Relationship Advice: 4 Listening Skills For Relationships

[@yosratag918]

they never stop talking because they never felt heard by you 👏👏👏👏

[@BrandenNHPT]

Thanks for this video! It covers alot of my weakness in my current relationship. I will have to start implementing these into my way of thinking. Helpful video

[@MikkoMurmeli]

I think I've been bad at 3rd and 4th point, 3rd especially. It just comes naturally to me to think of a way to help them when they tell about their troubles instead of listening for the sake of listening. If you're like me there, you should probably trust your intuition to give them good advice if you got any anyways, and just listen for the sake of listening when they tell you of their troubles and try to help them solve the problem after they've done talking. 4th point is just about being interested. It can be hard when you know all she's gonna talk about is her daily activities and you think you know her well enough to put words on her mouth, I guess in that case you need some humility through self-criticalness, questioning whether you actually know that much about her. And people change anyways so it's good to be updated on things.

[@Football5198]

We’re males. We try to fix things because we’ve been raised to do that. It took a long time to figure out that she wanted to be listened to with no “fix it” input.

[@caseymyslive7632]

My wife I am here to give you my knowledge, understanding and wisdom.

[@tigerex777]

I do exactly this with my girlfriend. 41 years of dating experience paid off and my current girlfriend is reaping the benefits

[@777Incredible]

This is brilliant information!...Thank you so much!

[@ivarubinic1527]

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[@EdG-rn7dk]

Years ago I spent 2 months in individual counseling, to learn these techniques. Too 2 is key.

[@odinsdad3668]

This is amazing video very helpful.

[@joshuni]

Listening is important, good ideas.

[@MissVSGirl]

I watched a lot of your videos with my husband and his response was "see, I do all of them" :D :D :D :D :D :D I was simply shocked. He really thinks he does all of them. Like Mark Gungor says "Men think, they are perfect. Men are in love with themselves". lol

[@islandnative8084]

Ive just found your video and its really on point I'm gonna try this with my bf knowing that I'm someone with stubborn weakness and some attitude problems😔😔

[@neoplasma1]

what if what she's saying is actually hurting you? stuff like she doesn't love you anymore or doesn't like the sex anymore? how do you respond to that??

[@Peritye]

Neo Klyptic thats the end of the relationship :/

[@mamathemeat]

Omg did you listen to the video? Ask why and listen curiously. *facepalm*

[@rosegolden2039]

LOL Jessica is right... Why is she saying these things? 😂

[@JulesOille]

How do you handle defensiveness?

[@kimberly-nh1sy]

Thank you so much. Love listening to you. You help me so much

[@xMr.Graves]

Good show mate🖤

[@vanyanedelcheva6226]

It's fantastic advice.Need to get it into practice.

[@DanielDauphin]

Makes video about listening. Makes large chunks of the important audio compete with background music. Well played!

[@DustyQuests]

Yeah fucking jamming to the music now, i got these new headphones and i cant even concentrate on his voice anymore... hey wtf why the music stop, wtf is this guy talking about?

[@masteryourdesire.4463]

Good information Thank you!

[@oscarmorataya1768]

I believe the 2nd and 4th tip are worth noting...unfortunately, this video does not teach you how to actively listen. One has to listen with all of our senses, one has to learn to read emotion, content, body language and lots more. I wish I had mastered long ago, what makes a rockstar listener is asking yourself, how would I feel if I experience exactly what this person is saying? this is tricky because your partner may be complaining about you. Great topic, there is so much more to learn.

[@rubymendez388]

This really helps!

[@lordspittah8432]

Ima start listening to her regardless of the agitation

[@theultimateman7231]

great video. Thanks for the tips

[@Mo-hz8pn]

Thank you

[@hope011]

Thankyou 🙏🏼

[@reemalfattal4665]

Thank you man I’ll try those tips with my love.. I needed to hear that. Thank you to the moon and back 🤘🌷✨

[@WarpedThought]

Thank you 🙏

[@leadermaker]

Thank you for your valuable information, I specially like your last point and I couldn't agree more. When we listen to learn we are absolutely fully engaged and this is definitely noticed by our partner. I would add that these techniques could be very useful in all human interactions. Cheers for this!!!

