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@arunas715110 ай бұрын
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@DalitShiv_Nagwanshi10 ай бұрын
Aadmi ke liye ek hii Solution hai ke, Man zyada se zyada Biwiya rakhe, kyuki Duniya musafir khana ha, or Zyada biwiya hogi toh kisi ek par dependency nahi hogi, toh Biwi apki achhe se seva kregi. Or Biwi ka bhi Kaam kam hoga, Sath me mil kar ek bada parivar bnega, Khushal parivar bnega. Sirf Aadmi ko Strong, Samajdar or Family-Loving hona chahiye, or kisi Biwi ke sath discrimination Nah krta ho.
@PrakritiSehgaal10 ай бұрын
"Shawshank Redemption" is the movie. A worth watching movie it was indeed.
@drsapnakaswan10 ай бұрын
Shawshank Redemption- the name of the movie.
@sakshibhel91410 ай бұрын
I have bought premarital course of 777 can u pls assist me how can I use it m diverted to one app named as my institute and it is asking for some company code ??
@sumeetkumar690010 ай бұрын
I caught my wife watching this video. In her defence she shared the link to another video of yours "how men control their wives" 😂😂
@sapnatripathi793410 ай бұрын
😂
@blazingpheonix392510 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@ac91589 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@AnkitKumar-kk3iw3 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@GreenCoordinatesАй бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂
@namratas192910 ай бұрын
Father's sacrifice is always underestimated.My dad only breadwinner,never enjoyed lavish lifestyle but gave us highest level of education,always would teach us after coming from office till 1 or 2 clock late night.That's why we became experts.When all the children started earnings the entire credit was taken by my mom.According to her,she sacrificed her life but what about my dad,he never ever went alone or with his friends to watch movie or to eat out.He always gave us more than what he could.I totally agree with you,Sir.These moms are manipulating and scheming, plotting to take the entire credit.
@rahulroy5159 ай бұрын
You are understanding this thing about your father. This is the reward of your farher's entire li9fe struggle.
@sreevidyapillai80239 ай бұрын
Pls dont generalize things... Aisa hua hoga aapke ghar mei, not everywhere. All moms r not manipulative, not all dads r manipulative... changes from family to family
@I_am_groot_38748 ай бұрын
U never know what ur mother has gone through nobody is manipulative since inception. As children we shud try to understand both parents equally
@bhanuemani61762 ай бұрын
Fathers never have time to create good impression as they were always busy in earning money and taking care of children's fees college education, marriage expenditure etc. They were Never loved enough by own grown up kids. Only fortunate fathers get support - what they really deserve.
@rahulrajbhojАй бұрын
This is so true. Sadly my passed away last year, wish i had learned this earlier in my life. My mother also made him a villain in my life. Later I realised that was not the case.
@vibrantvaidehi9 ай бұрын
Pls also make a video on how a widowed mother controls her married son emotionally (passive aggressively) while living in adjoining houses
@nidhimathur20765 ай бұрын
Not only widowed but also MIL taken everything in control. Least bothered about pro& cons .Pl advice how to survive .
@dummysngh772510 ай бұрын
CONTROL - We loose CONTRIBUTE - We progress COMMITMENT- We win 🏆
@alkadeshpande662810 ай бұрын
sahi!
@shashigupta742810 ай бұрын
Wah, right 👍
@shalkiseth289310 ай бұрын
Main point is that everyone needs an emotional support . Kisiko kaabu nahi karna hai , bass dhang se sorted life lead Karni hai bina kisiko ghulaam banaaye ya control kkiye.
@shalkiseth289310 ай бұрын
Thanks to all those who liked my views.
@shashankarora862310 ай бұрын
Controlling another human is the main reason behind toxicity
@DalitShiv_Nagwanshi10 ай бұрын
Women or Shudra ko control me hii rakhna chahiye. . Women(by Nature) ( Men bhi Woman ke Nature ke ho toh unhe bhi control krna chahiye) . Shudra( Not by surname, but by behaviour, Occupation & Quality)
@amu80810 ай бұрын
@@DalitShiv_Nagwanshipagal ho kya
@Pictureofmy_world10 ай бұрын
@@DalitShiv_Nagwanshiapni maa ko kiya karo
@DalitShiv_Nagwanshi10 ай бұрын
@@Pictureofmy_world meri Maa_ko mere Pita ji Love, control & protection meh rakhte hai Jii
@ensign6210 ай бұрын
@@amu808😂😂😂
@nilinimagupta531110 ай бұрын
I'm 55 yrs old. Shaadi se 2 saal pehle se husband dusre city m job karte hue ghar akele manage karna seekh gaye the. Shaadi k pehle saal m muje bhi bahut support kiya but usi duration m unki mother k sachchai pata chali k dono beto ko bhed bhav se pala tha.husband bade bete the to unko sirf zimmedariyan ,yahan tak k padhne ka bhi time nahi deti thi aur chhote bhai ko padhai k alawa duniya m kya ho raha h ,isase kuchh matlab nahi hota tha. Apni maa k baad husband ki duniya m dusri aurat mere roop m aayi. Jab muje khud bhi unke parents k behaviour ka experience hua aur pehle ki baatein bhi pata chali tab subconsciously husband k liye care karne k bhavna aati gayi .Means patni k saath maa ka pyar bhi diya ,jo unki life m missing tha. Ab kya maine unko dependent jaanboojhker banaya taaki wo baad m mere gulaam ban jaaye.
