The reality of becoming "that" girl

[@caveignoscas]

Also, if anyone wants to build good habits, they should remember to slowly incorporate them into life and stack one up on top of another. Decision fatigue is a real thing and we as people are creatures of habit. Most of our actions in life are a routine to prevent us from spending mental energy on decision making. That's why focusing on one habit at a time and doing it until it becomes so natural that not doing it becomes a conscious decision is (in theory) better.

[@juanitacarrollyoung2979]

Sounds good 👍

[@FeralFelineFriend]

Wait till ya work makes you switch shifts. My ma worked days in construction, but now they makin' her works night with only the weekend to get acclimated. While my boyfriend had to go from night to day shift without any weekend to switch. A lot of times where you work foes not give a shit about your hours.

[@riri89927]

Yesss, this is so true. I’m slowly adding healthier things to my life. Starting off with exercise

[@hattieholder9287]

Anyone else missing Ris rn?? I am. I hope they’re doing better. please anyone that sees this comment please take care of yourself, eat good, and please stay hydrated! 💕💕

[@lovablelichen5672]

So something I think about is that each of us is "that girl" to someone else, and the girl we idealize is probably comparing herself to someone else. I always envied this girl for being effortlessly beautiful and doing everything gracefully but then she told me that she wished she was as academically talented as me. So, I guess it was kind of surprising and put things into perspective. We all have our strengths and our uniqueness is what makes us wonderful.

[@RisIgrec]

yes!!!! i’ve always had kind of a theory/life philosophy that most of the time peoples strengths/weaknesses balance each other out and everyone (well unless they really suck) comes out to like an equal level of good in some way

[@emilywebb6826]

You are a genius

[@poppy7884]

HEATHER (Conan Gray)

[@bosmer3836]

im definitely not "that girl" to anyone lmao

[@yeetyeetyeet8053]

the fact that i thougt shes gonna watch eclipse like the twilight movie and not the literal eclipse

[@RisIgrec]

that’s always a possibility tbh

[@itmealex9605]

Ris is busy with their film making and school no need to worry ya'll

[@aaliyahfoster2705]

She's directing an indie film called Uncommon Application. The Sundance Film Festival isn't ready for her to take over.

[@itmealex9605]

@@aaliyahfoster2705 Awesome!

[@ka1purush_]

Ris is doing the pretending so we don't even have to get there.

[@AG-bq2zd]

Hey Ris, hope you’re okay❤️ Your presence is very much missed on the ‘Tube.

[@ellathefinefella2084]

Agreed! I came back to this video just to comment this sentiment

[@FreyaErin]

i really relate to this video. i would love to be “that girl”, but i’ve attempted to do it (and failed) so many times that i’ve come to realise i don’t need to change myself to feel better. like today, i took my dog for a walk, cleaned a lot of our house up and actually had some proper meals and i automatically feel much better about myself! i think instead of pushing ourselves to be the “perfect person”, we just have to accept out differences and especially that every single person’s accomplishments are different, no matter other people’s opinions on them

[@maxinecampbell4702]

yeah! as long as you're taking care of yourself and trying your best, you don't have to live up to unrealistic standards. everyone had different strengths and weaknesses.

[@FreyaErin]

@@maxinecampbell4702 exactly !!

[@user-cb3eo6dr1n]

She was one of my comfort YTers. I hope she's doing well! ❤

[@alienisabel767]

“That girl” tutorials are all over my Pinterest have been absolutely destroying my sense of self confidence so this video makes me feel better about the unattainability for this concept

[@carpoolgranola]

Omg I thought this was me I was like I don't remember commenting on this video

[@lunacore1854]

"That girl" really isn't that unattainable, in reality, it's just waking up earlier, being productive, and eating healthier. The whole skincare stuff is bs, you could wash your face with dawn dish soap and still be "that girl". The whole aesthetic is about taking care of yourself and loving your body, don't worry if it isn't Instagram worthy, just take care care of yourself to the best of your ability :)

[@morbidcuriosity969]

Screw that girl it's so boring and bland. Be weird. Cause being weird is so fun like as dumb as it sound I love it so much. Like everyone is a stranger and we're all gonna dies one day and im cooler than you (you as in people judging me not as in you specifically) this is my show. I'm still gonna me nice and be a decent human being but I'm gonna act like I am on the Truman show and the world revolves around me

[@alexthefrogg]

ris saying that when you have time off school and make a schedule bestie my everyday plan is to try to sleep till 10am

[@imani0nline]

Waking up before the sun just makes me grumpy for the rest of the day. You have to time it perfectly and wake up as the sunrise comes through the windows to have that movie moment 😗