[@living4thekingdom170]

Great tips!

[@je3f0o74]

thanks for advice

[@MAHAKALAXXXV]

great advice . thank you

[@NothingbutNiece]

This is so on point!

[@petejojola1128]

Thanks.

[@BEYOUTOTHEFUL]

VERY GOOD WELL DONE. ANGELA

[@supercazzolaish]

Emerson Monteiro _Agree with you! The techniques of that program are so simple that_ _any woman can use them to get astonishing results shockingly in_ _a little time. Just imagine girl what will happen when he calls you_ _begging you to get back together._

[@supercazzolaish]

Anyway emerson, you interchange the site name. The correct one is this: xgetEXnowx.blogspot.com just click on the link =)

[@bigkj2.027]

This is what am going to need

[@chelcysunderland4079]

Thank you! I'll be emailing you soon!

[@TheBroTherapist]

Great video!!

[@jamesnjuguna8164]

nice video

[@pregachengalroyan4994]

More listening... More intimacy

[@carmelle1989]

Your tips are very unique and extremely helpful. Thank you so much!!

[@sirenofsound]

When I ask to understand, my partner just gets angry and asks why I didn't hear him the first time instead of simply repeating what he said so I can understand. How do I break THAT wall down?

[@milennialmama]

Omg girl same

[@MikeNMusic]

I struggle with split attention real bad, I need to drop what I’m doing and focus on what my wife is saying.

[@davidvandermerwe3244]

I have adhd and even had trouble listening to this video, my partner is someone who needs to talk and be listened to for quite abit more than I am capable of currently. We are absolutely perfect match in every other way yet this is ruining our relationship. Is there hope?

[@UnifiedFriends]

There is hope, communicate clearly when your limit is reached. (As long as it isn't already after 3 minutes. That could be misunderstood) Maybe after 10 minutes of rest you are open to new input?! At this point, you can continue your conversation, but make sure someone remembers the last topic or statement. Otherwise you go in circles or dismiss the topic completely out of irritation.

[@drewescorcia4223]

thank you so much! this vide was very helpful!!!! but one question.... I tried to tell my boyfriend about my nail story and how this lady applied ode amounts of top coat on my nail :( but he just flexed in the mirror instead and wasn't using his listening skills :| how do I fix this issue, and him? thanks for the help.... PS. his muscles arent even that big idk what he was even flexing...

[@mariolovescake]

Thanks

[@mikzm.3194]

I'm giving my bf hard time when he comes to talk to me. Explain something or say something. I always over acting. I don't know how to handle this behavior. We are in intercultural relationship.

[@TheWillvis]

i need help .i have a.d.d. and she hates me for it.what can I do.

[@PapadeeOgunnubi]

On point

[@sarahvasquez5074]

Turns out not everyone has an inner “voice”. I have both pictures and an inner voice. Some people only have pictures. I wonder what the word for that would be.

[@Cloud_Owl]

The voice in your head is the one that just asked, "What voice?" - classic!

[@katiehughes6933]

Can you make me listen to my partner because I am interested and make you be interested because I want to be interested

[@Robert-3691]

This is truly exceptional. I had the privilege of reading something similar, and it was exceptional. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

[@avaceleste]

God. You are an Angel on earth.

[@whatyouneedtoknow]

This video kzbin.info/www/bejne/jp2Xg6iGdq54lac is also about being a good listener by removing barriers and learning about active listening.

[@מנחםלוי-ר3מ]

So true

[@P83-o2k]

It's funny even if I implement these and being a bad listener becomes fixed (my apparent issue) then I'm sure something else will be wrong but if course the perfect wife never has to change

[@UnifiedFriends]

I understand your point of view, but approach it differently. She likes to complain, you like to solve problems. win/win The best thing about active listening is: you'll never be caught of guard again. She'll throw in little hints here and there, the breakout occurs after x amount of no change or communication. Of course you don't have to take action on every little criticism. But by listening, you can take notes on upcoming issues and take immediate action if necessary. To strengthen your point of view or to defuse the situation entirely.

