Schizophrenia And Relationships

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[@evamingo847]

Hey, I was wondering about something. Cause it makes me very sad to hear "find that one person who understands" because I love someone with this illness and we really fit together so well. We truly love each other. But I am often the object of whom he thinks is trying to harm him. So what do I do when he wont talk to me because he has a delusion about me? I try the best I can to be supportive and understand, but it never works.. :(

[@nancybennett1375]

Same with me

[@dreamer.4]

Great advice, but also please thank your girlfriend for me for taking care of you so well. I am happy to see you two be so happy together.

[@haleyp8340]

I have paranoid schizophrenia and I love your videos because no one really understands it. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year, and we live together. I was PETRIFIED when we moved in together because me too, it was the first relationship Ive had where the voices and delusions aren't completely taking over my mind 24/7. The nights where I sit in the living room staring out the windows because theres FBI agents watching me and the bugs they have all over the apartment and in my skin my boyfriend ALWAYS wakes up and calms me down. It's difficult when the delusions take over and you start to think things about someone you love is 100% ANNOYING. I sometimes get thoughts that my boyfriend is going to kidnap and abuse me and it's like what the fuck I KNOW that shouldn't be in my head because I trust him completely. It certainly is never easy for him to watch me just kind of drift off into these awful thoughts- especially because he cannot understand no matter how much he tried. For me, it was very eye opening because its been 10 months and I'm just now able to let my guard down. My bf had zero patience and now he's the most patient person I know. Its beautiful to see someone truly care about and love you the way that you are. I owe everything to cognitive behavioral therapy. I went from being doped up and sick off antipsychotics to finding the "right" one and then being off of it in a year. I have a personality disorder as well so I'm on lithium but no antipsychotics. I never expected to be in a relationship whatsoever and now I couldn't see myself with anyone else. I certainly never expected life in general to be as great as it is today even though I still have much to work on. People don't realize that it takes so much courage to battle your own mind. I'm glad youre very happy in your relationship as well!!

[@tedhibbard6320]

Well i fell in love with a girl and she has a 20 year old son who both suffer from this major mental problem.At first i was confused when they attacted me for i still dont know why.But now i understand what the problem is..She now knows im there to help her and im not going to kill her.She destroyed my life and i lost thousand of dollars but I love her so much and still helping her.She is starting to trust me a little.How do i get her to understand im deep in love with her and she can stop rejecting me.I not going to give up on her but if she dont want me then i will have to go.She is really mean and crazy at times but she is cool at outher times.I do know when to split.She has never had a relationship with a man befor.Its really going to hurt me if i loose her.It was love at first sight when i first see her.I pray to God to give her to me but i dont know whats going to happen.They dont take their meds but smoke pot 24 /7 and it does help.How do i get her to understand Im deep in love with her and would never do anything to harm her.I meet them 7 months ago.The police told me their carzy and dangerous people.I just do want to loose her and hoping i can get them both into treatment and taking meds.befor something bad happens.Im really deep in love with her and want to be her man.Wish me luck.

[@carmenapplin5247]

Thank you Jacob for doing theses videos. First time watcher. I have a son with schizophrenia... dealing with the stigma. Dealing with did I do this to my son. I hope to do videos on how this is just a fraction of the person... leading a life just becomes more difficult. I am so happy for you that you found a beautiful girl and the two of you make each other happy! Gives me hope. Yes, life is more challenging but finding what works for you is so worth it! Keep on keeping on ❤️

[@codergames]

Happy New Year man, to you, your parents, your girlfriend and her parents! Sounds that you're able to ignore symptoms of schizophrenia, you'll probably just get used to them. Many other schizophrenics I spoke to, are not able to ignore paranoia and weird thinking even with the meds. Most of them are however relieved of hallucinations, so it appears that you guys went one step further from them, being able to ignore paranoia and thoughts on a daily basis. That really is an amazing achievement. Again, I'm not schizophrenic, but your videos, without any doubt, provide information and hope to those who are. I totally agree with you that normal is overrated, because there is no normal, people who're deciding what is and what's not normal might not be normal at all. Thanks again for the video!

[@abcdefghijialexy]

I'm so happy for both of you. Having been on your channel for a while, it's nice to see how much healthier you look and feel!

