r/AmITheA**Hole For Telling My Mother I Resent Her Because Of My Sister?

[@RudesMom]

Story 1: Many "gifted" students that aren't challenged in school never have a chance to develop strong study habits because they don't need to work for it. They can just coast and teachers will just let them be because they "don't need the extra attention" that the other children need. Another downside is that "gifted" kids who aren't sufficiently challenged can easily become discipline problems due to boredom. The mother may have really screwed over OP long-term.

[@seleneyue]

I was both! Disciplinary problems and didn't learn to study properly until grad school. Needless to say, my college grades plummeted when things got hard.

[@jalexoneschanel1356]

I lived this. I’m slowly having my soul sucked out by university because I’ve never had to work for anhthing in school. I never had to settle for a passing grade, like a C, to save my mental health or so I can focus on my harder classes.

[@brushdogart]

@@seleneyue I actually went to a "gifted" school. We got a lot of broken kids who had gone completely out of control in the public school system. One of my best friends was a shy, timid young man who had been placed in the "problem student" classroom because apparently he had been so frustrated at his previous school that he had started throwing desks! All this is to say, I am sorry to hear that you were not given the nurturing environment you deserved but I am glad you are not suffering from it too badly. And yes, gifted kids who went to my school tended to do very well in their first years of college, many found undergrad work was actually easier than their high school classes had been.

[@jimbobjones9330]

I will agree with this. It's hard to learn to study when you don't have to most of the time.

[@lisae8315]

This was me. I turned into the discipline problem. I was evaluated in the first semester of the first grade because my teacher swore that I needed to be put into the LD class. I rated at the end of third grade/beginning of the fourth grade level. My mom wouldn’t hear of me moving grades. That teacher absolutely HATED me. Pink slips almost daily. Paddling about every other day. I got one of those slips when my pencil rolled off my desk when I was using my rubber eraser. She wrote that I broke my pencil tip on purpose. My dad unfortunately wasn’t a reasonable person. So school and home was hell. I ended up giving up and not caring. Thinking I was a horrible person. Took years to realize that it wasn’t actually my fault. F* you Mrs. Gilstrap. There is a special place in hell for your bullying self. No teacher should ever say or do the things she did.

[@nhdoom8368]

I like how people are claiming that they know privacy laws when they dont even know what country the story takes place in...

[@justanothergalaxy8379]

Right?

[@katieb.1184]

but... but... everyone online is from America! (sarcasm)

[@ManiacalBlueberry]

I was thinking the same thing. Like there isn't a whole world out there.

[@crichtonbruce4329]

T.S. 14:14 "Apologize to keep the peace" is one of the sentences I hate most, closely followed by "Be the bigger person and let it go". It's taken me over 50 years and enormous pain to overcome the effects they had on me. I've mostly healed, but, damn, it didn't need to be this way

[@samalvarez8776]

Why is it that the person wronged always has to be "the bigger person"?

[@LauraB12k]

@@samalvarez8776 Because the person asking the victim to "be the bigger person" knows damned well that the offender never will, and they are happy to allow the victim to be abused in order to not be inconvenienced themselves. Demanding the victim suck it up is itself a form of abuse.

[@LauraB12k]

Oh man, do I feel this comment. Also 50-something and heard these demands many times in my youth.

[@wargamesmaster]

What about "it's just a prank"? I personally think it's as annoying as "be the bigger person" or "apologize to keep the peace".

[@katieb.1184]

@@wargamesmaster all three are just soul-crushing to me... (I also lump "they're just teasing" with "it's a prank" because some difference.) Like, no? they're an adult and deserve consequences including my standing up for myself or my kids?

[@skyelindsey687]

The period one. We cannot control our period blood like piss and the fact he’s a teacher and doesn’t yet know that. If that’s the way he treats female students then he deserves to be fired and banned from holding another teaching position ever again. Screw the money wasted on the degree

[@katieb.1184]

I'm def not "shocked pikachu face" at the dad and brother saying she could've wait a while... (and she did? she texted multiple times? and waited?) but ffs, if he's being investigated SHE didn't get him potentially fired... HE made enough mistakes to be investigated and potentially fired.

[@luvondarox]

Had a coworker bluntly inform our male manager that a period was "like a nosebleed. *_from the vagina."_* and tore into him asking if he can just tell his nose to stop bleeding at will (he was a chronic nose bleeder). To say his facial expression was glorious is just a horrid understatement.

[@agingophelia9812]

Daughter's thesis is due in a month, let's just threaten her with homelessness now. What a POS dad. He could ruin all the work she's done till now by stressing her out when she needs her concentration so much at this exact moment in time.

[@robertmurray3294]

If she is in school and working an internship (most don't pay ) u are the a-hole.

[@jimbobjones9330]

That story infuriates me. It's one of those ones that I hope is fake.

[@lisae8315]

This Dad is probably the type of person who comes home from work and is done for the day. You know because he “worked” all day. Leaving his partner to take care of kids, dinner, all household chores, etc. after working full time also. You know the one who thinks taking out a bag of trash once to several times a week and moving a lawn equals “half” of the chores.

