10 lessons I learned in my 20s | for anyone feeling lost :')

[@chamont]

I’m 22, Ive been feeling lost and like life is passing by way too fast. This video has been a lovely reminder that other people experience the same things, and you just have to trust the process sometimes

[@samanthajennings1878]

just turned 23 and it feels empty and sad but there's hope

[@agdam0004]

@@samanthajennings1878 the message of this video is good but can do harm in some situations (not all of course), what i mean is, I was in such a bad place too and i was trying to do all the things those youtubers were saying that help and was trying to go out of this bad place by myself, long story short i ended up with severe clinical deppression, if you are feeling bad i would recommend you to seek profecional help: psychiatrist, if you have resources therapist (i know in some countries there is no free therapy or is very expensive), there are also a lot of channels on yt and IG accounts who are made by menthal health professionals (not coaches or whatever but licenced therapists or doctors) those can help, the worst think you can do is to follow advices given by someone who actually don't know, i really hope you are gonna be better and you really can be in a better place in the future 🙏

[@samanthajennings1878]

@@agdam0004 thanks so much kindly help me recommend therapists because in my country they're scarce and very expensive♥️ i really appreciate your assistance

[@Summer-7]

@@samanthajennings1878 same and that’s so stressful 💔

[@GummyBear5105]

Dude same Like I know I need to do something but then I get sunk back into autopilot and I’m turning 23 in May but I have grown somewhat so that’s something positive 🙃

[@MEERAXDEFRIETAS]

This was so good I slighlty shed a tear, turning 22 soon and totally needed to see this . Going from 19 -22 in a world wide pandemic has truly been a rollercoaster to say the least , always good to see uplifting and positive content .

[@soysaucetina]

girl im in the same boatttt :) turning 22 may 17. 2000 ganggggg

[@만시-p6e]

I'm 19 I don't know what to do I'll be in college after few months so I'll just live how the things come

[@Sihara.Liyanapathirana]

Turned 22 3 days ago. I completely understand where you come from!

[@saramari1957]

You put words to my feelings and I released them thru some tears girl

[@SaffJuno]

I'm 20 tomorrow and still living at home because I didn't want to go to uni... have no social life and struggling to know how to move out ah

[@rowanwomble5668]

I turned 20 today. Here's my takeaways: • learn to love the present as much as you idealize the future (which is hard when you're in a traumatic situation, but hopefully not impossible) • try to do things you'll be proud of in your later years. You may not know just yet, but you can guess, and you can give it your best shot. • speaking of... GIVE YOUR BEST even if it's washing half the dishes. • remember to look inward and follow whatever spiritualism is close to you. Grounding is important and helps to clear things up (I'm really trying on this one!!) • starting something is hard, but very worth it. Take some risks and find what you love. • "there is no substitute for hard work" - this one, I don't get yet. But I'm not supposed to. I'll get to find out eventually, I'm sure. • rest is just as important as work. • sometimes it's okay to go to extremes! If it helps you learn the middle, that's good. • REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE, REMEMBER WHERE YOU CAME FROM! A big one, for me. • believe in love. The realistic kind. • downtime can create the BEST ideas. Make time to do nothing and rest. • remember what your biggest (theoretical) purpose is, and try to live in a way that helps it. Partly writing all this to check in with myself through the years. I'm looking forward to growing more, and understanding more of this. It's good to watch someone else learn themselves inside and out, as it helps us to find our own path. I hope everyone reading this has a wonderful day.

[@chlnmich]

hey is your bday on March 4 too? I've also turned 20 on that day which is really cool! i luuuv ur takeaways, they help me to ponder out some things in my life out too. hope u'll also have an amazing day!

[@sabrinarachel6053]

thank you for your insights; it was really helpful reading them! I love your first point too, especially as someone who has trouble being mindful. Hope you have a wonderful day/night as well

[@saniak630]

And I turned 20, 5 days ago. This video inspires me to to not stress too much and keep learning.

[@mikei6605]

turned 21 today, on march 20th :')

[@joannekim4114]

@@anatols911 It sure was! Gonna be turning 20 as well in May. I hope for all the best for you!

[@OrangeCatsAndFuzzyBats]

Not me about to cry when you said “life is worth living”. I’m turning 25 this year and I feel like I’ve only been coasting my entire 20s up until point. I always have huge ideas of what I want to do but stop myself when the “what if’s” start flowing in my head. I have such a strong desire to be creative, but I stop myself a lot when I feel like “oh, it’s been done before,” or “oh, that’s actually not a good idea…”. I don’t want to do that anymore! I live my life so much in the future, I don’t stop to enjoy the process. Anything slightly different or uncomfortable, I tend to push it away until I get the drive again. I’m gonna keep the ball rolling. The discomfort is just me growing.

[@spiderwomen8410]

I couldn't have expressed myself better than this.. You said it all. That's exactly me, and I'm too 25 y/o. I just wish I can be more courageous/motivated and less anxious about the outcomes so I can live my life.. To live my life in real time and not projecting myself into the future, which is essentially a childhood fairy tail playing on loops, 10 years ago I thought I'd be somewhere else in life but nothing major changed since that time nothing of what I wanted or envisioned.. I'm scared I'm going to waste my whole life dreaming about a life I will never have.. That is what I want to start living my real life.. See where it takes me and be present.. Even if it's not what I dream about I still want to find happiness and enthusiasm in it.. But how? I'm lost.. I don't know what to do or where to go, no one can help in my surroundings.. It's hopeless place ( I live in 3rd world country), everyone here dream of leaving the country but I don't.. I want to find happiness in my life in real time..here..

[@seebzt]

I feel like I wrote this b/c it hits home. Well said!

[@komaljoshi7589]

I've just turned 23 last week and I feel and relate to what you wrote so deeply ❤❤🥺🥺

[@clem2023]

Exactly me. Power up, team 97' !

[@ASHU.ASMITHA]

I am 22. I am just tired of these shits of ‘what if’ recently. I just thought not to think about a lot and just what you feel. If things are meant to be yours it will probably will reach you at end.

[@barbarakuvezdic39]

I started crying when you said "You fought to live, so live" I feel like I'm not even living, just existing and I'm tired of feeling like this. Hopefully, this will change starting with this year. Wish me luck!

[@phlasaban]

Good luck ! You can do it

[@nehokerumi9290]

Good luck!!♥️

[@lonette8314]

Hope everything’s going well. I believe in you! It is never too late to start. :3

[@amritasharma2908]

did it changed? do you feel better now bestie?

[@ria1918]

This sounds a little like depression. Maybe a therapist can help? But even without one, you can still do it! Good luck, pal.

