Sex, Your Husband, And You | Biblical Christian Homemaking

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

Hi! Here is the link to the book 🔗 The Power of A Praying Wife a.co/d/c6Tzcpj

[@octaviawilliams3159]

@@ahomemakersnotebook Thank you!

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@octaviawilliams3159 🤍

[@IamBlessed-xb9cj]

Thank you for uploading. Glad I found your channel. New subscriber❤

[@ravimahli2627]

Tell the truth about sex

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@IamBlessed-xb9cj thank you for being here 🤍

[@AxylusMaximus]

Why did I start weeping when she prayed to not use sex as a weapon against her husband?? I'm not even married or had sex? As a man I've grown up with the whole world using sex against me. Ads, marketing, manipulation, shows movies, games, all day everyday.. it just hit me all at once hearing a godly woman just even say those words healed something in me and made me feel a little safer for when I do get married. Godly Women! You are SO important! Do not under value yourself!

[@flusterbunny_scribbles]

Marriage does not fix a porn addiction. No one, not even the best kindest most Godly wife, can save you from porn. It is up to each man to get his act together and decide what is important to him. How will you survive when your wife had her first child? It takes at least 6 weeks to physically recover from labour. How is a man who thinks his wife must perform to keep him from porn, ever going to make it through that recovery period? What about when she is ill? We women have all the guilt heaped upon us when our husbands cannot control their lust and treat sex like something that controls him instead of something he has to gain control over.

[@adenise__122]

men, the eternal victims of everyone and everything. almost as if growing up and taking responsibility is not an option for yall

[@joelmiller6678]

God hears you brother and will bless you as you follow Him. and that includes giving you a Godly wife. ✝️

[@joelmiller6678]

​@adenise__122 please be kind. as men sexuality affects us differently. there is nothing wrong with what he said.

[@ichernichenko]

​@adenise__122 so instead of being happy someone received healing you start attacking someone who didn't even say anything wrong or offensive?

[@lesliemckinley9615]

Good advice. Thank you! I've been married 27 years. And with 8 children, it was a challenge to carve out time for intimacy. But it was worth it!! Please remember, ladies, God created the gift of sex for us as well as our husbands. One thing that my husband has shared, is that as a man ages, sex becomes more emotional for the man as well. Again evidence that God has a plan for those aging bodies.😊

[@autumnleaves9680]

Bless your comment ! My husband of 37 yrs just passed away . For couple yrs he seemed to change . He had prostate issues his Dr didn't insist he have enlarged gland removed just increased dosage . He wasn't communicating well but ppl thought it was working late nights & growing old . I'm telling you this bcs your husband sharing it's more emotional now as he ages with you his wife married longer brings me comfort. My husband's cancer diagnoses went to his brain. He lived 2 mons ! Knowing I'll never know bcs of his illness cancer silent for yrs no obvious symptoms hearing your comment touched my heart for me to believe my husband wasn't able share intimacy anymore physically knowing he felt emotional intimacy means alot to me . For he lost ability to talk express his thoughts I hurt . I wanted more than anything for my husband to know before he died that I truly loved him ! Thx for saying :))

[@lesliemckinley9615]

​@@autumnleaves9680 So sorry for your loss. I am thankful that my comment encouraged you. I'll be praying for you.

[@autumnleaves9680]

@@lesliemckinley9615 It shows we never know what our words will have an impact for good or for ill. Your marriage is enduring as our vows were meant to be before God and those witnessing our commitment of love for each other as husband & wife! Bless you I pray too for you that God will cont to keep you healthy & happy!

[@lesliemckinley9615]

@autumnleaves9680 Thank you! Actually, my husband's health is not good. He is seeking disability and I am returning to the workforce. But God is sustaining us. And as you say, we are honoring our vows.

[@judyshepard1425]

Believe me, we’ve been married 53 years. Of course our children are grown up and gone. Our intimacy now is better and stronger than ever. Hang in there honey, it just gets better when you have a relationship with God and each other.

[@patriot1303]

When you said “have perfume you wear only for these times alone with him” it brought tears thinking of how a wife could love her husband so deeply that she had things like perfume that she only wore for him. God is in your marriage I see that and although it was different in mine which is now over I see how that kind of love could’ve made it last - a little thing for sure but in marriage I think the little things are important and very much needed - God bless you and your husband ❤

[@Andrea-cc2bs]

I just finished reading this book for the 2nd time in my marriage. We've been married 25 years, and I feel like it is always good to be praying over your marriage! ❤

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

Amen! Prayer is so powerful 🤍

[@user-zp6rr1uf2u]

Thank you for this video this is an important issue in marriage. I love the beginning statement of the chapter of the book that she read which stated, “ For a wife sex comes out of affection. She doesn’t want to be affectionate with a man who makes her feel angry, hurt, lonely, disappointed, overworked, unsupported, uncared for, or abandoned.” In other words love your wife like Christ loved the church and GAVE himself up for her. (Ephesians 5:25). To do that you have to take the time to understand what makes your wife feel loved and every woman is different.

[@karengatlin9835]

The power of a praying wife book is so good!

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

It is!

[@helenculling9130]

I'm 3 months married and love this wisdom and the prayers. There's certainly a lot to learn in marriage but the journey is so worth it and exciting.

