Reading "How To Be An Alpha Male" So You Don't Have To! | Ch. 1 |

[@walrus4046]

As I vegetarian I like to consider myself an alfalfa male.

[@rd6203]

🤣❣👏🏼

[@ΕλληνικέςΙστορικέςΠατριωτικέςΤ]

Veganism is a certain path to feminization and low testosterone. Low libido too.

[@walrus4046]

@@ΕλληνικέςΙστορικέςΠατριωτικέςΤ I hope you are being ironic It's so hard to tell. Either way, I embrace the SOY! Soya milk on my morning cereal FTW!

[@minutemansam1214]

@@ΕλληνικέςΙστορικέςΠατριωτικέςΤ Ironically vegetarians tend to be healthier, and so have a higher libido because they're actually healthy enough to have sex.

[@parapoliticos52]

Wrong! Male Vegans and vegetarians expirience low levels of male growth and sex hormones due to nutrient deficiencies in the diets. Same reason why the age rabidly. Fat and collagen depletion. On the contrary they have high levels of female hormones due to the phytoestrogens in the plants they eat.

[@dunklerKurfurstDesDeepstat]

"Heterosexual woman really don't want to be in a relationship with a woman." Wow, what a revelation! I'm crying and laughing right now.

[@Scatscar1985]

The opposite of credit is debit.

[@G-L-O-R-I-A]

Right? Reminds me of Savy Writes Books’ coverage of A Straight Girl’s Guide to Sex with Women (or something equally dumb). Anyway, terrible book, great coverage by Savy.

[@Sophia-vk5bq]

“Every heterosexual woman is a biwoman who hasn’t discovered men are gross.”

[@empyrea_2546]

@@Sophia-vk5bq love this comment 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Whosaskin]

It looks like water is wet

[@zoer8744]

"What do Indiana Jones, James Bond, and Han Solo have all in common?" They're fictional?

[@nicolasandre9886]

Good point.

[@TheMadTurtle]

Exactly; they're as attractive to women in their stories as the writer wants them to be. XDD

[@tatiana4050]

@@TheMadTurtle actually i think they aren't, Indiana Jones, han solo, james bond, are men's idols, rather than women's dream men. Plus you only see them for like 2 hours with only select actions, you don't know how bad is their hygiene, do they respect hospitality workers? Etc. etc.

[@anarchomando7707]

Harrison Ford (excluding Bond)?

[@rd6203]

@@tatiana4050 So true!! But Sean Connery and Harrison Ford are total dream fodder for the ladies 🤤

[@selinag1884]

i think the universal thing women want from men is basic human respect.

[@arich20]

you solved the mystery

[@r1v3r74]

Ikr that simple

[@Nerobyrne]

what really gets me is, it is actually that simple. EDIT: You also have to be her type to some degree, but that's not something you can control. Yet men will pay other men hundreds to thousands of dollars to hear complex guides, which end up not working. And they should be able to see the men around them who don't apply these rules have more success than them. WHY doesn't that shock some sense into them?

[@loloverlord1664]

Yup. And remember guys: being respectful is gonna put you way ahead without much effort, because there's a LOT of weirdos treating women like objects out there. Being respectful is the killer move.

[@veloc.raptor9136]

Impossible. Treating wahmen like human beings? What are we? Betas?

[@rustkitty]

Imagine this: you meet a foreign girl, she promises to treat you *literally* like a king. You visit her home. It has some European script on her wall, very posh, you already feel like nobility. Never got to ask her what does "Liberté, Egalité, Fraternité" mean though. You didn't correct her when she said she will "be head" instead of "give head" either. Didn't want to spoil the mood...

[@raynegallaher7661]

Remember what the term "alpha" actually means, at least in programming and engineering. First iteration, or an extremely early test build. An alpha is unfinished and broken in many places. This describes these "alpha males" perfectly as they have a placeholder for a personality.

[@mike4179]

Well said.

[@stylis666]

And there are more ways to get to the same conclusion. Look at great apes. Is it the biggest bad ass that runs the show? No. Being big and strong is just handy to beat up everyone else and demand "respect" from both the males and the females when personality and social skills are absent. Being the alpha is never a compliment unless you're the woman. Being an alpha as a male basically says you have to compensate for a lack of intelligence, strategy, social skills, etc., by bullying others. That's fine if your entire species just isn't capable of socially growing beyond that, but we're really not that 1 dimensional. Not even apes are and apes like jokes and fun and will have relationships and sex with fun apes and if the biggest male finds out, there will be hell to pay because insecurity and jealousy isn't human exclusive either. Bottom line, alphas that are not female are kind of pathetic in all facets of life and to maintain any illusion of value, the mate has to be pretty dense and dumb so they won't see through it and choose a different and intelligent and funny mate instead. Oh, and there's a reason why there are the alpha and the alpha male. Not alpha females. This is because the alpha is just that and happens to always be the female. The alpha male has to be designated separately because the male is never the alpha and at most the second in command, but usually under about 4 other females besides the alpha. It's quite weird that human men are so insecure in their machoness that they have to subjugate women to pretend they're the alpha and in many countries and cultures they are. And coincidentally, those aren't the most healthy societies with a lot of well being and much respect for human rights. Men trying to be the alpha evidently is toxic masculinity that evidently poisons entire societies.

[@josephperkins4080]

Horse crap

[@visaman]

So what's your opinion.on Beta Males then?

[@churblesfurbles]

@@stylis666 Typing up a storm to obfuscate biological processes that can't be bargained with. The top of the hierarchy in evolutionary terms is the one that has the most children. Women aren't alpha as they derive status from the men they are with and are reproductively limited by default. Its why female pop stars and twitch types price themselves out of the market while groupies abound the other way around. Put it simply, men aren't throwing their underwear at Taylor Swift at concerts because it doesn't work.