[@aprilwinkletoes]

My husband has Schizophrenia and we have been together since before he developed any symptoms. It's great to hear your relationship is going so well. It can be very challenging so it's great to know you both have a partner that understands the illness. I wish you both the best!

[@khalidpictures186]

Again a wonderful video about illness and relations. Great Mr. Jacob and congratulations.

[@lonetardigrade]

Glad to see he has become more coherent with his thoughts and how he communicates them.

[@sacredthyme4617]

watch'n your shows - they are helping me understand some of the patterns. my buddy has challenges that have caused hell for himself & also problem'd my life as i have helped him for 7 long years now. finally he admits to his mental challenges so he (& i) can deal with at an attempt of creating a sable environment. i am learning how to create a place where he can survive & thrive and not destroy my life. ~ i am not 'normal' as i am an artist; i am art. but my human side needs reality. So; having a friend with this illness has really been tough. lost my home & every rental for a few years now. we have even have been homeless many months at a time & having to live out of my van as = i tried to find shelter to rent. So exhausted; but here i am now restarting again - with him having no where to go; i am still attempting to share a home with my mental ill friend. i am burdened as i have spinal injury so i have physical pain & life is difficult enough for me; sadly more added stress than good from the friendship & this will be my last try. so i am here to attempt to learn other ways to understand & to create & structure = a home that may function. Much Love to all who care for self & others ~

[@grantschuhkraft]

Such a good message. Glad you've found happiness.

[@GENZGAMER_]

You read my mind, thank you for uploading this video,.especially on this subject. This is very helpful.

[@ShadowWalker1971]

Hey Jacob, good video. I would say that you are right about relationships between we the mentally ill, and "normals" most of the time. However, there are rare exceptions that a "normal" will stick it out with a mentally ill person, as I and my wife are living proof of that. I have had Paranoid Schizophrenia and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder(OCD), for a little over 27 years now, and I have had Depersonalization/Derealization Disorder for almost 14 years or so now as well. I have been married for 14 years(16 years together though) now, and my wife has stuck by me through some VERY dark times in my life. So obviously, there ARE "normals" out there who will stick by a mentally ill person's side, but I guess it all just depends on how much they actually love that person. However, such people are a rare breed indeed I think and as such, it would be very difficult indeed to make a relationship work with a "normal." As for your views going down, well, I have a hypothesis as to why that is, and it may be one that you have already thought of yourself or heard from someone else before. I think your views have probably gone down because, judging from the comments left by people on your videos in the past(I have been following your channel for a while and have watched a lot of your videos), it appeared that a lot of your viewers were females who apparently were more interested in your looks than in what you had to say about mental illness, and now that you are "no longer available" to them, being as you are in a committed relationship with your girlfriend, they've apparently moved on. If I may say so though, that can actually be a good thing for you, because that way most of the people watching your videos will be watching to hear what you have to say about the disease, instead of "tuning in" just to look at you. Anyway, keep making videos, they are good. Peace to you and yours.

[@sacredthyme4617]

these are helping me as my buddy has challenges that has caused hell for himself & also my life as i have helped him for 7 long years now. finally he admits to his mental challenges so he (& i) can deal with creating a sable environment. i am learning how to create a place where he can survive & thrive and not destroy my life. i am not 'normal' as i am an artist; i am art. but my human side needs reality. having a friend with this illness has really been tough. lost my home & every rental for a few years now. even homeless many months at a time & having to live out of my van as i tried to find shelter to rent. i am now restarting again - with him having no where to go; i am still attempting to share a home with my mental ill friend. i am burdened as i have spinal injury so i have physical pain & life is difficult enough for me; sadly more added stress than good from the friendship & this will be my last try. so i am here to attempt to learn other ways to understand & to create & structure a home that may function. Much Love to all who care for self & others ~

[@sarahbucket8037]

Happy new year Jacob! so happy to see ur vid pop up 😊

[@nenya]

Wow, this hit me in the feels!

[@Vixinaful]

You're right. Schizos shouldnt date normal people. I did (didnt know what was wrong with him, thought he was just depressed) and was abused by him until I almost died. When I recovered he stepped up the abuse to where I was near suicide. I now suffer from PTSD and social phobia and I was a lover of humans, very very extroverted. He completely destroyed me.