[@eli2528]

Nr. It’s the perfect routine for me . Just get 8 hours of sleep and you’ll be fine

[@katie98711]

but then you gotta fall asleep early@@eli2528

[@fernherbert5296]

ah it's a good day when you can watch new Ris content

[@spookeymo]

this comes at a perfect time for me tbh, i kinda wanna become that girl and i KNOW it's not possible, mainly because it's just not who i am so thank you!!! and also thank you for showing your body, i think you look really good and i'm now realizing we look exactly the same soooo maybe i shouldn't be hating mine. something to think about lmao

[@RisIgrec]

thank you!!!! it’s been a JOURNEYY to like my body (grew up doing competitive dance lol) but now i’m learning to be happy with it - body neutrality really has helped me so is rec looking into it

[@PeachyisKeen]

The eyeshadow slapss

[@LavenderMoon8467]

I literally just woke up and saw the notification when I turned on Pinterest. What an amazing way to start a day

[@JasmineHarland]

You were my comfort channel. We miss u

[@RisIgrec]

be back soon :)

[@Antonio1950]

​@@RisIgreccan't wait

[@polas.4099]

I love how the sneeze fit perfectly in with the music. It's the little things

[@RisIgrec]

THANK U FOR NOTICING

[@rishikabhardwaj6371]

this video was so refreshing. I have been down and exhausted for the past few months and ahhhhhh i feel like things are going to get better??

[@RisIgrec]

they will :)

[@waywrdangel4189]

Hey where ya been ris? Been missing ur content the past few months :/ (it's fine if ur taking a break or whatever I just wanna make sure ur still alive XD)

[@marvinyap101]

omg its almost about to hit a year since ris last posted😭 i'm hoping u are doing well n will come back soon🫶

[@DUMRATBOY]

Your videos mean a lot to me. The one where you made the dark academia crawlspace is what introduced me to one of my favourite films (Perks of being a wallflower) and it also inspired me to make my own crawlspace and it’s cozy and i love it. I honestly have no clue why your videos mean so much to me but they really just do, i come back to them every couple of months and i rewatch them and i love it sm, feels like a home in some way (hope that makes sense), anyways i hope you’re doing alright!!

[@JMorrill]

Thanks so much for that comment about intuitive eating and not assigning morality to food, it's always really uplifting to see and hear

[@lololololollolooolllll]

i dont think "that" girl thing is a pinterest thing. pinterest is really the least toxic platform rn (in MY opinion) or maybe it just cahnges what side are u in

[@earfquake3989]

@@choicethetaurus The one link I don't regret clicking

[@earthbender1220]

@@choicethetaurus

[@sharkboy5562]

@@choicethetaurus wait this is actually pretty good- one of the few times I don't regret clicking some random link

[@RisIgrec]

i really love pinterest but i think the general aesthetic of that girl started there tbh

[@lololololollolooolllll]

@@RisIgrec yeah actually youre right it makes sense

[@Nancy_boy]

Hey Ris, hope that you're doing better🖤🖤🖤

[@Grimrose_04]

oddly enough hearing that someone else has been struggling to be motivated within life made me feel a little relieved. ive been practically living in my bedroom and everything that has to do with messy and bad is accumilating both in my room and my head, which sucks. i hope we all will have better days soon.

[@istrashqueen]

missing you Ris, hope you're doing well and making things happen for yourself ❤️❤️

[@sophtbat]

Yeah, I tried to be 'that girl' for a while- weirdly because of kdramas though, not Instagram 😂 Certain women there always looked effortlessly put together, great style, hair that always looked freshly washed, flawless makeup and were super organised. But of course that's all a fantasy, just as Instagram is. No one is that 100% put together, 100% of the time. Trying to curate a perfect lifestyle is futile, life is too unpredictable for that. That being said, I do think it's good to aim to improve certain areas if it really impacts your life. Like with sleep. I have an awful sleep schedule, and it really does impact my life in a bad way. So I am aiming to have a healthy sleep schedule akin to 'that girl'... hopefully I'll get there one day haha

[@naomiodeyemi3768]

Which kdramas inspired you? I'm trying to find some new ones to watch

[@minina3425]

Ris!!! You’re missed. 😢❤

[@elizabethd8109]

I'm currently feeling sick and down from the side effects of my second dose but this video made me feel less alone, I guess. Watching videos which seem perfect and aesthetic and all doesn't really make me feel better when I'm down. This does. Especially the reminder that nobody is perfect. Thank you.

[@kaylarose2625]

This very much reminds me of how I love the cottagecore aesthetic. But in reality I am the gremlin who lives in the cottage and I am SUPER okay with that.

