I Was Gang Raped By 5 Men (Part 1) | Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja - Episode 63 | Season 3

A guest shares a horrific story on how 5 men gang raped her.
Studio Guests: Sally Mavuso
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[@BonganiZulu877]

My gf back in High School was gang raped by 7 men and she later committed suicide. I literally dropped out of High School but later went back after counselling after that tragedy...I'm still traumatized to this day. They abducted her when they were robbing her home and ganged rape her the whole night, police started looking for her towards the start of the morning and the whole day but she later appeared at school at nearly about 2pm, she was so dirty and she couldn't walk properly 😭😭😭...I was so devastated, I didn't know what to do....when she took her own life later that week - we were all traumatized.... That's why I always advocate for people especially our so called celebs to stop toying around with this sensetive issue...the perpetrators deserves a death Sentence to be honest 😒

[@dineomokgosi411]

💔💔💔

[@ZoeBredan]

How do 7 men rape, isn't it madness. No conscience at all

[@nzeadidnazi8410]

gangrapped the whole night...you know how many hours we got in a night???

[@shespaula8048]

That's so sad 😭

[@narrimanduplessis7334]

Isaiah OMZ I'm so sorry for what you and your gf had to endure It's a death sentence to even survive... more than 50 years later I still cry for my lost childhood

[@yunghpeac8110]

As an 18yr old man, I am now taking an oath to do my best to protect the women in my life and otherwise. I will not abuse any woman in any way no matter what the circumstances may be. I vow to love and treat each and every woman with respect. This is my decree. Man is she brave💔

[@sibandasibonginkosi8190]

Dannie luv

[@sduduzomagena8283]

We are proud of you Young Man ..God will make you shine and all other men will learn a lot from you

[@thabiletsunyane2040]

You are exactly what this world needs. We thank you deeply for your oath. May all women have a real man like you in their life.

[@mpendakiswahili3053]

At 31, I wish I heard such a conviction at your age...

[@teresarussell2182]

🥰🥰🥰

[@potsomaake7916]

Unfortunately we tend to refer to people as friends, but they're devils with invisible horns... This is really heartbreaking😔

[@banyana6515]

Eish😢

[@stepcollazo8134]

That’s true

[@luviscatheophilus1463]

That's so true

[@thelazysnapper]

As an adult I get it now why our parents were so protective of us with the friends we keep

[@callmemrsdlamini]

Me too

[@nonhlanhlamaribe7050]

Exactly n I'm a very protective mother ,I don't want anything my kids 2 boys)1big daughter,

[@anelisamadikane6398]

Me too 🥲

[@shaylagiles8974]

Yesss didn’t understand it until I really seen how cruel this world is

[@littlehersheygirl6876]

I’m not an adult but a teen. Not only does my mother get protective over my friends, she also doesn’t let me go over anyones house, and no one comes to mine. Even my best friends! I’ve only been over 1 of my best friends houses 1 time.

[@leratojulialeseo1990]

Rape is a Curse,Once it happens to you it will happen again & again. I was raped in 2013 then I got raped by 4 men in 2017 I was from Varsity after my late class.The only thing I asked them is please do put Protection.They did that until I fainted,They thought I'm dead & they left me under the tree, because it's dark it's winter & people were in the houses,no one saw me.I woke up there bleeding,I couldn't even cry because of the pain.I took my phone called my Dad to pick me up.I slept there & woke up in the hospital.At least I didn't get HIV & I will be able to conceive. Rape changed my life it's like I'm crazy 🥺 Emotionally & Mentally,but now I'm okay my Therapy session helped me a lot at least I can talk about it.By the grace of God I studied LLB Law & I got my Bachelor of Law.I help other ladies who are victims like me to get justice.Im so sorry to all the victims ❤️

[@mzolisimagatikele1136]

💔💔💔💔💔

[@hilariashiweda8557]

💔💔💔💔

[@learnwithme322]

My heart goes out to you! I escaped rape and was still traumatized for years,so I can only imagine what people like you go through!❤🤗🤗🤗

[@leratojulialeseo1990]

@@learnwithme322 Thank you so much sis♥️

[@njabulondlela5872]

As a man & a father I'm deeply hurt by stories like yours my sister may God keep u as strong as you are!!

[@elle_l808l]

This is why I'm comfortable being an indoor person, always been paranoid about what could happen to me in parties, there are cruel people out there

[@snqobilemchunu7936]

Kodwa phela Lebogang Barrel they can break in your house and rape you there. There's no way to avoid rape at all, these monsters need to stop raping us period!

[@mpendakiswahili3053]

The secret is women keeping off alcohol at all costs...

[@yellmow]

I totally understand....

