r/AmITheA--hole for Almost MURDERING My Coworker?

[@InvasionAnimation]

The father is a complete idiot for not teaching his daughter to never scavenge through other peoples food especially with a food allergy.

[@juliahill9868]

100% agree. As someone with severe anaphylaxis as well, I was raised never to eat any food without consulting the cook. I hope this taught her a valuable lesson and I’m glad she survived.

[@thedragonofbooks9073]

he should have taught her to sniff the food before eating to check for peanuts ( this is a joke so don't take it seriously)

[@RevokFarthis]

Lol wut? How is that the impression you got from this??? That isn't the behaviour of someone who just didn't "teach his daughter to not scavenge other peoples food" That is the behaviour of someone who clearly taught her that she can do whatever she wanted, and expect to get away with it like an entitled brat, because his precious princess can do no wrong. She literally stole someone elses food, and he has the audacity to blame the victem for "poisoning" her. Shit, I bet if she stole a car and wrapped it around a light pole, he would try to sue the owner for trying to kill her with their car.

[@SerenaSilverMoon]

@@RevokFarthis How do we know that he didn't already try or do something like that if not worse?

[@tomkrass9937]

And a criminal, stealing is stealing, don't be an idiot

[@skorpiongod]

Who the fuck goes around eating random food when you have a deadly food allergy? She's gonna earn that darwin award one of these days.

[@1985toyotacamry]

Seriously I don't understand that. If I have a food allergy I wouldn't steal people food

[@skorpiongod]

@@1985toyotacamry imagine becoming a pariah at work because you brought a pb&j sandwich

[@Wendy_O._Koopa]

@@skorpiongod Wholly shit, I just mentioned her gunning for a Darwin Award in a different thread! I guess great minds think alike.

[@zlyboby5317]

@@1985toyotacamry :D wait...so bcs you don't have a food alargy you are stealing food? :D

[@jasminelambert3753]

And then when you smelled peanut sauce you still continue to go ahead and eat it. Like obviously no one should steal other peoples’ lunches at work, but especially if you have a food allergy. And then you OBVIOUSLY shouldn’t EAT THE FOOD when you smell YOUR ALLERGEN ON THE FOOD

[@morgandouglas6014]

OP did nothing wrong in the first story. I do hope the daughter survived, but at the same time, it’s her own fault for stealing OP‘s food. Some people only learn the hard way.

[@zacharyjackson1829]

survival of the fittest. if you want to be a rat that steals food you better be aware of the average lifespan of a rat

[@mikehawk1865]

I dont even know why they made that post. Obviously ur not the asshole for eating what you wanna eat

[@franl155]

I hope it was a lesson learned, but I doubt it. Maybe the boss should make it a rule that everybody label the contents of their lunches, in case his daughter wants to try stealing their food.

[@Nekulturny]

I don't care if she survived or not. If you have severe food allergies, all the more reason not to be the worst kind of human being on the planet who steals co-workers lunches.

[@annika5893]

If OP quits the job, he should send a company wide farewell email to everyone, along the lines of: "If you bring your own lunch to work, make sure it doesn't contain anything the bossman's daughter is allergic to, because she might "borrow" your lunch and die as a result, and bossman will hold you accountable. Also, don't expect the borrowed items to ever be returned to you."

[@Fallenfromgrace1990]

First story: The fact that the boss's daughter still ate it when the pad thai sauce has a very STRONG peanut smell, especially when heated up, amazes me. Yeah, OP is not the AH.

[@thedevilkittie2047]

That’s what I was thinking. I’ve had peanut sauces because I love them and you can clearly taste the peanuts. This is why daddy had to hire her because clearly she’s an idiot.

[@nomar5spaulding]

To be fair, it's possible that even with a "very strong smell" they might not be able to smell it. I'm allergic to nuts and totally cannot eat Pad Thai, but I also have almost no sense of smell. My working theory is that my regular allergies (like pollen, cats, animal hair etc) have basically burnt out the scent sensors in my nose/ keep it perpetually clogged up enough to largely block my sense of smell. Like I can't smell the smell of propane gas, and I can't shell peanut butter in a Reeses Peanut Butter Cup... so she legitimately might not have smelled it, but still, no brains in that girl's head.

[@ArcanineEspeon]

@@nomar5spaulding is it possible you might have two different shaped sinuses? I might be using the wrong word, but, you know, the nostril canals? That's what my dad has, as well as hella seasonal allergies, and even after surgery to get them the same size he still can't smell much.

[@ArcanineEspeon]

unless she's got an olfactory issue like Captain_Dorja or my dad, I'm calling natural selection.

[@nomar5spaulding]

@@ArcanineEspeon yeah idk 🤷‍♂️

[@dracko158]

Story 1: Seriously? His own daughter STOLE OP's food and HE's holding OP accountable? Is he forgetting the fact that she STOLE the food? The daughter only got herself to blame. Boss and the brown-nosing coworkers are TA, not OP.

[@066kshitizvsingh4]

oh no, Bosses Daughter was just "Borrowing" the food. Seriously, if she has deadly allergies to something, the last thing she should do is take someone else's food

[@spicydiarrhea5662]

STOLE? no... boss clearly said she BORROWED it - op can expect her vomit or stool soon to be returned

[@thunderflare59]

Thieves are the most entitled and spiteful people on Earth. I heard a cop say that, if defending yourself from a home invader, it is best to go for the kill, because criminals keep trying to sue people for defending themselves from violent crimes.

[@songohan3321]

Once again, you play stupid games and you will win stupid prizes. Peanut sauce does in fact smells like peanuts.

[@annika5893]

Stealing doesn't matter to the boss, his precious golden child should be able to do anything and get away with it. And the peasants should be happy to accommodate his daughter with allergen free lunches, without even knowing her allergens or her cute and innocent tendency to borrow other people's lunches (and never give any of it back).

[@xxTC-96xx]

I have a peanut intolerance and even the smell makes me feel nauseous, and peanuts have a very distinct smell. So how does the daughter not get a face full of peanut smell from OP's lunch and still decide "eh, must be for me." and then blames OP for the reaction, so stupid

[@ldannu5627]

Some entitled people don't apparently care what they do,even if they are at risk..I can't imagine stealing someone else's lunch,or food for that matter ! I'd go to hr about this,just because of the reaction f the boss's ..She stole someone else's lunch,and she is a thief,period ! What an awful woman and also so is her father..I couldn't even defend that kinda behavior ,if my kid did something like that !

[@Wendy_O._Koopa]

Let's say she's a smoker and has no sense of smell or something. So whatever the odds of a lunch containing peanuts, let's say 1/100 (as an asspull); every time she steals a lunch she has a 1% chance of dying, or if she gets her EpiPen and immediate medical attention, then "only" a life-threatening experience. Why in the world would you accept those odds? If you were homeless and dumpster diving, and it was between that and dying of starvation, maybe... 100% chance of death vs 1% chance. But she's the boss' daughter, she absolutely can afford to buy her own lunch; she can probably even charge lunch to the company even if that isn't strictly legal. There is zero advantage to stealing lunches when you have a life-threatening condition like this. This lady is _beyond_ stupid, she's trying to earn herself a Darwin Award.

[@jroxpone]

would it be horrible to say natural selection takes place in these moments.

[@ElleriaZer]

@@jroxpone I was just thinking that these are the sorts of people who would get Darwin awards if they weren't saved by modern medicine...

[@alexisgrunden1556]

Ignorance can be educated and crazy can be medicated, but there ain't no cure for stupid~

[@MasteringMason]

1st story had an edit/update: OP went to HR multiple times telling them that their lunch was stolen. The thief also kept stealing multiple lunches. Everyone though OP knew that he knew who was stealing the lunch so set up the trap. OP told everyone the situation so they stopped bothering him. OP is considered leaving the job and taking friends offer.

