What Happens When Parents Dont Take Care of Their Kids? | Part One | Origin

This in-depth series follows the entire adoption process from the parents who are desperately fighting to keep their children to the couples eagerly waiting to become adoptive parents and bring a child into their home.
The process begins with the most difficult decision of all: the decision to remove a child from its birth family. This episode follows the social workers whose job it is to take children away from their parents and recommend whether they should ever return; and parents who are desperately fighting to keep their children.
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[@bekka20]

Why aren't they trying to get matthew away from emily?? She's clearly in danger, not just the baby.

[@abigailloar956]

Sadly, she is an adult. She makes a choice every day to stay. Intimidated or not, she has to ask for help

[@christinemoore6911]

Agree he is ruining her life

[@melissamartin4183]

Because she is an adult

[@neohermitess420]

She's 18 :/

[@FlockingAroundKC]

I learned this the hard way! As a woman you are just as guilty for the exposure to the abuse if you don’t get away. I luckily learned before it was too late to just get away but some aren’t so lucky. The kids come first, no time spent in a relationship is worth being able to come home to your baby! No one is more important than the kids!

[@Andizu1]

Matthew thinking they're taking kids away because other people can have them when they're unable to get kids is just a whole new level of stupidity and lack of accountability.

[@beverlyanne5192]

Its his excuse rather than looking at himself

[@gargwinvinesnake6961]

Because everyone is lining up to adopt children born from drug abusers, alcoholics, unknown medical history, and who knows how many other issues.

[@linda9115]

I wouldn't leave Mathew with a stuffed toy let alone a baby

[@krkwnejfnf]

how could she be with someones like that, he's horrible

[@dianestevens2659]

​​@@krkwnejfnfhe is quite a dangerous person, no insight, violent and aggressive.

[@bigb853]

@@krkwnejfnf Most likely from trauma herself with little to no family support.

[@amandahood7861]

Same here

[@christinemoore6911]

He’s so aggressive volatile and uncontrollable. That baby would not be safe with him. He’d been l9sung his temperin five minutes

[@KeiraMarieASMR]

Matthew is the reason that Emily doesn't have her daughter and you can tell. She acts just like my mum when we were in a dv situation. She needs to leave him or she'll never get her baby

[@ulaula7274]

They both have mental disabilities, due to FAS.

[@julieandjeffschaffer99]

I agree

[@lc4life369]

Havent watched the video yet but I'm pretty sure by what you commented that Emily is actually the reason she doesnt have her child. Because Emily won't leave him and do whatever she needs to do to keep him away from her daughter. Wich she could get help with in most places. If shes the one who wants custody of her child she is the one responsible for keeping her safe. I do feel for people in those situations. My mom was one of them for a while. But I still think she is the reason she doesnt have her child.

[@sheribrougham4863]

Totally agree. She needs to spend three months doing a dv course until she sees the coercive control. He's the issue. The police need to arrest him for coercive control so she has time to get strong enough to get rid of him for good. The courts should remove his parental rights so he has no right to have contact with them.

[@bigb853]

Poor, poor Emily, run dear, run. Focus on your daughter and getting sober,

[@debbiemohekey1509]

This is the second time this has been uploaded. Emily left and baby was adopted. Emily said to me in comments she did the best she could for her baby at the time. She was focusing on improving her life. Hope she is doing well.

[@eunicestone6532]

Emily probably did the best thing for that daughter. Drugs, alcohol and children do not mix.

[@bigb853]

@@debbiemohekey1509 Your'e right, it dawned on me later. Yes, I hope her and baby are well.

[@julieannemichelle]

The arrogance of some of these fathers disgusts me. I would never choose my partner over my child.

[@UniqueCuriousMakeupArtist]

17:06 He’s delusional, disturbed, controlling, abusive, degrading, and out of control. No child or person is safe in any environment he is a part of. The mother needs counseling to realize that his behavior is controlling and abusive. If she wants to keep her child, he needs to be out of the picture. He’s a ticking time bomb that continuously shows that he is not able to control his behavior. Over a cereal bowl…. That’s replaceable.

