Removing A Child From Their Home | PART 3 | Origin

Part three of this eye-opening series about the foster care system.
This in-depth series follows the entire adoption process from the parents who are desperately fighting to keep their children to the couples eagerly waiting to become adoptive parents and bring a child into their home.
The process begins with the most difficult decision of all: the decision to remove a child from its birth family. This episode follows the social workers whose job it is to take children away from their parents and recommend whether they should ever return; and parents who are desperately fighting to keep their children.
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[@TreasureHuntingNana]

It's so sad how there is NO family member to help the parents. No way would I allow one of my grandchildren to end up in the system

[@Angelica-uo7bw]

Well when you have 8 grandchildren and your child keeps being irresponsible, not caring for them, it becomes impossible to care for all of them. Deal with the parents, your child, who is most likely addicted to drugs, while taking their children away. It's not as easy as you think. After so many children, sometimes you have to keep yourself from getting attached for yourself and the child. But in many cases, the grandparents are also addicted to drugs unfortunately.

[@vernaxxx8940]

I agree, it would totally wreck my nice peaceful life as a retiree but if I had a grandchild in need I would not hesitate to step in.

[@ThisSideoftheNuthouse]

The way kids end up in the system is because the family is not helping to begin with.

[@Jessie_Hope]

Totally agree!

[@magdalenaslowikowska9961]

I think the best investment in your grandkids future is to raise their parents properly. Ofc things happen anyway but a lot of those situations is disfunction going from generation to generation

[@Piper79h]

Just because a child won’t remember doesn’t mean they are not affected. The decision to place a baby for adoption alters the child’s life forever. It effectively changes who their family is forever. I’m not saying it is never the best choice … I’m only saying it most certainly impacts the child even if they are not aware of it at the time.

[@elleg3651]

That is true.

[@junbh2]

Also, most of children's brains are formed in those first years before they develop good memories. We don't remember being a baby or toddler, but the experiences we had in those years create our personalities.

[@claireconolly8355]

True, it is a traumatising situation for the baby regardless. And the mother, obviously

[@MamaRobynR]

As a 40 yr old who was adopted as a baby a few months in foster care, then out of state private adoption (my bio parents were teens) and your 1000% right. I didn’t fully understand how much my adoption and childhood affected me until my 30’s and I really struggled a lot with out understanding fully why. Also my adoptive parents were awful, totally not fit to have pets let alone children. So yeah, a lot of trauma to work through. However, I know a lot of different adoption situations both good and bad personally and they are all deeply effected whether they had a great situation or not.

[@HumanimalChannel]

Rather than support... they give their precious baby away then, usually end up pregnant again soon after :(

[@the_angry_angora963]

Oh, bless, wee Lauren and, liam may they cherish and enjoy rest of their childhood with love and excitement ❤

[@motleymama6587]

I hope all of these beautiful families are happy, healthy, and living their best lives ❤

[@cfamillytravelgroup3318]

Yall are weird. The idea that the needs of the parent should come before the child is CRAZY. Yall thinking the child should languish in foster care while their parent gets it together is even CRAZIER.

[@junbh2]

I don't think that's always about putting the needs of the parents first. It's also that we've learned from experience that there are some downsides and harms to a child growing up without their biological family, and historically we've often underestimated that and sometimes even realised years later that it did more harm than good. Sometimes it's the best option though.

[@cfamillytravelgroup3318]

@@junbh2 Indeed. But in this particular video in these particular instances that’s not the case.

[@osheaeimear83]

Ya but they take literal babies off people not giving them any amount of time to get their life together and make it nearly impossible to do so. If I was a child and knew I was taken off them so soon I'd be really angry. And I'm someone desperate for a child and can't have one. It's totally suspect

[@gargwinvinesnake6961]

​@@osheaeimear83if they've neglected multiple children in the past, have criminal records, or are obviously using drugs why would anyone give them a chance to harm or possibly kill a baby?