[@nicoleb695]

They oughta sue, frankly

[@songohan3321]

Thanks for the update. Also, still don't understand how OP'S coworkers think that stealing was OK. Plus if the person that was stealing was a new hire, how would anyone know that they had a peanut allergy? OP seems to be surrounded by a bunch of idiots and suck-ups.

[@annika5893]

Sigh... People and their love of assumptions. And more often than not those assumptions are wrong.

[@ArcanineEspeon]

Thank you, my dude. Glad they're not completely SOL for getting justice at that job.

[@ReigoVassal]

Wow. What a hostile work environment.

[@OneEyeShadow]

First story: A friend of mine has a severe peanut allergy, and whenever there's catered food at an event he still has to bring his own because he can't trust the food to be 100% free of peanuts. How someone with a severe, has-an-epipen-tier food allergy can just steal other people food and eat it blindly is something I cannot understand.

[@alexisgrunden1556]

Entitlement from being the Boss' _pwecious widdle pwincess_ created severe logic blinders. It's amazing how effective entitlement is at destroying people's critical reasoning skills.

[@PunakiviAddikti]

@@alexisgrunden1556 You can't destroy people's reasoning if it's not there in the first place. Other than that I agree.

[@SerenaSilverMoon]

And OP said that it even SMELLED nutty, so unless the boss' daughter hasn't learned what the smell of nuts is then she really was asking for it. I'm allergic to raspberries and I learned long ago what they smell like AND if something says "mixed berries" to not go near it 'cuz it ALWAYS has more raspberries than any other berry in it. So I make my own, always better and I know what's really in it.

[@alexisgrunden1556]

@@PunakiviAddikti Touché; I gotta give you that one~ XD

[@swedishmake-upgeek5650]

I was thinking the same thing

[@threegsgaming6959]

I absolutely LOVE Dabney’s “mocking Karen/Kevin” voices, especially when it creeps up. It fit the second story perfectly.

[@blair2743]

I love the voices no matter what. I don't know what it is, though, but when he slowly changes to one of them instead of starting off with them, it just adds to the whole thing for me. 🤣

[@dracko158]

It's the kind of voice that you love, and makes you want to punch a wall at the same time.

[@guitarbass22]

It’s refreshing to hear a story where OP is the butthole. Lol. Mixes it up some.

[@PugGrumbler]

His name is dabney?

[@threegsgaming6959]

@@PugGrumbler yeah, Dabney Bailey

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

There was an update to the final story. Essentially, there were more red flags than OP mentioned in her original story. She's basically been conditioned to make excuses for him and rationalize away his bad behavior. She went on to explain that her husband has several siblings, but that he was obviously the Golden Child. He and his mommy made sure the other siblings knew they were unwanted, so they've all basically cut contact with the husband and mommy. OP tried explaining to her husband how she felt, that she needed him to start prioritizing them or she couldn't stay. His response was to storm off, open the front door and tell her to pack her shit and leave. He is waiting on OP to apologize to his mommy and beg for forgiveness, and he won't talk to her until she does. I think she said she was staying with her sister now, while looking into divorce and therapy.

[@JudeMarchisio]

Wow. He did her a huge favour. Dude is an idiot and an AH.

[@zanegetsune5724]

I don't see how you could marry someone, promise to spend your life with them, and then treat them like crap. Also if OP was so similar to his mother maybe he wanted to marry his mommy.

[@kimnah4713]

@@zanegetsune5724 then he can marry his mom after the divorce lolol

[@paulineisme]

@@zanegetsune5724 he didn't. The marriage to the wife is void since he is married to his one and only love: mommy

[@ReigoVassal]

@@zanegetsune5724 I have no idea either. But it happens in every abusive relationship.

[@threegsgaming6959]

Third story: that fiancée had no right to impede on the bride’s choice. It was HER wedding, and she wanted Cousin X to sit behind her, not the fiancée. NTA, and maybe OP should steal the spot of the fiancée’s choice or just trick them into not going.

[@UdayBhatia]

I am a Indian and you are 100% correct Same shit happened at my cousins wedding the cousin who’s fiancée did that, he was basically told to break it off or get disowned

[@SerenaSilverMoon]

I'm sorry but I would have stopped EVERYTHING, made a small scene and asked the cousin's fiancée what she thought she was doing and to get down that isn't her place. She wasn't asked or wanted for that part. The fiancée would get all the attention that she wanted, just not the kind she wanted. And yes I'm a VERY white American lady and have no clue what a wedding like this would be like but still if someone did something like this at a wedding here.... well.... that person wouldn't like what would happen to them. I'm surprised that OP didn't kick or throw cousin fiancée out or something like that.

[@toysruskid5074]

The most likely reasoning I can think of for her family to have her back in this: She was probably trying to secure her spot as a member of the family. Being a prominent member in a wedding she would be showing off that she was a trusted wanted member of the family.

[@toysruskid5074]

@@UdayBhatia I'm an American, but I have seen a few Indian shows/movies. Gaining public approval for an upcoming marriage so that people can't object easily.... that usually indicates something that could cause it to be canceled, right?

[@ifujoshiiweeb8991]

@@UdayBhatia i was a bridesmaid at my cousin's wedding. Let me tell you if you are an Indian and an extrovert your wedding problems will become significantly less.There was some problem with food as outsiders sneaked in before groom's family arrived and the bride caused havoc.Relatives were definitely unhappy but no one had the courage to say anything because of the bride. The only problem is that my family is super passive and i don't know how we will handle everything during my sister's wedding.🥺

[@briangarrow448]

First story- get a lawyer and sue the boss for every cent he has. No sympathy for the thief.

[@scmontgomery]

Retaliating against the victim of a crime doesn't play well in court

[@galacticgremlin]

@@scmontgomery What victim of what crime?

[@scmontgomery]

@@galacticgremlin My use of 'crime' was maybe just a bit over the top. The thief committed the civil tort of conversion and was injured in the course of her act. While I doubt op could win a case for wrongful termination, at the very least I think op may be able to qualify for unemployment. Either way, a judge would immediately laugh the boss and his daughter out of court. Plus, things like this spread like an electric fire at the water cooler which could easily damage the workplace environment.

[@aaroncousins4750]

@@scmontgomery 1.the victim was OP. 2.the only crime was theft. Mug

[@black1917]

@@scmontgomery If your boss fires you because HIS daughter stole YOUR food and almost died as a result, that is wrongful termination, even in right to work states.

[@Hybrid301]

Normally, you learn to stop putting random things in your mouth after the age of 10. Even sooner if you have deadly allergies. Edit:My age estimate accounts for some idiocy

[@Twinklethefox9022]

If that's the coworker story then that part is stupid, she shouldn't have stole it.

[@breezy3392]

Age 10? Try age 5

[@Hybrid301]

@@breezy3392 I was trying to give an “average idiot” leeway. Obviously this girl was way above average in the idiocy department. Probably the only thing she’s been above average in her whole life

[@plannedsarcasm6930]

10? Shoot maybe even 4 or 5.

[@ThEjOkErIsWiLd00]

Maybe she couldn't help stuffing lead paint chips into her maw as well when she was younger and it was all downhill from there.

[@silverflight01]

Story 3: Even if I have minimal knowledge of this type of wedding, I know that trying to nab the spotlight like that is an automatic A-hole move.