[@lilmissiamsodonehere_2399]

@@lisae8315 I was thinking the same thing about this man!!

[@freyalita]

Зз

[@WobblesandBean]

35:00 Oh what a shock, all the MEN in OP's family are defending the horrible, ignorant, misogynistic teacher. Gross.

[@grootsChannel]

Oh screw off. That's three men, who knows how many men don't agree with the teach in her family

[@daniellediller5070]

What's sadder is that those men don't bother to actually learn anything about female anatomy, some dude actually said with a straight face that women can HOLD IN THEIR PERIODS! Like wtf☠💀

[@kaykay8855]

Why do men think women can hold in their period? It’s blood 🩸not pee. If the teacher or op’s dad/brother cut themselves and started bleeding can they hold it in?

[@MariaPaz-mo6eh]

My best friend (who’s a guy) literally thought we held in our period. Thankfully he took the time to learn more about it. There are men who don’t realize that but the difference is that some choose to learn while others stay ignorant to it.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: I remember in 7th grade I had the opportunity to take the advanced English class cause my teacher noticed I was able to do the work much quicker than other students and was worried I wouldn't be stimulated enough and would get too bored and therefore distracted. My parents rejected it because they didn't think I was capable of doing it and so began several years of me failing my classes cause I was bored as hell due to my parents not understanding my needs. Absolutely bombed the water cycle portion of exams but passed the cellular division and whatnot with flying colors. They never understood why I struggled while completely ignoring me when I told them exactly why. If a school, or your kid themselves, tells you that they need something in order to succeed in school, *listen to them*.

[@Lauria2875]

I had this cool toy that was like a scale with numbers. You could put, say, a 7 on one side and a 4 and 3 or a 6 and 1 on the other and it would even out. So I went into first grade knowing my basic maths. Another girl (both teachers kids) went in reading. We were both made to forget what we knew and relearn it the "propper" way. By third grade, she was in reading lab, I was in math lab. We were so bord, we just stoped paying attention. Mom is still pissed off about that.

[@ruthgriffiths7365]

Ignoring a child's abilities is just as bad as ignoring their needs. My parents didn't understand me at all and tried to hold me back because of my older brother. I was fortunate enough to have teachers who let me work to my ability. Even when I received confirmation of my first PhD just before my seventeenth birthday, my father was still trying to tell family that his son was the real genius. People, certainly parents, can be most peculiar.

[@antithoughtpolice7497]

I mean, parents might want kids associating with kids their age for social development reasons. But one advanced English class to st least start with and they said no? Good god.

[@williethomas6388]

No you’re not the A.

[@williethomas6388]

Not the A. Why should your SIL want to wear something so personal to you?

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

You can’t hinder one child’s life to help/protect/favor another.

[@lucydean4028]

The body shaming story: The mother is TA. Unfortunately, this happens all too frequently, especially to girls who developed young, or have larger than average attributes. They are automatically sexualized by not only their parents, but by society at large and are attacked for the body they grew into, like it's somehow the child's fault. It's a HUGE problem and leads to self esteem issues which makes these girls in particular more susceptible to abusive relationships. The only way the mother would be happy is if OP's sister wore a parka and only if it was done up and floor length. I lived it like many other women.

[@shebakoby]

narcissistic mothers are threatened by their daughters' sexuality. the mother isn't just an Ahole they're a narc. I know cuz one of my friends' moms was this way with their daughters.

[@burntblonde2925]

I’m sorry you were treated that way. It wasn’t your fault, and it was horribly wrong.

[@mannequinchaos]

Same. I have curvy shapely legs (“pinup legs”) and my mother would call my legs fat when i wore shorts and told me that id be raped if i go to the mailbox… i have gained a significant amount of weight and my mom just looks at me with disgust now and blames my injuries on my weight.

[@lucydean4028]

@@mannequinchaos I am so sorry. None of this is your fault. It's all of your mother's hang up. When I was thin, I was trampy and I over exposed even in jeans and a t-shirt. I wore men's clothes for along time because I was so ashamed. I finally realized that her opinion didn't matter. She wanted me to buy into these things so my self esteem stayed low and I was easier to control. I am not suggesting this for anyone else, but one day I decided to wear what I felt comfortable in (and stopped shaving my legs because it was too painful) and I was happier. It angered my mother and she would constantly tell me she was embarrassed of me, but I told her I would not be miserable just to make her happy. I found my husband who loves me the way I am and wants me to be myself whether I want to dress like a model, a farmer, or sponge Bob in a giant costume where only my legs stick out. There is always who finds you beautiful just the way you want to be... Hell, there was someone decided to have sex with Trump, on purpose, so I can't imagine someone as lovely as you having a problem! Keep your head up! It gets better! And I am here if you need to talk! 😁

[@MsGbergh]

If OP, in the body shaming story backed her mother, she would be the AH. It's good that she is suportive to her sister.

