r/AITA Putting A Camera In My Room To Catch My Roommate Up To No Good

[@Russman67]

Whoa. So the girlfriend somehow doesn't see how her and her boyfriend screwing on OP's bed might be off putting (especially if homegirl is leaving her clothes in the bed) but mad that OP put a camera in her room to figure this out. That's sketchy AF.

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah. I'd be seriously weirded out finding someone's lacy nothings tangled in my sheets.

[@louellacharlton4425]

I almost lost my ???when the guy said"goldiefu*ks". Omg so funny.

[@tgbedini]

As soon as she is confronted, the GF attacks OP for having a camera. This is some standard control freak behavior; never admit you are wrong, and attack the person who found out, making them defensive, and making them feel guilty for discovering the transgression. It's total bull, and an indication that she absolutely knew what she was doing sucked.

[@MiraTheWarlock]

I can't believe you'd had the nerve disrespecting my privacy by recording me actively disrespecting your privacy

[@carterpitbull7366]

HIS* room. He’s a gay man lol. That’s what makes it worse, she wants to screw in a bed that two men use why??? It’s their damn bed they don’t want some girl in it 😂

[@Mewse1203]

Stpry 5: NTA she was charging her MINOR DAUGHTER rent. That is enough to say it's her fault, but she was charging so much OP is able to get a fully furnished/ Utilitied apartment for less than mom's house. That wasn't market rent. That was abuse and mom needed to hear that she is at fault.

[@ScooterBond1970]

Mom seriously sounds like a Dahr Mann villain

[@Lisapizzza]

I thought story 4 was going to YTA, but at 10 years old you're old enough to know that you'll get hungry if you throw away your dinner and don't want snacks

[@dustyrose192]

You're old enough to do a lot of things, like tidying your own room, not hit the dog or scream at his head, put your plates in the kitchen and pour the leftover milk in your cereal bowl down the drain so we dont get a pest problem, tidy your computer desk... Sorry im justy ranting about my younger sibling

[@thecoolgrandma7208]

NTA, should have told stepdaughter not to throw away her McDs but to take it with her for when she does get hungry.

[@HackiePuffs]

Story 3: YTA. You’re literally encouraging him to cause trouble and stray away from responsibilities. The fact that he has the ability to cheat the system with money but still chooses to work hard to become successful in life is honestly something that I can respect big time. And you should too. And maybe partying and being social isn’t his thing even if he didn’t study. Not everyone is a social butterfly. You’re not helping him you’re being mean and judgmental to him.

[@Coira2]

You said it better than I could. OP sounds like they have some growing up to do, and that's fine. Don't drag your friends down just because you wish you could squeak by in life.

[@gigaswardblade7261]

the fact that OP thinks they should be partying instead of studying because his parents are rich is beyond idiotic.

[@brendacowling4219]

@@gigaswardblade7261 Just goes to show that under the American higher education system, you don't have to have any intelligence to go to uni. If this guy gets a degree, it shows that the qualification is not worth the paper it's written on. Why are American parents spending tens of thousands of dollars to pay for idiots to party for 4 years?

[@Dguncrazy]

@@brendacowling4219 its bad parenting teachings (especially with the power hungry parents they enjoy life when they get there way when in the long run they are destroying there kids talken about karen type parents. The kids develope i cant be touched attitude and it sucks tbh some grow out of it do to harsh life hitting them but some dont and become douch people themselves) people that dont know responsibility are dooming themselves when they cant fend for themselves

[@DCD762]

​@@gigaswardblade7261 i seen a lot of such behavior in US and UK. This is that type of grad that will finish uni with average grades, won't bother to find a job, blame everyone else for his problem and be envious of the ones that actually put in the work and claim he " deserves " the same. That's a prime example of a waste of space in the making

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 1: “you aren’t on the lease, so go find your own place to live. Nasty ass person”

[@MarionHogan-m5i]

And screw in your own bed!

[@mindyschocolate]

Story 2: stop paying his loans. He broke his promise so you’re free to break yours. At any rate, without an income, you can’t carry his burden. You also have to “think about yourself”.

[@Martial_Autist]

Agreed. They thoroughly fucked OP over when they absolutely didn't need to, time to look out for #1.

[@FriedaMMartin]

Story 3 YTA: your friend could be trying to build his life. And his parents being wealthy doesn’t mean that it will be passed down to him, it isn’t a guarantee. The fact that despite the fact that he’s rich, that he’s studying that hard, means that he’s not an entitled brat.

[@JUMALATION1]

A person would have to literally drag me to a party for me to attend one in uni lol. Some people just really enjoy getting their degree over and done with without distractions, and that should be their own personal choice. My own parents are neither poor nor rich but I've been earning my own money during summer jobs + working hella hard in school to just graduate. Good on the dude for putting effort into his studies and not relying on his family's wealth.

[@Nukie144]

The kid is making a life for himself and OP is bitter or jealous (maybe both). Maybe there's a family business he's meant to take over and he needs a good degree for that. Or maybe he just has goals. The OP even says the kid doesn't like parties (can't blame him, tbh). OP should just leave him tf alone.

[@brigidtheirish]

I know, right? His parents aren't going to be alive forever. At some point, he has to be the one to maintain that wealth. Drives me *nuts* when people dismiss someone who's wealthy as 'it just came from his parents.' Yeah, starting from wealth makes some things easier, but it's *also* easier to *waste* that wealth and end up millions in debt. And I'm speaking as someone who's barely ever bobbed above the poverty line her entire life! Money doesn't just magically replicate itself, you have to make certain choices, take risks, *work.*

[@lynnw7155]

That guy was me in university. I was the studier, my friends were the party types. They constantly tried to drag me to parties and I resented it. I think I just made them feel guilty that they didn't study. More than one of them was at risk of getting kicked out due to bad grades.