[@scdu]

He also seems like he's way older than his teenage girlfriend, just a scumbag all around.

[@MomOfSeven123]

No question that Emily was abused growing up.

[@trextor23]

The couple so chilled when they've had their new born taken away. I'd be crying my eyes out and doing everything to keep my kids.

[@kaykanut8778]

You can't judge someone's grief. They were already involved with the department, so I'm sure they saw it coming as well.

[@jadewilson9018]

I think Emily has li Ed with this removal as a fear for the duration of the 6 mi ths I vestigation ..

[@sylviekins]

Matthew can’t even behave himself for 10 minutes in a meeting without swearing and being physically and verbally aggressive. He needs to be controlled. His behaviour is atrocious! I wonder if he would be different with men, he is just as bad.

[@pce12345]

Think he's brain damaged? / Fetal alcohol disorder or something like that?

[@gloriabaumstimler2729]

This is a person who may or may not have been abused, buim sure he was never told no

[@neohermitess420]

Matthew's absolute refusal to accept accountability for his actions and CONSTANTLY blaming others and inability to recognize/choose socially acceptable behavior is GROSS and DANGEROUS.

[@heatherwolmarans8287]

He reminds me of someone I know who had Foetal Alcohol Syndrome, no impulse control, irritable and prone to lashing out, emotional development of a 10 year old, it's so sad.

[@angeldip5797]

Narcissistic

[@jessovenden]

It’s rather a pity that both Emily and her baby can’t be fostered together, maybe for a few years… I know that is a bit strange to say but having been in a situation not completely different from this, it’s what I secretly wished for.

[@SavageMinnow]

I wish someone had been there to foster you, and all the other young mums who need help. Some need it more than others, but I wish it was available for those who could use it.

[@jessovenden]

@@SavageMinnow Thank you, you are very kind.

[@fosholyfe6115]

YES! I just wanted to be fostered with my baby 😢

[@jessovenden]

@@fosholyfe6115 You understand me. My heart goes out to you ❤️‍🩹

[@donisecyre6746]

she is 18, why couldn't they take mother with child into "care"? Teach her how to parent rather than psychologically and emotionally break the mother/child bond.

[@jadewilson9018]

This comment should be higher. As a person who went through this, and am also now deeply educated in behavioural science and family law... this policy needs to change... Emily is a victim. The mother and child are symbiotically victimised in a dv dynamic and removal of a baby from a mother is further traumatising both victims , the dv perpetuate actually benefits again from. the child being removed from the mother due to the damage is causes her and rei forcement from an authority about her diminished value as a human. It's wrong. Policy must change

[@danny13927]

It's so good to see people cover a topic that is usually taboo in our culture. Thanks!

[@personallyvictimizedbylifelmao]

WHY ISN’T ANYONE CONCERNED WITH GETTING EMILY AWAY FROM HIM???? The baby isn’t the only one in danger here!!

[@ophiecat]

Women like Emily cannot be made to leave. They usually stay in these abusive relationships.

[@truzle6133]

Because she is a grown adult and the baby is a freaking baby

[@JessicaRodriguez-zy5gz]

Different country. Different rules.

[@personallyvictimizedbylifelmao]

@@truzle6133 she is a *person* being *abused* at minimum verbally, but most likely physically too behind closed doors after seeing his behavior. And usually people in her situation need help getting out of those situations. Maybe think twice before you make your next comment.

[@personallyvictimizedbylifelmao]

@@ophiecat I am unfortunately aware. It’s just frustrating. 😭

[@kylieclark6313]

I think they need to remove this guy all together it's clear that he's controlling of her and she is intimidated by bim

[@sylviekins]

He tries to control everybody and is verbally abusive and physically aggressive.

[@JillianMatchett]

This is one of the more depressing things I have ever watched.

[@ophiecat]

Men like Matthew will never change. They do not see their behaviour as wrong.