[@lucydean4028]

The OP with the laptop: Save video and send it to the colleges she applies to.

[@LauraB12k]

@HeadshotGamer X We can only hope.

[@tegantalks9612]

Download tiktok, stitch the video and comment with your side of the story. If OP doesn’t have a smart phone try to borrow one

[@laurahonaker2805]

thanks an amazing idea!!

[@wendycoulter9122]

That not a mother one pisses me off, I lost a son to sids, and its been 24 years, he was still my son, and it still hurts. He was 6 weeks, 6 days old.

[@andysheepleton]

I'm sorry to hear that. I cannot imagine anyone thinking that you would not remember that or that you would not still carry some of the pain of that with you. I was hoping that the guy was Autistic because then I could understand him not having the ability to understand how other people feel.

[@Kati_P]

My husband is functionally illiterate. He can only read and write a handful of words. He's Special Needs and has some barriers to learning, but none of them were as big of a barrier as his mother was. She's also functionally illiterate. When they were growing up, Hubby's older Sis tried to help him with his reading, but their mother would yell at her and tell her that "He needs to figure it out for himself!". If Sis argued about it MIL would punish her for it. I'm 99.9% sure that it's because she wanted to have at least one kid who she didn't feel was smarter than her. She's massively entitled, a choosing beggar, and a compulsive liar. We've been very low contact for years, and I don't regret it one bit.

[@agingophelia9812]

That's heartbreaking to hear. It's probably put some mental blocks in place, too. All the best to you both.

[@LauraB12k]

The damage some parents can do to their children is shocking.

[@theresaschuebel5151]

My oldest has ADHD, and was extremely enthusiastic and excited about her baby sister being extremely smart. My youngest was reading at a 5th grade level in kindergarten and college level in 5th grade. Danielle encourages her to go for the gold as she puts it. She has always done this. My Danielle actually was the most excited person I have ever seen when my youngest daughter walked across the stage at graduation. This was because I always encouraged both girls to do their best and let them know that they were both special to me and both capable of doing whatever they wanted to do.

[@franl155]

last story: "She accepts my refusal gracefully but she keeps asking". Repeated asking is nagging, which isn't "graceful acceptance"

[@nyteshayde1197]

If surgery is addressing a functional or pain issue, it's not considered cosmetic. It's being done for a medically necessary reason.

[@kaykay8855]

Op’s stepsister didn’t apologize. Their mother and stepfather functionally did nothing to correct her behavior, stepsister doesn’t get to “forgive” because she caused pain to both op and mom. Stepdad let stepsister get this way during his first marriage and current one, so yeah I would said she’s unlovable and feel no remorse.

[@giselleyfish3612]

I was in gifted and talented program in elementary school while my little sister and brother were in speech therapy, and a slew of other special resources short of being in the special education class (Both has adhd and maybe / prob some other learning disabilities) . i don’t think they even knew I was in that program, and if they did, it didn’t seem to have any effect on them. my sister ended up getting her bachelors in business from ASU, and my bro is a very skilled musician and is a Ranger, I think, whatever it is, he pursued and is thriving in a military career. That mom was wrong to hold OP back like that.

[@OrioleBeagle]

If you don't promote gifted students you run the risk of them becoming bored and misbehaving in school.

[@cynthiasmith5671]

I have friends that he collects star wars. She collects garfield stuff. They combined the 2 and it was awesome!

[@2Cambell]

Damn! I'm jealous. That sounds like a wedding I wouldn't have minded attending!!! 😃 They seem like fun people!!!

[@cassieloser2907]

Garf wars

[@hoodieninja1646]

@@cassieloser2907 *Y E S*

[@502iswatchingyou7]

The story on the child being held back happened to me to. My mother wouldn't move me up because I would have been in the same grade as my sister. I was so bored by 15 that I quit school got my GED and moved out.

[@Levithos]

"Don't pity this fool," had me cry-laughing.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Honestly, who brags about their parents' wealth? It's not your money. Teenagers are so stupid.

[@TheAzynder]

@@DefinitelyMurray Not really no.

[@TheAzynder]

@@DefinitelyMurray Yes, you would become wealthy, I just don't think it's anything to brag about :)=

[@TheAzynder]

@@DefinitelyMurray that, is another matter though ., yet true.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

@@DefinitelyMurray when you're a 16 year old dingus you're about 40 years away from inheriting any wealth, you just sound like a dumbass. Again, nothing to brag about.

[@nicholashylton6857]

The guy says she should get over the death of her baby? Good God! It's like he's talking about a sick puppy that died shortly after brining it home from the pet store!

[@humanbean852]

The ex wanting to talk to the guy who's dying is eye roll worthy. It's only tragic because he's dying soon. If he was fully healthy and just living his life, would she really be so torn up about getting closure? I doubt it

[@allisonickes8173]

She only wants to talk and apologize is cause he is dying if he wasn't she would've never reached out

[@kisstune]

Seriously!!!! I hate when people comment "why didn't you just tell them." or tell someone that. NO. It's medical or whatever so unless your willing to put your entire medical and prescription history, age, address, phone number, place of employment, real name, your entire family tree or whatever the OP situation is out for everyone to see on r/ then don't make that comment. How hard is it to understand that somethings are private or triggering and not to push people for that info. People need to learn to respect boundaries and to learn social queues.