[@Val_Benko]

Story 2: absolutely NTA. OP should 100% stop paying the student loans if they can. Also, verbal contracts are as legally binding as written contracts. The son and DIL are in breach of contract

[@7ShadowMaiden7]

Verbal contracts might depend on the state/province/city/county/country

[@civivva4501]

WTF Did I just hear? Is op annoyed his roommate/not-boyfriend is working hard STUDYING at the University his parents contributed to so that HE DOESN'T WASTE THE BILLION DOLLAR FORTUNE HIS FAMILY HAS AMASSED.

[@shithead1029384756]

Who would've thought. Studying at school.....

[@civivva4501]

@@shithead1029384756 What a concept. I don't think it will catch on. Too revolutionary.

[@diamondmx3076]

Tbh, you can't waste a billion dollars by not doing anything. It's literally too much money to spend on anything, even extravagance. The only way to burn a billion dollars is to invest it badly. Now, it's admirable the student wants to better themselves and maybe be a useful contributor to society, and that should never be mocked - but they certainly never needed to. Studying is a hobby for them.

[@janicewilcox8590]

Your roommate is not wealthy. His parents are wealthy. But that you think he should slack because you don't think he needs to. That he's not as willing as you to be a leech off of other people.

[@michaeldowson6988]

Anything she finds uninteresting is a total waste of time apparently.

[@pansprayers]

@@michaeldowson6988 she? There's no she in the third story. Frudian slip?

[@lizgreene7921]

Story 6, did everyone just forget that the mom scolded op for leaving out the friend?

[@BriarCraft74]

I was thinking that too. Sure asking at basically every ride could be overwhelming, but at the same time the friend would have heard his Mom scold him. Though the Mom sucks too, because she should have seen that he bought his own ticket, but not any tickets for rides, so why is she scolding OP to buy tickets for the friend? The thought of wanting a thank you though is a bit much. So I'll go with a light ESH, most on the Mom since she was mad at OP making him bug the friend, OP for expecting to be thanked when the friend bought his own stuff, and the friend for blowing up instead of just telling OP and his Mom that he didn't want to go on any rides.

[@darkshadow5581]

Yea, plus, isn't it common to offer in situations like that, even if you know they'll reject it, out of courtesy? So that you don't end up having it look like your just ignoring them for most of the day?

[@amelianekomimi1936]

Yep. Moms the asshole. OP is the NTA

[@rai1578]

This.

[@jonathanhansen587]

@@BriarCraft74 “the thought og Wanting a Thank you is a bit much” isnt it normal behavior to say thank you after you have Been given something?

[@growinghigher420]

Anyone else hoping for an update for story 1? I'm just genuinely curious about the aftermath lol

[@jennilynne1977]

I would love to know what happened next as well.

[@Coira2]

Definitely. I get them being mad at being recorded, but they shouldn't be in OP's space.

[@geraldgrenier8132]

It one thing of the camera was in the common area without their knowledge, then there would even be a question (you having reason to falsely thinking it was ok by being sole lease holder is wrong but understanfable), But ot being in you private space and only records that private space it not even a question of NTA

[@louellacharlton4425]

yep patiently waiting. lol NOT

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

He tried posting one but the sub deleted it Edit: He did say in some comments that he was going to be contacting his landlord about what happened

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 2: the only response to that ungrateful son is “well you can pay your student loans. I need to think of myself” He agreed to something but broke his agreement so OP needs to break off the agreement she pays his loans. Especially since now she doesn’t have a job

[@brigidtheirish]

Agreed! Why the hell would they be more comfortable with ear-infection-central than *grandma?!*

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@brigidtheirish especially at twice the price. It’s as if the parents don’t want to put the work into socially preparing their children outside of work. Find friends with kids and set up play dates. Why spend more on daycare that can easily get their children sick than letting their children spend time with Grandmother who is actually teaching them stuff 3 year olds don’t even know well.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@TsukiKageTora Exactly! Granted, I have a bit of an attitude toward daycare. I babysat for a couple when I was a teen whose son was in daycare before he could walk and *constantly* had ear infections. He was also a *nightmare* to put to bed. Get him in his room, turn around, and he was out causing mayhem. The parents had tried this thing that goes over the door knob to keep it from turning, but he broke it. So they decided, at least when I was babysitting, that the best way to keep him in his room was to tie a rope between his door and the bathroom door across the hall. Naturally, this meant the bathroom was unusable, but it *did* keep him in his room. Where he screamed like someone being murdered until he wore himself out. And he was the *easy* one of the two!

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@brigidtheirish they’ll waste more money, especially since OP refuses to continue paying his loans

[@brigidtheirish]

@@TsukiKageTora Did you miss the little update that OP stopped paying those?

[@ray30k]

Story 6: I get that, with OP's mom getting on the case about the friend being "left out" that OP has reason to keep offering those tickets, but ultimately it's doing more harm than good.

[@bigheadache]

Story 3: come on let’s be honest here. The OP’s motive here is he wants to have a “rich friend” out with him so when they go out someone can pick up the bar tab and flash the cash.

[@indianspartan76]

Story 6: either he didn't want to admit he was scared of rides, or he felt his pride hurt that OP was gonna pay for him.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 3: YTA, not everyone goes to college to “party”. Like he’s probably not a guarantee trust fund baby, even though his parents are rich they’re probably not giving him that much of an allowance. Or he probably doesn’t want to live off his daddy‘s money and wants to go out on his own. Honestly I feel like OP is going to end up resenting his friend who actually busted his ass in college to get a good job and a good future while OP was too busy partying and “enjoying college“ causing his grades to slip and not get a successful as a future as his friend who studied.