[@ralcesh250]

"Where you are now is where you once dreamed of being." This is 1000% absolutely, truly correct. I can't tell you how much I needed to hear that today. Thank you.

[@mayaleex3]

‘92 babies feeling all sorts of emotions 🥺 happy belated birthday, Ro! Thank you for also guiding me when I started my channel 💕. You’re amazing! So much has changed in the last 10 years 🥲

[@hugzpls]

I’ll turn 30 next month and yes …can’t believe it myself

[@Spreadlove2991]

Turing 30 this august😅

[@buvic3321]

'92 babies here and I cound't lie that I feel all sort of emotions too

[@opie_candoit78]

youre welcome be my friend

[@onyxstone5679]

I’m crying lol. Just turned 30 sunday

[@khalilahd.]

Oh my goodness HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY! I’m about to turn 25 in a few weeks and I also feel that sudden dread of getting older without checking off the boxes younger me thought I would. I love how open and honest you are about such a real fear. I pray this year brings you nothing but joy, laughter and success 💜

[@am13007]

Girl I keep seeing you everywhere 😂 I guess we have the same elite taste in youtubers 😂😂

[@josefinea4765]

Same! I’m turning 25 this year too and it feels so weird!

[@lee-13]

I just turned 26

[@tanushreemishra4987]

@@am13007 ya even I m seeing her everywhere 😘

[@serenitybeats1677]

I recognize ur profile pic

[@andyyang2797]

I agree so much, I'm now 24, and not sure wtf I'm doing everyday, just everything on autopilot, doing whats needed to survive, day and night like what??? a week just passed like whoshhhh. Thank you for making the video and sharing your experience. Thank you!

[@aris7554]

I'm 21 and lost..... 😂🤧

[@nickssilver]

24 too still trying to figure it out, i feel lost sometimes too

[@harsharnkaur2075]

Yep same have no idea what I’m doing at almost 24

[@mirandapillsbury7885]

you msut practice mindfulness. please do it now. I am 28 and only felt ready and stable in life by now. I do have so many regrets that I missed out on my 20s (never partied, never dated, never hooked up, never travelled alone etc...) BUT as the old saying goes "it's never too late". That said, the earlier the better right? It will save you so much pain. I'm lucky that people still think I look 24 but knowing I am soon leaving my twenties altogether and wrinkles are starting to show up near my eyes..it does make you think more and it makes you upset you did not milk your youth

[@maple36]

I’m 19, turning 20 later this year but I feel so lost. I don’t know what to do with my life and I feel like I have to figure out my life right now. Your video was really inspirational

[@roxaneconstance4981]

same, the big turn is in june and even thought I feel like I'm sometimes getting a grasp of what I want to do, I still am swimming into this pool of self-doubt and uncertainty around everything not just my future but also my present, who I am, who is in my life... everything seems unfocused

[@toluwadamilola]

Same.. I turn 20 in August and when I see what kids my age have achieve. I feel oppressed

[@bobproctor-ev4bc]

@@roxaneconstance4981 I turned 20 earlier this year and felt a sudden sense of needing to be more mature than I was in my late teens ,LOL,to be more responsible and the fear that another 10 years would go by easily as the last one did having nothing figured out just yet. But ig I need patience. Come to think of it 20 is pretty young !!

[@joannekim4114]

I feel the same way and it's reassuring in a sense to know that I'm not alone. Let's keep going no matter what😊

[@seoyoungkimchi]

Same, i’m turning 20 soon and I haven’t been able to goto university after I graduated high school because of my family’s financial declination due to covid. I had a mental breakdown throughout the past year and a half, and honestly, I’m still trying to learn how to cope mentally with it as I feel as if I’m falling behind in life because I’m not able to goto university as I was supposed to. I’m scared of what my 20s has to offer but at the same time extremely excited! Lets all take a step in together towards the big 20s and enjoy the present and look forward to the future

[@leslieandreadaluro1307]

Rowena, I just turned 23. I had a massive argument with my dad a few minutes ago. I’m more confused, conflicted, scared, etc. than I have ever been my entire life. And then I stumbled on this, crying as I’m watching it and never been more grateful for this light of hope you’re sharing with us. Thank you.

[@frontlinebreakthrough5723]

I watched this at a moment when I was. I mean I am feeling very depressed. I’m feeling so heartbroken and hurt and lost in this relationship I’m in. This was. Comforting. And warm. And guiding. Thank you for making this

[@rowena]

sending you a giant virtual hug my love!! 🥹🫶 hope you're days have been a little lighter & brighter since x

[@andreyapatinha6727]

Me being 22, watching this video makes me assured that it’s okay not to complete all the goals u need. Bc time will come for everything that you want. Every thing we go through helps shape us and helps our future self. Thank you for the amazing video !!!

[@Hannah-zw6px]

my feelings of uncertainty, doubt, and anxiety, made even worse by the pandemic, has been a main source of distress for me for the past years. hearing you narrate your journey throughout your 20's makes me feel like I'm going to be okay. I'm so glad I subscribed to your channel. You're like the big sister I never had ❤ I'm 21 but I think I'll be fine.

[@Stars-and-gliters]

Ofcourse you will.. :)

[@luisacast1llo]

23, graduated from college 6 months ago, living with my parents right now and seeing other people from my high school that travel and live these amazing and fun lives. Feeling like I will never escape this little shell I am in.

[@goldenchipmunk]

i'm in the same exact situation as you. i'm just stuck.

[@marleneshirachhangte8722]

Same;-;

[@ASHU.ASMITHA]

My friends are earning

[@regerniquerasco7428]

I bet you will!! 😃😃 Darling!! Please take advantage of that fact thst you are back with your parents, especially if you are comfortable!!! TRAVEL, TRY NEW HOBBIES, LEARN NEW THINGS, MEET INCREDIBLY KIND & DIFFERENT PEOPLE, EXPLORE DIFFERENT CULTURES!!! Do not fall in love, well… maybe you can!! As long as you both are going in the same direction and evolving and becoming better because you are sharing life with one another! Please take advantage of such an incredible opportunity! Explore! ✨✨

[@regerniquerasco7428]

@@goldenchipmunk You are not stuck!! You have a massive and incredible opportunity on your hands to EXPLORE, CREATE & DISCOVER!!! Go for it all!! Fail forever, dust yourself off and go at it again or try something completely new!!! You have a winning hand!!! Play your card with ease and joy! Enjoy the game!!! If that makes any sense. Explore! 🤗🤗

[@Lubnadraws]

Life surprises you, no matter how good your life can be, you will struggle inside. I often feel so responsible for the blessings I have, that I should give as much as I can.

