RC Blakes Says REAL Men Don’t Split Bills 50/50: Do You Agree?

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@RCBlakesJr. Ай бұрын

JUST FOR CLARITY: Most men will not be able to afford 100% providing in todays economy; but, HE SHOULD HAVE A HEART TO DO SO. My wife has not worked a job in 28 years. When we first got married she made more money than me but I always had a vision to be the 100% provider.

@jsanders2004 Ай бұрын

I'm a black male and I agree with you Bishop!

@bongoikno4994 Ай бұрын

@RCBlakesJr. yall keep acting like capitalism and societal wages don't play and part high paying position are limited there will never be enough jobs that pay great many more women would have providers if everyone didn't think they deserve a glam life what the heck just happened to being regular people smh

@BigSargeTheGentleman Ай бұрын

@RCBlakesJr. Sir there is no need for clarity you said it the way you said it. Hence is one of the reasons why OUR Black Women will keep being single, and waiting for perfection! This old mindset no longer works. I don't understand 50/50 but the 100% Provider is no longer either for MOST, especially when women choose to work. You are going have these ladies chasing ghosts. I wish OUR women well but with talk like this we will stay the least married and Black men will slowly keep peeling off to other groups. Sir you have to understand the world is different than how you and my father came up in this world.

@Dr.Elaine1 Ай бұрын

@@RCBlakesJr. Having the heart to do something you cannot is not really beneficial though. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@yvetteshokere7818 Ай бұрын

Wrong! My husband provides 200% of the bills, and I make more than him. It's his job to take care of me. My money goes on vacation and savings and more shopping. The economy isn't that bad. It's all about budget and what is top priority. I shop from the Amish, not this expensive grocery stores.

@jsanders2004 Ай бұрын

Black man here: I agree 100% No way a man can position himself as the man of the relationship in a 50/50 relationship....a man who is truly masculine has protector provider instinct ...I believe a man should WAIT until he is financially stable before considering a relationship

@dexter-jy3yk Ай бұрын

So hook up culture until they are in their 30s.

@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473 Ай бұрын

@@dexter-jy3yk how about semen retention, celibacy and abstinence and DISCIPLINE? I'm for sure you are a black man/woman You don't have to "hook up" it's many ways to BE STILL and level up without sex involved

@teelove4443 Ай бұрын

@@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473I'm tryna get my rocks off before it's too late😈

@shaylaahava6413 Ай бұрын

Things can change for a couple that started out financially successful. After some life experience, the plan does not always work out as intended. To each his/her own though!

@vivianbraxton4941 Ай бұрын

Now you're talking and I totally respect and agree with that 💯

@consuellagreen5927 Ай бұрын

If a man can’t afford to date you, he can’t afford to marry you.

@missfefeloves 24 күн бұрын

👏👏👏❤

@erickacarter4530 16 күн бұрын

Facts

@kaylasweet5431 Ай бұрын

When my husband and I were dating he never asked me to pay for anything! He treated me like a queen and I respect him til this day for being so consistent! God knew what He was doing

@BrittneySamoneSilver Ай бұрын

Amen!

@kevinharris3993 Ай бұрын

@@BrittneySamoneSilveryes he did. I am listening to this man and I understand what he is saying, but I would fight like hell to keep my daughter from marrying a man with no job. Potential over reality are two different things.

@vivianbraxton4941 Ай бұрын

Amen and I'm so happy for you you were blessed 💞🙏

@diginandpitchin Ай бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾

@Reshme77 Ай бұрын

@@kaylasweet5431 but wasn't that a better economy in those days

@msharic85 Ай бұрын

I’d also like to add, if I may, that generosity is a heart posture. You can have a man who makes $200k+ and he’s greedy as Scrooge & on the other hand have a man pulling in $40k who will spare no expense for you. I’d rather have the generous man bc he already has that provider mindset. 💯

@chelabuford7106 Ай бұрын

ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!! 💯

@jsanders2004 Ай бұрын

@@msharic85 black male here: I agree!! It's a heart posture....and the man making $40k will seek out ways to "level up" and upgrade his income to ensure his family is comfortable

@virginmarry7179 Ай бұрын

This is very true. Thank you for your comment. ❤

@theonly1258 15 күн бұрын

That’s a great point and makes ALOT of sense!!

@AdejimiFashola 8 күн бұрын

Are you willing to live within his means?

@my.0224 Ай бұрын

Anyone who splits bills 50/50 are roommates.

@user-nv5wi8op8k Ай бұрын

Wrong. 😑

@ashleej527 Ай бұрын

😂😂

@kimberlyshelton5167 Ай бұрын

@ED12222 Ай бұрын

Correct.

@cutamuta Ай бұрын

That's the dumbest thing I've heard my mother and step dad been married 22 years, goes 50/50 and happily married

@kessphotography Ай бұрын

A man that wants to be a husband has to have a vision and he must be CONSISTENT with his word.