[@DizzKola3]

I wish Emily could have someone, besides a social worker, to be a parent to HER to help her break free from Matthew, I think she has the potential to be a good mom. If he cant even keep it together in front of the very people who make the decisions about whether they have their child or not, then he surely can’t keep it together at home.

[@tiendaphillips8738]

The mom that didnt show to say goodbye to her baby broke my heart. That poor little boy. And emily needs to get far away from mathew. She needs a family herself it seems.

[@jadelynn1703]

I don't know how old this video is,but I hope Emily ran from Matthew and never looked back. He sees no problem with anything he does, thinks every one else is the problem.... probably this isn't the first woman he was (at least) mentally abusing, and probably has other children out there he isn't allowed to see.

[@jo-jo8845]

100 %

[@veerahmbles]

Bro's more concerned about his daughter's bowl being smashed than he is his own daughter.

[@dannibee3648]

Wow For Emily to be that selfless to not contest the decision for the best interest of her baby speaks volumes to the love she has for that baby. She just unfortunately can’t provide a safe environment for her. I’m shocked someone her age would make that decision when there are parents older than her who drag out a case for years despite how horrible that is for a child, knowing they aren’t fit. A parent, like Emily, putting the best interest of the child first is so refreshing to see in the child services world. I hope she’s doing well today and the baby girl is happy and thriving.

[@ChristinaMayoAR]

42:56 that's a sick smile. He's relieved... Not sad.

[@ameliafatface7995]

These poor little babies - they didn’t choose to be born into this 😢

[@kn397]

How can Emily chose him over her sweet little baby?

[@snoox27]

She's a victim. The baby deserves a safe home

[@user-bn7bk5mw4s]

They almost always do. It is disgusting

[@kathleenpapaleo2720]

I see it all the time. Drugs are usually the problem. Not able to choose children over substances.

[@katefevre6222]

@@user-bn7bk5mw4s Then they don't deserve kids

[@Ashleightroll]

I think Emily loves her baby. Like the social worker said, she probably just accepts it because she was brought up in a similar environment and doesn't know that things can be different. It seems like she has low self-esteem and doesn't think she can live alone. Perhaps she feels she doesn't deserve anyone better than Matthew. Unfortunately a lot of people stay with bad partners for these kinds of reasons. It can take a very long time for them to get out of the bad situation and stay out of it.

[@uncensoredangel7741]

40 with an 18 yr old yeah 😅

[@tiawarren5403]

Disgusting

[@Red_1976]

She’s got no self esteem and obviously is reliant on him thinking he is the only option.

[@HalfCrazy73]

Any woman chosing a man over their child has proven to be an unfit mother.

[@joyousbloom731]

Goes both ways. Anyone choosing a partner over their children are unfit parents.

[@jennjeffs4893]

Matthew needs to shut his mouth & open his ears. He refuses to listen. Thinks he's done nothing wrong. I understand he's angry, but acting like a ignorant ass isn't going to get his child back!!!!! RUN EMILY!!

[@alovette5755]

And constantly saying everyone else is scum

[@Trogdor1365]

The UK is much stricter and on top of things than the US. Our government has sold out families to billion dollar corporations instead of running public welfare themselves. These private "contractors" prioritize their earning (which is a forgone conclusion as they are private BUSINESSES) and child abuse is ignored. The government representatives who decide to contract out public welfare jobs are really siphoning billions in taxpayer money to their wealthy donors, who then turn around and donate millions to their campaigns. Same thing with privately run prisons, privately run healthcare, etc. Capitalism.

[@alenagonzales9489]

It is shocking how fast children are placed for adoption. Doesn’t feel right.

[@dannibee3648]

Here it’s seems fast by the video but in America, it drags on for years. It’s really a shame. Parents don’t do what they’re supposed to on their plan and the courts just keep giving them time, leaving the kids in limbo. It’s so heartbreaking. In America, they’re supposed to get 15 months to do everything in their case plan to get their kids back (and it’s usually simple basic things like employment, housing, parenting classes, the normal things parents need to care for a child) and most won’t do it. I think 15 months is more than enough time for a parent who truly wants to care for, provide for and raise their baby.