[@Yunglizard2777]

me and my boyfriend are both mentally ill and i agree with you that you have to find someone who has the same problems as you. we both have ocd and severe general anxiety however having different problems is good too and we learn from each other. he has severe social anxiety and agoraphobia and i have bipolar 1 so our temperments can clash. ive learned to be gentler and and try not to get so angry when he cancels plans on me because of his agoraphobia and hes learned to venture out more and be more comfortable in social situations and hes adjusted well to being around someone as chaotic as me lol

[@smoothrain479]

OMG god bless you nobody wants to talk about the things that you do and I thank god for coming across your vids

[@RedXIIIable]

Great video :) your channel inspired me to try making a vlog myself, but I didn't have the guts to go into relationship stuff. Mental illness gets really complicated when you're in one

[@crystalw6278]

My boyfriend (which I am not for sure has schizophrenia) hears these voices. We've been together for about a little more than a year. I knew about his illness when we started dating, but I thought I would just be strong because I felt so strongly for him. I still do.These voices, they always give him these delusions that I'm cheating on him or he'll hear me "cheating" on him or they will say things about me. It gets very hard at times. I've had my pitfalls with angry outbursts trying to convince them they're not real, but I then conducted more research as to how I should react in order to help and it's been helping me... and I don't know if it had anything to do with it but he just started therapy, which is making an improvement.. I'm just worried he will not go deeper into seeing a doctor or something like that. I'm remaining hopeful and strong.

[@luckycharms3667]

My ex is now in A mental facility. We rarely talk because he doesn't want them monitoring calls. Did your partner ever get an evaluation and are you still together?

[@rebeccamendez2691]

hi jacob yes nice to see ur video pop up. i got worried u wdt mk anymore which bummed me out. i rly lv watching ur videos. i hope u nvr stop. im gld u hd some good holidays. im very hpy tht u found ur happiness. that's awesome. :)

[@CindyNyxRavenmoon]

Happy new year Jacob!

[@Geggis]

This gives me hope.

[@beccasabala5970]

I will never be able to fully understand what my boyfriend is going through with his schizophrenia. our relationship is in limbo atm and I want him to be able to open to me and I know that will be hard. thank you for this video I've been going through some hard times with my bf and I started to cry while you were talking about relationships and how hard they can be. And I'm willing to fight to keep what we have. Even if he was too scared to tell me he had schizophrenia

[@saraaadem99]

Becca Sabala I am going thru the exact same thing, I love my boyfriend over everything, we had a long distance relationship for 1 year, our parents were agains our relationship... but still we fighted every battle, now 7 days ago he got diagnosed with schizophrenia and I keept fighting for him, today he didn’t even have 1 halluzination (maybe he is hiding it from me). I would be sooo glad if you would tell me how the symptoms developed after 1 month and if it gets worser or better and give me some advice. 💞

[@carolm7037]

Happy New Year to you both

[@prkally]

encouraging...thank you

[@ButterflyFM2]

I have had 2 relationships and they both also suffered from schizophrenia like me. I met them in the psych unit.

[@SashaStreams]

'Someone who understands you, if they don't understand you it's not gona work out.' 'There's always that one person for you.' Simple advice and reassurance at at time when it's difficult to find any hope. Thank you.

[@Hardennn]

welcome back!

[@sarahbucket8037]

GREAT advice

[@butterflyofdespair2973]

I'm going to try my best! Thanks for the motivation!...... Even though I don't have schizophrenia....

[@khalidpictures186]

It is my request to the all fans and lovers of Mr. Jacob that please wish me and my family(my wife and two daughters and my parents} that May God bless us with health and better days. I believe we r all connected and can bring good to each others life.

[@whangydoodle]

My psychologist wants me to start meeting people. I do want a relationship, I do but I don't know how. And how do I explain my symptoms and scars? And that I'm tired. I'm on 700mg seroquel. Your videos help. Thank you.