[@alexp5364]

I'm turning 32 at the end of this month. I spent 10 yrs in restaurants and decided to pursue my lifelong dream of becoming a doctor. I was doing great until the university I went to failed me and I was forced to leave school and work so I could afford staying alive. No career. No kids. No idea what to focus on. I just want to be happy and try everything as long as it's contributing to my happiness. I want to be a doctor, a chemistry tutor, restaurant beverage director, nanny, EMT, fitness coach, and I want to open my own bar concept... How do I pick? I want the flexibility of leaving things when they no longer make me happy.

[@sameerskulkarniicse6162]

All ur goals are really nice. The problem is u can't do all at once U can become a nanny by having kids U still have a lot of time U can choose whatever u want to do I understand there s a confusion ask ur self what u really want U might get 2 or 3 options Pursue them Most important part is enjoy what u do

[@Liza-wp1sm]

what about doing it in smaller time chunks or in combinations? for example, you can be a kid's doctor at a hospital or school (combining childcare and medicine), while in your free time/after work hours, giving chemistry lessons to cram schools or privately to students who aren't strong in chemistry and in weekends be a personal fitness coach, or making (youtube) videos about fitness, etc. what do u think?

[@enitjuh3344]

Read your last line of your comment. You’re looking for happiness, not a passion. As soon as you get bored, you want to get rid of it. That’s not possible in any of your wanted careers.

[@alexp5364]

@@enitjuh3344 maybe you’re right. Maybe I just wanna die lol

[@enitjuh3344]

@@alexp5364 I’m sure you deep down don’t want to die. I see you have been really contemplating for a better future, which is there. Don’t let this small ugly world let a “job” determine your happiness. I beg you, life is about so much more than that. I think you’re being too hard on yourself. That’s why you want to do that all at once, or you are afraid of something that you might have to face when something fails or doesn’t bring you happiness. You probably tend to isolate or run away when things get bad. But what is that thing that frightens you so much? It seems like a really hard question, but as she said in this video; listen to that little mighty voice, it’s trying to tell you something. And if you really wanted to die, then take the goddamn risk, what else do you have to lose? And after that, you’ll see that that biggest risk made you step out of your comfort zone & you’ll be able to handle more since it might give you motivation. Maybe try to work in a lower position of the proffered job first, so you can see if you like it. You could always leave or work your way up or see how the business goes behind the scenes, which could be beneficial if you plan to start up something. Small steps. But don’t keep yourself stuck out of fear. You’ll never get to work towards happiness; experiencing joy in what you do. Let’s not romanticise happiness, because being sad, angry or other “negative labelled” emotions are just as important. Our dumb society has learned us that those are bad emotions and we shouldn’t feel them. But happiness cannot be forced. It comes to you when you have embraced the fucked up ones too. Now my fellow human, don’t give up. Grab the magic wand and enjoy this life that you have agreed on. And remember, even if you think you made a bad mistake, you still made a good choice. Because only the wrong ways will eventually let you know what the right path is. You cannot learn without mistakes. Imagine how boring life would be if we had all the answers correct. See what life gives you as a challenge and by conquering them, you’ll become an unstoppable beast. Much love.

[@aleidaorozco9343]

I'm turning 23 this year, I feel incredibly lost. It's been feeling like I keep working but see no results, and tbh I'm not even sure if the path I'm in is right or not. This video made me realize that it's not the end of the world being young and lost and that I can take the long way round. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I will trust the universe's timing, and keep working hard while also being compassionate towards myself, because she's doing the best with what she's got rn.

[@ImaniKhadijah]

I’m 21 and stumbling across this video was the best “accident” I could’ve possibly had in this moment in time! I know that this is what I need to hear right now, thank you for such a beautifully orchestrated video with so many moving moments, I will keep these lessons with me on my journey through adulthood :)

[@zaheerrehman8816]

hey

[@mayzmay]

I'm turning 26 next month and can't remember a time when I haven't felt lost :') thank you for sharing your journey, I loved hearing about how valuable your late 20s have been for you. I honestly hated turning 25 last year but I'm learning to embrace the fact that I'm aging and can't go back and do things over. I'm not sure why I'd even want to go back, because my early 20s were very tumultuous and I wasn't in a good place. Your point around not taking life too seriously and learning to live in the present hit me hard, these are definitely things I'm still learning to do. A lesson I've learned is that you can't really push or pull life in a certain direction, unexpected things happen, unexpected paths open up, and sometimes those end up being the best ones.

[@LenaD10]

I’m turning 30 this year as well! And even though the small details of our stories are different. I feel like it’s definitely a universal experience a lot of people go through; just trying to figure things out. I don’t know if I’ll ever have it completely figured out, probably not, but I’m starting to feel more optimistic and sure about myself! Happy birthday!

[@happyhippie2123]

I’m 22, almost 23 and I’ve never so lost as I do now. I feel like time is moving so fast and I’m frozen in time. I don’t know it feels like the end of the world and as if time is running out even though I’m so young, I feel like I haven’t accomplished enough in my life compared to others in their 20’s and it makes me feel immense amount of FOMO :( I really needed to hear this thank you! I’m crying as I’m watching this

[@ishtarestuita-chen5453]

I love what you said about your true love. That it should feel steady, safe, and calm. When I found my then-boyfriend-now-husband, one of my friends called me and asked about the new BF. She said I do not sound excited, I said I am excited about the new relationship but I am more calm and at peace with my decision and with the person. Thank you, Rowena for pouring your heart out and showing your vulnerabilities.

[@mei6605]

At the brink of 27, your timeline resonates so much with mine. I also,finally, tried hard at the things important to me…and moving at 26 also left me with so many of the same feelings. Having run away from burnout after hustling through it, it’s super eye opening to see that you need to just breathe through it, and look around. Thank you for sharing your journey, it helps identify and name things in our (my) own life

[@TheCardboardPizza]

I really appreciate this video. I'm turning 28 in a few weeks. One way your story and mine differ a bit, is that I was really miserable in college and I had no social life. I still have no social life. I've never partied with friends, had a group of people I did things with, all of that. A lot of it is just where I live. I've decided that working on my social life is my primary goal for 28, because feeling like I missed out on the good times sucks. I wish I hadn't gone to college in my hometown. My mom went through several abusive relationships that she leaned on me through, when I was in my early and mid twenties. There was so much loss, really bad poverty. Honestly I'm happy to have made it out alive and I'm doing so much better. I learned so much, but there was a lot of pain. I am SOOOOO ready to have a good time with my life, and things have finally aligned for me where I can make that happen - I'm moving to Seoul and hoping to make some friends and see some things. I've decided my thirties are going to be an adventure because I've worked so hard in my twenties, it's time to have fun before my youth passes me by.