[@michellewillett2131]

It does seem wrong. And slightly suspect.

[@juliemcgugan1244]

It doesn’t help that in the UK, social workers get bonuses for terminating parental rights and getting kids onto the adoption register. The social workers receive a bonus and so do their managers. The manager actually receives more. A very big red flag, to me. I have been told that they also target poor families, as they are less likely to be able to fight back.

[@elegantlywasted5447]

How is it possible to send 3000 texts?! That’s a truly insane person

[@carriebizz]

Ask baby reindeer fiona Harvey lol😂

[@SavageMinnow]

I think that a lot of people underestimate how many texts we send now that they don't charge us per txt. I can send several hundred a day, and not even think twice about it. 3k is a lot for someone you don't know personally, but I've easily sent my partner 3k texts in the past month.

[@Trogdor1365]

Why are they keeping Emily away from her baby? She's not abusive. She IS abused. They need to put a restraining order on him and keep him away from Emily and her baby.

[@tiawarren5403]

She lost 4 boys b4 this her 5th kid, there is a good reason they took the kids

[@Trogdor1365]

@@tiawarren5403 i think you've mixed up the mom. Emily is the 18 year old. She hasn't had any other kids.

[@angmoulton8528]

Sadly this seems to happen a lot even in the US I almost lost my daughter when she was 2 because we had no where to go but our apartment we were sharing with her dad he was using I did everything to maintain her safety luckily the day dcyf came his parents let her and I come stay I immediately left just an hour after them coming 😢 one of the hardest times of my life she's 8 now and wants more than anything for her dad to grow up and live for what's best for her. Breaks my heart my dad never stopped using and he died of cancer at 51 I never got to fully really know him. So watching my daughter struggle with this is unbearable for both of us ❤

[@twinning1944]

I used to work in child care (as a lawyer for parents in these situations). The issue is that Emily is exposing her daughter to DV and abuse. The view of the courts is that if mum can’t step away and protect herself and baby then social services step in.

[@marissabuoncora1608]

@@twinning1944 what can a parent do to get out of that situation if they feel like they’re being trapped/mentally messed with? Genuinely asking, not in a rude way.

[@kailynpeace8249]

As a former foster child and dv survivor I choose my child. I wish my mother would have chosen us. You can be the change

[@naomimoran5564]

Wouldn't matter how much i loved my partner if i had to choose between them or my child i would choose my child every time

[@staceygrant7217]

I can't imagine staying with a man at the cost of my child. These poor girls are just so broken and weak. Makes me wonder what life was like for them growing up.

[@user-pg8re4px3k]

I been there and done that many many years ago and just follow the rules and do what you are told, don't argue just do your job and proof you can do it!! Don't give up and stay focus for your child and don't blow it!!!

[@DaniellaPlus3]

10000% correct you are !!!! I was very young when I had my first son 15 and I had come very close to losing my baby for poor choices !! I did everything they wanted and showed them I could be a good mama !! ❤if you want that baby if you love that baby you will do what it takes to!! Much love from Canada

[@sylviekins]

@@DaniellaPlus3bless you, it sounds like there were hard times, so glad things turned around 🙏

[@jeannerountree952]

I hope that Emily left Matthew!

[@Loosybaboosy]

He can't see what a bully he is. He's so focussed on how he feels and his story. He has no idea the impact he has on others. He's too immature and set in his ways to ever change. RUN EMILY!

[@SinFinkleflor]

the age gap between Emily and Matthew is fucken scary.

[@roflpill]

I wonder whether they've taken that gap into consideration when they took the daughter away. Seems like the only responsible thing to do

[@TheCarlScharnberg]

I feel so sorry for Emily and her daughter. Emily is a battered woman stuck in an abusive relationship. She needs saving also.

[@DaniellaPlus3]

They should put a protective intervention order in place against Mathew and the baby’s mother that is what worked for me it kept my baby with me but kept me away from the problem and allowed me to care for my baby however for a while I did have to live in a young mom home but still got to keep my baby ❤❤❤and I love my kiddos soooo much I would do anything for them ! There is no MAN or person in this whole world that I would choose over my babies not EVER !

