Revealing How We Parent Our Uncommon Family | Episode 5

No matter your situation, parenting is HARD. But it’s something we love and find incredibly fulfilling. On this episode of Raising Heights with Zach and Tori, we scratch the surface of our experiences and thoughts around parenting.
In the unique situation of being a mixed-height couple with kids who all have dwarfism, we’re learning along the way. Often left out of milestone conversations and celebrated with extra enthusiasm, we talk about the best things you can do for yourself and your kids to help them find their purpose, learn and grow - all while feeling loved along the way.
On this episode we dive into:
✅ Not letting your diagnosis define you (or your kids)
✅ The reality of raising kids with dwarfism
✅ The biggest disservice that’s the easiest to fall into
✅ The importance of helping your kids find their purpose
Chapters:
0:00 Intro
1:11 Expectation and socializing
4:48 Spoiling children
10:13 Parenting kids with dwarfism
15:21 Dwarfism and identity
19:42 Societal treatment of children with dwarfism
26:15 Dwarfism, gender and societal expectations
34:28 Parenting boys and confidence building
48:20 Self reflection
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[@kellyroland6109]

My average height son was adored by everyone, he just has that aura, I think Jackson just has that too!

[@connieapps5959]

“Does your child need that or do you need that.” 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Love that!

[@kathy777]

Great statement

[@shannonking1096]

Such a powerful statement

[@MaisesMom-ix6yi]

One of the best things about LPBW being aired for so long is numerous people who have never known someone with dwarfism were able to gain awareness. We watched you as a child compete with your siblings, play soccer, enter high school, begin dating, etc. We heard your parents discuss aspects of their lives impacted by dwarfism and yet excel in business and philanthropy. You're continuing that work with your podcast and I believe the relationship developed with viewers and listeners has educated hundreds of thousands of people over the years. I agree with Tori that we are not equal, but the ongoing exposer and discussions are helping us take small steps towards it, not just with dwarfism, but with all differences.

[@marciamills2900]

Totally agree 👍 Love learning from this family sharing

[@rebeccahorn8418]

I love Zack’s thoughtfulness when he speaks. He comes up with some great points.

[@sharonsue441]

What a great conversation - I am a 79-year-old woman who raised four average size children, and when I look at Jackson, I see a very special young man. His personality and confidence is going to take him through this world with little problems ..You both say you’re not perfect parents And I’m going to have to believe that but from everything I see and hear you are superior too many. I am sad that you will no longer be on the show.(even though I understand where you’re coming from.) Because I have watched you from day one and always look forward to watching the show with you and your growing family in it. I’m glad I found the podcast because at least now I continue to be part of your lovely growing family.❤❤ you are both very exceptional people and parents.❤❤

[@kittyk3603]

You two seem like loving, safe, understanding, and well-rounded parents. Zach drops lots of gems. I love hearing you two chat. Great episode 👏

[@bethchance9913]

Zach, I have watched you grow up over the years, you and Tori are great parents. You have done good ❤

[@karendash3274]

I raised my daughter who has Asperger’s to dismiss her negative language of referring to herself as not being “normal” and instead replace that negative with the positive language of viewing herself as just being “different” She now is a law clerk and has recently told me that she is so appreciative of the laser focus she possesses and attention to detail that just comes naturally, she feels blessed to have Asperger’s 😊

[@robinsloppy-ig6vd]

Or you could add we are all God's children

[@aquilesanomar10K]

FABULOSO! lo has hecho muy bien y aplica para todos los hijos , para todas las personas porque todos tenemos diferencias y particularidades. En mi país se persigue mucho la belleza física y hemos aprendido tanto de que la perfección está en la actitud y no en lo que llamamos normal o perfecto 💯👍

[@NothingButTheTruth-en9ec]

I think anyone whose doctor starts off with “I’m sorry, your child has “x” condition…” should be corrected immediately and ask them to rephrase it to, “I have important information to share with you, your child has…”. It won’t fix everything, but it’s a start to get the medical community to change perspective from the get-go.

[@pamelac.3241]

So agree. Starting out with I'm sorry..........ohhhhh would rub me wrong.

[@LindsayS_TX]

Oh man, I have two kids with disabilities- one with hearing loss and the other autism. I so resonate with Tori in talking about your kids without identifying them as their disability. I feel like it’s super important and respectful and shows them that we see them for who they are and not their diagnosis. Way to go, mama!