@abhaysoni92610 ай бұрын
You really loved your husband.. just be with her.. he needs your support for his further life.. maybe he had been exploited by his mother and brother.. I hope I also get a wife who treats me also as mother do..
@nilinimagupta531110 ай бұрын
@@abhaysoni926 thank u so much for yr such a heart touching feed back
@Manik_431510 ай бұрын
dont worry!! you sure are a good wife... If you are long life partner you're not only husband and wife but everything to each other, You can fill the void of their Parents, Teachers, Sibling even you can treat them as your child. There is nothing wrong with it. I also have some scars from my childhood due to family problems and I'll be happy if my wife is filling them (By choice) and even I am ready to fill hers.
@ninanani408510 ай бұрын
@@abhaysoni926 You won't get if you be only Mama's boy. You will get if you equally respect, love and stand by your wife. And, Love is not dialogue. Equal sharing by Actions is love. Use bataoge, ki wo aurat hai, to use ye karna chahiye, to apne time pe wo tumhe batayegi ki tum admi ho tumhe, wo karna chahiye. It will go on.
@abhaysoni92610 ай бұрын
@@ninanani4085 I'm not any mama's boy type..and currently I'm not married 😂.
@purpleshine68329 ай бұрын
My mother in law has done the same with her family. She has passed it on to her daughter. I heard my sister in law's daughters telling me " mom does everything in the house. If she is not there, even a hanky won't be in its correct place. There is no house without mom." I asked the children "who told u this?" They said "mom"
@ashanaithani624810 ай бұрын
Yes, we don't depend on each other and yet we want to be together, this is Love.
@alaypatel60509 ай бұрын
Bollywoodiya style !!
@nirupamasharma43898 ай бұрын
True, and that's an amazing marriage!!
@mamtaSingh-mu8qx10 ай бұрын
Video is very nice 👍👍. Things are so well explained. How much a woman has to do to make a safe place in her sasural ! This is a servival story of a bahu who wishes to make a secure ground for her . Please do keep on guiding and councelling us
@stillbliss110 ай бұрын
The uniqueness of this channel is its very real and relatable. You should continue doing this. Please don't get into selling a book in the end like the whole creator market even if any content manager advises to.. yes It is a part of monetizing online content but now in the subconscious of the audience it has become like, Bhai ye bhi wahi creator jinko apni book bechna hai aur phir mehenge courses bechna hai. Hold your unique content as a USP. Thanks & All the best.
@ankitpanwar399210 ай бұрын
😊
@shefalianand61210 ай бұрын
Ya. Worst are the Medical Doctors on Ytube mostly American doctors selling their Books & their own brand pills & supplements
@TheCycloneTrooper10 ай бұрын
As a man, choose your partner wisely, understand your parents' marriage deeply, support your own family over all others yet understand your role as the weighing scale in the house. What you allow to perpetrate will become the precedence for all others - be warm yet firm in your dealings at home. Lead your people in the right direction, lead by example.
@SinghAjit21110 ай бұрын
You have said the best possible thing amongst all debate... appreciateing your valued comment after listening and reading all responses.
@nabeelarora10 ай бұрын
Truly speechless with the level of knowledge and understanding and clarity. Hats off! Now looking back at our families, I can figure out all this..
@mohakvasisht610610 ай бұрын
It is not as if the women of that generation were doing this so called pati ki seva as part of a grand scheme with the purpose of one day ruling the family.. They were expected and often bullied into a subservient position by the in laws, relatives and neighbours. After a time, it just became a sort of habit and, more often than not, a way of life to keep peace in the family. The brewing bitterness, of course, was never addressed by the man or his family so she vented her woes to her children who witnessed it firsthand. Nobody stopped the husband from becoming self dependent.. it just suited him fine to be the way he was. It's only when that bitterness is felt for the daughter in law that the older woman should introspect and refrain from becoming a part of the vicious cycle
@pratikshukla957310 ай бұрын
Your insights into this phenomena are indeed, phenomenal!!! Such depth can't come just by hardwork or experience alone, a very subtle right mix of understanding and erudity is needed to pierce so deep into the depths of truth... I seldom appreciate youtubers.. but you really are one of a kind... hats off to you sir
@palashchanda930810 ай бұрын
Being a recently married guy nearing his 40 and then being falsely accused by my wife (36) of DV and dowry cases after just 1 year of marriage, this video really clears a lot of doubts.
@seeker70904 ай бұрын
Divorce mat lo
@ANi-nc7zc10 ай бұрын
I usually agree with you but not on this. My husband helps me more than I want…he can do all household work but still after 32 years of marriage, we both miss each other if one is away.
@ninanani408510 ай бұрын
Yours is a ideal family. No need of any power dynamics balancing. You both are already balanced.
@Devi-pg4rj10 ай бұрын
@@ninanani4085could be codependency too.
@ninii39410 ай бұрын
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@anuradhamakhe240210 ай бұрын
It's an ironical coincidence that I saw these same power dynamics in the movie "Rocky and Rani ki Prem kahani" and have actually seen this happening in my life as well, with my parents and now when I am married.
@hk894269 ай бұрын
This movie put a stamp on my understanding upon narcissistic personalities
@soumilroy10 ай бұрын
Seen similar dynamic in my uncle's family. Uncle acted as a sher but after retirement he became a billi. Now my masi has became a sherni in their relationship 😂😂😂
@bharatideore310110 ай бұрын
Excellent analysis , Amit ji. I liked the phrase "moral corruption." Truth is difficult to digest.