[@angmoulton8528]

That's amazing that it was available!!! So happy for you. I would hope there would be more opportunities for young moms especially stuck in a bad situation with a bad person ❤

[@lanegirl7826]

I think the problem here is that Emily isn’t choosing her baby over her abuser. I too, believe my kids come first no matter what, but when all you’ve known is abuse growing up, it’s hard to believe that things can be different, or that you can do things on your own.

[@DaniellaPlus3]

@@lanegirl7826 yes very true however all I did was grow up with abuse from my mother to every partner I’ve had and once again that’s all I’ve ever seen or known my whole life but I chose my kids and I chose not to repeat history ❤️❤️

[@cheh1311]

@@lanegirl7826 Exactly, aslong as she is not choosing to stay away from him nobody can help her. It's very sad, I hope Emily and the baby are ok now.

[@avaearles5609]

As someone who was a very young mom the situation with Emily breaks my heart because she is such a good mom and I really hope she gets away from him

[@thecraftynaturalmama9736]

Matthew is an abuser. He doesn't need to have his kids back, but Emily definitely would have a shot if she would leave him. She needs to flee. He's probably hitting her

[@WhyAreYouThisWay]

My goodness that independent reviewer was simply wonderful. She is SO right that a child will be deeply affected by the small words and actions the bio mom went through, even if they are not reunited.

[@person4451]

Wow they are real quick on adopting over there huh?

[@user-pg8re4px3k]

He is not good fit for the child cus he has bad temper and don't allow him near the child and he seems to be crazy and mentally

[@markleesbruisedknee]

bruh whats matthews problem he needs to be in jail fr

[@neohermitess420]

Ill bet he came from a family with an angry/alcoholic father who did bad at school and was mean to the mom. A man with a chip om his shoulder who resented any system he didnt succeed in, yet insisted he was superior. Entitled dads create entitled sons.

[@trextor23]

My heart when she missed saying goodbye to him

[@br_kacha2852]

my mother beat me and starved me, i called police, they called social workers, they literally went ''okay she has a room, a bed, clothes and fridge has food'' and left me there, in the end i was raped and had to endure being choked the lights out by mothers husband(stepdad) and nothing was done, she denied it happening, he denied and i was made into lying kid who was ''spoiled and clearly had it too good in life'' when i asked my mother why she didnt do anything she blammed my aunts relationship status as why allowed him to do it infront of her. I broke down and my finace saw it and he knew that i might punch my mother for saying thats the reason, but i just got into her face and said ''dont you dare blame ppl who werent there'' and walked up to my aunt and asked for her to driive me away from that house. My family didnt know that i wasnt lying since they were told that im lying for attention and they believed them till i kept on saying it more and more and when ran away, now they all believe me and dont want them anywhere near anyone. I wwas left at a rapist who beat me household where i was starved and literally abused by only having a room and fridge with food which i wasnt allowed to touch, my only meal was school lunch. im so happy to see these kids getting taken away right away

[@vanessalewis1023]

My mother sold me when i was 14 to a 30 year old man. Mothers can be the most evil creatures that ever breathed.

[@tiawarren5403]

Yep! There's a reason !

[@trextor23]

Sorry you had to go through that

[@attitudeproblem6462]

So sorry that happened to you. Hope you're healing.❤❤❤

[@janakozelska8760]

Hope you are in a better place and healing. Whisking you all the very best!

[@user-fy4uv9wb7o]

Um....how OLD is Matthew? He looks way too old to be with that girl. And given how wild he has been with the case workers, I'd be scared for her life

[@redqueen7761]

From one social worker to another, thank you!

[@DaniellaPlus3]

Trust me now that I’m older and have grown the frick up I now understand okay they don’t want that child baby around abuse and screaming all time they don’t want that baby to be around Matthew or anyone who acts that way around a baby it’s scary for the child it’s not fair seeing their mama be abused or however !!! If MATHEW WOULD JUST SHUT THE HELL UP she would probably get that baby back 😢😢

[@cucur8TAC]

100 000 kids placed per year!! There must be a problem somewhere…

[@sylviekins]

Yep.