[@alejandromolina2802]

Is like wearing white to a wedding, unless told. In 99% of situations the person doing it is an AH

[@sherylcascadden4988]

"I want to be head bride's maid or matron of honor, get out of my way!". Yeah, we all know who the AH is....

[@TetraSky]

Third story : Yeah, NTA. She had no right for doing that while you had more than the right to speak to her like that. Your cousin and his family sound super toxic. Toxicity attract toxicity so I'm not surprised his fiance did that.

[@dawnsmith1871]

12:30 Don’t blame the alcohol for his behavior. When someone is an “angry drunk” that’s just their true unfiltered thoughts. Also when people are tired or sick they can lose their mask.

[@JadeyCatgirl99]

As an alcoholic, I don't believe drinking is an excuse for bad behaviour. We all ought to be held accountable for what we say and do while drunk.

[@ReigoVassal]

I have to say that people can only be honest when they drunk. If they a good guy, they still a good guy when drunk. So that is that.

[@AJ-zq8kv]

Ok I’m curious how she could flunk out of high school and still amor near 50 bucks an hour cuz obviously I’m on the wrong career path

[@rollfaceonkeyboard]

@@JadeyCatgirl99 But I'm still a ho when drun- oh shit.

[@spoopyvirgil4944]

A year late but there's a fitting Morel Orel quote. "Oh sweetie, he doesn't change. That's just his true nature coming out."

[@aceospades6570]

I know a girl with multiple severe food allergies. Yes, she carries around an epi-pen. She becomes really stressed when she eats anything other than her usual meal. In fact, when I would have her and our friends over at my place and offer to make food for everyone, she would usually just bring her own food. The last thing she would EVER do is start stealing from other people's lunches. She'd honestly probably have an anxiety attack before even considering doing such a thing

[@Roctev]

The last story: OP should get her husbands side of the family together and then in-front of them all hand her MIL the wedding ring and loudly say "Here his real Wife should have this, and as he is clearly married to you you can keep it and him!" then hand him the divorce papers and walk out, the sheer shame that would dump on them will taste so sweet!

[@essembre]

the last story feels like a classic case of emotional incest; the mom molded her son into the guy she wanted to see in her partners, she pushes away any girls he gets into a relationship with by criticizing them, and she can't get op to leave, so what better to do than copy op? son likes his wife (presumably (i mean, i would *hope* you like the person you marry, yeesh)), so mirroring op could make it easier for her to try and pull them apart. she wants to be involved in everything that they do as a couple; like hijacking a trip, meant for op and her husband. op doesn't want her (mom) to go with them, mom tries to convince op by asking and even sending people to bother op, who doesn't budge, so what else to do than convince her son (who just *cant* say no to his mommy obvi) into letting her come with?? yeah. classic mom/son emotional incest.

[@madamplatypus313]

You know, I always say some of these AITAs with a husband and his mom constantly crossing OP’s boundaries have always felt a little Oedipal to me, but I’ve never know how to explain it, so this was a very good read.

[@silverflight01]

Story 6: You'd have to be on some whole lot other level of strange to try to be a copycat of someone. And the fact that the husband was backing up his strange MIL is an easy divorce.

[@SerenaSilverMoon]

And the fact that OP paid for everything but with hubby sneaking MIL in does that mean he cut corners and went mega cheap? OP should have gone to the ticket counter and gotten a refund of all the tickets then gotten herself a new set then gone by herself, she would have enjoyed it more. OP also never told us how long she and hubby have been married for and why he thought that she wouldn't notice the extra money missing from the trip fund. She planned everything so she would know how much money there should be in the trip fund. Drop kick his ass out of your life OP, you can do SO much better.

[@lilo_bunny0139]

She posted an update. She's staying at her sister's at the moment and is thinking of divorce. She doesn't say how long they've been together, but I would say a couple of years, maybe? Here's the update: UPDATE AITA for walking out of the Airport when I saw my husband's mom standing there with her luggage? Hello!. I don't know where to begin...it's been an absolute nightmare recently. And I feel like I was losing my sanity. So for more details about my situation. I have to admit that my husband's mom favors him over all his siblings. this affected his relationship with them and me as well. He's never seen an issue with how differently his mom treats him, it bothered me and made me feel uncomfortable. The whole dynamic made me feel uncomfortable. Going Low contact has never even been an option. Like he has to see her or call her everyday. Most of his siblings don't talk to him and I 100% believe it's because of his mom's favoritism like I said. He does bare some blame for not seeing how wrong this is til this day. In many instances I found myself making excuses for his behavior. Even in my post. I did it spontaniously and I don't know why. But I guess it's because of how much I love him and because I really really wanted to be able to work things this type of things out without letting them affect our marriage. regarding what happened with the trip, He tried to have a talk with me and most of what he said came from place of blame, Blame towards me. I just couldn't continue with this argument. I told him I needed space and that I would be going to stay with my sister for a while. He didn't take it well, he literally got up from the couch and opened the door telling me to go right then. In that moment and seeing how he was still not even anywhere near understanding what he has done just....made things perfectly clear to me. I just had pictured years and years of my life being lived like that and I was like no...I can't do it, Can't take anymore of it especially when he keeps focusing on being right every time. His mom can do no wrong. I'm always the aggressive, crazy, jealous, pathetic, overreactor. All these people's opinions, advice and concerns were like a spark...like the wake up call I really needed. Though I wish that it didn't get this far but what's done is done. Right now I'm staying with my sister (I brought my dog with me as well) He sent me his last message telling I'm the one choosing to end what we had together but I believe it's the other way around, especially with how he keeps making his mom the victim in this situation. It's become clear now that we keep going in circles with no end in reach and I'm just so exhausted and overwhelmed. I'm not mad at him and don't expect him to change but...at least I'm given options to decide what's best for me and my future even if it's seperation and divorce. A big thank you to those who reached out with resources that I feel very very lucky to have come across. Just wanted to give you an update since many of you asked for it.

[@SerenaSilverMoon]

OP didn't say but way didn't hubby help pay for the trip? Why did OP have to save and pay for everything? I think that along with divorcing hubby OP should sue both he and MIL for the wasted money and the theft of money for MIL's tickets and such.

[@lilo_bunny0139]

@@SerenaSilverMoon some people have told her something similar. Also he basically threw her out, after she was done with his bs. She needs to do things carefully, the MIL sounds like she haves a screw loose. Maybe she will make another update, the last one was 5 days ago.

[@SerenaSilverMoon]

@@lilo_bunny0139 yeah true. OP also didn't tell us whose house it was, just (in the update) that he kicked her out. It'd REALLY suck if the house was hers and now he's trying to keep it. What did this guy bring to the relationship anyways? He doesn't sound like someone who is even all put together himself and relied on mommy for everything before OP showed up.

[@KittenUndercover]

There’s an update on the last story. OP left her husband.

[@Tustin2121]

Thank god. She definitely needed to get out of there.

[@Nekogal21]

@@Tustin2121 not that she had a choice, he kicked her out pretty much

[@maieen2665]

*First OP:* How _dare_ OP let her boss' daughter steal OP's food and go into an anaphylactic shock after eating _OP's_ food! The nerve! OP is NTA, and I hope she takes her friend up on the offer to another job. *Second OP:* LOL at the entitled voice. Yeah, OP is the AH *Third OP:* Isn't OP's decision for _her_ (and her spouse's) wedding final? OP is NTA. Her cousin's fiancee is a big ol' AH for taking X's spot and scolding her. *Fourth OP:* OP bought two airplane seats for herself so she wouldn't be an inconvenience to other passengers. A guy sits in one of her seats despite OP explaining to them that the seat is for her and ignores her. Then he and his girlfriend get mad when the flight attendant asks them to move per OP's requests. Oh, AND the guy put his hands on OP without asking! AND the guy's girlfriend called OP a fat b-word. How exactly is OP the AH in this situation!? OP is NTA. This is one of the reasons why I don't like to fly. *Fifth OP:* As the saying goes: don't start no mess, won't be no mess. OP's boyfriend started it, and he dealt with the consequences. OP is NTA, and unless her boyfriend wises up (no pun intended), she might need to break up with him. *Sixth OP:* If OP's husband can't cut the cord from his mom, then OP needs to cut the cord from her husband, so to speak. OP is NTA.