[@joshuamoore8560]

"Treat me like a literal king." I'm imagining my wife wearing a doublet and hose and blowing on a massive trumpet when I enter the room and announcing my presence to my dogs and cats (those who weren't scared off by the fanfare, that is.)

[@neoqwerty]

I would like to point out that the jesters basically got to shittalk the king as a job, too. So shittalking and trolling and diss tracks are also acceptable ways to treat a king-- and the king has to pay you for it too if he isn't mortally offended.

[@joshuamoore8560]

@@neoqwerty That always struck me as an ideal job. But like any modern day stand-up comedian, you have to know where the line is as well as perfect timing, else you lose your head.

[@sarahaubrey320]

I should take this approach in any room I enter from now on. Imagine going to walmart like that.

[@Roozyj]

Ok but can you honestly tell me that you wouldn't want that?

[@Roozyj]

@@neoqwerty I think we'll have to assume that the woman in this guy's fantasy is either the queen or a subject, but not the jester xD

[@AnkhInfinitus]

He uses the term "high-quality woman" (probably without the hyphenation due to the lack of editing) so that if his tips don't work, it's because the women they didn't work on weren't high quality.

[@roguestowl2280]

Good point! It’s the old “don’t blame my advice, you just followed it wrong”

[@rickc2102]

High-quality Scotsman approved!

[@cakecinema9385]

It’s like he’s talking about an ore deposit, I’m so uncomfortable...

[@cutecats1368]

Love and hugs for that comment :)

[@erict.watson2460]

@@cakecinema9385 probably a nugget of truth in that.

[@bookshelfhoney]

(Literally) treat him like a king huh..... I'll play a french peasant, where's the guillotines?

[@rd6203]

Dark! I may have laughed...

[@Roozyj]

Haha, being Dutch, I suppose treating someone like a king is pretty much ignoring their existance and sometimes complaining about their income being too high.

[@emanuelmota7217]

63 yr old straight NYC man here. Just found your channel. You're smart, funny, witty, insightful, fair, upbeat. New fan - subscribed!

[@annemariekruiswijk7849]

"You just can't fight nature" Me living in the Netherlands and technically living under the waterline:)

[@startingbark0356]

Also dont forgot that we conquer the waters by turning it into to land

[@grenadegang5161]

Me wearing glasses

[@paprikagames]

😆

[@havcola6983]

Me wearing clothes

[@HungryWarden]

Me wearing the skin of my enemies

[@meghanworkman6449]

There's actually an old Twilight Zone episode about that very thing...this guy gives a love potion to the woman he has a crush on, and she turns into a slavish, clingy, obsessive, neurotically desperate-to-please person. Her whole identity revolves around catering to his every want and need, and it ends up driving him nuts and turning him off completely.

[@Roadent1241]

@@parapoliticos52 There are some, but the point is they THINK we are like this, while THEY'RE like this and they wonder why we reject them XD

[@BlackEpyon]

Of course, this is exactly the kind of "relationship" Christians advocate that people are to have with God...

[@littledewdroplets]

@@parapoliticos52 I don't think the book or the video mentioned traditional women, but the book says "her only desire is to be happy with you". No other desires or drives would result in that Twilight Zone examples

[@MrGonzo-xj2wk]

Yeah, rod serling was a genius and episodes like that one (which I love by the way) are a perfect example of that and it never ceases to amaze me that a guy in the 50's and 60's (when attitudes like this authors were quite prevalent) could be such an on the ball dude.

[@miskatonic_alumni]

There was also an episode of Tales From The Crypt with this plot.

[@Volgotha]

I came across a Reddit post comparing Leon from RE2 and RE2R and saying "they softened him, they made his shoulders less broad". I've never seen a more poignant example of how in crisis masculinity is.

[@tatiana4050]

Both smell like corpses and sewege, not my type.

[@theforcedmeme]

That...seems a tad disingenuous

[@icravedeath.1200]

I'm a man, and the last thing I'd be concerned about is my bloody shoulders. I just don't get other men.

[@Volgotha]

@@theforcedmeme ???? Look it up my dude it exists I shit you not 😂😬

[@jasonshort9001]

Thats so weird, because he progressively gets more badass the more he shows up. He bassically becomes a super human, that can run like 45 mph, and take a blow from a creature that can punch through solid brick. With the ability to shoot the hat off a fly, if it wasn't for his haircut, he would be the most generic version of a super man badass. Still love Leon, I played the absolute shit out of RE4

[@nickthepeasant]

**rubbing hands with glee when the title pops up** As depressing and frustrating as the subject matter is, I know your analysis of it will be brilliant. Thank you as always for taking the intellectual bullet for us. **beta male awkward wave**

[@dunklerKurfurstDesDeepstat]

*beta male awkward wave* Hello fellow beta male, are you ready to respect women as people and by doing that negate every chance of ever finding a partner? Afterwards, we can sit together and talk about female friends and how we don't plan to have sex with them. Sorry, I really enjoy that crap. It is just great that some people are willing to read that stuff and make videos about it, because I could not stand more than one page without laughing myself to death.

[@elphabarichardson607]

My brother-in-law is one of these guys who thinks he is an "alpha male" and is currently trying to (and failing) to pull my feminist husband who he has labled as a "beta" into all this crap. Mind you, my husband and I are still wildly in love twelve years into our relationship and BIL has been seperated from his wife of three years for seven years. Yep, you read that correctly. He has been unhappily married for ten years and living with his mother for seven of them. They will not divorce because he is still upset that his mother divorced their cheating father twenty-five years ago. (Of course, he blames his mother for that, not his father.) He thinks women are unhapppy because they have too many freedoms, legal rights, and educational opprotunities. Oh, and he has a list as to why I am not a "high-quality woman." My husband just laughs at him.