[@sheniquamason7481]

I met a girl at work. We started going out but she got in a lil situation and she got pretty wasted but luckily she was good. I would never leave her there

[@chikarayleigh4534]

@@snqobilemchunu7936 prevent much you can by avoiding certain people(rapists, enablers and accomplices) , places and objects.

[@nozizwenuku8905]

I warn my daughter about friends every chance I get and this is another episode I'll share with her on the dangers of so called friends and also how toxic women can be🚮🚮🚮

[@paidamichelle754]

That's good but also teach her to choose friends wisely because we do need to have peers we connect with. A kind respectful caring loving friendship amongst women is very much possible but needs wise decision making, yes.

[@LethoHali]

So sad 😭

[@thatgirlvee2]

She didn't expect this and it can be hard trying to avoid what you don't even expect to happen

[@NomD05MZ]

This is pure evil ,she was supposed to her guardian because her sister trusted her and she took advantage of her naivety , I wonder how does she sleep at night 💔😭

[@HellenR70]

@@paidamichelle754 but in this case the lady was not even her feiend. She was even older than her🤔The saddest thing is all the women failed her and blamed her😪Thanks to her sister who stood by her🤗

[@ruthpongolani3117]

Im always blown away by the strength these people show when telling their stories. You can see they have been hurt so much and went through a lot,but somehow they come out strong. I stan and applaud this lady for having the strength to share such a horrific and traumatising story. You ma'am, are a queen♥️

[@peacebestill480]

I am quite impressed with this young womans journey❣️❣️❣️

[@gaile.williams7717]

❤️💯🥰💞😬🤯👀💎💦

[@dogsalwaysbarkatbetamaleswoof]

The body and mind have a great way of blocking things out as a protective mechanism. A lot of people who are near death remember nothing. It’s a blessing really.

[@jeanonaichimatira8679]

And yet so gentle too❤️

[@mmcdonald1000]

I agree. She is a beautiful, strong sister💜

[@banelemadonsela6643]

This happened to me 2 years ago. I lost 8 hours of my life. Woke up feeling extremely upset with my friend but didn't know why, I was extremely anxious and didn't know why. Went through all the emotions but had no idea where they were coming from. Didn't know I was raped until later that evening when I went to the hospital & did the rape kit. ( I woke up to consciousness that morning...so it took me the entire day to realize something might have happened). Having to take those HIV prep pills for 28 days was the worst thing constantly giving you a daily reminder that something sinister happened to you. I've cut that friend off and I'm personally grateful that I have no memory or flashbacks of the incident.

[@LadyT06]

*Bearhug!*

[@banelemadonsela6643]

@@LadyT06 💞💞💞

[@Le_mire_]

❤

[@guguncube2308]

😭😭

[@faithtsotetsi9493]

I’m so sorry ♥️

[@cyliamotsoenengzengele]

The pain of knowing that you were violated but you do not remember what exactly happened to you and you keep wondering what they did you in your sleep.

[@wandilebuthelezi6591]

😭

[@vuyimkhwanazi4833]

I know this personally, to this day I don't know what happened in 2017/8 and I can't even tell my partner.

[@mariacollymore3924]

@@vuyimkhwanazi4833wow it is important to heal that trauma. They stole enough from you don't let they take anymore. Face it and heal. They don't deserve your lighg

[@mmcdonald1000]

Unfortunately, this scarred her for the rest of her life. It's going to be hard for her to trust and even to get intimate with her future spouse 😭

[@cyliamotsoenengzengele]

@@mmcdonald1000 very true.

[@julietncube5249]

This is heartbreaking 😞....why are women so cruel towards eachother?😔

[@melvamaribolla6323]

Women are each other's worst enemies 💔🥺

[@sonwabilembelekana1221]

@@melvamaribolla6323 True and it's sad💔💔💔

[@zinhlevilakazi4987]

She was gang raped by women?

[@kodak3619]

Her "friend" was a woman which was cruel, but the rapists were also cruel so no women aren't just cruel to women but people in general

[@miriamclarerujekomushaikwa]

@@zinhlevilakazi4987 A so-called friend led her into the trap.

[@sinazodamana3401]

This lady is like she's narrating my story something similar to this happened to me in 2007, so many similar aspects friend, nurses etc. I'm so proud of her for telling her story with such confidence I always break down without finishing the whole story.

[@c_g1520]

Strength to you Sinazo💛

[@gamerboy7015]

I'm really sorry you went through this my dear, love and light to you ❤️❤️

[@Tee_Tee123]

❤❤❤❤

[@sinazodamana3401]

Thanks ladies❤️❤️

[@lamenthibelang3270]

May God comfort and heal you ladies

[@herthamaryandreas445]

This show deserves an award 😍

[@B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y]

It's so good ! She is such a good interviewer, empathetic and compassionate.

