Mom Uses Daughter's Tuition Money To Pay For Siblings Schooling AITA

[@MarkNarrations]

3?! What is this madness? Well, you do deserve it you cheeky so and so's!

[@AnotherLittleArtist]

Thanks for the bonus vid!

[@Russman67]

3? Extra spicy!

[@user-wb6fm4hu2h]

yayyy

[@irenetorkel2186]

You’re awesome as usual! My day off so the treat is much appreciated. Thank you!😽😺😸

[@sherily42]

You're spoiling us Mark.

[@fcold9402]

1. You neve kept her well fed or put roof over her head, her dad and then grandfather did all that. All you ever did was teach her never to depend on you. No one should if they are smart. Yta.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "AITA for robbing one child of an education and money that she worked hard for so that her other siblings could have more? I'm a mother of 3 so be nice 🥺" there, fixed her title Edit: "She's being selfish and disrespectful and screaming at me for taking her money even though I kept her well fed and gave her a roof over her head 😇" congrats, you did the bare minimum of what's legally required of you to care for a child

[@Passions5555]

Did she though? Seems like her father was the one doing that for his grandkids rather than her doing it herself.

[@et5895]

"I'm a mother of 3 so be nice" as if that was supposed to change a DAMN THING

[@boohooter23]

Unrelated but I also love owls!!

[@reeniem6398]

I’m a mother of three as well and have struggled from time to time - but I would never just act like it was ok to take my kids money. This money was not hers! And because of her selfishness- her daughter is being impacted massively. You don’t get to throw the “I birthed and do my parental duties card” that’s what happens when you have kids. You have to look after them. She didn’t ask to be born and she doesn’t owe you anything for that. I understand wanting to help her sons, but she screwed over her daughter and in turn put her in an extremely stressful and upsetting situation, essentially putting a halt to her future goals - no matter how temporary they are. Basically just proved that her priories are with the boys. I’m sorry that’s not ok. It’s not easy to ask for help sometimes but I don’t know how she could do this to her daughter and turn it around as if her daughter is the one who is in the wrong.

[@morbiundich803]

Why does the mother not working in the foreign country .Why does the mother relys on others for money.And your daughter will leave you know and never come back because of the bratty behavour of her .She would rely on her dailughter for later ..Forget it she would drop her like a hot potato

[@Jeremy-The-Bullfrog]

Story 2: What kind of cognitive dissonance do you have to have to still think it was "all in her head" after she had to get surgery to remove cysts?

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

Apparently because he thinks she’s somehow... lying about ovarian cysts? Which can cause a bunch of complications for women? I don’t understand this logic.

[@FrancisR420]

Dude obviously just hates his ex, and has hated her since her injury. They're legal friend who suggested a therapist probably suggested it for him.

[@MortalOrder]

About Story 2: even if it was all in her head, THAT IS STILL A DISABILITY

[@jocelyneangrignon2856]

Will need to be supported by objective medical findings. Doubtful that she will get that.

[@Azulakayes]

Exactly

[@Jeremy-The-Bullfrog]

Story 1: The biggest AH move happened three years prior when the parents upended their 15, 16, and 17 year olds lives and moved to a country where they couldn't speak the language. They set their own kids up for failure by doing that.

[@NovaGirl8]

They could have tried making the kids take language lessons so as not the 'shame' their kids

[@Jeremy-The-Bullfrog]

@@NovaGirl8 Not the point. Moving at those ages the kids had a high enough chance of not being able to function well in school even if they were fully immersed continuously.

[@ineedhoez]

Facts

[@autumnhaskin1360]

Story 1: CONGRATULATIONS!! You put a roof over their head and fed them, THE BARE MINIMUM FOR CARING FOR A CHILD!!

[@firerosenight6937]

"I GAVE YOU A ROOF OVER YOUR HEAD AND FED YOUUUU" CANGRATS! you did your legal requirements to avoid being charged with neglect and abuse, wanna medal?

[@RandomTrinidadian]

So wait??? If OP is struggling with money, then WTF is she doing sending her sons to private school?? And technically that koney was specifically for the the daughter, as OP dad stated. What she did was a pure sh*tty move, i really hope the daughter goes NC after she finishes school. Also, Hi waffle!

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

Let me make you a little more angry at the OP; The reason her sons were going to a private school rather than public school is because they refuse to learn any language other than English. And OP conveniently left out the real reason why she didn't want to tell her dad about "needing" money for private school, it's because he was against private schools and had already refused to pay for it. So she intentionally lied, stole money from her daughter, and favored her lazy sons, all while calling her hard-working daughter ungrateful for wanting what was earmarked for her. It's really fucking rich of OP who had never worked a day in her life, to tell her daughter she's ungrateful and selfish for being upset she was used, abandoned, and lied to.