[@grassbench]

Thank you so much for sharing your journey through your 20s. I'm 21 turning 22 and I'm feeling completely lost and pretty hopeless. A lot of people say your 20s are your best years, and social media really reinforces this. Hearing your story, your vulnerability, and your hard work is incredibly inspiring. You have reminded me to honor my intuition and that things will get better. I'm absolutely in love with you! Thank you for your content

[@nyadierapech9313]

Wow! I really needed this. I’m 26 and been feeling so lost, overwhelmed, anxious and just co confused as of late.. this was a beautiful gentle reminder to keep going.. things get better. Thank you. So happy your video was recommended by KZbin. Thank you.

[@noneedtoclaireify8413]

this was what i needed to hear. i turn 21 in two weeks and i'm having a quarter life crisis. feeling lost and untethered is terrifying and knowing that i will be graduating college soon and not having a solid plan for after does nothing but add to the fear. it was so reassuring to hear that you've gone through the same thing and everything's going to be okay and that you just need to to trust the process. genuinely, thank you :')

[@millytza_]

I got teary eyes, for real. 🥺 I've been feeling so lost lately, this came at the right time. We're doing our best, potatoes. That's all we can do. 💜

[@janeosun]

^^^

[@chinny7700]

💜💜

[@belindaaurelia]

As someone who’s in her early 20s and struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel, this is so reassuring. Thank you🥺❤️✨

[@JudyAbbott494]

There's no light at the end. I think you just realize that it's not a tunnel after all and there's light and darkness everywhere around you

[@olinafan4459]

There is a light at the end of the tunnel if: 1. you grind leetcode 2. invest aggressively in low risk index funds like blackrock/vanguard 3. Save 80% of your income every month

[@zaheerrehman8816]

hey

[@zaheerrehman8816]

how are you

[@aubreyf4678]

A year late but thinking about you watching your videos years and years and years later when you’re grey and old and peaceful brings me to tears. It’s a beautiful things to share your story and journey. A true inspiration, as someone in her early 20s. You have lended a helpful hand and I am grateful for this content.

[@thebeltofvenus]

i am 23, living one of the darkest years of my life since i was a child and teenager. i just typed in 'advice to get through your mid 20s' and your video was the first i clicked on. i have never watched you before. but you helped me this night. thank you for your content and following your dream of helping people; you are helping complete strangers every day. thank you and im glad i found you! happy beginning to ur 30s!

[@louera]

It's so comforting to know that you didn't find your groove either until some time later

[@zoe-xx5zm]

Rowena. Thank you so much for this video. Hearing your journey is helping this lost 23 year old realize that its okay to be lost, as long as I work towards the things I want to find. I’m feeling so disconnected and discouraged but your videos have always resonated with me and this one is no different. I’m currently crying in the bathroom at my job and I really can’t thank you enough for sharing your story.

[@KristhinaChen]

im at the age 24 gonna be 25 this year 2022.... im lost, stuck with my parents who want me to get married ASAP while i still feel like i havent achieved anything. i wanna travel, i wanna go and look the world before open my heart to someone. i have trust issues... dunno who to trust but im still keep my friends i know for 1years above... usually reconnect to them. and still being nice and friendly to new peeps who i met. and i saw this video on my yt timeline. i feel relief after watching your yt. thank you so much

[@_lublub]

This is extremely precious and touching. And reminded of the old me. I've been very lost in the past few years and thinking that I was the only one experiencing it. The truth is, no one really talks about the things they are actually going through behind the laughs. Thank you for sharing your journey with us, Rowena.

[@katherinerodriguez919]

i’m 21 and i feel so lost. i feel like i enrolled in grad school just because i have no idea what to do. i don’t even feel passion for this job and restricting the whole rest of my life to, i feel like i’m not passionate for anything. it’s like i’ve never known myself bc i sure as hell don’t know what i want.

[@nnnahcyy9705]

This is really inspiring! I'm now 27, my life journey is pretty similar to yours and now I'm slowly picking up myself again to more socialising and outings. The fear of rejection being left out is real. The past me would try to fit into any group of people, but now, I make time for the most quality group of them, and I treasure them. Thank you so much for the reminders for the past, present and future me

[@BeatriceCoates]

I'm 27 and my life from 20 on has been the most...turbulent I have experienced in a while. Only this past year is it all coming together to one shining point, and I really needed this. Thank you

[@MB-yb3lh]

I am turning 25 soon and feeling as lost and disappointed in life as ever… It really helps to hear from someone who has just lived through it!

[@katherinenguyen7001]

Happy almost 31?!! I am feeling lost at 25, decided to search encouragement videos on KZbin and this is the first one I stumbled access. This is the first video of yours that I've seen. This video has delivered a wonderful message to my inner child that is struggling. Thank you for making this video and thanks the universe that led me here 🥰 Hopefully this will motivate and change the way I think about life (negative).

[@sofidofie]

i'm 16 and im awfully terrified of growing up. this video was so reassuring for me and i hope one day i can see aging as a beautiful thing just as you do.

[@iamgorgeous]

Same, I'm also 16 and kind of scared of growing up. I'm afraid of the idea of getting old and losing people you love as you grow older. I'm only 16 and already feel stressed, can't imagine being 20s or 30s where the competitiveness is at its finestt in the working field

[@Soulseeker0902]

OMG !! 16 and more people like me...I am amazed

[@hsuehejjw1731]

I feel the same way. I’m so fucking scared dude. I don’t even have my driver license

[@ec2032]

Me but I’m 15 and feel so old I miss my childhood so much

[@Saturn691]

I’m crying watching this. You’ve really helped me feel better about where I am in my life. 23-25 (present) has been my rock bottom in life so far. My fear of growing older and not being where I wanted to be at this age has taken over me and made moving forward so hard. I too have always been someone who hates working hard and gives up easily. It looks like our timelines are similar and you sharing your experience helps me tremendously. Thank you so much. I wish you all of the best things in life.

[@vyphan8911]

i’m turning 20 this year in december (my birthday is actually one day before yours!) and my heart is so full watching this. with all the bad things in the world like the pandemic and war and my general high standards for myself and my life i feel so tired of being these days. i sometimes feel like i failed life. but seeing this i’m reminded of how young i still am and how much time and space i have to grow. it’s enough to stay curious about what can happen in the future. tysm for sharing all these things to us, your videos really made a difference in my life. and i still have my 20s ahead. there is so much more to come. sending love from a silent subscriber but a big big fan

[@lizzie4988]

same here! turned twenty last year thought but feel the exact same way you do.

