2:48 See receiving feedback as a skill 4:18 Think about a piece of advice you've rejected 5:15 Boundaries and wrong-spotting 6:30 Three trigger reactions - (1) Truth triggers / blindspots 7:15 (2) Relationship triggers (who gave it) 7:35 (3) Identity triggers (who are we) - bronze or silver? 9:35 Hard times for high achievers 11:45 How set point affects how we receive feedback 12:35 Don't give people feedback on how they should receive feedback 16:05 A tool to lower the stakes when receiving feedback 16:40 The best question: What's one thing...
@gloriaroma-sandiegorealest40374 жыл бұрын
She's right. I asked my son what is the one thing I could do to be a better mom, he had an instant answer...followed up by a second one. We have a plan. I'm looking forward to being the best mom I can be.
@duck-friend2 жыл бұрын
your comment made my day, you sound like an awesome mom!
@aramitnehra2889 Жыл бұрын
Ohoo 👍
@geoffreydenye54853 жыл бұрын
It is fascinating the way Sheila shows the interplay between personality and feedback receptibility. The aspects of, how you see me and how I see myself, in relating with feedback are mind openers. An additional highlight for me is the guiding question to seek feedback: "What is one thing I am doing or failing to do -where I'm getting in my own way."
@pambradysharma2049 жыл бұрын
GREAT TALK! Since being introduced to this idea it has grown... I now use these techniques every day!! Delivered in a clear very professional and personal way!! Worth watching and sharing!
@abhijeetmore3808Ай бұрын
It is best path to find and better understand our reactions to feedback and how to manage them.
@woleabu3789 жыл бұрын
Very candid and clear ideas are expressed in this talk. Can't help noticing how smart and beautiful and humorous she was. I'm definitely now more aware of the triggers that make receiving feedback so difficult. It would be helpful to get the tool she talked about - she didn't share it
@HealingResonanceLlcKristiBorst9 жыл бұрын
+Wole Abu ~ The tool that she offered was the asking family, friends, colleagues "What's ONE THING I can do to make my (parenting/relationship with you/staff meeting/etc.) better?" and then listening to the answer and seeing how the feedback may enrich our lives and help us learn/grow.
@sornorenu92218 жыл бұрын
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@doctornordicsaury96092 жыл бұрын
@@HealingResonanceLlcKristiBorst Right, to find one thing you can do or you can't do.
@mauriciotb61034 жыл бұрын
16:40 What`s one thing you see me doing - or failing to do - that is getting in my way ?
@michaelpeshkam24127 жыл бұрын
An informative talk on Feedback, good show Sheila!
@jnr.3masuku6294 жыл бұрын
Renews or gives one a new perspective to feedback. Thank you for sharing
@happinesswatts Жыл бұрын
Wow I have learn something about Googling. From now on I google positivity more. I wish to speak like this someday once my bachelors is done. meantime I am learning from best like Sheila and Shanita.
@EduardoBriceno07 жыл бұрын
Wonderful talk and strategies to help us better understand our reactions to feedback and how to manage them, as well as how to increase the feedback in our lives to better learn and grow. Thank you!
@rigormortis69816 жыл бұрын
Thanks Dr. Izzie Stevens!
@GJacq7268 жыл бұрын
Rich and insightful.
@215mab6 жыл бұрын
Well delivered. Thank you for the lessons. I am better today because I am hoping to better my ways tomorrow.😃
@omadayusjones64144 жыл бұрын
This is a paradigm shift for me. Thank you Sheila.
@rebeccalimbaugh84794 жыл бұрын
Very informative! I will definitely share this with everyone know.
@kimberlyharriott492 Жыл бұрын
Coursera brought me here. I'm taking a human skills course within The American Dream Academy (TADA).
@mohammednazari9833 Жыл бұрын
Amazing, Absolutely loved it, Thank you
@Inoudidntask4my2cent5 жыл бұрын
Very helpful. I am hypercritical because I am soooo undersensitive to feedback.
@acer4237 Жыл бұрын
Very good talk for all aspects of life!