[@Jeremy-The-Bullfrog]

@@Original_Tenshi_Chan Where do you get that it's because they refused? Learning a new language isn't exactly easy to do. From what I saw they weren't able to keep up with instruction in a non-native tongue and fell behind because of it.

[@terra_the_nightingale135]

@@Jeremy-The-Bullfrog maybe they read an update or comment from the OP?

[@FriedaMMartin]

@@Jeremy-The-Bullfrog e work

[@NovaGirl8]

@@Jeremy-The-Bullfrog it can be inferred in the main story. Sister called then lazy and spoilt. Spoiled enough to not have the drive to learn a new language when their older sister could. It makes me wonder which country they come from which heavily favors boys. The mom could have spent some money for language classes instead of a pricier private school.

[@juliahaynie2910]

The number of doctors who play down women’s pain is mind boggling. I really wish that everyone would stop thinking they can “recognize” who is disabled, just be looking at them.

[@lil-WolfyWolf]

@ʆίϯϯʆε ƒɾεδ ɓյσɾηα OMG I hate having an invisible illness & getting shit for it from people who have no idea! Had one doctor say it was all my mum's fault that I was in pain - turns out I needed surgery for that one. Thankfully I have decent doctor's now.

[@amberaseltine3012]

I can inderstand doctor belittle a problem. When I was a pre tween and as a teenager, I feel sick in the morning where I can't eat. I tell the doctor and they ask me if I could be pregnent. I dont ha a boyfriend and still virgin. And they still wouldnt take the time to find out. Because they ledt it with that one question.

[@saratronus]

I know right I have Uterus Sis and it took me years and I do mean years to get that properly examined. So many male doctors refuse to believe my pain And my unexplained it again because I was on a diet they straight up told me to my face that I was lying about sticking to my diet to my diet that I was probably eating junk food on the side which I wasn't it was utter bullshit

[@tamar7065]

It really is a horrible situation for any woman with chronic pain or vague symptoms. I suggest this everywhere I go: If you're in the U.S., go to r/childfree and check their list of doctors. Yes, they're kinda... intense over there, but they keep excellent records of which doctors will actually listen to you, and I found a fantastic doctor near me that way and was able to get decades worth of issues taken seriously all of a sudden.

[@bonnie.f]

Can't tell you how tired I am of being told that my pain doesn't exist.

[@Rukiah1]

Food story: as someone currently eating soup made from a leftover Turkey carcass op was the ahole. All they did was make their son feel left out from something special for leftovers that could have waited till lunch or been used for something else. They could even just freeze leftovers. There's better options than the rule they came up with.

[@terramarini6880]

My rule for my boys was that they had to try at least one bite of anything that appeared on their plate, if they still hated it they didn't have to finish it. They grew to love quite a few things and even I the brussels sprouts hater has found a recipe for them that is actually delicious and I would never have known if I had turned my nose up. Always give it a try.

[@KateeAngel]

When I was a kid my parents ate the leftovers after me, lol

[@amysmith6791]

Wedding story- No is a complete sentence. Grief or not, 6 kids too young to left alone is too many for 1 person to handle.

[@0Jenna7]

Just to point it out. Psychosis is a pretty serious condition. Have you ever had a dream that you thought was real? So much so when you woke up it took a while to figure out that it was a dream. Dreamt it was Thursday instead of Wednesday. A conversation that you dreamt happen? Imagine that you're not asleep, but awake. Imagine it's pain. I hate it when "it's in your head" is used because it's used in such a way that it suggests that it's not a big deal, and you can just make it go away if you try hard enough. Well, I've got news for you. It's not. If your problem is "in the head" I'm really, really sorry. Because that's the absolute worst place for any problem to be.

[@chanterelle483]

Exactly. If doctor told him that she had psychosis, that doesn't mean it was just a feeling she could have snapped out of, it meant neurological condition that was supposed to be treated by different doctor (and she could have gotten disability for).

[@simonO712]

THANK YOU!

[@firesoftheasylum7890]

I've had people tell me that my epilepsy is all in my head. No shit, it's a brain disorder. Doesn't matter how hard someone tries, some things cannot be solved with "mind over matter". So many people refuse treatment or help, because they hear it so often that some actually start to believe it, making a steep decline in their wellbeing. Even some psychiatrists I work with have told schizophrenic patients that shit, so they stop taking meds and usually end up selfharming or successfully commit suicide. Stop telling people it's all in their heads.

