REASONS NOT TO GIVE A MAN ANOTHER CHANCE

[@ayeeshaj1366]

Wallahi it’s like you’re talking to me😢😢😢 from one video to another in the past month, it’s like Allah is using you to talk to me. I have been having this thoughts of giving the 100th chance to the same guy who has mentally and emotionally traumatized and this video came today. The fact that I believe everyone deserves another chance is the worst thing that has happened to me. Everyone has told me to not give him another change but i kept doing it because “everyone changes” May Allah grant me the strength to make the right decision for me

[@NafisasPearlz]

Ameen. I’m so sorry to hear this sister.May Allah strengthen you and grant you peace of mind. Ameen.

[@Pinkypromise8891]

Im sorry you are going through this, sis❤PLEASE! TRUST ME if I say you are stronger than you think! You can do this and dont be scared of the future without that person or the fear of being alone, its in the hands of Rabb al 'alameen and he will give you something better in sha Allah! May Allah SWT give you strength to conquer this🤲💝

[@tinaali3686]

@@Pinkypromise8891Ameen good advice indeed for the sister Above…. Allah swt is very very very merciful he won’t leave you alone

[@chocolatemoose4057]

I went through the same. May Allah bless you and ease your affairs sister. You’re in my duas❤️I know how bad it feels and exactly why you gave him so many chances. May Allah keep your heart soft and loving for the right one some day

[@Salma30b]

I met a kind gentleman who seemed severely broken by his past relationship but I thought "oh he will heal in time with me" LOL! nope. He left overnight the minute it started getting serious. I later saw a warning dream about him and how miserable my life would be with him had we been married. Alhamdulillah Allah saved me from something disastrous, but the point is, we should try to never be carried away by our emotions and cover up the red flags.

[@Salma30b]

@@paralleluniverse298 lol ok, so I saw that I was married to this guy and he was completely emotionally unavailable to the extent that I was so frustrated and literally ready to leave any minute. We were living in his house and the whole entire time he was fixing broken things in the house. He would fix one thing and the other would break, and then he said "this house is just not getting fixed!". (houses in dreams symbolize the state of the married life, stability, tranquility, etc). It was so real that when I woke up from the dream that feeling of suffocation was still there, and I frantically checked my phone to make sure he's deleted.

[@Livelearnapply]

This is for me,and I finally accepted this Friday night and blocked them no need to hurt myself down the road they are who they are and that’s ok he’s just not for me and that ok he’s not gonna change so I believe who he’s showing me he is.. I deserve better

[@NafisasPearlz]

Wow sis! What you have done is very brave. May Allah enrich your life hence forth.

[@raznabegum5847]

They never change, I gave my current partner chances after chances & im in pain. 21years in he just learnt to mask it but he’s mask drops then I do reactive abuse which is turning me into a monster & he’s happy looking well & healthy where I’m looking depressed. He loves me living in a insecure state. Now I have a 15 yr old & he is in competition with my child as my child is going into body building. I wish I ended it when I was 18. Foolish me gave him a chance - that’s where he lost respect for me.

[@Livelearnapply]

@@raznabegum5847 right. We was together 7 years and they was the worst years ever I finally got a way worked on myself and 2 years later he started calling and coming around. I’m glad I stopped it, and didn’t allow myself to get re- invested I’m at peace with my decision. I know God has better for me. I pray you find the strength to leave. You deserve to be happy and healthy too. We got to take care of ourselves

[@chocolatemoose4057]

@@raznabegum5847ya Allah. Sister please don’t put your self down. I know how hurt and traumatized you feel from your experience. May Allah ease your pain and make your future better than your past inshAllah and grant you good in the next life. I would love to hear you out if you want to talk about it 💜

[@beautiful1423]

Subhanallah I left him after 16 years 😢I gave him many chances.but Alhamdulillah am feeling good.may Allah make it easy for us😊

[@chocolatemoose4057]

May Allah make it easy for you sister 💜

[@NafisasPearlz]

Ameen

[@Treats15]

I'm sure dear its not easy ,,,but Allah will guide u

[@NiceUkko]

Alhamdulilláh Shukran … I recently divorced my spouse due to disrespect and his misuse of Quran with multiple wives. Allah has guided and provided me with confidence and self-worth to leave gracefully and never look back! Loneliness is so peaceful when compared to a man who Iman is contradictory and poor!

