r/AmITheA**Hole For Snapping At A Man In The Gym?

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[@Lithiel]

Story 1; Rule #1 in a Gym- NEVER touch another person’s equipment when they are in the middle of using it!!!! It is dangerous and I’m pretty sure they knew it and hoped gaslighting OP would make them miss that. Go back and file a complaint or go over their heads and report them to higher management. This is 100 unacceptable behaviour and NO professional trainer would do this.

[@naruto456431]

Agreed! I’ve been to gyms and have my certificate in fitness and know not to touch someone’s machine when you don’t know the client using it. I’ve learnt in my course that each individual in the gym has different things they need to work on for their bodies to lose weight or build muscle mass like if I was training with op I’d suggest the bike and treadmill first to get a base line of their abilities to cope with exercise if they can’t do more than treadmill and bike to start with id keep them on those machines for a little while then when they tell me they think their confident enough or I think they’re confident enough I start to guide them to new machines to help with weight loss but under any circumstances I would not push the speed up on the machine without the clients consent or knowledge whilst working out this is hugely unacceptable for any trainer to do I am overweight too and if I had someone do this to me I’d be pissed off to the maximum level of pissed off because this is seriously dangerous I hope the op took it further

[@katieb.1184]

YES! especially if he's an actual "trainer" this fucker SHOULD KNOW BETTER. I have scars from a treadmill, those things are already not the safest... Not to mention... you don't know what joint issues someone has. I can walk or maybe speedwalk. It's been like this since I had to quit dance (back then I was a size 8 and got no flack for my slow pace... but as I got heavier from mental health issues and meds now people have no issue telling me I need to jog. If I jog, I'm going to need crutches or cortisol injections to not be in pain)

[@shootingcomet082]

Story 1: If the gym is defending this guy's actions, it's not a gym you want to be a member of. NTA.

[@Marina-uu2sz]

Pretty sure that the blame being put on OP in story #1 is because the gym is hoping to cover up their liability. If they make OP feel like she is in the wrong then it won't occur to her that she can cause them a world of hurt legally.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

No, they simply don't want her to work out there. She is stuck for the length of her membership no matter what. But now, they don't want her to actually work out there. I worked at a gym long ago as a trainer, good looking fit people won't join a gym with a bunch of fat unattractive people working out at it. Without the hot attractive fit people, other people won't join. It's a nasty, toxic, business model.

[@eph2vv89only1way]

Totally agree

[@AuroraLalune]

@@thomasjoseph5876 probably both

[@sheilaclemett4353]

@@thomasjoseph5876 Many years ago a few colleagues of mine were looking for a health club and one ass manager said "You girls use your faces as excuses for your bodies!" and went on about how obese they were. BTW, the worst was maybe 10 lb overweight. The most senior of these women was a supervisor at my company. I told her I would have taken his name and called the next day to talk to his boss. When I last belonged to a health club I avoided the branches with ground floor picture windows. I am nobody's entertainment.

[@chrismccloskey2502]

I'm pretty sure op had a fantasy moment at the gym. I was a serious gym rat for many many years, literally having multiple memberships at the same time. In all those years and all those gyms...NEVER, NOT ONCE have I ever seen someone touch another person's equipment while in use. And, as a manager of a shop, I'll promise you IF anyone would have put another person in danger, they would have been put on notice. (Ie suspended while investigating, then tossed) No one fucks with lawsuits

[@kittyfox7]

That trainer needs to mind his own damn business. I hope she filed a complaint and terminated her membership. What he did was very dangerous.

[@gregoryzn87]

The gym should be held liable for this and should be begging OP not to sue.

[@tracybarber-kier1669]

Many years ago, before I knew her, a dear friend, with kids, became homeless, after fleeing an abusive marriage. She let her sister persuade her to let her kiddos live there, 'till she got on her feet. Sister immediately applied for custody, and got it. Friend was never able to get her children back... had to pay child support, and got infrequent visitation! Don't let them have your kids, OP!

[@eph2vv89only1way]

Yup. Leaving the child(ren) with someone else is considered abandonment, regardless of the reason. My ex’s brother’s wife left her first husband because he hit her. Since he never hit the kids she left them with him because he had a secure job and she didn’t. When she was more secure she tried to get custody but was denied on the grounds of abandonment. Not even joint custody.