[@mdaenen123]

The Star Wars wedding. Another proof of disgusting sexism by Reddit. The bride gets to unilaterally shut down his stuff but if he did that to her he would be called toxic and sexist and some bull crap of toxic masculinity.

[@lisathaviu1154]

Maybe the fact that they can’t seem to agree on this wedding is a sign that perhaps they shouldn’t get married.

[@williethomas6388]

NTA, stepparents or kids should not be forced down step kids throats just because their divorced parents have found someone to replace each other.

[@williethomas6388]

Not TA, your property your rule. They use the alley then they should have the snow cleared from it or pay the owner rental fee especially if they’re threatening to sue the owner of said alley for any problems that they may have..

[@flamelily2086]

Story 1 OP's mother is ridiculous and very unfair to OP. OP's mother shouldn't have held OP back to spare the older girls feelings.

[@gigga143]

for the story on the Husband telling his wife to stop calling herself a mother, 100% YTA. i hope this woman wises up and leaves you, and finds a partner who will be supportive and caring. you don’t get over your child’s death. what a horrible person he is.

[@eph2vv89only1way]

That teacher NEEDS to lose his job. Well, actually, a better way to word that is HIS STUDENTS need him to lose his job. How many students would he continue to abuse if he didn’t? How much psychological damage could he do? Nta

[@andybryan7151]

The golf cart for errands at 14 thing: in the USA, in states with a large farming community, the driving age is 12 for "farm vehicles". This is so that the kids can help with harvesting/planting. ETA: A golf cart could be considered a farm vehicle to follow the spirit of the law, depending on the grandparents convincing the licensing board that they needed the grandkids help to run errands.

[@trashcan_princess]

The finger OP is NTA. I have the same problem, but on a smaller scale. It sucks, but I use it to gross out my friends and family because sometimes it's so loud.

[@BankruptMonkey]

I don't have that, but I do have medical problems that required me to try Botox as a medical treatment. No one should have to give an entire medical history to not be publicly bullied like this meangirl who isn't even part of the friend group and just invaded her boyfriend's group call to bully someone did.

[@pkbarton8466]

NTA sheltered people seldom realize how selfish and privileged they truly are. Sad sad sad

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

It’s like a rich kid drinking and driving and not being given any consequences because he grew up sheltered

[@Doublemonk0506]

@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012, you just reminded me of affluenza

[@WANmnom]

For the plastic surgery story: what kept coming to mind was, if she cared about the reasons OP was getting plastic surgery she would have asked politely. But she didn't care, all she saw it as was someone she could "save" or someone she could laugh or shame. If I was actually worried one of my friends was about to have plastic surgery because I thought it was a mistake (or whatever she claimed her reason was) I would have sat with them and asked about it. And when they said it was medical I would have backed way off, because medical stuff is personal and should never be forced to share

[@teslagirl1]

You are a rational and compassionate person. I hope your example makes the people around you kinder.

[@jazzamethyst8225]

You don’t stop being a mother when your baby dies.

[@Orbitalmercury]

I don't believe in people telling someone to apologise to someone else for whatever. The apology is hollow , means nothing. Only a willingly give apology sometime later should be expected.

[@Honest_Abe1]

I like how this channel also reads the responses

[@darianchristie3260]

39:00 my friend had a Dr Who meets Stargate wedding. They got married right in front of a large replica Stargate they made together. The ring bearer was a Dalek. They also had a sword arch formed as they went back down the aisle (I was part of that). There was a tribble pit for the toddlers. It was a wonderful wedding and everyone had a great time. (My husband and I had a great medieval wedding with a 1465-themed feast)

[@Lersa25]

You, your husband and your friends seem to know what you want and don't let people without imagination or passion shame you.

[@kandi5137]

If you are that passionate about a part of your life, and the person that you want to marry is that against it, you might want to look at what your future would be together. Then have a very serious conversation with yourself about whether you want this marriage. Just do it before the wedding, whatever you decide. Good luck.

[@tjdacatlady1920]

Markee - you are the AH for your Star Wars wedding comments. Weddings should be 50/50. If the bride gets what she wants - the groom should get his reception. Or, they should pospone the wedding.. And, not that it's necessary, I'm a woman.

[@xinkblotsX]

Love the Mr T reference. The teacher is definitely a fool and I now Mr T would Agree :D

[@susanyoung5447]

I absolutely dislike it when someone says "apologize to keep the peace." Even though the "apologizer" is right and the other is wrong and should have e been told off.

[@defuncttoad9552]

"I can't have a grown woman living in my home rent free."🤪 Sir that is literally your own child

[@WobblesandBean]

1:10:00 "Drop it, or else I will have no choice but to go no contact with all of you. If you cannot respect the wishes of a dying man, then I do not want you anywhere near me making my last moments of life full of stress and drama."