[@jenniferriske1328]

My daughter is autistic as well. It’s a challenge but every day we learn something new. She is incredible, but it can be hard some days. If you are not a parent of a child with autism, you have no idea how much you fight for your child (I mean we all fight for all of our children. Our “mama bear” side).

[@lizkilpatrick8123]

I have ADD. I notice that sometimes myself or other people with this condition refer to themselves as ADD rather than having that condition. It's just part of that condition and not the entire person

[@lindseysanders3656]

@@lizkilpatrick8123I always say “ a person with”, and then add the condition. I have 2 separate conditions, but I just realized I don’t think about them much anymore. It’s just part of who you are, but not the whole story.

[@lizkilpatrick8123]

Semantics

[@deeohgeetoo]

Zack I love your common sense. I find you refreshing and interesting ❤

[@MamaBehr312]

The show never really showed us this very wise side of Zach. Always his compassions, but not the wisdom. Love it!

[@cathyjohnson3704]

Zach, I grew up and went to school with your Dad Matt in jr high and high school, in middle school he had lots of surgeries but in high school he never let anything hold him back, infact we had to move out of his way especially when the bell rang to go home he dominated the ramps haha , he was also on the wrestling team and he was great at that challenge, your parents probably had a good challenge raising average height children, I’ve enjoyed watching you all grow up and become your own people ❤

[@marciawright2600]

Our kids are adopted and we have to navigate so many "uneducated" comments about adoption. We have realized that most people mean well so we come with a heart of forgiveness. It is so hard to inform people about something they really don't know anything about. You guys are doing a great job! 💯

[@CindyVan14]

Do you use the word chosen for your children? I’ve heard that from parents who have adopted.

[@joyful_tanya]

I don't like to inform you, but the "child protection system" in the US has been weaponized against parents. A LOT of people have experience with this and are missing their biological children or grandchildren. So perhaps they aren't "uneducated" but "differently educated". What if someone decided you were a terrible parent and stole your adopted children? How would you feel towards that system?

[@marciawright2600]

Actually, that can be a trigger word for adoptees because even though we chose our kids, they had no say in the matter and this is a trauma and a pain that lasts a lifetime for many adoptees. @@CindyVan14 Again, we know that most folks mean well, so we are kind and forgiving. We can try to gently educate, but unless you have first-hand experience, most people cannot fully understand any "differences" that are not the usual. Thanks for asking.

[@joyful_tanya]

There are a lot of people who have had the "child protective system" w3@p0n!z3d against them. I would not say that they are "uneducated" but "differently educated". How would you feel if a campaign was launched against you and your parenting? What if the children were removed "while we investigate" and you never saw them again? How would you feel about that system? Many were destroyed due to this and then were bullied by court officials to sign over their rights. Or some never saw the inside of a court room. They could be just missing their biological children. And extrapolate that, as ripples out to the entire extended family. Grandparents, aunties, uncles, all who are missing family members. There are support groups for parents who are in this category. There are sometimes extenuating circumstances, like an abusive partner or postnatal depression, but "the system" isn't kind to people who have "circumstances". There's always 2 sides to a story. God bless you for being awesome adoptive parents.

[@CindyVan14]

@@marciawright2600 thanks for the feedback and I will remember your words in the future. Blessings to you and yours!

[@planetluna9554]

Tori don’t worry about getting the biggest gift/ presentation! The smallest of gifts, even a fun breakfast, is so memorable. 💝

[@katyeske7996]

We have raised assistance dogs for over 10 years. The BIGGEST thing we were told in the beginning was to ALWAYS put the person FIRST, disability second. They are first of all a PERSON with a disability❤

[@shelleyl4117]

I have a former classmate that is a dwarf. I never treated him any differently than I did my other friends. We met in the 6th grade. He kept poking me with his pencil. I looked at him and told him to stop. He didn't. The next time he poked me I grabbed the pencil and broke it and smiled as I handed it back. We were good friends after that. Because I didn't treat him differently. We are still friends today after more than 40 years. He has had some health issues lately with his back. His cousins were my neighbors so I saw him at their home during the summer, at our local fair, skating rink (And let me tell you he could skate FAST), swimming. He drove a pickup in high school and never let things slow him down. That is why I loved your show so much and why I love your podcast. I loved watching you grow up and it reminded me of my friend.