[@tanyasnyman-stanford8012]

I absolutely agree 👍

[@herfamiller139]

I beg to second that!!!🌺🌺🌺

[@peiching1363]

Exactly... 🏆❤️💯

[@mmathapelominniemahlangu]

How do men have the audacity to rape someone 😭😭💔💔 I literally broke down 💔💔

[@mpendulomkhonto818]

indeed someday we have to atone to all women who have experienced some form of abuse, and violation against them

[@SRBOMBONICA86]

I have no friends,people scare me ,I have mental problems and I don't want people abusing me,my biggest fear is life after my dad dies ,people are awful

[@ebonytriumph3816]

☹☹☹☹☹

[@AJ-TheGr8]

I feel you. 31 years old, traumatized AF. Sometimes it's hard to do anything.... but we push on.

[@lucringo6798]

It shall be well 🙂

[@portiamathapelop8574]

I worry about my daughter who is 2 years old am also a loner cause people are heartless

[@sibonginkosinyathi7580]

In real life friends are more DANGEROUS THAN ENEMIES rather have straight 💯%enemies than to have friends

[@melvamaribolla6323]

I agree 100%

[@nicolesakwe1973]

I remember growing up I used to fight with my mom on a lot of things but mostly it was how "overprotective" she was. I missed out on a lot of parties and when I was allowed to go to some parties, I was always on high alert. Even to this day, there's literally no one I trust with my safety.

[@msrain1235]

My mother was the same way. Finally she let me go, to a slumber party, but it turned out that I wasn't invited there because I was wanted. I was invited to be humiliated. The host's mom was also rude, to my mom, when she came to pick me up.

[@janettamsing6022]

​@@msrain1235 😮

[@starr38127]

​@MsRain123 what? Why they do that?

[@msrain1235]

@@starr38127 I was the only black girl there. I thought that I was invited there because I was friends, with the host, but it turned out that I was only invited because she wanted to humiliate me and her mother was a racist.

[@The_torero]

This is why having the power of discernment is a gift. Many demons come disguised as friends/family. The important thing is to spot the signs early and always listen to that niggling feeling in your gut.

[@chrisdipuo5132]

🌸🌸♥️

[@angelakwaramba9752]

I know, my father was against being friends with anyone two years older than you

[@tshegofatsomaupa9442]

My mom always preached me to not trust people I call friends and to never accept drinks from men or women that I’ve just met or even know.

[@sheniquamason7481]

If someone decides to buy me a drink I walk with them to the bar with my friends of course and when the bartender brings the drink I grab it. I don't make anyone pass anything to me

[@njabulonhlaka1513]

As a South African black man I'm so broken and hurt by this tragic stories of women getting raped it's so heart breaking I dont know what to do and we as men need to come up with a plan to protect women and children and put pressure on the government and men of this country I'm literally emotionally breaking down 💔💔😭😭

[@kuselwa6715]

This is really heartbreaking 💔

[@mothofela2432]

"as men need to come up with a plan to protect women and children and put pressure on the government and men of this country". thank you njabulo. the saddest thing is that these manimals that do this are protected by their friends and families.

[@janayserrano]

Please put your words into actions. Talk to other men. They’re the main ones committing these heinous acts against us women, children, and INFANTS. We are not safe. Please help protect us 💔

[@janerecluse4344]

Never even let another man joke about this stuff. Let them know they're disgusting, and will lose your respect. They don't care what women think, but the opinions of other men matter a lot. And teach your little sisters to fight.

[@tractorbooty15]

As a father of a young daughter this story horrifies me!! What the hell is wrong with men across the world? Don't they have any respect for their mums, sisters and women? The whole world especially for women is in one hell of a mess!!😪

[@luveniahayes8150]

I keep wondering what makes a man do this

[@ntokozozulu4284]

Rape is the worst thing ever and as a women the knowledge that it can happen to you and there's nothing you can do to prevent is such torture😥

[@bosses9820]

please don't think like that, and remember to stay safe and vigilant

[@krystingrant6292]

Yes I was raped by my bf at the time. I was violated and confused because this was someone I was dating. I gave no consent and the manner I was found in I felt sick to my stomach. It's horrific

[@chikarayleigh4534]

There's a lot to do to prevent rape.

[@khululiwekhuzwayo1436]

@@krystingrant6292 does ur family know?

[@ntokozozulu4284]

@@chikarayleigh4534 like what?

[@oh.eulanda]

there's no way, the friend wasn't involved. I had a similar experience in high school - when i tell you, these people lack empathy, all they crave for is money. The money they'll received from recruiting you.

[@nmg6248]

Yes I’m sure that “friends” mother knew her daughter was involved and that’s why she tried to shame her into being quiet

[@oh.eulanda]

@@nmg6248 Facts

[@trudy-annsmall9600]

Money or the so call respect they will get from the friends like themselves

[@wandilebuthelezi6591]

The amount of strength it takes to carry on with life after such a terrible ordeal i cannot fathom.