[@NafisasPearlz]

May Allah replace what you have lost with something far far better. Ameen

[@NiceUkko]

@@NafisasPearlz Shukran Ameen Ameen Ameen

[@fatimkaba3044]

You are just extending your pain period😢.. Subhana’Allah this is so true

[@wandaba90]

Recently divorced almost 3 months now. Every chance I gave him he grew more arrogant giving chances of a disloyal and dishonest man is a disservice to yourself. Take it from me I finally left for good and left in financial, spiritual, physical ( lost 80 pound in less than 6 months) and also hopeful. When your done your done. Sisters if your not getting your haqq and your doing a lot and not having your needs met. Reconsider are you proud of him as much as he's happy to have you?

[@safirawaziri7695]

SubhanAllah! In a way i heard all the doubts in my mind, for years, out loud, but i always thought that staying and making the best of it (growin sabr) is also a good quality.. Like the wife of Firoun, Asiya.. One of the 4 best woman of paradise. But then again.. That was a different time and i think that leaving Firoun would be like suïcide.. And Allah swt knows best. Now i think that the reason we are here and Allah swt gives us children to look after and help being the best they can be.. As a muslim and as an individual karakterwise.. That can only be fulfilled in a surrounding where there are people who have the same vision and intension in words and actions. If that is not the case.. Like you said.. You can never be the best version of yourself and can never teach your children to be! Children SEE and do.. They do net hear and do.. SubhanAllah! We need to choose the way that makes us and our children the best version.. The best Mo'min! May Allah swt guide us and make the difficult easy. Ameen!❤❤

[@NafisasPearlz]

Absolutely. Thank you for your contributions, may Allah help to ease all for us.

[@safirawaziri7695]

@@NafisasPearlz Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and breaking through "cultural" and "Black" and "White" thinking! You speak logic.. Exactly what Allah swt encourages us to do!. Alhamdulilah and Ameen!

[@sadafahmed9563]

Gd advice. Left a 50 year old emotionally unstable man - who had an agenda for a 'Visa and house'. He was just plain selfish, stingy and arrogant and very lazy. You shouldn't take on a man that cheats unfortunately, it's a big think it's south Asian community to take them back and such women are praised, when the men never take them back - and no it's not a woman's job to change a man they never will! Also the other day I heard of a south Asian Indian man living in the UK who alleged wants his wife to wear the hijab/ 'cover up' in her own house apparently. Believe it or not. Definitely grounds for divorce! Unbelievable.

[@NafisasPearlz]

May Allah guide us all aright.

[@zeinabmansaray9726]

South asian men cheat?

[@MissDimsky]

This video came at the right time for me, there is this guy right now who has hurt me and I have distanced myself from him, now he is love bombing me and I am doing my best to stay away, he has very low self-esteem and I even had to talk to his supervisor so that he can leave me alone. Thank you so much for this video, I will be more aware on the situation

[@NafisasPearlz]

So glad to hear you're safe sis. You deserve your peace of mind. Stay strong and stay prayed up insha'Allah.

[@MadinaAhmed90]

Wallahi my dear beloved sister Nafisa May ALLAH عز و جل bless you immensely for your amazing work! Keep sending us your pearls ❤

[@NafisasPearlz]

Ameen. Waiyakum

[@TomiwaRodia]

You spoke nothing but facts in this video!! 👏🏾👏🏾

[@NafisasPearlz]

Thanks sis

[@zaynerbhussayn9565]

I have not watch it, saved it for later... But all I can say is thank you sis

[@Varietygarden]

Your speech gives me so much strength to take this step right now, jazakumullah khair

[@mahimoralteachings9056]

First one to see this video and lucky too

[@latinalife2458]

He betrayed me before and 18 years later he was dating a 28 years old, humiliated me every single day .

[@Meemo44]

😔 betrayal is painful and so psychologically damaging. I too was betrayed, after 22 years of marriage he chose some equally vile individual over myself and our children. This woman of his was already on her 4th husband when they began their emotional affair. These humans cannot be classed as men, they are disgusting losers who need a taste of their own poison.

[@aremuaminat4314]

Wow….this is really loaded….Thanks for the insight

[@Letyourlightshine333]

I want leave but cannot due to finances, family will not help me either.Request can you share tips on how to make money while being home, for the women who are stuck but can’t leave because of no money.

[@emma647]

Is he abusive?

[@JavahirBakhshiyeva]

You are so right. God bless you sister

[@yasminm1816]

Assalamu aleykum sister. I have a feeling that you record videos just for me, knowing my struggles. Jazakallah khair ❤❤❤

[@NafisasPearlz]

Walaikumsalam. Waiyakum sister. Thank Allah sister for his guidance and do not be afraid to do what is best for you with the fear of Allah in mind.