[@x.s5162]

If you don't go and get a temporary guardianship document then it is considered abandonment and the other parent(if one) or family members can seek custody. ALWAYS GET LEGAL DOCUMENTS. No matter how much you think you can trust someone get it in legal writing so there can't be any wiggle room. The temporary guardianship document has a legal date(usually 6months) you must come get the kids or file for a new temporary guardianship (if judge allows). Prenup, business agreement, family borrowing money, anything get it in legal writing (notorizing something is free most place and cheap at others)

[@taylorlibby7642]

1st Story-NTA. Forget them deciding if you get to stay or not, that's definitely not the place for you (or anyone else) imo! Best thing for you to do is demand a complete refund of any money you've paid them and use that money to pay for a gym that doesn't demean you, endanger you, and then gaslight you about it! BTW- i find heavier people who have made the decision that you have and move forward with it to be a complete inspiration. It is ridiculously hard to do, and the courage and willpower on display is amazing to me. Best of luck to you.

[@dream6562]

As someone who was a heavy person I went through a similar situation as op did, I did however accept their logic and was willing to hear the trainer out, and it ended up being effective for me so I do have to say op is somewhat the ahole

[@autumn557]

I want them to watch the gym video afterwards and go “ohhhhh shit she’s gonna sue”.

[@thepixelatedgirl4741]

There's a gym video?

[@HituraRael]

Story of dad trying to make his oldest babysit his youngest: "Failure to plan on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part."

[@Keyonne88]

This. It would be one thing if she agreed to it ahead of time and then bailed last minute. But to be mad she isn't magically free last minute? Man is entitled and shitty.

[@Chantal_P-v4x]

Story 1 - NTA. I'm no gym expert. But I don;t think it takes half a brain to know that what that man did was dangerous. OP could have been injured far worse than just a sprained wrist. And how dare that gym completely overlook that fact that she flippin' FELL in the first place, because of that ridiculous unwanted 'Help.' I'd say if the membership is terminated, good to be honest. You don't need to be part of a gym like that... with trains like that on staff and managers who won't darn well listen! Unless OP lives in some tiny town with only one, then this might be a wonderful reason to find and try a new one

[@Dr.RatioSnail]

My personal trainer says that you can't go fast when starting out you gotta pace yourself first 10 minutes a day on trendmill even at a walking pace is a great leg warm up for bike excercise. But also she spent an hour on the bike and was in a cool down trendmill walk. This helps the muscles wind down. The guy was an ass not her.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I used to be a trainer at a gym. Let me explain to you what is actually happening here. What the guy did was NO MISTAKE. He was intentionally trying to ruin her workout and thus her day. She is a fat person. Fat people working out at gyms hurt their reputation and thus, their bottom line. Fat people, especially in workout gear, are unattractive. Attractive people will not buy gym memberships where fat unattractive people are at. They sold her a 6 month or 1-year membership which she is obligated to pay no matter what. But they don't want her to actually come there to work out. They want her to become disillusioned and frustrated and then not come back. It's really that simple in their minds. Chances are Corporate not only knows about this, but pushes it as well. It's all about money and reputation. Now, don't kill me, I am merely the person supplying the info that I know of from working at a Gym for a whole 8 months until I couldn't take the crap they gave us and expected us to believe it. Stuff like this is just the tip of the iceberg. By all means, don't be an attractive female trainer who is popular with the guys and then end up pregnant. You will be fired for some stupid reason. There are a lot more things like that. If you want access to virtually any illegal drug, make friends at the gym.

[@jenmetz619]

No, he didn’t introduce himself, had no right to do that without saying anything, ask for security cameras footage

[@Shenn3165]

I work out pretty diligently, that gym “trainer should be sued” he doesn’t know if you have any medical issues, also you work up to higher speeds and weights, otherwise you will very easily burn yourself out, or hurt yourself!

[@scepticalhyenas5750]

Additionally, it shouldn't be assumed that someone in a gym is there just to lose weight. Changing someones workout suddenly because they _"wont lose any weight like that"_ is... ridiculous. Lots of people do _"easy mode"_ exercises at the gym to strengthen muscles up after injuries, with walking slow on a treadmill being a common one. *Guy fucked up, and could have done **_serious_** damage.*

[@sharonblevins3281]

Seems to me the treadmill story should be filed against for your injury as advised by someone else. That was assault. Why didn't you call the police and make a report.

[@Ann_Wall-Chiasson]

First story: I can guarantee if a trainer at a gym did that to me, my fat ass coming up off that floor swinging.

[@Rabdom50]

Story 2: wait, if he dropped the youngest two off at their grandparents house last minute -- why didn't they just do that to begin with when the oldest said she had plans?? YTA.