[@lemmings6516]

I feel the same way currently. I want to remind myself that even though I am a only a small piece of the puzzle I still am an important one. We are alive, we already won, there is no need to be passive or overly careful and security driven. The choices we make do matter and our light can be infectious and help creating the peace we all so desperately seek. I am 29 now and had my fair share of ups and downs in my 20ies but I have to say that these years were meant for discovering and truly becoming comfortable with myself and my decisions. I wish you to be brave enough to follow your instincts and bold enough to fend for youself and what's right. connect with your vulnerability, I think I this is the bravest and most valuable thing I did in my 20ies.

[@vyphan8911]

@@lemmings6516 thank you for your warm words! i love the way you said ‘we are alive, we already won’... it makes me feel lighter. sending lots of love !!

[@divyasingh8786]

Same...turning 20 this month

[@manyabee3635]

In my 25th year -- it has been quite hard to say the least. After my painful breakup this year, i've also embarked on this self love, mental health, self improvement journey. I related a lot to what you said about avoiding love to work on yourself, it's fear. I feel heard. Watching this gave me so much reassurance, thank you.

[@toetovocaloid]

Belated Happy Birthday Rowena! As someone feeling really lost at 22, this is super comforting. Thank you for the work that you do, and most importantly, for being you ❤️

[@justmedidi]

i'm turning 22 this year and i already feel like a failure and that i'm behind. thank you so much rowena. i needed this

[@morematcha]

If you don't mind me asking, Why are you disappointed with self? What have u fallen behind in? Don't worry I'm in the same boat haha.

[@RababAlhunaidi]

Oh girl, I was smiling watching the whole video. Been following you since 2018 and never skipped a video. Love you and proud of you.. and we appreciate the time&energy you put into this channel to help us and entertain us❤️

[@maryannestorco4799]

Thank you so much for sharing this to us. This will surely serve as a reminder for me soon. I'm 19, turning 20 this year and a bit lost with life and I'm really comforted by your words. Thank you for that!

[@Ppvvoo]

Im about to turn 30, this just made me cry and reflect, and loved my journey, even though I don’t fit into society standards and haven’t checked a lot of boxes. Thank you for your message. It really filled my heart.

[@edendaniel7252]

Encountering this video at 23 soon turning 24 needing to see this. I love your spirit and I feel touched by this video. I've been terrified of getting older and aging lately. At first I thought I've somewhat overcome my fear of death, but after recently graduating university, that turned into a fear of aging. It is not a peaceful state to be so afraid of what is only merely inevitable, but also at its best, the most wonderful blessing. To experience life and new chapters. Sometimes I wonder if it's I'm uneasy about the fact that I don't know what i'm doing/where i'm going, or if it's that I'm afraid to find it out and settle into something. Learning that it's better to try to make deliberate choices than have life choose for me. Much love to you, Rowena.

[@danaeclean1328]

this made me so emotional. i turned 20 4 months ago, and I feel so lost. hearing you talk about your life throughout your twenties with so much understanding and affection made me want to cry. i want to be able to feel like this too. I'm so scared of growing up and I constantly feel like life is leaving me behind every day. i haven't been in love in so many years. i don't feel like I have a solid group of friends that I feel truly comfortable and like myself being with. i want to change all of those things. i have to do something, I can't just let things happen to me without truly living. this video was a wake up call, but also a reminder that I am not alone in feeling this way. so many people my age and older feel just as lost as me, if not more. and that's okay. we have to keep moving forward and taking life into our own hands. true success is personal happiness, never forget that.

[@brunohenrik2388]

"-what Your future self want your current self to do?" dam, that hits deep

[@hannahr4548]

I'm 27 and I'm feeling quite lost. I'm torn between 2 countries, between family and friends that are family. Trying to be productive is a chore and I totally don't know where I'm going with a job. Hearing your story was wonderful and I'm hoping that one day in the future I can look back and feel more grounded than I do today ♥️ love to everyone. One step at a time 🍀🌱

[@Mary-ti4mh]

I keep coming back to this video, its so settling to know im not the only one that went through this and the way you have showed us, makes it feel so personal. I rarely comment on videos but this really spoke to me and i'm glad to have found it. Thank you for these true remainders in life

[@WesleyAnna]

Turning 30 this October :,) it's so bittersweet but honestly, I feel very ready for this new decade. It's been a joy and a privilege to follow your journey (even if it's just online) these last few years on KZbin. Cheers to ever-evolving, always growing, and forever learning 🥂

[@irisikey]

I know those feelings at the beginning of the video so well. What you are doing is the best thing to do. Count your blessings and see the growth.

[@nomkakaii]

Hi! Happy birthday Ro- I 'suffer' from birthday blues almost every year now ever since I turned 16. Like you, I have a lot of expectations and goals that I set for myself to achieve in the next 3-5 years and as much as it is nice to dream big, it gives me a massive emotional burden to carry every year on my birthday when i see that my steps aren't big enough/ it feels like I haven't made enough progress. I really appreciate your transparency here and to be honest, I feel lost! BUt thank you for reminding me that it's okay to feel this way. i wish you all the best and let us remind ourselves that we're all taking baby steps towards our goals every day even though it may not feel like it and we need to go easy on ourselves.

[@Shweta-Arora]

I'm commenting after pausing the video at your 26th and my story is JUST THE SAME year-on-year! Can't wait to see how the next years unfold as if you're answering what's also in store for me ahead :') Thank you so much for making this video. Mandatory edit - Oh mine, didn't expect to be smiling so much by the end of it, thank you so much again!!

[@giovannacesare7589]

I'm turning 25 in may, and this video made me reflect on everything I've experienced and lived in this first half of my 20's. I'm going through a lot of changes this year and hearing you narrate your journey throughout your 20's makes me feel like I'm going to be okay 💖

[@marielcoleeniturralde6214]

I started listening to you on 2018, I saw your ups and downs. this vid reminded me that i am still young, that where I am right now is where i wanted to be before, and there is so much more in store for me for the coming years. I am happy for you, Ro.

[@Vivalinaaa]

This helped me feel so much better. Ty. I’ve been feeling lost and stuck for awhile. I may be the oldest here. At 27 (2016), I went back to school to get an associates. Started my “professional career” at 29 (2018). Caved into lifestyle creep and had the best time of my life in 2019. Super happy, super motivated, and super confident with life to go back to school in a combined bachelors/ masters to make more $$$. End of 2019, got laid off. Got super depressed. Beginning of 2020, pandemic happened, got more depressed. End of 2020, got a job! Felt better. Beginning of 2021 fell down the stairs, couldn’t work, and got depressed again. I agree that the yo-yos in life helps create who we are but like... Does anyone else feel more lost and unmotivated between 2020-2022? I’m unsure if I want to continue grad school or focus on spending quality time versus rushed time with my family (as a single mom of 6 year old girl).