[@Walkers-b1p]

Same. I am fighting the feeling of disinterest so he can stay fulfilled. I have to be praying to prepare but the additional advice in this chapter was really helpful

[@BenParkertech]

As someone on the other side of this who have had discussions with other men. 1. Your husband wants you to be eager and pleased and for you to want to be with him. That intimacy is more important than the physical act. 2. Speak clearly and explicitly about what it will take to get there for yourself not just for him. He wants sex/intimacy to be for you too. If you don't know what that is make time to figure it out with yourself, even if that means you need him to take 10 minutes of covering kids to give you peace to figure that out. 3. For most men i have talked too, sex is more about the energy and excitement. Determine what you are ok with. For example, telling him it is late at night and you don't want to have intercourse right now lets plan on X night and you will be mentally prepared but tonight you are willing to lay naked with him and kiss him and hold him/be held but it needs to stop there to look forward to anticipating x date. Your husband doesn't want sex to be duty sex and to be an item on your list. That hurts both of you. Instead communicate clearly and without blame about what you need for it to be about both of you. Because while it is not a need the lack of interest and desire can and will kill a marriage, as will have duty sex over years and years and shoving those feelings down or creating walls to any of that intimacy. I say this because far too many Christian womaen hear this message it is your duty so just do it and that message causes unbelievable pain when carried through maturity as well as the hardening of the heart and resentment and potentially even the belief there was trauma as 20 years down the road your mind tells you your husband should have known it was only duty sex you provided and agreed to and you see him as less than for being willing to accept it which causes lots and lots of pain.

[@christina8330]

Dear women, please don't put pressure on you to have sex with your husband, if you don't feel comfortable. A man has to learn to love his wife well, so that she WANTS to have sex with him. If that's not the case, sex will never be what it was designed from God to be. God would never want women to just endure it!

[@nathanenns7186]

@@christina8330a lot of women think they’re “enduring it” when he hasn’t got her in the mood ‘enough’ yet, or the kids were really loud today, or she’s too tired tonight, or there’s a long day tomorrow, or her feet are sore, or her back had an ache and she had to take Tylenol, or she woke up at 3am, or the toddler didn’t have a nap today so she didn’t have a nap today, or you didn’t text her “I love you” after you left home for work, or you forgot to take the garbage to the road last week and she’s still thinking about it, or innumerable other things that make it simply impossible and insufferable to gratify you with (gasp) sex. You should know better by now the conditions have to be right, you don’t simply deserve love because you’re a married man you silly goose!

[@lijanaaa]

spot on.

[@claudetherabbit]

This is so true and important to understand. I’ve been slowly learning these things during my marriage, especially during seasons of breastfeeding babies, when the hormones involved really stifle my desire for my husband, unfortunately. It’s taken lots of careful communication, but I have discovered just how much my lack of interest & enthusiasm will crush my husband’s spirit. Planning a night to have sex really helps because I can mentally prepare, and then we both look forward to it.

[@danielmackey6594]

While you are on the right track, and have a much better perspective than that book... It shouldn't be up to HER to figure out what she needs, that's for you to figure out! Put HER pleasure above your own, and make sure she is satisfied. If she has good sex, you will too. The opposite is not normally true. When it's not good for her, it becomes duty sex. If it is good for her, it will likely not be seen as duty sex, because, you know, she'll want it!

[@ThunderChaserWX]

I am a husband of nearly 19 years and this has been a major struggle throughout the entirety of our marriage. I stumbled upon this video by happenstance and of course the title caught my attention, I did really enjoy your style of video and I'm hoping that you choose to read other chapters in this book as it is very good information and very validating for a struggling husband. I pray that the Lord will do a work in my marriage to not only heal this part of our marriage but the entirety of our marriage.

[@mattportnoyTLV]

I hope it works for you. I had the exact same problem in my marriage. I put up with it for several years then decided to focus on fixing the problem. I prayed and fasted, and tried communicating the issue with my wife. It didn’t work. She was just too stubborn and prideful to change. I don’t know how else to put it. In the end I got slapped with a ‘narcissistic abuser’ label, and she cut me off completely. I stuck around for awhile hoping something would shift, but it never did.

[@nanit06]

I feel that it is God's grace that my husband has been patient to this point (married 7+ yrs) where I believe that I'm finally beginning to understand this need and how to really fulfill it. Not that I didn't want to fulfill it before, but for some reason, I just didn't understand the importance of it eventhough he has been communicating that to me since our 1st year of marriage🫥 I guess we are just wired so differently. Goodwilling, I'd like to now help other wives really understand the huge positive impact they can have on their husbands and marriage if they would put more effort in this area.

[@americansweetheart5597]

Be VERY careful not to make marriage an idol. I did this and it was a scary time. Love the LORD your God with all your mind soul and strength. Seek ye FIRST the the kingdom of God, and all these things will be added to you. You will not be married in heaven. Make heaven your goal. Walking hand in hand with your sweetheart into kingdom. Don't spend your whole life on this. Please put God first and FAR above any other.

[@kaitjane3787]

Doesn't mean ignore your spouse.

[@rebekahs9701]

Don't make your "conscience" an idol either. Especially women looking down at men because they consider themselves more spiritual. Female moral superiority supposedly backed by God (but not actually) has done quite a bit of damage to my generation. It's the reason evangelical churches are emptying out.

[@Nelli77210]

@@kaitjane3787 True

[@omiz4930]

Marriage matters to God,in Genesis, it's the first thing he made,Jesus's first miracle was at a wedding, and revelation reveals the wedding supper... Our view of marriage has to change,we need to look at each other through the eyes of God...marriage is the only thing on earth that depicts christ and the church!!! No wonder even submission is in reverence to God... Marriage is the most powerful tool to bring Gods kingdom down... Look for ways you and your spouse can serve God together... May God heal the broken marriages represented here and expose the enemies deception in the name of Jesus Christ...

[@omiz4930]

And everything that brings fear has not been perfected in the love of God....God created marriage and sex but Satan has perverted it to the extent that it seems unholy....Marriage is a platform to serve God

[@steveng5107]

You should DEFINITELY continue to make videos like that. I am a husband and I really wish my wife could come across this book somehow because if it comes from me it might not be taken well. Wives NEED to hear messages like this one! God bless you!

[@janlatben4012]

My mother gave this book to me when I got married 21 years ago. I’ve read it twice over the years and I’ve often incorporated the prayers into my days from time to time.

[@Ispysomethingblue]

Sex is the expression of the love you both have for one another. It's something that should come naturally because of the love in each other's hearts. When you love someone it's not seen as a duty, you just want to express that love. The reason why people have some many issues when it comes to this is because of people viewing sex as something that's sinful, carnal, dirty, and using their partner to fulfill selfish needs when in reality sex is spiritual, loving, trusting, and giving when you have the love of God in your heart. It's that simple...