[@sarphyarhmuhammad5251]

Ya salam🥰 Nafisa, you are a blessing to us. Thank you ❤

[@NafisasPearlz]

Alhamdulilah, thanks for watching

[@ghizlane770]

Jazaki Allah for your advices ❤

[@fatimkaba3044]

Short term pain for long term gain ❤❤❤❤❤

[@mariambundu9464]

Thank you my sister you have just said it all. I had to argue three police officers yesterday for my narcissistic husband, he had been the most deceitful, annoying, disloyal person I have ever known. I don't think I will never love him again.

[@1rozi]

Shukran Sis. An awesome presentation. May Allah Bless you. 🤲🏾🇯🇲

[@ruqaiyahhussain4195]

Sister Nafisa i parted from a Narcissist man three years ago he brings down my self-esteem and stalks my account he two time player and wants to have fun definitely he had been disloyal to me in the past with his ex his a walking redflag No SECOND CHANCE!!!!

[@NafisasPearlz]

Good for you sister. A life with such person is like a prison. May Allah protect us all.

[@ruqaiyahhussain4195]

Ameen am glad I saw all the sign Allah got me out and now I love myself

[@nadirajames4267]

SubhanaAllah!!!! Sis very beneficial and beautiful reminders and advice on this one Ma shaa Allah TabarakAllah 🤲🏾🤲🏾❤️

[@siddiqohoseni1314]

Wallahi....everything you said in this video is absolutely nothing but the truth.....❤❤❤

[@fardowsaosman867]

I needed this a lot. Jazakallah qeyr sister.

[@n.n9035]

Salam alaykum, I am a sister stuck in a marriage, pregnant with my 5th child but I am overseas with my narcissist husband. Im not allowed to take my kids back, to the west. while I am happier to raise them here, I cannot do it single. He's made me 100% dependent on him.. He even told me without him I'm like a fish without water.. I don't want to leave my kids behind but realise I need to put an end to this. He tells me to get khula, but I worry I will regret and no sheikh will give it because he claims my reasons r not good enough.

[@rashidahnanyonjo1697]

Oh dear! May Allah ease for you your situation.

[@shahanaali6144]

You are changing lives ❤

[@NafisasPearlz]

By Allah’s permission ❤

[@muritalaakande69]

Compliment, Reality, it is better to leave a rationship in order to live a life

[@TemujinKojiro]

“He doesn’t even have GCSEs in science” floored me 😂

[@NafisasPearlz]

LOL

[@mariamabduba3053]

JazakaAllah sister ❤❤❤❤

[@Meemo44]

Subhan’Allah, so very validating, Jazak’Allah khair sister. After 22 years my husband had a second emotional affair with the same woman, but he refused to recognise the inappropriateness of the relationship. She is not family and they wanted to marry when they were young. He wouldn’t let go of her, even to save our marriage. I did hold on for many months, but it became too distressing when he started to become distant from me because he was interacting with her all day and evening.

[@wisdomaphyaamponsahezralla3770]

Good bless you my dear sister Nafisa

[@rolaalmasri5857]

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته نفيسة الغالية ❤

[@AnnSearsBowen]

They do not change

[@truth.peace.]

Zjazak Allah oe gairan sister Nafisa!! This will help a lot of woman in sha Allah ❤

[@Mr.P4328]

Dear Nafisa, assalamo alaikum. You have been bringing insight to fellow women like you. Please note that on sural al isra verse 67 ending by wakanal in saanu kafuuran. Insaa nu means men in the sense of human being including both men and women, and the translation in displayed at the beginning of your video may be misleading as it is translated man as may lead to understand that the word there refers to the male humans (zararin), considering the specific topic of your address. Stay blessed.

[@mohammadfahim2838]

God bless you sister

[@NafisasPearlz]

Ameen and you too

[@jay77360]

Spot on sis, may Allah SWT bless you

[@geekygirl648]

Dear sis nafisa can you make videos about how to become socially intelligent?

[@jay77360]

Spot on sis, may Allah SWT bless you

[@NafisasPearlz]

Ameen. You too!

[@نسيمالقرآن-خ9ن]

Excellent ❤

[@rasha2599]

Really great video❤

[@NafisasPearlz]

Thank you!!

[@mothersoul1]

red flags staring us in he face

[@rabiahlabaran3868]

Good afternoon i have relationship i cant keep peaceful relationship issues because ive ben abused severally. How can you help me

[@yzulaiha98]

Asalamualaikum warahmatullah wabarakahtuh sister Thanks for this message mam

[@faridayasmin9776]

Aslamulaikum sister can I speak to u need ur help and advice on a topic .