[@Ambidexter143]

Bertrand Russell came from an extremely wealthy family. He was actually Earl Russell, as in a member of the British nobility. He didn't have to do anything but spend his family's wealth. Instead he got a PhD and co-wrote the three volume "Principia Mathematica" explaining the foundations of modern mathematics (including a proof that 1+1=2). Not every rich person is a party animal.

[@catherineholt1149]

yep that's a good attitude to have. getting a good job at the end of college or university is what happens because you have an interest in the subjects in the first place. So regardless of background working hard makes sense.

[@condorboss3339]

I have known a few wealthy people who were rich enough that their kids could have just lived as party animals. Most of those kids were as hard working as their parents because their parents took the time to teach the kids values. As Jacqueline Kennedy said " _If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do matters very much_ ."

[@elizabethmartin6707]

Story 2: they are literally forgoing a trusted, personalized care giver for expensive daycare? If they are going to bother paying so much for the "socialization" reasons alone, then they might as well sign them up for preschool instead. At least then they’d get an early education out of it (seeing as OP was already starting to teach them colors and such).

[@rylashadow18]

Odds are they expect to be able to try the ditch and run method they did on the OP to find that they could be charged with that. They'll be contractually obligated to follow the letter of whatever they sign to get that kid in. Let her son take on his own expenses seeing as she has no real income for the time being and seeing as they're proving they can afford the day care then they can afford his student loans. Don't let them come back to you with their false promises either OP. They've proven they could care less how greatly they inconvience you.

[@louluna7963]

Further down the comments on this post. OPs explained DIL didn’t like how her kids were responding better to OP. Still it doesn’t seem like OP was doing anything malicious or holding that over DIL head. She was just feeling insecure as her role as mother. I don’t see the logic of taking away her kids caretaker. The kids will have a hard time adjusting without OP

[@Deathbomb9]

Story 5: Your mom charged your market rate rent for the room you lived in as a minor? She was using that to pay the mortgage. That's also illegal in most countries. As a parent you are obligated to care for your child that includes paying essentially bills. She could've asked for a couple hundred a month to help out and that would potentially be okay if she really needed the help, but its obvious she didnt need it. She prevented you from saving money and wanted to control your finances. And then she gets mad when you tell her off and call her out on it? Go talk to a CPS agent or an attorney to see if you can recover that money. That is abuse and even abusing a 16 or 17yo has the same charge as any other age. You're doing great and we are proud of you. Keep your chin up and talk to your manager about your situation. You've been there for what.sounds like at least 2 years or at least long enough to ask about taking extra hours so you can save a little to start getting more essentials. Little by little you'll start to collect dishes and all that and you'll treat them like fine China, I promise. I had with mine and they are still alive, only some I left with a friend that treats his dishes the same as I treat mine since we were roommates when we were first adults living in a 2bed 1bath apartment together haha.

[@maddy8328]

Story 3, YTA. I'm in college currently, and I'm working hard for a graphic design bachelor's. Then to do online animation school and get a degree in that, and hopefully get a good job in that field, I still have fun on my off time but that's after my work is finished.

[@Mewse1203]

Stpry 4: NTA This was all a manipulation and the daughter knew what would happen by calling her mom. The mom and dad need to get a hold of this entitlement now but I can tell you the mom won't change.

[@dustyrose192]

The moms never do, i got an entitled brat of a sister and i love her dearly but holy fuck is she hard work

[@hetagirlgamer5296]

I noticed one thing with Story 6 that makes me want to say OP isn't the AH, and as such there's only one AH there. OP's mom yelled at OP for not including the friend on the rides. I know parental pressure is a pain, especially when you get chewed out for something out of your control. OP was just doing everything they could to not get yelled at again for "excluding" their friend. OP isn't really an AH, but the mom sure is. Also, friend isn't the AH at all for reasons mentioned by Mark.

[@rai1578]

Yeah, that's my thoughts as well. To be honest, I was a bit frustrated that nobody seemed to mention that. I mean, they're just a kid. Kids don't like being yelled at by their parents. It's normal for them to feel frustrated, when they got scolded at for something that they couldn't control. They were just trying not to get in trouble. And to a kid, it would likely feel like it was their friends fault that they got in trouble. When you're a kid, you don't really have the full picture to understand when a parent is being reasonable, vs when they're not. It's the mom's actions that caused this. It's a result of our brain's reward system. We seek rewards, and avoid punishments. We notice what get's rewarded and what get's punished. OP noticed that when his friend wouldn't go on rides, he get scolded. The logical conclusion is that if his continues to not go on rides, he will get scolded. If his friend does go on rides, he won't get scolded, and might even get praised or thanked. Our brains naturally want the reward, not the punishment, so of course he's going to try to influence his friend to go on rides As we get older, our impulse control gets better and we become better at balancing our own best interests and what we want with things like empathy. We act less impulsively, and take more time to think through our actions. We have more perspective and life experience as well, so it's easier for us to think about what the consequences will be not just for ourselves, but for others. As a result, we're better able to put ourselves in others shoes and understand their perspectives. So it's easy as an adult to say "Yeah, you shouldn't have done that". But our brains are more developed, and we have a broader understanding of things. So ultimately, I put most of the blame on the mother. I can understand the mom not wanting their friend to feel excluded, but then as a parent, you have a conversation about it and find out WHY the friend isn't joining in on the rides. If they say "Yeah, your kid wont let me ride anything with them", then sure, scold your kid. But why would you just assume that's the case?

[@audreynothepburn7663]

Except for you know NOT thanking OP is an AH move

[@allancaton8892]

All the kid needed to say is thank you I appreciate the offer but I don’t like rides. Go and enjoy and I’ll meet you here. Done, easy! He IS NOT THE AH!