[@tammymoore859]

Amen!! When someone uses it to just get a release, it’s so destructive 😢

[@MaEtVaBien]

Amen !

[@SleepyFox4000]

I agree. I had SA in my past and am a single mom now. I was content being celibate the rest of my life just from the trauma from that. Dating terrified me when men would basically expect to use your body in that way in marriage. Just even the terminology used in this video makes it feel gross. When my now fiance asked for exclusivity, I told him I wasn't sure I could perform in that way, and that he was better off looking for another girl. I told him about the SA. At that point, we had prayed together a few times, and I trusted him with my heart. He told me at least let me protect you and your son, and if we don't do that it will be ok. The relief I felt was indescribable. As our relationship grew, we began praying together daily. Now it is hard to resist getting cuddly afterwards. 5 months to go to the wedding and I'm actually looking forward to that with him. With any other man, it would be a torture. You shouldn't need special clothes or anything else to excite your partner. To my fiance and I, the possibility of children and our hearts laid bare to each other is all it takes.

[@272attwell]

Sex is for reproducing. The best place for humans to do that is inside of marriage. Even if you are married…if you don’t want to reproduce then don’t have sex. The world has made way too much of sex as something apart from the means of reproduction. The church has largely followed along with this. Life is sacred as too is the action preformed to reproduce.

[@timtrewyn453]

@@272attwell Not after female menopause. Sex is an integral part of the bond of marriage for the entire marriage. Jesus said, "the two shall become one" and "What God has joined together." The Word of the Lord.

[@danieldillu]

Remember you need to be a Christian in order to understand these words, otherwise anyone can misinterpreted them and its core theme. I appreciate your work 👏👏

[@realestaterealness3828]

The way that you still look at your husband after 6yrs of marriage ❤ and the way he greets you is what I wish I still had and it’s only been 4yrs for me😢

[@Youwish34]

6 years pretty short. 20 years is something else tho

[@brendabeans4986]

Keep in mind that marriages are not linear. If you feel like the "spark" has died down, there are ways of rekindling. You just need to be willing to put in the work, and hopefully your husband will start to do the same. ❤️

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@realestaterealness3828 aw 🤍please know this is not how he greets me all the time when he gets home. I urge you to try not to compare your relationship with the brief interaction you witnessed of me and my husband. I would recommend you talk with your husband. Explain to him how it would make you feel if he greeted you differently. Communicate ways you feel loved and ask him what you can do to also help him feel more loved. Great relationships take a lot of communicating together, learning and growing 💜 Praying for you 🩷

[@santinoviajephcott2382]

​@@ahomemakersnotebook I agree with your statement. @realestaterealness Communicating and speak up about how you feel and what you expect from your husband to him can make a such a huge impact. I usually have so much assumptions after assumptions jn my mind when I can't express how I feel about how my husband treat me. And most of the time my assumptions were all wrong. Turned out to be totally different cause from what I thot. And remember! The evil one can and will always try to play trick on you. Bring rings in prayer to God too.

[@alicardon1013]

God can redeem ANY situation! When I got pregnant with our 4th baby, we went a solid year and a half with having sex maybe 5 times during that time. About a year ago, we finally hit our breaking point and had to ask if we were still in this marriage together. It took one conversation to completely change the trajectory of our marriage! I can now see where I failed as a wife during that time and with God, our marriage has never been better. It starts with you. Pray. Serve your husband. Leave resentment and selfishness aside. God sees you and He knows exactly what your marriage needs. Sorry that was so long! I just wanted to share that there is hope! God sees you!

[@ChucknRachelN]

I have a long term illness. It is like having babies one right after another, I am in pain, always exhausted, and have zero drive. I also have am overactive sense of guilt. This has become The problem. Please pray for me. Thank you for sharing thia lovely word.

[@shelleyroper588]

@@ChucknRachelN I have endometriosis and PCOS and interstitial cystitis. I completely understand! There's absolutely been times where I would have to allow my hubby access and really mentally try to enjoy myself. I also am sore for days afterwards. I take an herbal supplement for pain and it has saved my life! It helps so much. I know it sounds cliche, but a change of mindset really helps me to focus on him and the pleasure he and I both need.

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@ChucknRachelN I am so sorry to hear about your pain and illness. My heart breaks for you 💔 i know what it’s like to have an illness for years that is incurable because doctors don’t know what it is or what’s causing the fatigue, pain etc. I spent months crying out to God. Asking why. Praying. Reading his word. Claiming his promises then feeling like nothing was working and he wasn’t going to heal me soon enough. I’ve been through it all. I now am a living testimony that God is the ultimate physician and I am basically healed. I used to not be able to get out of bed until 12 some days because I was in so much pain just to “sit up”. I wouldn’t wish what I went through on anyone. I know it’s hard. I will keep you in my prayers ❤️ Our God is a God of miracles 🙌🏽 believe it. Claim his healing over your body and life. You will get through this in Jesus name 🙌🏽

[@foundinchrist21]

in Jesus' Mighty Name, AMEN ❣️❤️‍🔥​praying in agreement. You are the Ultimate doctor Lord Jesus-- we believe, help our unbelief ❤️‍🩹 @ahomemakersnotebook

[@louisehogg8472]

@@shelleyroper588 I'm unclear why you would want to participate, if it leaves you sore for days afterwards? Also unclear why your husband would want to inflict such soreness on you, let alone take pleasure himself from doing so? Is it a type of sadomasochism?

