how to find out what you want to do in life - watch this if you feel lost

[@ruriohama]

🌟 The first 1,000 people to use the link or my code *ruriohama* will get a 1 month free trial of Skillshare: skl.sh/ruriohama05221 🌟 ----------------------------------------------------------- ⏰ Timestamps ⏰ 00:00 Intro 01:37 Paradox of Choice 02:37 How to avoid decision fatigue? 03:00 Why is "do what you love" is a bad advice ----------------------------------------------------------- 04:01 3 main steps 04:09 Step-1 Discover your values 🌸 04:57 Q1 (value) 07:24 Q2 (value) 08:08 Q3 (value) 08:51 Q4 (value) 09:04 Q5:What advice would you give to people? (value) ----------------------------------------------------------- 11:36 Step-2 Figure out what you're good at 🌷 12:14 Q1 (talent) 12:36 Q2 (talent) 13:30 Q3 (talent) 13:49 Q4(talent) 14:23 Q5 (talent) 15:39 What if you still can't find your talent? ----------------------------------------------------------- 16:01 Step-3 Figure out what you're passionate about🌼 16:27 Q1 (Passion) 16:44 Q2 (Passion) 16:47 Q3 (Passion) 17:23 Q4 (Passion) 18:11 Q5 (Passion) ----------------------------------------------------------- 18:31 What to do after figuring them out? 🌈

[@Silver-1991]

Ummm interesting

[@khalilahd.]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@eeeee323]

😃💚 gracias por el descuento

[@unnamed3679]

wow..i got a heart frkm you..thanks...

[@strongpizza]

I'm Turkish, I joined your channel to learn English, but I'm also interested in personal development and psychology and I was surprised to hear that your videos are from Turkey,

[@IKEMENOsakaman]

Life is long. Your goal in life changes from when you are 10 or 20 or 40. I just hope that I can be on my deathbed and smile and say I had a good life.

[@JohnnyJohnJon83]

I beg to differ life is too short and you need to make the most of it . Life will flash before your eyes befofe you know it .

[@MaliceMizer1888]

Life is short*

[@stormfront4382]

Life is shortest thing in life

[@deutschmitpurple2918]

What a beautiful message and advice, my friend. Thanks for sharing with us. I hope we can be happy in our life 💕💕💕

[@nandenayo3_catsandraw]

Life is short tho

[@itsrewindtime5994]

Can anyone else still not figurw out their passion? Even after answering the questions they just felt random

[@aida4338]

I wrote them all down and I don't understand why they should help find out more about my passion. But they help you see yourself more clearly at least.

[@itsnlee]

I just got rejected from an apprenticeship today, this video couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you Ruri, your content is always so real and encouraging.

[@ruriohama]

I'm sending you a lot of love🫂

[@baum9048]

Took me around 2 years to land an apprenticeship that happens Espacily in germany because a lot of those uhm older wallnuts have either expectation which are out of this world or treat their apprenticeses like cheap litte servents (then they cry that they dont get new apprentices)

[@remuspierre8038]

Awesome stuff

[@kingberrycake]

Remember, you're a wonderful person 🌸

[@remuspierre8038]

@@ruriohama amen

[@FOCUS-ho6mh]

"I truly believed that I can do it one day, it's just not today" Wow, that's enlightening

[@ruriohama]

✌️🏻

[@selena6331]

My main problem: I can do a lot of things well, I have almost no difficulties with this, but I don’t love everything I do. I constantly try to do something new, I succeed, but it doesn’t bring me a joy :(

[@norafulop3294]

Did you make any progress since then? Im just curious about other peoples journey with this

[@Valkyraw]

The first thing people have to do is rely less on social media. Social Media is the root of most social and even educational problems we face. We are getting "connected" to a virtual world but at the same time disconnected from the real world. Using a smartphone daily takes up so much energy of a human being, its scary. Stop using the internet so much, go out and see the world. Thats a good way to find your own passion and what you want yourself.

[@loliklola157]

so true

[@Wonder503]

True

[@bigboimize]

"There is nothing wrong nor right in this world, there re just different cultures and different value systems" I really appreciate people who understand this

[@xFersureMatt]

So pedifilia, murder, etc... nothing wrong?