[@nrobin8273]

I use to see Zack as an interesting yet cocky and slightly rebellious child. WOW. What a mature wise man you are!!!

[@chigirl318]

I have watched the show since the beginning like many of us have- and I really believe they made Zack that way for the show- he is completely different in reality---which is a great thing!

[@ilovekaleadventures3471]

Wow!! This podcast blew my mind. These two individuals are so real they really get it. I have a son with severe dyslexia, and I gained so much from this podcast….. The stool part of the story was just amazing. Tori is so real and Zach is so real. This was the best podcast I’ve listened to in years.

[@mogam4783]

Thanks for that reminder that being a good parent is sometimes doing what is good for the long-term for our kids rather than short-term. Dropped my 13-yr-old off this morning at school… she was crying and begging to stay home because she didn’t like her outfit/hair/all the other girls are ‘perfect’… Said her friend’s mom lets her stay home when she’s having a bad day (don’t know how true that is)… Prayed for her and said, “I’m sorry, you have to learn how to face life when everything isn’t going your way.” But still conflicted about how I handled it on the drive home….the mom struggle is real! 😬

[@ourforsurelife3334]

Oh I totally feel this! It's so hard knowing what to do in the moment. You try to reflect and move on. But the guilt is real on how you handle it right then. 🙈🙈

[@iluvphillip13]

Age 13 was the worst year of my life. You'll get through it (like my Mom did)!!

[@caroldustin4701]

As a mom with a special child I learned two things .. not to treat him any differently and not to tell him he can't. I always gave him the opportunity to try. He has become successful in many ways as a result. Many times I was told he might not be able to do something and I forgot to tell him that. Everything from pinning the state champion in wrestling to scoring a 300 in bowling.... Tori and Zach you are a great inspiration for many

[@lindahaley1401]

I'm retired and have been watching children for the last few years and every child here immediately take off their socks when they get here, even in the dead of winter. I'm always happy when summer comes and we don't have to deal with the socks anymore. Almost all kids don't like socks.. lol

[@supermommaloha]

OMGOSH! Mine, too! They grew up in Anaheim with carpet and marble inside and cement outside before we moved to Oregon! Outside didn't feel good running barefoot on gravel, and all of their socks had so many stickers that they weren't worth picking them out! Now my Grandson immediately takes off shoes and socks and runs outside even in snow until he's told at least 5 times to pull his boots on! 😄

[@dawnaboo1377]

My granddaughters are the same way. As soon as they get here from school. Shoes and socks off.

[@hockeygirl8506]

Not just kids! Some adults don't like socks either. In my family, we wear them when we have to - when it's cold in the winter, but generally, at home they are off. Always with shoes tho. It starts in childhood.

[@kellyh3356]

Great "parents at the finishing line" analogy. Many parents think they are rescuing their children, but they are actually teaching their children that they are incapable of living without constant bailing out.

[@kellye6474]

So far, 5 episodes in, this podcast is one of my favorites. Thank you for sharing pieces of your life together. The topics have been very interesting and so easy to listen to.

[@mjomalley1606]

This is the most honest , reflective, realistic couples podcast. I hope your audience count just explodes! It’s evident you spoil them with loving parenting!

[@missymyers7043]

I love how Zach tells us where the dog died. It’s refreshing to hear him call people out in a respectful and questioning way…it makes you stand up and take notice. Good for both of you! FINALLY deep meaningful conversation!!! We can all learn and be humbled.

[@pattysommers3566]

Zach is such a phenomenal speaker.

[@deborahrich2666]

Love you two! Everyone has something going on. Dwarfism shows, that’s the difference. I loved when Tory was gone and Zach was in charge. Growing up on tv couldn’t have been easy but Amy and Matt have produced some pretty special human beings!

[@maryanneendeman2073]

I think as parents, we always reflect on what we could have done better in situations that always occur with our kids. Our 3 oldest kids are all grown up with kids of their own. It is so fun watching them parent their children. They are great parents even though their parenting styles are different. My husband and I are so proud of them. God surprised, yet blessed us, with our youngest daughter being born with Down Syndrome. We are "forever parents," and that's ok. We can't imagine our lives without her. And, yes, it doesn't define her. It's just the condition she has. Even though we are parents in our 60s, I can so relate to your podcast. God Bless you all!❤

[@janadehart8648]

