Self-Love: Partially Right, Dangerously Wrong.

[@FarAwayDistance]

"Have you not known? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable. He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength. Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:28-31 ESV

[@thomaspayne7617]

Have you ever had your views challenged? It may be healthy to go on Pinecreek, Holy Koolaid (Thomas Westbrook), Cosmic Skeptic (Alex O'Connor), MythVision (Derek Lambert and Dr. Robert M Price), Dogma Debate (David Smalley), etc to see if your views make sense? Have you ever read a book that challenges the validity of the Bible? If you have not then how do you know if it's really true? Do you find it strange that the same rationale you use to claim the bible is true is also used by all other religions (personal experience, faith, my holy book tells me so)?

[@AdrianDanielGuard]

@@thomaspayne7617 “Live a good life. If there are gods and they are just, then they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them." - Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor

[@fosgnosis6336]

@@AdrianDanielGuard Romans 3:10-12 :)

[@AdrianDanielGuard]

@@fosgnosis6336 This Bible verse has nothing to do with the quote from above, as the quote above does not mean turning away from God. „Good life” means a virtuous life, not a life full of pleasures.

[@fosgnosis6336]

@@AdrianDanielGuard okay, Romans 3:23 and Mark 10:18 then

[@LaCréé.e]

Correct. It's not "we're broken because we don't love ourselves". It's "we don't love ourselves because we're broken". The only way to restore our brokenness and in the process our godly relationship with ourselves is Jesus Christ.

[@calah5017]

That’s a great way of looking at it

[@emilygrace5579]

I love that you stand firm in Scripture without sugar coating the gospel: it’s so easy to give in to what culture says is good and true and beautiful, but we need to be confident in what is true based on the Lord

[@abby31415]

Hi friend

[@emilygrace5579]

@@abby31415 lolllll heyyyy

[@sally-kella]

Not I but Christ. For me to live is Christ and to die is gain. Lord remind me to die to self each and everyday. I totally 💯 concur to this message!

[@nothandotshuma]

Oh my days! I was just talking about this with someone on my IG. I’m looking forward to hearing your views😊🙏🏾 addition: I completely agree with your views! Self love in this modern world is all about pleasing ourselves and that’s in great conflict with being a true Christian. Biblical self love is about caring for ourselves, caring about the bodies that’s the Holy Spirit dwells in. What we drink, eat, what we feed ourselves spiritually and etc. Those things are the result of good and Biblically inspired self love..

[@SimplyLivingInFaith]

YESS

[@robh509]

Awwh.. congratulations! What a lucky and blessed guy!

[@lelonene95]

Congratulations on your engagement!!!! 😍❤️ It's amazing to see how much you've grown over the years. You're wise and that's because you are connected to the true Vine who is Christ. Love you sister in Christ.

[@EricSmyth4Christ]

Self-love is terrible, and I have had this on my mind for a very long time and often tell my Dad about how much I hate the self-love movement of this fallen world. Self-love is almost always demonic, especially in the areas of self-confidence and self-empowerment. Sister in Christ, I mean this with all my heart, I thought this was one of the best videos I have seen this year

[@sofiabravo1994]

Ugly people can be beautiful too it’s from our heart!

[@EricSmyth4Christ]

@@sofiabravo1994 hahaha okay true

[@ShepherdMinistry]

Self love is not biblical yes, however we already love ourselves that is the problem

[@EricLovesCHRIST]

@@sofiabravo1994people are all hot 🥵 now

[@yakovmatityahu]

Jesus is lord.... greetings from India 🇮🇳✝️

[@edselyong7609]

Having an almost empty bottle beside myself while I watch this, God gave me an illustration differentiating between self-love and self-denial: Self-love = Everyone is trying to keep their own bottles full, but no one is going to the faucet. Everyone is therefore competing with each other, and even if they come to a compromise and try to distribute the water evenly, nobody is full. Self-denial = Where one bottle, the Christian, keeps pouring out for the others. Of course the bottle will soon run empty, but God obviously won't leave it like that. In fact, God's pouring grace is so infinitely abundant, that it's like a faucet with unlimited supply of water gushing and overfilling said bottle, that the person holding it is shouting for someone to bring the other bottles because water is just spilling everywhere! In other words, God is no mere curious spectator, calling over the angels and pointing, "Hey, look at that guy! See how long will he last as he denies himself!" That would have been a salvation based on our works. No, for what He commanded us to do, He will provide abundantly. I think Malachi 3:10 shares a similar idea to this, in the context of tithing. Also, Matthew 6:33. Let me know your thoughts.