[@michaelmorris8302]

@@chanterelle483 but if she didn't try and seek help then should it be the next person's problem

[@ruthgriffiths7365]

@@firesoftheasylum7890 If somebody claims that epilepsy is all in your head (can't they see the irony?!!), then the correct response is there is obviously absolutely nothing going on in their head. In the 21st century, how can anybody be so willfully stupid? Epilepsy is a serious physiological condition, it's effects can be viewed via CT or MRI, how can you be imagining such a condition? Ooooo! I feel so angry on your behalf. Look after yourself - the way that your medical professionals advise - and ignore the insulting oxygen thieves.

[@liacaburian2092]

Story 3 major nta. Geez who needs enemies when you have a shitty family like that. They’re so entitled that they cant see it. Cut them out completely literally. I'm sorry for you loss

[@bluedragonfly8139]

Right? At first I was like, 'ok, maybe they thought looking after the kids would help her somehow? I mean, I wouldn't think that, but people are weird.' Then to find out that not only did they get salty when told they crossed boundaries, but to told OP and his wife 'you don't understand because you don't have kids' *after just losing their second child???!!!* Holy yikes!

[@autumngarcia7562]

Last story: Why breakfast and not lunch? The food wouldn't have gone rotten in that time, seemed a little mean for everyone to have a fancy breakfast while he ate leftovers like the red-headed stepchild.

[@Passions5555]

Yeah that was spiteful

[@ineedhoez]

Right? I grew up poor. We all ate the leftovers! No food was wasted! If you didn't eat it today, you would have to eat it tomorrow or the next day!

[@CameoAmalthea]

Story 1: YTA it was meant for her. She worked hard to go to college and he gave money for that tuition. She doesn’t have to be grateful for being clothed and fed, that’s the parents job and it’s the parents choice to have kids. Story 2: YTA it’s not your business. It’s her body and her pain. And an adult son can make his own choices and punishing his son to control him is just messed up and controlling. Story 3: NTA the family dropped off kids after you said no that’s on them. And I can’t believe they just don’t care at all about the loss they went through. Story 4: YTA clean plate rules are NOT a good idea. It can lead to over eating or lack of regulation on fullness. And food shouldn’t be used for punishment.

[@ayhamalghoul4864]

How can you the first person really think she is not nta.

[@N1korasu]

Story 1 the mom didn't make sure she was fed clothed and had a roof over her head her grandfather did

[@missalii4792]

Story 4: Yeah, I just learned that lesson from Noom, and I wish I had learned it years ago.

[@yef7178]

Me : going to sleep Mark: no i don’t think you will

[@MarkNarrations]

Yes sleep yef, sleep! The videos can wait :)

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

I mean nap time does sound good, especially since my toddler is taking hers now after being up for hoursssss. Idk where you're at, but it's 20mins shy of 6pm here

[@Zeracheil]

Story 2: Even if it was psychological you can get on disability still if it is severe enough and it seams like this one is. They would simply have to change it from the surgical scar to mental health.

[@themondaymonocot5279]

The story with the couple that lost two babies really got me. He doesnt know how hard it is? Well it doesnt sound like the family knows what it's like to LOSE them. Ffs

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Parents that do the bare minimum (aka clothes, food and a roof) and call their children ungrateful are just... something else

[@barbarastorball2117]

Story 3- Nta op and his wife just lost their child 3 weeks ago and the family is just upset because they couldn't act like a childless adults for a day.

[@rubytrue3269]

With the food one, my dad used to force me to sit down and finish large adult size meals so like 3 sausages, a heap of mashed potatos and loads of vegetables when I was like 6 and way smaller than the average child of that age. Honestly it messed me up for years. Even now I’m an adult, when I go out to eat I have to be reassured that it’s okay if I don’t finish my food. It creates unhealthy eating habits and in my case an ED

[@RevWarRev]

Story 1: YATA. The money was intended to pay her daughter's tuition, so in a real sense it was HER money. OP is complaining her daughter was disrespectful, but what about OP's disrespect for her father's wishes? OP is whining about housing and clothing her child as if that was above and beyond, when she's showed def favoritism to her male children. Hope she meant what she said in the edit because the poor kid deserves better.

[@RRW359]

"My daughter hasn't mentioned her plans yet" Probably because she doesn't have any ATM since last time she made plans she almost ended up in massive debt due to no fault of her own.