[@omiz4930]

Dear Lord I pray for her and marriage..renew her strength and restore her body and mind...I cover her with the blood of Jesus christ Amen

[@krisp5204]

I agree with the 15 minute or however long it takes to feel "relaxed and ready" is so key! I think that should include whatever it takes for you personally to feel relaxed and ready which is so individual. At least for my husband, that seems to be what he wants from me more than being dolled or perfumed up. He just wants a ready and willing and relaxed and happy wife! If it takes dimming the lights to reduce stimulation, getting a hot shower to ease the day's aches and pains, putting on relaxing music (we've even just used nature sounds in the background lol!) Or hey if going all out with prep makes someone relaxed, that's great too! Thanks for these good reminders!

[@KCBCollier]

I can say as a husband that we also don’t want you to feel like getting ready to be with us is a chore to put on your list. We don’t want you to say “Great. Now I have to get cleaned up and put on makeup because he wants my attention.” We honestly just want to help you relax. We’re simple creatures. This activity makes us feel better, and we want you to feel better with us. All we want is a partner who wants to be there with us. Sometimes you demonstrate that by getting dolled up for us. Sometimes, it sounds like “I have 15 minutes of energy left, but they’re all yours. Put me to sleep with a smile on my face.”

[@jenniferbrown483]

Beautiful. It really is so hard not to become complacent. Thank you for your honesty. We have two littles and it's so easy to say, "I'm tired, not tonight." The "15 minute let me take a shower" bit is life changing. In one of my Bible studies a few weeks ago, we touched on this. Thank you for your honesty.

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

Thank you so much! I agree with the shower being a game changer on some days!

[@bonnipeat1351]

I personally thought this was perfect! I needed this reminder that we are not our own. And being in a marriage of 16 years we have come a long way. So I do cherish this courage that it took you to come out here and share with us. It’s important for us to remember we are honoring and serving our Father as we honor and serve our husbands and there is such a unique gift in this particular gift! Thank you!

[@marisoltorres3]

What if your husband is a verbally and in the past physically abusive narcissis? How do you honer and respect that ?

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@bonnipeat1351 thank you so much 🩷 yes, I love that you said that we are honoring and serving our Father as we honor and serve our husbands 🔥🔥🥰

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@marisoltorres3 I would recommend you to get help, and seek wise counsel. The Lord does not want you to be abused. You are his cherished daughter ❤️ I will be praying for you.

[@justme8101]

​@@marisoltorres3you are a daughter of the King, He delights in you. I would have stayed in my abusive marriage honouring my vows continuing to be mistreated, but God made a way for me to leave and live in peace. I now write about my experiences using poetry to help others. I will pray for you 🙏

[@danielmackey6594]

@@marisoltorres3 Sadly... you don't respect that behavior. Abuse is abuse, and I don't think God sees specific abuse as worse than another. I'm not necessarily advocating for divorce, but he needs to change, not you.

[@emilyingridlaura3419]

Wow the Lord is so good! I was just discussing my dating prospects with my family how I strongly believe my sexuality is meant to be a ministry for my husband, it is the one thing I can provide him in abundance for his well-being that I will never share with another person. Just for him. It will be a ministry to my husband, Lord willing if he provides one for me. I have strongly felt that from the Lord the last couple years by his leading through prayer and seeking him in regards to my singleness. Wow! You just hit the nail right on the head!! I don't know other women who follow this, I am so thankful the Lord had led me to this video in particular and now I can subscribe to your channel for this wonderful content that I fully agree with!! Wow just wow!!

[@zencat17]

It's a very important subject, particularly for elders, since perimenopause came to visit and on the edge of menopause, my energy levels and openness/availability wane during the month, other times they are quite high, hormonally women vary tremendously throughout the day and generally a man's levels are pretty static, it's something the biblical man didn't ever write about, and women had to grin and bear it, particularly if there was only stimulation for the male and the woman had to be 'ready' for her partner. Women's bodies are not always available and that's something I only learned after 45. Times change, we become better educated, I pray there are also books men will read too on how to pray for their wives and be the best husband to their partners.

[@JBerry-ec7ck]

Not to be mean, but don't forget the Bible says not to deprive one another as well so you're not tempted to sin, so you have a duty to make sure your husband is taken care of, otherwise you'll just be in one of those sexless marriages and soon become nothing but roommates.

[@billable1861]

I think it might be important to have this conversation with your husband or tell him how to stimulate you so that it is more enjoyable. Have him help you figure out this transition together!

[@shireenaweaver5374]

Love this! Thank you! So helpful ❤

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

Glad it was helpful!

[@tamichildofGod8249]

I am 53 years old postmenopausal married 31 years. This is something I needed! Thank you for sharing it and I've ordered the book! And my morning Bible reading. I actually read this passage yesterday! Perfect timing as always

[@ashleynicole9423]

Wow this was AWESOME! I never heard anything like this from a Christian perspective! Thank you so much ❤❤❤

[@jeffrow182255]

Thank you for this video. Its not just for the wives, but for the husbands as well.

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@jeffrow182255 part 2 I’m working on is going to be even more for husbands also ☺️

[@SPECTREXACTUAL]

Facts

[@ryleeduquette4503]

I'm so glad you posted this even though it was your "usual" type of video. This is the first video of yours that I've come across and I'm so glad I did. I'm recently single, not exactly by choice and I've experienced sexual sins in the past. I'm learning to heal from it so that my next (and hopefully last) relationship will be free from the guilt and shame. I really enjoyed this chapter. It gave me good, biblical, and helpful ideas of what sex God's way really means. I always thought once one was married, this area of life would be easy and impossible to mess up in. I'm glad I know now God still has His good and perfect way in this stage of life too.

[@dyonnamaciel3718]

I needed this so badly! Thank you!

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@dyonnamaciel3718 your most welcome 😊

[@HBW2035]

Thank you dear sister, for posting this message video. Reading the reactions it comes close to people 😅 But this is the word of God. Thank you for your courage to post this. Blessings Rick

[@ThinkTheory]

“Don’t worry about your imperfections, he’s not thinking about them” I wish my wife could see that more often from my perspective. Makes me feel as though I am not helping her see how attractive she is to move.