[@maryfrancesobrien2420]

brother with 5 kids: as a father, he has the DUTY to protect his children... if his sister finds his kids to be brats, why is cutting sister off from contact with the kids an ah move?

[@Youngrichprettyp]

Period story: sounds like everyone blaming you is a man. They can all sit around a camp fire and cry about it. If he’s being investigated (Mr. T)- it’s because he’s been disrespecting other peoples children too.

[@LightestKing]

38:45 NTA? It's absolutely NAH imo It isn't just the Brides day, it's the Grooms too. They both get a say, he wants an overly nerdy Star Wars wedding and she wants an overly extravagant wedding. Of course they're gonna clash, I think he should have the Star Wars bachelor party and she should have a royalty themed bachelorette party and then make a simple compromise on the wedding that's fancy but still casual and fun. again NAH

[@kaykay8855]

It’s a soft YTA. Op wants a over the top Star Wars theme wedding. He could have a blue milk punch bowl, Star Wars related songs after the first dance, and tiny lightsabers.

[@katieb.1184]

@@kaykay8855 exactly what I was thinking. both soft YTA for them... because honestly, I don't know her tone in saying no... but I would've probably had a few not so shining things to say if hubby wanted to dress his groomsmen like hobbits at our wedding or wanted a song that didn't represent us both for the first dance. now she might be a complete ahole if she continues on not bothering to hear him out. But from his post, I felt like he was expecting to have it all be star wars even though she doesn't like it... which is just as bad as brides not taking input from grooms. (using heavily gendered language since I don't see it as often in queer weddings, though I've been privy to less planning drama of those.)

[@mkd83993]

The unfair chores. I have 2 brothers 7 and 8 years younger, whole growing up I had the majority of the chores and for our fun time we got to ride bikes, play outside etc as long as we stayed together. This caused me to be a full time babysitter instead of being able to have my own friends

[@coyoteodinkar5548]

Q; If you like soda more than water, Why? Me; Caffeine.

[@JayeEllis]

Thin Friend: Body shaming is body shaming, no matter which way it goes. I've used the same technique - You harp on my weight, and I'm going right for yours. People shouldn't dish out what they can take served back.

[@carsonwhite1039]

For the dad evicting his son I feel like he was in the right there he was in no obligation to take him in and then being treated like shit be him constantly isn't fair the son is a grown man he can understand that.

[@andysheepleton]

The minute that kid started calling him by his first name and talking about his bio dad as dad any and all obligations he may have felt for that kid likely vanished and for good reason.

[@bluejaywoman3421]

Teacher already had complaints, not the ahole. Every student that complained is a hero.

[@MsGbergh]

The girl's dad and brother backed the teacher, so sound as ignorant about periods as he is. If any of her friends who backed him are girls - they are probably lucky enough to have very light periods, or haven't started yet. If the OP and others who complained about the teacher are wrong, he only has to justify himself.

[@LadyLeomon]

Title Story - NTA, one of the comments mentioned the mother actually being jealous of her more academically gifted child and this seems to fit, otherwise the argument makes even less sense than it already did! What next? “OP you can’t have that job, you need to go into your sister’s field to support and cover for her but don’t do better than her, let them think _you_ need her to function”? Good freaking grief 😒😒😒 Thanks for the new vid Markee 💙🐱💙

[@bluejaywoman3421]

Marriage is a partnership that involves compromise. If you can’t work as team and mutually respect each other’s wedding dreams… good luck, you are going to need it.

[@mayomayomayonaise6521]

As a person with a learning disability I can see it from both sides . My younger brother is way smarter than me and gets way more attention and has really messed with my self worth. But if my brother got to skip a grade I would be mad but also happy for him cuz he gets more opportunities but at the same time I never will . I think there family should have paid equal attention to both and let him skip a grade also should have done more for the older sister like also getting her extra help in a special school or tutoring. So both of them have good educational

[@annvictor9627]

Sigh -- I learned to read from my mother reading to me. She refused to believe I could already read, claiming that I had just memorized the books we had. My teacher had me read from GREEN EGGS AND HAM, which we didn't own, so Mom finally believed her. I was stuck in regular schools as well and I was really bored. (I also got lazy, so after one year in a tough parochial high school, where I had to WORK to get an A, I begged to go back to public school.)

[@bernardoferrero9647]

I taught myself how to read and speak at 6 and 7 in a different language (English) and was really advanced in math. I barely studied and basically coasted from 1st to 8th grade. 9th grade basically my math teacher pushed me to be better my grades plummeted because I was never used to it, I did not have study habits and studied a day before tests which, with no good study habits, barely made a difference. I was in a "bad" school in an really bad neighbourhood. I was the best in my school and I barely tried. The only year I was actually invested in studying was when I had competition on 6th grade where me and my friend who was better than me at certain things pushed me to study more. (I was able to beat him in math once and I was really happy). Anyway he moved schools in 7th grade and that basically killed it for me, I had 0 motivation to study, didn't see a reason to do it since I barely studied and had good grades why would I need to push myself right? Sorry for the long comment I just wanted to vent, because I related to the first story and your comment.