[@momsspaghetti286]

Honestly... the 'that girl' life seems not sustainable at all and would fck my mental health up. I mean yeah, getting up and drinking water and stuff seems good. But the pressure to be productive, and pretty and put together and perfect at all times... girrrl. No. Its just not how humans work. And i wouldnt want to have someone like this as a friend either because it just seems so pressuring and perfection just gives someone zero personality.

[@lidek7273]

Hey Ris, hope you're doing well with the start of college. I love your channel, for all the reasons you yourself articulate. My brain is tired rn but I just need you to know - thank you for expressing honestly, for documenting honestly, for being real with everything, for not forcing, and for just letting us relate to you effortlessly like this. pls keep do the thing of this manner :) take care gamer

[@MashaTarasvetc]

I love to think that “that girl” is just HAPPY girl. You now, I like to imagine how people talk at the party about something like “Hey you see that girl? I bet she’s going to left soon because she had a sad day and she need a rest! Yay she’s taking care of herself, like yesterday she woke up at 1pm and didn’t blame herself, because her body needed this rest”. Super exaggerated, but I think you get it Not like “yeah that girl waking up at 5am every morning and doing one hour workout” but like “yeah that girl crying herself to sleep bot look how hard she’s trying and how she live herself”

[@mariamabdulaziz2433]

Ris,we missed youuu Hope you’re ok❤️

[@AG-bq2zd]

Hope you’re okay, please come back soon!

[@ripley_]

social media is super stressful. i'm super proud of you for making another video, considering the mental health slump you were in and we're all happy to see you again :) you're by far my favorite content creator on here and one of the reasons why is because you show the reality of having a real life, not "that girl's". also good luck in starting off your semester!!

[@stormfischerr]

the psychology behind this trend is so fascinating to me and I definitely don’t have the mental energy to write out all my thoughts here but I could legit talk about this in person for HOURS

[@irisolympia]

omg those sword earrings :o

[@irisolympia]

the way i know exactly what was happening in the last clip hahaha 💀

[@stargirlzemily]

I MISS YOU COME BACK WE LOVE YOU ☺️☺️

[@brbarou]

Hi ris it's currently 1am on a workday and i just randomly got your room song stuck in my head and now i feel the need to vocalize this but when i was a kid i was literally hyperfixated on your videos (all which are deleted now i think??) i remember rewatching the one about "why i can't make friends" so many times i could recite it by heart because i just thought it was so damn funny. also the mentioned room song from when you were moving out of your room i guess? i moved out of my childhood home in 2018 and i rememeber humming it to myself as i was packing. also a video that was like....a summer vlog? something about going to inmusic? it introduced 11 y/o me to daydreaming by paramore and i haven't been the same since. anyways i don't really know what the point of writing this is but i just think it's cool how randomly looking up "croatian youtuber" in 2015 can lead you to form so many core memories. you're very cool and i hope you're doing well

[@RisIgrec]

oh my GOD hi thank you for this comment ahh that is so sweet i can’t believe you remember all those videos!!! i so deeply appreciate you sticking around this long!!! daydreaming by paramore had such a massive impact on my psyche lmao i’m glad to have introduced you to it :,) tysm again and new stuff coming soon(ish) :)

[@MissAndreaCalderon]

Happy to hear your mental health is better! I believe that trying to become 'that girl' has to do with putting yourself at the center, asking yourself about how a "perfect" or productive day looks for you and starting there. 'Cause really, going for the one size fits all 'that girl' is unreachable, unrealistic and overall bad for our mental health.

[@rhsh23]

Honestly, feeling exhausted and burnt out all the time has become a new normal for me especially because of university. I’ve been on autopilot for weeks now😂 I can’t even remember how I got dressed today. Post videos at your own pace! It’s totally okay to prioritise your mental health:)

[@pretamonge7789]

I really really liked the video. Thank you. I can't look at my instagram discover page anymore. Everytime I do I fall into a rabbit hole of comparison with the sunk-kissed glowing faces and then youtube recommendations of aesthetic vlogs drive me into a planning/organisation loop. I think I'm really better off without the constant input of media into my life through social media. It triggers my mental health at a subconscious level and then I have to struggle to get myself out of the deep well that I dug myself. But more importantly, it's nice to hear that I'm not alone in this.

[@HazalElise]

"which i am not" felt that.

[@janazezulova5151]

"I am built for laying in my comfy bed" made me laugh so hard as it is literally me... I love your raw and real way of putting things in perspective, just discovered your chanel and I wish you made way more videos, you are a talent!