[@EmilyClaireDaly]

100% agree Becca!!! The minute I chose to deny myself is when I found true love in every form.

[@jordanvogt1213]

Becca, I honour the gift of teaching that you have. You explain things so clearly and so well. Your points are awesome and fascinating!! Thank you for being so true to the scriptures!

[@Animebrity.]

It was so different turn around with me. I was very selfless to the extreme, bur God told me, "i know you love others, but you need to love yourself too."

[@jupiter8037]

Thank you so much for this video! I'm so thankful God teached me this because for a while I believed that all self love was sinful and neglected rest and my relationship with God took a big toll. I agree on all the points you made about self love, and how we all naturally love ourselves because of our flesh, and while it isn't inherently wrong, it can cause us to become selfish and sinful which contradicts what God wants of us. I also struggled with legalism and still do a bit and I'd be so happy if you could maybe do a short video on that because it would help so many Christians and clear up so much confusion.

[@kiannabrunette2580]

Becca!! This is absolutely amazing. Thank you so so much for spreading the word! A year ago I found your channel through your lukewarm Christianity video. This really opened my eyes and allowed me to let the Holy Spirit in. Thank you so much for being such an amazing vessel for the Holy Spirit!!

[@kstevens0915]

Wow you did an amazing job making such a complicated topic so simple, yet powerful! You are definitely an anointed speaker!

[@valerielinares2068]

Your perspective here is interesting. From this perspective, it sort of can be taken to mean that while self-care is a good thing, it only goes so far. Since our brokenness is a deep-seeded soul-issue - at best, self-care can only address the symptoms of our brokenness, but not actually fix it. For instance, if our home is dirty and stinky, we can buy all the Febreze we want to make it smell good, but that only addresses a symptom. The issue won't go away unless we actually take the time to clean our house. Until then, if we only spray Febreze everyday, we'll just have a dirty house that smells good.

[@CateOtanes]

Oh..... Oh.... Congratulations

[@humanhearrt]

Omg I love the ways you explain things in your videos!! You are so gentle yet so firm with your point, I always appreciate that (:

[@julianaalvarenga3057]

Congratulations on your engagement!!!!

[@michellec3871]

Thank you so much for this video--it's really great! I love that you distinguished simply getting rest/self care from self love. When I tell people self love is dangerous, they get upset because they think I believe you shouldn't take care of yourself. This is a great point that I can bring up now!

[@saramartinez1112]

Congrats on your engagement Becca!

[@xsamix]

omgomg congratulations on your engagement!!! i'm so excited for this part of your life!!

[@lesedigololo7485]

I agree with you. Also realized I that when you let God's love into your heart you end up loving yourself because you finally see yourself the way God sees you.

[@lesedigololo7485]

When I mean loving yourself I don't mean like self love but rather that I stop criticizing myself and start believing that I'm fearfully and wonderfully made

[@jesussavedme6260]

Jesus loves y’all so much, turn to Him, He hears you and loves you so much you are not a mistake! Jesus is coming back soon💕

[@melissacalderon1515]

Congrats girl!!! I’m so happy for you! Have a blessed marriage!! 💞☺️

[@kennethcava4488]

I wish you all the success and happiness in the world, Becca! You deserve it!

[@hannahg4929]

This video got me fired up saying Amen and Hallelujah sooooo much! Yes Becca yes! You always put out what I needed to hear and didn't even know that I needed it until I click on your videos!

[@denisesuarez7241]

Congratulations I'm truly happy for you.

[@moeshataylor3387]

You are an awesome teacher who I always see The Holy Spirit flows through.Tgays why I live to watch your videos.

[@kackareznickova5431]

Because I am so early, I just wanted to say that you are such an inspiration to me! You helped me with your video abnout break ups :D I started my to preach on tiktok (my country is very atheist so its fun) and I really aspire to be lik you (ofc like jesus but also like you i hope you get it lol) Because you explain everything so well and I agree with every word...So thank you, be blessed

[@gerarddlima]

Which country are you from?