[@alanfike]

@@elphabarichardson607 Congratulations on your marriage! It seems that you married the brother with the stronger character. It makes me wonder what is going on with men who are so inconsiderate; this same jugheaded attitude in those who want to have that big shot energy!! Every time I see that, no matter who it is, it makes me wonder if this person ever learned to socialize growing up. I don't know anybody who is amused by that quick talking game show host attitude, but I doubt it would be as popular if it didn't work, ya know? Still, I'm gonna find mine without all that. I'mma be myself. Anyway, congrats again and with many, many happy years to come, and sorry to hear about the single-minded brother in law.

[@kylemaloney1306]

BAY-TUH

[@Ashamanic]

You absolutely exude a certain type of charm. Might not be the type he likes though, who could possibly know?

[@VeilleuxClan]

Wait... you can smell that? I swear im not wearing Axe. Though I am wearing old spice... I like their commercials... especially with both spokesmen... those are fun

[@rhiwright]

It's nice to know that I've been doing "being a heterosexual woman" correctly! I have never dated or had sex with any other women.

[@ryandubois3675]

You're strong, sweet, intelligent, open minded, and quite adorable. You're a rather high quality person.

[@Nerobyrne]

unlike the guy who wrote this book-sized blog post ^^

[@Indie9317]

@@Nerobyrneit’s a youtube comment. Find a hobby.

[@Nerobyrne]

@@Indie9317 damn was it you? 😅

[@LaryTheLibtard]

​@@Nerobyrnedid they change the comment it's not exactly a novel

[@Nerobyrne]

@@LaryTheLibtard why is reading so hard?

[@juancampbell269]

I remember being an awkward 15 year old and listening intently to people who gave advice like this. I remember thinking that I had to be the best and smartest person in the room for anyone to like me. Unsurprisingly, it made me look like a huge asshat. Just glad I had a few friends who woke me up to what actual human interaction is like 😂

[@vuton7670]

people didn't like you b/c you were a huge ashat...lol. I can tell from your profile picture. you and the video is stuck on the word (Alpha) and not understand that it refere to people that stands out. Mike Tyson is an Alpha Tom Brady is an Alpha Tom Hardy (Bane) is an Alpha We are not wolves but we do have (pack/gang) mantality.

[@jasonjacoby]

@@vuton7670 Alpha is like competency: you must be granted that title from above, not below. Gangs capitalize on dependency, which is not an alpha trait.

[@ScorpionClaws789]

@@vuton7670 we don't have biological hierarchies, though. Biologically speaking, we grouped together so we could face threats and hunt targets larger then us, that doesn't require a hierarchy. What about those 3 men makes them "alphas"?

[@alf3071]

pretty sure this stuff fucked me up when I was younger lol

[@vafuthnicht7293]

If I thought I was skilled enough to do it effectively, I'd be tempted to write a manosphere book that's just about challenging all the toxic masculinity we're subjected to. "Resurrect your inner Man" Chapter one: "real men need therapy" Chapter two: " Manliness: the lies we're told" Something fun like that, just bait and switch.

[@yoshihammerbro435]

That's cool

[@eric2500]

Go for it! I'd read that.

[@AW-EV-and-FTM]

As a professional creative writer: I’m sure you could do it. All you need is some short classes and a good editor. If Coleen Hoover can do it, anyone can…

[@dobugswalkbackwards5392]

That's a bit like what Dr Kirk Honda from Psychology in Seattle (youtube channel and also the name of his podcast) did. He mentioned that he had a podcast series that he titled in a way to attract incels and then just deconstructed all of it!

[@krankarvolund7771]

Some wolves facts, packs are in fact a reproductive couple, the pups from the year, and the pups from 1-3 years ago. Plus, sometimes, one or two immature young, adopted in the pack. So in that family group, where only two members are grown ups, they tend to be dominant and leaders. Basically the "alpha male" is just a dad. The problem being that the research in the 70s were not done on natural packs in the wild, but on artificial packs made of several adults, forced to cohabite in a zoo's pen. Basically, if we want to compare it to humans, it would be like studying a mix-gender prison, and inferring the social behaviour of humans from our observations.....

[@mikearchibald744]

Actually quite a bit of research into wolves shows that its the opposite. They actually found more 'matriarchies' but found many packs that were just out and out anarchic. And I think THAT is the real fear.

[@seraphina985]

That right there with the artificial confinement completely screws with the results of the study and we actually have data on this from confined humans aka prisoners that demonstrate that relationships are changed by confinement and this even extends into sexual relationships. Turns out that animals can in fact perceive and thus adapt to their environment even where the constraints placed on that environment are artificial, shocking I know this idea that brain can do a learning and adapt to the realities of circumstances they find themselves in, it is not like this is exactly the evolutionary benefit that brains provide or anything, oh no that is exactly that.

[@mikearchibald744]

@@seraphina985 Absolutely, science used to be done REALLY shitty, especially that kind of thing, which shows just how much bias there was in MEN studying animal behaviour and 'seeing what they want to see". Thats of course the argument even about indiginous populations that are forced to live on reserves. When looking at their behavour the central issue is that the dominant conquering force controls their behaviour, therefore is responsible for the actions of individuals, which are often violent. Colonizers tend to use that as an argument 'well see how violent they are, that proves WE must control them".

[@seraphina985]

@@mikearchibald744 Indeed, suffice to say if anyone were to try to confine me unjustly I would not be a particularly pleasant person towards those responsible because I'm horrendously violent I guess, screw that being aggressively opposed to oppression is entirely normal. Try such an experiment on me and yeah a person with a cisnormative bias would likely find the evidence they wanted to claim that non-binary people are somehow violent, would I care at this point, no I wouldn't I'd be too busy plotting and attempting to instigate the demise of their bigoted ass.

[@margaretjohnson6259]

i saw a documentary on chimps. the alpha chimp at the beginning was a dad. just a dad, protecitive and disciplined wisely, and gentle with the females and babies. he died. a tyranical chimp became the alpha and was domineering, mean, a nasty chimp. the females chased him away because he hurt them and the babies and the new alpha male was like the first: gentle, protective and disciplinary wisely.