[@pce12345]

Pattern of parental dysfunction. Not enough social support

[@janakozelska8760]

Yes the whole social system in Uk - how many people live in social housing, not working ably taking benefits - no responsibility, nor accountability, blaming others. On the other hand how many children are abused and eventually killed in these type of households?

[@lydienardon729]

It is so different in France : we do all we can to keep parents and children together by helping the parents. Sometimes children can be removed for a short period and send to a children facility or a foster family. The final goal is to keep the social links between the family and the children the siblings. We all need a family to thrive. The best is to help the family to grow together ! Of course psychiatric and housing is help all states should be able to offer to vulnerable parents to help them become better parents and citizen !

[@vanessalewis1023]

Yes! Exactly.

[@pce12345]

France more civilized

[@fanofthedog]

We do that too in the US. Of course its an imperfect process but ultimate the first choice is the birth parents and its rare they dont give the parents a chance first.

[@jenpatrick5633]

​@@fanofthedog But the U.S. does not have strong safety nets or good accessible mental health care to facilitate that.

[@fanofthedog]

@@jenpatrick5633 yup. i agree

[@Raylzway]

The sad thing is you cant guarantee the adoption family will be any better

[@moth_belly]

"I don't know what IQ has to do with being a good mum." 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@melanytodd2929]

"What has IQ got to do with being a good parent? " Oh, GOD 😳

[@michelleprieur1]

I think she has a good point. I've known developmentally disabled people who are wonderful parents. Granted, they need resources and help, but it's a fact that they're very unlikely to be abusive.

[@jenniferkimbrough7321]

There are plenty of abusive adults who have “normal” IQ

[@liv.EJM4497]

Being analytical & having good knowledge retention does not determine being a good parent. Emotional intelligence however is hugely important. Having empathy, emotional regulation, social skills and motivation is going to be 100x more beneficial to a small child than being able to process information quickly.

[@katherinekuefler-kappel2328]

I've known a few mothers who have had their children removed because of their partners. I understand wanting to stand by your man, but when it comes to your child, you need to always put them before a relationship. If you aren't with that person, you take away the reason for your child to be removed. Do what you need to do to keep your child in your care. You will both be better for it.

[@osheaeimear83]

Ray is right. Demanding getting specific help that vulnerable people cant access is cruel. Emily needs access to care and so does Nicola.

[@CreatedByARobot]

My heart is with that baby, but also with Emily. You can see it, in his face, he’s a horrible controlling person. I feel for her, I hope she can find a way to give herself the love she needs so she can be with her baby.

[@JustChlo.]

Wait Mathew looks and acts like he's 25 and Emily's only 18??? Tf that's a 7 year age gap🤨

[@neohermitess420]

God bless Emily, "What"s IQ got to do with it?" Also Emily "I don't understand why he does this." MISS MAAM 😭😭😭

[@HeatherAllan-cq7md]

Emily is a child having a child she needs to get away from him now no one is safe

[@hellobot67]

In America, If a kid says, "There's no food at home, or you notice them taking food home. they WILL take your kids away and PAY someone upon arrival to feed that child where as if you make a penny over the food stamp minimum. You won't get it; if you get it, it can take weeks for a card to arrive by mail! I worked at a dollar store, and they would buy nothing except air and junk, but Publix isn't even .3 miles away. One woman who died ONLY used it for sweets. I'm not even being rude but It was sad cause they way she died could have been prevented.

[@theoracletempleoflovelight2222]

Reunification is absolutely key for a family. The parents that were drinking and stopped after their 4 boys were taken away never had any chance to do the 24 mths therapy and get custody of their baby before she was adopted. Yes best interest of the child is usually to stay with birth parents this system in the UK seems hugely biased and cruel. Give a mother or father sterility surgery instead of taking newborns…

[@ellenfoster9764]

OMG. To see Emily sitting next to her man, beaten, slumped over, looking down. She desperately needs to get away from him

[@jaclynm7122]

I will never comprehend choosing a partner over a child.