[@damien678]

The ADHD wife: it's genuinely a HUGE part of ADHD to completely forget something if it's not right in front of you. sticky notes are a life-saver. Also the ADHD brain's frontal lobes, that effects executive functions (but not intellect) are less developed than non-ADHD brains. it can genuinely be a huge hurdle to even START to do a task when you have ADHD. these are things we still struggle with even while on our life-changing medication.

[@Nora-dp6mk]

Exactly I have adhd and I was boggled on the nta comments I don't even have bad adhd and I forget things if someone had it worse then me it would not surprise me that they forgot to sent out a email screaming at your wife does not help

[@eliability]

I agree so hard. Like, in no case is it okay to freak the fuck out. It's okay to be upset, but his response seemed genuinely scary, and as someone with ADHD, it feels bad enough not being able to finish things but it feels worse when completely forgetting to do it.

[@valerielocke7876]

I have massive knee problems and am awaiting surgery and if that trainer had done that to me I would be majorly hurt. I would contact the city attorney to have him get a subpoena for the security footage so I could sue.

[@GeorgiaDLee]

OP 1: Holy shit!! File a complaint with BBB, file reports against the trainer, manager and corporate, file a police report for assault and reckless endangerment, and sue for pain and suffering and punitive damages against trainer, manager and corporate in small claims.

[@Nunya144]

She could sue him and the gym for that

[@tracybarber-kier1669]

I hope she does!

[@Suelorie]

The son coming out story- NAH-mom tried to get him to hold on because her attention was on the meal preparation and impending guests. He could not wait and told her something very significant but his timing was not good, he was aware that Mom had company coming and could have said "mom I need to talk to you about something important" and then they could have scheduled time for such a big reveal. I don't think any of them were AH's. If the mom had then been using some of the languaging she used in her distracted state ,then she might have been TA.

[@geekfreak2000]

Maybe give the trainer your medical bill. Then he might change his tune.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

OK my opinion on the son coming out gay, and not liking mom's reaction. Here is my story. When my twins were 12, as we were eating,, my daughter said "hey mom, can you pass the peas, and oh did I tell you I'm a lesbian?" I passed the peas, told her no she hadn't. Told her she know I love her no matter what, and dinner went on. When my daughter was 16 my she came to me and brought up the time she "came out" said she loved me so much and I was the best mom, because I didn't make a big deal about it, and she was happy she was raised with the understanding that we love whom we love. She then told me about her friends recent experience. When her friend told her mom, the mom lost it saying she was a sinner and would burn in hell. Now, the friend mother told her she was sending her to conversion camp. So, she again thanked me for being me. Now, I am in no way saying that OP was right or wrong. I am just saying that OP probably felt it didn't matter who her son loved, and she excepted him no matter what. But, OP should have stopped for a moment and at least said to her son "I am happy you felt comfortable sharing this with me. I am proud of you no matter who you love. How about we talk more about this after our guest leave. That would have taken all of a few seconds, and would have let him know she heard him, loves and accepts him, and want to talk more. Instead of the response she gave. Son also needs to realize how lucky he is to have a loving and accepting mom. Her reaction could have been the one my daughters friend got from her parents. Now for a moment to go back to my daughters friend. She was 17 when she told her mom. Her mom was sending in June (2016) a week after the girl turned 18. Her friend came to me desperate and upset. I told her that when she turned 18, she was welcome to come stay with us until she left for college that fall (she had a full academic ride), and that her mom could not legally force her to go as she will be an adult by then. Needless to say when the girl left on her birthday and moved in with us,, her mom lost it and demanded I send her daughter back. I told her those conversion camps were horrible and abused the kids that went there. The mom said she didn't care and was just trying to save her daughter's soul. I told her I was just trying to save her daughter's period. Throughout the summer the mom called me and begged me to kick her out. She even tried to call the police and report her daughter as a runaway, and I was "harboring " her. As soon as police found out the girls age, the told the mom to deal with it her daughter was an adult and could live anywhere she want. Never heard from her mom again. And I am proud to say the girl graduated with her Bachelors, and is in her first year of med school. She is happily married, and has not spoken to her family since her 18th birthday. She also calls me mom now. Sorry this went on. Maybe I should put the story with my daughter's friend on Reddit, but not sure where it would go. Anyway, thanks for reading my rambling.

[@rosaazure]

Grandmother at wedding story - somewhere there's someone taking side bets on how long this marriage will last. Divorce before 1st anniversary.

[@izzisart]

Probably Grandma taking the bets 😂

[@zapheil]

1:23:03 Hey, kudos to you for not only being willing to change your mind after you’ve received new information, but being willing to show us both your first judgement *and* your revised judgement. That’s something I haven’t seen from any other Reddit reader before, but I’ve seen you do it several times now, and it makes me respect you a lot.