[@charlesthebald3671]

"What do Indiana Jones, James Bond and Han Solo have in common?" Writers.

[@TheSimpleMan454]

Dark hair? Um... guns? Vests? Uh... Oh! All have gone to shite because Hollywood is unable to admit it's running out of novel ideas!

[@zaktookthis1341]

Indiana Jones is a groomer who sleeps with his students James Bond is a rapist Han Solo is kind of a pushy creep They are bad people.

[@HungryWarden]

They all have the letters S, O, N and A in their names.

[@geninji6117]

Having someone who will love you no matter what seems delusional and unhealthy to the relationship. If I punch a homeless person just because and my partner still loves me and supports me knowing this, only seems to reinforce terrible behavior.

[@VibingMeike]

I think I get it sort of, what it originally meant probably was something like 'I will be there when you're going through a hard time'

[@geninji6117]

@@VibingMeike i can see that however if we dont scrutinize bad wording in order to get to a better understanding we simply allow poor communication to lay the foundations of our relationships. The person making the statement believes themselves correct without further understanding between whatever parties are involved leaving gaps of understanding which allows for continued behaviors (wether seen or not) or new ones based off of a misconstrued understanding of what’s being talked on. My point is finding understanding is less helpful then communicating to a better understanding with everyone.

[@VibingMeike]

@@geninji6117 Yep, absolutely agree

[@erict.watson2460]

@@geninji6117 it's clearly possible to love someone and yet disagree with and berate them for inappropriate actions. I'm not sure if you are communicating what you mean to... are you?

[@Iquey]

There was this funny episode of Hercules the animated series on the Disney channel..It was about Pygmalion and his clay wife, and Hercules gets the idea to make a clay girlfriend and be prays to Aphrodite to bring her to life. Hercules asked for her to be "crazy about him" and Aphrodite granted him his wish. The episode is full of shenanigans of the consequences of having a girlfriend who's sole personality is being obsessed with you, including rigging them to be dance queen and king. I think at the end of the episode he realized his mistake and asked Aphrodite to take it back. I think she either gains free will and leaves him, or gets cooked and shatters. Don't quite remember. 🤪

[@davidshaw6159]

I thought that the mark of a high-quality woman is whether or not she owns thimbles. I get such mixed messages from these people. Please do another chapter; I feel this man has much to teach us all.

[@Enigmatic-Kat]

And I lost my thimble. I fear that the alphas will catch on and I will lose my market value as a high quality woman

[@labelle9921]

@@Enigmatic-Kat Do you still have your ring holder, butter dish and cozy slippers, though?

[@Enigmatic-Kat]

@@labelle9921 I have my butter dish, but it's plastic. And cozy slippers, but they're men's. I don't wear rings, so not sure why I have this ring holder.

[@chrispitchforth621]

Guys, want to turn off women and make them "literally" runaway. Hand them this book and tell them this is the standard you live by, and want them to do the same.

[@cutecats1368]

Love and hugs for not falling for the alpha male crap.

[@ChazNatlo]

I heard the bit about being literally treated as her king, and when the line "imagine every time you walked into a room she..." I auto completed in my brain as "announced your presence 'now arriving, his Royal Highness Mark Lastname, ruler of (is there a 555 for street addresses?).'"

[@neoqwerty]

I think you'd use "ruler of the home of [lastname]" if I remember my 5th grade class on medieval serfs and so on. Basically your house counts as your land, and the street itself would belong to your mayor and be refered to as "[streetname] in the land of [mayor's lastname]"? And if you were to talk about your home you'd use "the home of [your lastname], within [streetname] (optionally: of [mayor's lastname])"

[@Gabi_myers]

My husband and I were literally talking last night about how much we hate when couples call each other king and queen 😂

[@visaman]

What did you think of The King Of Queens?

[@seraphjohanson3402]

It’s always wild to me how these “alpha male” types always talk about women like they’re an entirely separate species. I wonder how much better their lives would be if they just… treated women like people?

[@missylarsson3517]

Also apparently men come in different shapes (alpha, beta, omega etc) but all women are of the same type.

[@stylis666]

@@missylarsson3517 I wonder what the omega male is like. Would that be like an all-rounder or just a guy that ends everything? :p

[@kevenfromsales6830]

Wow men and women are different, who knew?

[@bengough6772]

@@missylarsson3517 no they're not all the same! Remember there are high quality women and...low quality women, I erm assume

[@bengough6772]

@@stylis666 there is genuinely a list of character traits for the 6 types of man..,alpham beta, gamma, delta, sigma, omega..,.obviously we man's couldn't be bothered with all the other Greek letters and obviously I'm not going to look up what these characteristics are lol but these types talk about it like it is scientific fact

[@kevinpotts123]

My wife is the highest quality human I have ever known. Regardless of my shortcomings she loves me (I have no idea why) and I did this without reading an incel bible telling me what to do.

[@Roadent1241]

N'awww. Well you must be doing something right~

[@wayln2591]

Nah king you are great...and she sounds great too...good people attract other good people. ❤❤❤

[@samforsyth]

Imagine a person whose goal is to become this horrifying alpha male coming to the conclusion that his best shot at success is to read a book about it.

[@chrispitchforth621]

New title for this book "a stop clock is right twice a day, and so am I."

[@cutecats1368]

Lol. I knew the good men must have been hiding somewhere. Stay strong and don't let life beat you!

[@ZodyCheste]

I literally died when I literally felt what you said when you literally read us the first chapter of this book!!

[@mathnerd97]

I mean, it's technically true that phenomenal women will be kind to men. But it doesn't need to be that specific, you can just say "phenomenal people will be kind to any person they interact with."

[@greggmarkowski5203]

Emma, you're LITERELLY one of my favorite KZbin personalities.

[@lindseystein9676]

The way these guys talk about women is so bizarre. I’m noticing a lot of dehumanization, that we have these animalistic instincts that we just can’t help to follow. I’m glad there were some good bits of advice peppered in, too.