[@YIN0920]

Hey ill accept you :) no matter what illness you have. Ill be here for you 😁

[@thejellyjiggler4148]

you've got the softest looking hair I've ever seen

[@vampbabyface7374]

It would mean a lot to me if you could make a video on this topic. People with mental illnesses are more prone to incontinence because of emotional distress and also nerve damage from high doses of powerful psychotropic drugs and I'm going through this I'm not having bowel problems but my bladder is horrible I have over flow incontinence and spasms mental illnesses and incontinence are both such stigmatized health problems I feel like you can help by making a video I hope you read my comment.

[@Brutis1996]

You could set up a patreon!

[@venicemartin1]

I feel for you man, hopefully you will overcome your fears, keep working on yourself your a really good person, she's with you now and don't worry about the future focus on the moment good luck mate👍😀

[@jaishonpalmer9300]

Hi I’m married to schizophrenic and it wasn’t easy for me in the beginning but we try to make it work because I didn’t understand the Illness and what it comes with but I’m thankful find my spouse was when things are good everything what I love

[@curtisrsps7426]

hello meybe people on here will give me advice. i have schizophrenia i hear stuff not holusinating and i have no idea how to explain to people it i hear stuff and people dont get they say ye i hear something too but its so hard to explain the stuff that i hear and nobody understands what i mean by hearing stuff like people talking telling me to go or stop just random stuff. sorry for not clear message its hard ty for any advice. if you have came across same problem,how u dealt with it?

[@hannahhoule8204]

I'm in the same boat with my current boyfriend.... it seriously feels like I found my soulmate.... having the same illness as your partner is new to me.... it's amazing yet... yeah idk I love it though..

[@rachelfoley7168]

My fiancé doesnt have schizophrenia and I do. He lives with me. I dont have trust issues with him at all. I know he loves me. He does motivate me. I was 173 pounds and we went to the gym and now I am 143 pounds. My fiancé makes me want to have goals and understands what I go through. He has bad anxiety issues. I think any relationship can work whether or not one has mental illness and the other doesnt. Right now we are working on getting jobs. We have a happy life.

[@tink040370]

So glad you had fun with your girlfriend and her parents. You two are the cutest couple. You're lucky you found each other. Does she get paranoid about the relationship too? I hope it goes away for you. Jealousy is such a waste of time. Your just afraid of abandonment. But she's a straight shooter, she won't hurt you.

[@n.c.6211]

What about BPD and schizophrenia? Do you think it would work out?

[@user-ni9qk3vn4y]

Well, i'm healthy and in a relationship with a schizophrenic person. I had toxic parent and sometimes become narcisistic, but i controll it. I olso have paranoid way of thinking about the relation which is hard for him i gues, but he keeps tellibg me that soon we'll trust eachother more. I don't know what to do if i'm the one who writes much and he doesn't write at all becouse he thinks "he's boring", although i tell him that all of his soul is wonderfull and wide. He gave me a very big amount of warmth like nobody before. I have a very big fear that he'll leave me sometimes, like in love, i also increase my love to hate(this is common). Can you please answer me what is the problem when he is silent, but looks at my conversation or at me all the time, watching me speak, when i stop speaking he still prefers to keep the peace. I just dont know what he's thinking. Thats sad, i feel rejected. I feel he loves me less and less.

[@eaglestomach9011]

Hey I just wanted to let you know about an upcoming show that I think will be worth a watch. It's called Legion. It's takes place in the Fox Xmen Universe. The main character is a mutant with Schizophrenia. Looks interesting!

[@anotherks7297]

I wish that I was able to take away Schizophrenia from people and just take the disease for myself.

[@troyesivanstan2525]

AnotherKS me too! but not for myself

[@ScapegoatMcgee]

Your videos are like a calm oasis inside of a shit storm of over the top media and egocentric view whores. Talking to my therapist has helped me over come a lot of my paranoid delusions and finding the root cause allows yourself to gain much needed insight to help jump start the healing process in my experience, but do whatever works for you man! Here is some words for thought I cooked up, have a good day! We learn to lock ourselves inside of a cage of emotions shrouded in darkness and deceit, believing the lies we tell ourselves and others convincing the world we are the illusion we project. Desperately searching for a scapegoat to relinquish the responsibility of our own actions, eluding the punishment of shame and regret that should invoke the desire for change. Docile and debilitated we give into the control of our impulses, shaped and molded by our environment and society. We deny the truth to sustain our current mentality of evading feelings that hurt, in order to protect our fictitious egos that serve no real purpose.