@darcandelaria Ай бұрын

I’ve been married for 18 years, together for 21 years, and my husband never said anything about 50/50 even though he was broke when we met. It probably would’ve scared me away lol also it’s not in our Mexican culture to have men expect 50/50. I’m truly blessed, also I’ve been a stay at home mom and wife for many years and also have worked and currently working, he prefers I stay home and I’m thinking about staying home again but also want to help financially too. When you honor your husband and put God first, He always provides.

@shalalala868 Ай бұрын

Amen

@virginmarry7179 Ай бұрын

Yes, when God is the head of your husband's life, he won't be approaching you with that crazy 50/50 nonsense. Bless you!

@Rockstarr101ish Ай бұрын

If your not yet there as a man. Make sure you are the man in the house. Build stuff! Fix stuff! Pump all the gasses, carry every heavy things! Spend time with young nephews like a role model. Don’t hang out with bum friends l. Stop childish needs like games and focus on each other. Most men’s ego gets in the way off them stepping up like this etc.

@cora4short Ай бұрын

@@Rockstarr101ish 👏👏

@RestingVirgoFace Ай бұрын

Alot of men now days don't know how 2 fix things.

@cora4short Ай бұрын

@@RestingVirgoFace and if they’re not YouTubing and trying to figure it out they trifling

@Divinia93 Ай бұрын

I honestly believe if you are not there as a man, do you really deserve a wife and children ?

@reallifetopicsrevealed7295 Ай бұрын

This!

@kamilahgamble09 24 күн бұрын

I really, truly love how he said: “his wife adjusted her lifestyle/desires for him to be able to afford to take care of her.“ - It shows that she wanted him more than she wanted what he could “do” for her and that is something I 100% agree with ❤

@oliviagilmore8125 22 күн бұрын

this!!!!

@WendyJ-uy7dd 3 сағат бұрын

ABSOLUTELY NEVER adjust my lifestyle for a man!!. only way is if we were married and had an issue!!. A mature man should have his own and date a mature woman who her own

@TheVesselGem Ай бұрын

If you can’t provide, don’t seek a woman. Simple.

@Erica-ec9jt Ай бұрын

@@TheVesselGem That's so true!! He should focus on his growth and maturity especially if the man and woman are in their 50's😊

@theSHErryexperience Ай бұрын

Absolutely

@CoachCiCi Ай бұрын

Periodtttttt 🎯

@zianeshkasparen4358 Ай бұрын

THIS IS WHAT O TOLD A MAN and he got pissed. But the males in my family starting with my grands instilled this in all of us.

@darkknight2227 29 күн бұрын

Simp! If a woman can’t be one then don’t marry her!

@loisthomas5465 Ай бұрын

Bishop RC is a gift from heaven. Continue to educate us my Bishop. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

@thetv3583 Ай бұрын

F him .This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.

@thetruthtings Ай бұрын

Where I'm from almost every ◼️ woman I know cheated on the man that paid all of the bills for devil's. I believe that GOD needs to watch his back because most ◼️ women would sneak the devil back into heaven

@acobbs9 Ай бұрын

I agree with what he saying, we may not always be able to take care of 100 percent but we should always be constantly striving to get to that point. Especially if you’re dealing with a woman that shows you proper respect and appreciation

@thetv3583 Ай бұрын

This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.

@jadew9177 Ай бұрын

@@thetv3583 not talking about “hos” but women so stop making excuses and get your affairs in order

@chelabuford7106 Ай бұрын

The disrespect is unnecessary. Have you not noticed how hard Black Women work, go hard in the paint to better themselves and their families, are the most educated in America and literally just tried to save our democracy once again along with responsible brothers only two weeks ago?! Just as there are misguided women, there are misguided men. Time out for the low levels of honor if you want high levels for yourself. Be a reflection of HEALING. God bless🙏🏽💜💜

@thetv3583 Ай бұрын

@@jadew9177 my affairs are in order and I have my own boundaries when dealing with any woman . 100 provision is for traditional women . The rest are independent women and they will treated as such . I respect independent women

@shalalala868 Ай бұрын

Boom! Every woman doesn't deserve this treatment, but the ones that do are top tier and understand their role, and gladly play it 💯💯

@behealthymindbodyspirit9016 Ай бұрын

My Philosophy is my Money show up where his run out… PERIOD… 💯💯💯💯💯

@vivianbraxton4941 Ай бұрын

Absolutely that's everything right there ✔️💯 💞

@pound357 Ай бұрын

@behealthymindbodyspirit9016 this it right here

@terrells5763 Ай бұрын

@@behealthymindbodyspirit9016 💯

@richjohn3994 Ай бұрын

@@behealthymindbodyspirit9016 Yup...it's called a help mete!! You tie up the loose ends ☺️

@missfefeloves 24 күн бұрын

Preachh

@ascendingLOTUS Ай бұрын

anytime i hear 50/50, my skin crawls.. literally. lol

@thetruthtings Ай бұрын

I'll bet if I paid all of your bills you would cash app or chime pookies and Ray Ray's some of my money and yours behind my back. Only a fool would pay all of a woman's bills

@TheKangofPop7 Ай бұрын

Well pay your own 100% and crawl on.