@bickeyrana865610 ай бұрын
Akele hi jivan ka anand Lena hoga lag raha hai ladka ladki dono ko, itne sir k information sun k Aisa hi laga mujhe, paise kamane hai, Ghar k logo par adhikaar nahi jamana hai, na biwi se koi matlab rakhna hai na control hona hai bas thoda pyar Dena hai thoda saath dena hai , bass thoda thoda karke har chiz jina hai ultimate 100% jeene k liye
@SRP6310 ай бұрын
OMG 😅could not control my laughter ..the way you explain ,but on a serious note ,what you said is true .But we all learn on the job ,as husbands ,wives ...and if you get the lesson its fine . Balance is a very important in evey thing ,especially in emotions. That takes care of your decisions ,relationships ..but again till the day we die we are still have a lot to learn.And bitterness should be out of your relationships, when you are 60 and above...just let it go. Do something and keep yourself busy.Happiness is a state of mind .no matter how young or old you are. This is my view .
@desi2027310 ай бұрын
It is a husband's duty/dharma in a civilized society to ensure that his wife can live with economic dignity in her old age after his death. FD in wife's name is wisdom.
@prakashth10 ай бұрын
What if she has a brother, who claims to have better financial knowledge and offers to help after her husband’s death? 😂
@dukemitra642810 ай бұрын
I disagree. what if the wife dies early ? (I guess the above comment is from a controlling wife).
@manjular367810 ай бұрын
@dukemitra6428 This topic is about couples, not widower. .
@kumarabhishek106410 ай бұрын
Fake case and alimony enters the chat.
@prashantvispute310 ай бұрын
What if, Wife has a evil mother, who wants to reap economic benefits and exploit ?
@sanu588amit10 ай бұрын
Jiska father paisa udate hain unka mummy control karna chahiye for better future of their family. Men jab kamata hai woh jyada future expenses nahi sochta yeh sachai hai.
@shivanimalik67399 ай бұрын
My husband has been controlling me for last 9 years. He decides to whom i should talk or not. Even it's been 9 years i haven't visited my father's house, because of my kids i can't leave or divorce him. I have to live like this my whole life
@banditonehundred8 ай бұрын
Get some counselling from a professional. Don’t talk to your friends, they will only listen and gossip. Speaking poorly about your husband in public will only reduce trust even further
@sanghatidas361610 ай бұрын
Exactly. New generation want to play T20. We don't have that much patience to tolerate torture for 20 yrs. These 20 yrs are sufficient to create huge bitterness for a marriage. These bitterness stays in old age also.
@DalitShiv_Nagwanshi10 ай бұрын
Exactly, basically this uncle is saying that Woman should have Patience to Bear the T0rture of Husband & his in-Laws.
@DalitShiv_Nagwanshi10 ай бұрын
Lekin bohot se cases meh Wife bhi Husband ko Mentally itna T0rture kar deti hai, ke Aadmi Khudkhushi tak kar lete ha, ye bhi Duniya ki ek sachai ha, ap ish par bhi dhyana lagaye
@dummysngh772510 ай бұрын
Yes true
@priyankapattanaik541410 ай бұрын
Hmmm.thats why old age in India is living hell ...they used others life hell as theirs.
@MohitYadav-th7fz10 ай бұрын
@@priyankapattanaik5414toh abhi kon si young generation maze me hai 😂
@shivadahiya64710 ай бұрын
Sir 20 years back, Indian women were mostly housewives, A Ekta Kapoor story were real in some homes, Mostly younger couples in the name of chacha chachi were screwed most. Elder brothers of home use to take every economic resources for themselves and leading to separation of property. Some gained and some lose that's life in homes. Although member who got some thing from parents is a blessing. But now a days ppl are chilled out and want a peaceful life.
@Shri_Hegde10 ай бұрын
Now a days girls marry not for family or love, They marry only for financial stability... Women wants their rights without any responsibilities and duties and they termed responsibilities and duties as domestic abuse..... That is why marriage become liability for men.... I belive in - If possible do love marriage , otherwise dont marry... However if it is love marriage or Arranged marriage ready or know what to do and How to protect your asset if wife blackmail you, cheats you or want to divorce you....
@doremon999910 ай бұрын
Solution to all this problem is man should learn to do all the house hold chores and should learn to do nursing care for their own parents without expecting a out side women to do it for your parents.....why men is not capable of that? Now a days women r working and taking responsibility, same like man also must do all domestic labour work with wife for a complete happy family
@brinjal13719 ай бұрын
@@doremon9999nonsense That's not solution. Men should better themselves as man . Learning cooking and domestic chore is ok it's part of life. But domestic chore must be done by wife. Only those who know women's psychology can understand the wisdom behind it.
@aastha46620 күн бұрын
@@brinjal1371😂😂😂
@brinjal137120 күн бұрын
@@aastha466 😂😁
@sk-ss1nu10 ай бұрын
Very intelligent ,educative and unbiased content on this channel. Wishing you lots of subscribers Sir.
@Jay-rv4ee10 ай бұрын
Spot on, Sirji. I joined such a family where the mother was an internal Shoorpankhi, but an external Sita Mata. My father-in-law was the first victim. I could never explain this to anyone. I split from the marriage after 25 years of this toxicity, which ran in her son's veins too. My children and I have moved on, but it takes lifetimes to end this inter-generational trauma.