[@jcalbain]

What's really scary is the older sister may have been the original target or maybe they planned to target them both at once but realized it would be easier to just target the younger one.

[@smileyuy5634]

When I was growing up as a teenager, I was raised strictly no partying, no phone calling, I got all the responsible doing household chores raise like a mature responsible adult.. But it was good I'm away from trouble stay home do my school assignments.. I have no regrets raise by strict parents.. I thank God for them.. 🙏😇❤️

[@sharonellis9470]

Amen Amen

[@mindfullness9217]

We went to the same high school. Never would I have imagined that she went through such as Sally was always a bubbly person

[@thatomatuna1147]

Dude!!!! We never understood why VDK loved her so much

[@tracywhite413]

That's no "friend" that's a straight up enemy!

[@-BLACKLION]

Should be a dead one

[@shirleymadzivhandila5337]

I wonder how the so called friend felt after doing such a horrible thing. Some people are heartless. M so sorry for what you went through Sally

[@AnEllisstanacc]

They don't care, infact they really don't see a problem.

[@IzzyBizzyBooBoo]

If she felt anything it was probably a light happiness because she benefited from the other girl being gang raped.

[@remiem-iw7uk]

She may have been jealous of her.

[@sylviaj270]

She probably felt like she accomplished something.

[@michellemothibedi1589]

God bless the lady who helped you in the middle of the night.

[@randomcathyofficial]

It blows my mind that Women are the ones who are so mean to other women in these cases.. It's heartbreaking.. Especially hospital staff

[@guguncube2308]

Sis its not that simple since many women have experienced such behaviour most women have their own trauma if they behave like that to preserve and protect their sanity can you imagine day in and out your dealing with victims and you havent dealt with your own ? You truly end up with a nervous breakdown so they are guarding and preserving their own sanity

[@luthosalaphi4971]

This is why I don't have friends...

[@realest_Tate]

Me too. I had a near experience in varsity when a 'friend of mine' pimped me out. I was saved by getting my own drinks that night

[@yourfavouritegirl90]

That girl set her up for her homies. Some people are evil.

[@sharonbenson8120]

Imagine such evil...

[@georgia8592]

@@sharonbenson8120 Disgusting and vile

[@NomD05MZ]

This other girl and her mother I hope they're in prison for planning to hurt this child and I'm convinced it was not the first time they did this ,I'm sure they were getting paid by these guys oh Lord protect our girls

[@kuselwa6715]

This

[@tearyb]

Rebogile is such an amazing interviewer, calm and collected, and knows just the right questions to answer. She does not shy away from tackling these difficult issues.

[@yolandamngqolo3201]

😭😭😭😭Painful to watch, I was literally crying. Painful to see how a woman sold another woman out😭😭

[@cyliamotsoenengzengele]

What is wrong with us women though? 😭😭😭😭😭

[@cyliamotsoenengzengele]

I can't wait for part 2.

[@sibonginkosinyathi7580]

Rather have straight 💯%enemies than a friend

[@mathandies6381]

its so so painful

[@ksazobafit....2216]

I don't care if people say I'm the problem I don't do friends and it's from experience ppl hate you and still force friendship and you have no idea why... I get very rude when I say I don't wanna drink and someone says no man dont be boring.. Like I'm grown enough to know what I want I'm soo sorry they took advantage of her good and trusting heart I had a "friend"who hated me being a virgin when she wasn't and would say you are being selfish not sleeping with these guys when you are soo hot walking around with sexy boobs..... I still ddnt do it though but after many weird encounters I stopped being "friends" with her

[@thatayaonedick1663]

You are Smart.Please continue to look out for yourself bcs no one will.You safety is Your Responsibility ❤️

[@ksazobafit....2216]

@@thatayaonedick1663 thank you, very true everyone really looks out for themselves

[@B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y]

I'm sorry that sounds awful. I'm glad you cut that person out of your life, they sounded like they had really bad self esteem . It's easier for a bad influence to drag you down, but it's near impossible for you to pull them out. Don't cast pearls before swine. May I suggest getting a dog, or other pets. They're cuter than human friends and they love you unconditionally .

[@ksazobafit....2216]

@@B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y I think a cat would do hey and thank you soo much it's true I tried multiple times to pull her out but she refused ended up making me the bad guy

[@danajacobs9097]

Good for you. Preach

[@WhyNotYou..]