@ascendingLOTUS Ай бұрын

@@TheKangofPop7 why would i do that when ACTUAL masculine men exist 👀😩

@thetruthtings Ай бұрын

@@TheKangofPop7 me investing in a woman now days is similar to me giving the devil all of my money. 50/50 or beat it

@TheKangofPop7 Ай бұрын

@@ascendingLOTUS You clearly don't know what masculinity means. A homeless veteran can be more masculine than a simp paying bills to define his masculinity.

@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473 Ай бұрын

My fiancé (high value Godly black physician) said the reason he proposed to me was because I told him I will be his HelpMate NOT “50/50” and no woman ever told him that..I’m a Proverbs 31 woman and salt of the earth to my Ribmate; so I’m his biggest cheerleader, nurturer, confidant, best friend, lover, supporter, ensuring he eat healthy meals and have more time in his day to take care of his mental and physical when he is off from work.. my first marriage was in the late 90s we were very young no one ever spoke of 50/50 either the couples did it or didn’t do it It was never discussed! Social media have relationships DOOMED!

@aubrie_morgan Ай бұрын

Lol

@clashon4life843 21 күн бұрын

💯💯💯

@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473 14 күн бұрын

@@clashon4life843 XOXO

@treanaalfred148 Ай бұрын

Why not stay single men until you are able to provide for a family?

@cherylp9963 26 күн бұрын

That part...

@angelacoates8525 23 күн бұрын

@@treanaalfred148 that's a thought however, I sometimes wonder why only date a man that's ready when women multiply whatever they are given and some men become best self when they have their woman beside them as supporter, cheerleader, etc. and some of us women on actually ready when we think we are... This is definitely an interesting topic

@truthserum3960 17 күн бұрын

Why not have sex until you are able to take care of a child?

@Riqtube 13 күн бұрын

@cherylp9963 and when life happens all savings has to be spent (ex. parental hospital bills) and he can't get a job, then what? Sound great on paper, but this scenario happens everyday.

@rawcookiejar3484 Ай бұрын

Men need to take it to the next level spiritually.

@Lil_warner Ай бұрын

This the conversation so many men dont want to hear because they dont want to sacrifice comfortbaility in order to figure out how to earn more.

@learningearning8385 Ай бұрын

RC Blake & Tony Gaskins are blessed because they take care of their wives fully. If you’re stingy or looking for a come up or..roommate you’re not ready for a wife. This woman will bless you with a lineage or grow your vision. Why wouldn’t you pour into that?

@Ms.Mee777 Ай бұрын

I think there's a couple reasons most men don't "pour into" that concept. One being it wasn't modeled for them growing up. Many men grew up watching only their mothers work and pay ALL the bills. They've become accustomed and comfortable with being cared for by a woman. The other reason, they can't afford to do it.

@TheKangofPop7 Ай бұрын

I listen to Tony Gaskins also and he does not agree with R.C. Blakes on this subject.T.G lives in the real world and know only a small % of men can do this.

@anniamarie3809 Ай бұрын

@@Ms.Mee777 yup!

@Dr.Elaine1 Ай бұрын

@@TheKangofPop7Right. Tony’s wife is a true stay-at-home mom while RC’s has worked to maintain their lifestyle.

@RCBlakesJr. Ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏽

@AFree-fi3oh Ай бұрын

That makes sense. If a man desires 100% submission, shouldn't he make 100% provision?

@Riqtube 13 күн бұрын

--and when he gets injured suddenly and can't work (his fault or not), then what? Sounds great on paper but life happens. What do you have in place RIGHT NOW if you got marred for life TONIGHT from a natural disaster and can't provide?

@anitachambers6733 Ай бұрын

She made certain the lifestyle was good for him to handle. That’s thoughtful and loving. I love that.

@chelabuford7106 Ай бұрын

Any good woman would💯

@durbansaladyinaccra2173 24 күн бұрын

RC is just a fountain of wisdom. Ive read 2 of his books and learned so much from him. He's a blessing to everyone who has a teachable spirit.

@heather7119 24 күн бұрын

I love him too,queenology was amazing ❤

@durbansaladyinaccra2173 23 күн бұрын

@heather7119 Absolutely...I read that and Father daughter talk.♡

@JennyRamirez-l6q Ай бұрын

TY.. AGREED 💯🙏🥂❤️‼️men are producers, women need to be nurtured and protected.. Tears are falling.

@professionalpookie Ай бұрын

What are you providing for men?

@3peasinapodity Ай бұрын

Men still need to be taught how to sincerely love themselves. Simply.

@greggcrawford124 Ай бұрын

You praying up because you a major league bum. You bring no value other than prayer. Spanish Keisha go sit and do better🤣🤣

@juliandixon891 Ай бұрын

@@professionalpookieDebt, baggage, shortened lifespan, and worst case scenario kids that aren’t his with or without his knowledge.