[@sylvia0851]

Parents dont really get a chance. Not all children are placed because of abuse. Illness, poverty, bad luck in life. Giving a loving family should not mean that loving parents can't ever be in touch with their child. Abuse is different, then the child needs to be protected. A bad situation the child deserves to grow up in a loving family, but the child also deserves the love and contact with their own bio parents. There are more children then parents looking for adoption. Why taking away the option of returning to their own bio parents, if there are no possible adoption parents? Then the child is left without the contact with the bio parents and going from place to place until hopefully someone will adopt the child. Image growing up and understanding that people looking to adopt need to choice you! As a child they dont understand that there are more children then adoption parents. They will grow up feeling unloved and not worthy of love. That is abuse!!! They are damaged for life! No, going up for adoption is absolutely not in the best interest of the child!!! Unless there is already new adoption parents. No way its good for the child.

[@gargwinvinesnake6961]

THREE YEARS!? No wonder there's not enough adoptive parents! Then to nitpick PAST employment!? Are they employed and financially stable now? Yes. Then get on with it! Potentially tossing out a loving home and two children going into long term foster care over unclear PAST EMPLOYMENT is ridiculous!

[@myopinion4600]

Can’t believe she said people don’t want children for all kinds of reasons including they don’t want a ginger! Some of the most beautiful people in the world are red heads. If I saw that on an application, I wouldn’t give them any child. They need to grow up first.

[@kttunsntell6626]

Little Liam and lauren💔 beautiful little babies

[@KelsieSalcido]

I’m sorry but it cannot be good for Lauren and Liam to be told this is “your new mommy and daddy” right off the bat. I would say “ This wonderful couple is desiring to adopt you. Their names are “Paul & Angie “ or whatever the names are … They would love the opportunity to gain your trust, so that one day you will call them “Mommy & Daddy” whenever you are comfortable doing so. 18:47

[@HumanimalChannel]

Totally agree! It is actually creepy, what was said. Yuck. And these are the people making important decisions and they're clueless. They're either "good samaritans" (doing it for their own Feelings and Virtue) or sociopaths. Where are the sensible people?

[@danielleterese402]

When i was 7 or 8 (im 44 now lol) our apartment got raided by the police-omg it was horrible!! I had come home w/a good report card and i was enjoying my new colored pencils🥺🥺 Seeing them rip our apt apart & seeing my oarents made to lay belly down in handcuffs (actually, just my mom. My dad developed a drug prob. and i knew because i found things that ik what they were from learning stuff in school. He got really scary a lot when he was h&gh cuz he did cr&ck. So i wanted him to go away forever at that time) sorry, my adhd makes it really hard for me to not add all of these details🤦‍♀️) Well, i wound up going to a foster home, and parting w/my mom was thecworst thing ever-she didnt use, everytime she tried to leave my dad would pull the same lines out of his butt that all abusers do. (A few years later, she did finally leave🤗🤗🤗) I was extremely fortunate that the foster family i stayed w/were so wonderful. They did everything to make sure i was comfortable. Thankfully my mom got bail because she had nothing to do w/my fathers extracurricular activities. Buuuut...she had to clean the apt top to bottom before they would let me go home. Thankfully family helped!! That happened on a Friday, i went home on that Sunday. (I found out 20yrs later that my dad got in trouble for the manufacturing & distribution of n×rcotics. It really sucked, because i KNEW that my father lived me. He didnt use all of the time-more sporadically so when he was sober he was the best. Thats the dad that i would see for the next 10 yrs. But he was just sucked in to the disease of addiction. I had to stop talking to him when i was 26. I myself bacame addicted to p×in p×lls & was trying soo hard to get clean but he had no boundaries, and kept asking me to do some cr×ck w/him. I thought he was prossibly trying to get me to use bcuz i had a job & he didnt. I asked him to keep his habit away from me. After 2times, i couldnt. I love him, but it was time to love myself & get my life together. I told him that i would always love him. I moved 90mins away. He bever got sober, he passed away alone, in a crappy no-tell Motel 1.75Lt bottles of wh×skey all over the room. He passed away from heart complications due to the use of m×th & alcohol 😢😢 I was SOO SAD from this. I stopped being angry after he passed, because years prior i hit bottom-HARD. So, i was finally able to understand how strong the grips of addiction truly are. The difference was i WANTED more than anything to get sober-and he wanted to use forever. I finally got sober, & i celebrated 10yrs of absolute sobriety. I even quit smoking&vaping. The moral to my novel of a post (the last part) is, you cannot just quit using because u have a child/children to take care of, or for anyone or anything else. If u try, it wont last long. The ONLY WAY to get & stay sober is if u WANT IT for yourself. If u try to do it fir anything else, usually means you truly do not want to quit, and that can cause resentment, and mist likely relapse. I was able to get sober because i wanted better for myself, i no longer wanted to use. I think because of this, i was anle to quit cold-turkey. Of course the detox was brutal, but that part will end-what comes after is the true challenge!! I utilized every AODA & mental health program i could. I learned coping skills, and the tools i needed to get through everyday. I struggled w/getting my life together for 7yrs-i finally found the lught at the end of the tunnel. Meaning, i can finally wake up happy to be alive-no longer starting my day praying that i would "expire" by the end of the day. I am able to enjoy relaxing, being quiet, reading, taking a shower, etc. I really dont get cravings because i truly, whole-heartedly NEVER EVER want to use ever again.