[@deebee4930]

story 4 OP should have told Dad or Mom to pick her up. I wouldn't take that child anywhere again, and if she complains use that as a teaching moment. Sometime she has to learn there are consequences.

[@funwithcoding2818]

I wouldn’t feel comfortable being alone her again. Clearly manipulative, and there’s far worse accusations she could make

[@Faxanadu]

Story 3: YTA - sounds like OP wants his rich friend to party so he can go along for the ride. I have a very very wealthy cousin and people like to try to invite her along on their vacations hoping she will pay for everything, or at least "upgrade" whatever they're doing.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 1: they don’t even have the decency to clean up after themselves to the point of leaving clothes in the bed, so they are exposing OP and his boyfriend to possible STDs/STIs just by not cleaning the sheets and possibly having spunk on the bed. The guy isn’t on the lease, kick him out cause this is intolerable especially after they guilt you and make you the bad guy. Disgusting

[@wmdkitty]

You can't catch an STI off of dirty sheets.

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@wmdkitty you can if they are fight enough to jizz on the sheets

[@justine8387]

@@wmdkitty nope but you can catch things like hepatitis A, scabies, head lice, be exposed to allergies causing things from peoples deodorants etc. Plus ITS YOUR PERSONAL SPACE.

[@user-mp1is6ys7m]

Just because the parents are rich that doesn't mean that he'll be getting that money forever

[@VikingsRazor]

Story 5. When my kids were old enough to work, I would charge them for their phone, ' a little bit for rent ', and a little bit for utilities. I was teaching them the value of money. What they didn't know was that I saved all of the money and added to it(I would match or put more in than they gave me)and gave it all back when they moved out, needed a car etc. They were never cheated out of their money. I also only took a small percentage. They were very grateful to have all of that extra savings. I also made them save a percentage of their money. So it was like double savings.

[@egmono]

Story 5: Tell your mother if she doesn't want to get back talked in YOUR home then she should knock her shit off or get out.

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#3 YTA a major one . he seems to have a better and healthier view of his goals and was raised with ethics. Key point is the money is his parents not his yet.

[@marianhoblyn2552]

The mother charging her minor child rent is a disgusting human being, and then having the nerve to blame that child for not having what she considers the essentials.

[@andybryan7151]

Story 4: So throwing away food is a big trigger issue for me. 10 is absolutely old enough to know that if you don't eat dinner, you're going to be hungry.

[@thatwitchychick2717]

Jeez.. if my kid were living in a dark apartment with plastic forks we would have been going to Target. I don't understand parents who charge their minor children rent.

[@user-wh5fj6pj6m]

Story 4: it’s not a bad thing to feel hungry, she can wait

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 1: NTA, everyone has the right to make sure that their personal property/living space is not being messed with. It’s BS that they’re using OP’s bed. It was OP’s bedroom, Opie’s private personal living space. The way the girlfriend started attacking OP and the Roommate were getting defensive they’re acting like 0P put the camera in the shared shower. “Your bed is more comfortable“ is not an excuse to feel entitled to use someone else’s bed. They shouldn’t have been banging and OPs bed in the first place.

[@brigidtheirish]

Not to mention how *disgusting* using someone else's bed to have *sex* is. At least to me, but I'm a sex-repulsed asexual. I'd be tempted to *burn* those sheets.

[@fionaeckert4556]

Wonder how the roommate would feel if op and his boyfriend would be doing it on his bed, leaving the mess there... He shouldn't have a problem.

[@gypsygem9395]

@@brigidtheirish even as a person who is not asexual, it repulses me too. I remember once, my mum found a pair of knickers in her bed. I was already married and living on the other side of the country, so she knew it wasn't me. Only one sister was still living at home, but the knickers weren't her size. We never did get to the bottom of that yukky mystery! I suspected sister's then bf though (he was staying with sister a lot), but how, I have no idea!

[@brigidtheirish]

@@gypsygem9395 Oh, that is so gross. Especially since there really aren't many reasons besides sex to leave your underwear *in bed.* So was your sister having sex with her boyfriend *in her mom's bed?* EW! What's also a little concerning is that the underwear couldn't be identified as male or female.

[@gypsygem9395]

@@brigidtheirish no it wasn't my sister, the knickers weren't her size. And they were ladies panties! I agree, ewww!

[@melissaclark1051]

a billionaire heir that actually cares about ther education and will make a difference in the world is really good thing and person.

[@Kstanimal]

Yeah. OP was so rude. The guy probably has a huge complex about it and has tons of stress from his parents. Usually parents like that are the most strict.

[@s.d.berard7518]

Last story-NTA for wanting to spend time with a friend but shouldn’t expect a thank you after pushing so much. 💚😺

[@JUMALATION1]

My future BIL is like the friend in this scenario. I fortunately am now aware of that he is seriously afraid of heights even though he mostly stays very silent about it. The few times we have gone to the amusement park together, I have personally taken it upon me and the rest of the group to not push him to go on rides even though most of the group is going. In the beginning during our first trip I asked once and once only, and he said "no". Okay with me. I personally cannot go on swinging/spinning rides due to "car sickness" even though I absolutely LOVE high-velocity/altitude rides, so no judgement :D

[@darkshadow5581]

I mean, there's pushing, and there's asking. Isn't it common courtesy to ask in situations like this to show that your valuing the other person and aren't trying to just make them feel like their ignored?

[@s.d.berard7518]

@@darkshadow5581 Except they even started begging for their friend to go on a ride until that friend got pissed off….so there’s that

[@knighthours]

But the mom scolded him for "leaving his friend out" tho so there's another thing

[@Becks-and-books]

@@darkshadow5581 they’re 14, for a 14 year old it’s pretty standard and not AH-territory to beg.