[@rachelhae]

​@@xFersureMatt dude you don't get it

[@xFersureMatt]

@@rachelhae or maybe.. I do.. and you don't get it.

[@ozaneylul]

​@@xFersureMatts/he didn't mean ethical values though

[@xFersureMatt]

@@ozaneylul okay 2+2=4. That is not an ethnical value. And still be wrong if it is 2+3=4. There are abstracts and there are concretes.

[@AwwesomeVal]

Man. I answered the first question and now I have a paragraph written about why I respect my Mom the most in this world. I also feel like crying.

[@jsonzhng]

You probably won't ever see this comment Ruri, but thank you. I'm currently studying computer science and am graduating uni this semester, though I've never been too sure if I enjoyed it or not. During quarantine, I've been reevaluating my life and have been trying to look deeper within. I've always had this childish goal of becoming a KZbinr. I love receiving positive attention, and entertaining people: giving joy where I can. As I grew older, I've prioritized stability and comfort over all else, as I don't want my parents to worry about me; I want to be someone dependable, and meet their expectations. As I continued university, I've been told that I have gifts in communication, language, and empathy. I'm not sure if these comments have influenced my answers to your questions, but I genuinely enjoy meeting new people, and creating meaningful connections. I think I have a talent in voicing myself, projecting my thoughts, all the while keeping an open mind and listening to others. I think I'll give streaming and KZbin a try once I graduate!

[@Millenniumzz]

Go ahead

[@xxx.00o16]

I wish you a good luck!

[@joshux3210]

Start now, don't wait until graudated

[@aida4338]

Have you started? I always thought I would give my dreams a try as soon as I graduated, and here I am now, wondering if my dreams are something I really want to do or not. Hope you're not struggling with this too.

[@nzgls]

I realized that finding what I want to do in my whole life is the most important thing. This is exactly what I needed these days. Thank you Ruri!

[@vin_rouge180]

and do have any purpose now? idk sometimes I feel lost.

[@nzgls]

@@vin_rouge180 same bro. unfortunately i couldn't find yet. i'll think about it after my damn important exam

[@carlajacob2631]

Some question I can not answer bicus I never do some thing stuff

[@shekhargupta6718]

Life is all about facing new challenges every day

[@13thdemarch]

Graduated university as a UI/UX designer with Good grade, had been worked in a dream company for a year. But I decided to quit it 2 weeks ago because everything was so bored and looping everyday. Now staying at home, I'm doing what I've really wanted to do since university: Learn Japanese, drawing, guitar, photography... and find out more about myself, what I want and what I do in life. It absolutely makes me feel at ease.

[@27syamrajs59]

But how you finding your money for living?

[@13thdemarch]

@@27syamrajs59 Thank you for asking. It's all money I have been saved since start working. Now after 2 months now I found what job I want to do next. Currently I'm studying about it.

[@АлиГуломов-е2з]

@@13thdemarch good luck

[@13thdemarch]

@@АлиГуломов-е2з thank you!

[@izaag4545]

Thank you for sharing, just curious (I'm a front end dev getting into this problem) how did it went?

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for This video!

[@ruriohama]

🖤

[@thebettafish3239]

Hiiii

[@undergroundkhiphop]

Omg psy2cho

[@KopyErr]

Helloo

[@TalkativeDog]

this woman is teaching me how to think and how to know myself

[@hakarmalm7756]

~ Figure out your values ~ Question 1: WHO do you respect, and why? Question 2: WHICH experience influenced you the most during your teenage years? Question 3: WHAT do you feel we lack in society these days? Question 4: (Ask people around you) WHAT do you think I value the most? Question 5: WHAT advice would you give to other people? ~ Figure out what you're good at ~ Question 1: WHAT was the most fulfilling experience you've EVER had? Question 2: WHAT did you get annoyed about most recently? Question 3: ASK others to name your strengths Question 4: If you quit your job right now, WHAT would you regret about it? Question 5: WHAT is something you have succeeded in? ~ Figure out what you're passionate about ~ Question 1: WHAT would you like to learn about, even if you had to pay for it? Question 2: WHAT type of books do you tend to read? WHAT are they about? Question 3: WHAT is the thing/genre that moves you/makes you feel something? Question 4: WHAT type of job do you truly appreciate? WHAT type of job would you truly like to thank? Question 5: WHAT would you like to change about life? HAVE you been angry towards life? Thanks for sharing these questions and the video, Ruri. I hope many people will find out what they want to do with themselves by answering these questions. 😊