[@janetklumper6048]

And still having more children, why oh why?????

[@crusathekoala]

Im a mom. I was in an abusive relationship with my childs DNA donor. I ran with my child when she was a couples old. Had to wait until he was inebriated enough until i could pack up and leave. My child is my life. My ex is now a revolving door in prison. I would'nt change my past. But im raising my child to be brave and not to take anything from a partner never. I will always have my childs back. This poor girl (emily) needed help she was stuck in a cycle and thought that Mathew was love when he definitely wasnt. I hope she got away

[@emilywiebel3238]

Emily is a child herself, why aren’t they stepping up to help her. Her relationship is probably normal to her bc of how she was raised. She needs helps herself. Her and her baby need a home together where people can teacher her what love is and how she should be treated. This is like the children here in the US who age out of the foster care system with no family and end up in some of the worst situations bc they have no one. They end up with an abusive man who controls them and they don’t know any different. It’s heart breaking.

[@kaarstad2012]

I believe that they should have helped Emily get away from her abusive boyfriend and get a job and be self sufficient and gave her back her daughter. I don't believe these social workers try hard enough to truly help, it's like they are friends and see these other families as better so their just taking babies they know they can and doing nothing to help the ones who can either eventuality take care of their children or never really got the chance to try......I feel so bad for Emily bc she deserved to be a mom and have her daughter back......

[@Ebrie0903]

Emily needs to want it for herself. They can easily give the baby back, and then what? She goes right back to Matthew and he harms both of them. Emily needs to stand up for herself, the social workers are probably ready to help, but she probably is in fear. She needs be fed up over his actions. Her anger needs to outweigh her fear.

[@brendasnow8255]

At least in the U.S., social workers don’t take away children without a court order. To get a judge to order it, they have to present the case that it’s in the best interest of the children. If it’s an emergency, they still need an emergency order. It’s true that some people have child after child removed from their care.

[@ulaula7274]

What? She is addicted to drugs, alcohol etc and because of this, she lost 5 children. Social workers are not saviours.

[@cheh1311]

@@ulaula7274 That is the other mom, Emily is the 18 year old.

[@tallulahjune7821]

Children removed from the mother at the hospital is almost exclusively as a result of the child testing positive for drugs. She also has never had a job, won't leave her abuser and I would imagine probably has a history of being abused herself by her demeanor and behavior. Loving your child and wanting to be a good parent is not the same as trying. And I think she knows that about herself and about the life path she is on. In a perfect world she will use this situation to do better for herself while her child is safe and the cycle of abuse can be stopped. It's absolutely sad, but I feel like she did what she thought was best, which is what a true mom does. Just my opinion

[@malloryknox1637]

I was adopted and my childhood was so viloent i was a cronic run away and homless by age 13 and emancapated by age 16. But im from the US and our CPS is famously horrifing. Point being the whole system is screwrd.

[@laureljade3476]

the look of fear in that poor baby's eyes :(

[@michellecooper5753]

So tragic 🥹. ☹️Children are gifts.

[@wolfe8421]

Emily broke my heart. For her to know in her heart, adoption is best for the emotional stability and development of her child - God bless her. That Is a good mother. I hope her life has become better and that piece of works out the picture. What a sad situation.

[@vanessalewis1023]

"Hopefully" we'll get her back?! That is your child, blood of your blood, flesh of your flesh, your heart, your whole wide world in a tiny little being.

[@motleymama6587]

Why are these parents having more children so soon after losing older ones? They should get their acts together and practice birth control for awhile. There are a lot of parents in the US that shouldn’t have custody of their children.

[@janoraj4667]

If they were able to make such sane decisions they would nit be where they are

[@marniejane88]

Wait, thats her partner!!? He looks old enough to be her father..

[@MissNikkiDawson]

We need updates on these people.