@som0s0r10 ай бұрын
😂 I left them and now live with my kid my own.. But it took time to heal
@Bluesmiley0510 ай бұрын
You deserve a peaceful life ahead.
@Jay-rv4ee10 ай бұрын
@@Bluesmiley05 thank you. We are healing, but it will take a lifetime
@mahendragiri723610 ай бұрын
Thanks from Pune, Maharashtra Guruji🙏, your every topic 75-80% relatable for me, but this was 100% relatable.
@hk894269 ай бұрын
things we independent new generation used to wonder , seeing things in society. Now I am 40 and getting a stamp on my wonders that my judgement was right seeing neighbours, relatives
@VSK603010 ай бұрын
This man deserves an award !! 🙌
@hk894269 ай бұрын
Seriously, things we independent new generation used to wonder seeing things in society. Now I am 40 and getting a stamp on my wonders that my judgement was right seeing neighbours, relatives
@nageshj134010 ай бұрын
Pranam Guruji 🙏 , i can relate now what has / was happening in family life till date.. thank you for keeping it to the point and unfolding yhe secret
@amitsahai951810 ай бұрын
This is mind blowing , such an observation on our society and the perceptions created so well articulated. It takes real guts to show a mirror to society !
@arushi_gupta9 ай бұрын
Very well explained, the thing is nobody wins in this dynamic. Mothers sure teach their kids about their sacrifices, but the fact is it impacts those kids for the rest of their lives and next 2 generations as well. A system of failure of relationships where relationships are mere give n take and nothing more
@ShubhamSharma-ky2tf10 ай бұрын
Sir ji. You spill the beans. Gave me so much clarity. Victimhood mein bhi dominance
@ninanani408510 ай бұрын
Dominance karenge to jhelenge bhi, victimhood se ho ya revolt aur ladai se. Behtar hai ki dominance karo hi mat.
@nishabharti65910 ай бұрын
What u said in the last minute was the star of this whole topic...deep thinking👍so true...we exaggerate past whether happy or sad....usually it is neither as life runs in the middle
@SK-df9kl10 ай бұрын
Could you please make video on narcissistic MIL and unsupportive husband? We live in another city but still MIL is controlling husband.
@anamikas22710 ай бұрын
I feel you . I have MIL and Sils . Toxic to the core who remote control their sons, brother. Son in law along with husband
@panktislifestyle235410 ай бұрын
@@anamikas227me too can feel it. MIL created divorced.
@rahulmore458410 ай бұрын
play power dynamic game, as sir told in video.. Easy.. I bet you, if you handle all your Mil's problems now to 45-50 ki age me pura ghar, aapka husband aapki control me hoga.. Bilkul 12:40 - 13:25 aise
@sanjayshetty153310 ай бұрын
Think of her as ur mother for 3 months, n analyse her actions n u will get ur answer
@anamikas22710 ай бұрын
@@rahulmore4584 we are working n earning people who are not interested in doing this , some people are highly toxic ,they go to the extent of dividing sons family . Not easy
@nirupamasharma438910 ай бұрын
Being a woman and also a feminist, this video doesn't provoke me at all. I know this thing used to happen. I have seen that happening in my family. And honestly, its just an after effect or consequence of what has been the home system set up based on patriarchy. Women werr dependent on men for money, and men were dependent on women for each and every daily housework. Ek time ke baad paisa mahila ko mil gaya, but daily housework ka kya hoga, wo kahan se permanently mil jayega? Truly analysed by sango sir, ye aadmiyon ke liye ultimately ghate ka sauda hi raha.
@DalitShiv_Nagwanshi10 ай бұрын
Agar ham, Aadmi ki bhalai ke liye 4-Biwi rakhne ko kahe, taki Old age me ushe ek Mahila par depend nah hona, pade toh ap mujh par Gussa nikalege
@namanjain248810 ай бұрын
if both are earning then they can hire maid.
@ayanmahato604910 ай бұрын
Shadi mat karo bf gf hi rho
@namanjain248810 ай бұрын
@@bapparawal2457 meine kab ka 4 wife ke liye ?
@arunas715110 ай бұрын
@nirupama ek time bad paisa mahila ko kaise Mil gya??? Property naam krne se kya hoga jabtk usko ye hi nhi pta ki use kaise hoga?
@SNomnamo9 ай бұрын
You are a true gem Sir❤The average Indian will not appreciate you because they don't have the brains to understand your layers. The average Indian tends to either glorify or demonise anyone whether it's their mother father wife husband etc meri maa toh Devi thi.....yeh comment har baar main padhti hoon mujhe hassi aati hai....phir toh bharat mai 50 crore deviyaan honi chahiye ghoomte phirte..... Also they get very offended when you say the naked truth.... But there are people like us who accept and appreciate reality and therefore you !!!
@Clarityinlife33510 ай бұрын
Bohot zabardast baat hai, kyunki mummy ke nani house jaane par papa ki waat lag jaati thi. Arey ye kaha hai arey ye kaise hoga. Arey mera samaan saath mein le gayi kya kuch nahi mil raha yahi toh pada rehta tha. Acha aaj tiffin nahi aaya.