[@chhotangorain119]

Thanks bro😇

[@vin_rouge180]

thank you very much

[@gamerdweebentertainment1616]

ask others... Who? :) I barely have conversations.

[@gamerdweebentertainment1616]

WHAT is something you have succeeded in? Define success

[@obserwator23]

May I ask the voices that live in my studio apartment ? Or does it have to be people

[@AcidOwO]

something is so freaking wrong with me that I can't even answer the first question, seriously, I sat for like an hour thinking who I actually respect, in the real meaning of the word and I had not a slightest idea. seems like my options are pretty tight which are either to keep living like a veggie when i'm already in my mid 20's and it's an everyday suffering watching your friends going up that ladder, somehow meeting people of their lives, marrying, swapping what seemed to be a perfect job for an even better one, pursuing their dreams, aspiring to something, achieving something, while I don't have a single idea who I respect 😂 or to just do something not so good to myself which I honestly wish I could do if I didn't have people I'd hurt too much with it. That's right, in order for someone to feel good in life, to find himself or at least not to feel like a useless dog from day to day, there's have to be a pointless monkey who can be described in one word: nothing. it's called balance.

[@Chuarzita]

Some people are so lucky and know at a young age what they want and get the (emotional) support of their families. Others still struggel at 40 because they chased things that werent really in their purpose... I admire how wise she is at this young age.

[@gyroh6593]

The hardest part about this video was asking others the 2 questions that required outside input. But I was amazed and very surprised at how willing people were at answering these things for me. Almost made me cry.

[@jennifermarea8011]

I just skipped those parts. I’m pretty sure people are tired of me being lost at this point 😂

[@SimplicityForGood]

@@jennifermarea8011

[@khalilahd.]

This is actually so so helpful. I’m currently 25 and I know what I want to do but it’s so hard to get there so this guidance is much needed 😅🙏🏽

[@annarose2439]

Same , people tell me it too late to do anything just continue

[@taopanda98]

I have been seeing you constantly in other videos. I guess we look upon the same media! 😆

[@discoverWithNiella]

You speak English so fluently, I sometimes forget you learnt it. That’s Great

[@italico2792]

I LOVE this kind of video Ruri! I've been feeling lost since I got my high school diploma. I'm 28 and still feel very lost. I'm trying to figure out what's best for me and hope to find it out soon. I've written down all my answers, but I need to have a vision now.

[@ResilientRaspberry]

I felt lonely and lost since i became a teenager. I did lots of thinking and searching about what i want from and to do in my life. This video is very special to me because it marks the end of me feeling lost. I hope the creator is proud of herself. I feel better and this video is partially why. Now for loneliness!

[@ELPadrinoCOD]

"You want to do something but you don't know what to do" bruhhh that's the story of my life basically lol thanks for this ruri ❤

[@Bnehir]

I have read lots of things, lots of videos about self-improvement but... This video became a medicine for me. I wrote all of them, I answered all of the questions honestly. Cross my heart, you are the best. Keep thriving ♥️

[@emanuel9986]

I Have found this channel recently and i have to admit: i'm amazed with this kid

[@mustfakl6676]

Lol She can make kid from you.

[@evevlog7535]

You are so on time, there are so many people including me that are struggling finding out what they want to do. Thank u for that

[@deutschmitpurple2918]

I totally agree with you, my friend 💕💕💕

[@KY-sz1sb]

Although I have somthing to accomplish, I tend to think that I will die someday anyway. I do not feel like doing my best. Following the questions Ruri gave me, I answer them and what I would like to tackle, the current job, is clear. Houever, the negative feeling above bothers me and I get depressed. The answers are, of course, mine, but not mine depeing on my mental condition. I neatly work at the office though whether I am mentally healthy or not. My key words are creativity, science, and humble so far.