[@fatimkaba3044]

This is so true 😢not a good fit

[@rafnew]

SubhanAllah! Sis Nafisa, do know what I’m going through?!

[@fatimkaba3044]

I agree

[@aishatbashir9961]

Sis what if he always says he will change and he doesn’t? Do u still give chance?😢

[@mantenehsaccoh2551]

Alhamduillah 🙏 Shukary 🙏

[@zahi9274]

I have learnt that my husband is bisexual and a gay i am married since 12 years i am prone to STDs and shattered in life i know about his reality many years ago n haven't shared with anyone however i did confront this issue to him directly he doesn't accept gets angry at that moment and then he is v polite n soft spoken with me and calms me down and says he loves me. What should i do ? I know about his male partners and recently he has found a new gay who is in his life m not able to digest this shameful act of his anymore i have started to hate him plz throw light on this in the realm of Islam how should a woman react to this awful thing plz reply to me i am v depressed and hiding this issue inside me for years and only crying im front of Allah

[@aishasalako2912]

Assalamu Alaikum sister. Please could you recommend a good book about marriage and rights of married women in Islam

[@shaistaijaz2019]

💯☝️but for some it’s too late 💔🤲

[@YoungRiaz]

Subhanallah

[@marwamimouful]

Thank you nafisa this is true 👍

[@NafisasPearlz]

You are welcome

[@kdpathak5202]

In Quran 43:32, God say he raise some over others in ranks. He also say he raise some ppl over other ppl. God raised only Suleiman the Magnificient n one Ottoman empire but by snatching away other ppl's lives, lands n power. Ottoman empire forcefully conquered the Mamluk empire n other lands n Suleiman killed his popular son in fear of losing throne to him. Why God could not come up with a system of world where everyone can be equal n none had to compete n take over more of world's limited land, power or resource than others to rise? Suleiman don't need to conquer others' lands n property or practice fratricide to be great or If richest 1% ppl can own more than half of world's resource without hurting the rest 99% ppl, isn't it fair,not God's selective raise n favoritism of few over others? I believe the main purpose and wisdom is hierarchy and stability and God just favors higher whomever he wants even if everyone could be equal. God says it himself in quran 43:32. no denying it. Whomever God raises higher in rank than you can be an oppressor like the pharaoh and the mongols. God himself says in quran that he is the one who gave the pharaoh and the Aad nation strength over the other people. there are pure evils in the world like the story of the girl name Junko Furuta. Please search her name online and read her story. Robber shouldn't be punished if he served divine purpose by killing me. Because in this case robber did a good deed just like Khidr who killed the boy. If robber gets punished for doing a good deed like killing me unknowingly, then Khidr should get punished as well for klling the boy knowingly.

[@Boss-gk8kc]

Astronaut 😂 You hurt my feelings there

[@NafisasPearlz]

😂

[@saccuccirene3415]

Walaikumsallam my sister I believe you’re married. Walahi I will stop watching your videos because your Beaty may make me course fitnaa I need to to lower my gaze Subhanallah you are beautiful Naaahhhhh Nafisa bye bye

[@BigBroSadiq]

make one for men sis

[@shahanaali6144]

May Allah bless you with goodness and wisdom ameen. Thank you fir doing these videos. Maybe Allah is helping you to help me ? Alhamdulillah ❤️ please keep me on your duas 😢

[@ProfDrabusufian]

The speaker should not advice for separation. Two person can't come to a point always. Dispute may happen. But Quran give dominance to husband. It must be considered. Look at pigeon. The male one takes the upper hand. So don't take hasty decision of separation.

[@Ela-mj5bc]

What do you do with emotional abuse controlling religious husband who critize if you not practicing Islam the way he thinks is right just his way he knows the best.

[@Hazelgreen007]

Is he jammati?

[@Ela-mj5bc]

@Hazelgreen007 he is into only he right and the one who are the same more towards salafi full sunny if you know what I mean

[@madinaanathalee4936]

I never want he come back to my life😭😭

[@yusufjama]

Allah SWT knows the best and gave us life time chances "tawba" and the winner here and after here is zabireen, sister I love all your topics accept this one because you are encouraging to the woman to destroy their Muslim family, I'm against the men who's hurt and disappointed their wife's but You don't have single daliil/evidence from Quran and Sunnah of our beloved Rasool Allah peace be upon him There is a Sharia law saying something about it and you suppose to teach them then they will collect their rights from it Lastly, answer this question for me please Why dalaq it's 3 times? Isn't it 3 chances?