[@puli_dreadhead]

Story 3: I’m a college student and hate the party lifestyle that is expected when living on campus. Op is TA to every introvert that lives in the dorms.

[@Digitalfairy]

I feel you, I'm an autistic introvert and never understood that. All I enjoyed from there was being able to pay for my own lunch or dinner with my own cash and get to explore the areas in the neighborhood to familiarize myself on where my transport can drop me off and how long it'll take me to get there. Op is just being a lazy leech.

[@demariejones3438]

Story with the “starving” kid. My oldest would do this all the time, would call grandmother who then would call someone who lived near us that would bring them food. To this day she is entitled brat. This being the case because my mother would jump when my daughter would call her and tell her there was nothing to eat in the house. Basically that I left an empty pantry, she would also say that she had no clothing that fit her. Again shopping trips would come to get her new clothes, she had clothes she just didn’t want to do her laundry. She was old enough to do this as well as the fact that I always had food in the house. She just wouldn’t clean after herself so there would be nothing to cook in or eat out of. I was working loads of shifts since I was a single mother of 3 not getting child support. I made daily lists of what needed to be done and the chores were s-lit between all of the kids. Everything was done based on how much they could do due to age. My youngest kids actually were more than able to do their own chores. Small stuff like sweeping or vacuuming, making sure that their rooms were clean and such. To this day my youngest ones are in a better position with their lives. My oldest is still figuring things out. I’ve just come to the point of like whatever and move on.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@fcold9402]

4. NTA. Charging you rent at 16 while still a minor? I bet the courts would not allow that. At 18 only market rent should be charged, if any. Oh and she kicked you out? NTA, why is she even invited to your home? Live your best life and make sure you smile and wave at her as you drive by on your way to success.

[@chezshirecat1872]

Story 4: the rule in my house is you eat the meal given and then you can have snacks. Well my son went through a period of time just wanting the snacks. He told one of his daycare teachers I didn’t feed him. I explained the situation and luckily that was it-but he could of gotten me in serious trouble because I wouldn’t just give him snacks.

[@EclipseSeth]

I remember when I got my 15th birthday I asked my friends to go to Six Flags. And everyone accepted. When we went there, one of my friends kept staying behind with the excuse of "watching the bags". After various rides we asked to switch with her so she could enjoy herself, but she declined. We kept asking why and that's when she told us she had a medical condition that didn't allow her to go on the rides (she didn't specify which one, and I didn't ask, she looked normal). I felt so bad. I asked her why she didn't tell me, and I would have changed my plans. She said she didn't want to make me change my plans for her. I liked six flags, but going to the movies or anything with them would have been awesome for me, since it was the first time in middle school I was a part of a group of friends. I wished she would have trusted me and told me, so I could have picked something we could all have fun with. Especially her, since she was really special for me. I admired her. But I guess if I was in her shoes I would hyave done the same, since I'm such a people pleaser.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: NTA. Roommate: ‘Your bed is more comfortable than mine.’ Op, I would kick them out, especially since the girlfriend started yelling at you. Your name is on the lease, kick him out. Story 2: NTA. You weren’t being manipulative, you like everyone else have bills to pay and stop paying your son’s student loans (especially since they are in HIS NAME!) Story 3: YTA. Doesn’t matter if his family are billionaires, not everyone wants to party. Story 4: I was prepared to say YTA, but you provided her food that SHE REFUSED TO EAT beforehand.

[@Josku2411]

Perfect i am now at the stage where the mask pretty much just needs the netted fabric ontop/on the eyes and the square pattern

[@ohno8398]

After seeing one of your comments before Im oddly invested and you'd better tell us when you've finished the mask!

[@Josku2411]

@@ohno8398 oh i absolutely will currently it is lacking the afromentioned parts and i ran into a problem with the mask being too round at the cheek area so i have to fasten it there and rn my best idea is yarn and some sort of quick release knot but i'm not very good at those so more likely i will ask my mother for assitance with an idea bc she's honestly a DIY genius sometimes

[@ArcaneChipmunk]

For the last story, I might want to add that he only seemed to be bothering their friend with rides after getting berated by the parents. So honestly, I put it mostly on them. Still a bad move on the kid's part, but it is the parents that basically called him out for 'being a shitty friend' so he went to the other extreem, which didn't give him the validation when he tried to do as his parents told. It is a frustrating situation that ended up having been solved if there was just more communication.

[@FredRated1967]

"Playing Goldiefucks". That made laugh. 🤣🤣🤣

[@gisi5276]

Nice

[@heatherdickau5335]

The light bulb story tugged at my heart. Can we send light bulbs through reddit!

[@janicewilcox8590]

There is no reason for your roommate OR his gf to know that your bed is more comfortable.

[@geraldgrenier8132]

Well I remember being in many platonic friends bedroom and sitting on thier bed while chatting, so there is a possible reason to know

[@janicewilcox8590]

@@geraldgrenier8132 but it doesn't really feel like the situation here.... I could be wrong of course but it's still zero reason for them to have sex in his room and especially when they don't have the decency to wash his sheets. That's just nasty.

[@Becks-and-books]

Eh, I’m at a NAH or ESH on story 6. Because of the friend OP wasn’t able to go on rides either, and friend really should’ve said before they went there that he wouldn’t go on rides, and OP should’ve said he wanted to go on rides. Seems like they’re just not compatible fair-buddies. And I would expect a thank you, too, after buying a ticket for them. Not a big thanks just a quick thanks when like giving the ticket of smth. And they’re 14, so I wouldn’t expect great communication skills with them so I understand how it happened this way. I just don’t see OP as an AH for trying to hype his friend up to go on rides.