[@shanekasunich9756]

If your a good listener you won't have to do anything, it will come naturally. I do love the idea of NOT multi tasking

[@yosratag918]

with a capital L 😂😂😂😂💚

[@lisazorro979]

ACCUSATIONS OF NOT LISTENING IN COUPLEDOM .... I'm not Lisa Zorro, I'm her fiance, Martin Camden, and we have this problem a lot ~ each accusing the other of not listening and, right now, each accusing the other of not letting the plaintiff other get a word in edgeways !! Then I, the male bridge-bulder, as I like to put it, try to clarify the situation by saying, "Look, darling, either we're both guilty of the same crime here, or one of us is a bigger problem than the other ~ which do you think it is !? ~ to which she replies, "Forget it", to which I reply, "I'm happy to carry on trying to sort this out, AND I can also be happy to forget it (as she's the one with the presenting issue), so by asking me to 'forget it', I'm going to assume that this means we're both happy to end this conversation for the time being unless you say otherwise", to which she says, "Forget it" again, to which I respond, "Deal", which then results in (blissful for me) silence FOR A WHILE !! Then, a little later, she pipes up another presenting issue ~ this time she wants us to spend some of our spare cash on fixing a little cosmetic problem of hers that has been irritating her for a long time. This then reminds me of a clarification to our sometimes updated financial agreement that I had not fully run past her yet, so I vied for my turn to get in edgeways a sufficient number of words ~ a proposal that she immediately agreed to ~ HALLELUJAH !! Then I explained a confusion about our benefits situation that I really should clarify first thing on Manday morning ~ then she told me that it had been HER that had cancelled our JOINT claim under advice from so called 'professionals' !! Then I explained that I would be happy to agree with the benefits people on Monday as to whether we should stay on SEPARATE claims, or switch back to a JOINT claim ~ which she was then also okay about. Then she was okay for me to continue (to get some more of MY words in edgeways), so I started to explain my latest financial plan update so as to gain her approval / agreement ~ and things have now been okay since then ~ but can anyone not see that, despite mutually identical allegations (both not listening / both not letting the other get a word in edgeways), one partner (in this case Lisa) is habitually more difficult than the other, and the other has to remain extremely skilful in gaining healthy resolution, rather than in ending up with the usual 2-way World War 3 histrionics on our hands yet again ~ OMG !! And it's my contention that it's usually the woman who's the problem here in such a way that no third party notices, and such that the man gets the blame coz he's supposed to be the greater bully with threats of bigger muscles, and greater capacity for callousness, being his secret weapons of choice that typically result in the woman being / feeling (allegedly) outmanoeuvred / oppressed ~ and virtually everyone believes this shit although, typically, it's the women who's the bigger problem with the man simply not having the skills to control an out-of-control 'monster' (with an entitlement problem) without everyone thinking HE'S the problem ~ going as far as losing child custody battles unfarly, and then being financially shafted by brainwashed governments / brainwashed legal systems !! Now, sometimes, to too often, to maybe more than 50% of the time, THE PROBLEM MAY BE THE OTHER WAY AROUND ~ but female victims get loads of free resources, where male victims get ignored, and the resultant male suicide rate doesn't seem to matter to anyone either, with female complaints being investigated and acted upon to the hilt, and men being expected just to take it, like the big ugly invulnerable disposable men that (allegedly) they are ~ but, typically, are not !! Who can explain to me where I'm going wrong in my analysis here !? And who can explain what should be done about this God-damned awful mess !? And who can explain why Laura Doyle's answer is not one of the best so far, and who can also come up with some other potentially wonderful solution candidates in favour of family peace, harmony, happiness and maybe even some joy !? ~ see www.lauradoyle.org !?

[@alwaysmyself_07]

Ok. #1 being responsive with 'I get it or I understand ect.." Is a trick that people use to pretend they're listening. Big L !!! 👎