[@Daftedsans]

The first story: The first time she said divorce I would've grabbed the keys and told her "Fine, let's go to the courts then." I have a lovely girlfriend, never sweeter, but if she ever told me she would divorce me over something like this, I would not be taking it like that. Don't threaten something you don't want.

[@miragedown]

I have ADHD and my mom babied me so my ADHD is rampant and I never learned to deal with it. The mom is screwing them both over. The smart kid could have been entered into extra classes that would help and the older sister should have been in classes to help her learn to deal with her disorder. I wouldn't be surprised if the younger kid resented the older kid and they never got close because of it. And I would love to see that divorce case "why are you getting divorced? The mom won't let her take advance classes cuz she is selfish"

[@moirapledger9153]

Star wars wedding op: yo I'm so glad there is a groom who wants to be part of the wedding planning and a Star wars wedding would be much less bland than most of the weddings I've been to.

[@chantalalexander]

I agree. Plus he's paying for the damn wedding she should let him have some fun with it.

[@mars6233]

Markee: take care of yourself before others. Me: Yes, except for Al(my daughter). She ALWAYS comes first. At least for the next 16 to 20 years.

[@AnonymousDragonWolf]

Real life isn't the movies. Nobody is entitled to closure or forgiveness. Some people deserve to suffer under guilt.

[@sammyk.6457]

Ah yes let me just wait with all the blood pooling where I sit ruining my pants and adding another pair of underwear to the shark week side of the drawer, no problem. I’ll even plan for my period that won’t show up for months at a time and can be extra heavy

[@katieb.1184]

I am 36 and my mom STILL tells me I "don't need to show it all off" and that I "should respect my husband and cover more." She never says I'm a tramp or slut or anything like that, but will imply others might think that. She's done it multiple times over "modest" clothes she's bought me as well. Like... I'm not wearing clothes 3 sizes up just to try and hide my chest and I'm not buying a minimizer bra that makes it annoying to breathe halfway through the day. She constantly complains about her own "big boobs" making things fit weird. She's a 38DDD. I'm a 38HH/L... which means I have almost double the added inches (15 to her 8) and she STILL insists I am buying clothes too small because I wouldn't be showing "so much skin." I wear full-coverage bras and they aren't visible. She's said before that I'm "almost/might as well be showing off my nipples," and I'll point to where they sit and be like "yeah, no, that's not likely... they're this far in." and she'll huff about it and tell me that a mom shouldn't wear such things. The problem is that if I buy for my chest... that leaves the bottom of the shirt draping and making me look perpetually pregnant and if its windy they fly up and I have zero desire to show off my stomach.

[@vanessasorth1657]

I am so glad I have nothing to worry about that stuff.

[@claraclown8036]

"dont pitty this fool" in the mr T story lmao omg im crying lmao

[@tikimillie]

1:11:28 I mean, could have probably worded it as “you need to find your closure elsewhere” You can get closure without relying on others and she should kesrn that At the same time, not cheating on people isn’t that hard, so he owes her nothing.

[@sebastianhopkins7322]

The Laptop Story - The Entitled Brat KNEW what she was doing was wrong. Point Blank and Simple! She thinks it is funny to make fun of people for their parents monetary standing in society. Plain and Simple! That is learned and encouraged behavior in her home. You can tell.

[@gigaswardblade7261]

I hear “raided” instead of “rated” so I thought she went onto people’s laptops and exposed some secrets or stole them or something

[@Hermagesty4theHorde]

Dogs or cats are not bad for babies 😠 I am a CVT with a degree. As long as the animal it trained and seen at the vet for regular visits.

[@gigga143]

i disagree with everyone on the wedding story, why is the groom’s wants not equal to the bride’s. the wedding should be about the both of them, and the groom shouldn’t be the only one compromising on the theme. i hope they can find a way to merge their different wants.

[@Lersa25]

It's not even a compromise, if he gets NOTHING he wants! Why not have themed drinks and music? She's so embarrassed by what he loves and thinks his harmless passion should be hidden for the sake of her perfect photos. Sad.

[@vetaroberts3333]

So it’s ok for that person is bullying you. And you don’t have the right to stand up for yourself

[@francinetitherington4060]

Locked Alley Story.......if previous owners had not proclaimed ownership of the alley, even though they owned it, and the neighbors had usage of the alley for a period of 10 years, the neighbors have legal rights to use it but also collective responsibility to maintain it. It's also an easy target for an enforced "Right of Way" easement due to historical usage.

[@sarahcurtiss3247]

Good Evening Markee! Always for another AITAH

[@christineoneal666]

My mother had a stillborn baby almost 54 years ago and it still is painful for her. This isn't something "you get over". YTA.

[@muhname6052]

Alley: um... did he block the neighbors access to their garage? If so OP will have no friends in that neighborhood. Heres hoping op will need their neighbors help. They wont get it.