[@jacegallagher8589]

Story 3: NTA. You told them far enough ahead of time that you could not watch the kids so they had plenty of time to make other arrangements. They disrespected your boundaries by just bringing the kids to you anyways and expecting you to just conform to what they want.

[@jonar.8650]

Story 2 really really really makes my blood boil as a medical student. Women too often are completely cast aside when it comes to reproductive health. When they say they feel like something is wrong, please listen to them. It could save a damn life

[@Mewse1203]

You dont use food as a punishment period. Anything a person needs to live isn't to be used as a punishment. You use food as punishment and you cause issues. Kids need to know that no matter what, their food will be secure.

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Story 3: You said no and they decided to steamroll that boundary. Then, they hit you both with a cheap shot.

[@rossbarone298]

noooooo ovarian cysts are horrible. i feel so terrible for op’s ex in story 2

[@JSainte17]

Yeah so have I as well as 5 kidney stones which were way worse than my cysts, my labor, my c-section recovery, and the massive hematoma I had on my uterus from the c-section. It is not a disability. She is an AH for using her struggling son’s money to try to get her c-section and following hysterectomy classified as a disability.

[@awaasproductions]

Story 4: YTA for sure. The main thing they knew he was getting the left overs, they knew that this being a special occasion didn't matter to it, he was still getting it. They then proceeded to make his favorite meal, which the update that was not included here mentioned is a special treat that is to burdensome for them to make often. That's where you cross the line. All the comments were spot on about this being potentially psychologically scaring for a kid, but this is just cruel. It's almost like they said "Hey let's make his favorite meal & rub his nose in it."

[@elizahamilton5599]

Story 3: NTA that made my blood boil OP lost his child so his family just thought “ yeah this grieving mother is totally ready to watch six kids while we go get drunk at a wedding!”

[@rosaazure]

Wedding story - OP should have told his family that they had 1/2 an hour to pick up the kids or he would be feeding the kids copious amount of sugary food and using the TV as a baby sitter. After all his wife wasn't capable of looking after 6 kids so soon.

[@jacegallagher8589]

Story 1: YTA. The siblings did not have to go to private school. College is expensive and by cutting into your daughter's tuition money, you put her future at risk.

[@shikuthetempest]

That last story makes me so angry. My dad often talks about the time he did the exact same thing to my brother when he didn't want to eat his dinner one night. He speaks like he's damn proud of himself and it's a funny story. He did a lot of awful shit to my brother, honestly.

[@marshawargo7238]

Mom said "U don't have kids so u don't know how it is." OP Should have said "U haven't had to Bury 2 Kids, so U Don't Know Anything!" OP should Also tell them ALL to take their kids & Never Darken His Door Again!

[@83gemm]

Story 3 is the first I’ve ever listened to that made me actually scream, “Holy Sh*t!” Out loud. “You don’t have kids so you don’t know what it’s like,” WTF. I.... good GOD!

[@alma5147]

"I'm standing up now" really gave me a good chuckle. Always appreciate the good chuckles you give me, you breathtaking creature!

[@dragonladyfink4685]

Wow, dude. YTA. I just had a 6 cm complex cyst removed...ie bye bye ovaries. I had the same thing happen when I was in my early 30s when I lost my uterus. On top of this I have Ehlers Danlos syndrome which means I experience pain and joint slippage constantly. It's been 43 years of people calling me crazy(which I am, ty side effects).but I kept pushing and now at least at 20 and 21 my girls know what's wrong with them early and can receive therapy earlier than I did and more focused on reproductive health and thier direct symptoms of EDS. That man is an utter complete asshole. I'm disabled because of this and unable to work anymore.

[@laurenmentink7401]

Hello Mark. I had 2 doctors who almost killed me by not listening to me. I am a female in the U.S.; I had 3 doctors who should never have been allowed to practice medicine. I had 1 doctor who was over 70 years old who had a temper tantrum when I wanted a female doctor. I hate doctors who do not listen. I had a friend who was told that an injury was all in her head. She was bleeding after falling. Bleeding from her head! If your doctor does not listen to you then fire them!!!

[@mrswaypurdysixx]

'I fed her and kept a roof over her head. ' That is the bare minimum a parent should be expected to do for their child! Don't have kids if you don't understand this! YTA

[@Katzztar]

3rd story - OP isn't a A-hole. His family is. He already said No but they didn't listen or think about his wife's mental well-being. It wasn't even a month since his newest baby died. They would still be in mourning.