[@tracybarber-kier1669]

Grandma will probably have a blast at the reception! She might get tired early, but hey, she's over 21! Let her come! My grandmother bowled, played pool, square danced and drank red beer! Elders like to have fun too!

[@nelliemeows..]

Right?! My grandparents will have a blast when i get married! And the grandma said she’d be okay?! I truly believe that woman knows everything she can handle at this point in life! She’s 98! Let that woman get drunk with the fam 🤷🏽‍♀️😂

[@rmhartman]

"OP will have a lifetime of anniversaries ahead of him" ... now _you_ are the one making an assumption. ;-)

[@als2480]

Okay and? He made the mistake of not telling his daughter until last minute, and tried manipulating her into canceling saying goodbye to her best friend because he was irresponsible.

[@robbiprendergast7759]

A teenage boy was sitting alone and enjoying reading books of a certain genre. He kindly agreed to sit together. The girls made a sexist comment towards him based on what he currently was reading without regard to whether or not he also had other favorite genre types or other authors. They could've asked if he had read any female authors that also wrote within the genre that was evident on the table. Those girls could've also minded their own damn business, as agreeing to sit together was not an invitation to converse. Particularly since a library is considered a place to read and/or study without loud conversations to distract the other patrons.

[@americanjoe1509]

I know, right? They acted like they caught him reading Mein Kampf! My response would be why does it matter who wrote the books? Didn’t MLKJ say that we should not judge off race but character content? I would extend this to men and women too. A book can be good and liked regardless of who wrote it whether man or woman. I believe you have to be looking for trouble if you take offense to the books someone is reading, with some exceptions, like the one mentioned above, and even then, mind your own business!

[@cuzican1902]

Those girls made a snotty sexist remark and he can't even respond? Bullcrap. I'm a lover of sarcasm and if I heard that exchange, I would have laughed at those girls. Plus I'm petty and would have stated that they started it. For clarification, I am a woman who loves to read.

[@crimson1919]

Appreciating the well recognized contributions of “old white men” doesn’t make someone sexist. Why do nosy little harpies suddenly have a say in this guy’s reading list. What a moronic society we live in where this is a thing.

[@multifan1644]

Came here to say something similar, the idea that whatever a person is currently reading is the only thing they read is ridiculous, I read a variety of authors and genres and I actually know next to nothing about those authors, their race, gender, sexual orientation or how they identify. I read books that I enjoy and don't really care who wrote them. When I am reading my body language is closed off and not inviting of conversation. I have been in libraries that encourage quiet and polite discussions but they remind patrons to be respectful of one another.

[@tonicus123]

Not just sexist, they made a racist remark, too. I thought the zinger was pretty good, plus don't look down on the sophistication involved in making kids books.

[@snowythealicorn5784]

I'm upset. No cat-in-a-raincoat, cat-in-a-batman-fluffy-thing, or cat-in-a-dress tax :(

[@speakevermore]

The story about not letting the grandma come to the wedding reception made me so sad. If i were that groom, the only way i would still marry that woman is if she got some self awareness, apologized to him, and begged for his grandma's forgiveness for being so heartless and cruel jfc

[@AllistorMichelle]

story 1: nta he was an ass and needs to stop 'helping' others that don't pay him or ask for his help. if your membership is canceled either go else where or take it up to the manager or let the guy hurt you then you can sue the place.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 2: NTA. your sister betrayed you and ex cheated on you. I don’t mean to sound heartless but your sister is not your responsibility and neither are her kids. Your parents needs to find a relative or alternative care for their daughter.

[@brittanyramsey95]

The story about Millie the cat always gets me angry. She keeps saying she feels bad for “refusing to compromise” but there is no compromise. You either get rid of Millie or you don’t. A good partner wouldn’t make you choose….. 😤

[@cynicalminion]

"here's your money, now go away. i don't pay my boyfriends, and i don't date my uber drivers."

[@catlover2223]

Just what I was thinking!

[@tahakumonsonoa6026]

Coworker with a crush story: He seems to know thing won’t go anywhere since he said he liked her from day 1. He might just want to get it off his chest after 2 years.