[@eeveefan132]

At the same time though, Fourth OP shouldn’t even be fat enough to take up two seats to begin with and should take better care of herself. ESH.

[@aliabuhijle8984]

@@eeveefan132 mind your own business

[@wolffriendinus]

@@eeveefan132 you don't know the full details of her condition. It is entirely possible that it's something out of her control. Don't victim blame her, at least she tries to be courteous by paying for 2 seats. She doesn't have to.

[@sophiechen4874]

​@@wolffriendinus Exactly, we don't know her situation. Regardless of if she was overweight or not, she went out of her way to get two seats so she and people around her would be comfortable. She didn't have to.

[@eeveefan132]

@@wolffriendinus If it were because of circumstances beyond her control, then she should have specified what it is. Otherwise, we have no other reason to assume that it’s not because she can’t stop stuffing her face. And even she is being courteous, it doesn’t matter because she shouldn’t be taking up that much space to begin with.

[@darkdemondevil]

Don't eat food that isn't yours. "I have a deadly allergy to nuts. Thailand isn't a country known for their libral use of nutty sauces, not at all. This food is safe. I will eat this safe food."

[@the_rachel_sam]

Lol this reads like a chubbyemu video

[@JadeyCatgirl99]

I agree with you. From what I have heard from people with nut allergies, they have to be extra careful with cuisine based on recipes from Eastern Asian cultures like China, and Thailand. I don't know what this woman was thinking.

[@sourisvoleur4854]

@@JadeyCatgirl99 Exactly. You'd think you could open the lid of the tupperware and smell the peanuts. I make a pretty good Thai peanut sauce myself, not to brag, but it always smells like .... wait for it .... peanuts.

[@francescofranchino7097]

If you are a big or tall person, sometimes the world isn't sized for you. You may need additional space, and you unfortunately have to pay for it. OP DID. So she was totally in the right for demanding what she paid for in good faith for her comfort and everyone else's. If someone is 8 feet tall, they would have to buy 2 seats too! Otherwise their legs would be draped over someone's face lol.

[@eeveefan132]

Being 8 feet tall and being fat are two very different things, though. You don’t have control over how tall you grow to be, but you do have a lot more control over how wide you get. OP shouldn’t have gotten fat enough to take up two seats to begin with. ESH.

[@eeveefan132]

@in desperate need of a scotch Finally! Someone with sense in this comment section!

[@Stefisgarden]

@@eeveefan132 Some people have medical conditions that cause them to get that fat, though. It's not always overeating. And besides, who the fuck actually cares how she got that big? She PAID FOR THE SEATS. She was perfectly within her rights to ask them to leave. OP is NTA, 100%.

[@harrypotter2700]

@@eeveefan132 While I agree that height and weight aren’t comparable, OP being overweight has no real bearing on if they’re an AH in this situation. Had they not gotten another seat and simply expected everyone to accommodate them then they would be, but given the circumstances, they’re doing the right thing in buying an extra seat to be comfortable. It would be no different than an average weighted person buying an extra seat next to them to spread out; buying the seat means that you’re entitled to use it as you please regardless of why you bought it. Considering OP an AH purely for their weight is kind of weird to be honest.

[@eeveefan132]

@@harrypotter2700 It’s because obesity should not be tolerated at all, unless it is because of legitimate medical issues beyond the person’s control. Because the OP did not disclose whether or not that is the case, I have no reason but to assume that it is not and she just is too weak-willed to stop overeating.

[@jaidensmith9428]

You can tell in the first story that the boss's daughter is probably entitled. Probably thought she could do whatever she wanted because her daddy runs the building. I would bet BOTH my kidneys that if it was reversed then suddenly the boss would be like "well you shouldn't have touched it". It's the same logic as A robber breaking into your house, stepping on A rusty nail and cutting his foot, and then sueing you for it

[@TheVampireAzriel]

This is why I keep rusty nails at all of my entrances

[@Dondizle]

I'm pretty sure she could've asked her dad for money, or have her dad pack extra food for her. But instead she decided to take someone else's lunch. I don't understand the logic of some people and taking other people's lunch at work. If you didn't bring it in it isn't yours. You bare the consequences of your entitled dumassery. It does annoy me when someone takes the time to make their own lunch and someone else takes it and enjoys it, because they couldn't be bothered to make one, leaving the lunch owner to go hungry all day.

[@mortenlunddk]

The first story tbh, i don't say this a lot since i'm from Europe and we have different sueing laws, but sue him. It goes under descrimination, a boss knowing an employee is stealing food from another and doing nothing then harrases you because she stole and ate something she couldn't. Then your coworkers created a hostile work enviroment (which it already was because the boss allowed theft). Also review the policy on relations within the job, as many companies have rules about family working together (mainly in retail) because family will not report one another. Like there is just a level of discrimination that is unjust here. The daughter could be brought up on theft. The boss on discrimination charges and even harrasement. The coworkers getting reported to HR creating a hostile work enviroment.

[@kaytenn1]

I agree with you Dabney, I myself am allergic to peanuts, tree nuts, and pine nuts. I never eat anything with looking over the ingredients. I would never blame someone else for my stupidity

[@SerenaSilverMoon]

Same, I'm allergic to raspberries and I never go near mixed berry stuff unless I'm the one that made it. I bet you also learned what all those nuts smelled like so you'd know if any were near you. I did, and its a pain when I have to avoid things 'cuz of it.

[@DeathProductions200]

It always confuses me when people try to blame others for the fault of their own neglect when it comes to food. I guess the only thing OP can do is label everything as a "potential allergen" in the future, if it is or not. Not to keep people safe if they try and steal their food, but to keep the food from being stolen. Because then if the food gets stolen no matter how hard the thief would want to shift the blame, the container would be labeled as a potential allergen. I do that myself just so I always am guaranteed a safe legal option without any potential lies told to authorities. But the majority of those who have deadly allergies are super nice and won't touch the food at all so its more of a cover your ass type situation for why I do it.

[@SerenaSilverMoon]

@@DeathProductions200 yeah no kidding. And by just putting that on it and not saying WHAT the allergen is it makes it harder for everyone to take it and say that they didn't know. Writing it on the container and not on tape makes it even harder for them to say that they didn't know, especially if its in permanent marker, and in BOLD letters.

[@MitzuMage]

Last story just infuriates me reading about it. This guy is an adult but still a push over to his mummy? My suspicions are she would've taken over the holiday and make it all about herself. Honestly OP needs to divorce this man if he's willing to manipulate her and trap her In to taking his mum.

[@paulineisme]

It has been updated. Turns out he's a complete momma's boy, she favoured him over his siblings and they don't talk to him anymore. OP left him, so I guess that's cool :)

[@MitzuMage]

@@paulineisme well I'm glad it had a good-ish end to it. Thanks for letting me know :)

[@Nekulturny]

I have no sympathy for workplace lunch thieves EVER.. I literally don't care if it finishes you off. You are the worst kind of person to be on the daily grind doing the same miserable work everybody else is doing and have to make your co-worker's day just that much worse than yours by STEALING THEIR FOOD.