[@treehouse2902]

The mother had a favorite. It's not about OP being smarter, it's about not understanding they were at different learning levels and the mother desiring equality for the two kids. Teachers identifying one child as gifted made the mother more determined to equalize their status, with OP becoming the victim.

[@krystalfloods6197]

I don’t think OP is an asshole at all for kicking out his son. He literally raised him and gave him everything and all his son cares about is some deadbeat bio dad. He can let the bio dad take care of him and his girlfriend then. It’s not OPs problem anymore or responsibility. There’s no way in hell I would want to have to support someone that treats me like crap and pay for their college.

[@hoodieninja1646]

Yeah. Wish I had an update

[@andysheepleton]

What a horrible wife. He was prepared to be the bigger person despite the fact that she was a cheating tramp and still she ignored his wishes and told their(Her) son. This disrespect to her former husband was staggering. Markee is a complete idiot. The son turned his back on his father and made it clear that he was not his son and the father who raised him just followed suit and made it official. The son just did not respect the father who raised him any more than his trampy mother did.

[@smol_angr_void7224]

The dead baby one: her acting like its still fresh after a decade is unhealthy and she needs to seek grief counseling - THAT'S what OP should have gone with instead of just 'get over it'. She can't keep acting that way if she wants to one day have kids and NOT royally fuck them up. Dad serving his son during the baby shower: don't bite the hand that feeds you, plain and simple. Son chose biodad and expressly repeatedly hurt the man that raised him, so he can rely on biodad. He is a grown adult and doesn't get to treat his father like crap then expect him to keep providing for him. The bodyshaming one: I totally understand where she was coming from, but wrong move. She could have just said something like casually brutal but not outright awful - "I haven't commented the body or eating habits of my friends, and I'm shocked that you would be so unecessarily cruel to people you claim to care about. I had the understanding that we were friends - if that is true, please exercise the basic courtesy to others that we extend to you.".

[@lolno4384]

And lol@ 37:20 - no, in america they do not teach boys what periods are. In 5th grade, age 10-11, they seperate us into 2 groups, male and female, and only teach us what's pertinent to our own bodies. We don't even do the condom banana thing, there's literally 0 sex education, its just an anatomy lesson, an only your type of body anatomy lesson. And thats if you're lucky and in a school that "teaches sex ed". In a lot of schools and states they just straight up don't and it results in shit like women thinking the penis goes in their pee-hole (the urethra; i.e. they don't know what a vagina is) and men thinking that pads and tampons are only for dirty lazy women who won't hold their periods in in order to be messy out of spite and to get more bathroom breaks they don't need so they can be lazy women and gossip on the company dime (this is an actual sentiment expressed to me by a CEO as to why he'd never allow free menstrual products despite having free condoms in the men's room. These words were spoken to my face. With no shame). td:lr NO. MEN DO NOT LEARN ABOUT FEMALE ANATOMY, ONLY THEIR OWN. AND EVEN THEN ONLY IF THEYRE LUCKY. Edit: I even once had a boyfriend on my swim team who would pout during the week that I didn't come each month and when I finally explained I cant swim as I have my period (didn't use tampons then) he deadass responded with " well, cant you hold it in for just an hour? For me?" That week he learned the very basics of female anatomy. He was 18. His parents made him dump me after that because I'd "exposed him to the sin of the flesh." No one other than me thought that was weird. America's social culture is whack

[@eponymoususer8923]

It’s not unreasonable to ask a menstruating person to be prepared, bring pads and tampons to class or make sure your cup is available. The onset of each individual period is unpredictable. Even if you know you’re having a period and are wearing the proper sanitary supports, they can leak, and the aftermath is worse as you leave it. I’m not sure what the teacher wanted this girl to do… Grab whatever’s close to bleed on and tough it out? That’s pretty gross.

[@lorifiedler13]

And if you remove the computer battery, you have a hiding spot. 😏

[@katieb.1184]

the necklace... I thought she meant borrow the design not the item.... wtf NO...

[@baileymae4547]

Good morning/afternoon/evening Markee! Thank you for posting everyday

[@vetaroberts3333]

Nta, you have the right to feel the way you do. Not your family

[@luvondarox]

35:00 the Mr T Period in Class Story My favorite shutdown I've seen was from a female coworker who "explained" to a manager that a woman's period was like a nosebleed from the vagina. "Do _you_ plan your nosebleeds, Jared? Can you just 'command' them to stop?? DIDN'T EFFING THINK SO!" 😂

[@earlinejackson8151]

If anyone had pretended to like my kids and then, behind my back, said those things about them, they would never be seeing my kids again either! What’s to keep them from doing something else that could harm the children?

[@SiekoValantin]

I do not see how people just jumped over the idea that the mother who lost her child answers "I had one but it died" when people ask if she has any kids. People who know you already know this, "Do you have any kids?" is a question that people who are just meeting you ask.