[@minisnakali]

Story 1: YTA! Literally disgusting. Are you kidding me, as a parent you are SUPPOSED to feed and keep a roof over your Child's head they aren't supposed to be GRATEFUL for something they have a right to. How dare OP ruin her daughter's future for the sake of her golden kids. Frankly repulsive.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Last story: all OP is doing is setting his kids up for unhealthy relationship with food 😳

[@lil-WolfyWolf]

absolutely, due to being forced to eat everything on my plate as a child I now have a very unhealthy relationship with food & also overweight as I was always made to eat past being full - as a child, I would recognize when I was full but cause I didn't eat everything mum wanted me to eat I had to keep eating even though it was too much - it was horribly damaging & am only now at 28 trying to get it under control - I had unhelpful dietitians in the past & low funds, found an actual dr who can help now, even though my funds are still low. Shout out to Mark!! you are amazing, you are one of the only three Reddit readers I enjoy listening to

[@nerdy_evy]

It should have been "if you don't finish your dinner, you have to eat it as one of your meals the next day. Unless it's a special occasion" YTA what jerks

[@filibuster8760]

Story 4. Is my dad still alive?? This is so his punishment. Needles to say that I am overweight..... Sad.

[@zerobolt9506]

I think that was story 5 Edit: I was wrong, I thought he had done 4 stories and the last was a 5th cause he usually does 4 🤣

[@firesoftheasylum7890]

I grew up terrified of food. I have huge texture issues and would gag, sometimes even throwing up, with certain foods (mashed potatoes, oatmeal, applesauce). My dad would make me eat the shit until I cried and got sick, then got punished for throwing up. OP in that story sounded identical to my dad, which is horrifying to think of what OP's kids are dealing with. By 18, I was 80 lbs underweight. I'm almost 29 and still scared of some foods. Don't cause unhealthy relationships between your kids and food.

[@kaimikalaniYT]

Hey mark, I just wanted to say that lately, I have been so down and sad, but seeing that you posted a video made me brighten up a bit and smile :)

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

🤗🤗💜💜

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww that's lovely to hear thank you Nicole. I hope things pick up for you my friend

[@Roedygr]

SCAR: The most painful thing I ever experienced was all in my head. I would sooner be eaten by tigers than re-experience it. If that woman applies for c-section scar disability, she will be laughed out of the office no matter what pain she is experiencing.

[@lessimeharuhi4236]

Pain is a flag of something wrong. Cysts are no joke. I had 2 c sections. The worst thing in the world is when the numbing from the surgery wears off. And heaven forbid you sneeze or cough within the 1st 24hrs after surgery. Its a big bloody mess and you need a nurse to change the wound dressings.

[@squeakybb]

You just saved my life Mark I've been scatter brained all day focusing on you talking helps so much 😩

[@MarkNarrations]

Anytime Amanda :)

[@47896285pgdfzgnd]

That very last comment was just *chef kiss* a BRILLIANT question. What happens to the leftovers? Stop forcing kids to eat when they don't want to

[@dianaphillips8038]

I taught my kids they could save what is left on their plate for lunch the fallowing day. We also stored any other leftover food for latter. This has helped them learn not to overeat and how to stretch their food budgets once they were living on their own

[@louellacharlton4425]

If there was something on the table that we did not like there was always peanut butter. LOL thank God for peanut butter!

[@Jennifer_helen]

Anyone giggle when mark called OP in story two a Burke I died 😂

[@missluciddreams3472]

Me 😂

[@moimeself1088]

Berk 😂😂😂

[@rambling964]

For those unaware of cockney rhyming slang, it's short for Berkshire Hunt, where the last word rhymes with the intended insult.

[@1911odisea]

Story 2: While the mother likely suffers from genuine issues, there's no way she can get on disability for chronic pain.

[@cynicalrabbit915]

Story 2 - Mother in pain OP YTA How many times have Doctors dismissed a woman's pain as being psychosomatic, only for her to eventually be vindicated when a Doctor actually starts looking for a cause rather than being dismissive, and eventually finding THE problem, also the delay usually caused the condition to worsen? Doctors have an unfortunate history of dismissing women's complaints simply because they are women who do not deserve to be taken seriously.

[@sandracopenhaver3230]

"yeah I know sorry my kids died and The fact that you're calling on dead children to make your case as the family of somebody who lost those kids is just gruesome."

[@francit4856]

Anytime ANYONE gives the "Kept them fed and a roof over their head" line, no matter what the rest of the story is, they automatically transfer to TA territory.