[@rarecockneyguvnor4945]

Hello your such a lovely person you are I wish and pray to god you get well you know something I had a Psychiatrist he told me that he wanted me to suffer and that he didn't care about me. I was so desperate for some one to care about my mental illness unfortunately I saw a evil Psychiatrist who had no human feeling for somebody with mental illness I hope so much you get well Godbless you my friend

[@Zorkmid123]

Have you ever achieved remission for your schizophrenia? Like a time when you did not experience any hallucinations or delusions at all? How long did that last?

[@Search4truth488]

Do you ever go on the schizophrenia subreddit?

[@halfnhalfwithsage3416]

I used to take seroquel. I hated that stuff.

[@sarahbucket8037]

it made me gain weight 😡

[@missmadnesswavelength8163]

great advice for delusions about cheating thank you so much

[@sarahbucket8037]

lol this is me hahaha

[@peryngveohlin4246]

My uncle is schizophrenic and I like him. ❤️

[@saucy1233]

Were you ever in denial of this disease when you first found out, my son is and I'm afraid he will never get the insight, he is 23 yrs old and has been recently diagnosed 6 months ago , I'm very sad about this.

[@taylawhitehead3690]

How is he doing now?

[@Malik_Rashad]

I was always paranoid my girl was cheating. Ending in our break up. Fucking Schizophrenia

[@conycortescony2823]

can a man with schizophrenia live a normal relationship?? I just broke up with my boyfriend. he is extremely paranoid, he thinks I am cheating all the time, he is also very codependent. I love him dearly but I couldn't take it anymore. he calls me names and barely takes responsibility for his bad words towards me. he wants me to call him on a schedule and if I am late or early by few minutes he accuses me of been with another man. please help, I feel like he is unable to love. he says I am not good anough for him yet still holding on me. I know he is schizophrenic because he told me he was diagnosed he also said he fake it to play the system.. but I don't think he played the system I do believe he has this condition. he also refuses to use his internet wifi thinking his roommates are going to get in his accounts. I love this guy he is a great man but this thing is killing him

[@conycortescony2823]

on top of that he also accused me to be schizophrenic

[@edwardglubin4354]

Do u have a gaming computer

[@ilovetech4594]

Tanner Peek he has a Alienware we were talking about it on a his live stream on Instagram

[@caitlinsalyers1017]

Opposites similarities......the end

[@caitlinsalyers1017]

Well that doesn't happen so no wonder......no one has this condition the end..................that should answer everything else there is................

[@curtisbutton]

Why's your smoke all colorful like my????

[@curtisbutton]

Maybe its the Common Godhead you got, like why yours eyes are inside of your head? maybe its for the people that ask about it.

[@stephen9463]

Were did he meet his girlfriend?

[@rachelsmith5622]

Good question!

[@jx14aby]

I'm glad your relationship with your girlfriend is going so well. I wish you luck. It can be done if you both are committed and treat each other with dignity and respect. You realize that your intimate relationship with your girlfriend is different if you are circumcised. It's one of the consequences of circumcision that the function of the penis is altered when the foreskin is removed. There are many unforeseen consequences of circumcising a penis. Which is why I keep asking you: Are you circumcised?

[@jx14aby]

Did you watch his video? Did you hear him discussing his experience with paranoia? Where do you think his paranoia came from? You think something might have happened to him that caused him to fear others? Maybe it was that day when he was just born and he was strapped down flat on his back and his penis was sliced apart while he screamed in horror. What do you think, Sarah? Would that make you live in fear?

[@Ihaveschizophrenia1]

I really like your persistence.

[@jx14aby]

This is my mission in life.

[@jerseysilva2036]

What the fuck my nigga

[@sarahbucket8037]

Jersey Silva 😂

[@peterleash3998]

you kinda don´t have kinda nothing to say...

[@redsonja2291]

I'm bipolar and it would not be a good idea for me to have a bf who's bipolar. Two wrongs don't make a right. But I don't think I'll ever have a relationship anyway, it's too stressfull.

[@bellella_6926]

I feel that. Relationships aren't for me, personally.

[@Josh-og9sv]

Are you S.T.A.L.E. ?

[@bestnocture]

Grow up and solve your own problems