[@Alex-qu4mo]

Each of Ruri's videos essentially have the potential and output to change one's life...

[@ammeee_19]

I lovee how she talkss

[@zumasa9991]

I'm 29.. I've been asking myself this question so many times throughout my life and I get so many different answers. This video is the response that makes the most sense to me.

[@gannaatia5569]

I hope I come one day to you and say I found what I want to do

[@discoverWithNiella]

I’m really proud of your journey,your growth and everything. You deserve all the love. Go Girl🙌

[@notcoreyimcory]

I want to thank you! Your videos always uplift me and bring me to a calm state mentally. You help me to see things in my life that aren't as important as my anxiety ridden brain would make me believe. Your videos really help me to focus within and see that what I already have is all that I need to be happy. Thank you for bringing positivity to the world. You are wonderful!

[@isaiascaetano5888]

You are very amazing, I AM Brazilian and you teacher me how to speak english. You are a woman very smart. We need more woman like you. Thanks.

[@erichuang9548]

to tell the truth , what u expressed can somehow solve my problem while i m working , thx

[@lysalanalorwyn2152]

I wish this channel existed 10 years ago. EDIT: watching your videos made me regret my life even more. It's too late for me. Way way too late…

[@theshadow5850]

After watching the whole video and connecting everything for the purpose of work. It is being an Author, Lecturer and Entrepreneur

[@blue3662]

youtube recomended the video in the right hour :)

[@rominaprograma]

Hello! i really enjoy your content. Sorry for my bad english lol i just want to tell to anyone who´s reading: during 2020 i got off university and i fell on a heavy depression, then i think that it was the end, i will never be anyone. I´m very poor but last december i got a scolarship for programming and now i´m too much better. I managed to get my life back and this is my oportunity to finally break out of poverty. So, if you´re struggling with anxiety or depression, i hope you get better soon and ask for help, we aren´t alone, always on anywhere is someone who helps us to deal with our mental illness

[@izzt_fahmi]

It's kinda new to me but I like the idea of asking new questions to ourselves to find values, talents and our passions to find our path in life, thank you ruri for coming up with the books that you read, I wish it really helped me a lot throughout my journey in pursuing my career and my life generally, sending love from Malaysia 🇲🇾 💙

[@علیرضاهمایرضوی]

I love dreams ...creative dreams to reality...!

[@ihsanerayketenci]

your voice makes me listen without being bored. you spell words so fluently and gently. thanks 🌸

[@Cloudyconfusion]

Ty so much for the breakdown in The video description! I have learning disabilities and didn’t catch everything and was going to rewatch it while taking more notes- I was shocked that you took the time in the description to write a breakdown and time stamp. I know little things like that take a long time and I appreciate it more than you know!! Thank you!

[@ruriohama]

🥰🖤

[@Lancelote.]

I value having a good capacity to ask questions, which ironically is what these tips are all about, asking yourself questions which allow you to see the response through a different perspective.

[@jessielewis6980]

This just clarified so much for me. I was trying to fit myself into a box based on my skills, but what I really want to do is something completely different. I love that this focuses on passion as a requirement. Thanks ❤

[@r0zzin]

Getting lost in all your videos. trying to find myself and this is a big help. thanks

[@user-bu7oz1lx4e]

Wow! I spent 3 hrs doing these questions. I really struggle to know my inner self....but I have gotten many answers now 😮😮

[@peterfritzphoto]

You have wisdom beyond your years, and I’ve encouraged my 12-yo son to watch this. Thank you, Ruri!

[@xflipsyx9878]

I actually sat down and journaled 14 pages to all of this and I feel so rejuvinated and like I feel like myself again, thank you Ruri!

[@rain_2395]

I am honestly so grateful that i found your channel. I immigrated to another country not even a year ago and I am having to to college applications now. Adapting with new system, becoming an young adult, trying to figure out life has been so overwhelming but your videos really helped a lot. Thank you. :))

[@alvingarciasantiago1236]

Amazing as always Ruri, thanks for bring light and hope to my life. Living with an anxiety disorder is so hard, thanks to your content I have overcome those issues.