I’m an older mom (53) of a 12 y/o son and he caught an episode of LPBW, he had questions, but I always quote that Dr. from many seasons ago at the conference “They’re just short” plain and simple. No different than anyone else. Y’all are rockin’ it! ❤

[@juliepiggott7331]

Absolutely love your podcasts ❤

[@lornamiley7030]

Zach & Tori, you are amazing parents!! ❤

[@ghministries-melissamckeeh4629]

I grew up with a learning disability in reading comprehension and test taking anxiety. Learning was a serious struggle for me especially in elementary. I used to say I was learning disabled and allowed it to define me but as I got older I realized that even though God allowed me to have this struggle; that I would grow and persevere through it and God would get the glory from it. I learned that even though I was someone who dealt with a learning disability, it didn’t own me. It didn’t define who I am or would become. My identity could only come from God and who He says I am.

[@peachiev1]

My husband and I love your podcast and we are 63 years old, you both are naturals. The discussions are very informative and down to earth and you'll are a breath of fresh air.

[@Roysmomma]

It's not a person's stature that defines them. It is the heights you reach through kindness, integrity, respect, empathy, and knowledge. I am so impressed with your videos.

[@jillyoung8323]

Another great episode! Your perspectives on parenting is wonderful. Your children will not only always feel loved, they also have so many resources within the family. Growing up, Amy didn't have that and neither did Matt. Your children have a circle of family who "get it". And Tori, you are what I refer to as a "born again mother "! Which is a great thing! Being available to your children for the big stuff as well as the small stuff. You were born to be a mom and, God gave you the right children for you. If you ever feel inadequate, remember that you are the perfect mom for your kids. Hear that! Thanks guys! ❤

[@Sarah-Graham575]

Your two best points(IMO); Kids are individuals, parent accordingly. And; Self asses. Should we adjust? And people, please love your kids unconditionally. When it comes down to it, we all need that♥️♥️

[@dukeblockington1179]

I love how you share your life experiences and are very truthful. I can see that you communicate really well.

[@tinawinslow3010]

I’m 67 years old. I chose to be a single mom and adopted my two daughters. my two daughters are raised and have families of their own now and I revel in the adults they’ve become. I am amazed at your wisdom and how you navigate through life and what life throws at you. Keep up the good work.

[@christinej9080]

Addicted to this podcast!!! Love Zach and Tori🙂

[@tanyawest-uu9co]

Tori, you're such a sweet mom. Jackson is ridiculously cute, and your other precious little ones are adorable. 🥰

[@aliceinoregonland3942]

I love seeing this side of Zach. He smiles a lot and looks so much more relaxed than what I witnessed on the show! He has so much wisdom and also has a great sense of humor. He makes me laugh! 😂😂😂

[@ninajustice9535]

These topics make me want to hear Amy's prospective on how she navigated raising her average height kids when they were younger, was it easy or hard. When the show started (might I add I watched every episode), all of the children were at the age of doing things for themselves. Another great podcast, I enjoyed it ❤

[@user-nc7ni4gg7k]

You have got to fix that spot on the wall (to the left of Tori’s head). I am continually trying to wipe it off my screen!!!😂 Love the both of you. Thanks for keeping it real!!

[@kittyplay9410]

I do the same thing! Please Tori, get rid of the spot. Lol.

[@susank9725]

Adding some color wouldn’t hurt either

[@pamelac.3241]

Hahahhaahha I have done that too!!!

[@kristenlazuka6288]

Same! 😂

[@kathy777]

Agree

[@missyoverberg2250]

Zack, on the subject of sports and over compensating for a child that may not be average, i totally agree. As I'm sure you are well aware you are who you are and although you you might need to work harder than the average person it makes you stronger. No matter what you struggle with, height, diseases, learning. It is what it is and you do what you need to do. Like Tori said, God made YOU the way he made YOU and it is up to you to embrace that. Loved this episode. Keep being the great parents you are!

[@sllee2266]

I love the education you provide in such a personal way. You don't condemn, you educate. It is an eye-opening perspective, and you always leave us with positive words/phrases to put into practice. (Is it really for YOU, or is it for them?) GOOD STUFF!

[@1jenniferblythe]

He’s the perfect companion and dad. They seem like the happiest family.