[@pamirescristina7488]

hi, Ris. miss your videos. hope everything is okay with you and your head. lately, rewatching your videos at the end of the day has been my reward for not going completely insane all day long. anyway... stay safe and drink lots of water. hope you see this. bye

[@yellowing6263]

Hey ris where did you go, you gotta come back I miss you. College can't take you away from us 😭😭.

[@partyhatkid9940]

Just popping in to say hope all is well at college!

[@antoniaramirez2464]

i loved this sm, and i think you are absolutely right. none of us is that girl, and honestly who even wants to be that girl? the beauty of humanity, the poetic part of our existence is that we are not perfect, we struggle, and life gives us obstacles. the short time we have on this earth belongs only to us, and it is so precious, that it is really a shame to waste it trying to be someone we are not. thanks for this Ris, loved it!

[@hauntedmushroomsasmr7716]

I love your down-to-earth sense of humor (the sweet tea bit!). Additionally, I agree about the whole “That Girl” trend. In my opinion, I completely agree with the values of establishing routines, cleaner eating habits, and breaking out of mind-numbing, self-sabotaging habits. Those can do wonders for depression and anxiety, but I don’t think it’s a fix. Eating avocados on toast is not going to solve your mental health problems and BEFORE EVERYONE COMES FOR ME, think about it. These girls never show bad days, breakouts, bloating, or anything. Everything is simply ✨ aesthetically pleasing. Everything is a MOMENT in the 24 hour day of this person. I admit, I love looking at aesthetic content and I want to have lives like these women. It’s just important to understand that the majority of the people who promote these lifestyles are literal influencers. It’s their JOB to inspire envy in their audience and they don’t have any shortage on money or time to buy expensive food products, beautiful apartments with gorgeous views, exercise classes. A lot of people try to emulate those lifestyles because they want to be LIKE those women, even if they don’t want to admit it. It must be nice to have “everything together and not be stressed.” It’s just important to be realistic, actually address the ROOTS of these self-destructive habits, and craft a routine that works for YOU, not just one that Pinterest tells you to have. You know?

[@audwette2572]

dude your videos make me so happy and I miss you

[@roseparak32]

we love u ris, u give me lyfe hope ur mental health improves. things have to go down to go up and we cant appreciate how good the good is until you experience the bad thanks for coming to my ted talk x

[@arkeiyan]

"I'm ending this vlog to end your life" dead.

[@6sillyguy9]

literally

[@Antonio1950]

We miss you

[@lauriebluej]

I get really satisfied with myself when I add something even tiny productive on my day. Because being healthier or more productive is an actual process that takes serious energy, thought and patience. I suggest the same. Folding the laundry, tidying up your kitchen or giving yourself a haircut. It can be anything but it's important to do it slowly and by giving it the time it takes.

[@mommy99]

We miss you ris ❤️

[@cailin_renee]

i’m glad your mental health is getting better! plz know that you’re doing enough and take breaks whenever you feel the need. good luck w back to school ❤️

[@olaguerrelewis]

you made such good points but also im dying at the little "pop" at 1:33

[@emilyclark8772]

Thank you for the reminder that everyone seemingly perfect is LYINGGGGG it has been so comforting 😂

[@user-sf9gs2pg1b]

2:10 your friend is literally so adorable, lol.

[@suedeheadd]

i miss your channel a lot. hope you're doing well ♡♡

[@x3333.]

thank you for talking about the food aspect of it, because i see so many juice and detox cleanses all over the internet, and you should not mess around with those especially if you're struggling mentally. i tried to be "that girl" and i ended up with an eating disorder which spiraled into my life basically getting ruined. from my experience, being that girl isnt and will never be attainable because you're seeing the full unedited version of yourself and "that girl" is only the favorites album in your gallery.

[@killerkuk8965]

missing ris sm rn :((

[@singleplantparent]

I know I’m so late to this video but so happy to see another video of yours and for you to help me realise that yeah “that girl” doesn’t truly exist for anyone really. Suffice to say love you and your videos, the serotonin I need

[@iLuvLiltjay]

At 4:23 YOU LOOK SO PRETTY omg I love your hair like that Ris

[@astrasillage]

I think you are doing good, Ris. It's impossible to be motivated all the time. Prioratizing mental health (and health in general) is the best you can do. Also, your makeup was so good in this video!!!

[@sarahoverby3505]

This does weirdly make me want to make one of those "healthy person" schedules though 😂❤

[@jettwashed]

slowly integrating these habits in your life is KEY!!!

[@tidbit6468]

babe wake up ris uploaded

[@powerverwirrt]

I hope you're doing okay.