[@regerniquerasco7428]

Hello!! These recently years have been crazy, & you definitely endure and overcome some major obstacles! I’ll say… hmm, I’m really shooting for grad school if you can balance it all out! I know the achievement will really do some incredible things for your spirit! How long will grad school be for you? What will you be studying? Will it definitely be benifical once completed or can you take a different route and bring in the same earnings??

[@Shinobi926]

Your story is inspiring. I hope you do complete your bachelors. The pandemic really messed us up , still is . But we are all trying to move on and be better versions of ourselves. I’m happy coming across like minded people. Makes me less scared. I work in the hospitality industry and after lockdowns and no tourists, I’m planning to move to another country. Scared to though.

[@lazuli816]

I truly thank you. Since the first time I watched your video, my mindset changed and transformed myself into a better version I have never been before. Recently, I have been so burned out with all these work and studying that I am rewatching this video again for the second time, and now I feel much energized to keep moving on. Thank you.❤️

[@corvim688]

Hiiiiiiiii just wanted to tell its strange because this EXACT THING HAPPENED TO ME and even when you feel lost, its just a feeling you are NEVER lost and never will be. friend i know its and looks SO HARD but try not to worrie, qorries can just make the path more hard for us and its so terrible, we will allways worry but if we know that these are just worries and there are not true we can have SO MANY EASIER DECISIONS SERIOUSLY❤looks cliche but TRUST THE PROCESS❤and even when looks like we will never know the "path" things heal and with time it allways comes, its unique but allways come, and looks like acliche fairy tale but its truth because a lot of times in my life it happened and it allways appear❤❤❤, it will be hard sometimes but every time it gets hard you know that you allready defeated this AND YOU DEFEATED, if you think you dont it just means you did, you will defeat again and again because you dont fall, hard things, they are NOTHING COMPARED TO YOU, just doing things its worth it, in moments we see that and it allways happen AMAZING THINGS it happen for everyone❤❤❤❤just wanted to tell that everyday you KICK HARD THINGS ASS ❤❤❤❤❤ YOU ARE SO SO SO MUCH BIGGER THAN HARD THINGS ❤❤ and will allways be WE ARE AMAZING FRIEND AND IF YOU THINK YOU ARENT IT JUST PROOVES YOU ARE YOU ARE INVREDIBLE AND GIVE ME PLEASURE TO LIVE IN THE SAME WORLD AS YOU, YOU INSPIRE ME AND I JUST KNOW. things heal even when looks like it Will never heal and i know because this EXACT THING happened tô me things sometimes looks impossible but no, good things are never impossible and looks like it never gets better but it Just means it are getting❤ sometimes looks like we Will never be able to be happy, like things Will never get normal, and i know because i passed trought this EXACT SAME THING and it hurts, hurts a lot, but it gets better and it heal, looks clichê and like a motivational text and because of that i didnt believed in it but if difficulty times dont happen good things dont happen and i saw that with my own eyes, i KNOW that you that are reading this is an AMAZING AND INCREDIBLE AND FULL OF LIGHT PERSON and IF you think you arent it Just prooves you are, fails dont define us, when we are in a dark pit that look hopeless we know that we are in a pit of goodness and we Will allways stand because even falling we Will never be on the ground and IF we are in the ground we know that we are never in the ground❤️❤️❤️ i Love you friend, and because of People like you that i know this world is FULL of good and good is the standard and Will allways be when you feel bad its Hard but distratc, watch a movie do something you like even if you dont want to it helps, people appears and allways appear even when looks like they will never do people just appear and i know because in my life happened that exact thing, people just appear. A LOT❤️❤️❤️ ❤️❤️❤️ I LOVE YOU

[@eona6548]

I’m still 19 and this year I’ve made the decision to grow myself before 20, and quite honestly it’s been THE hardest thing I’ve ever done. But watching this video kinda gives me hope, reassurance and especially a reminder that everything comes with time and that it’s okay to focus on one thing at a time. Maybe this year is about breaking habits and letting go, next year will be full of new things to replace the old

[@rosymaze]

Similar with me :) I’m 19, I’m gonna be 20 this year and I’m basically preparing myself for my 20s so that way I can know what to expect and really go for it.

[@deekshabhat]

Watching your videos is like getting a warm hug after a long conversation by the seashore with a dear friend. Always, always, always grateful for your decision to share yourself with us like this on the internet. Happy birthday, Rowena!

[@hzensmelody]

watching this video didn't make me tear up at all.....it just made me bawl my eyes out 😭 this video gives me the assurance that although life is a never-ending rollercoaster, we will somehow divinely make it through. thank u rowena. here's to growing up

[@maksymushka]

Thanks for making this video and be so authentic and honest. It's great to see. As someone who is soon-to-be 30, there's a couple of things that I learned so far in my life: 1. Your twenties don't really matter as much as you think they do. There's a lot of pressure on us to figure ourselves out, and definitely try to figure out /what/ you are, but don't be paralyzed by life. Just go do stuff, pursue hobbies, make genuine connection, be authentic, and importantly, be willing to learn. Don't be scared by the fact that you don't know yourself. A lot of us have no idea what we actually are, and there are certainly people who keep asking those questions into much older age. Try to find acceptance with where you are at, and try to strive for goals that are important to you, but don't think you're a failure because you missed the mark. Sometimes failure can be some of our biggest reasons to metamorphose. Basically, make use of your time while you have it, but don't bring yourself down when it goes off course. Be flexible - there is no one correct way your life is meant to go! Write that down and hang it up somewhere to see!! I repeat: THERE IS NO CORRECT WAY TO DO LIFE! GET THAT IDEA OUT OF YOUR HEAD WHILE YOU STILL CAN. IT WILL ONLY EVER PARALYZE YOU. 2. Don't overly rely on other people's advice. I think we frequently refer to people for our compass. Find one or two good friends, who you know objectively have good intentions toward you, who will help you see your reflection more clearly, and allow them to be a supportive presence in your life. It's also good to have a couple of role models, be it thinkers, creators, or someone else, like a teacher. Other than that, don't rely on KZbin comments like mine too much. It's all experience, and there's wisdom in there if you are willing to listen, but also, you're allowed to have your own experience and you're allowed to go your own way about it. The only thing that I'll definitively say is: make decisions that will positively impact your life, and try to avoid the ones with extremely negative consequences. Be smart and responsible, but know how to have fun. Both of those things are not mutually exclusive. i.e. don't be dumb, but strive for genuine positivity and authenticity in your person-hood. Good luck! I'm cheering for you.