[@elphabarichardson607]

Hahaha! "were not blizzard" Jasper is here to school you on biology, which he likely learned from one of these books. (Certainly, he is not here to talk about grammar." If women were to 100% follow the biology claim made by such people, only men our medial prefrontal cortex deemed to be genetically superior would ever have sex and they would have a dozen women a piece. Imagine how many incels there would be then!

[@MacabreStorytelling]

I swear these dudes just take really basic self-help advice, add a bunch of "alpha male" crap, and use a thesaurus to try and make themselves sound far more astute than they are and BAM instant best-seller.

[@bengough6772]

Yes,,,,,yes that is exactly what this and other self help man groups do. The troubling thing is that enough men either are, or have convinced themselves they are hopeless and unable to build a relationship with someone without following these formulas

[@MusicGeekery]

In my experience the fact that I'm more timid and introverted has actually helped me, maybe because it takes the pressure off a bit, I dunno. I think he's conflating being quiet with being a creepy stalker type. A lot of suspect stuff coming from this, but at least there are moments of genuinely positive remarks, as you said

[@elphabarichardson607]

My husband is a shy, conflict avoiding, introvert who is the sweetest, most caring, mindful person I have ever met. These qualities are some of the things that attracted me to him. They are also some of the qualities that have kept me wildly in love with him for twelve years. His brother, who thinks himself an alpha, has been sending him a lot of this Red Pill/incel crap in an attempt to make him more "manly." My husband just laughs it off.

[@Sane1015]

@@elphabarichardson607 I am the same as your husband. I am often quite, described as shy, sometimes even when I'm feeling good and outgoing people still say I seem shy/awkward. But, as a poor swimmer and terrified of water I swam into a storm to get into a boat I'm the ocean to save my wife and her friend. I went to the boat because I am a weak swimmer and even that was a huge gamle but that's where the life jackets were and I would be damned if I just sat and watched them drown from land. And when I worked with a girl who's bf was abusive and came into our work drunk and emotionally/verbally abusing her I shut him down. Swimming and conflict are things I avoid. But what we have inside, the drive to be a good person dictates who we are, not our day to day ability to play a dog and pony show. Trying/pretending to be whatever they think alpha male is every minute of every day just sounds exhausting and terrible.

[@bluntbangs]

It's so sad that the bar is so low for these guys that advice a children's book could give are the highlights of their work.

[@AD-ip5xy]

I love this and your channel. You’ve helped me realize some misogynistic beliefs that I’ve held and of those around me and how to challenge them. You’re great!

[@forre112]

I have forgotten where I watched it, but the person who wrote the book on wolves and their behavior (who is still alive) is now fighting this idea. It turned out that he was gravely mistaken on their nature, and in closer studies of the pack, the alpha(s) turns out to be the one of if not both of the parents. He had written the book in the 70s(?) and people being people took it as gospel.

[@hannahc3317]

Probrably the Adam Ruins Everything episode about wolves. That's where I learned about this.

[@churblefurbles]

​@@hannahc3317 Adam was just embarrassing, citing studies that show the opposite of his claims. "Turd Flinging Monkey - Adam is a Beta that Can't Understand Dominance 720p (mirror)" is the video on here that shreds him, apparently I can't link directly without disappearing. "alpha(s) turns out to be the one of if not both of the parents" you mean the dominant animal sires almost all the offspring? Sounds pretty alpha to me.

[@churblefurbles]

Interesting, got email reply notification from @agauerm, doesn't show in this thread. This is the censorship we have to live with now.

[@nicolab2075]

Emma literally (!) says this at 2:00

[@AV57]

@@churblefurbles, but the issue there isn’t Adam. Adam is just a guy making an argument. I get why people don’t like him, since he’s very smug, but at the end of the day the alpha model most laymen refer to is not supported by academia. It’s Bro-science at best. It’s a small group of people trying to convince everyone else that they are objectively better than everyone else. Ya know, that smug approach that everyone hates Adam for.

[@WhichDoctor1]

So what I'm getting from this is that the one High Quality Women don't require in their men is to be good at writing :p

[@TheDevilsbard]

The whole referring to your partner as your “king” or “queen” always makes me cringe too, especially because every guy I’ve known who has referred to his partner as his “queen” has cheated on them.

[@danrobertdicu4712]

Men have no obligation to be faithful aside from ironically traditional values which you most certainly hate.

[@TheDevilsbard]

@@danrobertdicu4712 one more time? Not even sure what you’re trying to address here.

[@rennyforyourthoughts8023]

Historically accurate

[@optillian4182]

@@danrobertdicu4712 Pretty sure men are emotional creatures who benefit from romantic relationships, but okay.

[@MouldMadeMind]

@@danrobertdicu4712 who are you talking too.

[@NoChance18]

How to be an Alpha MAN: 1. Work out until your body becomes steel. 2. Surround yourself with teenagers with attitude. 3. Consult the giant talking head in your living room for advice. 4. Aye-aye-aye!

[@NoGodsJustMetal]

An an engineer I'm always full of doubt and indecisiveness. I must smell like a zombie.

[@ashkebora7262]

Decisiveness is such a garbage statistic to judge someone's character with. The most immediately decisive person is _very likely_ going to be the _worst_ at factoring in variables and making an intelligent, informed decision. Especially if it's a complicated issue.

[@TinahamLincoln]

Yay for crushes on the nerdy guys! My first crush was Billy the blue Power Ranger. It was the glasses for me.

[@cfadeathfries]

The best way to build a masculine character is to start a new challenging hobby? Learning to knit seems pretty difficult, I'm sure that will build up my masculinity.

[@nessyness5447]

Well in the fourth book of harry potter, ron's brother, Charlie, the muscled one who works with dragons, is written as being sewing something to fix it. So i would say you are in the right path, because a guy who works with dragons and sews his own stuff sounds pretty masculine to me.