@professionalpookie Ай бұрын

@juliandixon891 🤣🤣🤣

@behealthymindbodyspirit9016 Ай бұрын

Nothing is n me would ever subscribe to a 50/50 split… It undermines the authority of the Man in the home… There’s a lot of ramifications to this that is not considered… I am so grateful for the MAN that raised me… He was a 100% PROVIDER…

@akyiels.2088 Ай бұрын

If bruh cant pay all the bills at that time but he is really working towards it ,getting a second job ,learning a skill etc....I dont think thats a problem cause he showing he wants more for both of them.

@dexter-jy3yk Ай бұрын

And what are you doing while he’s working two jobs

@luckylu9780 Ай бұрын

Working her 1 job that pays more than both of his jobs together nigga

@vivianbraxton4941 Ай бұрын

That's right and I think the lady should give her all in any and every area that's expected of her to as well

@darcandelaria Ай бұрын

@@akyiels.2088 Two jobs? That’s too much to put on a man sorry but you’re not looking out for his best interest and that’s not a good marriage, let alone a good relationship.

@shalalala868 Ай бұрын

Right! As long as there's effort and realistic trajectory.

@aspiringtoinspire_with_KW Ай бұрын

At that point we're roommates. I couldn't respect him as the "man" of the house if it starts out that way and continue. A real man wouldn't dare allow it.

@devinicole1278 Ай бұрын

I agree with R.C. blake a man should be always striving to be the best everyday and ambitious to provide

@611mellissa Ай бұрын

If they split bills they need to split everything. Cooking, cleaning, actually raising the children (as in showing up, taking them to appointments, school, events) and everything else. These days some men think that all they have to do is work, pay a few bills and not cheat. Nope. When the roles changed and required us to have to help financially then they changed for him as well. I'm not married and I don't have kids but I definitely don't want much of what I see. This sista over here doesn't want to carry the load.

@dexter-jy3yk Ай бұрын

For some reason you forget the 50/50 on protection. By the way most 50/ 50 guy do the cleaning and appointment

@lindsaypeek63 Ай бұрын

50/50 on being pregnant, child birth and labor delivery too 😂. God gave Adam and Eve different sentences

@tyronelorenzovalentio3414 Ай бұрын

@@lindsaypeek63Why you comparing 9 months to severs yrs of managing the household for a potential life time. Plus you get government assistance

@peace4UnU 20 күн бұрын

⁠Governments assistance doesn’t seem to be a part of the women of conversation.

@aliciah5306 8 күн бұрын

You are right sis! Cleaning, cooking, nurturing the whole family. Helping with homework, grocery shopping, laundry. And they want pornstar sex after your done with the chores! All this after your 40 hour work week. And the whole world expects you to smile all damn day & look leveled up.. lol. this shit is a joke

@None-of-yours22. Ай бұрын

He said a man that has a 100% “mind” to provide not that he was able to. Immediately after he tells you that his woman made more than him. Y’all don’t listen.

@KFontLab Ай бұрын

Exactly… listen!

@pro-muffins2721 Ай бұрын

He was expressing the process of how they started but he has the mindset to get more. 😅

@yvetteshokere7818 Ай бұрын

@@None-of-yours22. I think we all got the message

@season.of.renewel Ай бұрын

You didn't pay attention to the comments because he clarified that got to a point that was able to take care of her. She hasn't worked in 28 years.

@KFontLab Ай бұрын

Some of you all need to really listen again!… The spirit of offense is heavy in the comments. Listen: 🗣️He is talking about mindset. Listen, listen, listen. Get the entire message. There are some things you have to built up to. Mindset, vision, and execution is how you get there. Just like with anything else. Don’t be uncomfortable or offended if you don’t have it right now… build up to it. Having the right mindset benefits many aspects of a relationship.

@nikkilove6128 Ай бұрын

Omg I see RC Blakes and click immediately!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

@emperorofeffectiveeducatio2105 Ай бұрын

I agree! Real men pay all the bills and provide the fuel to keep the foundation of the family intact. Real men take the position of leadership. It all falls on their shoulders. They are to depend on and fall on Gods shoulders!

@tretre4u72 Ай бұрын

I say a real man wouldn’t even feel right asking his wife for help, he would do what he got to do before he ever ask her for anything! I have witnessed it…

@tyronelorenzovalentio3414 Ай бұрын

U don’t what a real man does

@prettybossy510 Ай бұрын

I felt that when he says how a woman expresses her love and keeps things within relieving pressure and wanting you to he comfortable. Humble. Full of heart.

@esthermaloney1108 Ай бұрын

When a man not doing his job and this is why woman step to do a job then they get upset. I would rather stay alone and pay my own bills.