Being an adult, now I understand why my mom wouldn’t let me sleep over friends house and I had a strict curfew…My aunt used to always want me to spend the night but my mom would always say no ( mind you my mom was sexually assaulted over a period of time by my aunts dad when she was super young) I hated that she would say no but I didn’t understand until one of the few times (it was the 2nd time of me going with her but first time staying the night) she said yes I went with my aunt to one of her male friends house. The whole night one of them was flirting with me on the low- I was 14 but shapely for a 14yr old-. After it getting awkward I told him I was 14 thinking maybe he’d leave me be (he had to be mid late 20s/ early 30s) I wasn’t assaulted or anything but this man still gave me his number and told me to come hang out sometimes… I can only imagine what would of happen if I - trying to be “grown” would have went.

[@johnswife888]

I was raped by my one of my brothers best friends when I was 13. It was devastating and took years of therapy and Jesus to get over. I pray for anyone who has experienced this kind of trauma.🙏🏽

[@bennypeep3511]

How did you get raped ? Where ?

[@mmcdonald1000]

So sorry that happened to you. God gave you the strength to heal🙏

[@johnswife888]

@@mmcdonald1000 yes He did. It doesn’t happen over night but with God all things are possible 🙏🏽

[@BatsiraiMusuka]

Jesus! 💔 Thank God for the Good Samaritan. Thank God for the kind Policewoman. Thank God for the person who helped her in the store. We need more people like that. It’s a reminder to ALWAYS do our jobs with empathy. You just never know what a person you are interacting with has been through.

[@lelodube4474]

And thank God that she is still alive after hitting her on her head. Maybe they were trying to kill her

[@jeanonaichimatira8679]

That part Batsi about being kind to people because you don’t know what they have been through!❤️🙏🏾

[@BatsiraiMusuka]

@@jeanonaichimatira8679 it’s really required in our day…people are going through the most.

[@eagledice2008]

@@jeanonaichimatira8679 does anyone in your bloodline come from Mhondoro? We might be related

[@jeanonaichimatira8679]

@@eagledice2008 Yes!!!Vana Sekuru

[@tabittahmoshitwa3461]

Most of Our Health care practitioners ,Are very Unsympathetic . It is very sad that even in this day and age women are still being blamed for violations . They may as well be the very perpetrators

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

I have to say this story sounds a lot like an incident that happened to a girl that I attended University with. Sadly because we were all at this particular party a lot of us only heard a day after it happened. I was beyond shocked and disgusted. The girl in question was such a sweetheart and I only knew her cos we had the same comms class...she actually left school after it happened because she couldn't handle people talking bout her. We were all drinking heavily because we had just finished writing mid year exams so it was a bit out of control but never once did I think people would take advantage of any of us ladies who attended. Never moved the same at parties after that cos personally I knew it could have been any of us.

[@queenzee520]

I know the girl u talking about and my heart broke for her😥😭

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

@@queenzee520 Hey babe. Which University did you attend?

[@queenzee520]

@@keepitfrankwithfentse UKZN

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

@@queenzee520 No then we attended diff institutions. The University I attended was in Johannesburg

[@queenzee520]

@@keepitfrankwithfentse ohk doll, just that same thing happened in UKZN

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

This young lady went through a lot. Glad she can talk about her trauma so openly. I am curious to know why the sister stopped being friends with this girl who led her into the trap. Wonder if something about this girl made her cut the friendship completely because often your intuition tells you something but we don't always listen to it.

[@kawaiibratchan]

I was a similar situation in high school. She showed her true colors and in anger let me know that she got paid for what they did to me. It's a blessing no stds or anything happened. I'm very grateful my daughters have respect for themselves enough to cut people off at the knees as young as they are (7&6).

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

@@kawaiibratchan I'm sorry you went through that. Hope you are doing better. People can be evil sometimes...yeah I'm an only child myself but I think my assertiveness has made me see through people real easily..

[@them.r.s8945]

I had a similar experience with a very close friend back in 2013 ..she invited me to a house party only to find out the people there are at the party were gangsters , the guy I came with left with some girl that was fighting with the person she came with everything happened so quick ...so I tell my friend I wanna go to the loo 🚽 she just tells me where it is and carries on with what she was doing and that was not how we operate especially at a place she knows I don’t know people .. I was pressed so I just went up when i got out of the toilet there were two guys waiting by the door in my head I’m thinking they wanna use the loo kanti noo they were there for me they pushed me in to the next room one stood outside while the other One wrestled with me lucky I was wearing my super tight jean that just hogs my body he took a hair clip from my head and pointed it my throat and told me to take of my pants or else coz already he had banged my head on the wall ,lucky I was sober so I was fully aware we wrestled for a good 20 min the other guy even went downstairs because the room we were in had a huge window where you could see the people on the other end and they can’t see you ...he finally managed to put me down and as I look by the window my friend is standing with the other guy and they just conversing and they go back to the party ...my underwear is off one side of the jean is off what was left was for him to just go in and I remember pleading to him to please put on a condom atleast ...my aunt taught me to carry condoms every time I go out ,but this guy was not keen on using a condom as he was about to penetrate my “friend “ walks in and starts screaming I didn’t even look I just slid under the guy and ran for my life when I got down there and explained what just happened people looked at me like I was crazy ...I asked to be taken home on the way the guy kept harassing me saying I’m lying why would he want to rape me who do I think I am ...I was so traumatized ....The guy died months later and apparently he was HIV positive ...

