S2E22. “i’m gay and this is how i had my daughter.”

[@stephenb5959]

Great subject, Obio. My partner and I adopted a 4 month baby girl in 2014. She changed our world. We lost some of our gay friends along the way because our priorities changed. No more clubbing and parties as we became a family unit. Now are the days of practices, games, children birthday parties, afternoons at the park, family outings, etc…. But we wouldn’t change a thing; our daughter is our world!!! We are 2 dads and a 8 year old daughter!

[@djvr423]

Same here! 2 dads and a 8 year old daughter through adoption.

[@stephenb5959]

@@djvr423 Awesome! We live in San Diego. It has it's challenges as San Diego doesn't have a large black population. We are a black, gay family where our daughter has to navigate being a minority at a majority Hispanic school. We are thinking of moving to Texas or Florida.

[@OhDatsJaVion]

You should definitely get Terrell & Jarius on your show

[@tshepomokoena8832]

Can't wait to have my own! Sobbing as I speak. I also love that I almost always leave here with more knowledge than I came in with - I learned two new things today. I also got reminded of 2 other things that I already know about myself - I love love and I love children (definitely want to be a parent and a spouse). God Bless you Mr Jones and keep creating space.

[@Wangao613]

It’ll happen for you ❤️🇿🇦🏳️‍🌈

[@rondaykhamard8224]

BMORE STAND UP! Love this candid conversation. I love the fact that he made a plan on having a child and it didn't involve being on the DL fucking around with women.

[@ricoeweaver]

I learned something new today! Two new things actually! God’ll always make a way! 🙌🏾

[@raydaveed]

I was shook when he said "I always wanted kid since when i was 12" it's the exact same as me. I hope i will be able to have one or more in the future too. Edit : I also want a girl and a boy in that order if possible but don't mind having a mini me first !!!

[@samlightshines]

I love children and helping raise them, but I don't want to raise any of my own? Is anyone else on the same page or nah?

[@NadrojChronicles]

I've always felt like the gay uncle. When I get tired, I can say, where are your parents?.....lol. I can't send them home if they're mine, so it's a no for me.

[@nelsonsibiya9204]

I dont do Kid's....PERIOD !!!!!. Never had any desire for one... Don't think it'll happen.

[@oneonlyme4355]

You don’t think you’ll regret that once you get older?

[@samlightshines]

@@oneonlyme4355 No. I’m a social worker. My life is dedicated to helping people. I have 15 siblings and was literally born an uncle. I don't find it necessary to have and raise children of my own when thousands of children are stuck in the revolving door system.

[@DC45193]

@@samlightshines and I'm sure you being a social worker understand that just because you have kids don't mean they will take care of you when you older! Like people need to stop.

[@VII2K23]

This episode is absolutely wonderful. I personally have always wanted to have children. It's a dream of mine. I'm the oldest of eight siblings and all my adult siblings have their own children and my mom keeps bugging me for a child lol. Very Happy For you 🖤

[@itsRobBass]

This video made me smile from ear to ear. Loved this!

[@lethabomafokwane9192]

I was raised by my mother and Aunt. And I both call the mum, and they just know who am I calling, it is all in the energy they carry different energies.

[@tamikiajones2815]

One thing I always love about your show it is so positive it’s always a learning lesson and experience thank you for that

[@tshepomokoena8832]

As a gay man I wanna kids - I definitely need to sit in for this one.🥺

[@CamberHill]

In September 2001 I was on track to having a kid with my then-boyfriend of 15 years. The woman was a friend who wanted to help. However, we didn't have the commercial tools your guest had. We had a turkey baster and that was it. Unfortunately, things didn't work out and my dream of having kids never worked out. I'm thrilled to hear his dream come true.

[@k.simmons862]

Beautiful story! Children are definitely a lifelong task and investment, but well worth it. Gays would be AMAZING parents to children.

[@csupernature]

You never know what fate has in store for your life. Dreams coming true.