@aks170610 ай бұрын
But in 90% cases, it was natural flow of family. If women were so sajishbaaj, why would she wait for 20 30 years of marriage until achieving 50 60 years of age. Age bachti he kitni hai uske baad.... Today's generation is spot on becoz they are earning....They want equal partnership. Earlier money was less and women were dependent on their husbands and their own family
@blazingpheonix392510 ай бұрын
🤬Jisne paida Kara hai usko Chhod ke Teri SEVA Karega kya? Ladkiya bhi apne parents Ko zyada priority deti hai, apne husband se ZYADA. Husband ki burai karti hai logo ke saath lekin apni family Ki criticism Jhel nahi paati... Women are MORE MAMA'S GIRL and PAPA KI PARI.... MEN can sometimes go against his mother for his wife. But WIFE WILL NEVER GO AGAINST HER OWN FAMILY
@aks170610 ай бұрын
@@blazingpheonix3925 same would have happened if men would have stayed with their in laws. Distance always provide more care and love. Daughters agar parents sath rehti to unke sath bhi khat pat hoti.... Mutual respect for each other's parents is the key for happy marriage.
@pawanjalandery10 ай бұрын
To add on, one more reason Till the time father do the job, they remain adamant and never listen NO for an answer. All of sudden when they get retired and started facing resistance to their decisions, they get confused how to address it. Then they start taking help/ support from the mother and eventually statics changes.
@blazingpheonix392510 ай бұрын
🤬Jisne paida Kara hai usko Chhod ke Teri SEVA Karega kya? Ladkiya bhi apne parents Ko zyada priority deti hai, apne husband se ZYADA. Husband ki burai karti hai logo ke saath lekin apni family Ki criticism Jhel nahi paati... Women are MORE MAMA'S GIRL and PAPA KI PARI.... MEN can sometimes go against his mother for his wife. But WIFE WILL NEVER GO AGAINST HER OWN FAMILY
@wellbeing491410 ай бұрын
Economic dependence kept people together, even in dysfunctional families and the results affected children, which is extremely tragic.
@vibha-ff1ee5 ай бұрын
जिसका बचपन ही घर की लड़ाइयां-झगड़े देख गुजरा हो "वाजिद" अब वो डरा-सहमा सा रहता है तो जमाने को मलाल क्यूं है?
@Vijendra_Seeker10 ай бұрын
कोई महिला किसी पुरूष को कन्ट्रोल नही करती पुरूष तैयार ही बैठा है कन्ट्रोल होने के लिए 😂
@amijoshi255910 ай бұрын
Shaadi control karne ke liye nahi saath ek dusre ka Dene ke liye karo...nahi to single raho .chahe koi bhi Ghar chala Raha ho aur kitne bhi members family me ho...milke raho,enjoy karo.. control na karo..hamare liye Jo sahi hai vo kisi ke liye galat bhi ho sakta hai..
@naina76310 ай бұрын
Perfectly said sir... Gen Z mai patience nahi hai.... But sir sara patience sirf ladki se hi expected hai.... Jo ki ab girls ab nahi karngei accept... Rehna hai sath tho equality se hi rehna padega... N mother in law (mil)ko bichari uski beakar halt hai.... 😅expectations high rakhi (mil) ne... N woh bhi galat.... Ab baith kar ro rahi hi😂😂😂😂
@blazingpheonix392510 ай бұрын
Girls ke "acceptance" pe nahi chalegi dunia. FORCEFULLY ACCEPT KARWAYENGE. WARNA UPAR
@naina76310 ай бұрын
@@blazingpheonix3925 u mean mother in law 🤣🤣🤣
@Amanrathore2310 ай бұрын
@@blazingpheonix3925 nhi brother apni Ghar ki ladies ko upar mat bhejo
@janamedia817110 ай бұрын
Sir ❤..... Please make a video on daughters raised by parents too pampered cos when they get married they see a different lifestyle..Few adjust and change and few break marriage and go back leading to broken marriages.
@kritipriya57899 ай бұрын
Thank u for sharing these things.. it’s really what I have experienced at my home and at my inlaws place😂.. aapne toh saari pol khol di.. keep sharing such things..
@panktislifestyle235410 ай бұрын
Sir, in my family, no one wish to sit and discuss. Can you please make a video how to talk in family N convince them that problems can be sort out via open talk?
@vinceisgod154710 ай бұрын
Accurate😂story of every family❤on target guruji😊😊😊
@manunair588110 ай бұрын
This is one of the most informative videos I have seen recently.. this has been happening in my family as well, but mujhe itne saal baad abhi clear ho gaya.. 😢 Btw, this sort of dynamics is not just between couples- some mothers play this game with their children too. Bacche ko Itna jyada nikamma bana do ki woh aapke bina jee nahi sakta and then use it for full emotional control of the child. Aur alag se guilt bhi feel kara do - ki dekho mein tumhare liye kitna pis rahi hoo, tum kitne lazy ho....😢 instead of making the child self reliant, they raise a completely useless son... But i didnt know this was being done deliberately.. 😮
@GreenDriveIndia10 ай бұрын
Sometimes it is not deliberate, then father has to jump in and make kids reliable
@Rush2KPK10 ай бұрын
Very true. Lazy banati hai purey Ghar ko. Ane wali bahu ko takleef hoti hai.
@svgco202110 ай бұрын
So true!
@shobhanakadam530810 ай бұрын
@@Rush2KPK 😂 lagta hai apko apni chinta jyada ho rahi hai
@Rush2KPK10 ай бұрын
@@shobhanakadam5308 I am dealing with this on a daily basis. And it is painful when MIL says things like: "humne toh kabhi apne pati se kaam nai karvaye"; "humne hamesha apne hatho se sab kaam karey hai"; "Aajkal ki ladkiya kaha hum jaise kaam karegi" and blah blah blah.. Maids ka kaam pasand nai ata. Khud door mat bankar rahi and new generation se b same expectations hai. Things have changed and are changing. People should raise their sons differently now.