[@topazblu6209]

Story 4: The son was stated as being old enough to fix his own food but the dad just took out his son's leftovers and warmed it up. Didn't ask before hand if he wanted to eat the leftovers at that point but just took the decision away. I get he didn't want the food to go to waste but seriously there are two other meals left in the day it could've waited till then. I'm not big on breakfast but my mom never made me eat as she herself couldn't tolerate eating in the early morning hours. Hopefully he doesn't develop a negative food association thing. As long as the leftover food gets eaten (eventually) that's all that should matter. There should be no time of day. As for the fairness thing in regards to the sister, it may convince her to eat as little as possible so she doesn't get stuck in a similar situation. I would hate to be a meal prepper in that house as food I would make for lunch for the week might get served when I don't want it to. Hope you're enjoying your day Mark.

[@deppnut1]

No kids at the wedding and cannot find a sitter that said yes. You don't get to attend the wedding. The only ones that ruined the wedding are the entitled parents.

[@nimrath]

3rd story, holy crap! those poor poor people. my heart bleeds for them. Their relatives are complete tools!

[@mk_gamíng0609]

First story She was not embarrassed about her financial stability She was embarrassed because how bad her two sons were doing

[@carolbelvin5278]

As for the 4th story about punishing the son over food, if I was the son, I would have thrown the plate of leftovers in the trash, eaten the fresh breakfast food with the rest of the family and if the parents tried to stop son from eating fresh food, I would have then told school officials that I was being abused at home/having food withheld, so that CPS could intervene and set the parents straight. Never allow parents to cause an eating disorder over their stupid ideas.

[@KittenUndercover]

It’s disgusting how many people still think that female hysteria is a legitimate diagnosis in 2021.

[@zerobolt9506]

What? It's not!?

[@notevenlistening6072]

Thank you so much, Mark, for getting heated about that jerk dismissing his ex-wife's medical issues.

[@AnotherLittleArtist]

Day 2 of saying: have a better day than you can imagine!

[@MarkNarrations]

Thank you so much Giro :)

[@AnotherLittleArtist]

Your so welcome, how was you day so far?

[@Lili-ib2rh]

As a woman who spent a year going through hospitals and being told that my autoimmune disease was: stress, pregnancy and in my head before being taken seriously, the ex can go to hell! Also, the food thing is borderline sadistic. As luck would have it, it was his favorite dish and he didn't think to give it to her at dinner instead. Sounds more about control than avoiding waste.

[@DragonbornCanid]

Story 2: that dad sounds like people who claim depression isn't real, because 'It's AlL iN yOuR hEaD'

[@thegoodkelly]

I would have dropped all the kids at the police station and pinned the address if the wedding to their clothes.

[@denelva]

Food should NEVER be used as punishment, reward or comfort. NEVER. I was a very skinny child who struggled with sensory issues. Most tastes, smells, textures etc. were stronger to me and since I wasn't diagnosed with autism and ADD until I was 25, I was of course, seen as fussy. It was especially difficult in school lunches (we have free school lunches in my country) and I couldn't stand the smell, the textures or the taste of plenty of foods. This wasn't about being ungrateful. I lived off carrots, hard bread and water often in middle school, instead of trying out foods I knew I wouldn't be able to finish. Sometimes I did try something I was unsure of, but it rarely ended well, so I rather didn't try new stuff. Both friends, teachers and other adults called me fussy, teased me, berated me and in some cases even tried to trick me into eating things I had made clear I wouldn't eat. I was told later, as an adult, that people thought I was anorexic, which pissed me off because NO ONE expressed that concern in that time at all. I wasn't anorexic, I had severe sensory issues, especially with textures, smells and tastes - which have never went away. I'm still very "fussy", but I have been able to learn to eat plenty more foods as long as I could try them out without being stressed. I love fruit and veggies, whole grain bread, nuts and seed, I can mix things together a lot more than before and I even eat sauces now, which was one of my biggest fear foods. But trying out new dishes has never been fun or exciting to me. Being served something I don't know what it is, or something I know I don't eat, is so fucking stressful. I HATE it and sooo many people have gotten offended by that over the years, despite me explaining it's not about their cooking, but my sensory issues. I would love to not be "fussy", but tastes along with smells and certain touches, fabrics, sounds etc. are making my life quite shitty sometimes. It would be lovely to not be this oversensitive, because on top of the issues mentioned above, I got used to starve myself during school hours and then eat massive snacks consisting merely of pasta, mashed potatoes, instant noodles, crisps, candy, chocolate bars etc. I was skinny as a fucking twig, had a huge appetite and developed a huge fascination with meal charts, planned menus, etc. because I wanted to eat like that but got overwhelmed with fear from unknown food. I have increased my diet a lot since then and eat so much more healthy foods, but the fear of unknown tastes, of smells I feel too strong and not knowing how I will react to new things, makes food a kind of battle ground for me. "Just trying" isn't a thing to me. I may do it if I feel VERY secure in the situation, but that mostly occurs after years. Please do not use food for reward or punishment or ultimatums. It never leads avywhere good, really.