[@tracik7359]

You’re very strong and a great example to others! So glad you were able to get clean and appreciate the gift that sobriety is!

[@danitajaye7218]

I'm ss happy for you, cutie pie, and I am proud of you and just know you are going to make a good life. I know the ADHD, as I have it myself, but accept yourself and love yourself as you are. Don't let anyone tell you that you are not special. You are the only you, and that makes you amazing way. I was so touched by your sharing. Take care, and know that you have people out there rooting for you! Never give up the struggle. Sincerely, Danita

[@motleymama6587]

Wow, that’s a lot to go thru. Congrats on 10 years! Hope you continue living a great life!

[@paulacook5157]

Thanks for sharing your life story! God bless you! 😊❤

[@louisemoran1323]

Thank you so much for your life story … you are inspiring ❤

[@mariezvackova2643]

I love how people here are hating on the system and not the parents who choose to bring a child into this world while being hooked on drugs...the parents of Destiny are so obviously high it's not even funny. Sure adoption can be a traumatic event but growing up with shitty parents isn't? Would it be better for the baby to be with addicts? Are you nuts?

[@gargwinvinesnake6961]

It hit hard when the one couple adopting Destiny said they would feel bad telling their sons they didn't take their sister, but realistically the mother was going to just keep having children and they couldn't take them all. That woman is an unfit parent who isn't in a place to change for herself let alone care for children.

[@mementomori7266]

My heart goes out to that young mom. Her heart must be breaking.

[@TwinBleaks]

It's sad but it really should be a wakeup call to do better. Not the first time she's had a child taken away either.😔

[@ForceFreeTrainergirl06]

They've had two children removed because they aren't fit. They both look really young, no more than kids themselves. There's such a thing as contraception and you can't tell me that she was using it all three times and managed to get pregnant. She also had the option, I have no doubt, to have abortions each time she got pregnant but she chose not to. I have no pity for them whatsoever, but I have a great deal of pity for the children. At least these children are going to be kept together as siblings which is wonderful. Those adoptive parents are so very brave. As the adoptive mum said, unfortunately, the mother is probably going to have more babies and they cannot take on all those babies too.

[@emmettbridges648]

From other episodes it was pretty evident that her boyfriend was very toxic and somewhat abusive. She was given the choice her daughter or him, she choose him. I have no sympathy for her, she made her choice knowing the consequences (loosing her daughter). Not to mention they already had two kids taken in by the system!! Feel bad for the kids, neither are fit parents. Adoption will give that baby a fighting chance

[@diannerose8030]

Ptsd is very well documented in children removed from their families

[@christinatutt3629]

Yes!!

[@junbh2]

Absolutely. Sometimes it's the lesser evil, but it's still immensely traumatic.

[@tallulahjune7821]

Ptsd is very well documented in children kept in abusive or neglectful conditions. The reality is there isn't a great solution. Doing the least amount of damage is the goal.

[@julsjewels3185]

A baby is a person and deserves good care. Neglect is unacceptable. Baby's rights come first.

[@tanyahorula1060]

Adoption is trauma for 2/3rds of those involved. We adopted siblings 18 years ago and theyve definitely had many big feelings about it growing up. Adoption is actually a loss to the child.

[@similarrose5811]

I’m sure this is true in a lot of cases, but if their real parents don’t have it together then this is the lesser evil.