@thetv3583 Ай бұрын

@thetruthtings Ай бұрын

What woman is really Worthy of a man paying all of the bills. Most ◼️ women would cheat on GOD send him to hell and bring the devil back to heaven. Real talk

@dexter-jy3yk Ай бұрын

Problem women only want to take and not give. You need to be traditional to want traditional.

@aubrie_morgan Ай бұрын

@@thetruthtings None that you will find.

@aubrie_morgan Ай бұрын

@@thetv3583😂😂😂 dumb

@audreyestelle687 Ай бұрын

As soon as he made his first statement, I hit the “like” button. 💯

@shilohboss8682 13 күн бұрын

So glad to see RC here!!! He’s such a treasure. Have him on more!!

@nyhustler208 Ай бұрын

I think most men can handle the household themselves. Is she okay with living a certain lifestyle for a while. That's the killer

@anitachambers6733 Ай бұрын

That’s not the killer if y’all know the plan and the man. We are one.

@jeremiahj3565 Ай бұрын

Facts!

@jeremiahj3565 Ай бұрын

@@anitachambers6733 facts

@keptbygrace6221 Ай бұрын

🎯

@aubrie_morgan Ай бұрын

Well he should take care of the bills. If she wants a certain lifestyle, then she needs to work to have those things. He shouldn’t have to slave for her to have “stuff”. If he takes care of her needs, she can do the rest herself.

@CharleneDemoss Ай бұрын

Amen ! I agree with Bishop R C Blakes . 💯🙏😀♥️

@valeriesalomon5849 7 күн бұрын

THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! RC Blake, I totally agreed!!!❤❤❤

@alisharenee6571 Ай бұрын

Exactly, my boyfriend knows a lot about roofing but don’t know anything about credit, credit cards or creating an llc. I know about credit and creating llcs, so I’m taking his job and turning it into his own business. I’ve already added him to my cards so he can have some history, created his llc and his website. Now we just gotta get funding and takeoff 😊

@alexanderrosales5380 Ай бұрын

❤💯

@mstoi38 Ай бұрын

@alisharenee6571 that's where I am... trying to get funding.

@izzyaghedo8123 Ай бұрын

Get married

@alisharenee6571 Ай бұрын

@ I got funding for myself personally but didn’t get a lot because I didn’t have my business structured properly. Now I know and I just personal guarantee all my business cards because I cleaned up my personal credit.

@tonjaolove7334 Ай бұрын

@@alisharenee6571 Now that you did all of that you need a piece of that business for your investment of your expertise now and in the future. Add yourself as a manager to the LLC then file the S- Corp paperwork and do your taxes as an S-Corp and become a shareholder. Then start getting paid for the work you do and have done.

@iyannai09 29 күн бұрын

People need to hear what bishop talking about 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@jdiscovered6686 27 күн бұрын

"Elevate and grow into it" ❤

@patriciapadgett3715 Ай бұрын

Yes, that’s right! This some good wise counsel.

@TheBoogieman32 Ай бұрын

This is what I want to know and nobody is ever able to answer this question. If a woman is working and not paying bills, what is she doing with her money? 🙄 I’m paying bills and she buying purses? Naw! BS!

@rachael862 Ай бұрын

Buy life insurance policy and investment and help w house make sure everything organized and then some

@joycewatt800 Ай бұрын

@TheBoogienan32… I’m a working (outside the home) married woman and I want to know too😂 I don’t think anyone can effectively answer that question but I want them to….I’ll wait.

@TheBoogieman32 Ай бұрын

@@rachael862 what you described is what most would consider “50/50”. You’re contributing towards the household finances via investments. “our investments” meaning you’re just distributing your resources differently. And, if the man is paying “all the bills” you really expect him to do “housework?” What do you mean “help with housework”?

@TheBoogieman32 Ай бұрын

@@joycewatt800 we will wait together! 😂🤣

@thetv3583 Ай бұрын

@fmellis 18 күн бұрын

Communicate the vision, and I'll add executing the action steps daily to confirm alignment. Great talk, men👏🏽👏🏾

@realtorphoniciapalmer Ай бұрын

After listening which is fundamental....he is stating facts. He said that in the beginning he didn't have 100% but he strived for it and his wife didn't put the pressure on him to do so. As a wife, that is what you are supposed to do. Don't put your high expectations to pressure a man in doing something he can not do but stand by him. In marriage it will always get better. We all get better with time. If you are in the same place you were 5 years ago, you need to seek guidance and wisdom for more. This is a great video and I am in total agreement.

@l.christinejones8164 Ай бұрын

So well said!! ❤❤❤❤ Thank you!

@LysaJ-i8l 8 күн бұрын

This was wonderfully and well said!

@jannahumar336 Ай бұрын

This was a beautiful message 🥰 I’ve been blessed to watch my parents do it this way for almost 50 years now. It’s been super hard finding men that think this way today, though 😕 a lot of men I’ve spoken to are almost offended by the thought of this, and say crazy stuff like “well what am I getting in return?” I can guarantee you, the conversation never went in that direction with our parents generation. I think Men wanted to step up financially, because it did something for their manhood. I know times have changed and the economy is what it is, but it was nice to hear that some people still think like this lol 😅

@NationalStuff101-s2v Ай бұрын

It’s not always about money but his effort to do so!!