[@bethanydusciuc2148]

Congrats!! Yes please share your story 🥰

[@deb5787]

I love your videos! You give huge encouragement

[@Meredithgraces]

Congratulations on your engagement!! Excited for you in this next chapter :)

[@nessabane268]

Late congrats!! May God bless you and strengthen your relationship with Brady and most importantly with god:)

[@manuela2618]

It's incredible that I was discussing this subject yesterday and today this video was out

[@faithcouper]

Great video! I’m new to ur channel & I really like ur content. Very biblically sound and makes sense. I battled with the “just love yourself” idea & I can say it never worked or lasted. I’ve always had the notion that I don’t have to love myself in order to love others even though I don’t recall anyone ever saying that to me. It’s just something built-in. I was always a little sceptical of the world telling me that I have to love myself or I couldn’t truest love others. Now I know that I can love others because He first loved me. His love gives me the power and strength to pay His love forward. I am free from the notion of self-love, self-worth, self-anything because He is greater. 🙌🏼😇 For that I am blessed, as are you. 💞 ✝️Christ is our identity not ‘the Self’

[@Godismybanner6877]

Awesome! Congrats! Quickly! Jesus is at the door! The Kingdom is at hand! We are in the days of Noah and it’s starting to rain! The ark doors are CLOSING! Sharing the GOSPEL TRUTH 💕

[@ShepherdMinistry]

It’s important you learn biblical love then. Self love is not biblical, now one verse commands to love ourselves. We already love ourselves which leads to our sinful ways.

[@Godismybanner6877]

@@ShepherdMinistry You interpreted my warning of the times we are in as self-love?

[@ShepherdMinistry]

@@Godismybanner6877 The video was based on self love

[@nicksterlouw8647]

This is an extremely powerful message. I've been a fan of your ministry for 5 years and has helped me grow a lot in my walk with God. Many blessing Becca and congratulations on your engagement 😊😊

[@Nicolejduval]

You look beautiful Becca❤️ congrats on your engagement

[@alwaysyoutome19]

Thank you for this video, Becca! It’s about time to stop justifying self love that’s been replayed over and over in pop culture.

[@Derriann9705]

Congrats on your engagement! Thank you for this beautiful and edifying message. Your videos are always a blessing. God bless! ❤️

[@aishakimnakawoya8447]

Woow congratulations dia .I bless the Lord for your joy

[@carychiasson9834]

Congratulations on your engagement

[@Alexandra-bl3db]

Congratulations on your engagement! How exciting 💕

[@rubiellaolivas3749]

Congrats on your engagement. Your videos always convict my heart😂 I always watch till the end forcing myself to hear the truth that we desperately need to hear.

[@emilylarimore127]

ahhh congratssss!!! 🥺 I've been watching you for a long time and this makes me sooo happy

[@iStevenMelgar]

Congrats and thanks for the post!

[@SavedSkeptic]

I am really happy for you! He's a lucky guy!

[@daniellekramer93]

Already knew she was engaged because I follow her on Instagram!!! Congrats Becca!!!

[@rosiesanchez8048]

Your hair🥺😍 so beautiful!!

[@becks7794]

Aw congrats girl! Yesss a video on your and Brady's story :) Also this hair...and look....so pretty!

[@katlynnmansfield1464]

Thank you Becca for speaking the truth on your platforms! Your videos have always encouraged me and challenged me especially as a teenage girl with raging hormones lol. Some days feel so miserable and I can only distract myself from the negative feelings for so long, but when I watch your videos I hear the word of God being taught plainly how it is intended, and that brings healing. Thank you for the time you’ve spent diligently studying the word. I’m hopefully nearing engagement with my serious boyfriend and am so excited for you! I’m trying to enjoy this special time and not be so anxious about how I can move faster towards the future. It’s really hard to just be content and to trust God when you’re trying to pursue a godly relationship. It’s a lot harder than people make it seem. Prayers for you and Brady! Love you Becca! 💕

[@saraa4156]

I'm so, so thankful for this video!! the lord is so good 💞💞

[@rockyc7987]

2 Corinthians 3:5 was in a devo I was reading today. And I found it very comforting.

[@danidillaha1535]

Congratulations on your engagement!

[@user-yj5wj1uw6u]

yes, God really opened up my eyes through this! thank u :))

[@mercysobkoviak1073]

Congratulations Becca!! I'm so happy for you. 😊 God bless you and Brady. ❤

[@shannonwilliams148]

Such a powerful and needed message! Thank you, B!!!!

[@Ultron2k15]

I feel like the thesis here would be something along the lines of: Self love only used as the daily justification and intrinsic self value/motivation is toxic because it perpetuates the idea that your worth is purely based on humanistic elements solely alone as opposed to faith and your relationship with God, yourself, and others. Self love in moderation not used as a justification for holistic care should be complimentary in the sense you might be using tangible goods/services/experiences to enrich yourself but never define yourself let alone the inherent worth/purity of one's self.

