@@reddogf.1389 and the mother made it clear she wouldn't cooperate

[@LillyianPuppy]

As a teacher, I can 92% say he was not given OSS for the shirt. If that punishment happened, it was because of how he reacted to an amin or ISS person after being told not to wear it. That said, if I were to address that shirt, which I wouldn't, I would tell him get something else from a friend or the nurse.

[@zard5930]

The wife sounds like a treat! I love her humour!

[@Digitalfairy]

Story 3: YTA The teacher is a big lousy joke, so he suspends the kid for one hoodie? I'd get it if the words something horribly racist, antisemitic or discriminatory towards any particular group but "I heart hot moms", seriously?!

[@Applejack6718]

If I read correctly the teacher didn't suspend the kid. She sent him to a time out and the people above op took it further.

[@mintcoral]

@@Applejack6718 that's what I read to. The kid was sent to a reflection room and that is where everything was escalated. Probably meaning this kid did something there that was not repenting or portending to repent for his choice.

[@avrilfan123]

story 2 is an obvious nta but is insulting the kid really necessary? the way op talked about the kid really rubbed me the wrong way even if he was in the right.

[@MydieLy]

That's why I think this subreddit should vote more often as ESH. Being right is not the same as being an asshole while being right

[@Homewarfare]

Story 4: Yeah nah prime example of why relationships are stupid because people are, OP is NTA.

[@oakenshadow6763]

I love her. That just had me snickering like an absalute child. 6:22

[@missmax2492]

Story 2, how rude of that mother. My mom would've asked me up front about payment and back me up no matter what unless I was out of line for no reason. Way to take advantage of your kid lady, mess up the relationship and then lament about ungratefulness, what a piece of work. Good mom gang rise up!

[@Suilimani]

First one sister doesn’t have sole rights to fertility issues lots of people struggle with it. Can’t believe she’s “gatekeeping” fertility issues.

[@DD-wd2ep]

No, the trans wife is biologically male, so any "fertility issues" are just not comparable to the sister having problems conceiving. The wife never had a possibility or hope of being pregnant, so there was nothing for that couple to be distraught over.

[@emilysavicki8043]

Story 3 is one of the reasons I HATE dress code. It's stupid! Like, why do girls NEED to wear something that conceals their shoulders? They're just FRICKIN SHOULDERS!!! Because it distracts their male peers? Bullcrap! They should mind their own business and stop sexualizing every single part of a female's body! FFS! Heck, one time in 6th grade I got dress coded for my shorts! Why? Because my middle finger BARELY passed the bottoms, like not even a centimeter! It was humiliating! And it also didn't help the fact that I was already alienated by my peers! People need to grow the frick up! #BanDressCodes

[@NeoLotex]

Story 2: Wonderful example why you avoid family and friends as clients in any way possible. Story 3: Gotta say this whole drama over a hoodie is stupid and unnecessary in my opinion. Unnecessary to wear it to school and equally as unnecessary to give this guy an in-school suspension as well as a 3 day suspension which also includes online classes, this smells like punishment for the sake of punishment, especially since there was nothing else beforehand as OP said typical high school student, nothing out of the ordinary. Gotta side with the kid on the issue though, we all love them. Story 4: Sounds like completely seperate finances are in order here and in my opinion the wife massively overstepped here by just taking the money while OP was always open and honest about every purchase. Where I disagree with Mark is that the initial $1000 came from his own account and the wife didn't accept the car, so technically it was still his car and he could sell it and keep the money if he wanted. I don't see where the redditors get their "We purchased ..." stuff get from as he always seems to ask his wife even though he uses his own money, at least that's how I understood it here.

[@fcold9402]

2. Shouldn't a family friend be willing to pay more to help a struggling college student? You know his base pay and a tip for being so helpful?

[@JJerseyGirl]

This was in the late 80's in the United States a classmate wore a shirt to school saying "coverup I'm going in" it was a penus putting on a condom. She was told to go home and change the shirt or go to the bathroom and turn it inside out. She turned it inside out and continued the rest of the day.