[@marilagharu3259]

Thanks for sharing❤️

[@talitupesmith5016]

thank you so much for this video. I’m currently 23 turning 24, divorced with 3 year old, unemployed and on government assistance with loads of mental health issues to live with. this video felt so bittersweet and gave me hope to live my life for me. xo

[@bhavnaverma1984]

You can DO IT you can fight the problems and can achieve happiness, you're strong 💪

[@Stephanie_Cr]

I just wrote my life based on the Erik Erikson’s theory. Culture helped me understand myself. I just turned 30 with 3 beautiful kids, just bought my first home 🏡. Your life is beautifully unique! I love watching Hometown ChaChacha!🫶🏼

[@ksanjana7752]

I turned 20 couple of months ago and i have been feeling so good after so long. I have never been this confident and self-accepting. 20 is really something special. Beautiful video! Thank you so much

[@junecute20]

I'm turning 23 soon and I'm going through major changes in my life. The feeling of uncertainty is so terrifying and scary. I don't know if what I'm doing is right and what to do next but hearing about your journey helps me feel a little more at ease. Thank you for sharing with us!

[@juuljooo992]

I'm turning 23 this year. It's been a rough couple of years of figuring things out. Last year I started prioritizing myself and my health, I started journaling and reflecting. I just got out of a relationship and I've never felt better. I just wanted you and others to know that it does get better. With reflection and active change, you can achieve so much. I could have never imagined myself here 1-3 years ago. Past me would've cried. I used to be so numb and i'm starting to feel again and see beauty in so much around me. Stick around, it does get better!! Thanks for the awesome video, it truly made me smile. I can't wait to see what my twenties (and beyond) have in store for me.

[@0808charlene]

Hey Rowena, '93 baby here. I went through similar phases and I'm at resting phase after burnout. Many judged and worried my decision to quit work but only few knew I was hospitalised due to stress induced sickness. Breathing and moving caused sharp pain on my right side, slight numb on right side the doctors thought I have stroke. I'm resting...and feeling better and more reassured of my decision. Thank you for this, I feel less alone.

[@makaylapelayo1278]

The beginning of my 20s has been spent during a pandemic so I feel like I’ve had a late start and that I’m already behind on life. But this video served as a nice reminder that growth takes time and every year has valuable lessons that my future self will look back on. Thank you for sharing!

[@maryannet2419]

I love this, and we’re the same age! Nice seeing the similarities in our journey and lessons throughout the 20s. This video makes me want to dig through my old journals. Being 30, not married, no kids, not a homeowner, and starting a new chapter, this good was for me. A great reminder to keep doing my best. Happy Birthday!!

[@alohasophie]

I'm totally in a slump right now and I feel so scared, confused, excited, doubtful and inpatient about my future. It's not a great feeling. Your video gave me much comfort. Thank you

[@stumpedsuper2014]

Ive had and sometimes still have a similar feeling comparing myself to friends and others but I was putting too much pressure on myself and it felt miserable. I think it helps to acknowledge what someone feels and to try to go a bit easier on themselves because it doesn't help to put so much weight on your shoulders. Taking small steps to get where you want is the way to go .I think taking small steps everyday will make time your ally

[@crystalsnow9620]

I knew I was gonna relate a lot the moment I saw the title. I am feeling lost right now and I know that I have so many years ahead of me but it just feels hopeless. I definitely cried watching your video and actually made me feel a little bit hopeful that everything's gonna be alright. Thank you for being an inspiration Rowena! And belated happy birthday!

[@beatlekim]

Its my first time finding out about your channel and I cried watching this video! I just turned 28 and have been struggling to maintain good mental health. Personally, I am suffering from PTSD that was formed when I was a child and many times I doubt that I will ever find someone I love. But watching your video gave me so much courage. You are a big inspiration.

[@tigertan5]

Hi, I’m a 25 male with a freakishly similar first half of the twenties. This video really gives me hope for the other half. Been feeling quite lost as of late so A sincere thank you for posting this

[@janemaina575]

I'm 19 and I must say I've learned a lot from this channel. spent most of the time worrying about the future and not remembering that I have a beautiful family with me who are willing to help throughout my journey.i now realize that patience is very important and to do what the future me would want me to do now and also to live my life and not anyone else's. I'm really happy that I got to learn this now coz I have a lot to learn.

[@meleika8274]

22 and terrified. But grateful, and... so grateful. I'm wavering between "happy" "Feeling/present" "Scared and angry" "Sad and lonely" "Quiet and empty" "I don't know." Its crazy but thank you, for this video. I hope we'll all be okay. I can't believe I'm tearing up? Lol why am I tearing up?? Thats crazy. You got to 28 and I'm just bawling, jeessshh....

[@nailaathiranisa7527]

thank you thank you thank you thank you so much. i'm 22 and currently on my lowest low, your video made me realize that this isn't the end for me now. thank you. i'll only progress from now on, i'll get back to yall in 5 years!

[@traninhthaovy3700]

i'm 19 and i'm lost. you just remind me that everyone all faces difficulties at times in their life and i need to take action to turn my dream life into reality.

[@divyasingh8786]

Same..I am also 19

[@ajnatucak4371]

turned 20 on march 11th and i am still looking for words to describe just how it feels. i feel like i am somewhere between being a kid and being an adult. and in today's world where you have so much to see and do and try it can feel overwhelming to grow up and you constantly compare yourself to others and feel like you're doing something wrong or that you are doing too little. i've been following you since 2020 (during the first lockdown is when i stumbled upon your channel here on youtube) and i cannot even begin to explain just how much your videos have helped me. you're like the cool older sister/cousin i look up to and look for advice from. your videos have calmed me down, have helped me get up and do something (anything) on the days where i would rather stay buried under my blankets and drown in my thoughts. thank you for showing the good and the bad, the imperfect and vulnerable and healing side of growing up. it makes it less scary to enter my 20s. it makes me feel better about my choices and my path because i know it's MINE and it doesn't have to look like anyone else's. sending you much love and endless gratitude all the way from sarajevo. i wish you all the best. this comment is waay too long now so that's it. xoxo

[@pallavidass9737]

This video was absolutely stunning and exactly what I needed without even realising it! I have recently just turned 21 and feel so lost! Thank you for this beautiful video and I hope your 30's treat you well!

