S1 E33. before "coming out"

[@edward6960]

As a 26 year old white guy from England, I can’t believe how much of your story I can relate to. After years of struggling with my identity I finally began “coming out” to my friends a fortnight ago. I already feel like a great weight has been lifted from my shoulders and I’m more positive about the future. Your videos have really helped me during this very confusing time. Thanks for sharing your experiences.👍

[@ricoeweaver]

Appreciate you sharing the “before”. It’s important! Shoutout to you for honoring yourself by getting to know yourself.

[@jeremiahdurand5100]

This is literally the most underrated ass channel on KZbin!! keep up with the amazing content man😌

[@toddjackson6566]

Literally had this conversation and realization with myself yesterday. Being tired of worrying what others may think and trying to conform to situations to fit an idea of who I am instead of just showing up in my truth and letting that speak for itself. It gets to the point where it draining me to keep hiding a part of myself that Ik isn’t wrong or immoral. Your words felt comforting in knowing I’m not alone in what I have been feeling. Ik I have my own journey to go on but just hearing there is light on the other side makes me feel at ease. Thank you

[@kuramauzumaki2823]

I cried a bit watching this whole thing, because I understand the sentiment you experienced when you finally get to the place where, the man I see in the mirror, is created and birthed by the will of God to love and be loved, not to live in trauma, regret, pretention, and governed by unconscious bias. Thanks kindly for sharing! 😁

[@melvinmoton3974]

Whenever I hear you on your channel you are a inspirational spirit. Just listen to this video and any one can see you are A spiritually connected being to God. You bring a smile and a tear to my eye because you are so deep. Keep on keeping on young man. Amen young brother.

[@chikondiseyani9766]

you definitely glowed up cause u fire now and the channel is important bro

[@originalsag93]

This is an absolutely beautiful video and truly brightened my mood to hear you share your story. Well done my dear friend, well done.

[@fhcBIBI]

I love the topic of this video because this shows an example of what PRIDE means to so many. If you’re someone who lived with all the negative thoughts and feelings from being LGBTQ+ and you get to a place of your full truth and happiness, you can’t help but be PRIDEFUL! Feels so good once you get to that place of love.

[@JimmyJamesMcCrary]

8:56 🗣IT’S TIME TO WAKE EM’ UP!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@waynebabb3336]

The pandemic of 2020 gave sadly iME ample time of viewing different platforms here. So, recently coming onto your platform Obio - WOW!!! The transformation of seeing your three year's ago clips and the present ones - phenomenal!!! The other beginning clips and the current ones I see you have always given your true self. Seeing this one was amazing for you being comfortable in your skin. I'm still going back & forth too catch up on all your thoughts and life growth. Soooo, keep up the awesome work and truly keep being Uuu!!!! 🥳🙏🏿👊🏾😊🥰

[@dasreal8178]

u only live once so b happy in your skin. thanks for sharing .

[@trumpeteer1961]

After a really rough day, I wached this video because I have enjoyed all of the previous ones. But I appreciated this one more than any other because it really reminded me of my own life journey. You do an amazing job. Please continue this channel. It helps me. I wish I knew somebody like you when I was in younger. It might have made it easier for me to navigate the craziness that I dealt with. Thanks

[@alexiszakarra1532]

To me this was not a "before coming out" narration but a journey of finding the self and contextualising it within your own individuality. As for me being a trans women and living a stealth life, I'm yet to emerge from own closets if you may.Yes, the comfort that comes with not having your gender policed and having to go unnoticed is riveting in many ways and it has allowed me to accomplish goals otherwise not afforded to trans folks. However, I think that it has had great detriment to my mental health. Absolutely enjoying your content and looking forward to engaging with it on an ongoing basis.

[@phantomblaq1871]

Let me find out Obio you was going around opening and closing doors for that perfect Fx..lol... For real I was kinda confuse after going viewing your first couple of videos. I'm glad you made this video. Thanks for being transparent....

[@tskdancer214]

I really appreciate how well you speak the truth about your life and how clearly you explain the process. It's informative to all types of people who are feeling this way or who know someone else who may be. Thanks for the videos, I was drawn in to understand something that I didn't take take the time to before.

[@pookbash20]

"there is love at the opposite end of shame" YES!

[@nelsonsibiya9204]

Everything Obio says is truth man .....honestly he's slowy but surely becoming my role model.

[@royboy8907]

I see myself so much in this episode. Thank you for being you.

[@cblove1967]

Dope story and very helpful! Thanks for sharing.

[@Michael-ww4wl]

My favourite video by you so far❤❤❤❤

[@CdotC]

This story is so similar to mine 👏🏾

[@suleb1]

wow I feel so seen. I'm in that "before" phase currently (I'm 21)

[@kennethstill3340]

Thanks. For sharing Obio man, I am soo glad I found your channel

[@brwn16eyes]

Such a beautiful spirit, smile, and person. This is ministry sir. ❤️

[@amazing2beNick]

I loooveeedd this. Beautiful video. I loved how you explained what you were saying and the journey through time. It’s very insightful, encouraging, and transformative. ❤️🥰🌈

[@albertoldschool6950]

Very good video.

[@xavierlorde6715]

This is therapeutic. Thanks!