[@darkmask5933]

Story 4: Sounds like finances are an issue with both parties here, OP thinks he should be allowed to spend more because he makes more, he contributes more to the partnership, whereas wife sounds controlling about money and wants him to spend less so she can spend more. Question though, does the wife wants to spend more than her fair share, or thinks both should be able to spend 50% of their joined fun money? Honestly money is very much one of those things that can destroy a marriage, if the OP thinks he should control the money just because he makes more but they are supposed to be married, then that is financial abuse, but if wife is trying to spend more than her fair share and is upset if OP spends money to lessen what she can spend, then she sounds like a gold digger. I am frankly leaning towards the former, because it sounds like OP is trying very, very hard to find some way to justify having more money than his wife for some reason, that or he just wants to be able to spend his money as he sees fit on his fun stuff and resents having to have reduced reward because his wife makes less than him? Honestly, sounds like the two might want to see if they can afford a financial advisor, sounds like OP may not be totally financially abusive but it does sound like he may have underlying resentment about having to combine finances. If they don't resolve this, its going to end up with animosity.

[@nocause5395]

Except on the second purchase he used 2000 of their joint bank account money. It wasn't all his money I say he should at least put that back with a little bit of interest.

[@darkmask5933]

@@nocause5395 Honestly, it just seems messy, and there seems to be some sort of resentment underneath, especially with how OP describes the money and trying hard to justify why it's his. There's underlying problems here, and I think the fact we don't have the full story makes it murky, but I agree with you, I am leaning on OP being the AH here.

[@Rukiah1]

Or split the money based on investment. Op invested 75% gets 75% ending profits and the rest goes to wife. I agree OP shouldn't get it all but wife also doesn't deserve 50%. 2k came from OP's money 2k from joint acc so she really only put in 1k out of 4k.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

Wife wouldnt allow split accounts so i think its the latter.

[@sianchild]

There's a good reason for having clothing rules in school, but the suspension was disproportionate. The best solution would have been to speak to the kid quietly and say "that hoodie isn't really appropriate so I'm going to ask you to not wear it again in my classes."

[@maruwatchesyou8281]

I got nothing but salesman vibes from your intro, the thing is, I've had the notifications on since you rebranded as mark narrations mwahahaha

[@kendramitchell1802]

😱 OMG my eye is almost popped out of my head when you started reading story 3! My daughter has that exact sweatshirt and wore it to school a few weeks ago. One of her teachers found it offensive but instead of suspending her or anything crazy like that just asked her not to wear it again. And gave her a piece of duct tape to cover up the hot part so it said "I heart mom's". It was no big deal! There were so many ways to handle this situation other than suspension!! OP was way out of line making this poor kid have to fall behind then having to do all that makeup work over a sweatshirt! 3 days is a long time to be suspended especially over a sweatshirt out of control! SMH!!! Anyways I hope you see this Mark‼️I really love your videos and they have helped me through a really tough year and I wanted to thank you! I know you think it's weird but your voice is very calming🧘‍♀️ 😌 you're caring an upbeat attitude always puts a smile on my face even on my hardest days! I'm so sorry you're going through this tough time with your dad! Enjoy everyday with him 🤗 you're a good son he's lucky to have you! Sending you lots of love and prayers 💓🙏

[@emegrover7257]

I agree that the 3 day is overkill and inappropriate, but the teacher isn't the one who gave the kid the suspension. She sent him to the reflection room. There, he should have been told to turn it inside out or given tape and been explained why it wasn't an appropriate shirt. Administration for the school sounds horrible, but it seems unfair to blame that on the teacher.

[@kendramitchell1802]

@@emegrover7257 I understand that the teacher didn't give him the 3 day suspension but as the teacher op know what the consequences could be. OP should have just handled it. That's why I refer to the teacher giving him this suspension.

[@maurer3d]

@@kendramitchell1802 The suspension was most likely a result of the kid refusing any of the steps to correct the issue. Like the parents bringing a change of shirt, turning the shirt inside out or tape over the words (or at least the word hot).