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

I would voice it to her. From someone who has been there before, it helped for me to stop worrying about certain areas of my body when husband would tell me again and again that he does not care about said area the way I am thinking of it and that I’m beautiful etc. it helps a female to shut out those negative voices ☺️ hope that helps! 🤍

[@manda9908]

Thank you for the recommendation ❤ yes please more ❤

[@Faith4Word]

That book triggered me! Not for those Christian women married to a narcissist. Don’t feel bad if that’s you and this chapter makes you cringe. I raised and homeschooled 8 kids and was married 30 years to an unbelieving and unloving covert narc and was just a body to have sex with. Praise God, truly, not all marriages are like that because that is not normal or healthy and if you are married to such a person, it’s not you. You are probably not a frigid wife. You just are not genuinely loved, and I’m so sorry about that for you, and pray God will restore all the years the locust have eaten and turn your ashes into a beautiful garden. Trust God in everything. 💕 God restored and is restoring me. He has taught me many things about the beauty of sex and now I can listen to this chapter and not feel the guilt and shame of “being a bad wife,” and for that I’m so thankful to God.

[@ibiminaabiye257]

Are you still married to your narc husband?

[@Faith4Word]

@ Are you a pedophile?

[@SuperAshlib]

Thanks for your vulnerability

[@tsmuff]

Thank you for sharing this. I was so triggered I started to cry that if I don't want to give up my body like that anytime he wants it I'm displeasing God and a bad wife. I was going to close it and just felt the same guilt I've felt my whole life that I'm a bad person and displeasing God and everyone else through things I can't help until I read your message. Thank you for being honest enough to share that. It really helped me.

[@SleepyFox4000]

Yea as someone who experienced SA in the past, this terminology definitely triggered me. These were words my narc ex used to use towards me. Such a backwards way to think about it. If you love something, you take care of it. Not the wife needing to take 20 mins to mentally prepare herself for torture. How about the husband taking 20 mins to talk to the wife about what is wrong and why she is so tired, and then doing something to take a load off of her the next day? Crazy concept.

[@sherriholcombe5428]

Such a helpful message. I'm currently dating for marriage and I love hearing God's perspective and will for it. I would like to hear more from that book. Thanks for the encouragement...Love your videos ❤😊

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

Thank you so much! I just released a part 2 video :) hope you find it helpful❤

[@gwen6217]

Love this style of video. Please make more where you share chapters of different books!

[@jackiebunting4000]

This was really good counsel! Asking for 15 minutes is a great tip. I normally need to cool down from overstimulation, so that's a nice way to get time to relax while getting fresh.

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@jackiebunting4000 yes! I agree, some days are really full on and after the kids go down I need a minute before thinking or doing anything else of the sort 😅 so hopping in the shower helps me relax and get fresh like you said 😌

[@daughterofdivine.313]

Thank you for this. I’ll be honest as a wife in waiting this does make me a bit uncomfortable but Gd has chosen creators like you to share insights with us and help us truly understand what’s ahead as we seek the LORD and covenant promises. I appreciate that you’re helping me with the growing pains.. hehe. Shalom

[@gloriaa.2442]

“God's Plan For Your Marriage: An Exploration of Holy Matrimony from Genesis to the Wedding Feast of the Lamb” By Robert Altier A great Christian book for marriage

[@atlaslightwarrior1263]

Excellent learning about how to be a good homemaker as a wife . I’m a single man , 2 daughter . I think I can learn with this teaching . Thx for sharing , nice family . Be blessed in the name of god 🙏🏾

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

thank you!

[@RaydiantStudio]

Yes keep reading this book . Love the calmness in your voice and it’s a great reminder of God’s expectations of a Godly wife. God Help us all Amen

[@Cindhypallares]

Thank you so much for this video! Truly from the bottom of my heart. I have struggled to understand this topic for so many years. After this video you have confirmed what the lord has put in my heart. Thank you!

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@Cindhypallares praise God ! I’m so glad it resonated well with you 🤍

[@OpeyemiFijabi]

Thank you so much for sharing this. I picked up the book a few days ago but I haven’t continued it since then. I’m glad I came across this video and I have subscribed to your channel. Yes, I loved this and would like you to continue this type of videos where you read a chapter in a book that has helped you as a biblical wife/mother.

[@aileenreynolds5604]

Wonderful video! You are so wise for your age. When I was first married, I confess I often pretended to be asleep. I have been married 29 years now and though things have "ebbed and flowed" in this area, I have only just begun to pray seriously about it and that has made the difference. Your reading of this chapter has brought me new clarity, so thank you. Blessings on you and your beautiful family!

[@AnnaDysett]

LOVED this video! I just organically found your page, and after some digging - I realized you were the sweet sister who privately emailed me awhile back. Subscribed! You're doing an amazing job growing your channel! And you inspired me to break out some books that I have gone highlighter happy in recently

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@AnnaDysett Thank you so much Anna 🥰 Yes that was me 🫶🏽 we have to look out for each other 😊 the channel growth is all Gods doing 🙌🏽 I see yours too! When I first started following you, you had around 7k and that was only a few months ago! Praise the Lord! it’s always nice to connect with other sisters in Christ on similar journeys 🤍 glad your here !

[@niyiolagunju8963]

Hi Jana 2:41 (I hope I got the name right). Thank you for the video. I love everything about it - the content, the delivery and the backdrop.

[@mrsdaisymama]

I haven’t even watched this video yet but YESSSSS to this topic, whatever you share I know it will be a fruitful message!

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@mrsdaisymama love you girl 🥹🫶🏽

[@MarquittaY]

I said the same thing!