[@Simply.Mariela]

i turn 30 this month! younger me thought my life would be different now but i am on a different path i never even could've though of being on in my early 20s. happy bday you beautiful soul

[@amols2169]

Thank you so much for this!! I'm finally taking myself seriously, and I'm so so much happier. I suffered for so long with undiagnosed ADHD, and finally being diagnosed with it and treated for it has really validated all the struggles that I've been through. I failed out of university, spent 2 years in deep self-pity and failing subsequent college classes, and then a moment of clarity hit me during 2020. I realized that I had too many of the same symptoms that people with diagnosed ADHD have, so I decided to go to the doctor and talk about it. Lo and behold, I was diagnosed in the first session after the specialist heard my entire story. I felt really angry and relieved at the same time. Relief because I was finally told that I'm not crazy, or stupid. I just had untreated and out of control ADHD. But I felt angry because it felt like all of that pain and suffering was for NOTHING!! I wouldn't have failed over and over again if I just had the support I needed. Why did no one notice I was struggling? Why did no one care? And why on earth did I have to finally do it myself when so much damage has been done? But I have decided to (and still in the process of) accept it all and forgive everyone: myself, my parents, my teachers, and my family for everything. I decided that even though I've failed over and over again in the past, I've learned from it now. My brain is just different, and I have to work with it to get the things I want. I set systems now, I'm proactive now, and I don't punish myself now. I'm so grateful for you because watching your videos sparked a desire to improve myself. Thank you for being so vulnerable and open. I wouldn't be in the place I am now if it weren't for you.

[@taniyaghosh9452]

I'm turning 24 very soon and I'm slowly starting to find myself and my way again. I really needed this video. There are days where you feel extremely lost and today was one of those days for me. This video popped up on my recommendations at the right time. Love youl

[@Brie85V]

You definitely experienced a lot more than I did during my 20's. I was not as adventurous and mainly stayed home during that time. I wasn't as goal oriented and didn't pursue being at a big university, just went to community college and then my home town university. After college I started focusing on my career path. For me, once I hit 30 and started working full time in my career, things started hitting hard for me. I started questioning every part of my life a lot more. But I also experienced life more, and lived alone for a year and went across the country for vacay time. I'm still in the process of figuring things out and I'm in my mid 30's. I guess I'm learning not to be hard on myself even at this point in my life and take it one day at a time.

[@RAVINDERSINGH-bm6in]

im 5 mins into this video currently really frustrated and failed by myself BUT LADY you have made this video so beautifully THANK YOU your voice and the clarity of your kindness just gave me so much "love??" idk but sm good feeling THANK YOU TO THE GUTS

[@brirosenberg]

I’ve been feeling very burnt out and tired lately. I’m here sitting on a bean bag in my break on a busy day and feel like for the first time in a while I have stopped to rest. Thank you

[@naftherainbownerd]

this is the most beautiful video i have watched in a long time. I'm 21, have lost a lot of loved ones in the last 3 years, the pain is so enormous that i just bury it deep and go through the motions. I feel lost, depleted of energy, like a blob pretending to be a person. I want to journal and work through these emotions but i know that it will make me feel uncomfortable and raise feelings of shame, guilt and disappointment which might cause me to spiral. And I am so scared of spiralling because I am afraid that my depression will get even worse and I won't be able to get out of bed and get things done (which i absolutely have to get done). I am just rambling at this point but this felt like a warm, cozy hug. Thank you so much for this video, this made me see myself for the vulnerable, human person I am and that i need to give myself the kindness i give others. We are all just trying our best.

[@ChavelleLiu]

turning 21 this april and recently been feeling more lost than ever. this video felt like a hug of reassurance that eventually, everything will be okay and it's okay not to know. i also find that my dependence on external validation is a strong driver for all the decisions i've made so far in my life - and after months of diving deeper and looking inward, i recently decided to let go of pursuing medicine as i realised i wasn't being true to myself. instead, i was following a path i thought would lend me the praise, prestige and uphold this image of myself to be some high achiever and in my head, 'enough'. after taking this leap of faith into the unknown, i'm scared it's the wrong decision and i'm scared because i don't know where i'm heading. so thank you so much for just giving me hope, reminding me to cherish the little things, continue to ask myself the hard questions, and have faith.

[@vidhivijayvergiya6884]

For someone who is in their early 20's and living on two extremes, this video felt like a call to slow down and enjoy life as it is passing. Life can become overwhelming at times, but to be reminded by people like yours to enjoy it as it pass, felt so good. Rowena, I feel happy to see you in a balanced state right now and wishing you amazing 30s and 40s and rest of the years to come. Sending lots of love!

[@nicoledavid7732]

I just want to say, you’ve helped me be more kinder to myself and you’re videos and podcast help me slowy find my way into getting back into my feet. I hope you receive more blessings 🤎🤎 Love and light ❤️✨

[@Ann-ch8xw]

it's crazy how timeless this video is because i saved some comments from this video in 2022 and put it in my notion and am now only looking back and reminiscing to find this gem of a story again. i have a feeling ill be revisiting this video again in the near future as i traverse my 20s (currently in my early 20s :))

[@mm_7202]

I just turned 38 last week. I’m guessing I’m one of the oldest who watched this video? I got married at 23, and my first born was born when I was 24. The kids have been homeschooling since end of 2015, though I’m sending them to school soon. To say the least, I’m very inspired by the young ones these days, because you guys are learning all these life lesson things when you are young. It’s a blessing. I have lost myself in motherhood (I’m a SAHM), and I’m slowly finding myself again. Time is finite, and decisions have to be made. It’s not that clear cut to decide wether to pursue what I want, find myself, when I have people whom I love rely on me greatly. But I have to remind myself, I guess my time has passed and I have to accept that my time now can’t be totally and all about me. I’m trying to find that balance 😊 All the best Rowena, you are doing great. And thanks for the video. You made me reflect on my life 😊

[@Lucy-eg6us]

Just wanted to say that your time hasn’t passed, you just have more responsibilities now and taking time for yourself can be small things too! Maybe you can join a fun community group when your kids go to school or start a new hobby you’re intrigued by. I’m not a mother, but I can imagine it’s hard to make time for yourself and I wish you luck in finding yourself again :)

[@rachaelwhite8614]

Wow!! I feel the same way as you.. Turning 39 in September...

[@mm_7202]

@@rachaelwhite8614 thank you, now I don’t feel so alone.

[@mm_7202]

@@Lucy-eg6us thanks for your suggestions 😊 yes it is not easy to find time for myself. It’s okay, I’ll keep on trying 😉

[@dwiyaratnasari8433]

Thank you for making this video. I am going to 30 on October this year and feel so strange. No one understand my feeling and finally find your video and love to watch it

[@joyliu2244]

This is so authentic and so vulnerable at the same time

[@spaciegraycie267]

Randomly clicked on this video as I make myself some soup. After several days of feeling lost and stuck and like I’m not doing enough or achieved enough at 22, this was a great reminder to me that it is okay to take things slow and not feel like I have to know where I’m going right now. There are so many good things and years ahead, and I can take time to figure things out. This was so comforting and encouraging to my soul at a time I felt truly down. Thank you 💛