[@Deathbomb9]

Story 4: NTA. My parents taught me to eat when I was fed. They also taught me to not complain about what i was fed. In the same breath fast food wasnt a super common thing and when it was i got to pick my food and was never getting something extravagant. The kid picked what she wanted, then threw it away barely touched. If I had done that hell yes I would've went hungry. If I didnt want to eat when dinner was served I went to bed hungry. It taught me a big lesson. I've taught that lesson to my kid and the pickiness has gotten a lot better. This child is spoiled and entitled. Her parents need to stop acting against OP, especially the dad. It sounds a bit like she really doesnt need this man or his entitled shithead of a daughter around to live a good life. Look at the kids from previous relationships and if things arent being addressed in a healthy constructive way that is indicative of good parenting then I'd really take a step back. The man seriously doesnt know how to address his ex in these situations? And the kid messaged both while throwing a tantrum like a toddler? Sit her in the corner and tell her she should've eaten when she was fed and that this is a learning experience for her. Shes 10, not 3 or 4. Sheesh. I've sent my kid to bed when food was refused or thrown out and then 15mins later I hear searching for food. I've addressed it very directly and its understood that's not going to be tolerated. I'm one hell of a cook and I'll be damned if I eat bland food when I can make something way better at the same cost, even if it takes more effort and time. This child is an AH and the parents are as well. That smug little grin would've been the only reason I would've exposed the child's manipulation and made it very clear she would be fed when we got home. Then I would've made something that she wasnt exactly a fan of and told she can either eat it or go to bed and wait till breakfast to eat. You wont die, but that first time feeling real extended hunger sucks. As I kid I loved nights when my parents made steak and I would literally sit there and just enjoy every last bite to the point I was at the table for hours. I never complained about it and as long as I was eating my parents were okay with it as well. I have no idea why, they never asked, and I cant really think of why I did it, but I also cleared my plate. If it was a big meal like Thanksgiving I would take what I felt I might eat, minus a little, and never anything I didnt like. And when I was done i might get just a little more of something i loved as long as I felt I could eat it. The girl could've packed up the food and saved it for later. She tossed it out and then was offered to get a snack. OP went way above and beyond because a snack wouldnt have even been offered by me.

[@zs1570]

Story 3: Money talks, wealth whispers.

[@ruthbeamish8849]

Re child care issues with Grandmother, could the wee mammy be jealous of the babies ' affection for their Granny and how they were thriving in her care? Just a thought!!!

[@tinafogarty404]

I’ve heard the 1st story before and am always left wondering how the couple knows that the roommate’s bed is better??

[@catandrobbyflores]

Burn the sheets, replace the mattress and the roommate. Nta!

[@AndyyWithAY]

I went to college to get an education. Some people do. Going to a party would be a nightmare for me. It would not be fun at all. OP really needs to grow up. I hope he is book smart because he has zero common since. YTA.

[@josephbrown9665]

Stop paying student loans for him because he’s responsible for the bills not you.

[@sandragarner2912]

Story 3: I think op is just upset that his friend is just not funding OP's party life. Perhaps the friend wants to make his own mark in life and not just mooch off his family. Op needs to back off and let his friend become what and who he wants to become.

[@ericmishima]

Story 3: he's not Trying to be smart. He's already smart. 😂

[@jennilynne1977]

Story 4. OP is NTA. Her stepdaughter was not raised properly. When I was little, if I didn't eat my dinner, I didn't get anything else.

[@dustyrose192]

I have a spoilt brat of a little sister who has tantrums everyday. Mostly about food, wanting something then changing her mind right away. I'm the one who cooks (and does most of the other chores in the house. Im 21) and there's very little that she will eat other than mash, which makes a mess to prepare and i dont like doing it often, which makes her scream and yell about how she wont eat anything else how do I (her older sister) respond? "Okay, starve then) But mom will just get her pizza or maccies.

[@stuffedninja1337]

I realize this is a year old so I’m super late but NEW HAMPSHIRE WHOO I can give context to story 6! I’m a New Hampshirite, and try to go to the Deerfield Fair every year. Tbh, while they *can* be fun, the rides are kind of a rip off overall, and are your average carnival-type rides that get broken down and transported to the next fair/circus/carnival/whatever. A lot of them have never exactly seemed the safest, and there’s way more things I’d rather spend my money on (fair food, locally made stuff, random overpriced merch, maybe even raffles). I only remember going on ANY rides once or twice, and one of those times might have even been a different fair. There’s no shortage of things to do/see (the fair goes for 4 days every year, fer chrissake), and given the, um, quality of the rides, it’s totally possible and fair (heh) that the friend might have not wanted to go on any due to being nervous. (Totally valid, but 14 is not exactly the easiest age to be able to admit that.)

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Story 2: OP made a verbal agreement with her son to pay off his student loans. And they don't see the hypocrisy in expecting her to stick to the agreement she made with him, while at the same time they break the agreement they made with her? GTFOH!

[@annac777]

Story 3: Newsflash, University is mainly for studying. YTA

[@crowdemon_archives]

Well, yea. If I'm in a university I'm most probably studying too

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

Story 6: NTA I think the friend or their parents may not have been aware that the fair charges for rides on top of the entrance fee hence why he only had enough cash to cover entry. I think the friend at least owes OP a thank you since he payed for the friends entry to the fun houses, something the friend said he wanted to do. Almost every comment Mark posted focused on the rides and glossed over the real question. "When we left, I was still a little mad that he didn't say thank you for anything, nor did anything with me. So Reddit, AITA?" OP wasn't asking if he was an AH for wanting his friend to go on rides with him, he asked if he was an AH for expecting a thank you from his friend or wanting at least a bit of quality time with his buddy.