[@Suelorie]

story 1 I am inclined to think this man's actions were done as a means to find an excuse to terminate the op from the gym because they didn't want a large person working out there. I would take it to corporate and if you don't get satisfaction----sue them and take it to the media. The story abt the woman whose co worker told her his feeling,-Are you serious? He is making her guilty for someone else's words-,she came to him immediately and he throws a tantrum----he is a childish AH not OP

[@kristinwiebold2433]

OP NTA. Wife is so YTA. She lied. She lied big time to her family. It was also disrespectful to your mom. Calling her out and setting it straight was the right thing. There is nothing wrong with living in an inherited house. Everyone will think she is a liar because she is a liar.

[@katieb.1184]

That mom is absolutely setting her son up to be the golden child and that daughter deserves so, so much better. when it comes to skipping grades: My sister was promoted in 3rd grade. her IQ was tested and she's genius by a good measure. Unfortunately the school dropped every single ball in terms of assistance. It was a mess socially for the long run, and academically for the first couple of years while she learned the skills she skipped in that grade. Mom decided to argue with ever having me tested to avoid them pushing to promote me a grade and instead I was put in the awful gifted program that just meant more homework and nothing to actually help me grow beyond what my peers were learning. I understood the struggles my sister went through but it sucked knowing I wouldn't have that mental challenge. I got tested in high school and my IQ also landed firmly above the genius cutoff, but not quite as high as my sister's score. Mom still refuses to accept I'm anything more than "pretty smart." The main issue with us is that mom never pushed my sister to grow and held onto the excuse of her being promoted for all her fuck-ups. "well, she has trouble being obsessive with friends because she never learned social skills..." "people with her level of genius suck at being social" "you know she acts like that because she never really had friends." "she's been jealous of you since grade school." it even got looped into forcing me to give up when my sister announced MY twin pregnancy before I even had a chance to tell all the family, much less my best friends. "she didn't think it would be a big deal, you know she never learned how to be social..." She's 38. She's been to a diagnostic psychiatrist, so its not like she has ASD and sucks with social cues. she's an ass who my mom still protects, even to the detriment of my kids- I step in and stop her nonsense and mom tells me to back off because "that's just how she is."

[@tracybarber-kier1669]

Husband trying to announce the pregnancy... is he on the spectrum? He seems to have major problems with social cues.

[@kalinaphillips9779]

Infatuation story. I don't know where OP lives, but in the UK it is illegal to lock out a spouse from the house their share. OP has a right to phone police to gain access to their home. Most likely she also can stated a form of domestic abuse. I also have a question. Is OP's husband having an affair and is he looking for the way out?

[@constancepeterson6156]

It is her house. I would filed for divorce and kicked out of my house. If he was so upset he should have left. By making sure his wife was homeless it does not sound like he loves her.

[@littlemschat1052]

Thats totally unprofessional. Who suddenly ups the speed without informing the person. He is also insinuating she should be losing weight rather than focus on her fitness. Poor excuse of a trainer n human.

[@HealingSpectrumIntuition]

NTA: It infuriates me when people suggest that they should take priority over your pet just because they’re people.

[@kimberlyaustin6677]

You could sue this guy and the gym. He acted as an agent/representative of the gym when he did that to you. And he did hurt you. I can also bet the farm that he never pulled this stunt with a male member of the gym - ever.

[@nightdweller6446]

Damn, I'm early for a Sunday. G'day all. Cheers , Markee 1st story NTA. That stranger caused an accident. The fact he's a "trainer" gives him no rights to do this. And they are trying to boot OP in order prevent the possible lawsuit. 2nd NTA. The parents need to arrange for the care of the sister. Even taking the background out of the equation, OP is not obliged to make those arrangements. Harsh but legally the truth. 3rd YTA. Poor planning by OP is not Zoe's fault. It wasn't like the anniversary was a surprise, and OP managed to make reservations for a restaurant but not a babysitter. The oldest child is not a de facto parent/built in babysitter.

[@Nytemist21]

First story, they need to sue the gym especially if he works for them as a trainer

[@khaavren3]

Second story: Was it really Karma? Or did it look like you never, EVER, want to get on OPs bad side?

[@WobblesandBean]

Either way, the sister deserved it.

[@Hiimreggie]

@@WobblesandBean nobody deserves to become a vegetable

[@zobell4289]

I am engaged to someone with severe ADHD, who refuses any kind of medication because of a bad experience. This has caused countless problems in our relationship because sometimes I question if it is the ADHD or he just doesn’t want to do something. ADHD is a slippery slope and definitely a struggle to live with, but at some point you need to take accountability and work on yourself. OP has the right to be upset. NO Insurance coverage for a year? I would lose my mind.

[@kskidspastor]

Neighbor in his own backyard that he owned first needs to file harassment charges. He has no responsibility to go hide in his house just because they are jerks.