[@jraxreviewsxcosplayxmore6934]

The tutoring story: there was no need to call the son dumb. That’s an ahole move. OP is NTA for saying no. But mocking the kid isn’t okay

[@avrilfan123]

agreed.

[@videofan1010]

He didn't call the son dumb to his mother or his face. He phrased his opinion much better to the mother who deserved it.

[@jraxreviewsxcosplayxmore6934]

@@videofan1010 doesn’t matter. He didn’t need to mock the kid

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@TNTMAN360]

Every single time I see your comment I always have to say thank you for your kindness

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@TNTMAN360 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@jennilynne1977]

Thank you for bringing a smile to people and making them feel better. Peace, hugs and love to you. ❤🙂

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@jennilynne1977 I'm glad to 🤗🤗💜💜

[@jennilynne1977]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 I know. Plus you also know how important something so small can be so important for some people and it's great knowing that you do this every day (or almost every day).

[@emdelicatelyme]

LOL, Your opening honestly made me laugh out loud! Thanks, Mark :D

[@blackroseinbloom]

Story 3: NTA. Girls have to go through the same thing for exposing shoulders meanwhile this kid could’ve just chosen to wear a thin shirt underneath his hoodie that morning. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Also let’s be honest, school dress codes are a joke. Sincerely, a girl who almost got suspended for wearing a baby blue SnapBack because it was allegedly “gang affiliated”

[@Mostly_Kpop]

I love when OPs can't help but simp for their spouse.

[@kateboarman8674]

Golly let's hope Mark never reads a word problem out loud ever again 😂😂

[@nininini279]

the first story i have fertility issues and i would not have been upset at the brother saying that

[@marniarmstrong7863]

6:30 omg what a way to come out hahaha

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

Story 3: NTA. Teacher here. But I'm not putting my job on the line because a child decides to break the rules. I send them to the office and in my school, they have to where school merch (a gym shirt or a field day shirt). If they persist with putting the hoodie back on or they refuse to take it off, then it is escalated Edit: not to mention the comments are blaming the teacher for an Admin decision (3 day suspension). Are they stupid?

[@ProxiProtogen]

Story 3: Ima go against everyone else and say NTA, the teacher didn’t suspend him himself

[@sablerivera7095]

Idk why that kid couldn't do online classes for the three days. That's literally taking away his right to an education. Since the punishment is to remove him from social environments not take away his schooling.

[@cheskydivision]

Sis is taking her pain out on op. Just saying wife can't have kids end of story. Or it's personal we don't want to talk about it. How long before sister tells the family.

[@DingoTheDemon]

Last story: I think the wife probably felt that the husband was bad with money because it sounds really risky to keep buying high-dollar items in the hopes that it will sell for a profit. The fact that the husband bought an old jaguar without asking his wife really clinches it - jaguars are notorious for consistently needing expensive repairs, so that plus the fact that he didn't discuss the large purchase that was supposed to be a gift for her means this guy is inconsiderate at best. I would actually bet money that this guy has made some poor investment choices and he purposefully left them out of this story to make it seem like he's a genius flipper.

[@RSN2277]

Story 4: I am going with NTA because he did put that same money back into the joint account. If he sold it at a loss, then it would be coming out of his money to cover that. So, all profits should be out of that. Also, his wife majorly crossed the line by taking 11k out of the joint account. That's way out of line for her.

[@leahwazhearl4013]

Question for everyone: did y’all eat and drink water today?

[@TheLilyMustang]

Suspending a kid for a hoodie that says “I ❤️ Hot Moms”? He shouldn’t of even went to in school suspension just give him a different shirt. No one but this teacher seem to be the only one causing a distraction in class because of the hoodie. In school if something inappropriate was on clothing they would give us masking tape to put over it. 3 day suspension leave him behind in work. My son was punched last week & they didn’t even give that kid in school suspension. My friends in other districts say getting a kid suspend(out or in school)punished or even moved out of their class due to issues but a hoodie will. I guess the only plus is that for once it is a male getting suspended for a ridiculous clothing reason instead of a female for leggings

[@rayfordreed9304]

The way it was revealed that she was trans in story 1 was so unexpected Story 2: ESH, If OP was not happy with the price, they should have just told them when it first came up. OP should have accepted it at first, because it's also unfair to the customer if it's unexpectedly increased, but they should have said that after the first session, it would be normal rate.