[@bahasainggris9350]

I spend 30 minutes each day just to watch this and help me find my value Thanks Ruri🎉

[@oGrifinoia]

I'm a brazilian guy and your videos help me so much to learn english

[@offtherip4899]

brasileiro aq tb, aprender Inglês é bom dms!!!

[@zinthuthumyo]

This is my first time watching the KZbin advice video from start till the end .

[@jedialpha2]

I believe in omens, revelations and epiphanies. I had recently found my "dream job" where I did things I thought I would love- travel, do hands-on work and get paid well. Then I got laid off.. and since working through the initial depression of that loss, I've been wondering: what is my true purpose and how do I even go about finding that out? This video is super helpful and I think it cuts through the clutter most of us have in our minds. I'm excited to realize my full potential. You're an inspiration, Ruri, thanks a million.

[@o801001able]

Araki Hirohiko OF COURSE!!! ABSOLUTELY!!! I love him so much.

[@itzkoee]

Please never stop doing what you are doing. You are truly a light on this planet. Thank you.

[@inoj2586]

i answered all the questions you gave and this is the redundant answers. Values: Time and Relationship Talent: to summarize it is related to Perseverance Passion: related to a profession and communication

[@Dinihsn]

I love answering the questions. Dream job is exactly same as what i really want to do. Thank you for sharing !

[@roshnipatel2000]

I did nothing during my teenage years because of my depression

[@akarmuhammed6431]

Videolarını izleyip, üstüne yorum yapan nadir Türk'üm🥰

[@ermondgabriel2234]

Honestly it took me 2 years to get the job that I'm really passionate about... I hated my life back in the day but that dream of mine saved me

[@mystic7851]

I agree again, doing what you love is better than doing what you have to

[@LeonSKennedy2002]

„please don’t sit back and do nothing“ me painting my nails right now 😌💅✨

[@snowluna4592]

Thanks that youtube let me meet Ruri's channel. Your content help me a lots for upgrade my personal life.

[@bhavanaverma8583]

I came to your channel today. And you don't belive I watched your 7 8 videos in the loop. I just amazed how your content is so much good. I love your channel.

[@danecustance2734]

Thank you've helped me shine a light on a difficult problem for me personally. This was a pleasant suprise i wasnt expecting to get so much out of it. 🙏

[@roachbusters]

I've felt lost my entire life. I'm almost 38.

[@aaronwilson4694]

Excellent video. I just had a major surgery and I've been thinking about what to do with my life moving forward. Thank you for making this video.👍👍

[@joshuamartinpryce1237]

The real value to life is in spiritual focus, and determination to be somebody. Not to be somebody in this deceitful wicked and self adoring world. But to be somebody in the eyes of Christ. That is what matters, spiritual people make the difference in this world and they are people whop generate and authenticate and support victory and proclamation over problems.

[@ktulu310]

Idk how your videos came up on my feed but this is my 2nd video. They seem to have appeared right when I needed them. Thank you for your videos.

[@wakeno.6047]

Keep in mind, not everyone can make their passion a job, there is no Dream job for everyone, and that's fine. Everyone can find a job that can pass their time relatively good enough, and in their free time do what they are passion about.

[@ziyaerel2015]

If an inspiration coming from Ruri, people always feel the difference! She is so cool, so clever, so elegant, so natural…She’s not acting, like some others do! We love you Ruri! You deserve the best!

[@imwortyoflove369]

You're very fortunate because you can understand Japanese and get information from Japanese books too! Amazing!! 👀🌟💖

[@meghanakrishna7651]

Thank you Ruri. Watching this video make me realise that I'm not alone. And I want to know more about your you tube journey. I want to how did you made this happen and how did you got the courage to start a youtube channel and how did you planned to turn your KZbin into a business. Like always, love you so much ☺️

[@danieloftamriel]

Thanks for this! Made plans to find work in another state, which didn’t work out, and now I’m back here in boring old home. Now I have a sense of what I should do.