@takeysha4 25 күн бұрын

Yesssssss

@noirnotes 23 күн бұрын

Great show! So needed!

@curlyworshipper 29 күн бұрын

This is the kind of talk that gets women going. We love a man who has a plan one who has vision. It’s a turn on and we will gladly help him execute his plan.

@vivianbraxton4941 Ай бұрын

This is how you succeed as a unit. Sitting standards and goals having a vision and a accomplishing it together.

@Amy-y5e1f 6 күн бұрын

You talking truth. I really think it is Nothing but TRURTH.Well Said.

@learningearning8385 Ай бұрын

Labor pains aren’t 50/50 and likely the household chores and child rearing will NOT be 50/50. If he “says” it will be you’re delusional.

@thetv3583 Ай бұрын

Labor pains of a baby you made by yourself ? This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.

@SuperNard3 Ай бұрын

That's the part they don't get theses soft kats aways trying to say what a real man is

@tyronelorenzovalentio3414 Ай бұрын

@@SuperNard3mam Labour pains is not a reason at all because a lot of men take care of their women at labour and will end up having to work after giving birth. Shit up

@rumbichinhara2774 Ай бұрын

I love your show... every time!! 100% truth always said. I love how it's well balanced: men level up for your household, women have patience & support his Vision.

@jallana 11 күн бұрын

Love your teaching Bishop 💯

@ginacap100 26 күн бұрын

My and I didn’t split bills, but I felt it was duty to give him a certain amount of my money to help with the bills. He never ask I just did it because we were in it together.

@IGBOisraelite Ай бұрын

Average working black men make 40k a year. With inflation of mortgages, rent, food...there's no way you can act like these women will be happy living on the avg man's income.

@nicolet2343 Ай бұрын

The limiting belief that he is talking about. You didn't listen to anything he said. Example of why I'm not married bc men hear and respond like you. Incomplete hearing.

@elizabethlee6670 Ай бұрын

Keep the vision, you have to have the right heart posture of wanting to be able to provide 100 percent. Someone who generous and has goals of leveling up. I don’t mind being with a man that makes less than me, but we both have to have a vision/ goals of leveling up together. I will help my man get there. That’s all. Communication, consistency, clarity (Growth) will cannot lose.

@d.rabbit7276 Ай бұрын

This black woman making all this absorbent amount of narrative is amazing. Statistically, black men make more money than black women with far less debt and with lower poverty levels.

@AJweathersby Ай бұрын

@@nicolet2343You’re not married because you want to believe in delusions. The avg man of all races make about 50k, and the avg married woman of all races have to work full time. You can go 50/50 with a spouse or 50/50 with a roommate, but unless you manage to attract an upper class man, you’re gonna have to go 50/50 to pay bills.

@IGBOisraelite Ай бұрын

@nicolet2343 its called common sense and being logical. I have the full intent to provide fully for my wife but in reality with this economy, my wife aka my helpmate may need to help me pay some bills. God didnt say the wife is supposed to sit at home and look pretty and not contribute. Your purpose is to help however that husband sees fit. Tell me I'm wrong.

@AgnesMontecinosMunoz-pi3pk 28 күн бұрын

Proverbs 29:18 Where there is no prophetic vision the people cast off restraint, but blessed is he who keeps the law.

@garynnbonds-jz1sq Ай бұрын

I agree… its against how the order is supposed to be. AND these ladies who are for it know deep down inside they don’t agree either.

@RayBlack713 Ай бұрын

Seek God’s face. Acknowledge him in all your ways and he will direct your paths. Realistic goals and living within your means. He makes sense.

@billh2229 Ай бұрын

Since when did masculinity become scalable? Masculinity is a ‘one way’ trait. Money or the ability to make money is variable.

@myronscott8611 Ай бұрын

If you wanna split bills and the women don't want to, that's not the one for you. It's not bad or good. Don't let anybody bully you into a relationship you don't want to be in

@ajbaymon4984 Ай бұрын

@@myronscott8611 This right here!!! 💯💯💯

@tyronelorenzovalentio3414 Ай бұрын

Word up

@spicesmiles Ай бұрын

This is stellar 9:07 Bless you all for this post

@ericac.4316 Ай бұрын

My husband and I both pays the bill together. It takes 2 of us to be able to survive. I don’t mind because we are in this together as a team. Just recently he quit his job to finish school. In a few months his paycheck will be able to cover the bills 🎉🙌

@deewatt Ай бұрын

So what you doing with your money then? That wallet needs to submit too.

@PeamonsFav Ай бұрын

A masculine man has the mind to provide for woman WITH children. 50/50 should be the standard if she is NOT raising his children. God gave women gifts, talents and abilities to generate income when NOT raising children.