[@Zommymommy]

Why would a teen be suspended for breaking a dress code? That’s all I think is ridiculous.

[@brittneyscriven6106]

All the YTA posts saying the teacher who sent to kid out because he shouldn't have been suspended are wrong. Classroom teachers do not make suspension decisions, also schools are required to send work home for suspension. So he shouldn't miss too much. Executive staff make suspension choices, exectutive staff are the assholes here. The teacher had every right to send him out to have the situation rectified by management.

[@oakenshadow6763]

Im watching a playlist and am onto videos that are from 3 tears ago. I don't think i need the notifications to stay on top of things. >XD

[@Arylwren1]

Story 3: the school isn't responsible for providing clothing to kids. The teacher sent him out for one class, it was the school that decided to make it 3 days. Parents complain about everything and it would take one Karen to get this teacher in trouble.

[@bobbyjay205]

They could have dug into the lost and found. he could have turned it inside out. I guess that's is too much logic for our school officials. The hoodie was not inappropiate unless the school has a uniform. I heart hot moms is not offensive in and of itself. It can be taken that way, but how is it too offensive for public? If it said i heart Satan, or I heart myself, or something just as silly, would it be considered explicit? I saying PG-13 at best. Probably PG in our society. The "hot nurse" trope was a running gag in the Animaniacs.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: from the title NTA. Nothing else matters. After hearing the story, it's even worse. Mom is an asshole, friend is an asshole. Oh and tutoring IS his job. He gets paid, that's a job.

[@dreampiper]

Teacher isn’t TA for following rules. School is TA for playing suspension card on a dumb hoodie. Let’s not shoot the messenger.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 4: ESH OP is married. All money is both money period. You can keep your finances separate but it's both peoples money legally unless contracted through a pre/post-nuptial agreement. On the other hand she sounds SUPER controlling and they both ARE acting like children.

[@Carla_Valjeta]

Story 2: yes tutoring is your job, you one have clients and two you get paid an hourly wage from the person, that is a FUCKING JOB, no ifs buts about it.

[@merfnerd3838]

Story 2: NTA. I would have asked the mom to make up the difference that way I would get my normal fee and the mom keeps her social standing. If she couldn't do that, then i would not accept the job

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

A small escape from math hw thank goodness. Why is math so evil. ㅜㅅㅜ

[@MarkNarrations]

Enjoy broken!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Thanks🤗🤗💜💜

[@chulutheimposter5415]

The better you get at math, the more you hate it. Trust me.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@chulutheimposter5415 ikr I'm in math 3 honors for high school in America

[@chulutheimposter5415]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 I am pretty good at math myself, which is why I find it so boring. I bet almost everyone else can agree.

[@sammieg8641]

I “LET” her buy whatever she wanted

[@inabruzzowithme7877]

Ah yes, story two with the grades out of 30 with distinction, likely fellow Italians, so many Karens when it's time to pay. Because I know how hard Italians study to get that kind of grade, that's actually even more of an offense tbh

[@princesssunshine874]

soft yta: Only because of how you talk about the boy. Just because someone isn't good at physics does not make him dumb or lazy. Some people, like a ton of people, are not good at physics. As someone who had learning disabilities I had tutors like you and it absolutely made it harder for me to learn. I know the tutor thought I was an idiot.. Anxiety makes it very hard to learn.

[@j.graham8068]

The commenter on the hoodie story who wondered if the teacher was mad for not being a hot mom gets a YTA from me.

[@HonorWillow]

Story 4: Esh because yeah he took some of the Joint account too, but also it's fucked that they have seperate accounts so they CAN buy things without asking the other but the wife forces him to ask anyway

[@Josku2411]

Why must i not catch this immediatelly because i'm crying over the hobbit AGAIN!