@binoylive10 ай бұрын
Very interesting content, nicely articulated as always❤
@deepti892010 ай бұрын
This is the most practical video i have ever seen on the dynamics of relationship. The same situation i have seen in my family as well.
@tulikapanja551410 ай бұрын
Shawshank Redemption -- Sir all your contents are practical and doable.
@KomalNirwan10 ай бұрын
I was about to mention the movie name. 😂
@abhisheksharma-ht6nd10 ай бұрын
Please make a video on having one kid vs 2 or more kids under different scenarios like, single parent working, both parent working etc.
@krushnadurga60010 ай бұрын
Please make videos on RICH CLASS too. An insight into their life and relations behind that show off will be Interesting!
@nehai483010 ай бұрын
Thiers ladies are not financially or in any other way dependent, so easy to leave, then the jealous middle class feel they are "behuda" "asanskari", deep down they know they are stuck and just bitter how can a women of 50 years get divorced and leave a happy peaceful life, without a drama. Sangro, behind the sansaka ka parda, middle class is actually, toxic, bitter, jealous and controlling. The amount of control exists in middle class is not in lower or upper classes. (that doesnt mean they dont have issues, thy do have, its just thier issues are diifrent.)
@ninii39410 ай бұрын
@@nehai4830 exactly
@muneeza916510 ай бұрын
This is good. Understanding life and power dynamics requires acceptance. Kudos
@NP-ls3js10 ай бұрын
13:00 shivgaami aur lule hath wale pita ji 😂😂😂😂 Bilkul sahi bola aapne...😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@neha467410 ай бұрын
Sir, best video till date, this wisdom is priceless . Thanks for considering us worthy of this gyaan. Thanks
@amitashyam244610 ай бұрын
What about women who willingly sacrificed their careers for husbands and family .
@Devi-pg4rj10 ай бұрын
Sacrificing your job/ career and foregoing your financial independence is seriously a bad idea in this day and age.
@amitashyam244610 ай бұрын
@@Devi-pg4rj I meant the women who are now in their sixties , who already did that because that was the norm of those times
@Devi-pg4rj10 ай бұрын
@@amitashyam2446 it is the responsibility of their husbands and kids to look after them. :)
@banditonehundred8 ай бұрын
Everyone sacrifices, your husband won’t live as long if he’s taking all the financial pressure. This is the problem with people who only feel bad for themselves and don’t appreciate the sacrifices their partner is making
@elenamarcus958810 ай бұрын
Sir please make next vid on new emerging family system of single mother or single father as guardian (divorced). I(22) and my brother(21) are friends to our mother. She does have male friends she talks on call too which doesn't bother us.Their friends(male) visit home too on occasions. But whenever the topic is about me (her daughter) coming home late or getting a call from a male friend, she gets all suspicious towards me when i aswer her politely she rolls her eyes over me.. which is not her reaction when my brother comes home late or gets a call from a female friend. But she keeps her this open minded mother attitude in front of the world, telling them that she's like a friend to her kids. She is independent. I love her a lot, we 3 do have a great bond but she doesn't realise few things. I'm a grown woman i can date but unfortunately i can't even though being a genZ because of this attitude of my guardian exclusively towards me. She's friendly to everyone else. These are causing cracks now in our relation.
@ninanani408510 ай бұрын
She should equally keep a check on your brother also. These unchecked sons becomes rot of society. Here she is selfish. Only thinking about you and not of other girls that his son might be rotting.
@nirupamasharma438910 ай бұрын
Hi dear, you are right that she should behave equally with you as her sons. But don't worry. She might be just concerned. Oftentimes, children end up being in toxic relationships and she might just want to save you. She should do same thing with your brothers as well. They might be hurting a girl or might be on the path of getting hurt themselves. But her way of handling it looks conservative like you explained rolling her eyes down on you. You can talk to her about this openly. I am sure she will be okay to discuss as she has that friendly attitude in her towards her children.
@ninii39410 ай бұрын
She's toxic and jealous of you ...she never got love and can't tolerate yours
@dr.reshmaschede405410 ай бұрын
Your observation is absolutely right..gen z is smarter and much resolved.
@arti23200510 ай бұрын
Indian men r brought up in such way they become r dependent first mother then if continues after marriage ..
@banditonehundred8 ай бұрын
That is nonsense. Men want peace at home and are willing to compromise on the power dynamics for that.
@ayushisrivastava527810 ай бұрын
So so so accurate!! Uncle ji you rocked👏
@Anjjalii_kumarri10 ай бұрын
Sir ji charan kaha hai apke😂apne to ekdum meri saas sasur ki life describe kr di
@shinewithstyle646010 ай бұрын
Mere bhi..they are very toxic..
@drasmitapagar.60610 ай бұрын
What a Keen Observation Sir 😁 hats off to your practical knowledge. Best Videos ever I have watched on your channel. Thanks a lot 🙏 respect from heart.