[@A-Microwave]

wouldn't stealing something she's allergic to and eating it be considered suicide? considering she absolutely knew the food wasn't hers

[@black1917]

yes actually it would

[@kingteddieP4]

I bet god and the other angels in heaven would be laughing their asses off like “sure you’re allowed in here but…seriously that’s how you went out??😂”

[@tigridia6178]

I have a 17 yr old nephew at that time who ate a bunch of shrimps. He's allergic to shrimps. I didn't know this until he told me that he stopped eating bc he could feel his throat swelling. Said how even though he's allergic, it didn't stop him from eating them. I thought he learnt it from his uncle (who's my cousin) who's also allergic to shrimps. They never got in trouble and I'm just worried it'll get them killed at one point.

[@franl155]

I mean, if I knew that a food could kill me but I couldn't stop eating the food anyway, i'd seek professional counselling.

[@NEPAAlchey]

Darwinism at it's finest.

[@icarusthefoxkidd]

1st story: She "Borrowed" your lunch? How? How exactly does that work? This is why I really need to have my "I refuse to have sympathy for the stupid" shirt printed up.

[@Emeraldwitch30]

I want a shirt that says "Stupidity should be painful if not, then expensive!" 🤣

[@SerenaSilverMoon]

"My understanding stupid filter is broken. Please don't try again later, its not getting fixed."

[@kranberry3318]

@@Emeraldwitch30 Well in her case it was painful AND expensive! lol

[@Emeraldwitch30]

@@kranberry3318 lol thats true for sure!

[@wamas1234]

The manager really pulled a surprised Pikachu face after not coming through on a promise that has to be kept for the employee to keep on working. Smh😑😑😑

[@RRW359]

@in desperate need of a scotch But she didn't tell the hire the results of the attempt before putting them on the schedule, and the post sounds like she didn't even try. She also told her higher-ups that they had a definite new hire when said hire warned her beforehand that she would quit unless certain conditions were met. Maybe the hire was unreasonable to expect a vacation (although quitting for whatever reason if any is her right), but the way OP handled it made her an @$$hole.

[@JadeyCatgirl99]

@@RRW359 considering the other company accepted her with the vacation, it shows she was worth it. It's probably a high valued job, and she was a very competent hire.

[@ReigoVassal]

@in desperate need of a scotch yes. OP agreed to try to get her vacation. And she can try working for that company. Both didn't work out. Everything is fair and square

[@breezy3392]

Honestly if you have any allergies, how stupid do you have to be to steal food when you don't know what's in it.

[@SerenaSilverMoon]

Or not know what it smells like so that you can avoid it and NOT end up in the hospital. OP said that her food smelled nutty so how did Boss' Daughter NOT know that it had nuts in it?

[@mjaynes288]

@@SerenaSilverMoon When a person develops a severe allergy early in life they may not learn the smell of their allergen. Smells can trigger severe allergies so they are avoided. Could you identify something you have smelled twice in your life?

[@Rj-ij6ko]

There is actually an update to that last story. Turns out Op’s MIL has always favoured her husband above all her other children and because of that OP’s husband has a very strained relationship with his siblings. Husband STILL blames OP and actually wants HER to apologize to his mother for being rude. Ya OP divorced him. I hope she has a wonderful life away from this man child

[@theplaintech]

First story: OP should demand that the boss's daughter pay for the lunch she stole along with the tupperware. Publicity and small claims court optional. The boss has serious ethical and moral issues.

[@theplaintech]

And why not tell the boss that he failed as a parent because he did not succeed in teaching his daughter not to steal... lunches. He was ultimately the one responsible for his daughter's trip to the hospital.

[@rochellethundercloud346]

small claims optional? honey.sue the company,the boss,and daughter.

[@theplaintech]

@@rochellethundercloud346 I'll drink to that.

[@Mauro-ti5hi]

I can believe someone is entitled enough to steal something and then when it backfired try to blame the one that was robbed

[@deadlyasylum]

The last story, I would have told the husband that he and his mom could go together. Especially since they couldn't get enough of each other. Then, while they were gone, call a divorce lawyer.

[@nashidragneel4980]

I would let them go on the plane, and all that and cancel the hotel as soon as they boarded the flight🥴

[@deadlyasylum]

@@nashidragneel4980 That might work. But then you'd still have to put up with him and his mom afterwards. They'd still be acting the same way.

[@deannaabeyta1855]

Bruh, this is why you don’t steal lunches. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. He should take the out and quit

[@Alistairdavidson2006]

I would stay and eventually get fired cause then severance

[@deannaabeyta1855]

@@Alistairdavidson2006 also valid

[@phoenixmastm]

Last story: Update from the OP, they left the husband after all the comments and verdicts opened the OP's eyes to the fact that the husband is 100% a mama's boy. Glad they got out, but wtf...that husband booking tickets THAT OP WAS PAYING FOR against his wife's wishes. 1000000% the A-hole to him.

[@MsNoPixel]

*Story Opinions…* *Allergen Story:* NTA, it’s not like OP knew she was allergic, stealing their food & made the peanut sauce hoping the bosses daughter would take it. I agree with the fact that if you have food allergies (especially severe ones) than don’t eat foods/dishes when you don’t know the ingredients… ITS COMMON SENSE. *Vacation Story:* OP YTA… so what if the employee is new, you specifically told them you could work out their vacation time meaning they could have off, you can’t go back on your word & expect people to just waste money because you wanna be an ignorant liar. For years I was an executive chef & boh manager, if someone came to me (no matter how long they had worked there) & I specifically told them that I’d make their vacation work with the schedule & something ends up happening where another employee calls out making us short staffed I would either A) get other employees in who initially had off or B) work my ass off more than I already did & cover multiple positions, being a manager doesn’t put you above anyone, I always used to swear by not forcing anyone to do jobs I wouldn’t do myself because I grew up having kitchen managers & executive chefs who sat on their ass in their office all day playing games, when I became in charge at 19 I never once used my kitchen office for down time, it was for talking 1 on 1 with employees or doing things like scheduling etc & I’d make sure to do it when we weren’t busy, I’d always work the line & make sure that I wouldn’t force work on those who weren’t getting paid as much, any extra work I put on myself & made sure my standards were always kept high no matter if I had a lot or a little to do, I went weeks without days off & even my days off I’d stop in to do things because as a leader it’s what you should be doing. Sorry for the long opinion on this one but man it really pisses me off when bosses are lazy ignorant liars, I’m so glad I work for myself anymore. *Wedding Story:* Very clear that OP was NTA, she was trying to do something sweet for her cousin who is too shy to volunteer herself (most likely because she’d feel like she’s taking a role from someone else & doesn’t have much confidence in herself). Not only is the cousins wife an asshole but like WHO THE FUCK IS SHE?! She’s not direct family, she married in, last I checked OP said she left these jobs to her FAMILY. Only ignorant narcissists try to make other peoples weddings about themselves… it legit makes me sick every time I see or hear of someone trying to demand things be a certain way for a wedding that ISNT EVEN THEIRS, like screw off it’s not your day. *Plane Story:* OP is very clearly NTA. They pay for 2 seats to be comfortable physically, mentally & emotionally. If you’re the type of person to take a seat you didn’t pay for (that goes for anywhere not just on planes) than you’re truly a low life, 9/10 you’re stealing that seat, keep that in mind, you’re not “in the right”, just because a seat is empty doesn’t mean it’s open/free. *Brought Mom Story:* Once again OP isn’t the asshole, I’d be pissed to if my partner told me we were going on a trip together just the two of us then last minute springs on me that someone else is going, idgaf who it is, if we haven’t discussed it than it’s not happening. I don’t tolerate lying, once a person lies to me I cut them out completely. OP should see it as a red flag, cut the bad fruit off the tree & leave the sneaky lying asshole.