[@aking8201]

Yaaaasss a Leo Queen!!! ♌️🦁

[@berta.9912]

yassssss bitchessssss

[@Calm_B4_Storm]

This was such a beautiful episode to watch, kudos to this man his daughter and his loving husband for bringing life into the world!

[@kohby784]

This was an AMAZING episode. So much information I did not know. Question tho: with the surrogate, was some type of parenting contract written up or agreed upon, between biolocal parents, like, will the child get to know their birth mom , if anything happens to the dads, does the birth mom have rights to take care of the child......just a little curious. This was another great episode. Keep creating space

[@katlego_edgar]

Loved this!!!!

[@jerry7856]

Glad you are back Obio

[@braxton6680]

Great episode 💙

[@gregoryayee2112]

Obio I honestly appreciate this conversation and believe me I have learned alot from this interview.

[@RyanCanty1975]

I love this so much! :)

[@mrfunky1768]

I can always kind of tell when you're attracted to one of your guest. .....its so charming :)

[@MySavageDynasty]

This is beautiful, I'm in planning stages, a really good friend suggested that we try in 3 years which is a good time for the both of us. Thank you for sharing your journey. I'm taking notes.

[@eliasdenendodo]

This is a method I'd love to try. I've always wanted two, and I want a daughter first also. 😁

[@vonmorris5948]

I love this man’s sweater. I want it. Lol

[@JamalTateIsTheGreatest]

This is so real and I appreciate a different perspective! As a gay man who does want kids I’ve thought about surrogacy but it can get pricey… but also thought about adoption! Kids are not dogs but y’all right pets aren’t easy either lol!

[@NickiD203]

This was needed I was just with talking with my home girl about kids n the future n her being my surrogate 🥰😩🫶🏾

[@mz.pretty4226]

I made the 1000th like period 💯🙏❤️

[@KraziVokalz]

Lmbooooo i heard BMORE all day.. that "Teu" (too) sent me

[@iamjholloway]

Wow! This was wonderful. Thanks for sharing 💕

[@eccentricleo4300]

I love this!! S/O to the Leo’s!!!

[@ciel222]

GREAT STORY 👏👏😊

[@jbjesus123]

Wow! I can truly relate to this...!!!!

[@ensabahnur3104]

She's a Leo. she doesn't walk through the door...she stomps through the door.

[@gregorychef_littyechols6890]

Beautiful Story, but to all my LGBTQ Brothers, ADOPTION is always an option for us. Started my Forever Family in 2018

[@robbbase5349]

I definitely learned something. Great vlog.... soft cuffs

[@privatethoughts85]

Why did I get super excited when I saw the stork?!? Lol

[@UniqueNei]

Aw. I always wanted children. I love kids. I was told I wouldn't be able to have children after doing chemo. I was given the opportunity a few times though.

[@thoughtsandwords3029]

This was GREAT!!! I can't wait to start my family. I want four kids, but I will take whatever G-d gives me!!

[@solodondolo5890]

IK how it feels but loves gonna find us gay black men especially you my fine sir. 🥰❤️❤️

[@myth1356]

I'm glad he got his wish and trying his best with but that's not hope biology works y'all. There's a 50/50 chance for boy/girl. Foods aren't going to change that.

[@ensabahnur3104]

I didn't know cups or Storck was a thing

[@rtmx5mtr]

What a great conversation! But I’ve got a question, does he allow his daughter to have a relationship with the biological mother, also, what are the terms and conditions that he has agreed upon with the biological mother?

[@Jack_Black536]

I had the exact same questions! What's the plan when the child starts asking who her mother is, if she's not in her life? Lastly, is he working on a son and what does THAT diet consist of? 😅

[@solodondolo5890]

I mean being honest definitely is great, I have friends with gay parents who know and still love them, I’ve heard some ppl keep the biological mother and afford the kids multiple guardians which is a blessing, but it all just depends on the parents decisions

[@royalgreenlantern]

I have reasearched the IVF method lawd its so expensive

[@VernonNickersonSCHOOLCOACH]

Wow!