[@ivegyattocomment]

thank you for this, hearing advice from mikasa is so nice. im in my late 20s and still lost at life.

[@davidnguyen6724]

Your pronunciation is very clear, easy to hear, close to me. I can hear it even though my English is not very good. Following you from Vietnam!

[@ivonnelopez8203]

i love the way you talk. You're very articulate!

[@fattyfat-dp7lj]

ruri looks very pretty. An unconventional, ethereal, angelic kind of beauty. kinda like ana-taylor joy before her plastic surgeries

[@EMVelez]

Unconventional? Hardly.

[@mugealkan]

I have been in a dilemma since middle school about whether i should study medicine or not. You have no idea how much you helped me making a life time desicion. Thank you Ruri, just thank you. Lots of love from Turkey

[@zaybrady]

Failed my life insurance exam for the 3rd time, I really needed this

[@txori_]

I like listening you to the point where even if I'm not interested in the subject, I'm curious what you're gonna say about it 😊

[@rosafq1342]

Thanks for this incredible video!

[@tronggtrongg9920]

I have been really struggling when I think about which job I will take after graduating, but now I think I have figured out st that I am interested to do thanks to this video, thank you a lot because of this video, and your new hair style is really nice :))

[@svarka777]

thanks Ruri, I understood that i love to lead youtube channel, i leaded this youtube channel for about 3 months or so, i felt so good every time i get feedback, but then i understood because of situation in russia i will not get monitization and i stopped i learned a lot of stuffs this year like programming, web design and i understood that hell yeah, i wanna be a youtube bloger. Appreciate You So much ❤

[@demoiselle.]

i wish you uploaded that video before i took the university exam ( i mean last year lol) but now as a med student, while answering those questions, i will try to convince myself that medical school is where i should be and being a doctor is my only goal. but still, i would kill to find out about those techniques the book tells. thank you.

[@Snehdeeppradhan]

Thank you is just not enough for the quality and time you shared in the video this is exactly what I needed Thank you from my bottom of heart to your video ❤️

[@abgzulkifli]

See the multiple, I can't escape from this

[@ce4b987]

You got My Respect ! Thanks for all your efforts , You woke me up from My darkness , you were and still are giving so much to my life. God Bless you And I hope you can do What you want in your life ..

[@curiosityaroundyou1960]

if you never quit so you`ll never fail actually. thanks a lot Ruri!

[@qwertypry6321]

This video is really helpful! I watched this when i feeling empty and lost now, and i would be more exciting about notion class or whatever ruri will be creating more in the future!

[@brybrythemute]

Thank you for taking the time to create this video. I came across you at random in my home feed, and I have been feeling lost recently. I appreciate you. ✌🏻

[@TsukyomiNoMikoto]

You got one life to live Make it worth it

[@danielhu6134]

Thank you Ruri. I've never think deeply with my life purpose, but now I know what I should do in my life.

[@yolkycheeks]

Thank you so much for making these motivational videos. They are so informative and insightful. I am at a point in my life that I really need to start take action and work on myself.

[@shifatharanum909]

Ruri mam,you r amazing,you r unique,you r wonderful. Mam how do you explain so well every tym whatever you say and every single line touches my heart ❤️. The way to describe u it's sooper dooper and I am suffering everyday these things,I have done my post graduation but, till now I did not get job🥺 whenever I watch your video my heart relaxes,my mind becomes peaceful. Ruri mam i want to see you once in my life ❤️😀.love from INDIA ❤️🙏

[@VideoGameManiac8]

You are good at manipulating people. I wish I could do it too.

[@nitcooksgf]

I have an autoimmune condition that doctors have no answer to till date, i developed it after covid. I started working at the age of 16 and my most recent job was with a consulting firm. I faced alot of bullying and people constantly trying to shame me and put me down. Now my biggest issue is that my health condition requires me to be on a very strict diet due to which i have to cook everyday. When u see me on the outside i would seem completely normal. Ive been cooking non-stop in the past 3 years. My friends started isolating me and my family also ridiculed me. Now I have no other choice other than to try ways of generating passive income. Ive been watching your channel the past few days. Ill start a new youtube channel and try my best. I don't know what else to do tbh