[@kskidspastor]

So, the boyfriend was a jerk, complaining that OP was not wearing makeup, so she turned it around on him, making him feel unpretty and he got butthurt? Too bad it didn’t wake him up to what he had been doing to her, but it’s hard to get through to a narcissist.

[@jacksparrowismydaddy]

I don't care if he is a trainer and "trying to help" you don't up the speed on a treadmill someone else is using. you coulda been hurt and you coulda sued. in fact if they revoke your membership I say sue! they'll throw him under the bus.

[@ZebraZabrina]

Wow I lost my car and had to have my boyfriend drive me 40 minutes to work. He never once asked for $5 let alone prices of Ubers. Yikes

[@lujlp]

Anniversary story "I took them to my mother's house" So why not do that from the start?

[@katieb.1184]

Seatbelt: nope. All the fucking nope. NTA. Not only the ticket but their lives.

[@theholyhorehay]

If someone keeps choosing something they care about over you, stop making them choose. Either accept that thing they love (within reason-not drugs or alcohol or cheating over the relationship) or leave the situation. If my husband I could never sing again or something like that, we’d be having a serious discussion about our relationship. If either of us asked to give up our pup (he had him when we met but the dog loves me more lol) we we probably not survive. pets are our babies. Hobbies are a part of our personality. Friends and family (again-outside of toxic relationships) are usually not something your partner should ask you to give up!

[@bdhu2001]

I live in California and I’d like to point out that it’s a fine for each unbuckled person and it goes onto the driving record of the driver also. In other words their insurance will also increase. If the person who is unbuckled has a license, it goes on both peoples records.

[@CensorshipVictim]

Story 1: I have a medical condition that makes working out difficult at best and it's easy for me to injure myself, if I'm not careful. I've had trainers harass me at the gym because of my workout (which is approved by my doctor and OT specialist). What that trainer did was criminal and OP should sue! What if OP was recovering from surgery? Or had a medical condition like me, he really really could have hurt OP seriously.

[@gloriagloria716]

Good grief, ageist bridezilla. Elderly people know how to party young woman!!! How awful you are making Grandma feel?

[@WobblesandBean]

Am I the only one glad that the sister in story 2 ended up the way she did? Frankly, I call that karma.

[@sherihenderson1962]

My question since the parents are having to take care of the daughter full time and they met up with their other daughter out of her presence how alert and oriented is the disabled sister.

[@kskidspastor]

The “trainer” needs assault charges against him.

[@moimeself1088]

In what world does a 3yr old need "privacy"? My daughter was sleeping in my bed until she was almost 8 or 10, despite having her own room. Kids sometimes just like chilling in our beds.

[@eph2vv89only1way]

He turned up the speed on you without warning you or getting permission?!?!?! That’s lawsuit material since your wrist was sprained

[@HeatherQuinn-Psykhae]

Roald Dahl is the best child author hands down and I'd fight for him Matilda made me feel heard and seen as a woman from an abusive household and the bfg is the kindest most caring man in the world I loved it when they hung out with the queen to that was bad ass XD

[@ImAFireBreathingUnicornRaWr]

First time watching/listening to Markee. Did NOT expect them to look like they do.😅🤣 Like I had a whole different image in my head. 🤣🤣

[@bethanybingham4848]

The cat in the rain coat sounds like the cutest fucking thing. 😆 🤣

[@Ejiro__Kirishima]

Your older kids aren’t in charge of caring for your younger ones. They shouldn’t get in trouble unless they promised to.

[@kakendrick62]

Insurance story. Wow Markee that was pretty brutal. People make mistakes and do not deserve that kind of treatment. I work in insurance and she can always go to her HR department and try to work something out. His reaction was not normal. This is when you work as a team to figure something out.

[@TheIronwil]

Disabled Sister: NTA, and I really wish the people who freaked out over the karma comment would stop over-simplifying things and arguing like children. The commenter didn't say she deserved to be disabled. They said something to the effect of "wow, that was a lot of karma", meaning they thought it was probably overkill. The opposite of what others were claiming. If you hear a cheating spouse story and the cheater gets an STD, and someone mentions karma, are you going to flip out because that implies the cheater deserved to get HIV? Of course not, because it doesn't. But when sickness or injury occur, it's like people completely lose their ability to reason, and spout off emotionally with a knee-jerk reacting instead. Not one comment I saw even suggested OP's sister deserved to become disabled, including the one about karma. Enough white-knighting, people.