[@JustusJermaine]

The channel is growing💐

[@wavveytae4181]

This video was so incredibly good. Man I just love your videos and how well spoken you are. And I do understand completely cause for me yes I wasn’t the most attractive guy until after high school. After high school I had my glow up I guess lol I don’t think of my self as the most sexiest man alive, but I do get hit on by both men and women. And I really didn’t start living my truth until I joined the army cause since I was in high school I’ve lived with my grandma, who is a pastor and she is a die hard Christian. And I knew if I would have came out to her when I was in high school then I would have been met with condemnation. I was already going through stuff in my life from my dad not being there for me and my mom on drugs. My grandma isn’t like that tho, but her beliefs is still her beliefs and she wasn’t gonna approve of it. I’ve had the occasional hookups, met dudes in random places, had a friends with benefits, and was in a relationship with a DL guy. After that I felt like I was living a lie and I got tired of hiding who I was and not being able to be myself. So in 2020 while the world was in chaos I began to evaluate my life and said to myself I can’t do this no more. I’m tired of hiding and I wanted to do something constructive with my life. So I decided to join the army and thought to myself that now that I’ll be far away from my family and I can come out to them there. I still haven’t had the courage to do so. Even when I was at home tho I wasn’t completely in the closet cause I was out to people on social media and close friends. But when I was in basic training I made a decision that if someone was to ask me am I gay I’m gonna say yes. And from that point in I feel confident in myself but my family and others still don’t know that I’m gay. What’s some advice that you can give me obio. And anyone else is welcomed to jump in. And I’m stationed in Germany btw. My first duty station 👏🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

[@thamimaluki7586]

I think you should coucellling advice on how to build confidence and strength to face your grandma and others. Do it for your own peace of mind because we worry a lot about other people's feelings at the expense of our own happiness. It won't be easy coming out to grandma, but she'll learn to accept you eventually. Now, put on your camouflage drawers and tell grandma what time it is soldier. From a 55 year old celibate South African who hasn't come out to nobody - go figure 🤔

[@Pharrar]

Okay so I definitely think the haircut fit obio’s face very well!

[@Youeo203]

You’re becoming one of my favorite KZbinrs! 🥲 Great video!

[@phantomblaq1871]

Thanks!

[@JustMe-sj8gr]

You are so sweet. Blessings to you and your ventures

[@onlyyouareworthy]

Great video buddy, and it's cool how you are addressing the intersections. There is more.

[@Kree91]

Thank you for this. Great video

[@simphiwecyprial901]

7:38 I screammed🙀🙀🙀 😂😂😂

[@manuteemane2465]

Great episode!!

[@bskeete]

Thank you for sharing.

[@alw.8849]

this is good, he be really speaking truth very good

[@Sattiechevettexx]

This is perfect! I needed this!

[@terrancemaloney29]

I need you to have more subscribers. You are EVERYTHING.

[@MoNoK15]

I feel that your sexuality is your business. The only other people that will know it is the ones you’re loving (sex) with. It’s no such thing as “coming out” in my opinion. Live your life my brothers and sisters 🌈. I do understand what you’re discussing fully.

[@lady4dajbs]

Notification Gang 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@christopherbolling4073]

Thank you for this!

[@Jaxxx777]

I know i hella late but OBIO!! You were and still are so attractive to me in HS. I think we 1st met in 10th grade but even then i kinda knew something was different with you so for a long time i just wanted to be friends lol. But im glad to see you lol! and to see you're doing well.

[@bluebutterfly5219]

Firm message. Smiles.

[@trinibwoy27]

RELATABLE CONTENT 😭😭😭😭😭

[@zowe1280]

Love this 💓

[@CoreyGoldwaves]

Love this channel

[@raythomas7358]

You are so awesome! And you have such a beautiful spirit, I wish you nothing but the best, that life has to offer you, be blessed and have a great day.😀✌🏾❤️ From the windy city Chicago.

[@simphiwecyprial901]

I definitely enjoyed hearing yo "before coming out" but I think we gonna need a storytime😂 cos it was mostly a 'touch n go' u weren't going into details, it was superficial 😢, I need specificity😂😂😂 🙏🙏🙏

[@Christian-sn9qn]

Hahaa Yes we do 🤣

[@truerthanyouknow9456]

I was a closeted gay man at Morehouse College in (1979-2001) and I isolated myself. I was so lonely. I feel like I threw away some of the best opportunities of my life.

[@bettyboop.693]

Share link to that soul train clip pls

[@jeremystormborn5232]

Your words couldn't be truer

[@cjayconrod]

The irony of being closeted in Atlanta tho…

[@dylanimanzi]

Hey Obio, I’m very grateful for your content. It had been a minute since you popped up on my yt, i was wondering if i can personally contact you because I’d really use your advice. I recent came out to my family and my mom is kinda depressed about it, and my father is feeding me shame and I really don’t know how to help them both and help myself get through this period. Kindly text me back, I’d really appreciate it!

[@jonhinson5701]

As I always say, a relationship solidifies your appearance to the world which is why so many gay men will compartmentalize their life so as to avoid being in a gay relationship so they will be not seen as "abnormal"

[@yeaimzeus]

How old are you now?

[@radiorebel3638]

im a17 in hs and u're litcherally explaining my existant in this video *minus the sex*

[@dj2prince]

Wait, how old are you now?

[@kendallj188]

💜💜💜

[@michaelmcdougall7367]

Excellent story. Did your sibling accept you immediately.

[@IAMLegendary123]

I’m years late but your so openly gay that I can’t imagine you DL 😂❤💪🏾

[@rechargedaily905]

whats your zodiac sign? Virgo here

[@aquarius2912]

BEEEaeaa WHaoo U AREAEAEE 🌈 FO YO PriDE DOant HIDae🌈

[@teeblack9066]

You are really my Man Crush your videos dope your conversation is always interesting 🔥💕😍08-18-21

[@derricklangford4725]

These dating apps really got black gay generation z, fuc'd up, it was so different back in the 90's, when you couldn't hide behind a key pad, SMH

[@sassymejordan]

Love this! So authentic and real