[@audreynothepburn7663]

THANK YOU!

[@Koji-Alistair]

I don't see what's the point of people going to fair if they have no interest in going on any of the rides, tbh it just seems like a waste of time

[@utha5034]

Story 3: and this is why you don’t tell anyone about your family’s wealth, because they treat you differently and judge you for it.

[@fionaeckert4556]

3rd story: YTA! He seems to be raised right, just because his parents have a net worth of billions doesn't mean he's entitled to it. And it could all be gone tomorrow, so to get a degree of some kind is not stupid at all. Last story: ESH. Op for constantly asking after receiving multiple no's. And the friend for just declining without explanation. Would it have been so hard to say "sorry but I get a headache /sick really fast so those are not for me"?

[@47896285pgdfzgnd]

I LOVE the waltzers, definitely my favourite ride!! Also S6 my mind first went to 'he thought it was a date' and was upset the sister and family were there

[@moonbear5929]

First story: NTA, As far as the room mate's girlfriend goes, that's what you get for using some one else's room you have no permission in using! Honestly, what did you expect?! Also, as for the room mate himself, this should be a clue as to what kind of girlfriend he has. She cant accept the fault, so she tried to gaslight the guy who's bed she's been using. Both her and the room mate did wrong, period! Stay the hell out of OP's room! Story 4: I'm just going to go against the grain and say, that perhaps she didn't eat the McDonald's meal because it's gross! Honestly, their quality of "food" has gone so far down hill I can't even consider it food that is safe for human consumption. I wont eat their shit either, and have not for at least 20 years. It's not out of being picky or "spoiled" it comes right down to their products literally make me physically ill! You're dealing with a 10 year old. They don't have the best vocabulary yet, and still very often cant express what they're feeling effectively. Just because you can stomach McDonald's, doesn't mean every one else can.

[@fcold9402]

1. NTA. If he needs a more comfortable bed, he needs to buy one not freaking use your bed. Evict. BYW, how would he even know your bed is more comfortable?

[@ughicanteven5896]

Story 6: gonna have to say NAH. Fine that he didnt wanna go on large rides but it must also be annoying for someone to just tag along and go on no rides.

[@Koji-Alistair]

Exactly, what's the point of going if you don't want to go on any of the rides with his friend, it'll be understandable if he had a fear of height or something else that may prevent him from going on these rides, but he didn't say any of that

[@brandi5126]

S2: NTA. Think of yourself too and stop paying his loans. And who cares if the wife cries, she isn’t the one losing her job.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 🤗🤗💜💜

[@chazk4110]

Mom just sad her free rent money is gone.

[@Metonymy1979]

Let me suggest that the college kid has seen to many rich kid Instagrams.

[@CharlesGriswold]

Story 4: I was ready for a whole-hearted YTA. I mean making a child go hungry? WTF? And then I listened and... yeah. NTA. She needs to learn that actions have consequences. Missing a meal kinda sucks, but it won't hurt you (barring medical conditions).

[@ekjamesable]

For the last story, it made me think of my son, 17, no way could we get him ever on anything that left the ground or with fast movements. He would watch our things while hubby and I (60 and 49) would dangle our tootsies in the open going up, down and around. He just does not like them.

[@cheskydivision]

Don’t do anything special with the kid for awhile and have a long talk with hubby about him coming down on you without knowing the fact. Age is not an excuse because she knows enough to play the adults against each other. Tell hubby since he does not trust you to feed the kid don’t be in charge of her at all leave 100% of her care to m9m and dad.

[@maurer3d]

Story 1: NTA, they are braking into your room and using it for intimacy. That is ten levels of inappropriate, if they want a comfortable bed to F in they can go buy one.

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

Story 1. NTA it's OP's Room not the living room

[@authormomma9542]

"daft little a holes" got me as much as it got Mark. Love it.

[@silvergoat51]

With story 4, I would have sent them a message asking them to pay me back what I spent on McDonald's with a picture of the receipt

[@maurer3d]

Story 6: YTA, for being mad at your friend for your mom being an AH to you. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to ride the rides. I love rides at amusement parks, but I would never ride a ride at a fair/carnival, But I still love going to fairs to walk around, play a few games, eat some cheap fair foods that kind of stuff.

[@CaulkMongler]

Story 1: it’s the richest thing when people are outraged they got caught breaking into someone else’s private space. Time for a lock on the door or find a new space ASAP.

[@maurer3d]

Story 4: NTA, you gave her dinner and she thru it away. Time to stop taking her, make her dad deal with her brattyness, it is his job after all.

[@bluerie287]

Story 1: Obviously NTA, however how do they even know that the bed is more comfortable?

[@gypsygem9395]

The poor friend in the last story. He could have epilepsy, or Menieres' Disease, vertigo, labyrinthitis, any number of things that would make him violently ill if he went on fairground rides. He doesn't have to tell OP about those conditions.

[@jeandobkowski8571]

Rich people need an education too...takes brains to make that kind of money and to manage the business. HE MAY BE UNDER PRESSURE TO DO WELL SO HE CAN TAKE OVER THE AMILY BUSINESS.