[@nicolab2075]

Whereas being scared of taking up knitting for fear it will cast aspersions on your manhood is not at all a sign of insecurity. Lol

[@joseignaciomontes5712]

Indeed, presenting your own way of living with confidence regardless of what some pesky old people mocking you for being a grandma think seems very masculine imo

[@JvS1711]

@@nessyness5447 being able to sew stuff for repairs is really an ability everyone should have. I've been doing it since I was in my early teens. The other day I was fixing one of our dog's toys (a rescue, she attacks them pretty savagely when she reacts to things) and she was astonished at how good my sewing was 😅

[@picklejuice2]

Men think women want Thor. Most women want Loki.

[@anneanonymous4202]

Hell yeah!

[@sisuguillam5109]

Men who think women want Thor look at Thor and do not understand Thor - especially movie Thor.

[@tetsujin_144]

6:38 - "I am not a high-quality woman according to the men of the men-o-sphere - Something to do with short hair" Dunno what that's all about. I think your hair is awesome!

[@Catten_whisperer]

I recently found you due to a collab you did - and I’m so happy. You’re amazing and hilarious and pretty brilliant. Keep doing what you’re doing!

[@heroicvictory]

Some kings got some pretty dubious treatment from their subjects. Be-headings, disembowelings, red-hot-pokerings, stabbings-and-thrown-in-a-ditch (and then used for a car park). Some of the "luckier" ones just got deposed or exiled or made to sign magna-cartas at swordpoint or chased out of town by angry peasants. So "treat me like a king" could be a bit of a mixed bag really

[@michaelbaker7499]

For what it's worth, I think you exude a certain type of charm. Granted, my only reference point is your KZbin channel, but in it, you're delightful.

[@joshuapray]

I would exercise caution in giving him credit for what he's saying at around 27:00. It sounds a lot more like he's excusing awful behaviour as 'But noody's perfect!', and stating that a real woman won't leave her man or criticise him for that behaviour, but instead accept dealing with it as her duty to an only-human manly man. I know men who have done deplorable things, demanded that their wives stay with them since they admitted to it and were 'seeking help', then got that 'help' from the church (read: total absolution without question) and then banned any reference to that behaviour even when (or especially when) it continued or resurfaced later on. Saying 'but I have a problem and I know it' is a very common get-out-of-jail-free card for abusers/manipulators and a pass to repeat that abuse (whatever kind it is and to whatever degree) later. Though, I suppose it might be more kind to give him the benefit of the doubt and I might just be a cynic who's been fooled in these ways before. EDIT: I hope that didn't come across as mansplaining or 'well ACK-shully'. It wasn't meant that way!

[@Itri_Vega]

Either that or they expect women to "fix them" which can be extremely draining.

[@joshuapray]

@@Itri_Vega Yes, absolutely that too. 'Why don't you just help me instead of being so mean about it?'

[@ladyraven3418]

After learning about The Transformed Wife, and her ilk, I'm inclined to agree. Too much disturbing "advice" out there, which is harmful to both women and men. It worries me.

[@dericmederos1514]

Wait didn't Emma say something about the guy she's dating referring to this? I forgot the time stamp to make my point here

[@TheHorrorDevotee]

I love the part where Emma finds genuinely wholesome advice in the middle of the book

[@GlimpG]

A few years ago I had a friend that went full-on sex-code stuff. The man was kind of broken having experienced some bad relationships, women that actually cheated on him. He became bitter and convinced himself that he couldn't trust any woman, that they were always playing games, and the only way to actually be happy was to become alpha. I always tried to push back his shit and manipulative behavior, but as I was completely unexperienced (forever alone) I had to admit he had some good points, I was always having doubts, but I refused to believe women were so "simple", even though i didn't even had girl-friends (yeah I was really autistic)... Fortunately didn't give in, and got super lucky finding a girl that became my gf for almost a decade now, I trust her completely and she makes me super happy. We're both comfortable being autistic together, lol. That friend got into a few relationships from then, but I don't know what happened to him. So yeah, I was super close to fall into all this crap, and when you don't have a realistic impression of human relations and the culture around you have this "men and women, different species" mentality, it's so easy to, out of desperation, accept these things at face-value.

[@IATEALLTHECHEESE]

By "yeah I was really autistic", do you mean that you are autistic or are you using the term as a slur? I really hope it's the former Thanks, An autistic person.

[@GlimpG]

@@IATEALLTHECHEESE slur? What do you mean?

[@IATEALLTHECHEESE]

@@GlimpG As in, you're using the term the wrong way? Basically, did you use it as a synonym for 'stupid' or what.

[@GlimpG]

@@IATEALLTHECHEESE yeah, I guess that's correct, as in socially awkward, shy, anxious and avoiding crowds and friends' and family reunnions.

[@VickivsWorld]

ok this is totally off topic, but as someone who has the same kindle cover, how do you fold it back like that without it automatically going to sleep as if you closed the cover? Is this the real secret of a high quality woman?

[@Rockhoppr3]

8:30 "A moment of silence for all the men not reading this book who will never experience the true happiness of being with a woman." *Me, a queer asexual man:* "Whelp."

[@nessyness5447]

The irony of the fact that is the ones reading it who are not gonna get to be with any women( or men for that matter)

[@cutecats1368]

LOL. That was a good point.

[@koivunen2489]

You know what's really nice? Looking your partner in the eye. Turning your back on them, for whatever reason, without fear.

[@realrealwarpet]

How to attract a woman *or man* Step one: don’t be a pile of human garbage Step two: find someone you find attractive. Step three: ask them on a date Step four: if step three fails, repeat step two. Step five: if you’re asexual, enjoy garlic bread.

[@Ddenver100]

It always occurs to me that woman would love to go to the Riviera with Jame Bond but I don't think they would want to be married to Bond. "Sorry you are having trouble with the children darling but M just called and it seems that Spectre is having a bit of a hissy fit also. Something about a Nuclear warhead. Well, I am off to Hong Kong. Can I bring you back something? Diapers?"