[@veronicajacobson6594]

The food rule is ridiculous my moms rule was try it once if you don't like it don't have to eat it, but left over are left overs eat them for lunch or have a left over dinner night no food wasted

[@kaym1040]

Parents who pull the “I fed you and gave you a house to live in” card don’t deserve children. You don’t get brownie points for doing the BARE MINIMUM. Favoritism is disgusting. And sad.

[@ThePinkBinks]

Any women who need to know, those adhesions glue your organs including bowels into a solid rock. It can only be eased by surgery where they're cut apart but each surgery will speed up the rate at which the adhesions grow. Because of this the surgeries are kept to a minimum. Cant poop, can't walk, can't eat cos you can't poop, can't hold your bladder, can't have children and can't move without severe pain. None of your organs can slide past each other to let you move properly. Tell any women who need to know.

[@ThePinkBinks]

OMG I'm recovering from adhesions surgery and hysterectomy right now! It was supposedly all in my head too. I'm qualified as disabled because it's a permanent and limiting and painful condition. Wow. Poor woman.

[@Alyrulz421]

I remember a different ask reddit for coroner's where a guy was talking about a woman who died in her 40s or 30s from complications of horrifying endometriosis scarring in her abdomen. Her medical history had a multitude of psych diagnoses and ZERO treatment for her pain. Every doctor she came to for help told her she was crazy. And she died. That's how OP in the story was gonna let his wife go. Why do people never listen to women?

[@spacetofu5306]

Story 3: This is the moment where CPS could have been called and it won't be OP or his wife's fault if CPS were involved because CPS would make sure of that.

[@sciencenerd218]

Perfect timing as I'm cleaning my kitchen!

[@p_eachymilk]

Starting to dive head first into the semester- It's so relaxing to just pop your videos on in the studio and just work.

[@Bos187]

The only food rule i grew up with was "you don't get to say "i don't like this" until you've tried it, if after trying you still don't like it, fair enough"

[@Cottontailart]

as someone who has chronic regional pain syndrome (damaged nerves) chronic pelvic pain and endometriosis i can say i am fuming for that woman whose ex just basically has done what doctors have done to me for ten years plus, ive been told the exact thing that its all in my head till this year and even last month they tried to remove the drugs that help me move because opoids dont help me, but i pointed out if it was just in my head i wouldnt have been in hospital over 100 times in one year and go to many hospitals including one 5 hours away just to prove its not imaginary, i feel so sorry for that woman i could seriously rant on im that angry

[@HackiePuffs]

Story 4: YTA. So glad my mom never was like this. My dad used to be like this and had the “clean up your plate” rule but he dropped it when I started hiding my leftovers. Yes I hid my leftovers he lived in a tiny apartment so I usually ate on one of those foldout tables on the couch and when no one was looking I would stuff my leftovers in between or under the couch. Yeah in retrospect that’s not really a good idea because bugs but I was like 7 okay 😅. There’s nothing wrong with having leftovers but bottom line is you stop eating when you’re full. Also those of you who might be worried about my dad don’t worry ever since he moved to a new place like 5 years ago he’s gotten a lot better. He was never a terrible parent just had some flaws. But the important thing is we’re good now. 👍🏻

[@DarkAngel65989]

Story 1:OP is the ah, first not getting a job so she can support her own family, using the money that was suppose to be for the daughter and use on the son basically telling the daughter that their brother education is more important then her. I wouldn't be surpise if she doesn't want to talk to OP anymore. Story 2:OP is the ah, many women have been in the ex position where no one believe she have a medical condition until it's too late, what the son is doing for his mother nice ane caring, OP should help the son and ex and quit making her like she crazy. Story 3:OP is not the ah, there use the passing of OP and his wife's child and the fact there were at home as a way to get free babysitting without consenting to them about this and then blame OP and the wife for missing the wedding. OP and the wife should go no contact with them since they clearly doesn't respect what they going through or boundries. Story 4:OP is the ah, what OP is doing can lead to eating disorder for the kids, OP could of not do it for this day since it qas special visit from the family and it was with his favorite meal and he couldn't eat it, this is somewhat abuses.