[@23flowerpower]

I second this!!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@MarquittaY 🥹🫶🏽

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@23flowerpower Yall really know how to touch my heart 🥹❤️

[@simplylivingmama]

Yesss girl!!! My best friend and I love this book and will often read each other chapters together! Such a great reminder

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@simplylivingmama Wow no way, Thats awesome! I love that 🤍

[@johnmiller5018]

Wow this is amazing wisdom. May God bless those who love their husbands

[@WWS78363]

I've only listened to about 5 minutes of what you said. About 3 minutes I could have skipped in way of introduction and preface. But when you got to that one part (me being a man from a man's point of view) you're right on...provided that the wife is and is willing to fulfill her role. And when her devotion is to be God (yes) but her husband first, then no problem. When the husband maybe gets the leftovers of time/affection/etc weeks or months in between intimacy, then the Devil has a field day. I would enjoy listening to the rest of it (just to help understand a woman's perspective) but I was already getting bitter (half joking) when marriage should have lots of sex. And to avoid getting any ill feelings, I will pull back.

[@AngieTreasures]

I enjoyed listening however before my husband and I married he expressed his need for respect and that if we aren’t spiritually connected then he doesn’t get turned on by an individual and cannot make love in the bedroom. He is still this way till this day and I will say I’m grateful because if he doesn’t feel respected as a man he can feel like a failure surely.. I will say I understand when one marries into a marriage not equally yoked and I know how hard that must be because of all the challenges one has to face 🙏

[@ashleighdanielle2342]

You can definitely do another reading of this book😊 Been looking for ways to pray over my marriage

[@ArtbyPaytonMarie]

This was an awesome video! My favorite part was seeing your husband come up behind you and wrap his arms around you-it was so sweet and loving. It makes me even more excited for my marriage with my fiancé. Thank you for sharing; I loved the video and just subscribed. God bless you!☦️❤️

[@brendabeans4986]

I've been listening to this on repeat for the past few days. Just trying to really absorb it all. Thank you so much for sharing!

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@brendabeans4986 wow 🙌🏽 so glad it’s touched your heart 🤍

[@shelleyroper588]

This was great and informative! Would absolutely LOVE to see you talk more on this book and this topic! It is SOOOOOOOO important for a marriage! ❤

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

Thank you so much! Will do :)

[@charlenecalvin9066]

I have been married over 50 years and this reading was awesome. I’m a little sad because I have never heard it explained as well as you did it hear. Young women take heed. Our sister has done a marvelous thing with this reading. Allow this sharing of info to be absorbed and you will have a beautiful relationship. What is the name of the book? God bless you for sharing.

[@davinawonderling9361]

charlenecalvin9066, the book is called, "The Power Of A Praying Wife".😊❤

[@beautifully.crafted]

Just came across this video. What I liked most is how we can take it all to the Lord and just pray over it, including the fact that we have to surrender ourselves so that God is honoured and we live by His Word.

[@jacquelinejay1421]

This is what I needed four months ago. Thank you so much.

[@jenn8815]

1st time watcher & WOW! Loved all the biblical knowledge you were reading. Its was a nice reminder for me & my marriage ❤

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@jenn8815 I’m so glad your here 🤍 thank you so much, yesss I love that 🩷 when I picked the book up the other day there was no area I was struggling with my marriage so I’m like hmmmm let’s see what we have here 😌 and I read this chapter and I’m like wow. I didn’t even realize how much of a good reminder that was. Thank you Lord 🙌🏽

[@octaviawilliams3159]

These are marriage saving scriptures! Thank you, "Sister in Christ"!

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

❤️

[@humbleeagle1736]

I found this after listening to the importance of babies having skin to skin contact to feel secure and avoid crying. I think the sexual contact between a husband and wife is similar.

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@humbleeagle1736 wow that is a really awesome way to put it in perspective 😮🙌🏽🫶🏽

[@shelbystonesteel1]

Love this book and I absolutely love this style of video. Thank you for reading this chapter of the book.

[@GIDO74]

This was great, thank you so mush. I shared it to my wife and may we both take the next step closer together, and also closer to our Father 🙏🏻

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

Thats amazing!

[@JaneyInTheMoment]

I just love how your smile lingered after he left the room. Yes! Now I have to dig out my copy of said book 😊

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

You caught that ☺️ Im so grateful he’s mine ❤️ Oooh you have the book already? Yessss 🙌🏽

[@roguedoge2479]

I like the Biblical stance on sex in marriage. If your wife wants it; give it. If your husband wants it; give it. Zero selfishness, taking care of eachothers needs as you promised. If you married somebody with a higher/lower libido than you’re comfortable with; your fault. Couples that treat intimacy like some privilege to withhold from their spouse when they’re angry or “not feeling it” end up dissatisfied and divorced.

[@oeyvind.7]

Good, nice teaching!👍🏼 I enjoyed to watch you making food. But if I were you, I would cut the scene where you wash the handles. Rather mention that you did it at the start. It was lovely to ses your husbands dynamics with you.💕

[@Girl4God_TV]

This is good! And true, I have learned over the years and it truly makes a difference in my relationship with my spouse and with God❤

[@eoliva13]

Thank you so much for this topic. Is much needed 😌. God bless your home. Marriage and family life in the name of Jesus.

[@jayknudsen8557]

Thank You for talking on the Man's side of things!

[@DustAndGraceASMR]

I absolutely loved your disclaimer about it not being completely true/agreed with just because it's in a book! Only a few minutes in and im already gleening so much from this reading. Thank you for sharing!

[@zm_8474]

I have this book and totally forgot about it until now. Never read it, so thank you for the reminder. Really enjoyed this book and you just sparked wanting to read it. So interesting to see the outside point of view of relationships, even if all of it does not apply to us. I feel like we can learn a few things from it. 😊

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

I love that! & yes, oftentimes I used to avoid reading things because I thought - well I’m not struggling in that area, or how can that apply to me, but reality is when we read it does help us in ways we never knew we needed and sometimes helps us for future situations we encounter - we remember what we read and we learn and grow from it 🤍

[@ChildOfYahuahElohim]

Thank you for this video, i enjoyed the reading and appreciate your commentary. I am not a wife yet, in YAHUAHS will, i pray that i am chosen to be a wife. This video was very insightful and although i knew of this vaguely, it was nice to hear it being so beautifully read and to listen to it.