[@phephilemyeni9012]

I’m so sorry that happened to you 😔💔

[@them.r.s8945]

@@phephilemyeni9012 🙏🏽thank you ...a lesson was learnt🥺

[@mercymsezeni838]

😭😭😭

[@mercykalendi]

Jesus loves you

[@kuselwa6715]

OMG 😳 You are the lucky few…big hug to you💜✨

[@contenthub9046]

May God heal all abused women. May we educate our children both boys and girls. May we treat all women and girls with love, care and protection.

[@sds2954]

Wow. What a traumatic experience this woman went through. She is exceptional brave to be sharing her story on such a public platform. I wish her nothing but the best for her future. Sadly her story is shared by so many women in South Africa. As a South African man, I am ashamed by the amount of violence against women and children in this country try by the hands of men. South African men, we need to do better. Relebogile is such a good interviewer. I love watching her show.

[@kmj2000]

Do you have any insight as to why the men commit violence against women at such a high rate?

[@neomohlamonyane7934]

As a human being and a man this was soo hard to watch and process😭💔

[@herfamiller139]

As a mother, a sister and a woman this broke my heart, how could you do this to a friend!!! Lord please have mercy Father😰😰😰

[@phumelelazuma4704]

Relebogile understands the assignment. I’m so fragile I would be scared to ask certain questions but she does so warmly that she doesn’t offend the interviewee but also ask the questions we all curious to know. I commend Relebogile skills of interviewing.

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Thank you!

[@LaSaveurDeKettelie]

I was thinking the Same She's so professional She's so good She has a lot of Compassion She feels Her pain I applaud 👏 Her.

[@leannavivian8235]

why cant more men just have morals and standards.so many broken women out here including myself trying to recover from something we dont understand why it happened in the first place.

[@nthabisengpaiva9345]

Words cannot describe how I feel hearing your story. As a mother to a daughter I was having a difficult time watching this. All I can say to you is stay strong, you are a surviver sweetheart. May God give you strength.

[@Mal_life]

This is why my grandmother use to say you can't call everyone a friend ...there are people who are out there to just mess your life up smh

[@nmg6248]

I’m sure that “friends” mother knew her daughter was involved and that’s why she tried to shame her into being quiet

[@sanelisiwesanne1586]

One thing I appreciate ngoLebo she will ask the relevant questions.......

[@TJ-my9nh]

I am so sorry this happened to you my sister. Indeed there is life after that evil incident. God bless you more.

[@anabogosavljev7924]

Exactly what was happened to my childhood friend. She was beautiful like from fairytale and innocent and good person. After that, she was paranoid , anxious, depressed. It was worse and worse with time. After, she was diagnosed with schizophrenia. We are still in touch, we are both 43 and I still can’t believe how life has turned for this amazing girl😢😢😢

[@AnchoredInPrayer]

How is your friend doing?

[@anabogosavljev7924]

@@AnchoredInPrayer Not good. She had fears and voices and she is not capable to live alone and her mother is over 80 years. … She is my friend since we were babies. But only in summer. ( She lives in Germany, only spends part of summer in Serbia.

[@tkmothiba5573]

Yoh that fake friend and her mom are evil!!!😳😡

[@nonzwakazikhathi1214]

South African Nursing Council has to do something about poor care reported everyday ,I'm embarrassed to hear that a police treated her better than nurses , I'm glad I can never give such care ,u don't meet me in my department and walk away complaining never ,this whole behaviour is because the nurses that r in hospitals now r not called into nursing it's ppl who couldn't get other jobs and came to nursing as another option,nursing is a calling if u don't love ppl leave it and go and work with machines

[@OK-xp5xi]

Same here in America. Nurses here are unsympathetic and only in it 4 the money. Patient could be in pain for hours and still don't care. They don't even speak to their patients when they walk into their rooms. give meds and walk out, no hi or how are you. This world lacks sympathy. May God help the good people.

[@jazzbo9903]

I don’t know how I landed on your page but I’m glad I did. Your guests are so brave to tell their stories. So heartbreaking, so sad.😞

[@ribamamokgethi6982]

That's y I dnt have friends, just to avoid bad friends (people)

[@banyana6515]

Amen sis. I am a loner and proud of it. I have 4 cats and 2 dogs. Gorgeous loyal creatures.