[@t.matthies3049]

Or maybe he wants to be an engineer or something. Maybe he loves learning. In any case, it's his life not OP's

[@canadalovesanime3137]

story 1: Put them out or put a lock on the door. Ask the landlord first but they need to get their own place before she gets pregnant and roommate demands the entire apartment because they "need" the space more than OP. NTA story 2: They agreed to the terms of the job. They should feel guilty. I have a feeling that this isn't about them feeling more comfortable with the kids in daycare. I have a feeling this is to do with the kids having a better bond with OP than the mother. Now they are upset because OP is doing exactly what they claim to be doing. Taking care of #1. OP has expenses that also need to be paid. It's only logical that OP would put their living expenses over HIS debts. It's his debt NOT OP's. NTA story 3: I hear; " Mummy and daddy can give you money, so use that money to take me out to party." WTF! Not everyone wants/needs to 'party' to be having fun in college. He is actually maturely thinking of his future, where OP is just wasting time partying. Most likely that guy is an introvert and doesn't care if he goes out to pretend the 70 new people he met are his new best friends. (at least until the next party) College is for learning not for partying. YTA story 4: OP learned a valuable lesson, NEVER take the brat to work with them again. Don't even tell her next time, just leave. Kids shouldn't be at work to "hang out" anyway. If the kid has a fit take to her mother and drop her off. 10 years old is old enough to understand consequences, she is a soiled brat. NTA story 5: The mother needs OP back at home so she can get more money for herself. That is why she is harassing OP. She is trying to make OP give in and submit. Mummy dearest wants control. She doesn't have that now that OP is living on their own. Mummy can't handle not being in control. My family did this. The only difference is that they enjoy seeing me dealing with hardships. It is possible that this mother is doing the same thing, but I feel she's just mad she's no longer in control. OP needs to stay right where they are. NTA story 6: I used to go to the Calgary stampede every year. I hate rides. I go for the exhibits and the food. I like watching the rides but hate going on them. I was coerced to go on a spinning swing type thing once and nearly fainted multiple times while on it. NEVER AGAIN! Maybe this friend can't handle rides, or just enjoys the other things there. YTA

[@darkshadow5581]

Story 6 NTA. OP didn't harass or but into friend's business. He asked his friend who came with him there if he wanted to go on rides, to which he got yelled at for? I'd be bloody pissed if I invited my friend to a theme park, where they refused to go on most rides, I get yelled at for them not wanting to by my parent and then get yelled at by him for offering him a ride on any rides they go on.

[@brigidtheirish]

I know! People seem to miss the bit about OP's mom getting after him. And who goes to a fair and doesn't want to go on any rides? Sure, a lot of fair rides make me motion sick, but there *are* rides I want to go on. Annoyingly, they're all rides that have a max weight or height limit. Seriously, there are adults who want to ride the merry-go-round or play in the funhouses, too. Not *all* adults want to puke their guts out on the gravatron.

[@BersealiaDreamheart]

Exactly. In the Disneyland theme park, in a Timon and Pumba Safety Smart video, they have this big safety rule at the parks: Let the cubs decide if they want to ride. That means to never bug or force anyone to go on a ride or attraction if they don’t want to. And OP clearly failed at this rule. Grown up, kid.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@BersealiaDreamheart OP's *fourteen* and his mom had *hassled him* about 'leaving his friend out.' A friend who then refused to go on any rides until begrudgingly going to the funhouse.

[@geraldgrenier8132]

Story 4: Using a food punishment is always an AH. However NTA of making them wait till work is finished to fix the missed dinner problem. making child doubt their food security, amd making them wait are not the same thing

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah, waiting for food when the kid *threw away* the food that was offered is *completely* justified.

[@carolroberts4614]

She offered to pick something to go when Ellie threw her food away. Ellie said no. What more could she do ? Force feed her? She knew there would be no more until op finished work!

[@dustyrose192]

@@carolroberts4614 This is the kind of thing you let happen because the kid isnt going to do that again if they're really that hungry. And you know... not dumb

[@CrystalRuizEnriquez]

10 year olds being manipulative is not the norm. I also have a brat ahole of a stepdaughter, that also happens to be 10, and i have a 10 bio daughter and, they're so different that sometimes it astonish me. I have quite a few nieces and nephews around 10 years old and they're also very different than my stepdaughter.

[@camwyn256]

There were some people that were up to no good. Started making trouble in my neighborhood

[@MizTameRumors]

Lol first story I'd just say 'I put that cam there to record me and my partner...I didn't expect guest stars in my personal, private space'

[@fionaeckert4556]

Maybe adding that any action is directly uploaded to the internet...

[@crowdemon_archives]

​@@fionaeckert4556 lmao (technically cloud is in the Internet so you may not even be technically wrong)

[@phoenixsky6124]

Story 5- definitely NTA. A good parent would have made sure you had all those things when you became independent. I’m sorry she made u pay rent when you never should have.

[@indianspartan76]

Story 1: OP is in no way the AH. That son is an ungrateful prat!

[@maurer3d]

Story 5: NTA, if this story was from the USA you need to sue her for all the money you "paid in rent" from 16 to 18.

[@ChefDuJour78]

I don’t trust rides at traveling fairs or carnivals. Taking down and putting up rides as quickly as possible seems like a recipe for disaster. The State Fair of Texas is a fair that never leaves. That means the rides can be properly maintained. Six Flags tests their rides at least 5 times every day before they open. But yeah, other than bumper cars, I won’t go on traveling carnival rides.

[@katiesmith2031]

Mark thanks for the video hope you and poppy are having a wonderful evening goodnight and sweet dreams

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Sleep well🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 thank you broken hope you have a wonderful evening goodnight and sweet dreams

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 np and you too m8🤗🤗💜💜

[@Krisna_K]

When I was a kid, if I didn’t eat my meal then I didn’t get anything else until the next meal! Period! Also, I was never one for rides at fairs or carnivals! I have always had hardcore vertigo and other health issues!

[@BumblebeesLover]

Ugh that first story with the roommate and girlfriend banging in OPs bed If I were OP Id be burning all the bed sheets I own

[@momotaro1236]

Story 3: YTA just because he’s rich doesn’t mean that he wants to become a useless leech