[@acaciakapusta8921]

Zach and Tori, I would so love to be a guest on your show sometime because I have so much to say about all of this stuff lol I was the only disabled person in my family growing up, with my genetic disorder being de novo, so I had sort of the opposite experience as y'all. I had two abled parents and two abled older brothers, but they made me so tough and resilient. My folks and brothers never coddled me, like y'all talked about, which helped me to be a strong independent person with a lot of successes in life. Most of my friends with MD never left home, never went to college, never got jobs, never supported themselves, never bought their own accessible vehicle or their own home and turned it into a wheelchair accessible house, etc. Their parents and doctors just wrote them off as "waiting for them to die" Anyway, I really admire how y'all are raising your kids. They're going to be very well-adjusted and successful in their own ways ❤ But I have soooo much more I could talk about lol

[@ericayoung2591]

I am raising two kids with invisible disabilities and it would be fascinating to discuss the similarities and differences in society's acceptance, sports, or parenting issues.

[@clarabrekke4372]

I enjoy your podcast very much! Being a parent is tough for everyone! ❤️

[@SimplyLolly]

10:13 Talking about how happy Jackson was with Tori’s little note ~ Back when I was little, I started writing "Just because" on pieces of paper (nothing else… just the words "just because") & would randomly stick them in my dads briefcase, notepads, pocket of his jacket, etc. No telling when they’d be found but that was kinda the point. Nifty part was… he did it to me also.🥰 This started when I was about 7-8 yrs old ~ I’m now 50 & just a few wks ago I left a Just Because hidden under his coffee cup… so when he picked up his cup, the note was there. ❤️ (and I opened a gift basket shop in my younger years & named it Just Because Gift Baskets…😉☺️)

[@hollypietrobono1676]

Zach’s mom and dad did an awesome job!!!!

[@autonope23]

Amy Roloff was a phenomenal mother and looks like she's a stellar grandmother too. No one can accuse her of not pouring her entire life energy into her kids.

[@bigbrowneyes4u]

I give most of the credit to God and Amy. Zach is a great man.

[@bigbrowneyes4u]

​@@autonope23Totally agree!

[@zabavnaya-xt8tb]

Lmao Matt is amazing dad, Amy was an avergae mom ​@@autonope23

[@cindibush8880]

I think Mom did 99%...

[@WishiganHome]

I completely agree with you, Tori, about the importance of person first language! Someone with a disability should not be defined by their differences. I love that you are so aware of the how the slighted change in verbiage can have a huge impact on those around you. You are such an amazing advocate for your kids and husband. ❤

[@fionafifi7029]

This made me think that they were made for each other 😊🥺🤗

[@christineelms8956]

I LOVE Zach’s perspective on empowering children and the analogy of life replacing loving parents at life’s finish line are SPOT ON! Love love your show .

[@leanagoosen363]

For every parent this is an must watch episode

[@fallstorm78]

This was so interesting. I'm 46, and I don't have kids. And I enjoyed learning so much about parenting and your family. Thank you!

[@user-qp7nj1jj6s]

Today is March 9, 2024. Love your show. I feel that it doesn’t matter if an individual has dwarfism, cerebral palsy, etc! Who we are inside is what matters! The entire world is out there for EVERYONE. Our personality and self confidence determines who we are! God bless both of you and your children !

[@ellenbrown579]

Love love topic of parenting! Raised 28, 26 and round again with adopting our 8 year old. Managing expectations is EVERYTHING Tori. How awesome that you get that so early in!!

[@autonope23]

Zach had some super thoughtful points here about babying boys, especially dwarf boys and how that can kind of backfire on them later in life. My brother is 6ft4 and he is STILL babied by the women in my family at 40 years old.... Its made him immature and incapable of fostering real relationships with women. It's important to let boys grow into men regardless of their height, but I can definitely see how it would be more important when raising smaller statured kids. You guys are knocking these podcasts out the park! Interesting topics and great points ❤

[@debhalbot5978]

Zac and Tori you are such wonderful, thoughtful parents!

[@LP-km7gj]

I am loving this podcast. My husband, kids, and I have watched you guys on TV for years and always felt like we most relate to you both. We have two boys 15 and 9 (average height) but man let me tell you, navigating these teenage years is so hard!

[@mattduskins1134]

As a parent with a child with Autism, all i want is just for him to have a chance to be included in things. Watching him light up when he is part of the group or class it helps him and in the end yes as a parent it makes me feel better just knowing he had a chance to be part of something.