[@wjjrwjj]

I have 4 son I conceived all fashion way

[@cherylketter5314]

OK so the 2.0 version of the turkey baster the stork and soft cups

[@elamothe81]

He kept saying consumed, did he mean conceived?

[@jaimearango2698]

Lucky guy 😎

[@factor478911]

Wow didn't know the stork thing

[@roberttaylor5026]

Good for him I'm not about to do all that to have my own child

[@molini.t]

THANK YO SO MUCH FOR THIS INFO. HONESTLY, I MIGHT JUST BE OVULATING RIGHT NOW😅. THIS WAS REALLY INSIGHTFUL

[@MrWillybk]

This ís fantastic! How wonderful it is that she was such an admirable friend of his. I mean it seems highly unlikely that anyone could find a woman so willing to give a part of herself like that. My lover and I just had to tell you how luck you are. I do know about how a gay woman can have a baby through semen adoption because I have a niece who did it. She has until the child is a teenager before she must tell him who his father is.

[@andrewright8471]

Damn 🤩 that's all I'm going to say hottt!!!

[@claudewashingtonkevinthoma6527]

I would have loved know about the relationship with the Bio Mom and how that was decided & established legally

[@jaso5768]

What’s the difference between a queer man and a queer identifying man ref? 2:12

[@WalterLeeHamptonII]

I know plenty of gay men who have children. however I never any any kids!!

[@solodondolo5890]

@@kgaoletsaDNA0there’s kids who aren’t loved with straight parents, there’s kids with no parents, or kids given up why should the parent matter???!

[@scoobdoo2008]

I feel you about the dog. I recently got one and then sent it back because I couldn't do what I want. It's a lot so I can imagine having a kid

[@wjjrwjj]

Avocado apples

[@tonyrossbackinthedaymusicv3107]

Wow

[@LifeOnCoach]

✌🏾

[@wjjrwjj]

I rather have human then dog

[@can_you_guess_my_new_username]

I want kids with obio... 😆😅🤣😂... I just hope he can handles boys because Im not for doing hair and dresses. I'd be stressed. I need athletic boys, football, basketball and baseball games to attend. I also need one child to wrestle.

[@wjjrwjj]

Primrose oil bananas broccoli spinach Brussels sprouts potatoes have boys

[@wjjrwjj]

Diet have boys different

[@SteveThePisces]

So, where do you find women like this???

[@DC45193]

be vulnerable and ask.

[@coriprentis]

He is FOINE

[@teeblack9066]

It's several gay men that are Father's great men too but it's hard to date them because their in relationships with their children. Don't have time to date. Too busy being Father's.

[@MONEYAINTATHANG100]

go back, as you stated...your actions are selfish in my eyes having knowingly did that, at least you are frank about it

[@m_ron2742]

What?

[@PHlyestofNerds]

@@MONEYAINTATHANG100 huh?

[@wjjrwjj]

Doodle style better conceived boy

[@blackmac500]

What is it with gay men and women and the zodiac is all some bull

[@berta.9912]

@tuli rz Remember I'm in charge

[@mattpappas3893]

They spend too much time giggling like girls instead of talking like men. No wonder nobody takes them seriously.

[@DC45193]

true

[@401040100]

These two men made a serious conversation lite and fun. For you to make the statement "giggling like girls". Why is it when gay men at times are enjoying a conversation and laughing and having fun. It's equated to femininity? Here are two grown ass men...having a grown ass conversation, about same sex partners having children. Every topic doesn't have to be so serious. They were not making fun of the process, having fun and laughter during the O's interview. Lighten bruh!

[@DC45193]

because it is feminine. they gay thru already demasculinated.

[@mattpappas3893]

@@401040100 A kid raised by 2 feminine girly giggly men will grow up all screwed up in the head.

[@unapologetic2992]

Too bad he didn't talk of the money part. Because there is money involved