[@eeveefan132]

Plane OP shouldn’t even be fat enough to take up two seats to begin with. ESH.

[@kranberry3318]

@@eeveefan132 you’re saying OP’s an asshole for being overweight? That’s ridiculous. How do you know they don’t have a medical condition that makes them that way? That’s so mean.

[@eeveefan132]

@@kranberry3318 If she has a medical condition that makes her that way, then she should just come out and say what it is. Otherwise, I have no real reason to assume that her “medical condition” is just an inability to stop stuffing her face. Because when dealing with human beings, it’s smarter to assume the worst about them.

[@sophiechen4874]

@@eeveefan132 She shouldn't have to disclose medical information like that in the first place. It's not your business, redditors', or anyone's business. I gave you the benefit of the doubt in your other comments on this video, but you're just incredibly rude.

[@eeveefan132]

@@sophiechen4874 Then let this be a lesson on why you should never give anyone the benefit of the doubt unless you personally know them or can apply Hanlon’s Razor to the situation.

[@kranberry3318]

A married couple planning a trip for just the two of them sounds like a romantic getaway. What weirdo wants their MOTHER to join that?? And what creepy mother wants to piggyback on her son’s romantic private time with his spouse???

[@PotterBrony82]

Love hearing your voice shift to “entitled”. It’s like that’s the moment you realized “yep, op is the AH.

[@amyspeers8012]

On a flight, I was sitting on the isle, a nice guy was sitting at the window and the middle was empty. This HUGE guy came up and told me to move. I got up so he could take the middle seat. He then told me I had to move to a different seat so his wife could sit there, next to him. I said no. The flight attendant came up, told him to take his middle seat so I could sit down. He also said that the isle was mine and I wasn’t moving. I sat down. The wonderful attendant gave me two Jack and Cokes for the flight as the guy was very stinky and kept giving me death glances.

[@TetraSky]

Fourth story : You paid for the seat, they are not entitled to it, it's yours to do whatever you want to it. NTA. If they wanted to sit together, they should've chosen seats together. People who think they are entitled to just switching seats without paying the "choose your seat" fee are the scourge of air travel.

[@eeveefan132]

OP still shouldn’t have gotten so fat that she takes up two seats to begin with. ESH.

[@idap1879]

@@eeveefan132 how does you know that it's not because of medication that she got fat? Like my mother in law had to eat cortison and she got really fat because of it, she could go days without eating but still gaining weight.

[@eeveefan132]

@@idap1879 Because when dealing with human beings that you do not personally know, it is smarter to assume that their are either malicious or stupid. If I have no valid reason to assume a legitimate reason for someone’s actions, it does not exist. Furthermore, how would you know that OP’s obesity is because of medicines? You claim that I have no reason to assume that it isn’t, but you don’t have any reason to assume that it is.

[@idap1879]

@@eeveefan132 I don’t know why op is fat, that’s why I don’t say that someone is at fault for getting fat, like a idiot with fatphobia. Just for you information stupid does not equal fat. When it comes from being fat just don’t assume anything, and if you need to assume anything than assume medication or mental health problems until proven wrong.

[@chrisprilloisebola]

@@eeveefan132 lmao true

[@ImperiousMax]

1st: NTA, hopefully this will be a harsh lesson for the daughter to not steal anyone else's food, especially if she's allergic to peanuts. Also, how did she not smell the peanut sauce??? 2nd: YTA, just... don't do this to your employees. 3rd: NTA, cousin's fiancé had no right to impede on the couple's arrangements simply because she wanted to be lil' miss give me attention. This isn't even a case of bridezilla, this was just C's fiancé being a bully to X and going against the bride's wishes. 4th: NTA, OP bought BOTH of those seats for themselves because of their weight, comfort and convenience for other passengers. Just like rSlash said-- PAY FOR THE SEATS IF YOU WANT TO SIT NEXT TO EACH OTHER. 5th: NTA, OP's boyfriend is a d***, plain and simple. OP deserves better. 6th: NTA, OP doesn't have a husband because he's still married to his own mother. Get out of that marriage, OP.

[@jamescaron6465]

Couldn’t have said it better

[@wta1518]

Also, don't many airlines specificallt allow you to purchase multiple seats if you can't fit comfortably in one?

[@wordsmith6154]

That last story gets to me. I have a relative like OP's MIL, always trying to intrude and not letting their child and their family live their own, separate lives. If their child was spineless like OP's husband, they'd probably do the same thing, but neither they nor their spouse stand for it. A family trip doesn't have to mean bring the MIL/Grandma along. A couple should be able to go on a trip together without having to worry about all this. OP's husband sounds like he doesn't even care about his mother treats her. You support your spouse first and foremost. He didn't do that. He doesn't deserve her and she deserves so much better.

[@DreadEnder]

Last story: I was thinking that op would stop when her husband said so, just to hand him her ring and walk off I’ve been reading an inspector calls too much ( unfortunately not voluntarily )

[@multitaskingmom9802]

I saw an update. They separated. It had a bunch of information saying her other kids don't talk to her, only this one. The husband's siblings are supportive of her leaving.

[@luvondarox]

An Inspector Calls?

[@DreadEnder]

@@luvondarox a weird confusing story with no lore line and just ends with nothing I don’t like it but its mandatory at my school and I hate going in depth on something with no depth

[@dragonhoffele]

That last story is so damn weird, like OP’s mother in law is a creep. That’s some emotional incest type shit right there. Why are you trying to be the woman that your son is married too? That so uncomfortable and strange.

[@ajjamsen694]

The last story, I'm guessing the husband used OP's money to book the mother's tickets, as well, since OP was paying for their plane tickets. 😠🤬😠 I really hope OP ditches those two and gets her money back (also, make sure she keeps the dog!)

[@kranberry3318]

She’s staying at her sister’s place rn and she did take the dog with her

[@ajjamsen694]

@@kranberry3318 oh, thank god

[@RealCoolstriker64]

Suitcase mom story; The only thing I can fault OP on is that it’s kinda creepy to marry a 12 year old. At least that’s what the husband is acting like

[@moonlighthunter5421]

The second I heard the words “lunch missing” in the first story, NTA. That’s the daughter’s fault, especially if you can tell the sauce is nutty just by smelling it.

[@mjaynes288]

What is a nutty smell? I eat nutty sauces and thing but I cannot smell which have nuts in them. A person with a severe allergy has probably been avoiding nuts all their life including the smell which can trigger allergies. How would you suggest they learn the smell without dying?

[@moonlighthunter5421]

That’s true, but also beside the point. The point is if one has a severe nut allergy, then don’t go stealing somebody else’s lunch

[@char-leewiebe7199]

I am severely allergic to fish shellfish and seafood. If I am at a family gathering or social function and I am not sure what is or isn't in something I DON'T TOUCH IT!! Especially if I think it may send me to the hospital....or worse

[@gornur8292]

The father in the first story justifying the stealing as "burrowing" really highlighted to me to how he was an entitled parent and her the entitled child growing up. With that said I am hoping that the daughter in the first story learned a lesson about not stealing food.

[@Kiku91]

How do you even borrow a lunch…..return the shit that comes out?

[@gornur8292]

@@Kiku91 That or you just "burrow" like half of it and return the rest. Regardless of just laughing at the idea of someone opening a box and seeing shit inside it.