[@missluciddreams3472]

Story three: YTA but it happens to girls all the time so maybe parents of boys can start paying attention. I disagree on the last story: NTA... it's what she agreed to...give her $2,000 and tell her to kick sand.

[@snowprincess7846]

Story 3, nta the teacher just sent the kid to in school detention. The teacher didn't cause the kid to get suspended over it. Just did their job. Story 4 YTA Sounds like a gambling problem, and looking for internet validation to discredit your wife's concern. Getting rid of things you enjoy as a family on your own would make you the ah. Getting rid of the old camper for a new one was the precedent you set, but you ended up with profit not a new camper.

[@lunardances]

man, the hoodie story reminds me... in my senior year of high school, my school banned colored shoelaces because they were supposedly "gang-related." (i know, it's ridiculous, i live in texas and this was the early 2000s) i didn't give a shit. i still wore my rainbow shoelaces after day. none of my teachers gave a shit, they all knew i was a good kid, and probably thought the shoelace rule was dumb also. what i DID get called out on, however, was my hair. back then, i kept it short in the back and long in the front, dark auburn red with blonde bangs. i'd had my hair like that since middle school. but on the day of graduation rehearsal, the principal pulled me aside and said that if i didn't change my hair to all one length and all one color, i wouldn't walk the stage the next day. they had four years to say something, and they waited until the day before graduation to do it. of course i was a bawling mess afterward, and my parents were SO PISSED. they seriously considered suing the school for defamation of character. (it was resolved by simply tucking my bangs underneath my grad cap.) so ridiculous.

[@sylvestercat1898]

Story 3: I’m a high school student. One time in my freshman year I saw some kid in my grade wear a hentai hoodie. You know the one with the black and white manga girl with her tongue sticking out. It was early morning so I have no idea if he got in trouble, probably did tho. A kid in my middle school did the same thing too.

[@ajwinberg]

I'm not actually well, I'm home sick for the week with Shingles, but listening to your videos make me feel way better. Love your channel. I have all my notifications on and smile wide whenever I see your video on my youtube page.

[@Nikki_81]

The not being a hot mom made me laugh so hard! I missed my parking spot!!! lmao!

[@kristinewatson3702]

Turn the hoodie inside out. Problem solved. If the kid refused he chose suspension but OP escalated something that could have been handled with that and a DISCUSSION.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

I don't think story 4 OP is TA, his wife is just petty. Why not separate finances proportionate to their incomes? It's literally the best case scenario

[@nixiethepixie]

I'm wondering what's not being said. Why is the wife so against splitting the bills like that, has something been said? Also she "eventually" agreed.

[@J_e_s_s]

I love a wholesome end to my day. And that is why I listen to Mark. Definitely my #1 favorite for reddit stories.

[@snowycadet275]

I summon the intellectuals WIBTA if I told this guy in my class I don't want to be friends? This guy (Isaac) in my class has been really annoying, constantly calling me just to say hi. he is just really annoying and dislikeable now one day this guy was kind of harassing me and my acquaintance "L" ( not her real name because I respect her) he was like where are you from and we told him and he said "I don't believe you" also, he looks half Spanish and he has been annoying every since. Also he thinks I'm his friend when I want nothing to do with him. I have just started to just ignore him and focus on school (that sounded so nerdy lol) What should I do? Tell him I don't want to be friends Or Bite my tongue and just keep ignoring him and move on? Any advice would be appreciated. Thx Waffle gang. Also I sit next to him so this would be kind of hard both ways.

[@americanhoney3098]

Hooo boy this is a tough one. But I dont think he's trying to be your friend. idk I just feel like he was being nosey and not really trying to be your friend based on the way he spoke to you. You should probably have a conversation with Isaac and tell him how his behavior is affecting you and just be honest about wether you want to be friends or just classmates.

[@snowycadet275]

@@americanhoney3098 No aside from the Harassment I guess u could say HE DOES EVERYTHING ELSE I SAID EVERY SINGLE DAY AND ITS SO ANNOYING REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE i feel my time for him getting lower everyday i see him in person