@dogmom0077 жыл бұрын
Wow! Beauty and the brains. She has the whole package.
@bereketdesta25934 жыл бұрын
Excellent! Needs to be watched.
@TheWerequat Жыл бұрын
Revisit your research regarding people who have had spinal chord injuries.
@donaldma46866 жыл бұрын
Beautifully spoken!
@clairet1886 жыл бұрын
Great talk!!!! I loved it !
@sofeahakim91412 жыл бұрын
Wow rashida very informative would look forward to some more Ted talks from you
@matthewschaber3112 жыл бұрын
Love her hair !
@santaihumble97854 жыл бұрын
my personal I proud your presentation and introduced. what you talk about its very help full to me. so you have writing some book relevant what you talk about now. I want to get your book.
@robbieharley14805 жыл бұрын
Great Ted talk.
@andy97355 жыл бұрын
Brilliant, i loved it
@sugandhkhanna20343 жыл бұрын
How to distinguish between feedback and an insult. And, if it's an insult or criticism, how to respond to that wisely?
@PCP1992 Жыл бұрын
Feedback is informative and helps the person understand the impact of their behaviour. (It explains why they might wish to behave a different way the next time, and how to do that.) - I felt quite invisible the other day when you told me you were busy without even looking at me once... An insult merely points a finger at the negative behaviour and names it. "You're so self-absorbed". Not very helpful... If someone's negative feedback is critical/insulting and unhelpful, it's possible to ask it to return as such: "Can you help me understand - what specifically about my behaviour is making you feel that way, and why?" then it's possible for the criticism to become informative feedback which comes with understanding. Feedback comes with information to aid understanding. Insults merely point out the negative.
@o.h.w.66384 жыл бұрын
Reminder: People who have experienced abuse have trouble with this whole subject. Just saying... don't forget them.
@isaacdixon3732 Жыл бұрын
We do not teach people in our society how to give and receive feedback. This is one of the cornerstones of human relationships yet we give people no skills in how to do this.
@metabolicmenu78855 жыл бұрын
Just seen Sheila at the GLS 2018 - totally out of the ball park!
@gerhardtan86674 жыл бұрын
Amazing, very nice talk. Inspiring!
@diananicodim3 жыл бұрын
Real inspiration!🙏
@aramitnehra2889 Жыл бұрын
Great video
@nomessnostress3 жыл бұрын
This was soooo awesome and she was funny too! Good for bill 😂
@girlyoutalktomuchpod4 жыл бұрын
Love this !
@Akbar-vc7tb3 жыл бұрын
Very helpful!
@alyssagrigoryan88356 жыл бұрын
Very insightful. Thank you.
@derekstaroba3 жыл бұрын
Hello my name is Derek and I feel like and experience these (algorithms?) Is doing very well and it just gave me the results but other results are definitely strings attached (& it wants me to type this) I see something that is beyond and I I think you should understand that you are perfect and busy (higher work satisfaction)
@kacperkokocinski27505 жыл бұрын
Such a great talk!
@uzairmanzoor555 Жыл бұрын
👍👍👍
@vishwanathkr28704 жыл бұрын
super kia seltos
@natirvinii91204 жыл бұрын
well done:)
@liveandstories3 жыл бұрын
Shyndyk, raqmet!
@heatherelizabethcomedy5 жыл бұрын
whos here from Reed college?
@treycarpenter90435 жыл бұрын
lmao Hi
@robinfunsten18976 жыл бұрын
Great Talk! Terrible Sound Quality. I wish there was a better quality version of this talk so I could share with clients more comfortably.
@mtspace25755 жыл бұрын
Dylan exactly
@whiteeyedshadow84235 жыл бұрын
this is the equivalent of asking a blind person which way to go in a car(if you protest, just say you really want to know)...they say right, so you drive right...and you go right of a cliff.
@jenniferparry10476 жыл бұрын
Ha! She looks just like me! How weird is that :)
@snellavision2 жыл бұрын
"Sheila is schooled in negotiation daily by her three children" Maybe your children should be giving the presentation. This is being shown as part of a university curriculum