[@canadalovesanime3137]

The story with the "family" dumping six kids on a grieving mother. I would cut out the toxicity. OP and (especially) his wife don't need this sh*t in their lives. NTA The sick OP with the food obsession. My family did this. I stopped eating anytime something was made I did like. This is the best way to make kids hate mealtime, and it can cause an unhealthy relationship with food. YTA

[@Roedygr]

LEFTOVERS: Mom forced way too much food down our throats including foods that made me nauseous (carrots, squash). She also strapped us if we did not eat quickly enough. Don't ever force food. You cause psychological damage.

[@fantasticmrfox9291]

Honestly, literally was listening to this and chuckled and said out loud "love you Mark" at the "gee whizz how does one family have such a bunch of assholes"

[@Roedygr]

WEDDING SITTER: when your family want to go to a movie, they hire a babysitter. Surely they can do the same for a wedding rather than dumping all 6 unwanted hyper brats on you. This deserves some serious revenge.

[@sierralovat5498]

Story 4 hits hard for me.

[@ineedhoez]

Story 4: If I am the kid, I am putting food on my plate, 1 green bean at a time.

[@thegoodkelly]

It WILL be the actual scenario when your child is grown. He will hate you for this.

[@digit5465]

Wanna hear a joke? What do you call a kidnapped duck? A-duck-tion

[@kixi8033]

4: If it was a case of he just didn't want to eat it, then I could understand. But it wasn't. Even adults sometimes take more than they can eat, hell I've even done it and I'm 33 years old. And in that case it either goes back into the pot to be put away or the plate/bowl gets wrapped up and put away. The kid's eyes were bigger than his stomach and that isn't something that should cause him to miss out on his favorite breakfast. Also, why is the meal specifically for breakfast? If my 15 month old doesn't finish his food, it goes into the fridge to be reheated either later for dinner if it was lunch or the next day for lunch or dinner. And we purely do that not to waste the food.

[@RSN2277]

Story 4: OP is NTA having a rule like that, but the way OP is doing is just wrong. If the person had too big of a helping, then they could have that as a snack or lunch or dinner the next day. Not when having a special breakfast or getting outside food to the house.

[@WolframKKM]

Last story: yup OP is setting his kids up for a lifetime of issues with food. I speak 100% of experience of having adults disparage me in a similar fashion my entire childhood. I understand trying to teach kids good eating habits but at the same time kids have literally no say is how, when and what they're supposed to eat - for food! One of the most personal and basic things in our day to day lives. It's incredibly disempowering to chastise kids for trying to develop their own eating habits.

[@Roedygr]

TUITION: if OP was the source of the funds, she would have the right to redirect it to her sons. But the source was Grandfather. He directed it to his granddaughter. You STOLE it. You lied to Grandfather. That does not excuse your theft. It doubles it.

[@MagicalShiBirb]

Story 2: my mother wasn't believed when she said something was wrong with me when I was a born.... I have a brain tumor and I'm lucky to be alive :) I would've been dead by now if people kept ignoring her. YTA.

[@CasuallyGaming123]

Story 4: YTA This isn't even a case of the kid refusing to eat his dinner (which I still would have trouble with the rule, but regardless) he just over served himself. That's all! Are you telling me the parents never accidentally over served themselves before!? FFS this screams of either rigid thinking or abuse of power, either way it's toxic for the child and it's an eating disorder in the making. I don't understand why they didn't just save it for lunch since it was his favorite breakfast. It doesn't even sound like this was a habitual issue for him, the parents were just being insanely rigid. I understand not wanting to waste food. In my family, we make dinner and any leftovers are saved for lunch the next day. If there's no leftovers or if you don't want what was for dinner the night before, you make a sandwich or something. No one has to cook extra and no food goes to waste. WTF OP

[@Kanime18]

Me: **listening to this video as I go to sleep** Mark: "You Burke" Me: **wonders how many people understood that Cockney rhyme and laughs**

[@catandrobbyflores]

Could you explain what it means?

[@jennilynne1977]

Much love to you Mark. Thank you for making my day great. Keep up the great work!

[@middi6]

The family in the wedding story are just heartless i couldn't imagine asking someone who had just been through that to look after my flat for the day let alone a child! your better of without them so so so sorry for your loss.

[@NerdyNonsenseStudios]

OMG, I finally became a member. I recently started a cover youtube channel and been honestly listening to these videos during the long editing process. Thanks for keeping me entertained during the long days.

[@heathermcdonald9469]

So on story 4... I was told I was a “picky eater” it turns out that I have food allergies/sensitivities (a lot of them) I didn’t realize it until I was in my 30’s. Forcing kids to eat things to “make sure they aren’t picky” is not a good thing.