[@damien678]

Y'all, disability isn't a punishment, thus people aren't "deserving" or "undeserving" of being disabled.

[@alisonquentin3287]

My car doesnt start till you're buckled up, I picked a fude up from a date and we sat there for a minute while I waited

[@jdd9993]

Story 1: That trainer was a TOTAL AH. The gym and trainer are liable for OP's injuries; she should threaten to sue. OP is NTA..

[@the1spyderryder]

NTA! She got herself in to that KARMA she may be paying for what she did to you!

[@rmhartman]

messing with someone else's equipment settings is absolutely out of line. messing with it without notifying the person is bloody dangerous. his membership should be cancelled.

[@rmhartman]

you have a wedding anniversary date coming up, and you wait to the last minute to impose on someone -- anyone -- for babysitting at the last minute? And the you rescind the promised money over this? That money was offered without contingency.

[@voxkine9385]

Story 1: YTA. What you should have done is contacted a lawyer and sued the man and the gym. The man absolutely is liable, and the gym as well may be on the hook. In reality, NTA, but you should be contacting a lawyer. If nothing else, I imagine "free lifetime gym membership" is in your future.

[@diefenbaker7853]

A horrible neighbor of my parents did the exact same thing to a tree in my parents yard. The tree was an 80+ year old Black Walnut tree. The damage to the roots killed the tree and it cost $8000 to remove it. My parents sued the lady and won. My parents attorney had two tree experts come and look at the tree before it was removed and it was appraised at $68,000 by one appraiser and $74,000 by the other. The court ruled in my parents favor and made the neighbor pay the $8000 tree removal and cleanup and $72,000 for the tree. The court also awarded my parents $40,000 in punitive damages because of the harrassment the neighbor did after my parents complained about the tree being damaged. The neighbors insurance refused to pay the courts damages as it was a malicious act by the neighbor. She was forced to sell her home and pay the balance because the home after paying off her mortgage wasnt enough to cover the court ruling. The person who cut the tree roots in this video could possibly be looking at $100,000 + in restitution to the tree owner.

[@laurachowanski9933]

Seriously. My sister's husband's family are tree experts. BTW, my parents would have told me to watch where I was walking. No action needed. They think by saying "my kids safety" they can dismiss all logic and reason.

[@mikehilbert9349]

Story number 1: NTA, if he is indeed a trainer, he should know better than to do what he did. This trainer is a gym bully. If the gym kicks you out, be sure and let people know that they tolerate bullying by their staff.

[@drkatbun8566]

The op with the gay son, Maybe I’m wrong but she was busy making food for more than 10 people or so and her son caught her of guard while she was making sure the food didn’t burn, and from the post it seems like op was the only one cooking so her “I don’t care your gay” to me was more of a “kinda busy come back later”, rather than a “i don’t care about you”while its is scary to come out, I really don’t understand what fear he had when his family (op, her family and her ex husband don’t particularly see coming out as anything other than saying “oh hey I’m dating this person”), and when her son became upset she reassured him that she loved him, and I’m not sure what else he wanted from his mother when she was busy cooking for 10+ people. I don’t blame him for when he wanted to come out but I don’t see this as anything other than “wanting attention” (idk what else to label this as) when he could come out “safely” to his mom when the rest of his family left, from what op wrote the kitchen where op was, was very close to the rest of the family, while the family didn’t hear him come out, they did hear the rest of the conversation so op accidentally outing him would have happened anyway because they were close by. And honestly from the fight that happened what else was op supposed to say to her other children and her siblings, “he just got angry and left”.

[@TheNormExperience]

Story 1: I think OP put it best with, “What the actual F*CK!?!” NTA and this is seriously messed up. What if you’d had knee surgery and had little to no xatiladge and falling caused damage costing you thousands to get fixed. This is NOT ok. I don’t know if it’s illegal but I can’t believe the gym isn’t taking this more seriously and firing their walking-potential-future-law-suit employee. If they keep going after OP I would sue. What he did, his reasoning, and his refusal to see how he did anything wrong means he absolutely WILL do it again because he knows he’ll get away with it, so OP HAS to change gyms following this.

[@Ki11erKitty]

The book story, WTH?? Those Ignorant girls were running their mouths! And being racist! Did None of the commenters Not Listen to what the girls did to START the darn thing? All he did was crack back. Don't throw shade if you can't handle it thrown back! And to be clear, I am a Woman and VERY avid reader. He was Not in the wrong. AT ALL. He cracked a joke at Their comments. 🤦‍♀️

[@lindahoward7309]

Do what they ended up doing! Taking the kids to her mothers!