[@katieyungen1647]

I remember reading this book, or part of it anyway, and the advice to never say no, but ask them to wait a few minutes while we do something to prepare ourselves, has always stuck with me. ❤ Now, I don't remember the author or what the rest of the book says, but I have a genuine question... the author seems to say that if women don't want to, well, we just need to.... but, if men don't want to, well, we need to be understanding and look at it from various perspectives and consider a medical problem? That doesn't seem equal on both sides. If we women are to just make ourselves do it, because of satisfying our husbands needs, then, in the cases where the wife has more desire than the men, why aren't men also instructed to just make themselves do it and satisfy their wives? Conversely, if we are to consider all the other things that may be keeping them from desiring it, then why aren't they instructed to investigate those areas of our lives too? Or perhaps they are, and I either missed you saying that, or perhaps the author does say that in the book. I hope so. ❤❤

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@katieyungen1647 I hear you, husbands should be doing the same 🤍 however with this book and other book that talk specifically to wives, that’s just it. They are talking to us. So to say their husband should do xyz isn’t really helping if the husband himself isn’t reading the book - you know what I mean? So I think this author is just focusing on what we have the power to do. What is our part - we have control over that much. Does that make sense? 🥰

[@katieyungen1647]

​@@ahomemakersnotebookyes, thankyou! I would think (hope, anyway) that a book written to men would say the same...

[@Bobisworld]

It’s because most marriage advice is biased in favor of men whether it’s talking about sexuality or any other aspect of marriage. The wife needs to sacrifice her needs and body but the man doesn’t need to. That’s why it seems unbalanced. Because it is.

[@lcako1616]

​@@BobisworldI always thought it was because his sacrifice was in his labour for his fanily as the majority of men are blue collar workers who work in often dirty, tiring and dangerous conditions and they also work more hours than women in also to support us. They also have to lay down their life for us if and when the time comes. Many men work their whole lives away for their families even if they dont like their job for their families. Isnt this a sacrifice of the body?

[@katieyungen1647]

​@@lcako1616 sure, but we also sacrifice our lives and bodies, in different but equally valuable and necessary ways.

[@gloriaa.2442]

“God's Plan For Your Marriage: An Exploration of Holy Matrimony from Genesis to the Wedding Feast of the Lamb” By Robert Altier A great Christian book for marriage

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@gloriaa.2442 I will look it up thank you!

[@esleleroux3492]

Thank you for this reading, I needed it. I actually have the book, and will use it more and pray better. Thank you again

[@crochetcate777]

Great and useful video! I loved the interaction between you and your hubby. It was so tender and sweet and you just glowed when he came in. I pray that my marriage would find that joy again in many ways. Thanks for sharing this and I for one would definitely be interested in hearing more like this. I like Stormie Omartian (the author of the book you referenced) and the many other books on praying for different relationships.

[@laurakosch]

Look up Sheila Gregoire. She talks about the concept of “needs”. She has a great podcast for Christian women.

[@KimberRogers-tp4ww]

I love that book and just picked it back up again to read

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

👏🏽

[@mariaunger2266]

Thank you for sharing, really appreciate that. It's exactly what I needed to hear. Please make more videos on it.

[@xolabango1532]

Love the video and its style, thank you so much. We need more conversations about sex as wives because it can be really challenging

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

I'm so glad you liked this video! I agree! Thank you for your feedback :)

[@Peter-zy5ox]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, this is so true sister. GBY!

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

Thanks for watching!

[@MACorprew]

Great insight! I enjoyed listening to this video. I always love biblical direction for being a wife!

[@angelalumia3394]

I needed to hear this! Thank you so much for sharing.

[@Hold2the1]

Golden chapter indeed!✨️ 💛 You have a soothing voice. More content like this would be good. 👍 📚 ✝️

[@christopherwatkins7547]

People often quote the her body is his and his body is hers, but what often is forgotten is the part that the two should FAST from this union and pray together. Now I can tell you as a man deciding not to come together one night a week and praying together for five or ten minutes is not enough and God’s plan for married couples is not just to have great and fulfilling sex lives (fasting is painful and difficult 😉). When you look at the greater context of this passage from St. Paul he says that he wishes that all could be as he is, a virgin/chaste. He’s not just talking about physically being a virgin as he is going to contrast this with concerns only for God against a man/woman having concerns for each AND God. The spiritual component of being a virgin/chaste is in being wholly devoted to God and not the world. How does that work in marriage? Well, shortly after the Apostle Paul says he wishes all could be as he is, he then says if one burns with lust then get married and says it’s better to get married than burn with lust. The Apostle Paul is first revealing the high and better way (remaining a virgin/chaste) and then brings it back down to how being Christian TRANSFORMS our passions (specifically here lust). In our sin (especially men, but women aren’t exempt) the natural desire is to lust with our eyes and take what we judge to be good (see Eve in Genesis 3). The Apostle Paul is applying a first level of restraint here. If you burn with lust then get married rather than sleeping around. He then puts forth the idea of raising one’s love to something greater, something higher by then implementing self-denial and seeking the good of the other (your body belongs to the other). What we’re meant to see is through marriage we who burn with lust are being transformed. Once we learn to seek the good of the other (putting our body to the service of the other), we’re to then learn to fast from certain periods of time for prayer (adding another level of restraint, denying this good thing expressed between a husband and wife and together seeking God). The goal or the aim to for both husband and wife to aim for virginity/chastity. Some may achieve this, but not all will (though some it may be decades of marriage). I say this because too often in the Christian culture sex is merely a good pleasurable thing that you must wait to have until you’re married and then throw off all restraint and enjoy! Just as gluttony is both bad for the body and the soul, so too is the indulgence of the sexual pleasure. Christ said WHEN His people fast, not IF they fast and as we see the Apostle Paul stating here, we’re called to fast from sexual pleasure and union (fasting is meant to be a regular way of life for the Christian). In Acts 15:29, a disagreement arose with the inclusion of Gentiles in eating the new Passover (The Eucharist or you may call it Communion). This council of the Apostles and the brother of Jesus refers back to Leviticus 17 and 18 in making their decision here in the inclusion of Gentiles so long as they adhere to the rules laid out for both Israel and Gentiles in the Torah in Leviticus 17 & 18. With 18 being applicable here regarding Christian marriage (what’s not allowed) because God is holy (see Leviticus 19). I mention this, as too many Christian books written by well meaning Christian women often place the onus of responsibility on the sexual fulfillment of their husbands upon the wife (keep him fed, keep him worn out). This may be a good first step to elevate the couple’s love life but trust me when I say if the spiritual aspect is not being followed (fasting from and prayer) no amount of sex even with one’s wife will taper the flame of lust. You might keep him from committing actual physical adultery, but his defined heart and his defiled soul will only channel his lustful passions in and through you and you’ll not be enough at some point (for the flame of sin burns greatly and consumes everything). For the Apostle Paul tells us in this same passage, the marriage bed is meant to be holy! What does it mean when something is holy? It’s separate from the world. Christian sex isn’t meant to just be like the world’s except within the confines of marriage. It’s called to be something more, something higher! Sex can be good, pleasurable, and fulfilling but God is calling us to give up the worldly things and seek the heavenly things. In fasting the body becomes weak, but the soul is strengthened! We’re not just bodies, nor souls trapped in a body, but we’re meant to be embodied souls! Don’t neglect the soul for the fulfillment of the body. Raise your love above Hallmark. Lift up your bed beyond “Blessed” carnal pleasure. Marriage between the husband and the wife is given for the salvation of both the husband and wife! Only a few can attain to the angelic way of life of remaining a virgin/chaste (Matthew 19:12).