@joycewatt800 Ай бұрын

Valid point ☝🏽

@Loveispatient76 Ай бұрын

A man desires to take care of his wife/family is his point…. Not tell her she couldn’t work 🤦🏻‍♀️…. A woman shouldn’t ever desire to provide for a man 🤦🏻‍♀️…. Y’all really are the men y’all seek to have…I guess you say “if I can’t have em, I’ll be him”…. The masculinity in you women is crazy… women with control and power issues…. A man that doesn’t provide for his own family is worse than an unbeliever.

@artismoore95 Ай бұрын

I believe each house is different in its own you have to do what is best for your house weather it’s going 50-50 or a man pay all the bill or based on your salary you can split the difference that way if she makes more or you make more or however, it works for your home

@woosedragon5093 Ай бұрын

🎲 It's funny how they want traditional men, without being traditional women-

@derekq.sanders2764 Ай бұрын

RC Blake gave his opinion, which is fine for his household. From a biblical standpoint, a man and woman become one in marriage. There is no 50/50. How are they one, but their finances are separate? All of the resources of their household belong to them equally. The bills and all other needs, wants, and desires are paid from their jointly held resources. The relationships he's describing sound more like modern relationships, more so than anything biblical. Finally, he mentioned that he's "old school." In those relationships, the women didn't work outside of the home. They stayed home, cooked, cleaned, and reared the children. I doubt that the women that he's addressing here would be interested in being "old school" in that context. I could be wrong, but I doubt it.

@Loveispatient76 Ай бұрын

IRREGARDLESS, you created to provide 😂….. “BY THE SWEAT OF YOUR BROW”… wasn’t given to a woman …. You said all of that, and God made yiu to provide , not count a woman as a financial plan…. You’re a man, but it bothers you, that you have to take care of a family? This indeed was and is Gods design…. A woman shouldn’t ever be apart of a man’s financial plan…ever. That should already be taken care of , if you desire a wife. I also hear a little control in this statement too. You’re worried about a woman making money, as if that should have anything to do with you providing…. Again worrying about the wrong thing, when your focus should be forward…

@christlove2045 17 күн бұрын

I been with my husband for 16 years . He doesn’t even pay mortgage because we pay it a year . Both me and him . He puts me down for being a stay a home mom , he compares me to everyone he sees , he yells at me and the kids everyday . I have so much anxiety that I wake up shaking everyday because of the way he treats us .

@Thetruthlover Ай бұрын

In these times 50/50 Makes sense when you look at the numbers! If you got it you got it BUT EVERY MAN DOESNT HAVE IT LIKE THAT. Does that mean he’s not a good man? Our people are doomed

@jas1565 Ай бұрын

The problem is mindset. Everyone can recognize that times are hard but what are you doing about it? Are you going to complain about it or do something to change it?

@godschosen3102 Ай бұрын

Man of God, I appreciate your perspective on the topic presented. Never heard it on this wise before. Thank you, Sir!

@spicesmiles Ай бұрын

Thanks for shedding a bit of light on the remark “some women dont want to change their lifestyle for the guy” if she affords this lifestyle respect her and align yourself to be uplifted. And if you sincerely don’t see yourself there then respect her and respect yourself and move on. ✨

@peace4UnU 20 күн бұрын

This was a hard task and painful to move on.

@rz2pp 22 күн бұрын

0:08 there, he said EVERYTHING 🔥

@kevinharris3993 Ай бұрын

I understand what he is saying. I think his examples are not necessarily the right example. There is no way, I would agree on my daughter marrying a man on potential. I can't stop her, but I am not ordaining it either. Also just because a man can provide for his woman financially doesn't make him a masculine man either. He can provide and abuse her all day and night. I think what he is trying to say is that a man should be able to provide, protect and defend his woman. Sometimes it is not always in monetary value. Oprah is a billionaire and very few men can financially provide for her. However, Stedman gives Oprah the security, the support and the protection that she needs in a man. Providing for a woman should not be soley based on finances. However, a man should always have a job. That is my opinion.

@peace4UnU 20 күн бұрын

Having a decent job not minimum wage.

@Nova-o9o4x 25 күн бұрын

Wow... I didn't think this kind of man still existed. Truly thought my dad was the last real masculine man in this world.

@jackiebt6134 22 күн бұрын

No romance without finance!😮

@BryceLarenz Ай бұрын

I absolutely believe that married men should be the providers who maintain all of the financial responsibilities, but… I also believe that men should be patient, calculated, and extremely selective when vetting the proper women to build a relationship with, because the conversations about how married women should manage their roles in a marriage, are either non existent, or simply insignificant in the discovery of reasonable solutions. Divorce and family courts are full of masculine men, who are getting their resources drained.

@AklemaJohnson.1 Ай бұрын

@BryceLarenz As a married woman of 17 years... you ABSOLUTELY nailed it!!!🎯

@Ms.LACI5 Ай бұрын

EXACTLY!!!