[@rachhbbb]

Help I got lost in my femininity :(

[@yogadork_namaste]

Help! I'm lost in it, too. How do we get out of here??

[@AW-EV-and-FTM]

@@yogadork_namaste he’s trying to trans you! Run! (Jk, ofc)

[@kennethswenson6214]

WHEW! I am relieved. One more thing to tick off on the list that somebody took care of for me. Wow Emma, you're a pal!

[@tahlialysse]

"no one can fight nature." Me: Looks at all the harm humans have done to the environment...

[@jarodstrain8905]

From an evolutionary perspective, it makes sense that people, not just women, would have some biological attraction to healthy, stable partners. Still, human psychology is far more complex than that. The book seems to be the same cliché nonsense seen in the dating genre for decades. As an old married guy, here's my two cents. Be real. Be friends. Romance is always up and down, so if there's no connection beyond the romantic, you're gonna have problems. You'll have problems anyway, cause that's life... but in a healthy relationship, you can face life together, not just when it's good.

[@shadowscalestudios]

Love the way you cover your topics. Always elegant and well expressed. 💞

[@schibleh531]

My eyes rolled so damn hard when I read the title. Thank you for braving that book Emma.

[@dascommissar5264]

“Do we have free will?” …asking for a friend…

[@zuzannakluk-zajkowska3863]

Seeing the title made me think "Jeez, this will be a great one to listen to." I really enjoy your content and your voice is very soothing for my ears. Also great cauldron mug, but it must be a bit hard to clean up.

[@Roadent1241]

I'm enamoured by the owl with t'goggles in the back~

[@ladyraven3418]

I think it might be easier, if the mouth is wide enough. Wondering where she got that, though.

[@janetkizer5956]

James Bond. Indiana Jones. Yeah, these fictional characters are hot and sexy -- because they're fictional. You couldn't live with them. Imagine being chased by dangerous spies all the time.

[@dangerliesbeforeyou]

ok i got super excited when you mentioned primeval lol! (i, too, had a massive crush on andrew btw lol) on another note, the fact that this dude managed to get this book actually published LITERALLY makes me wanna cringe & run away lol

[@jerizzome]

Something tells me you've read enough of these pickup books to compile all the things you've read into a pickup book of your own

[@seandobson6692]

The misuse of the word literally, is a pet peeve of mine also.

[@ziploc2000]

What do James Bond, Han Solo and Indiana Jones have in common? Besides being outdated movie stereotypes? At least two of them failed to form a long-term relationship with a woman, high quality or otherwise. In fairness to Bond his wife and more recently a potential long term partner died, but I'd say that's a warning sign that he's not a man to get into bed with. His had sex with/died ratio is worrisome, even to another man. Solo had a kid but failed to form a successful relationship with the mother until much later in life. We don't know how long the second iteration of that relationship lasted. Solo did get together with Princes Leia eventually, but I don't think the official canon records how long that lasted. A successful long term relationship might start with physical attraction, but it's emotional attraction that is more important. In my case a sense of humor is very important, as being 30 lbs overweight and bald probably isn't pulling the birds as much as I'd like. Shared hobbies helps too.

[@elphabarichardson607]

From what I recall you are correct about Han and Leia''s relationship timeline being unclear. While "Bloodlines" does confirm they were married, it also states that they lived apart most of the time and would go long periods without seeing each other because Leia was busy with her duties, and Han was out in the gallaxy racing starships and finding exciting things to do. They were still technically married when he died, although estranged. (A bit of a confusion between cannon based on he books and the movies, since Ben is not their child.) If we start their relationship in The Return of the Jedi and end it with his death in The Force Awakens, their relationship lasted 30 years. But was it a happy 30- years for this particular "alpha" male? Obviously not. By the way, I am happily and wonderfully married to a man deemed a "beta" by his "alpha" brother. He is (by his own observations) on the softer side of physical appearance,. He also plays video games and is non-confrontational. He is the most wonderful human I have ever met. We have been together for 12 years. (His "alpha" brother has been searated from his wife for seven years of theri 10-year marriage.)

[@bengough6772]

@@elphabarichardson607 a) that's great about your relationship B) kinda sucks that your in laws relationship crumbled C) seems like people who unironically team people beta for being softer are, in all likelihood, really sad and unfulfilled men (sometimes women) who really need some help opening up.

[@Chatrbuug]

"What's the opposite of a credit?" My time has come! My accounting degree is paying off! It's a debit! Kinda.

[@bloop6111]

The more I learn about the manosphere, the more esoteric it seems. All this masculine and feminine energy and being able to sense a feminine presence standing behind you and whatnot. Which seems odd considering that a lot of people who are into this are conservative and right leaning. I guess that’s why people compare it to astrology. I really want to see a Christian influencer take on this issue like: “Stop participating in alpha culture, it is sorcery, here’s why…”

[@bloop6111]

@@edm-london1660 yeah that’s what I meant. I’m saying the manosphere has vibes of that. Not criticizing it necessarily, just noticed that it has similar vibes to the “left wing hippy type” stuff, probably without meaning to.

[@bloop6111]

@@edm-london1660 ohhhhh I see what happened there. I said “which is surprising considering a lot of people who are into that are right wing”. It sounded like I was talking about “people who are into esoterica” but I was talking about people who are into alpha stuff (are usually right wing) Miscommunication haha :)

[@jonnymcawesome2331]

You are an absolute gem of a human being. This was absurdly entertaining (and painful).

[@lemonflavouredquark]

To repeat a joke based on a fictional conversation. Person 1. My boyfriend treats me like a princess Person 2. That sounds nice Person 1. Not very. Last week he married me to someone I don’t know to secure an alliance with France.