[@laurie2715]

MANY wives do all of this and more with a pure heart , yet . Pornography addiction thrives in secret and there is NOTHING a wife can do to stop it . Nothing except seek outside help for yourself and pray . If there is a HINT of porn use get outside professional help and do not not put up with it , you are harming yourself and allowing your husband to fall deeper into the trap of satan . 🙏

[@Imtheengine]

As a man struggling with addiction for years I second that!

[@The-Mstr-Pook]

Often pornography addiction comes as a consequence of the husband feeling intimate neglect, but once that door has been open for him it is very difficult to close.

[@laurie2715]

@ hahahahaha ! Nice excuse but it’s an oldie and considered 100% an excuse by professional therapists , and psychologists . No different then adultery in the words of Christ . Try using that excuse before God .

[@spiritandlifeword]

Well done... this is a good advise for my wife and myself. This chapter contains the best ideals a Christian marriage must have for a fulfilled sex life and intimacy. Many things become easy to attend to for couples when they have a successful sex life. In my view a marriage can only be as successful as its success in the sex life.

[@Jordè1222]

Taking a minuet to get dolled up is so helpful and I also highly recommend ♥

[@asideofthings2526]

You have me almost tear up, …thanks for citing scripture, I was not aware of some of these… geep going please!

[@leticiafernandes8804]

Such an important reminder❤

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

Yes! ✨💜

[@Johnnygigdrummer]

I wish my partner could hear this but she doesn’t give any of this a chance. I finally know why men look at other women or flirt with women.

[@lfernander1980ify]

I remember this book when I was married. I used to pray for a libido to match my husbands,I never got it. I found it extremely difficult to have sex with a verbally abusive husband. However now being divorced maybe he was verbally abusive because I wasn’t doing in that area like he wanted. I will never know and it’s ok. My marriage ended 9 years ago…one day maybe GOD will bless me with a husband.

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@lfernander1980ify I’m sorry to hear that. I do want to say that there’s no excuse for being verbally abusive. Maybe, like you said, he wished more from you in that area, even still, that’s no excuse for being verbally abusive. You should be learning and growing, as we all should, and learning from the past, but don’t think it’s your fault that he treated you so horribly - we are all responsible for our own actions 🩷

[@Bobisworld]

Please don’t blame yourself or lack or libido for his abuse. Absolutely not your fault

[@kalyn3250]

Abuse is never justified, according to Scripture. You did nothing to deserve the mistreatment. Your husband mistreated you exclusively because of unrepentant sin in his heart, and that's 100% his responsibility - according to Scripture. May you find healing ❤

[@ratherboutside2]

@@kalyn3250 that’s the truth

[@rileywiebe3512]

Yeah this isn’t ok

[@cowboyswife2918]

I loved this , I want this book !! But I very much enjoyed your readings. Thank you , Bless you.

[@anablessed]

Thank you so much sis I really appreciate it please do more! God Bless you and your family! 🙏🏾💕

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

You are so welcome 🙏🏽 Thank you! God bless 🫶🏽

[@evamukhim2426]

I so glad tht i found your channel is so good to know about this before i step to my new chapter God Bless you m your beautiful family's...keep upload more videos it really good information especially because the word of God you at in it❤❤

[@Daisylilly_]

Read all of it please. What a gem of a book

[@andrewj10]

This is great advice. Thanks for sharing it.

[@Nikki.323]

Thank you for this.. so many women struggle in this area and I’m one of them ❤ it brought clarity and understanding

[@rachaelnuchols764]

Stormie omartion wrote that...great book.❤...thanks for sharing this topic

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

Yes! Thank you ☺️ 🩷

[@drsteviejasengnsangma8739]

I wish all the Christian wives will listen to this or watch this video and build a good christian home. Your prayer is very powerful and your husband is very bless to have you as his wife. You too must be very bless to have him as your husband😊 God bless you and your family❤

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

I am indeed very blessed to have my husband 🤍 thank you!

[@sgreen9088]

I am truly thankful for this video.

[@Abeautifulmundanelife]

Yes ❤thanks for sharing! God created it and blessed our marriages with this good gift!

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

@@Abeautifulmundanelife amen!

[@jesutolaadeyemi3595]

Thank you ma’am ❤️ I enjoyed your reading and the homemaking too!

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

Thank you ❤️