[@TheIronwil]

Smitten Colleague: NTA. Leave him. I could give OP's husband some slack for being upset. This is not a small issue. They've been working together 2 years, and will 2 years more. It's a huge ask that OP's husband tolerates this, and under nearly all circumstances, I'd be with the husband. But given the importance of this particular project to OP's career, even such a huge ask becomes reasonable. They'd have to work out something to soothe his fears over the situation. But to insist she immediately quits even knowing the cost of such a move, OP's husband becomes instantly unreasonable. I'd be angry at this response were I OP, but would hope it was just an emotional moment. But then that wack job changed the locks, and that was the end. Double more so given OP's family doesn't like him. There's a lot of BS going on here, with the common denominator being OP's husband. Divorce. Police. Now.

[@RevWarRev]

Story 1: NTA!!! What TA did was utterly disrespectful and dangerous. Hope OP files a complaint and insists on a sit down with the manager, FIRMLY telling her/him exactly what happened, that he caused an injury. Insist on any video being saved. This manager better open his/her eyes and fire this trainer who is arrogant, ignorant and entitled and have a come-to-Jesus moment with the others.

[@susanyoung5447]

I had a perfect excuse. My brother and sister had a double wedding. At the time, I was in the Army and stationed on Okinawa. That was a flight of almost 15 hours, not counting layovers. Way too far. 😆😄🤪

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

So all that trying to control Zoey and make her parent his own children and ended up getting a sitter anyway. So dumb and unnecessary

[@janiceellery1653]

The parents can set up a trust fund and get a professional guardian. In some cases the state will take over but that should be a last resort.

[@jamesrkrau2481]

When a kid asks you a question. Tell them the truth don’t lie to them.

[@evarodriguez4319]

Tell them that you are deciding with your attorney your next course of action. Do it in writing, email.

[@naomirankin214]

Story #1 - this sounds like a skanky kind of gym. Find a place with professionals

[@nyteshayde1197]

If you don't make changes to your insurance during open enrollment, then your previous benefits stay unchanged. I call shenanigans. If he did lose his coverage then he should declare a life change with his companies benefits company and apply for insurance until her open enrollment comes around again.

[@mrsunderstood8141]

I lived in a very gay friendly family with gay family members. I love my uncles, and I always have, but the possibility that I was gay terrified me. Internalized homophobia is a real thing in lgbt children's life. Him coming out and her not caring may make him feel terrible for him caring or like his fear is invalid.

[@eleanoraddy4683]

If they ban YOU from the gym, you better off at a different one

[@heypatk]

FYI speak with HR about work options. Tell them coworker is not harassing but you need your discomfort documted

[@heypatk]

As for the husband counseling or can his butt

[@soulreaper1981]

I am so happy my grandfather was at my wedding. Hey enjoyed his whiskey during the event and died a few years later

[@___LC___]

Uber AH boyfriend: next time he wants sex, tell him the price of a high paid call girl, as that is the “girlfriend experience” he is looking for.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

Story 2: Straight up karma. No way would I take care of that nasty horrible person and I'm curious how the ex died

[@Shangori]

The cat story: cats are VERY sensitive. Their entire body is one huge sensory organ. It is very true that putting on clothes might overstimulate them. And I do not agree, generally, to put on clothes on a cat. That said.. Every animal is an individual. And as one of those who replied said: cats are honest. They will tell you when they do not like something. That doesn't have to be scratches, tho. Make sure you know what to look for. Tail and ear activity says a lot. The individuality of cats extent to water as well. They're desert-adapted animals and do not like water.. ..generally. But some are just fine getting wet and can even start enjoying a swim or a warm soak.

[@4BWVan]

The guy made her fall and sprain her wrist! Are these people crazy?!

[@saldiven2009]

Dude in story one, I guarantee, is not a certified trainer. If he were, he would know not to do that.

[@TheNekoMimiGamer]

definitely did NOT misjudge the cat story. if this guy even remotely loved OP, he would never tell them to get rid of their pet, especially since I'm willing to bet that it's a *therapy* cat. He has too much potential to be an animal abuser in the future. If he's not going to accept that he fucked up by crossing a line with OP and the cat then he should find a roommate with a dog instead. also the guy with the books basically served those two girls the exact same "joke" they did. they're clearly sexist against male authors (white male authors even) and can't handle it being reciprocated back in their direction. OP unintentionally exposed them as hypocrites.

[@Miex5068]

Around 16:26 The boyfriend should have asked her before driving her but OFFERING to drive her and THEN demanding money that is not okay