@truthwall10 ай бұрын
Guruji is a brilliant observer and know the dynamics too well
@vinitaswamy420910 ай бұрын
Brilliant observation and guidance Amit Sir. No one has explained power dynamics with such nuance and clarity.👌👌🙏🏼 Thank you
@San_home-chef10 ай бұрын
I am writing a journal and it has helped me to be stress free in the time of crisis
@blazingpheonix392510 ай бұрын
🤬Jisne paida Kara hai usko Chhod ke Teri SEVA Karega kya? Ladkiya bhi apne parents Ko zyada priority deti hai, apne husband se ZYADA. Husband ki burai karti hai logo ke saath lekin apni family Ki criticism Jhel nahi paati... Women are MORE MAMA'S GIRL and PAPA KI PARI.... MEN can sometimes go against his mother for his wife. But WIFE WILL NEVER GO AGAINST HER OWN FAMILY
@injar8810 ай бұрын
The people who show the mirror will not have a huge audience and yes each person can get triggered. I have seen how it is very closely. The one who does the cleaning and if you speak the truth for bringing change. You are helping so thank you and keep going. Thank you for giving the next generations some credit. 🙏🙏🙏
@manjular367810 ай бұрын
This video was very interesting Sometimes we go through what we go through to help others Not to go through what we Went through. Thank you guruji 🙏
@ushalundia204310 ай бұрын
In my time , I am 74,women were not highly educated Those who were sadly to say were trampled upon It is happening even today. I gave tuition and saved every rupee to become independent. No asking for money It sets you free I even taught my husband to fend for himself I don’t boss my husband and don’t allow anyone to hold a whip over me The eldest bahu is tortured and not the Cha his if the sass is still around
@manjular367810 ай бұрын
@ushalundia2043 We were born at a time when a girl child was not welcomed. Yet we survived, so we must be happy and celebrate every day. My best wishes to you. Take care
@anamikas22710 ай бұрын
Please make a video on mama's boys son in detail..psychology on why they become that inspite of not being dependent on parents..
@sanjayshetty153310 ай бұрын
Ur son will teach u that😂
@ninanani408510 ай бұрын
Because he is the one and only one Tool in the hands of that woman, who 25 yrs back was, as u are in ur place today, to get gurarantee and security for life from that house n family members, which were not her's/ Your's. The evil of patriarchal society, where man is seen n unseen player, for his benefit. What you can do, don't repeat the cycle. And, for your life, be headstrong.
@blazingpheonix392510 ай бұрын
🤬Jisne paida Kara hai usko Chhod ke Teri SEVA Karega kya? Ladkiya bhi apne parents Ko zyada priority deti hai, apne husband se ZYADA. Husband ki burai karti hai logo ke saath lekin apni family Ki criticism Jhel nahi paati... Women are MORE MAMA'S GIRL and PAPA KI PARI.... MEN can sometimes go against his mother for his wife. But WIFE WILL NEVER GO AGAINST HER OWN FAMILY
@ninanani408510 ай бұрын
@@blazingpheonix3925 प्यार है, तो खुद कर सेवा। किसने मना किया है? पर मम्मा ने कुछ सिखाया तो होगा नहीं, तो अपना कर्जा उतरने को बीवी का मुंह देखेगा? खुद सीख और कर और अपना कर्जा खुद उतार।, निकम्मा मत बन।
@anjhaankit10 ай бұрын
If you want to learn, just see your brother. But the truth is, you'll always feel he favours your Bhabhi more than your mother and he's not a mama's boy. This is a basic tendency in women. They want their husbands to be a man and they want their brothers to be a family man. When they see their husbands do the opposite, they exaggerate that their husbands are mama's boys and when they see their bothers do the opposite, they see them as veering towards their wives. In both cases, the behavior that is not as per our desire is noticed starkly and the behavior that is as per our desire is not noticed as much. You just try to see things clearly and you'll see.
@jaitpurmcd569610 ай бұрын
You are absolutely correct. I have seem when elder lady becomes real owner of her property , FD a& other assets after demise of husband real power game starts in family. In the name of property she make life of her children hell
@artibhatnagar706210 ай бұрын
Sir the way you guide ,even parents are not guiding their children likewise 🙏
@arnavsharma345010 ай бұрын
Apke 2 channel kyu hai ek hi channel pr sara content kyu ni dalte guru g?
@shobhanakadam530810 ай бұрын
Sir mother ki iss behaviour ke piche asli villen kon hai? Ye to aapka hi video hai na..
@user-yk5xu8gr1e10 ай бұрын
Last mein aapne sahi kaha....sahi pyaar aajkal hi hai jan ek doosre ki economic slavery nahi hai :)
@hero_00710 ай бұрын
Heard this somewhere, but I feel this is true 'A woman who controls the kitchen, controls the house!'
@nirupamasharma438910 ай бұрын
Obviously khane me zeher bhi to mila sakti hai wo😂😂😂
@Devi-pg4rj10 ай бұрын
That was earlier..Now we have Zomato, swiggy, restaurants, hotels, street food, curry points etc..Now, not much power in controlling the kitchen. The only power now is economic power. You can buy anything. Good that most women are now financially independent.
@blazingpheonix392510 ай бұрын
@@nirupamasharma4389😂😂 phir Jail ki Chakki bhi to peesegi
@blazingpheonix392510 ай бұрын
@@Devi-pg4rjMOST WOMEN AREN'T 🎉
@WYyXXX10 ай бұрын
Bhot sahi Bola.. well Said. My Mother In law cant digest that he works with me in kitchen. And I dnt know if she manipulated his son because my husband is like father in law.. he doesnt want to help in household chores. And His parents support him. Now I dnt expect from my husband bcz i know he wont do if i expect it will hurt me.