[@emilyjenkins2636]

Dude your honesty and just kick ass personality are so refreshing. Keep making content! You're doing awesome and I hope you have an awesome semester! I am going back to school too, I wish us luck! Have a great day friendo ! c:

[@miriammeyer9436]

I have, and still do, genuinely love your videos for their honesty. The internet is one of my favorite things but the shit pressure it creates can push me away. Your channel has helped all this culture and present history feel so human. You don’t have to be That Girl, you’re Ris, and that’s more than enough.

[@ayeitsk3178]

That thumbnail? Astounding. It needs more appreciation for sure. Love it.

[@andreamichellemoss]

Been off the interwebs for a while, so i didn't realize that girl is a thing! I like these trend and aesthetic videos you make! It's usually you trying out an aesthetic, changing up your life and habits in little ways, which is really fun and you always make me laugh (todays belly laugh came from the chapstick + dead stare combo). But my favorite part of these videos is that you're always yourself. You're like oreos! New flavors are always fun, but none outshine the original

[@ironicallymacaroni6096]

id genuinely love to see a movie made by you ris ^_^ right from the pretty video clips to the editing you really know how to tell a story with a meaningful message !!

[@edmundarthur1851]

I've been waiting for this one

[@connieplaysbass]

Honestly, I feel like everyone I see is "that girl". I feel like there is something I should like up to, and that I don't have my life together. Thanks for making this video, it helped show me that there are tons of people out there that are like me!

[@clairereiff996]

Hope you are doing okay... miss your vids but understand if you need a break ♡

[@Emlyn3]

Really glad that ur doing a bit better mentally. Ik its easier said than done, please please please don't feel bad about not uploading, or not being "productive" in general, Its a waste of time and energy. Remember to be kind to urself, u deserve it💗💗💗

[@IDEKWlD]

Hey, I'm calling you out for being somewhere thinking about how you haven't been posting while cringing at the things you've made in the past and not being sure whether you want to reinvent your entire self and personality (or youre busy, idk) and I'm here to tell you I miss your vibe I hope wherever you are that it's cool and you're having fun x

[@advancebravely]

Hope you're doing well. Missing you

[@alisasalmina3886]

The literal goddess of editing

[@thesnakeinurboot]

miss you girlie i hope you're doing well

[@krzlcve]

ur vids r the most honest on youtube and make me feel better about life

[@bon.mp4]

just finished my class and ris posted ???? best day ever

[@RisIgrec]

:)

[@hallowedcat9107]

You look so tan and pretty in this Ris!! Love the hair too with the lil blonde streak.

[@Neliii0]

It’s been a whole year💀 COME BACK TO US RIS!!!🥲🥲

[@gobblepunk]

RIS I LOVE YOU AND YOUR VLOGS PLEASE STAY SAFE AND HEALTHY I LOOOVEEE YOOOOUUU!!!!

[@midnightfield]

The part with you on the train to New York has Lost in Translation vibes :)

[@dot_execute-0]

This is a bit random but your eyeliner look really stood out to me and I thought it looked really good. I don't usually shape it like that but I thought of your video this morning and tried it like yours and really really liked it. So idk. You definitely are a little bit of "that girl" to me and certainly others, I enjoy your humor and the way you make videos and the absolute chaos emanating from them >:)

[@_wbs2212]

so glad you’re doing better ris

[@teadrinkerfication9160]

I'm excited about you moving because I'm hoping it means new room decoration video. But I know you find it stressful so good luck!

[@DINGDONGPOLICE]

Hey lady just wanted to pop in and say i hope youre happy healthy and healing !

[@stefania3362]

I love your videos! They have such a calming vibe to them

[@joannalumpia]

This video is very comforting, thank you

[@celestinestilwell3141]

Thank you for showing a normal life - you are so beautiful and cool and I love that you keep it rEAL

[@RisIgrec]

omg

[@sofiapaola7662]

i think the last thing you said is really important, i always try to remember that the pictures of "that girl" are just pictures that they take in less than a minute and that it not "real". so i just decided to just wake up at noon and make the best of my day and not compare it with other people

[@juanitacarrollyoung2979]

I'm old enough to remember watching "That Girl" on TV as a kid. I watch a ton of overachiever KZbin videos from folks like Hannah Lee Duggan or Isabel in Washington State. I love them dearly, but anyone who talks about the VERY REAL STRUGGLE to get out of bed or leave the house has my heart forever!! And what a messy, cluttered house I do have 😉

[@elizatreadaway6799]

i'm gearing up to go to the dorms soon and i do. not. feel. ready. this is going to be my second year in college and i know it's going to be good for me, but it never feels like i'm anything enough to handle what i need to. your videos are really comforting and your personality in general is just one that i relate to a lot, i hope you're feeling better wherever you are