[@cosmokramer1987]

First story, are you fucking serious? Go to HR, what the fuck is the boss gonna do? Fire you over his daughter stealing lunches? And to top it off he’s gonna sue you for medical bills? Sure, let that go to court and see how fast is laughed out of the courtroom. Nothing but absurd amounts of entitlement all around.

[@Ikajo]

I think the only way the boss could have a case is if his daughter has an airborne allergy. In which case even bringing peanuts to the workplace would be a bad idea.

[@FredRated1967]

Story 1, yeah, tell the boss "Hey, how about you not raise a F**KING THIEF that steals other people's lunches IF SHE HAS A F**KING FOOD ALLERGY!!???" Involve HR in this and go ham on your boss. Since you have another job lined up, I would go scorched earth, drilling home the point how he is a crappy parent who raised a thief.

[@JamiJR]

On the airplane seat story - not only was OP not the butthole, ever since 9/11 airlines *insist* people sit in their assigned seat so in case of a crash it's easier to identify everyone. From what I've personally witnessed on planes if the dude didn't go back to the seat he bought the pilot could easily turn around or even land at the next airport and have the couple forcibly removed.

[@Aetium]

As someone with a deadly allergy I know to not eat something that I don't know the contents of. I also recognize the smell really easy because it's like the stench of death. OP did nothing wrong. And that's completely ignoring ths questionable ethics of stealing food

[@FaerieFen]

In the last story, OP said that they were the one who saved for the trip, not their husband. So their husband spent money that was not his on his mother, which he knew would upset his spouse, and then got pissed about it? Yeah divorce that POS

[@WladcaPodziemia]

OP was consiedrate and BOUGHT that second place, so that spot was NOT "empty" and avaliable to take.

[@Zangoose5]

First story: Excuse me, the bosses daughter “borrowed” OP’s lunch? How in the wild blue world of fuck does that make any sense? It’s not borrowing, it’s called stealing. You are literally taking some thing from somebody else without their permission, and clearly without their consent. If the other employees are gonna jump down OP’s throat because of some thing he chose to bring to eat, not someone else, Than they clearly don’t understand the situation.

[@ellecapone1337]

Came here to see if anybody had said this cause I had the exact same reaction lol

[@seabass819]

First story, take them to court for hostile work environment, lunch theft being just one example of your coworkers targeted harassment.

[@thebaldcat6708]

The thumbnail is the mug shot of a guy who dumped over 200k$ of manure on his ex-bosses property after winning the lottery, and that’s great.

[@TheRealBigYang]

For the plane story: "Your inability to plan does not constitute my emergency". They would have gone red in the face if you said that.

[@Mini-z1994]

First story is totally on the daughter & the boss. Boss is IMO 3/5 Daughter isn't blamed when she does something irresponsible ? Steals on company property and almost pays for it with her life. Due too an allergic reaction stealing someones lunch & blames the person bringing their food rather then the daughter is just an asshole move on top of it. Daughter is a 2/5 Hopefully she stopped stealing lunches from then on, don't mess with people's food just don't. Why was the daughter not held responsible in the first place, is the boss blind too that fact or just hoping too scare op into paying while he isn't responsible in the first place ? Did they expect the entire company too not have food with peanuts in them or something the moment she showed up ? Was it announced too everyone not to bring that into the office from then on so she could keep stealing food ? From then on while working there I'd just keep labeling food containers with " Do not steal contains peanuts " even if it's clearly nothing with peanuts in there. Just too highlight how ridiculous this situation was in the first place too be blamed on them.

[@gnashsang]

The Karen trying to screw the new hire out of her vacation is a “B”, and should get written up, and I needs to be a final write up.

[@DarthAxolotl]

Really? She was a bit of an ass but she was right, new hires are bottom on the list. Who the hell turns up to a new job and says oh BTW I'm going on a trip right after starting. Frankly no one came out looking good in that story. Op shouldn't have said "ill try to fit it in" she knew she already had a team member out. The new hire should never have agreed to a new job knowing she wouldn't be there in the first couple of weeks.

[@cmanhanks1]

@@DarthAxolotl that's what was thinking! OP is innocent, not the newbie employee...

[@Feynix4]

Yesterday I graduated with two bachelors degrees, today I finally get to relax and listen to some Rslash

[@harrypotter2700]

Congrats on the graduation!

[@jadediquattro5355]

Last Story: Total Mama's Boy or Manchild, When you Marry your Wife you are no longer under your Mother's Purview. I think he needs to see that his Mother is Manipulating and Controlling him w/out him realizing it. There needs to be a clean break from Mommy if he wants to continue the Relationship. OP should have put her foot down way sooner than letting it lead to a fight like that.

[@guitarbass22]

This isn’t the first story of its kind on Reddit. Lol. There’s a LOT of “Mama’s Boy” husbands that have done similar post-worthy things, and it’s amazing how they try to justify it. Lol

[@ohnosmoarlulcatz]

What did you expect when you ate Pad Thai? You know, the dish that's famous for having a peaNUT sauce.

[@frosted_glaceon5513]

I have a bad peanut allergy. Never steal food, and never accept handouts without asking whether baked goods have nuts or not. That's some nutty karma right there.

[@sinbadwilliams7186]

How the hell do you borrow a lunch?

[@kudukilla]

Regarding the airplane seat, I flew from Atlanta to Johannesburg with a big lady spilling over her seat into mine. Armrest couldn’t even come down. I applaud the OP in that story for buying an extra seat.

[@ju_aych39]

As the parent of a child with several food allergies: ntah. That girl is responsible for the consequences of her own stealing ways.

[@zikasilver1]

The second story makes me laugh. In my interview for my current job, I was upfront about the fact that I needed two weeks off the upcoming Christmas, for my brother's destination wedding. They offered me a job, promising I'll have that time off. And they kept that promise! At a RETAIL job!!!

[@chrisprilloisebola]

i mean a retail job is pretty low prior. Theyll have plenty of ppl wanting to take your shift for time and a half for Christmas

[@Heartana]

Forth story: when I was 16 I was flying for one of my first times and my mom got our flights late so we couldn’t sit together and I’m a nervous flyer I calmly ASKED THE PERSON next to my mom if they would mind swapping seats with me and guess what? They said yes, hell even if they would’ve said no I would’ve just pulled up my big girl pants and sat in my own seat nerves be damned

[@iysistaylor9542]

I had P.O.T.S and was passing out up to 5 times a day when they told me not to come back to school without a wheelchair and a helmet! My mom said F that and I never went back. I was ranked 3rd in my class and was sad I never walked at graduation. I met my husband at that school when I was 15, when we had our first date (5 years later,) he said "Aren't you that girl who always falls on her face," I told him "yes I'm just dead gorgeous," we laughed and had a great time. He remembered I passed out in front of him once and when he tried to help me up, a teacher told him to go to class and one of my friends helped me to the nurse's office. Since we've been together, he's never made me feel like crap about my education. He's encourage me to not let my disability hold me back. I got my G.E.D., I plan on going to college, and when I graduate I know he'll be there cheering me on!💜 That OP needs a new boyfriend that will love and support her not bad mouth her to make himself look better.

[@TetraSky]

First story : NTA. Don't steal other people's lunch if you have allergies. You 100% did nothing wrong.

[@auberginebear]

Story 4: NTA; no one has the right to butt in on something you paid for, no matter how entitled they are.

[@maeghanmahaffey]

that last story..... OP is not in the wrong, I would have done the exact same thing. People like OP's husband remind me of my father and it pisses me off. I hope she divorced him and moved on with her life. Super toxic.

[@nonyabiz2013]

There's an update on that story. The husband is the mom's favored child to the point where his sibling have gone lc to nc with him and her. The wife realized there's no way to stay in the relationship because he refuses to but any boundaries with his mom so she's in the process of leaving.