@ninanani408510 ай бұрын
Ultimately like normal household, whwte u will gwt ur dominance after certain time. Be strong emotionally n be headstrong. Don't let urself be hurt easily. But, Please dont repeat the cycle.
@WYyXXX10 ай бұрын
@@ninanani4085 correct. I agree with You
@amijoshi255910 ай бұрын
In any relationship apna kaam khud karna sikho..for small stuff don't be dependent on others..
@Vijay5523410 ай бұрын
But woh bhi female ko tolerate nahi hota..ki adami ikdum hi independent hoke jee Raha hai..aapna aapna kaam khood kar leta hai...
@nirupamasharma438910 ай бұрын
@@Vijay55234tum karo to, ho jayega tolerate
@ninii39410 ай бұрын
@@Vijay55234 housewife s tolerate nhi hota kuki fir uski koi value hi nhi hogi ...working women appreciate krti h aiso ko
@ensign6210 ай бұрын
@@ninii394Han ye to sahi hai
@ninii39410 ай бұрын
@@ensign62 y cheeze shadi s pehle hi clear krleni chahiye
@rayanskingdom60298 ай бұрын
I too had observed this power dynamics thing closely. And had come to the conclusion😊.
@mantreshagrawal10 ай бұрын
Kya baat boli hai sir I'm 20 years old but i agree 100% with you, great knowledge.
@dabasmanjeet10 ай бұрын
Wowwwww sir🙏 Brutal reality playing out. So so true. Applauds 👏👏👏👏👏
@dhirendrakumar6025Ай бұрын
Sir, I salute you. Psychologically you are correct.
@Aashima_arora_bhasin10 ай бұрын
Exactly Same in my in laws ditto Ldke ko b nikkamma b na diya totally dependent on her khud much kr h na. Paye
@anveshkamboj10 ай бұрын
Aapka content bahut he gazab ka hota hai sir ji. I can always co-relate.
@dr.aashnasharma55983 ай бұрын
My parents were like that only..totally same... Both has indifference in themselves , but after my marriage they came in together, but in reality still they has this indiffernce.
@MD-239510 ай бұрын
Meri mother in law kehti hum ne kitna Saha tab ja kar yeh ghar bana.aap ne sahin kaha sir meri mother in law same tricks use karti aayi hai and aaj ghr unke control mein hai yet she is not happy from Inside, in fact ek din mein ne bhi unse yehi pucha tha mumma aap jo keh rahe sab theek hai but kya aap sach mein andar se khush ho aaj ki date pe? She was silent…
@shagunkapoor89543 ай бұрын
Sir if people could think and live with the clarity you have put forth...and face the reality you have spoken about....our society would be a happier place. Like you said pyar bhi rahega🙏 Thank you for bringing put this series💗
@shaliniverma702010 ай бұрын
What a perspective.. your videos blow my mind !! What a clarity of thoughts.!!
@blazingpheonix392510 ай бұрын
🤬Jisne paida Kara hai usko Chhod ke Teri SEVA Karega kya? Ladkiya bhi apne parents Ko zyada priority deti hai, apne husband se ZYADA. Husband ki burai karti hai logo ke saath lekin apni family Ki criticism Jhel nahi paati... Women are MORE MAMA'S GIRL and PAPA KI PARI.... MEN can sometimes go against his mother for his wife. But WIFE WILL NEVER GO AGAINST HER OWN FAMILY
@parulprarthana541310 ай бұрын
Aapke videos dekhne me bohot mazaa ataa hai sir. Best baat ye hai ki aap bilkul unbiased hain.
@neetugrover938110 ай бұрын
You are amazing 😊 more power to you ⚘️
@DalitShiv_Nagwanshi10 ай бұрын
Aadmi ke liye ek hii Solution hai ke, Man zyada se zyada Biwiya rakhe, kyuki Duniya musafir khana ha, or Zyada biwiya hogi toh kisi ek par dependency nahi hogi, toh Biwi apki achhe se seva kregi. Or Biwi ka bhi Kaam kam hoga, Sath me mil kar ek bada parivar bnega, Khushal parivar bnega. Sirf Aadmi ko Strong, Samajdar or Family-Loving hona chahiye, or kisi Biwi ke sath discrimination Nah krta ho
@lakshmihaobam990910 ай бұрын
Guruji. Generally senior ladies ko ghutne main kyon dard rehta hai. gents main to kam hota hai. Ek video banayi ye please.
@DeeptiSharma-yf5ns10 ай бұрын
Medical issues bhi hote hai aur genetically bhi kai problems hoti hai body main .is wajah se bhi problems hoti bai .ab toh bahut se males ko bhi knee pain ka problem hai
@Sunshinewebcam10 ай бұрын
Woman bones are weaker than men … men r stronger naturally. Nature .
@gvkumar231810 ай бұрын
I don't think one gets married to play power games. If love dominates in a marriage, acceptance and adjusment comes easy. Unfortunately, in a T20 match there is no time to for professional advice or mid course corrections. And this leads to a lot of mis communications wrong perceptions. Love and frank communications are a must for happy marriages.
@iamparkseojun970310 ай бұрын
Very well articulated about the reality of previous generation where women were very little educated and only had the.motive for money and power. The new generation women are educated and are more kind straight forward and share the financial social and family issues. But the new women are more stressed due to many other reasons but much lesser corrupt than the.prev one.
@sunandapowar26459 ай бұрын
💯 True Each word. Worth listening always
@musiclover-ik5jf10 ай бұрын
English movie that you mentioned is Shawshank Redemption