[@katefevre6222]

Some people don't deserve kids, have them for the benefit, then open their legs and have another one so they don't have to get off their lazy butts and work, don't care who the daddy is, just to have the benefit. They are evil to mistreat a child when others yearn to be mothers, like me. Life sucks and this makes me damn well angry !😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠

[@caseyharding7399]

She young mom but no,one said if she left Matthew she might have a chance to be a mother to her daughter 😞 so sad

[@crazymusicchick]

Wow in the uk adoption is rather quick in Australia we foster alot longer. My Nana and pop fostered a boy in the uk when my dad was little before they moved to Australia, my dad found him on Facebook and saw him when he went over to the uk

[@sapphirology]

Matthew is UNHINGED. 16:45

[@janakozelska8760]

These people should not have children. Living in social housing most likely on benefits, blaming everybody else, no sense of responsibility, no accountability for their actions and behavior, not even talking about taking care of someone 24/7. They cannot take care of themselves. So many cases of abused kids - these adults were most likely growing up in abusive households themselves. It’s never ending circle. Very sad.

[@RoseThorneTV]

Nah as the woman I would stay behind and tell them I want out of the relationship with him so I could have my child and he can continue to throw his tantrums else where

[@sylviekins]

She is so young, hopefully all goes well and she can meet up with her baby again one day.

[@jenniferclark9842]

I know it’s hard, but Emily, you need to leave Matthew for the sake of your child.

[@feliciaw4710]

Heartbreaking. Matthew's partner should have left him and brought her baby home to family. I couldn't imagine not having my babies. I hope these individuals as well as the many others going through this situation find themselves with their beautiful children. ❤

[@LuckySpinster.]

heart breaking I thought there could have been a few more ad's

[@rmw9130]

Emily.... Social services nailed this one. You seem like you could make it with your daughter but you're dude is a mess. I have been in several very long-term relationships and I did NOT screen or answer my guys phone. Thats just weird. As soon as he said that.... nope!!

[@MD-sf2by]

Omg it's his fault she doesn't have her baby , run hun run

[@trextor23]

If after loosing your 4 children you still decide to be lazy and blame everyone else except yourself than tou don't deserve to care for a little child.

[@mrsa9629]

The system there is very speedy

[@joannharrington2279]

They lost their older children so let's have another one. What? Maybe parenting classes would have helped instead of waiting to see if they do it again. Just because you can have children doesn't mean that you should. Children are a life time not just until they become adults. Hope things go well for these struggling adults.

[@MrsHollyG]

Matthew is the biggest man child, poor Emily needs needs to run for the hills. She seemed like a loving mother to her daughter, such a shame that Matthew is stopping her from being able to mother her. Lock him up, problem solved.

[@queenbluntressspeaks2695]

This is traumatizing for children. It’s so inhumane

[@EJMGCMPJMJKM]

Im curious what the age gap is between Matthew and Emily, younger girls with troubled backgrounds may be easier to gaslight and abuse. He should be no where near his child. I hope emily left and got custody of her daughter back.

[@hansendesigns]

If you’re a parent and you’re so familiar with the system to call it an “EPO” you’ve got bigger problems.

[@crystaltheo8494]

Emily needs to leave so she can get her baby back

[@ForceFreeTrainergirl06]

I don't understand why the social workers aren't trying to protect the mother of this baby. She is clearly vulnerable, and he's a toxic piece of scum. He's got serious issues with his personality and his temper. I'm betting he's whacked her a few times, because he appears to have no self control, and that may be one of the reasons they are removing the baby. I mean, he's also incredibly stupid because anyone with any common sense or any sort of impulse control would not act the way he did around social services and speak to them the way he did. He's an out and out liar because what he said contradicted what we saw on the video. He may even be like this because he's got mental health issues, but no matter. Surely they explained to this young girl that being around him is one of the reasons she isn't keeping her baby. I suspect though, she's easily led and would end up back with him at some point. Let us hope that without the baby, she is free to leave him if things get really bad. He seems the sort of person who would seek her out if she did and not give her any peace unfortunately.