[@maeghanmahaffey]

@@nonyabiz2013 thank you for updating me on the story. I hope she finds genuine happiness

[@iamnoona5425]

In a traditional Indian wedding, the person that would stand behind the bride during the ceremony is a person that the bride trusts alot. It's usually a sister, but if you don't have one, then a close female blood relative, whom you consider as a sister, would do it. The cousin's fiance is not even a blood relative. Let alone someone that OP is close to. This goes against the custom.

[@lindevoskamp4948]

What idiot who is severely allergic to something as commonly found in good as nuts steals food from people WITHOUT KNOWING WHAT EXACTLY THEY ARE STEALING

[@franciscojaviermendezrinco1902]

First story: Yeah, she "borrowed" OP's lunch permanently. NTA. OP's boss is showing favoritism, his daughter is a stupid thief for stealing food who's alergic to, and the coworkers are villainizing OP because they don't want to be sniped down by the boss.

[@cecejamesable]

2nd story: The OP wanted to play puppetmaster, but Lacey cut the strings and fled. I hope the OP in that story got chewed to bits.

[@SaikiKFann]

Oh no! I’ve stolen from food from you and had an allergic reaction! Make your food more accessible to us so we can steal it!

[@yobabycolin2933]

😂😂😂

[@moondoria8401]

1:53 She stole his lunch, then paid the price.

[@Ash-mo7oc]

i live with shellfish/mollusc allergies and lactose intolerant since the age of 4. I NEVER EAT ANYTHING THAT WASNT MADE BY ME OR SOMEONE THAT KNOWS ME AND OFFERS TO SHARE. I can't afford to throw away my life over shrimp scampi so why would I steal food to gamble it, especially if a "potato soup" looks and smells like clam chowder. I bet that she knew it was pad Thai with peanut sauce, she just either wanted an excuse to miss work that day, wanted you fired because she has a personal vendetta against you, or thought she can get some easy money. OP you didn't "almost" kill her, she's the one that failed a suicide attempt. she's grown enough to know the difference between things and behaviors that can kill her if shes old enough to have a job. she's also old enough to realize that the world isn't catered to her needs and she's responsible for her own well-being.

[@thomaslocke403]

Love rslash he makes life funnier

[@PhantomSt21]

That boss in the 2nd story is the a-hole, glad everyone’s against her, need more bosses that remember co-workers are not machines, they are humans that can be your best buds. Would LOVE to see more r/Antiwork, its like a 2nd pile of gold beside Malicious Compliance

[@TheVideogamer1004]

Love the story about the dude who's dating or possible dated a failed high-school person. The supposed high-school failure makes more than that of someone who apparently should have same pay but doesn't. Honestly I think that's how it should be. If you go to school for whatever, you should make it by being closer to minimum wage while those who don't deserve more because for those who don't start from ground up learning from where they go. Book smarts doesn't mean anything over experience from any angle.

[@Yumi_Jay]

My guy friend didn't finish high school due to some odd reason. He now makes great money as a truck driver going through states in the PNW. This is something he prefers because he likes being on the road. Plus he doesn't have much belongings. I think having skills is better because it's something that a person can easily do in the workforce.

[@chrisprilloisebola]

bro there is no excuse to not finish high school. Stop the cope

[@TheVideogamer1004]

@@chrisprilloisebola not the point but still all should unless important things make you unable to.

[@chrisprilloisebola]

@@TheVideogamer1004 that is 100% the point. Its not even about whether or not you think highschool is useless. It's such a basic thing to do, and failing that is just embarrassing. This isn't the same thing as dropping out for reasons out of your control obviously

[@TheVideogamer1004]

@@chrisprilloisebola no it's not the point dude. Op in that story proved that high school is not 100% needed to make a living. Plus there are subjects in high school that don't matter to everyday life. The only subjects that do are English and math.

[@alexandrakimbink3198]

There was an update on the first story that the daughter didn't go to the hospital at all and didn't have to use an EPI-pen. She just spent a few days sick at home and the boss was only trying to scare OP. It seems that the daughter has an eating disorder too. Both apologized to OP but OP quit and worked for her friend for one week and then she got a similar job to her first one at another company.

[@trash-hime]

Story 2: Op is not the AH. OP said they would TRY to accommodate the vacation, not that it was guaranteed. And, yes, seniority plays a big role in scheduled hours and time off. I'd be pissed if I'd been working at the company longer and had already had the time off approved, only to be told that I had to give up my vacation/plans and come to work because of the new hire's vacation. And that's exactly what you're expecting OP to have done: put out a more senior employee to accommodate the new girl. If the vacation was THAT important to Lacey, she either should have accepted the other offer that openly guaranteed the time off to begin with OR put her start date availability for when she was back from vacation and avoid the issue entirely.

[@dachless]

story 13:19 OP - NTA: I 100% agree with everthing rSlash said. As well as what the commenter said. Thats a major red flag. Disrespecting boundaries, lying, not accepting a "no" as a "no", berating OP for walking out, blaming embarrassment on OP, gaslighting others who know nothing about the situation. All of that just screams "divorce" to me. Like, if your partner says no to something that important, it stays a no. Theres no discussing it, theres no lying, theres no sneaking behind their back to do it anyways. Everything about it just screams "divorce"

[@iPLAYtheSTATION]

How in the world was the manager in the second story "very surprised" about getting the email from Lacey regarding her vacation not being scheduled? Did he honestly think that Lacey would just cancel her $2500 vacation without question? That manager is such an idiot, and I would not want to work for him either. Good for you, Lacey.

[@codeblackfanandthegooddoct7070]

Right especially since he knew before she was hired that Lacey would need that time off its not like Lacey went to OP two days before the vacation and was like Hey boss so I'll need the next week off cause I have a non refundable Vacation planned

[@huntervornheder434]

As somebody who is deathly allergic to peanuts as well as shellfish and milk but mainly peanuts I take every precaution to make sure that anything I put in my mouth is safe for me and for somebody to steal lunches without taking any precautions whatsoever is the stupidest thing I have ever heard from somebody with a deafly peanut allergy like how can somebody be this irresponsible and reckless

[@eksboks148]

Happy Saturday everyone hope it's good

[@topsysrevenge]

As someone who is fat and travels a lot, I can relate to the airline story. Airline seats have become so uncomfortable, I always dread flying. That’s why when I travel with my boyfriend, we ALWAYS make sure to sit next to each other. It’s literally on us to make sure we sit together on the plane. We like to because we can put up the arm rest and kinda laze out into each other’s sections. You know what happens when we can’t sit together? We get tf over it lol. I ~hate~ entitled attitudes on airplanes. You have to prepare for your own travels, like the woman who bought two seats, because flying f-ing sucks. Suck it up, or don’t fly. Literally, you can select your seats half of the time when you buy a plane ticket. Why do people not do this? Idk if it’s because the last 4 times I flew, it’s been international but I’ve never had an issue picking my own goddamn seat. Even in economy.

[@wamas1234]

Eating some pizza and watching dabney is one of my favorite hobbies

[@Josh_the_jester]

5:24 the biggest reason that most companies don't understand about the "great resignation" they didn't wanna quit their job, they wanted the quit their awful boss and toxic coworkers.

[@Star_Joker]

You should watch r/woooosh + r/facepalm on your second channel. Edit: OK, this didn't age well.

[@Sanodi21]

OP in the second story is probably following the employee out the door. It's people like that that doom stores/companies/etc or will turn into a walking lawsuut if left alone and her boss might've realized that. I feel bad for whoever picks her up next