[@supermommaloha]

Great episode! Both of you are so open about how you feel and that's so refreshing because you're real. Your parenting challenges will be harder the older they get. I'm way more than twice your ages but I just have to share that the best advice is from other moms. It truly takes a community to raise your kids. Maybe find other families who are diverse like yours. Especially learning from moms who already raised their kids. It's like gathering your arsenal of things that you can try or help you know what to expect. BTW the height markings part had me rolling! Every family that does that can relate somehow. But imagining little marks so close to each other!! LOL 😅 MAYBE (since they're still young) you can make a marker stick for each of them. Measure the original ones and transfer them? Oh, and mine is a post in the house which includes our dogs over 30 years! Including grand dogs! 😂 Keep it up. This is an intelligent podcast. You're both very smart. I can see how well you communicate with each other, it's obvious how much you love & understand each other. ❤

[@Dazehop]

New parent here, love hearing anyone’s parenting journey, much love from Seattle

[@kennethheelas8392]

I appreciate all that the both of you do ,and I thought I would just let yall know. This podcast brings such joy and laughter and deep thought. I wish yall the very best Godbless & Godkeep you stay sharp stay safe .😊 ✌ 🙏 also on a side note Im "disabled " and in a wheelchair 26 years now and often friends that I have and others who are also in wheelchairs we often speak of ourselves and use the word crip or crippled and its not to be offensive or offend anyone its our way to laugh together about our situation. But often times people and society in general find it to be off putting, again just thank you for speaking about things that everyone needs to hear..😊

[@pennyduncan5980]

Good day, everyone. Love the peak and pit idea. Thank you both for sharing. ❤😊

[@louDAY831]

I wonder if this is a daily ritual around the dinner table with the kids. I love it!

[@kitkatsplaylist5483]

I am a new listener and long time tv fan. I think you two are an inspiration to parents and to me, an old bird who loves your "do your best and forget the rest" attitude/reminder. I have enjoyed all of your episodes here on youtube. I look forward to your uplifting messages about life, attitudes, faith and parenting within your beautifully uncommon family. Zach I think you are an awesome "thinker" and please correct me if my "assumption" is wrong. Thinkers always LOOK like they are doing nothing, so why be offended? It is obvious that your intelligence is far more advanced than those insulting haters. Let's pray they learn how hurtful feels so they can stop inflicting their insecurities on others, In Jesus' name I pray. Tori, when you talk about your awareness that there will be a time when your children will not be your primary focus as they age and go out into the world, shows wisdom beyond your years. I believe you and Zach are doing an awesome job, using wonderful parenting skills and most of all, doing it together while being on the same page. Your generation is so much more aware than my parents were with me, I personally never had children but see exactly what Zach describes about coddling ( I always called it spoiling them) and hurting their ability to function in life without needing help to succeed. I was right , as is Zach.. Listening to you, Tori, I can't help but see you being quite good in the psychology arena, not just as a teacher, but still with children and more individualized. just sayin, you'd be good at that. I enjoy watching you talk about your children because your eyes sparkle and it is obvious to me that you are being led by the Lord. You renewed my faith in humanity, and blessed my day. Last, but not least. I have to warn... I just heard you call on a fourth pregnancy, LOL, sorry but God hears and knows what is best .. 😁 Be well and thank you for the inspiring evening

[@plargent68]

I love that i y'all are talking about not treating them different or spoiling them just because they aren't average. I have a 37 yr old daughter with Down Syndrome and i have never treated her different and have always pushed her to do her best. If i had treated her different i would have taken any potential growth away from her by making her think she was different. Thank you for taking about this.

[@applego6533]

I'm a teacher and my coworker adopted a little boy at birth with down syndrome. He's four. He's in preschool now and she's the same way. He does very well and is in class with other kids the same age. We all treat him the same as any other child and he's just amazing. His birthmother thought he would be "difficult to deal with " he's the best behaved kid I know.

[@jmoney_09]

So my daughter does not have dwarfism but she’s the shortest in her grade and has always been the smallest in everything. She has learned that that’s how god made her and she’s very confident in her height now that she’s almost 10. I can relate so much when Zach & Tori said to not baby them just because of their height. We have had instances where we have to catch ourselves doing things for her or treating her like a younger child. At the end of the day they are their age and we need to treat them like their age regardless of their height. Really enjoyed this episode.