@thetv3583 Ай бұрын

@Ms.LACI5 Ай бұрын

@ Good Point 😊

@kianshaemccullough5989 25 күн бұрын

He said what he said and I approve this message 💯

@queenn3468 Ай бұрын

RC BLAKES THE TRUTH!! Been listening to him for years ❤❤ that’s Unc right there ❤

@sfrvnko7818 21 күн бұрын

We have so many conversations about what a REAL MAN is yet we will never discuss what a real woman is.

@erickacarter4530 16 күн бұрын

I know he right. My fiancé comes all the way correct, and I take very good care of him. Men should have it no other way they should want to provide. Also he’s correct you should never live above your means. Also if you plan to have a family in the future children will need one of you to be present, and also take care of the home. I love taking care of him. He’s good to me.

@HeartsPouredOut 9 күн бұрын

Very well said... truly real men❤.

@jasminecarter8998 Ай бұрын

Louder please!! My husband does not provide 100% financially for our household, but I know that when he can, he will! ❤❤❤

@terrells5763 Ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏾🙏🏾

@angispence7041 26 күн бұрын

❤

@NationalStuff101-s2v 11 күн бұрын

Jasmine, I am about to file for divorce, I have been in this relationship for 19 years. I would say for the last 8-10 years, the pandemic didn’t make it any better. But he owns his own business that has not contributed to the household enough. I’ve been begged and cried and begged and cried for him to make that a part-time gig and get a full-time job , to bring in more consistent money. He just refuses to and is convinced that his business will pick up I’ve done all I can. I put so much money into his business. I just can’t do it anymore. I’v been here so long because I wanted so badly for our marriage to work. I moved upstairs a month and half ago, still no job. Working on his business whenever works comes is will not work anymore.

@NationalStuff101-s2v 11 күн бұрын

@MACKTV82KINGS Ай бұрын

Black wealth is estimated to be at zero by 2050, and we are out here talking about 50/50….

@tretre4u72 Ай бұрын

Embarrassing

@mukaniwatkins2598 Ай бұрын

BM don't marry BW when they become wealthy. They marry non BW so that is another reason why there is no black generational wealth.

@tyronelorenzovalentio3414 Ай бұрын

That’s not close to being true but keep it going

@Dove_103 Ай бұрын

The Wise and Foolish Builders 24 “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. 26 But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.” I would love to hear more conversation about God as the foundation , on topics on your show, because it could easily get confusing hearing so many different (man’s) opinions. Nothing against Mr. RC Blake, this is a general observation. I believe it help your audience to have understanding that is founded upon GOD’s WORD.

@Dr.Elaine1 Ай бұрын

Having the mind is not the same as having the ability. 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

@syebethel Ай бұрын

TP also said the wife that makes more should be happy if he only pays the light bill! 😂

@Crob100 20 күн бұрын

We agree with you Bishop!!!!!!

@gns4838 Ай бұрын

Where does it say we have to provide for women? Masculine is what men are not what we could be. Men should not provide for girlfriends. The only exception is if you have children together and it’s cheaper for her to be at home while you work if you live together. Men should provide for their wife and kids. Or if she wants to work and you stay home.

@valarieford1778 29 күн бұрын

I dated a man who asked me for tip money. He wanted fifty fifty.I left him. Blocked his number

@bobwatson1895 Ай бұрын

Fellas keep in mind these dating spaces will often placate to the female audience. Just like in church, these dudes no different

@azraelfirstofhisname8695 Ай бұрын

Bingo 💯

@truth.substance Ай бұрын

That makes no since. These are the people who hate the poor. You women will be alone listening to him.

@Mary-dk7mc Ай бұрын

Why would anyyone have children with a poor man? Top level stupidity.

@queenrnb1874 Ай бұрын

IS THIS A POOR MIND SET, THIS A SINCERE QUESTION

@joycewatt800 Ай бұрын

I agree with “it’ll leave many women single.”

@thetv3583 Ай бұрын

@@queenrnb1874it is . This take comes from feminine men . As a man you should be always 100% with or without a woman . Only traditional stay at home mums deserve 100% provision . The rest treat them how they want to be treated as independent women . Old school doesn't work with the modern hos.

@nicolelewis6312 Ай бұрын

I don't think they hate the poor. I do believe they are encouraging men to be introspective regarding their ability to provide for a family. I believe there are some circumstances where men (and women) are simply careless in their 20s and don't live life with purpose. When they are 30 and 35, it shows because they are behind developmentally delayed and behind the pack. I also think there are men (and women) like this in every generation. My husband and I are millenials and we are planners, but we know people who pissed off their 20s and have nothing much to show for it other than reaching a certain level on a video game.

@keithrogers2718 Ай бұрын

It's all fluff. Men struggling with pride and ego. A man would purposely trie to do more just so he can appear to be this great man that provides everything for a woman, but he's also controlling, because he thinks that if he's the one paying EVERYTHING; then he should be the one making all the demands and decisions; and the woman could never question him.