[@chantalalexander]

I don't even see why Mr. Star Wars is the A**hole for wanting something Star Wars theme in any scale in his wedding. How is his fiancee not a railroading dick for not allowing him anything at all for a wedding that is not only his, but he has to pay for? I don't even like Star Wars yet I don't think there is anything wrong with a themed wedding. People have theme weddings all the time Frome Prairie to Under the sea. The same way he is supposed to understand that the woman he dated is more of a sophisticate, I'm sure this isn't the first time he brought up the idea of something Star Wars long before they were engaged

[@katieb.1184]

no, no, she's also being an ahole. but he admits she doesn't really like it, so he's trying for a full-on cosplay style wedding for an interest they do not share. Themes should be shared interests or some other agreed upon thing (like colors) both are refusing compromise. both suck. now, once purchases starting being made instead of just planning, any non-discussed theming increases their ahole level exponentially.

[@afchicinfla]

You know it doesn’t matter what that necklace that the sister-in-law wants to borrow is for. It’s not hers she asked if she could borrow it and was told no plain and simple

[@jimbobjones9330]

First story, OP NTA, Mother HUGE TA, Father BIG TA When I was going into first grade, the school offered to skip me. My mom refused because she didn't want me to be younger than everyone in my class, and a bit of an outcast. Problem is, I STILL was an outcast -- I only got along with kids who were way older than me or way younger than me (because the older ones were more "on my level", and the younger ones, I expected to be dumb... I couldn't comprehend how someone my age couldn't be as smart as I was). Then I ended up in a gifted program in the end of elementary/all through middle school, and it was great. But then onto "normal" high school, I was bored off my ass, graduated with like a 2.5 GPA. I was lazy because I wasn't being challenged. But still went to college, graduated in 3 years, and have been doing great in my career. It isn't like I resent her or anything (I still turned out very successful), but do wonder if I'd have turned out MORE if I'd been pushed ahead and challenged more. That said, OP needs to stop focusing on this and focus on their future. Resent your mom all you want, but you're still smart, and haven't really missed anything that will stop you from being successful in your future. Don't use this nonsense as a reason to "stop trying".

[@talwaldude148]

I would be ecstatic if I found out I owned an alley, I'd put up like a cardboard cut out of me and a ton of s*** basically saying I own the alley that I own

[@vetaroberts3333]

I wouldn’t let this person anywhere near my children

[@vashti559]

She called you out and in her insecurity, is now mad at you. Lmao

[@Twowingsoakedinblood]

45:00 wedding one i heard may divorce be with us

[@deerkota]

The “you’re not my real dad” story: I was adopted as an infant, and I’ve known for as long as I can remember. I can’t even _imagine_ calling my bio parents my “real” parents and then proceed to call MY PARENTS (because that’s what they are!) by their first names. When I talk to my mom about my bio mom, I say “my bio mom” or “Jana”. When I talk to my bio sister about our shared mom, I say “I talked to mom”. When I talk to my bio sister about my mom, I say “I talked to my mom”. Subtle differences in the last two, but it clears things up easily without making anyone feel awkward

[@telinhajp]

Good morning, Markee! Wishing you a very fun Friday! ❤️

[@SAHuish-kt9hn]

Haha it's still Thursday here

[@telinhajp]

@@SAHuish-kt9hn In Japan and Australia is already Friday (afternoon right now).

[@missyjune9014]

Big enough to have your own child, but don't like a dog family member??? Heres your coat, there's the door....

[@arnoldnellis6120]

Regarding the person who wanted a "Star Wars Themed Wedding" I think it would be a VERY short Marriage! I mean COOL ideas but NOT A WEDDING (unless you're marrying Princess Leia) The girl would probably be MORTIFIED! Ladies don't normally dream of this type of thing when they envision their wedding day. The Bachelor Party Would Be The Better Place For Something Like This. (I don't drink but the alcoholic blue milk drink sounds intriguing) OP needs to reign it in abit.

[@lindacasey5016]

Op you are in short saying that this necklace is sacred to you as it is a symbol of your marriage & very much connected to you & your husband. It would be almost crass for you to loan something of this magnitude to anyone. This sounds like something that one flatout doesn't loan

[@ogbredstiks9110]

First Story: NTA as a "gifted" student that has been in the program for around 7 years, I don't know where I would be right now if I didn't have the opportunities I was given along the road. Before I skipped a grade, I almost had gotten myself suspended mulitple times and I was just a brat overall. Even being in the gifted program, I still lacked academic challenge once I first hit my teenage years. I'm now halfway through my 2nd year in high school and I'm only 14. Life is great! I'm so happy and I don't know what I would do if I never skipped. I wouldn't be the same person I am today if my parents didn't let me enter the program ETA: I also have Dyslexia and Moderate ADHD. My parents always thought that I would have trouble in school because of it which is why they were so suprised and supportive when they attended my first IEP meeting. I used to hate having it since I thought I would be even smarter without it, but I learned that ADHD is not always a disadvantage. Having ADHD just means you have an alternative way of thinking. Your brain literally works on a different plane. It is hard to adapt to, but once you do, you can do great things!