[@jenniferthorne2964]

All of these episodes have been so educational and eye opening. You both bounce off each other's energy and chemistry really great. I've watched every episode and they get better and better. Keep em coming

[@xyngchic]

Thank you for the inside view. I think Mr Jackson’s personality will take him very far in life. That kid is hella confident and headstrong. Luv yalls podcast series…it’s covered in awesome sauce.

[@sandischoenberg9501]

Such a great episode…love seeing the dynamic of each others thoughts…and love how you support each other…thanks for giving us an inside peak of the thoughts and mindsets of raising children with dwarfism.

[@deedeew4040]

Hi Zach and Tori, it is a pure joy getting to know you both and your lovely children. I watch your mom's cooking show. Zach I watched you grow up in the shows. I love your marriage. You two make awesome parents. Enjoy your show. Love and blessings sent your way.

[@jennifersoto6457]

I love watching you all. Because you are in love with each other. You can tell that there is no divide on your differences, just love, which is blind. I feel you all are so real. 😊

[@nativegirl928]

I love how you are both balanced. You both don't have a favorite child. You treat them as an equal as they are. Best part you ❤you both keep things real❤. I love your podcasts. We as parents face challenges with our kids. We learn We grow from our mistakes & We become better people & parents. KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK!! Much love & blessings 🙏❤️🙏

[@Annette1965]

I love your podcast! I didn’t know you had one till today and binge watched them all. Y’all have the perfect voices and topics. So happy to found y’all and look forward to watching many more. ❤️🙏🏼

[@cynthiacelorier1570]

Another great episode! Zach, 100% agree. "Do your best. Forget the rest." Love it. Great motto to live by ...as long as you check in with yourself to make sure you ARE doing your best. So glad you started this podcast. I look forward to hearing both your points of view on any number of topics. Kind of funny to hear Tori's point of view living in a house where her height is the minority when it's usually those with dwarfism having to live in a world of "average" height people. Something that was talked about in LPBW in the early years. It can also be applied to other ...differences(?) In the world. If we had more of that perspective in the world, this would be a much better place. ❤ Keep up the awesome work you are both doing!

[@patriceross4770]

I just love listening to the two of you You are the two most wellrounded and grounded parents I have seen. keep up the great work

[@lydiamann9570]

I really enjoyed listening to this episode. Your kiddos, along with your listeners, are lucky to have insightful, reflective, and caring role models. Bravo on striving to challenge all of us to think, ask questions, and be the best versions of ourselves. The world is such a complex place. I hope that your children grow up in a far better place than 20 years ago. Not that it was horrible then, just that if they do that means progress is being made:) Looking forward to more episodes!

[@karenp5959]

Seriously loving your podcasts. The interaction between the two of you makes me feel like I'm sitting with friends. I have so much respect for your intellect and thoughtfulness. It's a real pleasure to listen to you both. Keep up the great work and thank you so much for sharing.

[@catmeow47]

You guys rock, great attitude. Growing up as a dwarf in a small town with average height parents and sisters, was so different than nowadays. I learned so much from your tv show. Being almost 60 still learning about dwarfism ❤

[@user-ix9dc9ry3u]

Absolutely love listening to both of you! We need so many more parents in this world like both of you. The statement "does your child need that or do you need that" really made me think, even as a total average size family.

[@zabavnaya-xt8tb]

I'm so glad you have this podcast, Tori is such a blessing and so unique! The family is lucky to have her

[@PaigeNicoleKomar]

I'm really enjoying this podcast... You guys are so real, honest, and wholesome. You are also interesting, a unique family, with three wonderful kiddos! My son is 14 and we always ask his bad/good experiences each day after school, so I think it's neat that you do the peak/pit thing each day. It brings on conversations that you might not have otherwise and can help your kids grow as individuals. Can't wait to get to know you guys better as I really didn't watch the show. I just came across your second podcast on KZbin by accident while looking for my normal DIY videos which I'm so happy about (I've since watched all of your videos thus far...) ❤❤❤

[@libbygarcia6354]

You both are so very well spoken, I love listening to this pod!

[@Lhigh18]

Great episode!! I think you guys should go more in depth on 2 topics you discussed. Tori's discusion about being conscience of the language you use and the impact they have on your kids. Words are powerful so they will have such an impact not only in parenting but in general life! The 2nd topic that Zach discussed about teaching your kids how to handle situations that are not always fair or they don't always win. This is something that has been missed for years now and why society is the way it is. Teaching your kids how to cope and navigate those unfair situations is SO important for later in life when they get into the college & work atmosphere because you are not always going to get that job, promotion, project, etc. Knowing how to cope and navigate that are 1 of the biggest lessons we can teach our kids! I would love to see you guys dive deeper into these topics on other episodes!