[@tanyahorula1060]

@@similarrose5811 absolutely

[@babybooxx21]

​@similarrose5811 exactly wondering the "what if" is less worse then living in a possible hell hole of a family

[@gargwinvinesnake6961]

So the children are better off living with unpredictable, neglectful, abusive, violent parents or bouncing around between foster homes until they're eighteen and cut loose? Many more children die in the above situations than after being adopted (not to say children don't ever die when adopted).

[@hayaglamazonluxe]

You did something amazing adopting them. They are better off in a happy home.

[@user-ym3co7hg5c]

My friend worked in adoption and foster care. I had a boy and a girl eighteen months apart who were blonde and blue eyed. I asked her just out of curiosity how long it would take to find them adoptive parents. She said “five minutes.” I thought that was so sad. How everyone wants the stereotypical child when there are so many that are just lovely but may be older or a different race.

[@joeyjojo84]

I looked into adoption here in Australia but was told it’s basically unheard of these days and most adoptions are done by family members of the birth parents. I was told children are usually reunited with birth parents or placed with extended family. If an adoption does go ahead, it’s almost always open. Meaning the birth parents remain in the child’s life and can visit. Situations like this where kids are taken away and placed permanently with strangers are for absolute last resort crisis situations. Or I guess if the parents do it voluntarily like a teen mum deciding to give their baby up for adoption before it’s even born. Anyway. Just interesting to see how different the system is.

[@user-ym3co7hg5c]

Have these people who have had multiple children taken away know about birth control?

[@flamefox8989]

The system is geared towards removing children rather than helping parents who need a hand up.😢

[@Kitty_cat2001]

In my time in child protection we tried to get the parents to engage in services prior to a decision is made to adopt. Unfortunately a lot of time that doesn’t work & children cannot wait indefinitely for changes by the parents.

[@gargwinvinesnake6961]

I work in education and the number of parents who have been offered every opportunity to improve their lives and those of their children but don't is saddening. Heavily addicted people and those who refuse to work through their personal demons may love their children, but they're not capable of caring for them. How many times do you think it is appropriate to see a kindergarten student come to school in the same clothes for a week, with no food, ravenous and eating anything in front of them after weekends, and often with untreated sores or lice? How many times do you send an important form that all parents have to do is sign so we can provide extra supports to their child? How many times should we send food care packages home on weekends and hear on Monday that mom's friends ate it? How many changes of clothes should we send home only for parents to not bother changing the child into them? The system can only help so much. Until people are willing and able to change continuing with handouts is throwing support away that could go to families that will use the resources given to build their families up. Children should not have to suffer in neglectful and abusive households until their sperm and egg donors decide they actually want to be parents.

[@HumanimalChannel]

36:26 imagine doing the "down below TOO SLOW (MISSED IT!) "GAME WITH kids that already are uncertain

[@BuckFidenMD4547]

I can’t believe they just sit there and allow them to take the baby away. Hell to the NO. It’s absolutely insane the speed they take these babies away. There’s something seriously wrong with that system.

[@KayLeeHoward-vc2ph]

Three years? That’s just awful I know got make sure kids don’t go to awful parents again but that’s just insane

[@JoanneMcglashan-gv1up]

I'm wondering what year these where made I wish thay would say...😮🇦🇺

[@jessicab6723]

I reckon they look at least 15 years old based on the clothing.

[@cassiehunt2686]

Ya know it’s an interesting person who would agree to having the process of their child being removed from them documented for public viewing.

[@jessicab6723]

I suspect they think it's an injustice and would like people to see what is going on in the system

[@KayLeeHoward-vc2ph]

That’s so rough for the kids parents if I can’t have kids I’m eventually adopt and that’s blessing for parents who can’t have kids those parents who had to give up there kids are hero’s

[@klouise9617]

I think open adoption is a blessing to the family if it can happen-

[@lilclacla1610]

this is just sad I have four brothers from the love of foster care and adoption and 3 of them still were able to see there parents even after they were adoptef

[@veronicaromero3822]

Where are the other 2 parts

[@TwinKatiePooh111605]