[@B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y]

@@banyana6515 I laugh not because it's funny, but because it's true...and a little funny because my dogs are lying at the foot of my bed

[@banyana6515]

@@B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y you can never go wrong with animals. Ever. My tuxedo cat is expecting. I am going to be a grandma, so excited! I wonder what dogs you have. Enjoy your blessings, animals will enrich your lives in ways you never imagined. I like to take my babies for a drive. They love the windows down. Take care of your munchkins, they will never let you down. 😊

[@bre970]

That definitely wasn’t her friend, we have to be careful who we trust as friends so easily and quickly. Hopefully she is in a healed place now 🙏🏾

[@ritageraghty3261]

So very true. True friends are very scarce, a lot scarcer than we could ever know.

[@them.r.s8945]

I can relate the nurses behavior is really traumatic I was badly beaten by my baby daddy years back I had bruises everywhere ...they literally kept calling each other to come see the girl that got moered saying a lot of stuff not even asking I walked out of there without being helped lucky my big sister knows people and she got ahold of the HOD and explained the treatment I got there ...they kept calling and apologizing ,but I was not interested really because all that foul treatment was from females only it was the same story when I went to the police station ,the cops were insulting me literally telling me in my face that I pushed him to beat me up why am I getting him arrested why am I trying to ruin his life ...my sister had to intervene again but unfortunately it made matters worse I just dropped everything and went home ...I literally don’t go to hospitals and police stations because of this ...

[@neoloanderson6676]

😪 Was this in an african country aswell?

[@sharonbenson8120]

So Sorry 😞

[@cynthia2570]

Sorry

[@laughingatyourfears]

So sorry you had to experience such. A lot of these people have no emotional intelligence and/ or psychological training. I am surprised that nurses don't have this training not to make a traumatized person's experience worse but the police we know how they are hired. A lot of them were not even aiming for that job so they are apathetic to people' s emotional trauma. Some of them have done these very criminal things themselves because that's how they were brought up so they can't empathize. We pray for a reform in both fields.

[@them.r.s8945]

@@laughingatyourfears 🙏🏽they most certainly need prayers , most of them they are in those field of jobs just for the Salary.

[@boipelomohlakoane7959]

Wow! The strength exhibited by this woman in this interview… may God continue to strengthen and bless her.

[@katchrist_]

Society tells women to constant be careful, dress differently, but not telling men to not rape, you’re not entitled…… then things will change

[@nthomengmajara8575]

FACTS!!!!

[@nontandondzotyana6326]

I am actually watching this with my daughter .She needs t understand why I dont want friends and parties or sleep overs . 😢

[@hackdeeznuts1150]

This is why you don't trust "friends"

[@truth8027]

Stop calling her your friend because she has shown you that she is your enemy.

[@malefasalemane]

Once again women continue to show that they don’t love each other. This is very heart breaking

[@tshegofatsokgokong3994]

😭😭😭😭😭😭this is so hard to watch .I can't begin to think how the victim felt or feels talking about what happened to her.

[@sibong690]

Part 2 please 😭😭😭😭. This story is so touching and such an eye opener. Don't trust easily

[@mahlatsilehlokwa1509]

May God always protect the women and children of South Africa, as a mum this broke my heart 😢

[@jechdoli]

She’s so strong, so important to talk about it and to put the shame where it belongs: at the perpetrators and their accessory.

[@meep2605]

Why do some girls do this?? It's really sick that men can say "eeew I won't ever sleep with this girl she's ugly" BUT feel it's wrong for a girl that they want, not to give consent.

[@lynnmothibeli325]

God Will Avenge you, if He Already Hasn't. Stay strong, sister❤❤

[@matzohgirl]

I agree. G-d will take care of this and will bless the survivors of rape. Noone should experience this ever.

[@wanjirui.gitimu3059]

The interviewer is so strong to carry this on with a straight face...they are both so beautiful . Love this show from kenya 🇰🇪

[@nationmatoto3835]

This is very sad people can be more than animals my heart is bleeding

[@hangingoutwithsqu3202]

Yoh no ways this is so heartbreaking 💔 I’m so sorry you had to go through that. No one in the world deserves to be violated like that. I hope that anyone who’s ever gone through that finds healing eventually. Sending love and light 🤍

[@phumelelekunju5563]

It’s heartbreaking that women go through this. It’s heartbreaking that so many women in the comments relate to this story. Being a woman in this world feels like a curse sometimes.