[@vanpunk]

I genuinely appreciate the open mindedness Emma brings to the table. As an old disabled punk rocker who lives in a van with a kitty cat i know I'm not the alpha target market but as a sysmale i cringe every time i see alpha but this was more conversational and that gets people talking (and maybe thinking? ) and that's a good thing.

[@seansteele6532]

The Aplha Male is the dark side mirror of the himbo.

[@Rain-Dirt]

I love that black mug looking a wee bit like a little cauldron, fileld with what imagin could be delicious pumpkin soup! :) The cover of your tablet looks nice as well.

[@MountainPearls]

If I smell ”Alpha” on a man, I will walk away. NOT interested!

[@parapoliticos52]

Can you tell us what is the number one erotic fantasy of women?

[@stylis666]

@@parapoliticos52 Men that don't ask stupid questions.

[@MrGonzo-xj2wk]

@@parapoliticos52 men who aren't overly agro and aggressive to the point of being truly frightening, which is what most meat heads who constantly drone on about how they're so "alpha" are.

[@jojohanna8795]

How do how do these books get written, edited, and published without someone saying hey mate this might not be a good idea stop

[@joshuapray]

Self-publishing: Had your book/idea rejected by a publisher? It's not that the idea's bad, it's that the SYSTEM is wrong! Please pay me $100 so you can call yourself an author.

[@jojohanna8795]

@@joshuapray But like, does this guy have friends? Family? Anyone who could have laughed at his idea in his personal life.

[@joshuapray]

​@@jojohanna8795 Yeah, good point. Apparently not!

[@fish2380]

I hear 'courtly behavior' and I automatically think of the funny bird dances.

[@saml.purecats4695]

Great video! thank you for you suffering haha! It's hard for me to separate patriarchy and monogamy. To me, monogamy was created by men who wanted to own women. The whole "alpha" sh*t, the winning a competition with other men, "loyalty", the key/lock metaphore... We mostly expected monogamy from women, men had mistresses. The same men would think/say that women who are "mistresses" are sl*ts. I think we should question monogamy more.

[@OpinionsNoOneCaresAbout]

"What do Indiana Jones, James Bond, and Han Solo have in common?" Indiana Jones and Han Solo were played by the same man, and James Bond played his dad. ...was that not what he was going for?

[@pris1378]

and once again i am glad that i completely opted out of the whole relationship game... aro ace rules!

[@pyrethorn]

This was great! Looking forward to chapter 2!

[@andreabellinger819]

Do men really want to be treated like kings? You have a press conference at 3:00; let's do better than last time. There are a few gaps in the food supply, so you'll need to remedy that. The kingdom to the right is still dragging on about that border issue, so you'll need to meet with them. You're wearing a T-shirt, so you're going to need to change before we go out because that's not permitted. You need to be pleasing to the eye for the public. You have about 10 charity events to attend this week, so let's work on our appearance a bit. Also, you'll need to contribute to each charity so they know you support them; not just dollars... participation as well. Have you reviewed the new proposed laws? We're on a time crunch. : )

[@sisuguillam5109]

And marry for the country, not for love.

[@MtSpider]

As single person, im saddened by the news that this wonderful creator has a Significant other. But also happy for you emma. Keep being you! 😆

[@magranamx]

Please introduce us to your t-shirts more often. I loved the non-binary duck, and I fell the one you wore on today’s video is just as interesting

[@HoldOffHunger]

I read this ENTIRE BOOK! It plagiarized the poem "Invictus" by the poet William Ernest Henley, page 85 ("master of my fate, captain of my soul"). The well-written parts: stolen by others. The badly-written patrs: probably original. You rock, Emma!

[@brittanygeren8881]

Anyone else hear the" cool girl" monologue when this guy talks about his high quality women?

[@fisharepeopletoo9653]

I remember my days of waking up with self- confidence and ecstacy. Well, ecstacy anyway, but you get self confidence soon after taking it

[@michellejean11]

The problem with him having an editor for his book is that it would become a short article, not a book. I think he has watched too many heroic Hollywood movies and needs a reality check. If anyone sets specific criteria for finding a partner they are almost sure to fail.

[@parapoliticos52]

Must be the reason why a growing number of young women are single, 30-40%. Not to say anything about women above 40 that are unmarried..

[@michellejean11]

@@parapoliticos52 You lost me? Are there more single women because they can't find alpha males (lol)? Their expectations are to high? Or because women are more independent and capable?

[@parapoliticos52]

Many reasons: -Family oriented men seek suitable partners -Many males are feminized and unattractive to women -Strong males can't be bothered with "liberated" women's unreasonable demands and settle for occasional sex or seek only sex from a relationship. Of those bachelors those that eventually seek , with age, to built a family, search for "unspoiled goods" for partners, usually younger and more traditional women. - most family oriented quiet types good ol' boys are taken by their mid 20s - unmarried less dominant older young men stay.away from women that intimidated them and settle for more manageable and agreeable partners -growing number of males live asexual lifes at least for extended period of times

[@Kassadin8088]

@@parapoliticos52 where is your scientific proof for this? Or are you just going to make claims?

[@betlamed]

You definitely exude a certain type of charm. Not sure if it's THIS type of charm, but definitely a certain type.

[@UNknown-sd3ki]

Maybe frog detective can find out what happen to Brian's editor.😂😂😂

[@faunaprince4466]

the gentleman that came up with the alpha male theory is the biggest proof of "once you publish your words, they are no longer just your own"

[@slithytove2]

I don't think the first of "literally" was actually incorrect. I think he literally, really does want to be treated like a king by "his" woman.

[@rustlingbushes7678]

Long hair is historically masculine, albeit not the most practical. Hair may glam up people, but it requires more maintenance. Short hair is easier to take care of. If anyone wants long hair, go for it! If they want short hair, go for it! If they want to shave their head, go for it!

[@NebulousMusic]

This book sounds like it was written by a misogynistic secondary school student who needs to hit a word count in their essay.