[@debbiewood7718]

Zach, your perspective on raising resilient kids is very important for everyone to hear. People are born every day with physical and intellectual challamges but is parenting that will handicap a child, even if they were born average.

[@judee.baland6526]

Love Love Love this episode! Years ago when I first started watching the show LPBW, I invited my husband to watch with me and he said he didn't like reality shows but gradually he was drawn in and loves the show and now the podcast . We mostly hate tv shows but we impatiently wait til the new season of LPBW starts. We will often watch the same episodes over again, because the kids are just so sweet and cool, we like you guys too. Shine On!☀️⭐️☀️

[@rachellehernandez302]

Zack and Tori you are amazingly blessed and great parent's I enjoy listening to your podcast.

[@Ogreletmama]

I just love listening to you guys. I feel like Ogre (hubby) and I are cut from similar cloth as you guys. I am so glad to hear you speak of trusting yourself! EVERY TIME I've ever NOT listened to my gut, I've regretted it. Every. Single. Time. Biggest advice I ever give anyone is to LISTEN TO AND TRUST YOUR GUT! Loving the podcast- keep up the good work guys!

[@kathigee]

I really love listening to you two talk about parenting, and actually about life. I love Zach's smile behind his face no matter what he is talking about... it shows that he doesn't take anything TOO seriously and he knows that the Lord is in control. I also love Tori's love and trust for the Lord. I love that you both are in this life together and how easily you converse about tough stuff. Your kids are blessed to have such conscientious parents, and I know other parents benefit from listening to you whether or not they have kids with different needs and abilities. I'm glad I found your channel. (funniest story: how Tori wouldn't date boys/men shorter than she in high school and college.... ahhhh society! Then she met Zach!). God bless oh also - ya - do your best and try to do better!!! love that. dont stop at the halfway point of that sentiment.

[@keikichristiancare]

This is one of the most refreshing podcasts! My brother has CP and growing up in this world with him was very rewarding. I love your perspective on things. I love that Zack is like let’s actually do our best. I love hearing your true heart on parenting. It can make us a better person to hear the trails of others and learn from them.

[@karenwallace3297]

Your children are so fortunate to have such loving, understanding parents.

[@rachelgale2417]

I hope that if I'm blessed one day with kids of my own... I am able to parent the way you guys do! I love how caring & fun you are! I love that Tori is a teacher, she has so much knowledge and experience with kids unlike so many people! She sees things in such a beautiful way & I love it! You guys kick butt at this whole parenting thing and it's so fun to watch!

[@bethanycartier3720]

I’m so impressed by how reflective you both are as parents! Big fan for years and I love the podcast. Keep it coming!🙏

[@debrahayes5802]

I truly love this podcast of yours!!! Every episode is interesting and the dynamic between you two is great! As a retired elementary teacher I’d love to hear an episode about what, if anything, you said to your child’s teacher early in the year about accommodations or other things.

[@juliebngracieandolive6750]

So so many good points and areas discussed. The competition and comparison in parenting is such an issue in itself. "is it the child's need or actually the parent's need" is so real bc so often it's obvious the parent's issue, the child is just in a learning curve that needs patience and space to grow. Love to hear areas of parenting discussed, and then the layer addressing the dwarfism dynamic within in is interesting. When we hear others discuss perceptions and values on the same wave-length as our own it is empowering and enlightening. We are all in this together. It's not about perfection. Doing our best to learn from each experience and challenge. So good!!

[@sallybrown2205]

I'm a grandmother and am learning so much about this subject. Thank you . Bless you

[@chaveztay]

I look forward to your podcast episodes! I grew up with you guys. Seeing you guys parent as you are only a few years older is so inspiring. ❤

[@Hangie552]

I love this podcast so much. I’ve been watching reruns of the show so now that you guys have a podcast is so GREAT

[@kcotjo]

In the day to day I believe most parents are doing their best. My sons are grown and there are always experiences that I look back on and would have perhaps done things differently. That's life in general. Whether it be in parenting or in life choices. Most of us can think of an experience that we would have handled differently. We certainly learn as we go. You are both wise beyond your years! Thank you for sharing!