[@esperanzagant4979]

You summed that up really nicely thank you

[@ShepherdMinistry]

This is not biblical. No where in the Bible does it command to love yourself.

[@gracehannah7859]

I’ve never clicked a video so fast! thank you for this ❤️ also, congrats on your engagement! praise Jesus 🥰

[@xxTheSkilletFreakxx]

This might be my favorite video that you have made. I struggle with some of these things. Thank you so much💙

[@EricLovesCHRIST]

It’s the best

[@MM-wr8uv]

How did you learn so much theology? Did you ever study like Christian studies in college or anything or just your own personal study? I’m hungry to be like that and know and learn and grow more in the knowledge/understanding of scripture and God and my relationship with Him.

[@kodiskodis706]

Congratulations!! God is good.

[@real_emeldah]

Congratulations my dear. Alilililililili (that's how we ululate in my country). I'm happy for you darling.

[@Lynnsiemaiah]

This is SO GOOD! Love it! Love you! ❤️❤️ thank you for making this! Amazing what God can do!

[@nicoleyoshihara4011]

Awww Congratulations on your engagement!!!🥳❤🙏 May God bless your marriage 🤗❤❤❤

[@Rose-cx9iz]

Great Video and congratulations on your engagement

[@jgil1966]

I am SO happy for you!

[@faveychi]

Yipppeeee Am so happy for you ❤️ Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@abbygigi8345]

This is really late but congrats on your engagement!!! I love your channel so much, you always give me so much wisdom! 💗✝️🤗🌅🌙

[@shawngallagher8764]

I haven’t watched you vids in a long time and it is so amazing how the one I come back to has one of my favorite versus, about Gods thoughts outnumbering the sand.

[@dulcejocelyn7102]

SOME TRUTHH✨✨I’m thankful for God for your humble heart

[@kaitlyn6141]

Amen girl! Every time I watch one of your videos you remind me of what I need to work on. I love seeing these because watching you be bold in your faith makes me want to be bold in mine!!! Keep up the good work and congratulations on getting engaged 😆

[@wingslikeeagles9851]

Amen! 🙌 Jesus loves us more than we could ever love ourselves, so we should deny ourselves and take up our cross and follow Him. Also, congrats on getting engaged!!

[@avahiggins3635]

I'm so happy that you got engaged!!! Congratulations!!!! This is a great video

[@brusantiagob]

Congratulations! God bless you guys

[@abbiemarie9544]

Much needed video thank you so much

[@wisegirledits9121]

Congrats on your engagement!!!!

[@yxjayra_8699]

Wooow this is so eye-opening thank you so much for the truth!

[@elenafeliciano1853]

GOD BLESS

[@shannonbusenitz]

Congrats on your engagement!!🎉 also, your hairstyle is beautiful!

[@KarenEstfny]

Congratulations!!! 🎊🎉

[@kurtbradwill]

"But God..." are the two most important words in thr history of the universe.

[@effie358]

Congratulations!!

[@lifelover03]

Congrats Becca!!!

[@kenadeeedelman4639]

yesss! Allie’s book is soo good!

[@jonesasher9240]

This 20min god thought me some priorities that I should keep.. l acknowledge myself to God!! It's kind remains a verse JOHN 3:29-31 ..Thanks for sharing Becca!!

[@robinwessel7599]

THANK YOU for speaking the truth through the foundational source of Scripture with love and not legalism!

[@monicasyoutubechannel3225]

10:59 i totally agree!!

[@saramartinez1112]

I love your dress!

[@capucaoprincessedeboraha.1315]

thank you for this. ❤

[@karathomas1997]

I like the things that you said

[@jenhof1197]

Congrats! I’ve missed your videos. But enjoy your engagement. No pressure, we all can only do so much before we are burning the stick at both ends...

[@jenhof1197]

And I needed to hear this. Thank you so much. God bless

[@lovingisabel2078]

Congratulations, God bless you

[@EricLovesCHRIST]

God is GOOD

[@May52525]

I am extremely depressed. My looks and personality are constantly causing me sadness. I detest myself. I go to church, do extra group Bible studies, teach Bible class, serve, and do all the Christian things. I pray, fast, repeat, and spend as much time as possible with God in the scripture (outside of church services) as I possibly can but I just... I'm conflicted. You, my parents, friends, and spiritual leaders have literally NO idea how conflicting and contradicting this makes someone with a depressed mind feel. No idea. All I can ask for is prayers.

[@jennihernandez7121]

Congratulations on your engagement🤗🙋

[@deb5787]

I agree 100% with this!

[@brandonarce67]

I couldn't agree more! God bless!