"Run, hide, or say thank you: when faced with feedback, what do you do?" Joy Mayer at TEDxCoMo

"Run, hide, or say thank you: When faced with feedback, what do you do?"
Ignore it? Deny it? Accept it only if it makes you feel good? Real engagement, on personal and professional levels, starts with being open to change.
About Joy:
Joy Mayer is the director of community outreach for the Columbia Missourian and an associate professor at the Missouri School of Journalism. Her work focuses on community engagement in journalism, and how news and information can be more of a conversation and less of a lecture. She thinks we all need to get more comfortable with the idea of continual reinvention. She's the mom of Thing One and Thing Two (elementary school boys) and has lived in Columbia for nine years.
TEDxCoMo, held April 6, 2013 at the historic Missouri Theatre in Columbia, Missouri, was produced by Keith Politte and Cale Sears. Event website: TEDxCoMo.org

[@Emerald893]

Feedback indeed is the breakfast of champion, taking you from where you are to where you desire to be.

[@uthonchannel1596]

I find the material in this video helpful, Joy mayer, very useful and can be used as a reference in providing feedback

[@mashaelalzaid2584]

enjoyed it! Thank you!

[@TheMusicPinkLover91]

This topic is a delicate one for me. I admit that I get touchy with certain criticism, even if it is constructive. Sometimes it's just the way the person says something that affects me the most. As a singer, I receive both constructive criticism and negative criticism. This woman is saying that accepting feedback is all about being ready to change. However it is easier said than done. Would it be ok, for example, to sing a song which you have been practising quite a lot and did your 100000% to perfect it and yet you still receive criticism on it? There is a tendency that voice teachers focus on the thing that needs to be improved and when something is done well, it is not acknowledged. Simply silence will be the response. It's just cruel and I see no harm in giving positive feedback to a person for once. This is one of the reasons I stopped attending voice lessons. The million changes that I needed to improve on were simply too much for me... As soon as I fix the change, here comes along another change in the next lesson. I am not quite sure how to react in the situation.

[@ngozichineke1438]

Accepting constructive criticism can help you go farther in life no matter how far you think you've gone.

[@hannandu4479]

I feel you. I need someone tell me when I did it right...One of my film scoring client good at find problem and never told me what is work. This made me mentally drain

[@matthewmurrie5753]

Thanks!

[@mariahwork3467]

Thankssss!!!!

[@federicogenc5890]

What if I’m working on sth. The person knows it, i explicitly tell the person not to give me feedback, but the person keeps on giving feedback

[@ntag121193]

Is it fair to say not all feedback is constructive?

[@bajan13ken]

...is it normal to be... out on a date with a vampire? If so, I feel so innocent and under-experienced XD

[@ntag121193]

But who gets to define our success?

[@user-hs8tb7uo4n]

Wondering if journalism would one day take the form this video 😁

[@iTheShirt]

I really like this intro outro theme...

[@nensitriwulandari6340]

mantap djiwa

[@zahra7755]

Tho, I get what you are saying. But on the other hand, aren't you living for others and not for yourself if you're always interacting and listening to their feedback? I mean, everyone has a different opinion and you can never fully satisfy everyone's needs, so why not do your own thing instead? I guess it's all about balance, but yeh.

[@user-uv5ib9mj6b]

It all depends on the motive of the feedback giver. Far too often I have been those you truly want to improve themselves have other take advantage of this opportunity to land unconstructive punches. From this I first learned to ask myself first do I want to accept feedback from this person. Is their trust there that this what they are giving me will help me grow. If not I don't engage.

[@federicogenc5890]

What if it’s something u already know, the person knows u know it, u explicitly say u didnt ask for their constructive criticism, and they repeatedly do it 4-5 times in one session

[@lfamvs5520]

Breath and say thank you, I think that’s the best thing you can do.

[@AB-ff5ph]

I think it depends. If they’re saying it that much maybe it’s really something you need to listen to and work on. They might be pushing it so hard because it’s actually bothering them and other people, in which case they’re just trying to help you. Listening would be best. If it’s a certain thing you’re doing in your life that doesn’t impact others they just don’t agree with I think that’s when you just say “I didn’t ask for your opinion, I get that you would’ve done something different/handled this differently but I’m not asking for feedback”. I’ve also had friend groups split up over someone not being able to let go of another person’s mistakes. If you did or were doing something wrong to a person, talked it out, and have been working on it and asking friends to make sure you’re improving but someone just can’t shut up about the fact that it happened in the first place then tell them the same thing. You don’t want their feedback. They haven’t actually forgiven you. I’ve seen friends stop talking over this, and sometimes it sucks but it’s just for the best. You may have really hurt that person, and no matter how much you change they’ll always feel wronged and disrespected by you. It’s better for their mental health to be away from you. It’ll be better for your mental health to move on and be better for other people.

[@rafaelduarte5567]

What did she mean with "what I learn from feedback is that listening to harry potter is better than reading an email"?

[@jessicahassibi8516]

In the beginning she told the story of her son reading Harry Potter to her when she got distracted by an email on her phone.

[@phettywappharmaceuticalsll8842]

Who is still here after the nuclear war with Russia?

[@ItsRawBean]

Opo taga scc ako HAHAHAHA

[@aemied619]

Bruh,just watch..Nandito ka dahil need mo panoorin 'to dahil magsasagot ka sa values haha

[@ItsRawBean]

@@aemied619 tas isa lang tanong about jan sa vid🤦🏻‍♂️

[@kiliweskundla]

Are you interested in improvement?!!!