My daughter is almost 19 years old in a few months and it was an open adoption I tried so hard to get her back I did everything that the social worker said but I was in a bad spot when she was taken at about 3 months old I was doing better but it was a little bit late my lawyer didn’t stand up for me to well the foster parents said that I was doing better so it was an open adoption her grandparents my parents mad sure I saw her a lot parents do really love the child/children so much that they know that at that time that they were better off with another family ❤

[@suzanneeckstein13]

We adopted my brother he was age 10 when we got him

[@user-ym3co7hg5c]

I can’t stop crying……sniff…sniff.❤

[@projektraumschiff7402]

This is a horrible system..Here we mostly have foster care. The parents and children never loose each other completely. If they can have supervised visitation, weekends together or just information and a say in what's happening depends on what's possible. There is short term emergency foster parents, the others are long term and children know they stay there if they can't live with their parents. To jank babies just away this quickly and erase history and family bonds is evil.

[@tallulahjune7821]

I would argue neglecting children, abusing them, exposing them to unsafe situations is awfully dangerous.

[@alovette5755]

You're right, let's think of what the neglectful parent wants first. That's what's best, for everyone. Here we have plenty of children pass away because family unification is prioritized

[@behemothsbaby]

Very moving documentary.

[@TheSesilye]

So so sad !😢

[@user-qy1fn7xt2k]

Beautiful ❤❤❤

[@KayLeeHoward-vc2ph]

These kids and these parents are gonna see these videos years later and think saying something meeting somebody didn’t matter and how weird and silly it was now it’s all normal

[@HumanimalChannel]

39:30 clearly, those involved think this is not an EXPOSE of FAILURE but is somehow highlighting some type of brilliant workers who are overcoming doffixulties for their kids. Theyre in such damned denial

[@melanieallen3655]

Beautiful video❤

[@taurusqueen7574]

They are human babies, not cats or dogs.. It is disgusting, One lady worker was like, Just give me a few weeks to find a place🙄 Disgusting...

[@HumanimalChannel]

The best putcome is being safe with her natrual parents. And i do not know a SINGLE adoptee who doesnt have trauma around that and some are just so damaged by it

[@lextaf8271]

The pretty social worker would have been the perfect parent for Liam and Laura💔

[@3780748]

I am lost ?? This parents gave then away?

[@river8760]

The parents are deemed unfit for a variety of reasons.

[@sylvia0851]

Disgusting that foster parents are able to bring the child back. How horrible that must be for the child!!! Let them get to know the child before adoption. The idea of a child needs to grow up in a safe environment with loving parents is beautiful! This is total horror!!! This system pretents to have the best interest for the child. But in reality it totally doesn't think about the childs wellbeing. Anyone who wants to convince me otherwise show me statistics of these kids when they are adults. How are they doing in life?

[@blugreen123]

I wonder what the birth parents story is.

[@117Pinkyflower]

I don’t think they should tell the children anything until the adoptive parents are there to meet them and pick them up. To much worry for the children.

[@Trogdor1365]

I don't like that couple who adopted the 2 boys and are going to get the baby sister (Destiny?). The way they talked about getting her like they were getting some kind of toy and then disparaging the birth mom. You don't need to look down on that poor girl who's had her babies ripped away from her like that. She's probably having more kids because she has a hole in her soul that she can't fill because you took her babies. She looked like she close to suic¡de.

[@NicoleGibson-87]

She needs to fight her demons

[@HumanimalChannel]

18:39 thats toyr dadday, thats your mormmee" is just pathetic. He KNOWSA IT ISNT Hos Mummy and Daddy, just say, rhese are nice people who want to adopt you, you will get to know them in time. An adopted dog takes time to grow in bonding, and you take time to love your adopted dog. Why is it somehow difderebt with kids. And saying "they live you already" is ridiculous, and damaging and devaluing. These "wrll meaning" idiots.

[@jennaguelfi7442]

Can the governement not force some sort of contraception.. the kids who have ALL been adopted.. Its traumatic for all parties but it would also cost the tax payer thousands upon thousands for each child to go through the system.

[@pamelajefferies3197]

Why have all their children been took away ?

[@HumanimalChannel]

38:45 seeing yer mum and dad every day" Is just pathetic. Just say, the names of the adopters.