[@mswifeycatlady7583]

I am so very sorry this brutal and horrific crime was done to you. Nobody, including you, ever deserves to this in life. The shame was never yours to bear and damn that woman for saying that to you! Victim blaming and shaming is appalling. And society needs to stop it. Thank you so much for telling your story 💐

[@dakaloentertainment9461]

Yhoo amazing questions that Relobogile asks. Another reason I love this show

[@kefiloegalane823]

I wish we got a back ground of who she was, how she was, where she grew up etc, prior to the main interview. I admire her strength to talk us through her unfortunate experience. much love

[@nonoechibs2775]

Uuuuuuh m blown away with her courage to share such a painful life story

[@khetimthembu8465]

It's so sad that the first day she decided to go out she experienced this😭😭😥💔. I'm going to University next year & the way rape is high, I'm scared guys😭😞i don't think I'd be able to handle all of this

[@nomsantsoane3984]

From a fellow varsity student during your first year only be friend first year's and don't club and date any1. Still vulnerable and confused by being a 1st year. Then during second year navigate. Carefully through life. Varsity is no child's play

[@pinkiemabena4284]

Jst be careful babe... Avoid peer pressure n be easily tempted

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

Hi babes. Listen I'm going to give you advice I learnt once I got into University. If you will be living on Campus and attending orientation parties or house parties do not accept drinks that you personally haven't watched being opened and mixed yourself. Rather go to the bar with a friend to get your drinks. Also watch who you keep around you. I was fortunate enough to meet amazing friends on my first day who are still my sisters to this day...I was always the "sober" one. My alcohol tolerance was high so I didn't get drunk easily but I also made sure to drink water in between to minimize the hangover also to make sure my friends and I could get home safely. If you do clubs never go alone. Otherwise this is the best years of self discovery so its not all bad....enjoy it but just be responsible.

[@khetimthembu8465]

Thank you❤️

[@palesaneo3817]

Keep to yourself and trust your instincts.

[@boledielizabethmaake8369]

I AM SORRY QUEEN Sally and very upset with the so and so friend and very heartbroken and thank God that you have found it in your heart to forgive her, it is heart breaking we are living in a very sick world, where women judge each other without knowledge or understanding the whole story. You re a very strong person thank God for restoration in your life. Your mother and other women who judged you have their own internal problems that they have to deal with. Can we stand together as women and support each other please Praying that God will continue to use you in helping others, you are beautiful and strong

[@aginghappilywithhilda6625]

So touching a story. Thanks for sharing your story. We understand better why our parents were so protective. Bless you. You are awesome. Here supporting and looking forward to more.

[@KeorapetseMokwena96]

This is very painful to watch!😭😭

[@bee_ancarm5167]

Black women why are we so harsh to each other😭 those nurses

[@pawsation7719]

Thank you for being so brave to share your story. You are a beautiful soul. Everyday is a day of healing.

[@MY6797A]

So painful.. Am so Sorry you had to go through that.

[@simphiwengwenya4337]

caption captured me here , thank you for sharing with us .. fear friends yohhhh !!! evil those ones especially when they feel nice things are only for them....thissss is sadddd , so sorry you had to expirence such a tramatic experience sally ...

[@lindelwamateza7273]

Can you imagine having a daughter right now , 10 years from now what kind of society will we live in. What type of world will we raise our daughters in?😢

[@iinhle5532]

This is so painful 😓 I admire your strength sis🥺♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@malebogogaeepe8653]

No. 1 Unpacked fan is touched klaar from TAKE US BACK TO THE EVENTS OF THAT DAY

[@lihlemlangeni4555]

This is so sad.... May you find healing

[@nicholusmaphakela10]

We still have people who betrayal our trust. Wolves wearing a skin of a sheep. This is evil, how does one recover from such an act. Yoh. Your story should reach to our sisters.

[@lungiswadunga6215]

Such a strength. Opening up is going to heal yourself. Some men are really heartless. I am greatful you survived that. God is good.

[@thembisaodendaal]

I'm so sorry beautiful angel for what you went through.God will make it right.This will make you stronger because it did not break you

[@MissIngrilicious100]

Oooh man, been there, but my rapist followed me to my dorm room, by the time I realized what was going on, he was standing behind me with the knife held to my throat.

[@mamacitapurple]

Sorry to hear that 😞

[@mzolisimagatikele1136]

Yoh

[@MissIngrilicious100]

@@mamacitapurple thank you. It's been a long time, but I will never forget it

[@miriamclarerujekomushaikwa]

@@MissIngrilicious100 That pain never goes away. I wish they knew it... 😭

[@MissIngrilicious100]

@@miriamclarerujekomushaikwa it never does hey. You grow older with it, ebile now I have a 14 year old daughter, I'm so worried about her

[@vlevene344]

This story was heart breaking i am so glad that this youngvlady is alive to tell her story it teaches persons not to take drinks or anything from strangers god bless her always viewing from Jamaica

[@zanelexopa6643]

She's such a brave and courageous woman. Yoh!! Would I really be this strong.....I have my doubts. She put herself first, to be able to move with her life