[@user-fi5qv1vk7m]

Any old baby clothes

[@saskiiidoranmusic]

Why can’t the foster parents adopt them ?

[@mrscookie8142]

I guess that isn't illegal, but at some point, there won't be any foster families left. Some might not be ready to take on the responsibility for 18 years or more. The older couple in the last episode probably wouldn't adopt since they are older, but they can give the children a loving home till they find a new family.

[@river8760]

They can. I know someone that has a child they first fostered. Not all foster parents want to adopt though.

[@belindapoplin5439]

MY GOD. How many more times are they going to just re-upload and run the same old tired ass doc episodes 🙄🙄🙄

[@suzanneeckstein13]

Mom has done great thing by giving life to 3 babies and 2 families the joy of child don't come down on her for that

[@jessicab6723]

It's not a great thing to have children you can't take care of. It's irresponsible.

[@Angelica-uo7bw]

Quit making it impossible for people to adopt them when they're babies. The success rate of adoption would be 100%

[@SmooseySmellings]

Some of these parents are great adverts for enforced contraception.

[@jadewilson9018]

The language and mentality of the case workers ar times is rrally bothersom3

[@HumanimalChannel]

They are walking red flags of incompetence,.idealism, stupidity, a d trauma

[@HumanimalChannel]

They are walking red flags

[@HumanimalChannel]

32:00 that BIG BROTHER nope That shd be a red flag. Anton is way too old of a teen to be in a house with vulnerable children Just ridiculous. This situation REEKS of "this family put their hand up.fpr the two of them, this might be inlikely to happen again anytime, lets make it seem like it is perfect"

[@violetayaneva8328]

Disgusting!! The state instead of paying the foster people should invest to help the parents so that the children will grow in their families. You have money ... billions to pay the illegal immigrants but you have no money to support the parents of your future .. of those kids??? Than not the parents but YOU AS A STATE ARE FAILED. YOU ARE A FAILURE. SHAME IN YOU.

[@michellevincent8338]

The money that is paid out to foster home is supposed to be used to buy the kids clothing and other needs…. I can tell you the most money we ever recieved in many years of foster care was 28$ a day …so please know it isn’t huge amounts of money….and it shouldn’t be a main reason to foster….

[@motleymama6587]

That’s a pretty ignorant comment. Perhaps you didn’t watch the video? These kids were neglected, and in danger. Parents, instead of getting their act together, decide to go have more children that they can’t take care of. Thank goodness for foster families who provide love and care to these children. And to those who adopt them hats off to you for giving them a loving, safe home for the rest of their lives. Just because somebody can have kids doesn’t mean they should.

[@surgeon1016]

Many of these parents are not in a capacity to take care of their biological children and you can invest as much money into these parents but if they aren’t capable then it’s pointless I mean this documentary showed one of the parents being an abusive stalker you cannot expect someone like that to be responsible for a child they don’t make these decisions lightly because it’s traumatic for many people to take away kids and place them for adoption

[@dahliamalloy2167]

Don’t know where you live but here the foster course won’t take you as an applicant unless you have financial security to support a child. They emphasise over and over the money you get is a small contribution towards the child. You have to take on the financial burden of the child. It’s quite simplistic to think it’s all about money. There are abusive and negligent homes nothing to do with poverty. That surprised me as a carer the children who came from wealthy homes. Here the bio family is encouraged to keep contact even if adoption happens, so the child isn’t wondering what if. The child grows up seeing that the bio family can’t care for them and have issues. I have seen some go back to bio family and have a happy end, but also some who are thriving in care. I will say the ones who have contact with bio family do better than ones who don’t.

[@thestraggletag2616]

They'd smoke it.

[@KuiWagacha]

I HATE THEM. CHILDREN BELONG WITH THEIR OWN.

[@markleesbruisedknee]

huh

[@motleymama6587]

That’s so not true.

[@surgeon1016]

If these people cannot take care of their kids you want to just leave them in the care of people who might destroy their future instead of giving them to people who can provide them with a life and a family they deserve

[@pce12345]

Yea much better that the kids are abused or neglected right?! Grow a brain

[@alovette5755]

It's interesting that you said their own, like how the mother said "she's mine" kids aren't property. They need to be taken care of